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Requesting Guidance for a Never-Ending Divorce

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Amy. She says it’s a full year since I asked The Council about my divorce and it’s as if time has stood still. My divorce is no further along than it was then. I’ve tried everything to move the divorce forward, but my husband is intent on going to trial, and he has so much to lose. The challenges he’s faced with emotional abuse and substance abuse will now play out publicly in court and it’s possible he might lose custody of our children.

The Council says this is the way your husband wants the divorce to go. How would you like the divorce to go? If you put the thought in your mind that your husband is intent on going in the direction of court, does it bring up fear? Does it bring up frustration? Or are you satisfied with this and think we’ll go to trial, but I know his behavior and abuse will come out and the trial will go in my favor?

Find thoughts that bring you satisfaction and joy. The timing of when your divorce is finalized doesn’t matter. What will make the divorce move forward is if you take your thoughts away from frustration and appreciate your life. Go about your business and do what you want with your children and know that this divorce will eventually happen when you accept the way it’s going and know for sure, without a doubt in your mind, that everything will come out okay for you and your children.

Your husband has his lessons to go through. At this point your lesson is to accept what’s going on. Don’t think of the divorce as a battle and you’re going to war. Your husband is bringing on this challenge. You can accept it with peace in your mind and things will turn out in your favor.

Amy says, Losing custody of our children isn’t what I wanted for my husband, but he watches TV all day long and on TV you don’t see reasonable people gracefully dismantling their lives with their children at the center. I feel I’ve been fair and I’ve tried to settle this divorce fairly and quietly for the sake of our children, but there’s something blocking this divorce. The Council says the block is what you and your husband have come together to do and the lesson to be learned in it. You may not realize that spiritually your husband may have decided he wants to lose his children and learn what that’s about. You don’t have to know the reason, or what your husband is creating. This will show itself to you.

Amy says, We still live together, I still support him, and he refuses to work. The Council asks Amy why her husband should work if she lets him live with her and supports him? This doesn’t seem sensible. If you want to keep him living in your home and supporting him, that’s fine, but know you’re agreeing to this. You’re allowing this to happen. If you want something different you’d handle the situation differently.

Amy says, I can see so clearly what my life looks like with my children when I get to the other side of this divorce. I’ve deepened my relationship with myself over the last year and I’m anxiously awaiting the change and the experience it will bring to my family overall. The Council reminds Amy to do the inner work, keep seeing the pages of a calendar flying by, and the time has passed and your divorce is happening.

Amy says, I’ve been getting ready to get ready, as Abraham-Hicks teaches, and I feel good. It’s surprising to most people that I feel no animosity toward my husband. The Council says this is wonderful because animosity isn’t necessary and that in spirit you both created this situation.

Amy says, Our life is far more peaceful than it ever was before, living without the emotion and intensity our marriage held. We’re co-parents living in the same house and it feels a little like a dress rehearsal. The Council says without saying too much about your husband, some of what he’s created is to go through life easily and have things done for him. What he’s creating and will continue to create is to have people come into his life and make it easier.

Amy says, I’ve recently come to the point where I stopped trying to control the outcome and I’ve even given up on the timeline for the divorce. Right now I get to be with my children every day while the divorce works itself out and I’m grateful for every minute with them in the same house. Having said that, it’s time for me to move on. I feel a strong pull towards something else and I have no idea what that is. This is exciting – nervous excitement. There’s not another love interest or even a thought of one, or a friend or a family member pulling me along so I know this is a different calling.

The Council says it’s wonderful that you’ve stopped trying to control the outcome. This is the way to make the divorce happen. Stay in that feeling of excitement. Stay in the feeling of being pulled toward something new and wonderful. Even if you don’t know what you’re excited about, stay in that excited, happy feeling.

