This post is inspired by questions and comments from a reader who identifies herself as D. She says many years ago she fell in love with someone who didn’t love her back and the relationship went from friends, to enemies, to friends, and on and on for years. The Council asks D. how she see’s this happening when she looks back on this, and to focus on the aspect of what was able to bring them back to friendship again.
D. says she felt a strange connection to this man from the first moment she saw him. She’s never been able to let go of that connection and often feels stuck and depressed about it. Recently he married someone else and D. describes feeling more loss and pain. She has moved and stopped talking to him, but the thought of this man is with her no matter where she goes or what she does. She asks why her soul can’t let go and find happiness elsewhere.
The Council says D’s soul is very willing to let go, but her human part holds onto what her future could have been with this man. This leads to feelings of depression and loss because D. feels she’s just this human body rather than a spirit in her body.
The Council explains that truly loving someone is allowing them to be however they want to be, and they ask D. if she can allow this man the happiness he’s found with his wife. And can she now find this same happiness with other people who’ve agreed to come into her life for this purpose.
D. wonders if she and this man have shared past lives together and that’s why she keeps feeling connected to him. The Council says they have shared many lifetimes, but ask D. if she wants to focus on what was, or where she is now, and create her future.
The Council says this man’s role was to teach D. to let go and find love wherever she can. And they ask if she’s ready to let go and find the love she’s looking for within herself. Can she feel the love with every person who comes into her life? As she feels love for herself she will attract love from other people.
D. says she’s always known that love is eternal, and The Council says it’s at these moments that she’s remembering who she truly is as a spiritual being. They say we are all love and we want to bring this feeling into this reality.
D. seems to associate her connection to this man with feeling loss and pain rather than appreciating the time they’ve spent together that’s been good for her. The Council says D. needs to change her thoughts about this man and realize he’s a spirit in a physical body. That is what will give her relief. And then ask herself what else she wanted to experience in this lifetime. And tell herself she’s ready to experience the next part of this journey, to experience love, joy, and happiness. Can she do that?
D. asks why she feels connected to a soul who doesn’t feel connected to her at all and she asks if this connection is one-sided. The Council says the connection isn’t one-sided, it’s just that she chooses to be more aware and learn from this connection.
D. finishes by asking what she can do to stop this feeling of connection and what is the purpose of sharing this lifetime with this man. The Council says there are many purposes and at any moment she and this man were able to choose the path they wish to take.
The Council recommends what she perceives as loss, she now perceive as the love she is that she’s looking for elsewhere. Appreciate the positive aspects of this relationship when she thought it was good. Ask herself what she’s learned that is good from this relationship and how she can move forward by bringing new relationships into her life.
This session appears to have some unusually good advice for D. and the rest of us. Listen to the entire 20-minute session with The Council to get all the detail.
Using audio playlists to publish more frequent posts
It’s been a challenge to publish posts as frequently as we’d like. The process – record a session with The Council to answer a reader’s question, transcribe the recording, study the recording and transcript, and write a post to give you an idea what the session was like and how we’re understanding the material – has been somewhat time consuming.
Now that we’ve figured out how to include in a post an audio playlist of a recorded session (if your browser supports this), we hope to publish more frequent posts that make these session recordings available without the extended written content typical of most earlier posts. As time permits it’s possible we’ll update these posts with additional written content, particularly if reader/listener comments indicate an interest in our thoughts on something in the session.
Ask The Council in-person group sessions
The session this post is devoted to is different than sessions described in earlier posts. It’s a recording of a group session. These are sessions we’ve recently begun doing with small groups of people near our home on Staten Island in New York. These meetings are hosted by someone acquainted with The Council’s teachings and is interested in helping others experience The Council in person.
A typical group session
When several new people attend one of these meetings for the first time, there’s usually some general discussion about The Council and their teachings. Otherwise there’s usually an opportunity for people to comment on material from earlier sessions and on how that material might be influencing their day to day experience. Next is a short guided meditation intended to help people be more receptive to experiencing The Council, followed by the actual session with The Council, and then some post-session discussion of people’s impressions.
During the session The Council typically opens with some discussion of a topic they feel is appropriate for the people attending, and then the session is opened up to questions from participants. For the most part we expect the playlists in these posts will only include the portion of the meeting where The Council is speaking through Cynthia and participants are responding.
