Relationship Advice
This post is inspired by questions from a reader named, Kelly, who’s looking for guidance on how to create a loving, supportive relationship with her current boyfriend, or whether she should let the relationship go. And she asks about her soul agreement with this boyfriend and about any past lives they share.
The Council says if Kelly was in a tortured relationship they would never advise her to stay in it. If this was the case they would advise preparing herself by growing until she was ready to leave. But if there’s the smallest hope this relationship will work, The Council says it’s Kelly’s job to hold onto that hope and not to focus on this relationship’s problems and what’s going wrong. They advise her to do the work to make herself happy and more understanding so she can grow.
The Council advises Kelly to learn from this relationship. And more than anything else they suggest focusing on her happiness, not focusing on her boyfriend changing. Find anything in the relationship she can feel grateful for. As she focuses on the littlest things to be grateful for she’ll begin to see more and more of this happening in the relationship. This isn’t because her boyfriend is changing, but because Kelly is bringing in the vibration of gratitude for what’s in her life.
The Council says if Kelly lets the fact that people around her don’t understand her boyfriend or don’t understand why she’s in this relationship, she’ll have difficulty changing her thoughts about the relationship. These people aren’t living with Kelly and perhaps they don’t see the things she can find to be grateful for.
As Kelly finds love, patience, and happiness in this relationship, that’s how these things begins to grow. Don’t focus on changing her boyfriend and what he must learn or how he has to be. Allow him to be how he is. That’s how Kelly stays in this relationship and gets it to be the way she wants.
The Council says Kelly and her boyfriend have shared other lives together where they’ve played different roles and some were good lifetimes and some weren’t. In their current lifetime Kelly and her boyfriend thought it would be wonderful to come together and have their relationship work out, but The Council doesn’t see this happening yet because Kelly hasn’t created this yet. The Council says Kelly is capable of creating the relationship she desires by focusing on: what she appreciates, her gratitude, her love, and every happy thing that happens. The Council says it’s not necessary to let this relationship go.
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What are Our Lessons in This Lifetime?
This post is inspired by a reader named, Arvinda, who asks about the lessons she and her husband intend to learn in this lifetime.
The Council says we all have the lesson to show love to everyone, including ourselves. Sometimes there’s an idea of what you want to experience in this lifetime, and the rest of the time you’re learning how you create your life with your thoughts and your feelings. What are your thoughts attracting into this life? What experience are you bringing to yourself and how are you handling this?
The Council says your lesson learning in this lifetime is coming from another lifetime where you and your husband met in your early teens and your husband was mute (he couldn’t speak). There were many who were unkind to your husband in this previous lifetime and you tried to help him.
In your current lifetime one of your lessons is communication. You both planned to learn to communicate your feelings honestly with each other and to communicate your thoughts about what you go through daily. You are both here to learn how to listen to each other.
The Council asks if the two of you communicate well with each other? Do you stop to understand when your partner speaks? Do you try to understand the feelings behind the words? The Council says this may seem like something very simple, but they say it’s not simple. It’s a major leap in your soul’s growth when you can communicate and understand.
The Council says you then planned to take this lesson and expand it to listening to your children. Are you there for them? Have you helped them learn to communicate their truth and feelings? Do you show understanding? They say this is a major lesson.
And The Council says you wanted to expand this lesson further. How are you with the rest of your family? your neighbors? with people you work with? Do you listen to them? Do you try to understand what they are saying? Do you show patience and concern with these people? And most of all, do you show love with your words and your actions?
In this lifetime you and your husband wished to open your home to others and have them feel welcome. Do you do that with your family? with your neighbors? It was a great wish to have people come and feel safe.
You say you’ve done much, but haven’t received back what you’ve given out. The Council says when you do for others, you do from your heart, not with the thought of getting something back for what you’ve done. When you feel annoyed, that’s your higher self saying that you’re not going along with what you planned.
The Council says listen to your children and your neighbors and be there for them. Show love and show everyone it’s good to communicate. That’s how we connect in our physical reality.
The Council says it’s particularly important to get your husband to communicate because that’s what he’s carried over from the other lifetime where he wasn’t able to speak. You will coax each other to communicate.
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Grandfather’s Passing
This post in inspired by questions for The Council from a reader named, Sarah, about death and the experience we have during the last days and hours of our lives. Her grandfather, who loved her deeply, is currently passing and she wonders what he’s experiencing while she’s with him in hospice.
The Council says each person has their own experience when it’s their time to pass. Her grandfather was connecting to others in spirit who passed on before him, and as this became clear to him he would come back into this reality. The Council describes it as going back and forth with one foot in each place.
Sarah asks The Council for a better understanding of what her grandfather was experiencing in his last hours, a better understanding of the connection the two of them shared, and what things will be like for him after he passes. The Council says where he is after his passing he only experiences joy and love. The releasing of her grandfather’s body and returning to spirit was a great experience for him.
