The idea some things in life are ‘meant to be’ and others aren’t, is an interesting and somewhat popular one, particularly when it comes to relationships. Lots of people who wouldn’t ordinarily admit they believe in fate or destiny seem tolerant of the idea that in close personal relationships, things are sometimes meant to be.
In this post we look at The Council’s answer to questions from Chris about what’s meant to be in her life. Although Chris’s questions are about a meaningful relationship, The Council’s answer is a reminder that you create your reality, and their answer offers helpful guidance on how you can do this. Here’s Chris’s question:
“How do I know if I’m meant to be with someone?
“I am 51 years old, am still single, and want to finally stop waiting, working toward, or wondering if I am MEANT to be with anyone.”
“I was in two long-term relationships before, one of which I wanted to work out, but didn’t.
“Then I learned to be ok and fine alone, happy, and rarely longing for someone.
“But now I feel more alone, and was wondering if ‘my time’ was finally coming, or I am just not dealing with my reality?”
The Council’s Answer
“And so she says, is she meant to be with someone, and is her time coming?
“She is the one that will decide if she is meant. She is the one that will decide if her time is coming, because… why? [Because] we are spirit in a physical body and we create our reality.
“And so from what she says, she has experienced a relationship and she has experienced being alone. And so we think for her, she should look back at both situations and focus on what she found loving and pleasant in both situations.
“And so when she can appreciate being in a relationship, and being alone (being with herself and feeling the appreciation and the love [for that]), she will then bring in someone new, someone more on the same vibration that she would be on.
“And it would be more of a relationship that would work out because if she is feeling loving and appreciation, and brings someone of that vibration into her reality, it will be a long-lasting relationship.”
“First to raise her vibration, and once that is in the vibration of love and appreciation, she will (as they say, like attracts like) bring the perfect person in for her to have a life-long relationship, if that is what she wants.
“But we would like her to know that she is not running out of time. There is nowhere it is written that she is meant or not meant to be in a relationship.
“And so, with her thoughts, and with her feelings, and her focus, she will create what she wants.”
“And so when she can focus always on that [happy memories] instead of on the doubt and the worry that time is running out, it will completely change the vibration… and what she brings in.”
(Text [in brackets] in these quotations has been added to improve readability and clarity when this seems useful.)
This is the first of several posts describing a 1-hour session with The Council on Saturday, March 30, 2013 to answer recent questions from Jose, Michelle, and D.
Jose’s Question #4
We began the session with Michelle’s question about whether to move to Barnstaple, Devon or Glastonbury (both in England), and when I (Bob) was about to ask The Council D’s question about what she describes as a broken soul contract, The Council interrupted:
“There is a number 4 that we keep seeing; what is that, Bob?”
(This formatting throughout the post represents The Council’s comments during our session. Text [in brackets] in these quotations has been added to improve readability and clarity when this seems useful.)
I explained that we have four very interesting questions from Jose and that we answered his first 3 questions based on our understanding of The Council’s teachings because they seemed related to guidance we’ve written about in other posts. It was our intention to ask The Council about Jose’s fourth question in this session and when they asked about a number 4, I assumed they were referring to the Jose’s fourth question. I asked if they’d like me to read Jose’s fourth question to them and they said, “Yes.”
Jose’s Question #4: “If we come to this incarnation to have fun and remember who we really are, why do most people, if not all, fail at this attempt?”
When you trust yourself,
your intuition, your feelings,
you are beginning to know
who you truly are.
This post is inspired by the following simply stated questions from a reader named Freddy:
- How do better-feeling thoughts affect your life?
- Is it really possible to change your day-to-day life and your future with just a change in your thoughts?
On Thursday, June 14, 2012 we did a session with The Council to answer Freddy’s questions. During this session The Council surprised us with some related guidance about a question on Cynthia’s mind.
They observed that many of us who follow spiritual guidance related to the law of attraction and better-feeling thoughts, are limiting ourselves when we focus primarily on satisfying desires that aren’t also helping others.
The Council reminds us we are spiritual beings and that we planned with other spiritual beings to help each other bring the love we are as spirit into this physical dimension.
When we expand the focus of our attention to include these plans we made in spirit to help each other, these better-feeling thoughts allow us to experience the kind of spiritual expansion we came here for in the first place. The guidance on helping others begins under the heading: Cynthia’s Question about Helping Other People.
