This post is about questions from a 43-year-old reader named Sunshine who is single and has a strong desire to have her first child, but her attempts have been unsuccessful so far. She wants to know from The Council if this is possible and if she’s being punished for having two abortions 20 years earlier.
First The Council asks if Sunshine can be okay if she doesn’t become a mother. And they tell her there’s no outside source that’s punishing her for the abortions. She is entirely responsible for any sense of punishment or guilt she feels from this.
When Bob asks The Council if they think having a child is in the cards for Sunshine because they ask if she can be okay without having children, they reply that Sunshine creates what’s in the cards for her, no one else.
The Council asks Sunshine to remember that before coming into this reality she planned to go through these two abortions with the souls involved, and there was nothing disturbing about this to those spirits. They knew they’d be participating in the abortions for the experience and to help Sunshine, and everything went the way it was supposed to go.
The Council says many of the lessons we experience in this life, we plan before we get here. And there are spirits who agree to play their part in these lessons. When Sunshine is able to release any feeling of sadness or guilt or thinking of wrong-doing about these abortions, then she’ll be able to create a new child.
When Bob asks if adoption is an option for Sunshine if she continues to have difficulty getting pregnant, The Council says of course. But they quickly add that Sunshine can have a physical birth if she believes she’s the creator of her reality.
The Council says nothing is impossible if you really want it. Put yourself in the state of joy and happiness, and be grateful for each experience you come through that inspires you to want something even more. The Council says by knowing you can do this and by staying in the energy of joy and love, the creation of it becomes possible.
The Council says many people believe it becomes more difficult to get pregnant the older you get. But they remind us we are powerful spirits who can create anything we want in our lives. They tell Sunshine not to worry about her age and they tell her to work on forgiveness, happiness, gratitude, and moving forward in her life.
The Council sees it’s very, very possible for Sunshine to give birth to a child. And they remind the rest of us who want to create anything in our lives to find ways to feel grateful and happy for what we have. And they advise us to look forward, adding to that happiness, and move ahead with our mind and our feelings, always in the energy of love.
This 7-minute session is packed with advice for Sunshine and the rest of us. Listen to the recording below and let us know what you think.
This post is about questions from a reader named S. who’s learned she’s pregnant. She loves children, always wanted them, and has been determined not to have her children suffer through poverty and unhappy circumstances the way she and her siblings did.
She left the father of the fetus the day before she learned she was pregnant because the relationship was an abusive one. S. says she’s currently in school and unemployed. Recently she was told by her doctor she has endometriosis and will have difficulty getting pregnant.
S. says she’s confused. She’s aware other spiritualists say it’s bad to abort a fetus unless it’s with a loving intention. She’d like her child to have a healthy mother and father, she knows this isn’t possible right now, and feels the need for a stable career.
Just days before she learned she was pregnant S. felt great comfort in her decision to leave her ex-boyfriend, and for the first time in her life was looking forward to loving herself and creating a whole person for a future partner and family.
S. wants to know why she’s pregnant now and if aborting this fetus has been the plan all along. She’s concerned about the karmic implications of abortion, and she’d prefer this soul return to her at a time when she can offer it a beautiful life with a beautiful father.
The Council begins by telling S. that leaving an abusive relationship is a giant step for her that shows self love. Having lived through a difficult time growing up, S. made the choice with love and wisdom not to repeat similar difficulties for her future children.
The Council is clear it’s not a bad choice to abort this pregnancy if that is S.’s choice; there’s no right or wrong. It was agreed before coming to this reality that this soul would come to her as a fetus and at that time S. would decide whether or not to have the child. The soul may choose to come back at a future time, but if it decides to move on there will always be another soul ready to come forward to help S. become a mother and go through the experiences she wishes to have.
If finishing school is the thought that makes S. feel best right now, The Council says this is the direction she should go in. If the thought of having this child now and somehow having a wonderful connection with this soul even if she’s on her own feels better, The Council advises to go with that. They remind her there isn’t any right or wrong and to pay attention to the way she feels when she thinks each thought. Follow the feeling of happiness, of love, of relief, and know that she’ll have lessons either way she chooses.
