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Are Some Events Pre-Planned In Spirit More Likely To Happen Than Others?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Mari.

Mari: I’ve read in some books on the afterlife and reincarnation that certain important events in life are pre-planned, with a high probability of happening. For example, marrying a particular person, going to a particular school, having a child, or having certain disabilities. And no matter which way you go, that event will most likely occur. Other events are supposedly pre-planned only as possibilities.

Council: Your higher self always knows what you pre-plan and what you want to experience. There are many times when you’re setting up a new life that you pick souls you worked with and learned with before. You’d choose one as a husband, a wife, a brother, or a mother. There are times you want them in your life for a while, and you’ll set that up, learn what’s needed, and then move on.

There are times when you may make an agreement with a soul where you say, Let’s see how our life goes. Let’s see what I create and what you create, and is it a meeting where we’ll become friends and experience more, or is it just a quick meeting and you move on? By doing it this way you don’t know what you’re going to create, and so you have the ability to go into this relationship with this spirit, or turn and go on another path. There are some relationships where it’s very positive, we know each other before, and let’s do it again. What is it that you want to learn? What is it that I want to learn? We’ll support each other in this. And there are other relationships where you just see how it goes.

The freedom is always yours. Even if you decide to recreate something you set up, your higher self knows if you’re learning what you want to learn, if you’re having a good time, and if you’re achieving what you wanted to achieve. You’ll always be able to pick the direction you go in, even if you don’t consciously know that the choice was yours to do this or to do that and to have this experience.

Bob: So it sounds like you’re agreeing with Mari when she says you can pre-plan an event that has a high probability of happening.

Council: Yes

Bob: And you’re saying even though it does have a high probability of happening, you have the free will to change that.

Council: You always have free will. Every day of your life you can connect with the other spirit, with their higher self and your higher self, and you’ll know this is the way we want it to go. Or let’s not go this way. Let’s change this and change that. You’re always in connection with these other spirits.

Bob: And it sounds like you’re also saying that you can pre-plan possibilities that aren’t necessarily likely or unlikely to happen, and you determine at the time you’re living what you pre-planned in that life whether you want to follow that path or not.

Council: Exactly. The choice is always yours.

Mari: You’ve indicated in many places that you have to believe in something for it to occur.

Bob: Can you comment on that?

Council: You can’t believe in something you don’t remember that you’re creating in spirit. You don’t have to believe it because your higher self and the other person’s higher self will work to make this happen. But if it’s something you want in your life, like a  new job or a new partner, it always helps to believe you want it and it’s coming to you. There are many things you won’t remember that you have planned, but your higher self will take you there. When it’s something you consciously want, it always works much better if you believe you can have it.

Bob: You’re also saying that even if you don’t consciously believe in something, it can still occur.

Council: Yes, it can. Believe in the power of your higher self because it’s you. You’re the only one who’s creating in your reality.


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April 29, 2022 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Beliefs, Channeling, Choice, Creation, Free Will, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Soul, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , | Leave a comment

What’s The Purpose Of These Latent Childhood Talents I’m Experiencing?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Heather.

Heather: I’ve been recently having a revival of some latent abilities that I used to have as a child. I’m confused what the purpose or reason is for this and what I’m supposed to be doing with these talents and energy.

Council: When you find yourself having this revival, how does it make you feel? One of the ways to know if it’s something you should pursue is how it makes you feel. If it’s confusing, if it’s something you don’t want, then  you can always let that go. But if you’re interested in this and wondering how this can take you forward in this lifetime, then we’d suggest that you pursue these abilities. When you make decisions, how does the decision make you feel? Is this interesting?

You are what we call one of the Crystal Children. You came into this reality wanting to bring in healing energy and psychic energy. You wanted to bring understanding and the ability to hear people and help them when they have concerns. You wanted to listen and learn from each person and tell a story from your life – something that corresponds with what a person is telling you so that they know you understand. That’s what you wanted to go for in this lifetime.

