What Past Lives Have I Shared with My Abusive Brother?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Susan, who says I’m always fascinated to learn when something going on in a person’s life is impacted by a past life. I’ve been told I have a past life relationship with my older brother who bullied and abused me growing up. Can The Council tell me about this past life relationship and what led to this abuse?
Susan adds that she recently experienced a healing shift that felt like my brother’s and my relationship is complete – like I reached a goal my soul set up for me. Unfortunately letting my brother go was more difficult than I expected and in the process my sister-in-law showed her true colors and I let her go also.
The Council sees several lifetimes ago you were together as brother and sister and you had a wonderful loving relationship. When that life ended for both of you and you crossed over into spirit, you decided to plan at least two more lives together where you thought it would be fun to be rival siblings, because in the spirit world nothing is too hard for you to do and nothing is serious.
You agreed to have lives where one time you would abuse your brother so your brother would have the opportunity to forgive you. Then you’d create another lifetime where you switch roles and your brother would be the abuser and you would try to learn forgiveness. After you both experienced this abuse, could you have closure on this lesson? In your current life can you forgive your brother for how he treated you? This was a spiritual contract and your brother fulfilled his end of the agreement by being abusive to you.
Have you learned how to forgive? In forgiving you have the choice of letting your brother go peacefully, or somehow building the relationship again. How will you choose to have closure in your current life so you don’t have to create another abusive life?
You say your sister-in-law has stepped in. When there are family arguments the wife sides with her husband or steps in to give her opinion, which can upset the situation further. Don’t let what your sister-in-law says or does interfere with the lesson you’ve learned and the forgiveness you and your brother have both worked for in these lifetimes.
Intuitively you know this abusive cycle is complete. This is your third lifetime together to learn this lesson of abuse – a wonderful life, one where he’s the abuser, and one where you were the abuser. What have you learned? Can you have closure with this abuse by forgiving your brother without him having to change and becoming a better person? Can you forgive him for his abuse, send him love, and let go of the trauma, if that’s what you want? Your brother finished a lifetime learning to forgive you. Can you end your current life where it was your hope to be able to forgive your brother?
It’s your turn to learn to forgive your brother and rebuild that relationship if that’s what you want. If you try to rebuild this relationship now it will be different if you close it with forgiveness and understanding.
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Thanks for your feedback, Susan. Best of luck moving forward.
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Thanks so much for this information. I hadn’t heard about our having lifetimes as siblings when we got along and when I was the bully. I know that we create agreements at a soul level to experience different things, so what you’ve brought forth makes sense.
As for forgiving my brother, I don’t really use the word forgive because people often mistake it for meaning that everything my brother did to me in the past is now suddenly ok, and it isn’t. Yet, I’ve healed from the anger and other hurt feelings I carried for decades. I also healed the shame and blaming myself for what happened between us. I can think about our childhoods together without the feelings I used to always feel. Once all attachment to my brother was gone, I really felt the need to be free of him – which I’ve spent the last year working on and recently achieved. Going through a very intense ascension process over the past few years has changed me so much that I’m moving on from him. And in time I may even be able to remember him with love in my heart – it’s a process. For now, being free from pain (pain of the past and pain from having to continually deal with him) is where I’m at. Thanks again for what the Council brought through. I appreciate their wisdom.
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