Ask The Council

Spiritual Guidance for a Difficult Relationship

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Gabriela, who says The Council told her in a post over a year ago that she and lover of hers from a past life named, Lara, agreed to have a friendship in their current lifetime.

Question #1

If that’s true, why does Laura treat me poorly and wants nothing to do with me?

The Council says the greatest power you have in your physical life is choice. Even if Gabriela and Lara made an agreement to come into this life and be friends, the situations they created with each other has put Lara in a position where she feels uncomfortable with this friendship. Even though the two of them had a pre-planned spiritual agreement, Lara still has the choice to follow or not follow that agreement. And The Council adds if Gabriela and Lara don’t heal what they intended in this agreement in their current lifetime, they will choose to heal it in another lifetime.

The Council advises Gabriela to accept everyone the way they are. All signs indicate Lara has no interest in a friendship with Gabriela because Lara doesn’t feel comfortable with this and there’s something missing from this relationship for Lara to take it further. Did Gabriela want a relationship so badly that she pushed for it, and that reminds Lara of how Gabriela mistreated her in the past life they shared?

The best thing Gabriela can do is think loving thoughts for Lara. When you send the vibration of love to anyone, they must change how they feel about you. Even if Gabriela doesn’t have a romantic relationship with Lara, there can be a softening to the point where a friendship is available.

Question #2

Gabriela asks, if souls are so enlightened, why hasn’t Lara’s soul forgiven me for how I treated her in the previous lifetime and given me another chance for a relationship, if Lara’s soul knows I need this relationship in order to move on?

The Council says Gabriela doesn’t understand that her and Lara’s soul have already forgiven each other, but the circumstances Gabriela has created in this lifetime in relationship to Lara doesn’t allow what she wants to accomplish to happen. A soul can give you clues to what you want to create, but your soul can’t change your life for you. On a human level, what Gabriela has continued to create between herself and Lara is causing Lara to be uncomfortable. You can’t blame the soul for what the human chooses. With the soul there’s always love and forgiveness, but the soul cannot step in and change your human choices.

Question #3

Gabriela asks, why does it seem like my guides are punishing me for what I’ve done to Lara in the previous life?

The Council says Gabriela’s guides aren’t punishing her. Both she and Lara have the ability to choose what they wish to create in this lifetime. Gabriela is angry because things aren’t turning out the way she wanted. There will always be love between the two of them in spirit. The more loving thoughts Gabriela can send Lara and wish their life had gone in the direction of their agreed relationship, the more Gabriela will be able to forgive herself and Lara, and the more she’ll be able to create better feeling experiences moving forward.

The way Gabriela is thinking, feeling, and focusing now, she’s bringing herself more depression, more unhappiness, and more undesired experiences. Because she’s in the vibration of anger, disappointment, and blaming, she’ll only attract more of that to herself. When you’re in a lower vibration you can’t bring better experiences, understanding, and love to yourself.

You are the creator of your life, not your guides, but your guides are there to help you. Ask for help from them, but not from a place of blaming. Ask from a place of being lost, depressed, and confused. This is a better place to come from than the place where you think no one is helping you and you blame everyone for not stepping in and changing your path and Lara’s path.

Your feelings are your magnets; what you feel, you’ll bring to you. You’ll draw in what you’re focusing on and what you’re feeling.

Question #4

Gabriela asks, why was my path in this lifetime changed, and why do I feel it was against my wishes?

The Council says Gabriela’s path was never changed against her wishes. The only one who changed her path is herself, by her feelings and your focus.

Gabriela says she feels like she’s a hostage to her spirit guide’s plans.

The Council says her spirit guides know what she wants to create, but they cannot create it for her. She must take responsibility for her life and for her choices. If she can get in the vibration of hope and knowing she’ll have a chance to work out some sort of relationship with Lara. So far, her life is not going in that direction.

Suppose Gabriela frees herself from her anger and the negative thoughts, and she forgives Lara and herself and she wants to have a better life. She doesn’t have to focus in great detail. Only focus on the thought that there’s happiness there for her. If Gabriela can do that, her relationship with Lara can still change. She has to do the inner work to bring in this happiness.

Question #5

Gabriela says she’s been asking every day for her guides to allow her to die. She says even if there’s another lover for her, which she doesn’t believe because no one has ever expressed interest in her.

The Council says Gabriela can’t find someone to express interest in her when she’s in the vibration of leaving this lifetime. Ending this life will only bring another life where she has to return to where she is in her current life, and still learn how to change what she’s experiencing into something she desires more. Dying doesn’t release you from what you want to create. She’ll create it again in another lifetime until she gets to the point where she’s able to free herself from whatever is going on with Lara.

You are the creator. You must learn to take responsibility for what you’re creating. If you don’t like what you’ve created so far, you have the power to change it.

The Council is convinced if Gabriela is able to find the love and happiness within herself and in her mind offer this to Lara, there is the possibility of some sort of relationship developing. Even if this relationship is not a romantic one, there can be a friendship.

Whether or not Gabriela is able to take The Council’s advice, we hope our readers can benefit from The Council’s guidance. The Council says it’s for all of us in our human reality. For those people who are sad, follow this advice. The Council guarantees you will change your life and create what you want.

Listen to the entire 25-minute audio recording of our session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Gabriela and the rest of us. We realize this session is longer than other recent sessions, but there’s important guidance in the recording we haven’t included in the the written post. Let us know how you feel about this session.

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June 13, 2018 - Posted by Cynthia & Bob | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Creation, Death, Feelings, Law of Attraction, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | Acceptance, Agreement, Forgiveness, Happiness, Heal, Inner Work, Spirit Guides