The Council advises S. there is much joy ahead whatever she chooses and by looking for this joy she’ll bring it into her reality. The key is to follow the better feeling thought.
Before S. chooses she should remind herself of the choice she’s already made to leave a bad relationship. The Council reminds her this is a wonderful decision she’s made. Somehow going through different experiences growing up helped S. make this choice. When she decides whether or not to have this child, all the knowledge and the feelings she’s experienced in her life up to this point will help her choose.
Listen to the entire 16-minute session with The Council to hear their entire answer and let us know what you think.
This post answers a question from a long-time follower of our blog named Susan, who also has her own WordPress blog: Life Is A Journey…Not A Guided Tour. Susan says she understands that diseases like cancer can be created from a lifetime of fear, but she wonders how someone very young can get cancer. She’s heard it can be to balance karmic energies or help another soul with a life lesson, and she asks The Council for their thoughts.
The Council says there’s a lot of talk about having to pay back karma or balance karma, and they say this isn’t the way karma works (unless that’s what you believe). They say it’s more like in one lifetime you experience good health and you see people who have poor health. And in another lifetime you wonder what it would be like to experience poor health and grow from this.
The Council wants to make clear that poor health is a conscious spiritual choice, not a punishment. They add that you sometimes choose poor health to help others deal with this, sometimes you choose poor health to learn compassion, and sometimes you choose poor health to become more loving and understanding.
While Susan seems to assume it takes a long lifetime of experiencing fear in order to develop cancer, The Council says you choose your family based on the experiences you desire. A child is able to experience fear while still in its mother’s womb and develop cancer within a very short period. Or it can plan to experience cancer because they want to leave this physical reality early, or to help the souls around them experience this. Whatever the case, The Council says it is always planned before coming into this physical reality.
The whole purpose of going through a life and death situation is to have the experience, to allow the souls around them to have the experience, and in some manner bring love into the situation.
The Council talks about what it’s like for a soul to choose cancer to help the other souls in it’s life learn from this. And then closes by saying when someone is experiencing poor health, the best thing you can do is send them love and remember they are spirit in a physical body choosing to experience this. And if they wish to live through this illness, you are supportive of this. And if they wish to leave this physical reality at this time, you’ll be supportive of this also.
Listen to the entire 18-minute session below to hear all The Council’s guidance on why young people might choose to get seriously ill.
This post is about The Council’s answer to an anonymous reader’s question about how many children she’ll have in this lifetime. She says she was told by someone she’d have one boy and one girl, but she recently had an abortion and is sad at the thought she aborted one of these children that she badly wants.
The Council begins by introducing the idea of pre-birth planning. This is the idea that as a spiritual being you plan various aspects of your physical life before you are born. They say the most important thing to understand is that as spirit you are creating your physical life. And after you come into this physical reality there continues to be a spiritual part of you that is still creating your life. And yet so many of us give away our creative power to others.
The Council asks A., who told her she’d have a boy and a girl and why does she assume they were correct when she, as a spiritual being, is the creator of her reality. Suppose she got pregnant again under circumstances that tell her she’s not ready for that child. Does that mean her chances for these two children she wants is over?
The Council says you are a powerful creative spirit in your physical body and you create what you want from your beliefs. And they say this abortion has come into her life at this time to let her learn about creation. And so if she has more abortions, is her desire for children strong enough that it doesn’t matter what anyone says if she wants to create these children in this lifetime?
The Council says everything you want is already created in vibration. And how you bring this vibration into your physical reality is by putting yourself in the highest vibration you can (love, happiness, joy). And without knowing how it will happen, imagine these children she wants in her life. Feel as if she already has it (because she already has it in spirit) and that will bring it into her physical reality.
The Council sees children in A.’s life. The question is will she create this? The Council says no one can do this for her, but she has the tools to make this happen. A.’s grief over loosing a child has brought her to the point where she can change her perception of her life and what she can create moving forward. The Council encourages A. to match the vibration of her desire for these children, to know she is the creator of her reality, and then this must come into her physical reality.