If you want to know about energy, that’s wonderful. If you want to learn about healing, that’s wonderful. If you want to learn about your psychic ability and what a person is about without them telling you so you can dive in and help them in a conversation, that’s all possible. You also have writing abilities. If that doesn’t agree with where you want to go, then we’d advise you to use your listening skills. Come from your heart. Develop your heart chakra and just be there for people. Show them you have an ear to talk about the simplest things or more troubling things. You have the ability to take these skills wherever you want to go.

Heather: Am I suppose to work on developing these latent abilities further, or is this not my path or purpose?

Council: There’s nothing you’re supposed to do. If this is something you’re interested in, then we advise you to develop it. Go with it. Try it for a while. There’s nothing that you have to do. There are ideas you had when you were in spirit that you wanted to play with when you’re here. It’s all up to you.

Believe in the power of your higher self because it’s you. And you’re the only one that’s creating in your reality.


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April 26, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Feelings, Helping Others, Life Purpose, Psychic Ability, Questions & Answers, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

What Can You Tell Me About The Job I Just Quit And Future Job Prospects?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Vibrationally Aware, who’s looking for insight about a job she just quit and her future prospects.

Vibrationally Aware (VA): I was offered a job in 2021 by a friend and client. I worked there for over a year and the owner was exceptionally abusive. I finally couldn’t take it anymore and quit yesterday.

Council: And so we ask you to think back. If this job was as abusive as you say, why did it take you a year to quit? Your situation goes along with what you wanted to experience in your current lifetime. You wanted to experience limitations to what you thought your life would be like. And upon recognizing these limitations you’d immediately change them by changing your attitude towards them, by deciding what you’re doing isn’t for you, this isn’t something you’ll settle for or accept, and you’ll move forward.

Look back in your life. How many things did you settle for? How many things did you stay with that weren’t satisfying, were abusive, or hurtful? All you wanted to do was to meet challenges in this lifetime, recognize them, and move on quickly. This is how you wanted to grow. You wanted to move on quickly, no matter how many different places or areas of your life where you found yourself in this situation. You wanted to be aware that moving on would make you feel intelligent, would make you feel that you had clarity in what you were seeing, and that you had the power to change your life. That’s the lesson you wished to experience in your current reality.

VA: I can’t understand why this owner was so abusive to me and why I’d attract this sort of behavior.

Council: You wanted all of this to happen. It’s wonderful you experienced this and now you find yourself with the ability to get yourself out of this difficulty and move forward. That’s what you wanted. With all these challenges – and some will be very little – you just want the clarity and the knowledge of what’s going on, and just move on.

VA: Do I have a past life connection to the two women I worked for?

Council: You knew both of these women in several past lives, and they were good lifetimes there. But they’ve come along to help you in your current reality by playing a role to help you go through this challenge, and help you do what you wanted to achieve in your current lifetime, and that’s just to move on.

VA: I don’t have another job lined up. I’m visualizing what I want, but I’m concerned that I may be dragging some unfinished energy with me.

Council: Now you know that all you wish to do in your current lifetime is to be satisfied, to be happy in what you do and what you create, and to move on. You aren’t dragging any unfinished energy with you. The knowledge we’ve given you here will make you aware more quickly when you find yourself in situations you don’t like. The quicker you can identify these situations, the quicker you can change them. When this goes on you’ll have experienced what you’ve wanted to experience and won’t need to experience it any longer. 

VA: I don’t want to repeat the same scenario in a new job opportunity.

Council: That’s entirely up to you and depends on the choices you make.

VA: Is there an industry I should pursue?

Council: One of the things you wanted to do in this lifetime was to move around a lot. Any sort of job where you can travel is good. Whether it would be in sales, on a cruise ship, taking people on tours, or just going to different countries and learning about the people, taking minor jobs in each place, and moving on. That’s what you wanted. You didn’t want to be stuck in an office. You wanted the movement. You wanted to meet and know many people.

VA: Any insight would be much appreciated.

Council: Believe in the power of your higher self because it is you. You’re the only one that’s creating in your reality.


