This post in inspired by questions and comments from Janette, who asked about her daughter’s stillborn birth in a previous question and follows up with additional questions now.
After having a Cesarean section for the recent birth of her son, the doctor informed Janette that her uterus was only half formed, and this condition is responsible for stillborn births and several other problems. Having learned this she feels it’s a miracle her second child was born okay after her daughter was stillborn. But now she’s confused about whether there’s a spiritual reason for her daughter’s stillbirth, or whether it was just the physical issues with her uterus.
The Council replies that when she created these challenges in her life, does she understand it’s never something that just happens because her uterus is partially formed? It’s all been planned by her spiritual self for what she wants to learn, who she wants to help.
When Janette asks if her soul planned to be born with a partially formed uterus so she would experience her daughter’s stillbirth, The Council says definitely, and now she’s ready to let this situation go.
Janette asks if her daughter’s soul knew she wouldn’t make it through the pregnancy, and again The Council says, definitely. When she asks if her daughter’s soul planned from the beginning to be stillborn or if she decided when she was 33 weeks pregnant, as The Council sees her situation it was pre-planned so she and her daughter could have the stillbirth experience.
When Janette asks if she knows on some higher level what the answers to her questions are, The Council says of course you do. They say on your higher level you have all the answers, and she knew she would experience a stillbirth.
Janette asks if she and her daughter didn’t agree to the stillbirth, could it have happened anyway because they had no choice and it was just something medical that happened. The Council is clear that we always have a choice. And they say if there’s a medical problem, it’s because her higher self desired this problem to help her experience this stillbirth. The Council says nothing happens by accident. It is pre-planned and everyone agreed to it. And they see that the stillbirth went according to her plans.
Janette says she thinks it’s the role of our guardian angels to ensure we don’t cross over before our time. She asks if her daughter’s guardian angel was with her during the 33 week pregnancy, and did it allow the stillbirth to happen?
The Council says guardian angels will never step in and change what you have planned in spirit. They’re job is to sort of hang around and make sure things go in the direction you wanted.
When Janette asked why her daughter’s guardian angel didn’t protect her and keep her safe inside her, The Council says she was safe in her. She was so safe that the stillbirth went exactly the way she planed for it to go in spirit.
The Council asks that Janette focus her attention now on the new soul that was just born into your life, to show it love at all times, and to teach it to be a loving person. As this child grows it will be very focused on what it wants to do in this lifetime and knowledge is what will keep him on the right track. The Council advises Janette to be part of the education that he needs. He’s here to acquire knowledge, to bring answers into his life, and be part of the souls that blaze a new trail into the spiritual world.
Listen to the entire 12-minute session with The Council (below).
This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Persephone who asks The Council why she’s chosen to surround herself with so much mental instability and mental illness in this lifetime.
The Council is quick to complement Persephone on her realization that she’s the creator of what she experiences in her life. And then they ask if she felt there was something very wrong with these people, if she felt above this mental instability, and perhaps she felt she was better than they are.
Now she’s concerned about her own mental stability and The Council asks if she’s afraid she’s also experiencing some sort of mental illness. They say when you create life situations that are frightening to the people around you, it’s normal to think this could happen to you.
The Council says if she can look at these people and choose to focus on the parts of them that were good and loving instead of noticing something wrong with them, and appreciate them for the roles they are playing in her life so she could learn from it, then she’d be able to let go of the underlying fear she’d end up like this. This is what she intended as spirit to experience, learn from, and change.
The Council finishes the session by appreciating the confidence others have to write their questions. This allows them to be of service by helping change the focus, if necessary, in what they are going through. And they remind us to bring love into every situation. They say each person who has come into your life, no matter how short the time, has come to play a role. Send them all love, and send them on their way or welcome them into your life, but always with love.
Listen to the entire 8-minute session below to receive all The Council’s guidance. Let us know what you think.
This post is inspired by questions and comments from a reader who identifies herself as D. She says many years ago she fell in love with someone who didn’t love her back and the relationship went from friends, to enemies, to friends, and on and on for years. The Council asks D. how she see’s this happening when she looks back on this, and to focus on the aspect of what was able to bring them back to friendship again.
D. says she felt a strange connection to this man from the first moment she saw him. She’s never been able to let go of that connection and often feels stuck and depressed about it. Recently he married someone else and D. describes feeling more loss and pain. She has moved and stopped talking to him, but the thought of this man is with her no matter where she goes or what she does. She asks why her soul can’t let go and find happiness elsewhere.
The Council says D’s soul is very willing to let go, but her human part holds onto what her future could have been with this man. This leads to feelings of depression and loss because D. feels she’s just this human body rather than a spirit in her body.
The Council explains that truly loving someone is allowing them to be however they want to be, and they ask D. if she can allow this man the happiness he’s found with his wife. And can she now find this same happiness with other people who’ve agreed to come into her life for this purpose.
D. wonders if she and this man have shared past lives together and that’s why she keeps feeling connected to him. The Council says they have shared many lifetimes, but ask D. if she wants to focus on what was, or where she is now, and create her future.
The Council says this man’s role was to teach D. to let go and find love wherever she can. And they ask if she’s ready to let go and find the love she’s looking for within herself. Can she feel the love with every person who comes into her life? As she feels love for herself she will attract love from other people.
D. says she’s always known that love is eternal, and The Council says it’s at these moments that she’s remembering who she truly is as a spiritual being. They say we are all love and we want to bring this feeling into this reality.
D. seems to associate her connection to this man with feeling loss and pain rather than appreciating the time they’ve spent together that’s been good for her. The Council says D. needs to change her thoughts about this man and realize he’s a spirit in a physical body. That is what will give her relief. And then ask herself what else she wanted to experience in this lifetime. And tell herself she’s ready to experience the next part of this journey, to experience love, joy, and happiness. Can she do that?