The Council asks A. to see the pattern in her life where someone came along and changed her mind about creating whatever it was that she desired. The issue of her abortion is part of a larger issue of creation and what she is capable of creating when she sticks with what she desires rather than give up her creative ability by believing what other people say.
Listen to the entire 20-minute session below to hear all of The Council’s guidance, and let us know what you think.
This post is inspired by questions from an Anonymous reader who asks why the man she was seeing said they were together in a few past lives when she doesn’t believe this to be true, and why was he confused how he felt about her. She also asks if there’s a possibility of a reconciliation with her ex-best friend who she does feel a past life connection with.
The Council sees there have been several lives together with the man she was seeing and they ask why is this so hard to believe. They see there is a feeling of not trusting what she’s being told because this man does not have the best intentions. And they suggest the possibility of getting away from this relationship because this lack of trust is a red flag from her higher self.
The Council says by bringing love into this situation she can honestly speak about this lack of trust with this person. But because there’s a trust issue they ask her to look at other places in her life where there have also been these issues. The Council says this person is the one who is helping bring forward these trust issues in her life because that is something she wishes to heal in this lifetime. And they also say that just because they have been in several lives together, this is not a reason to be together in this life. His purpose in her life has more to do with getting her to face her issues with lack of trust.
On the subject of reconciliation with her ex-best friend The Council sees this situation coming full circle and there will be a reconnection in the future and more understanding what this relationship is about. But first she needs to work through her trust issues so that when this relationship comes around again there will be a different outcome with more understanding.
When Bob asked for any specifics on how this woman might look at her trust issues The Council used the metaphor of peeling an onion one layer at a time. When she feels this distrust they encourage her to ask what this reminds her of and see what memory comes from that. And then to ask again and again, going further back in her life, until she finds a pattern to what set off this distrust.
And once she gets to that point everything will begin to change. Her understanding of how these people came into her life to help her experience and work through these distrustful situations will allow her to be more comfortable with the people in her life.
The Council reminds her to meditate on the next step, ask why she feels this mistrust, and to remember she is spirit in a physical body. Ask herself what she was trying to experience and the answers will come.
Listen to the entire 12-minute session below to get all The Council’s guidance for this woman.
This post in inspired by questions and comments from Janette, who asked about her daughter’s stillborn birth in a previous question and follows up with additional questions now.
After having a Cesarean section for the recent birth of her son, the doctor informed Janette that her uterus was only half formed, and this condition is responsible for stillborn births and several other problems. Having learned this she feels it’s a miracle her second child was born okay after her daughter was stillborn. But now she’s confused about whether there’s a spiritual reason for her daughter’s stillbirth, or whether it was just the physical issues with her uterus.
The Council replies that when she created these challenges in her life, does she understand it’s never something that just happens because her uterus is partially formed? It’s all been planned by her spiritual self for what she wants to learn, who she wants to help.
When Janette asks if her soul planned to be born with a partially formed uterus so she would experience her daughter’s stillbirth, The Council says definitely, and now she’s ready to let this situation go.
Janette asks if her daughter’s soul knew she wouldn’t make it through the pregnancy, and again The Council says, definitely. When she asks if her daughter’s soul planned from the beginning to be stillborn or if she decided when she was 33 weeks pregnant, as The Council sees her situation it was pre-planned so she and her daughter could have the stillbirth experience.
When Janette asks if she knows on some higher level what the answers to her questions are, The Council says of course you do. They say on your higher level you have all the answers, and she knew she would experience a stillbirth.
Janette asks if she and her daughter didn’t agree to the stillbirth, could it have happened anyway because they had no choice and it was just something medical that happened. The Council is clear that we always have a choice. And they say if there’s a medical problem, it’s because her higher self desired this problem to help her experience this stillbirth. The Council says nothing happens by accident. It is pre-planned and everyone agreed to it. And they see that the stillbirth went according to her plans.
Janette says she thinks it’s the role of our guardian angels to ensure we don’t cross over before our time. She asks if her daughter’s guardian angel was with her during the 33 week pregnancy, and did it allow the stillbirth to happen?