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You Sort Of Light Up
“First of all, better-feeling thoughts affect the whole body…your whole mood…your whole vibration.
“You can tell the difference between a thought [like]: ‘I hate this job…I have to get up and go there…’ [or:] ‘Oh, my legs hurt…my back hurts…my head hurts…I have to go to the doctor.’
“And then you have a thought: ‘Oh, I’m so looking forward to this vacation we planned in the Berkshires. Oh, I remember the first time I went to the beach…I was 5 years old…I can still remember the sand castle we built.’
“Each thought has a different vibration. The better-feeling thought is what we call a quickening vibration. It’s like you become more alive; you begin to sparkle. When we look at you…you sort of light up.
“The better-feeling thought also affects your body. When you have the better-feeling thoughts, every cell in your body reacts to it.
“Now is it true that it changes your life? Yes.”
“When you really focus over and over again on better feeling thoughts, your thought…your feeling, is a vibration that goes out into the Universe. And as you are all learning now [about] the law of attraction, you must get back the same vibration that you are putting out. So what will return to you is a vibration that will bring to you more and more of things that will help you feel better.”
Similarly formatted text throughout the post represents The Council’s comments during the session. Text [in brackets] was not spoken by The Council, but has been added (where appropriate) to help you follow the conversation.
This post is a response to a question from a reader named Bari who wants to believe her better-feeling thoughts about her boyfriend will create better-feeling experiences of the two of them together, as taught by the spirit guides Abraham. But when her boyfriend repeats behaviors that contrast her better-feeling thoughts, Bari wonders how much of an impact her thoughts and feelings are really able to have on the experience of her boyfriend, or anyone else, and she asks The Council’s opinion on this.
This post is the third in a series based on comments from The Council during a single session on Sunday, April 15, 2012 to answer three thought-provoking questions from Bari and Rachael. Reincarnation and past lives were the subjects of the first post, and the second post, in this series.
Helping Others with Our Thoughts
Part way through reading Bari’s second question, The Council offered the following initial comments:
“In the non-physical it is sometimes planned: ‘At some point in my life I will meet you on Earth in the physical. And if I am going through something difficult and I can’t remember who I really am, will you remind me by your thoughts? By your thoughts I will feel that energetic change. I will feel the positive vibration that you are thinking.’ And then, of course, it is up to the [other] person to tune into it and expand with it.
“And so your thoughts go out, whether positive or negative. And the soul you are working with or you are in partnership with feels that vibration.
“And so if they are depressed or they are not accomplishing what they want to accomplish, your positive thought vibration is there and it sort of kick-starts them, but you can not control what they do.
“It’s [as if] you hold the light; you hold the remembrance of who they really are for them. And then, if they allow it, they will feel that and they will move forward.
“But when you have positive thoughts or negative [thoughts] about someone, in your experience that’s how you will experience them. Is that clear?”
–The Council (similarly formatted text throughout this post indicates quotations from The Council
This post is the second part of our response to two thought-provoking questions on reincarnation and past lives (one from Bari and one from Rachael) and an inspired second question (from Bari), about the impact our thoughts and feelings can have on other people’s experience.
In our most recent post, Reincarnation, Part 1: All Past Lives are Present Lives, we write about The Council’s response to Bari’s question on past life experiences and on the impact they have on our current lifetime. Here’s one of the more interesting things The Council had to say about the subject while answering Bari’s question:
“All of your lives are present lives. They are all going on at the same time. And you may wonder: how is this possible?
–The Council (similarly formatted text below indicates quotations from The Council)
A large portion of the Part 1 post is devoted to additional comments from The Council on this point. The information on reincarnation in Part 1 can also help with understanding the material that follows in this post.
Why Are We Here?
Rachael wants to know why we, as souls, repeatedly return to Earth, and specifically why she is here…again. She wants to know, “What is the purpose of being here?” And she wonders if learning lessons has anything to do with this purpose. The Council began answering Rachel’s questions with the following comments.
For Love and Expansion
“First of all, you would never be here if it was not your choice. So even though perhaps at the present moment you feel you don’t want to be here, we have to really tell you: yes you do. Otherwise this would not be going on. So it was your choice to come here.