D. asks why she feels connected to a soul who doesn’t feel connected to her at all and she asks if this connection is one-sided. The Council says the connection isn’t one-sided, it’s just that she chooses to be more aware and learn from this connection.
D. finishes by asking what she can do to stop this feeling of connection and what is the purpose of sharing this lifetime with this man. The Council says there are many purposes and at any moment she and this man were able to choose the path they wish to take.
The Council recommends what she perceives as loss, she now perceive as the love she is that she’s looking for elsewhere. Appreciate the positive aspects of this relationship when she thought it was good. Ask herself what she’s learned that is good from this relationship and how she can move forward by bringing new relationships into her life.
This session appears to have some unusually good advice for D. and the rest of us. Listen to the entire 20-minute session with The Council to get all the detail.
This post is inspired by a question from a reader named Diana who says that The Council always reminds us we are spirit and we are love and asks where evil comes from, why does it exist, and why would someone choose to experience being evil in a physical body?
The Council’s initial response was that evil is created from our thoughts and beliefs. When I (Bob) said we might need a little more than that, they elaborated.
The Council says we are here to experience any reality we wish to learn from and some of us choose to experience negativity and evil until we realize we created it and we have the ability to change it. Look at these situations as opportunities to learn and grow.
The Council says everything we experience in this physical reality that we consider evil is only here because we wanted the experience of changing it into something more loving. You want to remember who you really are as a spiritual being in a physical body and you have the ability to change evil and bring love into these situations.
When Diana comments there are some people who don’t appear to have a soul or a drop of love in them, The Council replies that everyone has a soul and everyone is love, but what keeps them from experiencing this is they have forgotten who they truly are. The challenge is to remember this.
When Diana asks how someone who manifests evil can be spirit and love The Council reminds us that spirit and human are one being who loves itself so much it allows us to experience whatever we choose while in the human body, and find our way back to who we are as spirit.
Listen to the entire 7-minute session to receive The Council’s full message.
This post is inspired by an anonymous support worker who asks The Council why schizophrenia appears to be growing in Western societies. The Council responds that by focusing on schizophrenia it will seem like there is more of it in your life. It appears to be growing because it is the focus.
When a soul can no longer handle their life, they can create another world for themselves where it seems like they are two different people and they aren’t so focused on this reality. Interestingly The Council adds that most of the time a soul chooses schizophrenia, it’s for the people they interact with. There are many lessons these people are helping other souls learn by choosing schizophrenia, as well as experiencing it for themselves. This is an interesting concept that can be difficult to understand – the idea these people experience their a reality for the purpose of helping the people around them.
When I (Bob) asked The Council if schizophrenia is growing in our Western society, they respond that it isn’t growing for everyone. And as we understand that we create our own reality, there are many people who never hear of schizophrenia; it’s not an idea in their head. And yet for the people who want to learn something from schizophrenia, the more they focus on this, the more it will appear to grow.
The Council reminds us it’s important that what you focus on, you will continue to bring into your life. And when the focus on schizophrenia isn’t as important, it will begin to disappear. But being a caregiver, schizophrenia may be all around this person at this time in their life. The Council advises them to look at this and ask themselves why they created this.
Can they understand there’s a soul in these schizophrenic bodies and they are being this way for them to grow from this? Ask what they are learning from this. Can they be around these people and offer them love? The Council encourages us to believe these people will feel the love even if it doesn’t seem possible. Can you feel these people with schizophrenia are there for you in spirit to grow from this experience?
If schizophrenia is in your reality, the question is how can you bring love into this? Listen to the 7-minute session below to get The Council’s full response to this interesting question.
This post is inspired by a brief, but powerful question from Margaret, who asks: What do my soul, heart, and ego need? It’s a short question, but The Council’s answer is full of insight that applies to many, if not all of us.
The first thing The Council reminds us is that it’s good to realize we are spirit in a physical body, and that we are here to bring love into all situations we experience. This was our main purpose for coming here and they go on to say there isn’t anyone here who doesn’t have a spirit with them to guide them.
The Council says we’ve chosen our challenging situations because we want the experience of turning them around by looking at them with the love we are, and experiencing them differently.
They remind us our most powerful tool is choice. Every day in every situation you have the choice how you’ll handle these circumstances, and how you’ll move through every experience.
When I (Bob) point out their guidance for Margaret seems a little general, The Council says their guidance is what Margaret needs to know at this particular time, and it’s specific to her needs.
They suggest she read many of the spiritual books available and they mention by name those written by the spirit guide, Emmanuel. They close by reminding Margaret she is loved, and she has The Council’s support and blessing.
Listen to the entire 4-minute session to receive it’s full meaning and let us know what you think.
This post is inspired by a comment from A. who describes her situation as similar to L in the post, “Should I Get Pregnant After My Abortion?” A. says she never expected to have an unplanned pregnancy because she was on birth control for 17 years. But she switched to a natural contraceptive for health reasons, got pregnant, and felt an abortion was her only choice. Her boyfriend didn’t want the child, and having it on her own would be difficult.
She wondered why this happened, and she asks The Council if her sense the pregnancy would miscarry if she didn’t abort was accurate. She couldn’t continue without the support of her partner, and decided with love to abort.
The Council says A.’s decision made with the feeling of love is the right way to go, and that a miscarriage down the road was not her plan. They see she got together with this partner and agreed spiritually to experience this pregnancy, and then experience making a decision on what to do about it independently.
Her partner played his part by not treating A. as lovingly as he did at first, and having her realize she’d be raising this child alone. Wanting to go through the experience of getting pregnant and not relying on another person’s opinion on what to do, A. went with her feeling of love and chose to abort.