The Council says guardian angels will never step in and change what you have planned in spirit. They’re job is to sort of hang around and make sure things go in the direction you wanted.
When Janette asked why her daughter’s guardian angel didn’t protect her and keep her safe inside her, The Council says she was safe in her. She was so safe that the stillbirth went exactly the way she planed for it to go in spirit.
The Council asks that Janette focus her attention now on the new soul that was just born into your life, to show it love at all times, and to teach it to be a loving person. As this child grows it will be very focused on what it wants to do in this lifetime and knowledge is what will keep him on the right track. The Council advises Janette to be part of the education that he needs. He’s here to acquire knowledge, to bring answers into his life, and be part of the souls that blaze a new trail into the spiritual world.
Listen to the entire 12-minute session with The Council (below).
This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Persephone who asks The Council why she’s chosen to surround herself with so much mental instability and mental illness in this lifetime.
The Council is quick to complement Persephone on her realization that she’s the creator of what she experiences in her life. And then they ask if she felt there was something very wrong with these people, if she felt above this mental instability, and perhaps she felt she was better than they are.
Now she’s concerned about her own mental stability and The Council asks if she’s afraid she’s also experiencing some sort of mental illness. They say when you create life situations that are frightening to the people around you, it’s normal to think this could happen to you.
The Council says if she can look at these people and choose to focus on the parts of them that were good and loving instead of noticing something wrong with them, and appreciate them for the roles they are playing in her life so she could learn from it, then she’d be able to let go of the underlying fear she’d end up like this. This is what she intended as spirit to experience, learn from, and change.
The Council finishes the session by appreciating the confidence others have to write their questions. This allows them to be of service by helping change the focus, if necessary, in what they are going through. And they remind us to bring love into every situation. They say each person who has come into your life, no matter how short the time, has come to play a role. Send them all love, and send them on their way or welcome them into your life, but always with love.
Listen to the entire 8-minute session below to receive all The Council’s guidance. Let us know what you think.
This post is inspired by a question from Ali who asks if you have a natural talent for something are you obliged to use this talent.
The Council says there’s no obligation. You come with gifts and you chose whether to use them or not. There is no should. You have a talent you brought forth in this lifetime if it brings you pleasure to use it. They ask what is the purpose of practicing art, even if you are talented, if it doesn’t bring you joy. You are suppose to enjoy what you do; find fun in it; love it. These are the things you want to do in this lifetime.
The Council says they are here to hopefully give people clarity and help them feel better. They remind us we are here to bring love into every situation and know you have the choice of what you want to experience and how you want to experience it. And they remind us it’s our purpose to bring love from our spiritual reality into our human reality.
Look at every part of your life and ask if you are bringing love into it. Can you make your life more fun? Find a better way to experience your life. There’s no need for guilt or fear. When you experience these emotion it’s because you’ve forgotten you are pure love and light. That’s the true you.
You’re so much more than your body and the person you are in this reality. You’ve had many other lifetimes and many talents. Great beauty and great love is within you. You’re here with many spirits to experience anything you want to experience, and your intention is to experience everything with love.
The Council’s closing thoughts go beyond Ali’s questions to answer larger questions you may have about your life. Listen to the entire 6-minute recording to benefit from what The Council is saying.
This post is inspired by Janette, who had an almost full term stillborn baby girl in February 2014 and she’s been researching the spiritual reasons this might have happened. She and her husband had just gotten married and they were very excited about having their first child.
Janette asks if her and her daughter’s higher selves knew ahead of time what was going to happen the day her daughter’s heart stopped and could she have done anything to prevent it. The idea this was an accident is difficult for Janette to bare and she wants to know if her daughter chose to be stillborn.
The Council says the higher selves of Janette, her daughter, and her husband knew the baby wasn’t coming into this reality no matter what they tried to do. The child only wanted to experience what took place in the womb and wasn’t ready to experience a full lifetime. The Council says Janette and her husband spiritually agreed to allow their daughter to have this experience and at the same time Janette desired an opportunity to work through an experience of disappointment. It was 3 souls loving each other and helping each other experience a situation they all desired.