As you feel these desires
Your vibration changes.
And it is this vibration
That will bring back to you
What it is you are trying to manifest.
And many people do not know
How to line up with that feeling;
The feeling of happiness,
The feeling of joy.
That’s what will help you create.
Excerpted from The Council’s opening comments to participants of a Manifesting Your Desires meeting on Tuesday, July 19, 2011 in New York City.
(The Council’s opening comments lasted about five minutes and with the exception of a brief greeting, each statement seems to stand on its own as a thought for the day. Beginning July 25, 2011 we are publishing The Council’s opening comments during this session as eight individual thoughts for the day. This post is the seventh of the series.)
Just Feel It
And so, as you picture in your mind –
And some people are not visual
And they believe they cannot see what it is they want –
Just feel it.
Pretend you have it
And just feel it,
And we will promise you:
If you can feel it,
You will create it.
Excerpted from The Council’s opening comments to participants of a Manifesting Your Desires meeting on Tuesday, July 19, 2011 in New York City.
(The Council’s opening comments lasted about five minutes and with the exception of a brief greeting, each statement seems to stand on its own as a thought for the day. Beginning July 25, 2011 we are publishing The Council’s opening comments during this session as eight individual thoughts for the day. This post is the sixth of the series.)
A Milestone Post
This post is a milestone for us. It’s our first post to include recorded audio content of one of our sessions with The Council, a group of non-physical spirit guides Cynthia is able to communicate with and channel (the process of letting The Council speak using her voice). For our first audio post we picked one of our favorite sessions with The Council, and we decided to include the complete session so you can get a feel for what these sessions are like.
From moment to moment
How you feel is important.
You attract into your future
What you are feeling,
Not what you are saying.
Your emotions create your vibration,
And your vibration attracts
What you create.
Think of the happiest, best, most joyous feeling
You have ever experienced.
Now multiply that by thousands,
And you will have part of the joy
And the love you experience as spirit.
A Question from Chris
This post is a response to a question from Chris, who asks The Council, “How do you really know when messages from meditation are really what to follow?” Chris explains she often gets excited by ideas to go in a certain direction with her life, but when she considers these inspirations in the light of her day-to-day experience, they don’t seem so inspirational any more. Chris gives the following two examples: ideas about new people coming into her life that never seem to come, and ideas about a direction she should take for work that maybe don’t turn out the way she hoped.
Chris’s questions seem relevant for many readers, even if you’re not a meditator. If you ever felt good about an inspiration to take your life in a particular direction, only to end up feeling confused when the inspiration ends up feeling like an impractical and unattainable desire, you may find The Council’s guidance helpful.
When you feel tension
It’s because you’re not feeling
The love you have for yourself.
Concentrate on your Heart Chakra
Until you notice a feeling of warmth.
Focusing on this feeling
Will increase the warmth,
Ease the tension,
And allow the feeling of love.
When you are in the midst of fear,
Ask yourself, “Who am I?”
Then sit quietly and allow the feelings to come.
The answer you receive
Is not in words,
It’s in the vibration of your feelings.
Do you know
You have chosen the physical
To experience a variety of emotions?
So there is no wrong feeling,
No negative emotion
That you must choose
To ignore or bury.
It is all part of
What you signed up for.
The first step in creating:
Begin with your thoughts.
Change your thoughts and your feelings change.
Change you feelings and your vibration changes.
Thought by thought,
Feeling by feeling,
You build your future.
Dissolve the boundaries to your thinking;
You have unlimited choices.
Nothing in your life has power over you.
Nothing creates for you.
You are the Architect of your life.
Your thoughts and imagination
Are like watching a wonderful black and white movie.
Now if you add your feelings,
Ta da! You’ve got Technicolor.
And as you continue to practice your thoughts, imagination, and feelings,
Very soon you’ll have 3-D
And you’ll be living the movie you’re creating.
Discover your potential.
Keep reaching for those better feeling thoughts.
This post is an introduction to the concepts of multiple realities and multiple dimensions — subjects that were briefly introduced to us a couple months ago in a session with The Council to answer a question from Diana about a relationship where two people seem to have opposing desires. Here are some of The Council’s references to multiple realities that got us thinking about this subject and how an understanding of it might improve your day-to-day human experience.