In her past lives The Council says A. made a lot of decisions to please other people, or just take their advice. In this lifetime A. wants to become more independent. The pregnancy was planned by her, her partner, and the child (who would have come if A. chose to keep the baby), but knowing she’d have to raise the child alone she was courageous enough to abort.
The Council asks A. to look at the situation she’s gone through with her partner and see what can be learned in love through this. His situation was to have the courage to say he didn’t want to go forward with the pregnancy. If both were unable to fulfill what they wanted, the outcome would have been very different. Both experienced something they ultimately wanted, and The Council sees this as growth for them.
The Council congratulates both A. and her partner and say it’s not always easy to accomplish what’s intended. This was a good outcome, which The Council hopes will bring them much love and happiness. Listen to the entire 9-minute session below to get the full meaning. Let us know what you think.
This post is inspired by a question from Ali who asks if you have a natural talent for something are you obliged to use this talent.
The Council says there’s no obligation. You come with gifts and you chose whether to use them or not. There is no should. You have a talent you brought forth in this lifetime if it brings you pleasure to use it. They ask what is the purpose of practicing art, even if you are talented, if it doesn’t bring you joy. You are suppose to enjoy what you do; find fun in it; love it. These are the things you want to do in this lifetime.
The Council says they are here to hopefully give people clarity and help them feel better. They remind us we are here to bring love into every situation and know you have the choice of what you want to experience and how you want to experience it. And they remind us it’s our purpose to bring love from our spiritual reality into our human reality.
Look at every part of your life and ask if you are bringing love into it. Can you make your life more fun? Find a better way to experience your life. There’s no need for guilt or fear. When you experience these emotion it’s because you’ve forgotten you are pure love and light. That’s the true you.
You’re so much more than your body and the person you are in this reality. You’ve had many other lifetimes and many talents. Great beauty and great love is within you. You’re here with many spirits to experience anything you want to experience, and your intention is to experience everything with love.
The Council’s closing thoughts go beyond Ali’s questions to answer larger questions you may have about your life. Listen to the entire 6-minute recording to benefit from what The Council is saying.
This post is inspired by Janette, who had an almost full term stillborn baby girl in February 2014 and she’s been researching the spiritual reasons this might have happened. She and her husband had just gotten married and they were very excited about having their first child.
Janette asks if her and her daughter’s higher selves knew ahead of time what was going to happen the day her daughter’s heart stopped and could she have done anything to prevent it. The idea this was an accident is difficult for Janette to bare and she wants to know if her daughter chose to be stillborn.
The Council says the higher selves of Janette, her daughter, and her husband knew the baby wasn’t coming into this reality no matter what they tried to do. The child only wanted to experience what took place in the womb and wasn’t ready to experience a full lifetime. The Council says Janette and her husband spiritually agreed to allow their daughter to have this experience and at the same time Janette desired an opportunity to work through an experience of disappointment. It was 3 souls loving each other and helping each other experience a situation they all desired.
Janette says she was nervous as a first time mother and hoped her daughter didn’t experience negativity from that, but The Council says it’s fine if the child experiences what Janette was feeling because it chose to experience those emotions. Knowing what this soul wanted to do, Janette and her husband agreed to give this soul a temporary home to experience what it wanted to learn, and then pick the time and the way it wanted to leave.
The Council suggests Janette find the love she gave her daughter and understand that other spirits might not have been able to do this. She allowed this spirit to experience whatever it wanted while it was in her body, and this soul helped her experience whatever she needed to experience going through this.
Having this spirit leave put her on a new path of having to ask why this happened. If Janette can find a way to appreciate what they did for each other and feel the great love they have for each other without any guilt, she’ll realize they fulfilled each other’s wishes perfectly. Listen to the entire 18-minute session to receive it’s full benefit.
This post is inspired by a question from Diana who says she doesn’t like the reality she’s experiencing and doesn’t know how to change it. All her life she’s believed true love is the answer to every question and most of her life has been a quest to find this love. But fate keeps bringing the wrong people into her life.
She says it’s been so many years of loss and pain she can’t imagine a different life, can’t go on even for the sake of her child, and can’t see any light at the end of tunnel. Diana asks what’s the point of continuing to live in this reality if you’re never going to find what you seek?
The Council agrees with Diana that true love is the answer to every question, but they remind us it must start within her. They say love is the beginning of the change she’s looking for, but she must learn to love herself first.
If Diana wants more loving people in her life she has to change her vibration in order to attract them. We choose what we experience to learn from it. If it’s a difficult, unloving, or hurtful experience we’ve planned, we’ll remember how to change it by bringing love into it.
Start by finding something to appreciate about what she’s experiencing. Do little things that make her happy. Find the parts of herself that are waiting to be recognized. If she wasn’t ready for this change then The Council wouldn’t be having this discussion with her.
Think about all the good things Diana has done while she’s experienced this difficult time. She’s at the point where she wants to create her life differently and The Council sees this as a wonderful step. Find parts of herself she loves and admire them. No matter how hard she’s created her life, she has come through it and is ready to change it.
As she appreciates her life Diana will have the energy to go on and she will get more clarity as she moves forward. As she experiences this gratitude and love for herself, life will get better.
Listen to the entire 19-minute answer to Diana questions for the full impact of The Council’s wonderful answer.
This post is inspired by questions from L who asks if she should get pregnant again after having an abortion. It was a difficult decision because her partner was clear he didn’t want to become a father and she was too afraid to become a single Mom. During and right after the abortion L was surprised by the love she was surrounded by and not feeling guilty towards this unborn soul.