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April 25, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Career, Challenges, Channeling, Life Purpose, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , , | 4 Comments

What Can You Tell Me About The Tension In My Husband’s And Son’s Relationship?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Kristi, after she read our post, Why Don’t I Have A Good Relationship With My Mother?

Kristi: Great post on family dynamics. This raises a couple questions of my own that I’d like to ask The Council.

My husband and I have a great relationship and we’ve been married 20 years this November. My husband treats me like any woman would ever want to be treated, and I have almost no complaints in this department. I’m so very thankful for him.

We have one child together, a son who’s 18 years old. My husband’s and my son’s relationship is a strained one, unfortunately. My husband sets extremely high standards for our son, which are often unattainable. And even if they were attainable, my husband wouldn’t be happy then either. I feel like my son could wrangle the moon and my husband wouldn’t care.

When standards aren’t met, a child often feels like they’re not good enough and I see this playing out before me. My son is a sweet guy, very smart, and stays out of trouble, but he has low self-esteem.

My husband makes no attempt to foster a close relationship with our son. We all live together in the same house, but my husband and son can go without talking to each other for weeks at a time. And when they do talk to each other, it’s usually my husband telling my son what he hasn’t done properly.

Council: This is so wonderful. We have such advice for you. We see it so clearly.

Your husband and son were husband and son in a previous lifetime. In that lifetime they were wonderful together. Whatever your son did, your husband praised him. Everything was okay and everything went along beautifully.

At the end of that life, your son said to his dying father, “I wish I could have done more. I wish you would have pushed me more so that I could have given you more, and so that I could have become more in this lifetime.”

And so, in the wonderful past life they experienced together, both wished they had done more. Your son wished he’d become more. Your husband wished he didn’t settle for what your son was in that past life, and he wished he did push your son more.

So going back into spirit they asked each other if they wanted to try this again, but this time the son wanted the father to push him. The son wanted to become so much more in the new life they create. Whatever way the father can find to push the son, to get him to do more, to not settle, the son wants the father to do that with him.

That will be our lesson, to become more as a father and be even more proud of his son than he was. And the son wants to be important. He wants to feel that. He doesn’t want to feel there’s so much more he could have done. He wants to know there’s a strong father behind him that won’t let him settle.

And so your husband creates a family where there weren’t good role models for him to follow. He becomes a stern father who, out of love, whether he can admit that or not, isn’t going to settle for what your son does, no matter how good it is. He’ll ignore your son and not give him any confidence or any hurrahs for what he does. And this is your husband’s way of pushing your son to want his father’s attention,  and to want more, and more, and more.

The most wonderful little book for you to read is, The Littlest Soul and the Sun, by Neale Donald Walsch, about two angels. One angel asks the other angel to come back into a new life, and if the first angel does something mean to the second angel, can the second angel still remember the first angel is a soul and forgive him. We suggest you read that book. That’s exactly what’s going on with your husband and your son.

They’re being tough with each other, but underneath they want so much more for each other. Your husband wants to leave this life thinking he was a wonderful father, and he pushed his son so much that, look what his son accomplished. And your son wants to think at the end of this life, my father never complimented me enough, he pushed me and pushed me, but I see it now, it was out of love because look at what I’ve become.

Bob: Is it a good idea for the son or the father to read, The Littlest Soul and the Sun, as well?

Council: They may not be open to it, but I’d leave the book around and see who gets drawn to it first and who reads it. It’s perfect for what’s going on, and it’s the wife’s job not to judge or step in because she can’t fix this. This is between your husband and your son. They’ll find a way. Their lessons and challenges in this reality is to find a way to come back to love. That’s the reason we’re all here, to come back to the state of love.

Bob: Was the father in this life the father in the past life, and the son in this life the son in the past life?

Council: Yes. And so they brought that role into their current life to work it through.

Kristi: I try to step in and talk to my husband about how difficult he’s being, but he doesn’t seem to understand where I’m coming from.

Council: Yes, he doesn’t understand, not at this time.

Kristi: He’s not abusive at all, but he doesn’t offer the love and acceptance a parent should provide.

