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How to Stop Taking On the Pain of People I See as a Therapist?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Frankie, who says it seems she’s on a shaman’s path. She’s a full-time social worker and therapist who feels like she’s taking on the trauma and pain of the families she works with, and she’s spiritually working through trauma and painful emotions of her own. She feels connected to her spiritual path, but also feels overwhelmed by the pain and trauma of her clients and family.

The Council says it was Frankie’s desire in her current incarnation to deeply feel what her clients, friends, and family go through. When you truly understand, not just by listening but by feeling, you become a great healer that finds the right words because you understand the pain and what these people are going through. Now that you’ve felt what these people are going through it’s not necessary to keep absorbing these people’s pain while you work with them.

Review within yourself all the different feelings that come up and what they’re teaching you. Put out into the universe it’s not necessary to experience this physically any more. But when others come to you and speak of their problems you’ll fully understand because of what you’ve done so far by taking on the physical and emotional feelings of others.

The Council suggests Frankie learn some different physical healing modalities. There’s one called, Reconnection, that would be helpful. Reiki is another good modality to work with. Work with these energies. And when you’re speaking with people you can put this energy around you so you don’t absorb others feelings.

Frankie says she feels anxious and sad sometimes, but she doesn’t always know why. The Council says Frankie chose to experience these feelings to have a greater understanding of them rather than just reading about them in books. By processing her own pain from what she’s personally gone through she’d get a fuller understanding. And with a fuller understanding of herself about what these emotions are like, greater healing energy can come through to work with these other people.

The Council advises Frankie to meditate before you work with others. Ground and put yourself in white light. Ask for help from whatever you believe in, whether it’s angels or guides or God. By doing this you put yourself in a better mindset and then go into this work.

Frankie says she’s had intuitive dreams and insights that have come true. The Council says this will increase because it’s something you’ve done in other lives and bringing this gift into this lifetime will help you expand. Meditation will make you more open to these dreams and intuitions and help you with yourself and others.

Learn different ways to meditate and each one will take you a step further. A group isn’t necessary, but try to make it at the same time each day. Light a candle and make it a ritual so that your body and your spirit knows it’s time to meditate. As you do this every day it will become easier.

Practice Reconnection and Reiki often, even if it’s just on yourself, and you’ll get the feeling of this good energy around you. As you work with other people you won’t pick up so much of what you call “their stuff”. It’s really all of our stuff, but you’re tuning into it now to learn from it.

Frankie asks if she should do a vision quest of some kind. The Council says you can go out into nature and meditate or just look around and that would be the beginning of a vision quest. As you become more able to do this it’s a good idea to ask yourself certain questions and while you sit in nature you’ll begin to receive answers.

The Council says as Frankie becomes more familiar with bringing in good energy she’ll begin to have more clarity. Your Third Eye will open and you’ll see more of what stuff is yours and what isn’t.


Listen to the entire 9-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Frankie and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask your own question.

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February 1, 2020 - Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Feelings, Healing, Meditation, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , ,

4 Comments »

  1. Good advice for us all. 🙏

    Liked by 1 person

    Comment by Pam Lazos | February 3, 2020 | Reply

  2. Dear Bob & Cynthia, thank you for sharing this. I clicked on it the moment I saw it because Frankie is me. I see myself in her story, it resonates.

    Just yesterday, I learnt another method of healing and protecting myself by another practitioner. I must say, what the Council are saying resonate so well. It was the same thing the practitioner said to me yesterday, plus it answers a very important question for me.

    Please, say me a big “Thank You” to Frankie for doing this. It is as if she did it for me. Thank you and thank you for doing what you do.

    Liked by 1 person

    Comment by Gloria Terry | February 1, 2020 | Reply

    • Hi, Gloria. We’re glad you found Frankie’s question and The Council’s response helpful. We learn something from each question we answer.

      Liked by 1 person

      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | February 4, 2020 | Reply


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