The Council says L is one of the few people who actually feel love from the aborted soul and her spirit guides during an abortion, and they say this is exactly what everyone going through this should feel. There is no reason to feel guilty and no reason to punish yourself because you think you have done something wrong.
But now it’s a few months later and she’s experiencing a lot of sadness and regret. She suspects the abortion was to open her maternal instinct, which she thinks would have remained closed otherwise, and now she’s thinking about becoming pregnant again. The Council advises her to try and remember, even if it’s just for a short time, the feeling of love she experienced during the pregnancy and abortion, and that would help her with any decisions she needs to make.
But her partner is still afraid of becoming a father and she doesn’t know whether to give it more time or to end the relationship because she’s already 35 years old. The Council says he might be a great Dad if that’s his choice, but they remind L it’s not her place to make the choice for him.
L asks why this happened to her, how to deal with it, and if there will be another chance for children with this partner or another partner. She thinks maybe her desire for children now is her way of coping with the abortion, but The Council says being a mother is something she wants to experience. It’s up to her whether she persuades her current partner, finds a new partner, or changes her mind about getting pregnant again.
Listen to the entire 10-minute session to gain the full benefit from The Council’s guidance.
This post is inspired by a question from NZ about her second abortion. She says her first abortion was a long time ago, was for the right reasons, and she has peace with it. But when she got pregnant after giving birth to her two wonderful sons it was pure panic, fear, and like something took over and made the choice to abort for her.
She had the abortion to provide a stronger love for her two boys, her partner, and herself, but as soon as she made the decision to abort it she felt regret. NZ wants to know why she was so afraid of this child. The Council says it’s because of past lives and stories she’s heard, but she’s created this in her life so she can turn it around. They say if she can change her beliefs about being pregnant, think about having a healthy child, and move forward without the suffering and the fear from before, then she has accomplished what she’s set out to learn in this lifetime with this soul.
The Council finishes with a message for anyone who’s experienced an abortion. It’s a touching thought and well worth a listen to The Council’s 15-minute session on NZ’s question.
This post is inspired by a question from Susan who asks if it’s more loving to let her son stay home from school when he doesn’t feel well or to force him to try to walk through his anxiety and go to school. Her son is a 12 year old sixth grader who she describes as very energetically sensitive, dyslexic, has ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder), and sensory issues. Her son missed school on Friday and 15 minutes before going to school on Monday he developed a stomach ache. Susan is looking for guidance that will help her in situations like this. She’s concerned about his anxiety ruling him, but she also wants him to make it to the other side of his fears.
The Counsel says much of her son’s stress is related to remembering his past lives when he was abandoned, had no family, and couldn’t speak out. When he’s ready they suggest speaking to him about the help available from spirits and angels when he feels this way, and reminding him these problems aren’t what he’s experiencing now. Susan’s job is to listen to her son, show him he’s heard, remind him he has a lot of love, and each time he experiences this difficulty he gets through the day.
At some point he’ll remember his past lives and this will alleviate much of his fears. Get him to go though his fears by talking about his day. This will bring more understanding. His spirit chose to work on this problem in this lifetime and Susan has agreed to help him learn to speak, to hear and understand him, but not to solve it for him. He’ll do that himself. There should be many talks the night before school and the morning of school reminding him in this lifetime he has the gift of speech and can talk about what’s bothering him.
The Council can’t tell Susan when to let her son stay home and when he should force him to go to school. It is part of her lesson to listen with her heart and know when he can stay home and when he should go to school. Each situation is different. When she chooses to let him stay home, get him to speak about this problem. That’s your agreement in this situation. Together they will move through this.
It’s important to point out that when you force him to go to school he’s gotten through this, but Susan has to believe in herself and know when to push her son to go to school and when to stay home. Susan can’t solve this for her son. She is to be supportive and together they will work through this problem.
Susan’s fears of what happens to her son will create that so no matter what’s going on with her son Susan’s job is to see him succeeding, becoming more sure of himself, seeing him more at ease. The more Susan focuses on this the more she brings it into her reality. Between the two of them there’s a lot of fear that needs to be worked out and the Council sees this happening.
Listen to the entire 24-minute session on Susan’s question to get the full benefit of of The Council’s guidance.
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This post is inspired by an anonymous reader who says she’s suffered over a contract with her soul mate that he’s repeatedly broken. But The Counsel says there’s no contract to break, just an agreement, and it’s time to change it, to end it, or redesign it.
She seeks a release from the suffering she’s experienced, has no interest in men she meets even though they’re interesting, says she wants out of the relationship with her soul mate, and doubts she’ll feel love again although she’d like to. The Counsel asks how she can never feel love again when that is what she truly is. It is her essence even though she chooses out of fear, frustration, and anger not to experience it.
The Counsel says the man she calls her soul mate isn’t involved with other women out of weakness, but because he’s searching for love and that’s all good. They suggest she move forward in a loving spirit and understand this is just a plan that’s taken a turn. Nothing is wrong. There’s just a different way to experience the love she thought she’d have with this man.
The Council says the most important thing to remember is that these two people agreed they would try to bring love into this reality. But there are difficult times and the question is, can you stay in the love? The Counsel believes she doesn’t feel this love for herself so they say to step away from this relationship and find it. When she finds it things will change for her. It’s possible it will be a magnet that will bring him back or she will bring in new people that are the same loving vibration.
Listen to the entire 11-minute session to hear all the details.
Copyright ℗ 2015 Bob & Cynthia Dukes
This post is the first since Bob’s mini-stroke so we’ll keep it short. Usually we just include the recordings of The Council only, but you’ll notice we’ve included four additional recordings after the closing. We thought they were sufficiently interesting to be included along with The Council material. We hope you enjoy them.