Council: You provide love and acceptance to your husband and your son for the way they are. Always send them light so they can find a way to work out this challenge they wanted to go through in this lifetime, and they’ll find the path that will bring them to the state of love.

Kristi: My husband’s father was absent most of my husband’s life, so my husband didn’t have the best role model for parenting. Whereas I had the best father in the world and I only want the same thing for my son. I’d love for them to have a better relationship, but I understand this isn’t my battle. I’d love more insight into their dynamic, whether or not this was planned in spirit before coming to this Earthly plane, and why?

Council: It was definitely planned. And their higher selves know why they created this situation, what they’re trying to do, and will take them along their path until they understand and find a way to bring more love into their lives.

Kristi: Do you see my husband’s and son’s relationship getting better with time?

Council: It can always get better, but they are the creators. The best thing you can do is to accept what they create. They can create a change in a year if they want, or it could take 20 years. You must let them go through whatever it is they need to see, understand, and feel, and they’ll find a way.

Kristi: What can I do to help this situation?

Council: Send love, and have fun watching your husband’s and your son’s journey.


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April 19, 2022 Posted by | Acceptance, Agreement, Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Forgiveness, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Do My Partner and I Share Any Past Lives Together?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Newlove, who says: I currently find myself in a relationship that happened a bit unexpectedly, but it is very welcome. My partner feels we may have shared past lives together and we’re merely continuing a previous life because we came together so easily. Have we had past lives together and can you tell me more about them?

Council: We see a past life in Athens, Greece where you were both born into slavery, you were cousins, and you were both household servants together who had a wonderful life. The family you were in service to treated both of you very well. You could work in the home, but you had time to go out on your own in the villages. Everything you did, you did with your cousin.

As cousins you worked in the home together, you went out and explored the towns together, and everything was so easy and so loving for both of you. You used to say to each other that all you need was to get married, but you couldn’t because you were cousins and you were both males.

You were so happy in that life that you wanted to come together again and have the joy you had before, with a little bit more independence, but to continue the happiness that you experienced in your past life. So the feeling of knowing each other and wanting to be together is coming from this lifetime in Athens.

Bob: Any other lifetimes that have a bearing on their current life?

Council: This Athens lifetime is the one that’s affecting their current life. So we ask Newlove, what do you want to do with this information? Are you comfortable with this? Do you feel there’s more that you want in your current relationship? When you think about it, does it make you feel good? Or is this something you maybe don’t wish to go into in your current life?

Look at where you are, what you’ve come through in your current life, and what you’ve learned from your past relationships. Does this person have the characteristics you want? You can’t base what you’re creating now on what you created in your lifetime in Athens. It’s different. You’re different people. There are different lessons you want to learn.

Look at this relationship as something brand new. And look at how this person is in this relationship. If it’s going too fast, you have the power to slow the relationship down.

Don’t go into this relationship thinking: this is wonderful, we had a wonderful life together, this is going to be great, and this is going to be easy. There are new lessons you want to learn in your current life, and you’ll know by watching your partner if he’ll be able to go along with what you want. And can you support what your partner wants in your current life, not in the past life?

You’ve come here to have fun, to find each other, to have a good relationship, but then to look around and ask yourself if this relationship meets your needs, and go in that direction.

Remember you are the creator. If you want a lasting relationship, of course you begin with visualizing how you want the relationship to be.

If there’s something you’re worried about that’s holding you back, it would be your higher self knowing what else you want to create in this lifetime, and you will create it. What you see in this other person, is that going to be good? There’s no reason to rush. You’ll get exactly where you’re supposed to be.

Newlove: He’s all in the relationship, but I may be a bit hesitant to go all in.

Council: So we ask you to ask yourself why you’re hesitant? What do you see in the relationship that’s going on? Why do you have that feeling? Search these thoughts and meditate on them. Remember your past life was a beautiful one, and somewhere in your subconscious you both know that, but what’s going on now? Your current life is a whole new life.

Newlove: Do I have cause to be hesitant and worried?