Janette says she was nervous as a first time mother and hoped her daughter didn’t experience negativity from that, but The Council says it’s fine if the child experiences what Janette was feeling because it chose to experience those emotions. Knowing what this soul wanted to do, Janette and her husband agreed to give this soul a temporary home to experience what it wanted to learn, and then pick the time and the way it wanted to leave.
The Council suggests Janette find the love she gave her daughter and understand that other spirits might not have been able to do this. She allowed this spirit to experience whatever it wanted while it was in her body, and this soul helped her experience whatever she needed to experience going through this.
Having this spirit leave put her on a new path of having to ask why this happened. If Janette can find a way to appreciate what they did for each other and feel the great love they have for each other without any guilt, she’ll realize they fulfilled each other’s wishes perfectly. Listen to the entire 18-minute session to receive it’s full benefit.
This post is inspired by a question from Susan, who wants to know why some people (particularly a man she knows) experience childhood abuse or other types of trauma and end up with addictions, unemployed, and homeless; and other people (particularly Susan) move past their childhood trauma and take advantage of opportunities to improve their life.
What humans and spirit consider improvement can be very different
“But what you do not understand here is that your idea of what he needs to improve his life, and what his spirit needs to improve his life, is totally different. Is that understood?”
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This was intriguing and we spent most of the session getting a better understanding of what The Council meant by this. The result was some impressive insights into the relationship between who you are a human being and who you are as a spiritual being. As an added bonus The Council offered some fascinating insights into the subject of multiple realities.
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You have no idea what spirit wishes
The Council continued from their previous comment above:
“So if you [Susan] feel that he has had several opportunities to change his life or perhaps somehow deal differently with his abuse, yes that would make sense to many. But you have no idea what his spirit wishes.
“And what we see here is that it is his wish to be in this lifetime and to experience this addiction, to experience the abuse from what you would consider an unhealthy attitude toward what he has come through.
“What you do not know is that he has experienced this before (or as we would say, now [but] in another reality) and he has experienced it where he is dealing differently with his abuse and (perhaps) handling it in (what you would consider) a much better way [in his current reality]. Is that understood?”
Ask The Council audio recordings
A couple years ago we experimented with including audio recordings of Ask The Council sessions in a few of our posts. With this post we continue to make these recordings available to readers in the hope they’ll shed additional light on The Council’s teachings.
Beth’s question about abortion
In June 2013 we published a post to answer a question for The Council from a reader named Beth about the subject of abortion (Abortion, Loss, Reincarnation, Life, Love, Expansion – Beth’s Story: A Spiritual Perspective). Interestingly, but maybe not surprisingly, this post has received many more views from readers than almost every other post except our Welcome post, and it has received almost three times the number of comments of our next most commented post (also excluding our Welcome post).
One of those comments is from a reader named Emmy who says:
“I think this post is great in helping understand [abortion], as it can be overwhelming at times. I had an abortion in 2012 and I still think about it every day. And I want to ask The Council if the spirit will come back to me in the future, and was it part of our soul plans?“
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We feel the spirit will come back
The Council begins by posing a couple clarifying questions for Emmy before offering their answer:
“You want to know if the soul will come back in your future, in this particular life?… in another life in what you consider the future?… will it return?
“Yes, we feel it will, in other realities – in what you would consider future lifetimes. There is never a loss or an ending when you are together with spirits who have come to help you.”
“This spirit may choose not to come in as her child. We see they will choose to be together, probably many more times, but in different roles.”
This post is inspired by a request from Kali, who writes that her partner (father of her two young sons) didn’t physically survive a car crash a couple months ago. She adds that she can’t accept he’s gone, her pain is unbearable, she’s desperately trying to develop herself spiritually so she can connect with the love of her life, and she’d appreciate any guidance The Council can offer.
Do You Believe You are Spirit in a Physical Body?
On November 11, 2013 we did a session with The Council to see if we could get the guidance Kali requested. The Council began this session with the following comments:
“Well first we want to say he [Kali’s partner] hasn’t gone anywhere, he is just out of his physical body.
“You are stating you are desperate and trying to develop spiritually, so first we ask you to meditate on this question: Do you believe you are a spirit here, operating in this physical body? Because that is who you truly are.