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Lola wants to know if The Council thinks service to others is the underlying purpose of spirit, and her question appears to be inspired by the following quote from The Council that was posted as a Thought for the Day.
“You are pure spirit expressing itself in the physical. You have come to enjoy the dance of life – sometimes leading, sometimes following – but always with the intent to find joy in every step.”
Listening to the audio recording
You can listen to a 10 minute audio recording of the The Council’s answer to Lola’s question using the audio player bar below. Copyright ℗ 2014 Bob & Cynthia Dukes
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Here are some excerpts of The Council’s answer to Lola’s question.
You are here to bring love into physical reality
“Well #1, you have come here to bring (as we have said before) love from the spirit into your physical world. Now many believe life should be of service to others. Helping one another always brings love into the situation, which is what we [all spirits] are going for — this is our goal.”
Loving is service to others
“There are some [who] believe [that] in their service to others, they will help the poor, they will volunteer for some job in a hospital, [or] teaching, and that is wonderful because this is needed.
“But coming into this reality, just radiating the energy of love is just as important as going out and volunteering at some particular job. … So it is always your choice. What do you feel brings you joy? With joy comes love, always.”
“It is automatic when you serve,
when you extend yourself to help others,
it is an automatic reward to the one extending this help,
but not where you would question,
‘What is in this for me?’
“It is a true feeling of love from the heart,
to be of service with no prize, with no return.
And yet there always is the prize,
[there is] the return.”
“It is the helping with no thought of your reward.
It is just the helping.”
“Your vibration grows,
your heart expands.”
“There is more and more understanding
[that] comes into the consciousness.”
“It is law.”
–The Council (Excerpt from 2-14-2010 session)
“You are loved into creation.”
wanting to experience more of itself,
loved you into creation.”
–The Council (Excerpt from March 20, 2011 session)
This post is inspired by an overlooked question asked several years ago by reader named Fe, who made some interesting observations about the differences between the roles of men and women, and she asks The Council: “When All That Is conceived of and created our species for this physical reality, what was the intended nature of each gender, of their roles, and of their intimate relationship?”
“From the very beginning, when spirit created male and female it was known that as we continue through our expansion and our many many lives, that we would take part in each gender. And so we would experience being the man [and] we would experience being the woman.
“And the only thing that was pre-planned at that time was that we would have the man and the woman. We would come into this lifetime… into these bodies… and (as they say) work it day by day. There was no assumption that the male would be stronger and the female would be weaker.
“And through different periods of time the man was stronger and the woman was weaker. And the roles were reversed and the woman was stronger (and we believe you have heard stories, which are true, of the Amazons) and the man was weaker.
“The intention was to experience both and create it the way you wanted it to be. So there was no fine line that said the man will be stronger [and] the female weaker, or vice verse.
“In your recent generations many women were taught that the man was the head of the house… that a woman that was not married was an old maid… and pity the person that could not find themselves in a permanent relationship. And then there was the thought that if you did marry and did not have children, that was oh so sad.
“And so now you have seen this changing. Many women choose not to be in relationships. Many women choose to set their sights on careers, or just evolve in their own lives, whether with different partners or going forward alone.
“And so as you can see, through all these generations the roles do change; they swing like a pendulum. The most important thing right now is (of course the way we always say) to remember you’re a spirit in a physical body, and you will experience both. How you experience it is entirely up to you because you create as you go along. Is that understood?”
(The formatting above throughout this post represents The Council’s comments during our session. Text [in brackets] in these quotations has been added to improve readability and clarity when this seems useful.)
This post is inspired by a request from Kali, who writes that her partner (father of her two young sons) didn’t physically survive a car crash a couple months ago. She adds that she can’t accept he’s gone, her pain is unbearable, she’s desperately trying to develop herself spiritually so she can connect with the love of her life, and she’d appreciate any guidance The Council can offer.
Do You Believe You are Spirit in a Physical Body?
On November 11, 2013 we did a session with The Council to see if we could get the guidance Kali requested. The Council began this session with the following comments:
“Well first we want to say he [Kali’s partner] hasn’t gone anywhere, he is just out of his physical body.
“You are stating you are desperate and trying to develop spiritually, so first we ask you to meditate on this question: Do you believe you are a spirit here, operating in this physical body? Because that is who you truly are.
“And spirit – which is light and energy – never dies; we transition. We choose to create physical bodies to come into this environment and when we are done, we leave the physical body. But there is no dying; there is no end to spirit. Is that understood?”
—The Council Continue reading
This post is inspired by a question from a reader named Jose, who has read in some of our blog posts (links at the end of this post) that humans are spiritual beings in a physical body, and that spirit sometimes chooses to have human experiences that we (as humans) find undesirable. Jose wants to know how it’s possible for humans to have free will to choose our human desires, if who we are as spirit is choosing human experiences that feel unwanted from our human point of view.
Lots of people have become interested in the spiritual teaching that you are the creator of what you experience, which has been around a while and has become more popular through the teachings of Abraham and other spiritual teachers. Jose’s question suggests he’s aware of lots of things in his human experience he doesn’t want, and after reading in our posts that who you are as spirit sometimes creates human experiences that feel unwanted from your human point of view, he came to the troubling conclusion that spirit is preventing him from having more of the human experiences he desires.
Topics Covered in this Post
Even if you don’t believe spirit is keeping you from manifesting more of what you desire in your life, and you’re not particularly interested in the subject of free will, if you’re interested in ideas to help you feel an increased level of well-being in your human experience, we’re finding the information and guidance from The Council in response to Jose’s question has been a big step for us in that direction. Topics covered in our sessions on Jose’s question and in this post include:
- The relationship between who you are as a spiritual being and who you are as a human being.
- Why the spiritual part of you might desire to have human experiences in a physical reality.
