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How Can I Deal With My Secret Relationship And My Strict Mother?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Starfish.

Starfish: Hi. I want to ask about my relationship. I’m currently dating someone, but I have to keep this a secret from my family. This is because my mom is very strict and I don’t want to deal with the pressure and stress she’ll put on me if she knows.

Council: We’ll say right here that the condition where you have to keep things secret is not the kind of vibration that will bring you forward into the kind of life that you want.

And so we’d always say to speak your truth, whether it’s understood or not. For your growth it’s better for you to speak about this and let your mother and your family know what’s going on in your life. It’s not your place to have your family understand. It’s your place to speak your truth, and their ability to understand, to open up, and to grow from your truth is up to them.

Starfish: However, this secret is giving me major anxiety and guilt.

Council: Oh, we would understand that. Yes, because your higher self knows that’s not what you’re here for. You are here to live your life, and speak the truth of what’s going on and how you feel.

Starfish: How can I manifest more freedom in my life? For example, being able to go wherever I want, at whatever time I want, with whoever I want without reporting to my Mom and not having her angry at me.

Council: That comes in time with speaking your truth. Right now you can’t go anywhere you want, whenever you want, and at any time. You’re not there in a place to understand that when you do that, there’s more maturity in that, and that you will learn by seeing the people around you listening to you and understanding what you need. As they listen and there’s more understanding, there will also be more freedom.

Starfish: How can I continue keeping my relationship hidden and in peace?

Council: It will not always be hidden. It’s not your job to hide this relationship. Part of this incarnation of yours is to be heard, to have free expression, and to grow from it. And to know that you are responsible for yourself, for your feelings, and being able to speak about it, and then to watch the people around you. How do they accept it and how do they grow? And this takes patience and it takes time. And when you can be grateful that you see the little changes, that’s when everything begins to change.

Starfish: Can you give me some advice on how to deal with my controlling Mom?

Council: This is part of your mother’s challenge, and she will continue to be controlling until she can hear you, what you’re saying, and why you’re saying it. And hopefully you don’t say it violently or with anger, but that you’d talk with the reasoning behind what you want, and also the understanding how much you can do at this time.

And so with the understanding, with the patience, and with the love for your mother and for yourself, to have this come together and be solved, that’s how everything will move into a better circumstance.

Starfish: My relationship with my Mom has always been very challenging, and I feel so frustrated with the limitations she puts on me.

Council: This was all pre-planned in spirit before you were born. And so yes, there are limitations that your mother feels she needs to impose. And so you need to understand her and talk to her about why she makes these limitations, and to do it in a loving, open, understanding way to hear what she has to say. And as you listen to her calmly and you can discuss your situation, again, things will change.

Starfish: I can’t live like this anymore. I want to move far away from my mother when I’m financially independent.

Council: And so when you’re financially independent this can happen, but at that time, if you try speaking your truth, and try understanding your mother’s point of view, you may not be in such a rush to move away. Things can change. See it as you desire it. See there becoming peace and understanding between you and your mother.

Starfish: Is there any way to speed up this manifestation of moving away and becoming independent?

Council: First of all, do it in the vibration of love. Meditate and see exactly what you want. See yourself moving away. See yourself being able to have relationships and not having a difficult time with them. The vibration of what you want, when you see it with love, and when you see it and it makes you feel happy, that’s what goes out into the universe, and that’s what you’ll pull back into your life.

So learn to meditate. If you can’t, then sit there every day and picture exactly what you want your life to be like. But do it in a place of love and happiness, as if it’s happening already, and that will begin to make things change.

Starfish: How can I make my mother less controlling of me?

Council: Speak to her. This is part of what you wanted. It’s your place to speak your truth, and always speak it in a calm and loving manner. And eventually you’ll be heard and you’ll be understood. This is what you created.

We thank you, and we send you all love, and blessings, and happiness, and wonderful, wonderful uplifting thoughts. And think of being in the light, and in love, and spreading it out everywhere you go.

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October 2, 2023 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Desire, Feelings, Meditation, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, Vibration | , , , , | Leave a comment