“And spirit – which is light and energy – never dies; we transition. We choose to create physical bodies to come into this environment and when we are done, we leave the physical body. But there is no dying; there is no end to spirit. Is that understood?”
—The Council Continue reading
This post describes a session with The Council in response to the comment and questions below from Beth on the subject of abortion. The session is full of thought-provoking ideas on lots of different subjects of interest to many people in addition to Beth. Particularly interesting to us is light that The Council sheds on how our spirit’s intentions often manifest in surprising and unexpected ways in our human experience.
Ordinarily we like to offer a sort of running commentary in these posts if we feel it can add some clarity to something The Council says during a session, but it seemed to make this post too long and wordy. It also seemed to place more emphasis on understanding what The Council is saying rather than on appreciating the feeling of the energy offered by The Council and spirit in response to Beth’s questions. More and more we are learning from The Council that what’s important about spiritual understanding is that it’s a focus of attention that allows you to feel in your physical experience more of the love you are as a spiritual being.
As you read through the post, see if you can feel the energy of this session resonating with your spirit. If a clear understanding doesn’t come right away, be patient with yourself and let your connection to who you are as a spiritual being shed light on the material presented here. Give yourself some time. You are always welcome to use the Comment section following the post to ask a question about this material and we’ll do our best to reply.
Beth’s Comment and Questions
“I have a question about abortions as it relates to the Soul and the Soul’s agreement…the Soul of the child, specifically.
“You see I have unfortunately had to make the decision (twice) in my life to terminate what I perceived as ‘untimely’ pregnancies.
“I have a lot of guilt around these decisions, not because of any religious reasons, but more because I am not sure what I did was the right decision for my life’s path.
“Also, I often feel sad wondering how those two Souls (or maybe it was the same Soul) feel/felt that I chose to terminate their little lives.
“I fully believe that those Souls made some type of agreement with me, but I’m wondering if you could shed light on what those agreements may have been.
“Did those little Souls know that they would play this role?
“Is it the same Soul trying to come back in?
“Would I be able to find out more about them, and who they might have become had I chosen differently?
“If we come back in similar Soul groups, could this Soul have been one that I also lost in a previous life (I believe I was pregnant when drowned)?
“I realize that these are many questions, not one, but I am grateful for your input.”
You Can Not Stop Life
Reading Beth’s comment and questions to The Council at the beginning of the session, they were quick to comment at the end of her first sentence.
“We really want to laugh here… the word abortion… what does it mean?
“Abort… Stop… Stop life?
“You can not stop life.
“It is all in choosing, and agreements, and experiences.
“And so we just wanted to add that in there.
“Beth did not stop a life… did not cut a life short… everything went as planned.”
This post is third in a series describing a session with The Council on Saturday, March 30, 2013 to answer questions from Jose, Michelle, and D. This post focuses on the first of Jose’s four questions and it’s about guidance from The Council in a recent post and the issue of free will:
“In the case of what was shared in Maria’s Plan for a Spiritual Leap, it appears that the spiritual agreement made prior to the incarnation is more powerful than Maria or her friend’s “godly” power to manifest a new reality of survival and togetherness in this lifetime, as if there is no free will in this incarnation.” —Jose
Did you know
that you came from
an incredible place of love?
And did you know that
when you leave this physical reality
you will return to this incredible place of love?
It’s wonderful if you do,
but (and here it comes)
do you remember
it was your greatest desire
to bring the love with you
and make life on Earth
an incredible place of love?
Cynthia, Bob, & The Council
If you’ve read our Welcome post in the right-hand column of these blog pages, you may remember The Council’s #1 teaching: all human beings are spiritual beings in a physical body. In the 4-5 years The Council’s been speaking to us through Cynthia, this is the idea they have most consistently emphasized.
We mention this in connection to a recent question for The Council from Tanya, who says she’s having the most painful experience of her life because she believes a close personal friend has broken a soul agreement he made with her in spirit.
“Do you realize you have what you believe is a soul contract — we call an agreement, not a contract — with everyone that enters your life?”