- Why the spiritual part of you might desire to have human experiences that feel undesirable to you as a human being.
- The validity of your human free will to choose your human desires, even if who you are as spirit is choosing to have different human experiences.
- Why you may be having difficulty manifesting your human desires in your physical experience.
Nothing Going On That Spirit Hasn’t Planned For
The Council began our first session on Jose’s questions by emphasizing there isn’t any separation between spirit and human.
“The spirit works through the body it [spirit] has created.
“So there is nothing that is going on that the body wants, that the spirit hasn’t planned for.
“Is that understood? It is all one – the mind, the body, and the spirit – it is all one.”
This post describes a session with The Council in response to the comment and questions below from Beth on the subject of abortion. The session is full of thought-provoking ideas on lots of different subjects of interest to many people in addition to Beth. Particularly interesting to us is light that The Council sheds on how our spirit’s intentions often manifest in surprising and unexpected ways in our human experience.
Ordinarily we like to offer a sort of running commentary in these posts if we feel it can add some clarity to something The Council says during a session, but it seemed to make this post too long and wordy. It also seemed to place more emphasis on understanding what The Council is saying rather than on appreciating the feeling of the energy offered by The Council and spirit in response to Beth’s questions. More and more we are learning from The Council that what’s important about spiritual understanding is that it’s a focus of attention that allows you to feel in your physical experience more of the love you are as a spiritual being.
As you read through the post, see if you can feel the energy of this session resonating with your spirit. If a clear understanding doesn’t come right away, be patient with yourself and let your connection to who you are as a spiritual being shed light on the material presented here. Give yourself some time. You are always welcome to use the Comment section following the post to ask a question about this material and we’ll do our best to reply.
Beth’s Comment and Questions
“I have a question about abortions as it relates to the Soul and the Soul’s agreement…the Soul of the child, specifically.
“You see I have unfortunately had to make the decision (twice) in my life to terminate what I perceived as ‘untimely’ pregnancies.
“I have a lot of guilt around these decisions, not because of any religious reasons, but more because I am not sure what I did was the right decision for my life’s path.
“Also, I often feel sad wondering how those two Souls (or maybe it was the same Soul) feel/felt that I chose to terminate their little lives.
“I fully believe that those Souls made some type of agreement with me, but I’m wondering if you could shed light on what those agreements may have been.
“Did those little Souls know that they would play this role?
“Is it the same Soul trying to come back in?
“Would I be able to find out more about them, and who they might have become had I chosen differently?
“If we come back in similar Soul groups, could this Soul have been one that I also lost in a previous life (I believe I was pregnant when drowned)?
“I realize that these are many questions, not one, but I am grateful for your input.”
You Can Not Stop Life
Reading Beth’s comment and questions to The Council at the beginning of the session, they were quick to comment at the end of her first sentence.
“We really want to laugh here… the word abortion… what does it mean?
“Abort… Stop… Stop life?
“You can not stop life.
“It is all in choosing, and agreements, and experiences.
“And so we just wanted to add that in there.
“Beth did not stop a life… did not cut a life short… everything went as planned.”
As you converse with one another,
remember we are all spirits.
Do you choose words
that are uplifting and loving?
As you do this
there is expansion for all involved,
the speaker and the listener.
This post describes part of a session with The Council inspired by a question from Jose about how the past, present, and future all happen at the same time. Topics addressed include:
- Jose’s question: Why does The Council sometimes refer to ‘past’ lives when they say at other times the past, the present, and the future are all happening at the same time?
- Future lives
- The connection all human beings have to the creative genius of any human being who has ever lived, and your ability to access this creativity.
- The importance of your ability to choose
- The importance of the present moment
This post is third in a series describing a session with The Council on Saturday, March 30, 2013 to answer questions from Jose, Michelle, and D. This post focuses on the first of Jose’s four questions and it’s about guidance from The Council in a recent post and the issue of free will:
“In the case of what was shared in Maria’s Plan for a Spiritual Leap, it appears that the spiritual agreement made prior to the incarnation is more powerful than Maria or her friend’s “godly” power to manifest a new reality of survival and togetherness in this lifetime, as if there is no free will in this incarnation.” —Jose
This post is the second in a series of posts describing a session with The Council on March 30, 2013 to answer questions from Jose, Michelle, and Deborah. Our first post in this series, Every Question is Important, described The Council’s point of view that every question a human being has for spirit is an important question because every human being is part of spirit and every question is worthy of spirit’s attention.
In this current post we describe the portion of the session that focuses on The Council’s answer to this fourth of Jose’s four questions:
“If we come to this incarnation to have fun and ‘remember’ who we really are, why do most people, if not all, fail at this attempt?
“If we are that powerful as spirits, why don’t we leave ourselves iron clad clues of who we are so we can retake our power during this incarnation, instead of being collective sheep following false idols while being subjected to the powerful few?”
We’ve wondered about variations of this question from time to time and it’s easy to imagine others interested in spirituality have had similar questions. The Council’s initial response to Jose’s question was:
“Because it is almost like a scavenger hunt. If you came in knowing everything you wanted to do and who you were, it would be quite boring.
“And so when you jump in, the experiences that you create for yourself are there to remind you who you are [and] to show you [that] you have the power of choice, you have the power of creation, [and] you have the power to bring love into every situation.”
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This is the first of several posts describing a 1-hour session with The Council on Saturday, March 30, 2013 to answer recent questions from Jose, Michelle, and D.
Jose’s Question #4
We began the session with Michelle’s question about whether to move to Barnstaple, Devon or Glastonbury (both in England), and when I (Bob) was about to ask The Council D’s question about what she describes as a broken soul contract, The Council interrupted:
“There is a number 4 that we keep seeing; what is that, Bob?”