Council: This is what you need to figure out. And you’ll learn if you have cause to worry by watching the relationship, and just living your life day to day and seeing where it goes. It’s a learning process. There’s a lesson in this. Most important is to follow your feelings. If there’s a bit of hesitancy, follow that feeling. Keep your eyes open and just watch. There’s no rush. You are the creator.

Newlove: Or is this the relationship that will last and bring us the most happiness for the rest of this life together?

Council: It did this in your past life. Will your relationship bring you lasting happiness in your current life? If that’s what you want and you do the work to create it. If you can visualize it, and see it, and feel good about it, then you can create it. It’s all up to you.


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April 18, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Feelings, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

How Will My Marriage To My Husband End?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Starfish, about her marriage.

Starfish: I have a question about how my marriage to my husband might end. In a previous post The Council informed me (writing under the name, Starseed_Lightworker rather than Starfish) that after I’ve moved to the new state where my new job has led me, I’ll meet another person who’ll be perfect for me and my son.

Council: We see this, but what you think and what you’re going through has changed from when you asked your question before compared to where you are now. You create on a minute-to-minute basis. The direction the relationship is going now is for it to end. It will end the way you and your husband decide it will end, but with the thinking, feeling, and experiences we see, it’s going in the direction of ending.

Starfish: My husband recently moved with me and my son to our new state in the hope we can stay together, but we’re going through the exact same drama we’ve been living for the last ten years.

Council: It’s wonderful you see this.

Starfish: We’re just not perfect for each other. I’ve also been told I’ll stay friends with my husband, which I prefer considering the co-parenting I’d like to do for my son.

Council: This would be a wonderful thing if that’s the direction you wish to go in. See this, focus on it, and on being friends, and being able to co-parent.

Starfish: I’ve been told my husband will live far from my son and me, and he’ll teach me lessons about independence.

Council: Are you learning independence already? We see it’s there in front of you – the moving away, raising your son by yourself, being able to make good decisions out of a desire to move forward rather than out of fear, and not being so tied into what your husband wants or how he wants it. It’s all about what you want, and how you feel independent in what you’re doing now.

Starfish: I’d like to ask if my husband is planning on moving to India when the marriage is over, or will he stay in the USA.

Council: The direction he’s going in right now is to stay in the USA, but how the relationship is handled and how you treat each other has the ability to change this. We ask you to remember what you think and what you do changes all the time. You can have things work out and have your husband stay in the USA, or you can have him move to India and have things work out, or you can have your husband move to India and have things not work out.

The way you create your life all comes from you., and we stress that you are the creator of your life. Look at this. What do you want? How do you want your life to be? Focus on this and meditate on it. Feel things working out the way you want. At this time it’s very important you do this work. It’s critical right now to take what you want and work with it every single day.

See how it is. Do you wish him to stay in the USA and for you to move on, meet someone else, and have a different life? Do you want your husband to stay in the USA, and still be friends, and co-parent? Do you want him to move to India and still co-parent? What do you want? You are the creator.

Starfish: Can The Council please guide me if the end of my marriage will be an extramarital affair from either side?

Council: We don’t see that. That can be created, but we don’t see that now.

Starfish: My husband threatens that he’ll take his life and my life if I end our marriage. I’d like to know if he can do this for real, or is he just using this threat as blackmail.

Council: He’s using this threat because he is in fear because he doesn’t think he can actually do this. Don’t feed this thought. Don’t walk around thinking all the time that he’ll kill himself, he’ll kill me, and he’ll kill my son. That kind of thinking only focuses more attention on the fear and brings what you don’t want to you. Think about this as a thought your husband had that isn’t working and that you won’t allow in your reality. Focus on the way you see this. It’s very important to let go of fear tactics, to stay in the light, and to think positive thoughts.

Starfish: I feel so alone and I’m trying to find strength and happiness in this situation.

Council: You’re never alone. There are guides, there are angels, and there are masters around you to help you. When you stay in the vibration of fear, you can’t receive the higher vibration information about how to move on in your life. That’s why we say not to focus on the fear tactics. Hear what you’re afraid of, let it go, and move on to the way you want it to be. You’ll lose the feeling of being alone, you’ll feel better about yourself, you’ll feel more in charge, and you’ll feel very happy.