I (Bob) mentioned to The Council that Tanya seems particularly interested in a specific soul agreement with one special man who’s been in her life, and how she feels he has broken this soul agreement.
“There is no broken contract or agreement. It is something that was decided between the two of you before you even entered into these bodies. And so when you go through something that is difficult, you believe, ‘uh-oh, something went wrong, this contract is broken.’
“It is exactly the way you wanted it to be, on [the part of] both partners.”
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Maria explains her best friend is on his deathbed and she’s experiencing a lot of emotional pain about this. She is asking The Council if it is also with her permission that her friend is exiting her life, because she’s having difficulty understanding why she would agree to ‘loose’ him at this time and in this way.
There is Agreement
“No one comes into your life unless you invite them. Their departing your life is something that they plan along with you, so there is agreement for both of you that when it is time, when you feel you have concluded what you needed to do together, one or both [of you] exit [the physical body].
“And so, although you find this very painful, it has been discussed and planned while you were still in the spirit world.”
This post is inspired by a question from Jan about an important friendship with a former student named Will who became like a son to her when his mother passed away. Jan describes feeling a spiritual connection with Will and believes that as spirits before they were born into this lifetime they planned to be in each other’s human lives.
But as Will developed from a child with autism into a young adult he proceeded to withdraw from friends, family, and finally Jan, to the point where she hasn’t heard from him in over a year and hasn’t seen him in three years. After reading one of our blog posts describing The Council’s advice to a reader experiencing a similar separation from her biological twin brother of 70+ years, Jan asked The Council for their view of her friendship with Will.
This is the first of two posts answering questions from Jaqueline, who asks The Council how to follow her inner guidance and find inner peace “even when things seem to be so messed up” in her life.
Jaqueline writes that she understands and sincerely believes in teachings like The Council’s and other teachers she’s familiar with who say, “We shouldn’t worry about anything ever because everything is gonna be just fine,” and, “We should enjoy life and think about whatever we want in our future in a positive vibration.” “But sometimes [it] is really hard to put this in practice.”
We like Jaqueline’s question because it frankly addresses a dilemma faced by many of us who are trying to follow teachings like The Council’s. In our saner moments these teaching make a lot of sense to us; they inspire us and lift our spirits. But sometimes, despite our best efforts, life can feel like an insurmountable challenge. When this happens it can feel equally challenging to remember and put in to practice these teachings about who we are as spiritual beings.
At the time Jaqueline wrote her questions for The Council she commented that, “All the time my head seems to be full of stressful thoughts about my future…about my present…if I’m going in the right direction…if I should do something…or nothing at all. Sometimes I get trapped in some drama and get very emotional about everything. Resuming, I have a hard time going with the flow.”
Stressful thoughts, feeling trapped, and feeling other unwanted emotions can be a challenge. When we feel this way and we also believe we’re not supposed to ever worry about anything and we should always be enjoying life, these expectations can sometimes add to the challenge of turning the situation around so we can ‘go with the flow’.
On July 24, 2012 we had a conversation with The Council (non-physical spiritual guides speaking through Cynthia) to get their advice on how to feel more in touch with well-being on a day-to-day basis when life seems to make this difficult.
This session contains many helpful insights, but for us the highlight is the reminder to meditate regularly on the idea that each of us is a spiritual being in a physical body. The Council advises that this type of regular meditation will help us feel more trusting that we really are spiritual beings, and this trust will help us through difficult times.
Interestingly, The Council says that as spiritual beings we actually look forward to these challenging human experiences because we view them as desirable opportunities to expand who we are as spirit into a physical reality.
This post relates the details of this session with The Council, and also includes some information on two meditation techniques they recommend. We plan to publish separate posts describing these meditations in more detail and eventually we plan to include audio recordings of these meditations as guided meditations.
This session also included The Council’s answer to Jaqueline’s question about whether she is going in the ‘right direction’ career-wise, and how career choices relate to experiences we have in other lifetimes. We feel this information is better suited to a separate post and we plan to publish that post in the near future also.
This post is inspired by the following simply stated questions from a reader named Freddy:
- How do better-feeling thoughts affect your life?