(This formatting throughout the post represents The Council’s comments during our session. Text [in brackets] in these quotations has been added to improve readability and clarity when this seems useful.)
I explained that we have four very interesting questions from Jose and that we answered his first 3 questions based on our understanding of The Council’s teachings because they seemed related to guidance we’ve written about in other posts. It was our intention to ask The Council about Jose’s fourth question in this session and when they asked about a number 4, I assumed they were referring to the Jose’s fourth question. I asked if they’d like me to read Jose’s fourth question to them and they said, “Yes.”
Jose’s Question #4: “If we come to this incarnation to have fun and remember who we really are, why do most people, if not all, fail at this attempt?”
Did you know
that you came from
an incredible place of love?
And did you know that
when you leave this physical reality
you will return to this incredible place of love?
It’s wonderful if you do,
but (and here it comes)
do you remember
it was your greatest desire
to bring the love with you
and make life on Earth
an incredible place of love?
Cynthia, Bob, & The Council
Maria explains her best friend is on his deathbed and she’s experiencing a lot of emotional pain about this. She is asking The Council if it is also with her permission that her friend is exiting her life, because she’s having difficulty understanding why she would agree to ‘loose’ him at this time and in this way.
There is Agreement
“No one comes into your life unless you invite them. Their departing your life is something that they plan along with you, so there is agreement for both of you that when it is time, when you feel you have concluded what you needed to do together, one or both [of you] exit [the physical body].
“And so, although you find this very painful, it has been discussed and planned while you were still in the spirit world.”
Many of you wonder:
What does it feel like
when you finally leave your body?
We ask you to close your eyes
and imagine yourself wearing a heavy snow suit.
Pay attention to what this feels like.
Now imagine stepping out of this snow suit,
finding yourself standing in the most beautiful light.
Feel this light all around you.
As you stand in this light
imagine yourself filling up
with the most incredible feelings
of Joy and love.
As you experience this,
from within this light
come many of your loved ones
that have passed before you.
They are here
to welcome you home.
This is what it feels like
to finally leave your body.
This post is inspired by a question from Jan about an important friendship with a former student named Will who became like a son to her when his mother passed away. Jan describes feeling a spiritual connection with Will and believes that as spirits before they were born into this lifetime they planned to be in each other’s human lives.
But as Will developed from a child with autism into a young adult he proceeded to withdraw from friends, family, and finally Jan, to the point where she hasn’t heard from him in over a year and hasn’t seen him in three years. After reading one of our blog posts describing The Council’s advice to a reader experiencing a similar separation from her biological twin brother of 70+ years, Jan asked The Council for their view of her friendship with Will.
Everyone that comes into your life
was invited by you;
from the ones you love,
to the ones you think you hate.
They are all invited by you,
for it is all part of your creation.
No one enters without your permission.
An unlimited supply of love
is being delivered to you
in every moment
of every day.
It is a gift from your higher self
to your physical self.
You only need to relax
and let it in.
You are constantly given the opportunity to expand.
When you extend yourself
to help or comfort another,
It is why you came.
to extend the vibration of love
from spirit to physical.
When someone is in pain
and you can help them find relief,
When someone has tears
And you help them find joy,
When someone is depressed
and you help them find hope,
When someone is lost
and you help them find their way,
It is in extending your hands and hearts
that you grow.
There is no question
that whatever you offer
will always be returned.
Within each person
there is a spirit
that exists in the vibration of love.
This spirit is you.
This post is inspired by several thought-provoking questions from Joe, who has a strained relationship with his two sons during a difficult divorce from their mother. Joe is familiar with The Council’s teaching that we come into this life with the intention of bringing with us the vibration of love, and that we sometimes pre-plan with other souls before we incarnate, to experience challenging human relationships so we can experience finding the love within ourselves that transforms these situations.
With this in mind Joe asks The Council how he can better understand the spiritual aspects of his role and his children’s role in their strained relationship. On Sunday, May 27, 2012 we did a session with The Council to answer Joe’s questions, and their answers are presented in this post. The highlight of this session for us is The Council’s insight that the people in our lives we find most aggravating are often acting in a way we asked them to as a spiritual being before we incarnated into this lifetime—for the purpose of inspiring us to bring more love into our physical reality.
Recorded Audio Content
Recently we invested in recording equipment that allows us to make recordings of our sessions with The Council that have a sound quality we feel comfortable making available in our blog posts. Where you see this image in the post, it’s an audio player that will play a recorded segment of our session. Typically the segment is related to the textual content that follows the player.
The text of the post is an abridged and edited version of our session with The Council. It is meant to provide a good sense of what we consider the most relevant aspects of the session. The recorded content is also abridged, but it’s a somewhat less edited version of the session. The recordings include some session content that’s been edited out of the written post to help it be more easily readable and understandable. It’s our hope that the audio segments help you connect more easily with the feeling of what The Council is talking about.
To play an audio segment, left-click on the triangle on the right side of the audio player. The clip name is displayed in the player and when the recording begins, the time left in the recording is also displayed. To stop the audio player, left-click on the icon that looks like this: . The volume can be adjusted by left-clicking on this icon: ; click on the right side to increase volume and the left side to lower volume.
The complete text of Joe’s comment and questions that inspired this post are not included in the post. You can read them by clicking here. The following audio clip is a recording of Bob reading Joe’s questions to the Council during our session. Copyright ℗ 2014 Bob & Cynthia Dukes
Recently The Council suggested to Cynthia that we write a post to help people who are feeling frustrated in their attempts to use the teachings of the law of attraction and deliberate creation to manifest what they desire in their lives. As two people who have experienced these frustrations, we liked The Council’s idea and during a session on Saturday, May 5, 2012 we asked for their suggestions for this post.
