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Why Can’t I Find Someone Who Loves Me?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, N, who says she’s  been told by many mediums that her mission concerns education and she just landed a competitive job in higher education. However this job is in a small town and for me, a perpetually single woman, it’s statistically unlikely I’ll meet my ideal partner there.

I’ve been dreaming, envisioning, praying for, and trying to find a partner for the better part of the last decade with no success. Not even a single relationship and this is killing me inside to the point where I don’t care about this education mission anymore. Why was I able to create a job in higher education I didn’t care about, but the thing I want most, which is to find someone who loves, desires, and chooses me fails completely?

The Council says coming into this lifetime what you wanted was a loving relationship with a partner and a family. You put out there that after you found your desired partner you’d then create a career. We see you intended having a fun career that has a lot to do with younger children, not higher education.

It’s wonderful that you prayed for a relationship, but when you saw what you were trying to create wasn’t happening, did you try looking at your life differently? Your job in higher education lowered your vibration because your spirit knew this wasn’t what you wanted to create first. The Council says you wanted to move around a bit, have an adventure, find a partner while you were on this adventure, and then create your lives together.

In your imagination where would you like to visit or live? And when you travel to these places, don’t go out of desperation. Go out of a sense of ease, expectation, and love you’ll find the relationship you’re looking for.

There’s not enough joy in your current job. You can’t find great happiness and fulfillment in a career you feel you don’t want. Your life has stalled and a change must be made. You have to look at your life differently. The vibration you carry around with you affects your relationship, your career, your health, and family. Your #1 focus needs to be finding a relationship

With years of praying, imagining, and hoping for a relationship and nothing happens, your vibration becomes dense and the feeling of great joy and interest in other subjects can’t come through. Continue to look for the relationship you want, try to enjoy the job you’ve found, and think about doing this job until you find where you want to live. Think about traveling and finding your partner on your travels. When you think about your life this way your vibration begins to rise and you become more of a magnet to new ideas and have the courage to go on this journey.

Begin to look around at other places you’d consider visiting or would like to live and go there. You need to get out of where you are. You don’t think you’ll find a relationship in the small town where you live because you know somewhere in your subconscious you set up this life in spirit to find a partner on a journey and there would be lots of happiness and fun traveling and learning together.

You can stay in your current job for now. There’s no rush to move. Don’t be so frustrated thinking this isn’t what you wanted because this changes your vibration and makes it difficult to create what you want. Enjoy your work and be grateful for it any way you can. Think of it as where you are right now and try to enjoy it knowing you won’t be stuck there, research where you’d like to visit, and then begin to travel.

The most important thing is for you to change the way you feel, which is stuck someplace that’s a punishment in a career you don’t like. All of this is in the way of creating the relationship you desire.


Listen to the entire 11-minute audio recording of our session with The Council to hear all their guidance for N and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask your own question.

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March 14, 2020 - Posted by | Audio Content, Career, Channeling, Marriage, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, Vibration | , ,

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  1. I love this!

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    Comment by Anonymous | March 14, 2020 | Reply


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