This group session
The title of this post refers to the subject The Council began this session with – the idea each person is responsible for what they do in the lifetime they are creating. They emphasize you are not responsible for creating the behavior of other people; you are only responsible for your experience of other people’s behavior. This can be confusing if you’re under the impression there is little or no difference between someone’s behavior and your experience of it. But The Council says there are many ways to experience someone else’s behavior and you have the free will to choose.
At the top of the playlist below (in quotes) is the name of either the first track, the track currently playing, or the most recently played track. Just beneath that is the date and place where the session occurred. Tracks are numbered, have a title indicating a main idea on that track, and the track length in minutes and seconds. The tracks should automatically play one after the other and then begin the first track again.
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Copyright ℗ 2014 Bob & Cynthia Dukes
This post is inspired by several thought-provoking questions from Joe, who has a strained relationship with his two sons during a difficult divorce from their mother. Joe is familiar with The Council’s teaching that we come into this life with the intention of bringing with us the vibration of love, and that we sometimes pre-plan with other souls before we incarnate, to experience challenging human relationships so we can experience finding the love within ourselves that transforms these situations.
With this in mind Joe asks The Council how he can better understand the spiritual aspects of his role and his children’s role in their strained relationship. On Sunday, May 27, 2012 we did a session with The Council to answer Joe’s questions, and their answers are presented in this post. The highlight of this session for us is The Council’s insight that the people in our lives we find most aggravating are often acting in a way we asked them to as a spiritual being before we incarnated into this lifetime—for the purpose of inspiring us to bring more love into our physical reality.
Recorded Audio Content
Recently we invested in recording equipment that allows us to make recordings of our sessions with The Council that have a sound quality we feel comfortable making available in our blog posts. Where you see this image in the post, it’s an audio player that will play a recorded segment of our session. Typically the segment is related to the textual content that follows the player.
The text of the post is an abridged and edited version of our session with The Council. It is meant to provide a good sense of what we consider the most relevant aspects of the session. The recorded content is also abridged, but it’s a somewhat less edited version of the session. The recordings include some session content that’s been edited out of the written post to help it be more easily readable and understandable. It’s our hope that the audio segments help you connect more easily with the feeling of what The Council is talking about.
To play an audio segment, left-click on the triangle on the right side of the audio player. The clip name is displayed in the player and when the recording begins, the time left in the recording is also displayed. To stop the audio player, left-click on the icon that looks like this: . The volume can be adjusted by left-clicking on this icon: ; click on the right side to increase volume and the left side to lower volume.
The complete text of Joe’s comment and questions that inspired this post are not included in the post. You can read them by clicking here. The following audio clip is a recording of Bob reading Joe’s questions to the Council during our session. Copyright ℗ 2014 Bob & Cynthia Dukes
No soul is ever alone.
Your brothers and sisters in the spiritual world are constantly cheering you on.
This post is inspired by a question from Oksana, who observes that in our sessions with The Council there are many references to spirit, but not many references to soul. Oksana asks if The Council can provide information specific to the soul. She’s particularly interested in The Council’s point of view on whether it’s possible to do things that can be detrimental to our soul.
Our Soul is an Aspect or Part of Our Spirit
“The spirit, who we truly are, is the larger part of us. The soul – which some people understand is interchangeable with the word spirit – the soul is the smaller part [of spirit] that chooses to experience this life, and it is what we would consider your personality in each different life. It has the knowledge of what you are looking to experience. And so the soul is part of the spirit and part of the human. Is that understood?”
Before Oksana asked her question, Cynthia and I were among those who thought the words ‘soul’ and ‘spirit’ were more or less interchangeable. Prior to our session on this question, Cynthia was already getting information from The Council on this subject that started us thinking there might be more of a difference than we suspected. Their opening statement above makes it pretty clear they perceive the soul as a distinct aspect of spirit, not the same as spirit, but some of the other things they mentioned weren’t as obvious.
This post is the first part of a response to a comment by Robyn (click to view comment) who asks The Council for support and guidance to:
- Get past feeling it’s not safe to be herself
- Stop believing she will be rejected if she expresses her true feelings
- Start speaking and living her truth
Robyn adds that she:
- Seems to have spent most of her life running away from herself
- Has tried being almost anyone but who she really is
- Has tried to make herself more like people she’s admired
- Never got to know who she genuinely is, and suspects the reason is that she won’t be able to love and accept herself
- Is tired of pretending
Thank you, Robyn, for your comment. If it hasn’t occurred to you already that your questions are evidence you’ve started speaking your truth, you may want to give this some thought.
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