- Is it really possible to change your day-to-day life and your future with just a change in your thoughts?
On Thursday, June 14, 2012 we did a session with The Council to answer Freddy’s questions. During this session The Council surprised us with some related guidance about a question on Cynthia’s mind.
They observed that many of us who follow spiritual guidance related to the law of attraction and better-feeling thoughts, are limiting ourselves when we focus primarily on satisfying desires that aren’t also helping others.
The Council reminds us we are spiritual beings and that we planned with other spiritual beings to help each other bring the love we are as spirit into this physical dimension.
When we expand the focus of our attention to include these plans we made in spirit to help each other, these better-feeling thoughts allow us to experience the kind of spiritual expansion we came here for in the first place. The guidance on helping others begins under the heading: Cynthia’s Question about Helping Other People.
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You Sort Of Light Up
“First of all, better-feeling thoughts affect the whole body…your whole mood…your whole vibration.
“You can tell the difference between a thought [like]: ‘I hate this job…I have to get up and go there…’ [or:] ‘Oh, my legs hurt…my back hurts…my head hurts…I have to go to the doctor.’
“And then you have a thought: ‘Oh, I’m so looking forward to this vacation we planned in the Berkshires. Oh, I remember the first time I went to the beach…I was 5 years old…I can still remember the sand castle we built.’
“Each thought has a different vibration. The better-feeling thought is what we call a quickening vibration. It’s like you become more alive; you begin to sparkle. When we look at you…you sort of light up.
“The better-feeling thought also affects your body. When you have the better-feeling thoughts, every cell in your body reacts to it.
“Now is it true that it changes your life? Yes.”
“When you really focus over and over again on better feeling thoughts, your thought…your feeling, is a vibration that goes out into the Universe. And as you are all learning now [about] the law of attraction, you must get back the same vibration that you are putting out. So what will return to you is a vibration that will bring to you more and more of things that will help you feel better.”
Similarly formatted text throughout the post represents The Council’s comments during the session. Text [in brackets] was not spoken by The Council, but has been added (where appropriate) to help you follow the conversation.
This post is inspired by several thought-provoking questions from Joe, who has a strained relationship with his two sons during a difficult divorce from their mother. Joe is familiar with The Council’s teaching that we come into this life with the intention of bringing with us the vibration of love, and that we sometimes pre-plan with other souls before we incarnate, to experience challenging human relationships so we can experience finding the love within ourselves that transforms these situations.
With this in mind Joe asks The Council how he can better understand the spiritual aspects of his role and his children’s role in their strained relationship. On Sunday, May 27, 2012 we did a session with The Council to answer Joe’s questions, and their answers are presented in this post. The highlight of this session for us is The Council’s insight that the people in our lives we find most aggravating are often acting in a way we asked them to as a spiritual being before we incarnated into this lifetime—for the purpose of inspiring us to bring more love into our physical reality.
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Recently we invested in recording equipment that allows us to make recordings of our sessions with The Council that have a sound quality we feel comfortable making available in our blog posts. Where you see this image in the post, it’s an audio player that will play a recorded segment of our session. Typically the segment is related to the textual content that follows the player.
The text of the post is an abridged and edited version of our session with The Council. It is meant to provide a good sense of what we consider the most relevant aspects of the session. The recorded content is also abridged, but it’s a somewhat less edited version of the session. The recordings include some session content that’s been edited out of the written post to help it be more easily readable and understandable. It’s our hope that the audio segments help you connect more easily with the feeling of what The Council is talking about.
To play an audio segment, left-click on the triangle on the right side of the audio player. The clip name is displayed in the player and when the recording begins, the time left in the recording is also displayed. To stop the audio player, left-click on the icon that looks like this: . The volume can be adjusted by left-clicking on this icon: ; click on the right side to increase volume and the left side to lower volume.
The complete text of Joe’s comment and questions that inspired this post are not included in the post. You can read them by clicking here. The following audio clip is a recording of Bob reading Joe’s questions to the Council during our session. Copyright ℗ 2014 Bob & Cynthia Dukes
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