In this section we’ve gathered The Council’s comments from throughout the session that represent for us the essence of their guidance for manifesting what you desire. In the sections that follow, these comments are presented in the context of the entire discussion, to give you a better idea how these ideas developed during the session.
“We see that many [who] are incarnated in your physical world have many questions about manifestation.”
“We see that many are trying to create specific things – whether it is relationships, whether it is material abundance, whether it is health – [and] that there is trouble in creating it.”
“Many do not know what it means when they hear the phrase, ‘line up with what it is you are trying to create.’ And many are out there teaching ‘to match the vibration of what you are trying to create’. Many do not know how to do this because if you’re trying to create something you’ve never had, or never lived, there is a doubt [about] what it would feel like [and] what it would be like to have this thing or situation.
“So how do you create with your thoughts when you do not have the experience of having whatever it is that you are calling forth? And we believe what many are missing… the secret is: you do not have to line up with that particular thought; you do not have to imagine – even though it is wonderful to imagine – what it is that you want, [and] that you already have it.”
“So if you cannot line up with the vibration of what it is that you want because you have no idea what it would look like in your imagination, or what it would feel like, the answer to this – and this is the answer to manifesting – [is] raise your vibration with happy thoughts, that is the answer.
“When you raise your vibration, everything that you have desired – whether you know how to create it or not –will come to you.”
“It is so simple that many will have a hard time believing this, but we can tell you it’s what you might call the shortcut or the easier way to manifesting. It doesn’t have to be so difficult as seeing that you have it, feeling that you have it, [and] what would it be like? Some cannot do this.
“And so just be happy about anything; stay in the feeling of happiness and spirit will bring in everything that it wants.”
(The formatting above throughout this post represents The Council’s comments during our session. Text [in brackets] in these quotations has been added to improve readability and clarity when this seems useful.)
The Rest of the Story
If you agree with The Council that their advice may seem overly simplistic and difficult to believe, I [Bob] had the same feelings during the session (as the following details of our discussion indicate) and for at least the next 10 days. But after listening to the recording of the session every day, meditating on it, and giving The Council’s advice a try, I’m beginning to see evidence there’s something to what they’re saying, and we’re both looking forward to seeing what manifests as we practice reaching for happier thoughts and feelings.
Most of our discussion with The Council during this session is presented in the following sections. Headings have been added to organize the material in logical and manageable blocks of thought.
This post is the second part of our response to two thought-provoking questions on reincarnation and past lives (one from Bari and one from Rachael) and an inspired second question (from Bari), about the impact our thoughts and feelings can have on other people’s experience.
In our most recent post, Reincarnation, Part 1: All Past Lives are Present Lives, we write about The Council’s response to Bari’s question on past life experiences and on the impact they have on our current lifetime. Here’s one of the more interesting things The Council had to say about the subject while answering Bari’s question:
“All of your lives are present lives. They are all going on at the same time. And you may wonder: how is this possible?
–The Council (similarly formatted text below indicates quotations from The Council)
A large portion of the Part 1 post is devoted to additional comments from The Council on this point. The information on reincarnation in Part 1 can also help with understanding the material that follows in this post.
Why Are We Here?
Rachael wants to know why we, as souls, repeatedly return to Earth, and specifically why she is here…again. She wants to know, “What is the purpose of being here?” And she wonders if learning lessons has anything to do with this purpose. The Council began answering Rachel’s questions with the following comments.
For Love and Expansion
“First of all, you would never be here if it was not your choice. So even though perhaps at the present moment you feel you don’t want to be here, we have to really tell you: yes you do. Otherwise this would not be going on. So it was your choice to come here.
We have been asked,
How do you love and forgive
Someone who has passed on,
Who who was a hurtful person,
With whom you experienced
Much pain and suffering?
When they return to spirit
They are not the person you remember.
They are light and love.
And when you can send them love and forgiveness,
You are loving and forgiving yourself as well,
And you both expand.
Forgiveness is part of your divine plan.
It’s not only about forgiving others,
But also forgiving yourself.
All the parts of you
That you don’t like about yourself,
And you try to hide,
Are only the parts of yourself
You have created
So you could learn about forgiveness
And experience self-love.
A Milestone Post
This post is a milestone for us. It’s our first post to include recorded audio content of one of our sessions with The Council, a group of non-physical spirit guides Cynthia is able to communicate with and channel (the process of letting The Council speak using her voice). For our first audio post we picked one of our favorite sessions with The Council, and we decided to include the complete session so you can get a feel for what these sessions are like.
When your spirit leaves this physical plane
And returns home,
You experience total forgiveness.
You forgive anyone
Who you feel hurt you
In any way.
And you forgive yourself
For anyone you feel you hurt.
There is the understanding
That it was all pre-arranged,
And everyone performed their role beautifully.
There is only love here.
When you are searching
For joyous experiences
In your life,
Love, freedom, peace, and joy,
It is already there.
You brought it with you.
When you decide to let go of fear,
Love rushes in to support you.
It is like opening a window
To to let in fresh air.
When you came into this physical reality,
Was to spread love and light
To everyone you meet.
When you are in the vibration of love,
You and Source are one.
Love is your path
Toward awareness of your divinity.
The vibration of love
Is the vibration of spirit.
The vibration of love
Is what created you,
And it is your purpose
To bring this vibration of love
Into your physical reality.
When you feel tension
It’s because you’re not feeling
The love you have for yourself.
Concentrate on your Heart Chakra
Until you notice a feeling of warmth.
Focusing on this feeling
Will increase the warmth,
Ease the tension,
And allow the feeling of love.
When you decide to let go of fear,
Love rushes in.
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