Listen to the entire 7-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Starfish and the rest of us. We apologize for the quality of this recording. You can ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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April 10, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Creation, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , | 3 Comments

Should I Continue My Relationship With My Current Partner?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lee, who has a follow up question on our post, Why Do I Feel So Drawn To This Man? that we published last month in response to Lee’s earlier questions.

Lee: I feel drawn to a man I recently started dating. The relationship is moving very fast and we’re even talking about marriage.

Council: Is this what you want? It’s all up to you. You can take the relationship and have it move slowly or quickly, but you have to decide if you’re comfortable with it moving quickly.

Lee: I feel very connected and comfortable with this man. It’s as if I’ve known him forever.

Council: How wonderful. You recognize the spirit within this person that you’ve known in other lifetimes. You both agreed in spirit that this person would come into your life. What is it that you want? Where do you see this relationship going?

Lee: I feel very connected to him spiritually, physically, and emotionally, but he comes with a lot of failed relationships and baggage. I’m afraid I may be ignoring red flags and making a mistake.

Council: It’s good to recognize there are red flags. There’s always a problem when you’re getting signs, but you ignore them. By taking your time with this relationship you can see more and more what this person is truly like. There’s no reason to rush. If this relationship is something you both want, you’ll both feel the trust and the love in it to make the relationship happen.

Lee: I’m a recent widow and I feel guilty. I wonder if I’m just vulnerable and lonely, and the relationship isn’t real.

Council: Of course you’re vulnerable and lonely. That’s part of the human condition when we love someone and lose them. There’s no reason to feel guilty. It’s perfectly fine to move on and have another relationship if that’s what you want. But again we tell you, it would be wise to slow this relationship down. If it’s real and something you both want, time won’t change it. You can work towards it.

Lee: I’m also worried about my son’s reaction to the relationship.

Council: This is another reason to take your time. Because this relationship is new, it’s up to you to take a good look at it, see how you feel, check out the red flags, and take time to see what this person is really like before you involve your son. We feel you know that rushing into this relationship isn’t wise. If you do rush into it, you’ll be faced with challenges more quickly than if you take your time.

You might not know the direction to go if you rush. You’ll get exactly where you need to be. Be in the relationship. Experience the good and the bad, and see what it is that you want.

Lee: Should I continue with this relationship or is it infatuation?

Council: Of course it’s infatuation. Should you continue with this relationship? It’s totally up to you. And that’s why we say: Be in it. See what this relationship is. Don’t rush it. Experience this person and see what baggage he has. Why were there failed relationships? All of this will give you clues about what you want to do.

Bob: You say that it’s infatuation, but it sounds like you may not be ascribing a negative connotation to the word.

Council: In infatutuation, people are taken with someone else. They feel so in love and so happy, and that could be the feeling now. But in time you’ll learn about this other person. You’ll learn about yourself and how you handle another person if you see a lot of characteristics you don’t like. It’s good to give the relationship time. It’s something you want to learn from, and that’s why the relationship was created the way it was.

Bob: Earlier in the session you said Lee and her partner have relationships from past lives.

Council: Yes, there were a few connections. We see the coming together now is something they planned in spirit because they worked together in other lifetimes. But there’s no particular lifetime that’s tied into their current life where they need to learn something, complete something, or heal something. It’s just two spirits that like working together.


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April 9, 2022 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Why Don’t I Have A Good Relationship With My Mother?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Ilona, who asks about her relationship with her mother.

Ilona: I experienced difficulties that were a great challenge for me from the time I was young. My mother always perceived me negatively and didn’t show me as much love as my two sisters.

Council: You set this experience up yourself in spirit. From the very beginning you wanted to learn the lesson of independence, the lesson of accepting others for who they are, you wanted to learn about boundaries, and you wanted to learn how to let go of things and move your life in the direction you wanted. As a young child you began to have feelings that perhaps you weren’t good enough, feeling you weren’t accepted, and so your path began.