“But if you go deeper into what many people are not understanding yet, in all of our realities that simultaneously exist, when you ask for this [experience] to be in your life and you line up with that vibration, it is experienced.”
“So you are always given what you ask for, but there are many dimensions. And not to make it too difficult, we try to get your focus to be on creating the feeling within you that you would have with this [experience] that you desire.”
“By making it as real as possible you will find the feeling within you. The joy [and] the happiness that you feel experiencing it as if it is already done – that feeling makes it real in another reality. It is happening. That happening in another reality brings it closer to coming into your existence.
“By just having the thoughts, it is created. But experiencing it as if it is already done makes it already done in a reality, in a dimension, that is closer to your human existence.
“And so each time this memory, this desire is experienced, the vibration of those thoughts and feelings gives the universe (so to speak) the power of creating this in your reality – to bring it in.”
(The formatting above throughout this post represents The Council’s comments during our session. Text [in brackets] in these quotations has been added to improve readability and clarity when this seems useful.)
This post is inspired by a question from Oksana, who observes that in our sessions with The Council there are many references to spirit, but not many references to soul. Oksana asks if The Council can provide information specific to the soul. She’s particularly interested in The Council’s point of view on whether it’s possible to do things that can be detrimental to our soul.
Our Soul is an Aspect or Part of Our Spirit
“The spirit, who we truly are, is the larger part of us. The soul – which some people understand is interchangeable with the word spirit – the soul is the smaller part [of spirit] that chooses to experience this life, and it is what we would consider your personality in each different life. It has the knowledge of what you are looking to experience. And so the soul is part of the spirit and part of the human. Is that understood?”
Before Oksana asked her question, Cynthia and I were among those who thought the words ‘soul’ and ‘spirit’ were more or less interchangeable. Prior to our session on this question, Cynthia was already getting information from The Council on this subject that started us thinking there might be more of a difference than we suspected. Their opening statement above makes it pretty clear they perceive the soul as a distinct aspect of spirit, not the same as spirit, but some of the other things they mentioned weren’t as obvious.
During a recent session with The Council they seemed concerned many people question the validity of the law of attraction and don’t understand how to use it to their advantage. The information in this post is intended to help you experience the validity of the law of attraction even of you’re skeptical that it exists. It’s also intended to show you how the law of attraction can improve your life even if you don’t think it can.
Law of Attraction Makes it to Primetime
After the widely popular release of The Secret, a 2006 film and a 2007 book about the law of attraction that received a lot of attention in the media, and some bestselling books on this subject by Esther and Jerry Hicks, the law of attraction seems to have found a place in popular culture. Amazon.com recently listed over 1,000 books on the subject, including The Complete Idiot’s Guide to The Law of Attraction. But The Council says there’s a lot of misunderstanding about the law of attraction (LOA).
This post is in response to a question from Diana about the idea that everyone creates whatever they desire. She’s read a lot on this subject and asks about the practical application of this idea for creating a relationship she desires. Diana particularly wants to know how this idea works if she focuses all her attention on being with a specific person, but this person is focusing all their attention in opposition to that and doesn’t want to be with her. She asks the logical question: How is it possible for both people to get what they desire if their desires are exact opposites?
What We Desire, We Create First in a Non-Physical Reality
The Council’s answer to Diana’s question provided Cynthia and me with some new insight and understanding into the process of getting what we desire. This understanding begins with the idea that when we have a desire for something, whatever we desire is immediately created in a non-physical, vibrational reality. In Diana’s example, The Council says her desire to be with this person (since a name or gender aren’t specified we’ll refer to this person with the letter A) instantly creates in a non-physical reality the experience that she is with A in every way she desires.
Given a choice, most of us probably prefer to experience our desired creations in our physical reality, not just a vibrational one. So the question is: how do we get our desired creation from a non-physical reality into our physical reality.
This post is based on a session with The Council on Saturday, July 17, 2010 that addresses the following subjects:
- Our connection to spirit is not broken when we’re born in a physical body.
- Feeling our connection with spirit.
- Using love and other good-feeling emotions to create what we desire.
- The power of a smile.
True or False: Birth Causes a Separation from Spirit
Many who are interested in enlightenment and connecting with spirit think that when we leave our true home in spirit to be born into physical bodies that a separation from spirit occurs. The Council says when we think of spirit as being “up there,” “on the other side,” “in heaven,” “in another dimension,” or somewhere other than within us, we basically believe there is a separation from spirit.