The Council asks Sarah to review this lifetime with her grandfather. What has she learned from him? The Council believes Sarah and her grandfather have come together after a previous lifetime where there was just the two of them. They were uneducated and living off the land. In his current lifetime it was important for her grandfather to support his family so he didn’t continue the pattern from that past life where there wasn’t enough food and shelter.
The Council says as Sarah gets past the grief of her grandfather’s passing she can look for all the things in his life to be grateful for. They ask Sarah if she can take this perception of gratefulness and love, and give it to the people that are around her in her current lifetime. And can she find things to appreciate in each of these people before they pass on?
Sarah asks if it’s important to be with her grandfather as he passes on. The Council says each person is different. Some have no idea you are sitting by the bed for days because they’re in conversation with the spirit world and they’re resting before leaving the body. Some become conscious again and are very happy to have family present.
Sarah asks if he’s aware of what’s going on when he appears to be unconscious. The Council says most people are aware, even when you think they’re not. They can still hear. Sometimes the spirit is lifting out of the body and they’re able to see who’s in the room even though they appear unconscious.
Sarah asks if her grandfather is experiencing fear. The Council says they don’t see this for him. Some do experience fear until they see the light and the other people who have crossed over before them, and the fear leaves them. As they see spirits and angels and experience all the love that is coming towards them, there isn’t any fear going into the light.
Sarah asks if she’ll experience more of this lifetime with him, but in another form? The Council says to ask her grandfather for signs he’s around, and ask for dreams. Speak with him as if he’s still in his physical body and see what happens. As she tells her grandfather what’s going on in her life, see what happens around her and she’ll experience the connection is still there.
Sarah closes by saying she’d like to understand the end of life process from a spiritual point of view so she’ll be able to navigate it in the future. The Council says anyone who is getting ready to leave this particular lifetime, look for the light, think of people you have loved who have gone on before you, feel the energy of love, and it will carry you right into the spirit world.
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Moving to Cambodia and Leaving a Cat Behind
This post is inspired by questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, Just Me Again. She’s planning a move to Cambodia next year and she has to leave her cat behind. She’s found someone who’s willing to take the cat and she asks if this is the right person. The Council asks her to search her heart to see if she’s comfortable giving her cat to this person and if there’s a loving vibration there.
She asks what she agreed to offer her cat in this lifetime, and The Council says when we come together with the soul of an animal, there’s no agreement or plan what you will do. You come together because you need each other. It’s a coming together to support each other in the feeling of love.
She asks about previous lifetimes with this cat and The Council says they can’t see a previous lifetime.
She asks if the cat understands why she has to leave her behind and if she’s ready to move on. The Council says the animal knows it is loved, but may not understand the reason she’s leaving the cat behind. The cat will know if it’s being left in a good place, and the love it feels for Just Me Again will continue.
She asks if she had a previous lifetime in Cambodia and if it’s the right move and time for her to go. The Council says within a year it will be a good time to move there, but they don’t see an immediate move.
She asks about a Cambodian woman who said Just Me Again was her doctor in a previous lifetime. The Council sees her aiding soldiers in a war in one lifetime. In another, back in Greece she was considered a doctor with very advanced healing abilities that she brought with her from Atlantis, and The Council believes she may have healed the Cambodian woman in this lifetime.
Lastly she asks The Council about a flower essence blend she feels guided to make for tourists in Cambodia. The Council says to meditate on the blends. They feel there will be 5 different ones that she’s already created in her spiritual reality. And they recommend she soften each blend with a bit of Rose.
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Welcome
Bob & Cynthia
Welcome to Ask The Council, a blog where you can ask a group of loving and wise spirit guides a question and get an answer, for free. You can also contact us for a paid private phone session with The Council, and you can read the questions other readers have asked and the answers they’ve received. Other posts contain quotations from The Council that we hope you find inspiring, uplifting, and educational.
Ask The Council a Question
If there’s a question you’ve been thinking about and you’re curious how The Council might answer it, we encourage you to either use the blog’s Comments feature to ask your question, or contact us for a private phone session. You can click here to go to the ‘Let us know what you think about this post, or ask The Council a question’ section of this Welcome post and type your question there or you can type your question in the same section at the bottom of any post that inspires you to ask a question or leave a comment.
Since the blog is currently a project we do in our spare time it can take a while for us to do a session with The Council on a question and then publish a post on the session. Depending on the question and the session it can sometimes take weeks after a question is asked to publish a post with The Council’s answer. Please be patient.
The Council
Cynthia is able to communicate with a group of five non-physical spirit guides in a manner similar to the way Esther Hicks communicates with and speaks for the spirit guides, Abraham, and Jane Roberts communicated and spoke for the spirit guide, Seth. I (Bob) basically interview The Council as they speak through Cynthia during what we refer to as a session. Sessions generally last 5-15 minutes and are usually audio recorded. During the session Cynthia is aware of what The Council is saying and she also receives visual impressions and other types of telepathic communication from them.
The Council’s Basic Guidance
Since we began these sessions with The Council around 2009 they consistently emphasize a few basic ideas that we attempt to summarize here:
1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
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