Ilona: I’d like to know why my mother doesn’t need me in her life? Why is she pushing me away? Did I hurt her in any way?

Council: There’s nothing you’ve done to hurt your mother, but in spirit, before you came into this reality, you and your mother set up the kind of relationship you’re having. What feels to you like your mother is pushing you away was an agreement you made with her so that your life would be difficult and you’d have to be stronger. And in finding your strength you’d feel very proud of yourself.

In 2020 my mother had a stroke, and in the first few months I felt like our relationship was getting better. That was until my youngest sister moved in with her. Since then my relationship with my mother has been tested again.

Council: Go back to this time when your mother had her stroke and you thought your relationship was improving. How did you feel about this? How do you remember this time? This is the feeling you’re looking for again, but you set it up so you’d feel this way whether you had your mother’s approval or not. This was a taste to remind you of what you were looking for, and then it was taken away. This was all your choice on a spiritual level.

Ilona: After my youngest sister moved in, my mother doesn’t respond to my messages, and doesn’t want to talk to me when my sister isn’t there. I suspect my sister doesn’t want me to have a nice relationship with my mother and only wants to keep my mother to herself.

Council: Whether this is what your sister wants or not, how do you feel about your relationship with your mother? It’s up to you to make up your mind and go in the direction of what you want to happen. It’s a lot of work to look at this relationship and decide if this is what you want. Is it too difficult? Or can you look at it and learn your lesson and feel good about yourself, whether you have your mother’s or your sister’s approval or closeness with them.

What can you find about yourself that makes you feel good? Is it somewhere else in a different relationship? Can you accept what your mother and sister do,  send them love, and let go? If you can’t send love, can you just let go? Because what you’re looking for isn’t to be found in this relationship. This relationship is to get you to look more at yourself, to find out about yourself and the kind of person you are, what you’ll allow, and what you won’t allow. It’s about boundaries. The bottom line is you’re supposed to learn about yourself, love yourself, and feel good about what you accept, and what you don’t accept.

We’re not sent to Earth to suffer and feel horrible. We’re sent here to look at these lessons and to find a way of dealing with them, whether letting it go to make you feel good, or whether it’s pushing forward to see what you can do. When you realize you can’t change another person, can you accept them for who they are? See them and speak to them when you feel like it, or completely walk away. These are all decisions you wish to make. You wish to take your life in the direction you find more comfortable and more loving for yourself.

Ilona: Why is my youngest sister so manipulative?

Council: It’s the part she chose to play and that you both set up and agreed to in spirit. So if she’s manipulative, do you want this in your life? Do you wish to fight against this? Or can you accept your sister for who she is and know that she has her own lessons to learn from this kind of behavior? And then not focus on how manipulative she is, but how – now that you see it – that’s something you don’t want around you, and move forward appropriately.

Ilona: What can I do to improve my relationship with my mother?

Council: Always send your mother and your sister the energy of love, whether you understand them or not. And decide to be there for them when they want you to be there, or completely let go. You must make the decision. Remember you can’t change another person. You can accept them for what they’re doing because you don’t know what they’re trying to learn in their reality. Focus on yourself and what you want, and move in that direction.

Ilona: Is there any hope for me?

Council: There’s always hope. On an energetic level you can picture them changing. Picture them calling you. Picture them asking you to meet with them. You must do the work on an energetic level first. You can do this if it’s what you want, but you first have to decide what you want. Work energetically with them and you’ll see the change begin to happen. There’s nothing you can do physically in your reality to get them to change. You can see the change happen when you constantly focus on how you want your life to be.

Ilona: Is there anything I should know right now?

Council: The most important thing is to concentrate on yourself. See how your relationship with your mother and sister is going. Decide what you want. Do you want a relationship? Do you not want it? Then work energetically. Even if you decide it’s not what you want, picture your relationship going in different ways, but happily. Imagine they’re happy without you in their lives and you’re happy without them in your life. Always come from a place of love, letting go, and everyone feeling the happiness and joy that’s intended when you learn lessons.


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April 7, 2022 Posted by | Acceptance, Agreement, Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Decision Making, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

   

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