This is a follow up to previous post titled: Believing in a Loving and Benevolent God When Life Sucks. Barry P. read that post and passed along the following anecdote about believing in God. I found it thought provoking and worth sharing. I hope you enjoy it.
The Young Man & The Barber
A young man, while getting a haircut and his beard trimmed, was deep in conversation with his barber. The conversation turned to the subject of God and the barber proclaimed, “I don’t believe God exists.”
“What makes you so sure,” asked the young man?
The barber walked to the window and replied, “All you have to do is look out in the street to realize God doesn’t exist. If God existed, there wouldn’t be any sickness, or pain, or suffering. I can’t imagine a God that would allow these things.”
The young man was about to disagree with the barber when he had a feeling he should hold back. He was surprised by this feeling, but decided to follow his intuition. He tactfully changed the subject of the conversation, but kept thinking about the barber’s comment about God.
As the young man was leaving the barbershop, he noticed through the window a man on the street who had very long, unkempt hair and a long, unkempt beard. This gave the young man an idea.
He turned to the man who just trimmed his hair and beard and proclaimed, “Barbers don’t exist.”
“Are you crazy,” asked the barber? “You just paid me to cut your hair and trim your beard.” I’m living proof that barber’s exist.
The young man replied, “Look out in the street. Do you see that man with long messy hair and a long straggly beard? If barber’s exist, there wouldn’t be anyone who looked like that. I can’t imagine barbers would allow something like this.”
And the young man turned and left.
This post is inspired by a question for The Council from Chris who asks how to move on when someone she feels she was meant to spend her life with broke a sacred contract by leaving. She also asks if it’s possible to find another partner under the circumstances.
The Council observes that souls frequently agree to come into physical bodies during the same lifetime and help each other in their physical lives, but the Council isn’t inclined to understand these agreements as binding sacred contracts, as implied by Chris’s question. The Council believes the idea of an unchangeable binding sacred contract goes against one of the most important principles in all of creation: the free will that all humans, all souls, all spirit is given by our creator to choose, in any moment, from an infinite variety of possibilities. The Council’s idea of a sacred contract is the agreement each soul makes to unconditionally love the part of itself that comes to experience life in a physical body.
Striving for More Frequent Posts
The Council recently suggested that we take a break from working on a response to Chris’s question about a broken sacred contract in order to provide readers with more frequent posts. A couple weeks ago Cynthia had an experience that seems like a good candidate.
One of The Council’s Favorite Reminders
One of the points The Council makes most frequently and emphatically is how important it is that everyone know who they really are. While this advice isn’t new, (the ancient Greek aphorism “know thyself” is attributed to at least half a dozen sages including Socrates), The Council also reminds us that humans are non-physical, spiritual energy living in a physical body. Even this idea isn’t new, but it doesn’t seem well understood.
A Desire for the Feeling, Not Just Understanding the Words
Cynthia felt like she understood the words, but had a strong desire to experience the feeling of who she is as spirit in her body, not just an understanding of the words. Many times each day for a couple weeks she would say to herself, “I want to know who I really am. I want to see it and I want to feel it.” Cynthia wasn’t just thinking the thought and saying these words many times a day. She felt this powerful desire deep in her heart and felt like she was sending this feeling out to the universe, asking it to let her see and feel who she really is.
Feeling a Need for Change, but Uncertain about a Career Move to the Arts
In this post The Council offers guidance on decision making. The post is a response to Sandy’s request for guidance about a career decision. He’s between jobs and wonders if he should stick to a career path he’s familiar with or try something completely outside of the box. He likes the idea of being involved in the Arts, but he tends to think of himself as a math and science person.
What Do I Do With My Life
The Council observes that many of us stress over making decisions, and this stress can make it difficult to achieve the outcomes we desire. They suggest when it comes to making decisions about the path to take in our life, the more relaxed we can be about the process, the more satisfying the outcome will be. For Sandy, The Council suggests making an effort to enjoy this time between jobs and to consider his desires.
“What brings you happiness? Which thought? Which imaginary situation brings you joy…a smile to your face? There are many things you can choose from.”
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