Amy says the universe takes care of my husband. Life just happens for him. He just seems to walk through life carelessly without consequences. No matter how badly he treats people or screws up, someone picks up the slack. It’s as if you can see him being carried. I know we all have a higher power watching over us. It’s just easy to see with my husband that he’s always taken care of no matter how bad his behavior is or how much he alienates friends and family. The Council says this isn’t any part of what you need to experience. He’ll go through all the emotions and all the experience he needs on his path.

Amy says, I can’t be the person I’ve been for my husband anymore. I need to move on, but I feel a block and I can’t seem to clear it. The Council says there isn’t any block. Think of the divorce moving forward. You’re on the correct path. All that you wish, if you continue to focus on it, will come to you. Let go of the time factor. It’s not necessary. Stay in a vibration of happiness and love and you’ll see your divorce come quickly.

The Council says you’re all so much more than you think you are. You’re all on this wonderful path of growth, and understanding, and realizing there are many lives you’ve experienced and many more you’ll create when you’re ready. Focus on being the creator. Focus on bringing joy and laughter into your life and everything will come to you. When you’re happy, you’ll see the connections that are being made. There will be more understanding. Stay in that feeling of joy.


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December 1, 2021 Posted by | Abraham-Hicks, Acceptance, Audio Content, Channeling, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

How Can I Help This Man With His Commitment Issues?

This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named, Unicorn, to our post, Why Has This Man In My Life Become So Distant? Unicorn says, I’d love to know how I can help this man with commitment issues, but I have no idea how to. His behavior has turned 360° and I think he’s met someone else and hasn’t been honest with me.

The Council says there are several relationships this man goes in and out of. But you’re helping him with his commitment issues by understanding them, then letting them go, and allowing this man to be who he needs to be. Forcing him to face these commitment issues doesn’t help this situation. Now that you know there are these commitment issues, you can’t force this. You can only accept the situation, wish this man well, and see how he moves along his path.

The Council says it’s always Unicorn’s choice to know she’s unable to heal what this man is going through regarding commitment. You can only be in this man’s life if you wish to be in his life, but you can’t heal his life. This man has to understand why these issues are going on in his life and he has to decide for himself if he wants to make a change. You see the situation as his commitment issue. It’s upsetting and you want to heal this. This man can be very happy not being committed to one person.

You don’t know the path this man is on. All you can know is, do you wish to be in this man’s life? Do you wish to be his friend? Can you handle this? If you’re only in this man’s life hoping you’ll be able to push him into understanding his commitment issues and he’d have an “ah ha” moment, this isn’t how things works. The choice is yours to be in some sort of relationship or out of it.

Send love into this relationship and watch it grow. Create with your thoughts the way you’d like this relationship to be. Create with your thoughts that whatever this man’s commitment issue is, why it’s there, and where it comes from, you can send light to this man to help him on his path.

Unicorn says, He always called me Unicorn because he never met someone like me before. Then overnight he pretty much became a magician when it comes to communication. He hardly ever communicates with me, but he agrees to see me without being intimate or affectionate when we’d become close in this way months ago. The Council says at this point it’s up to you. Can you deal with this kind of relationship? Is this what you want? Are you comfortable with this? See where the relationship goes and use your thoughts and your feelings to create more. The choice is always yours.

Unicorn says, I’m still confused why this man is happy to see me, but not communicate with me. The Council says he can be happy to see you now and then, when he’s in the mood, and he has nothing else going on. You don’t need to know the reasons why. If there’s happiness when you get together, be in that moment and enjoy it.

Unicorn says, I feel this man pushed his way into my life to cause grief and chaos. The Council says there was no pushing. Your coming together was planned in spirit. You let this man into your life to discover what you need to discover about you, and about how you let this relationship affect you. Moving forward, take your attention off this man and put it on yourself. Why are you in this relationship? Why does it bother you? Why do you stay in this relationship? How does it make you feel? How can you bring joy into this relationship when you’re together? Your purpose is to accept what this relationship is, to bring joy into it, and to appreciate what’s there.

Unicorn says, To be honest, I’m deeply hurt. I’m lost in what to do and need guidance. All I want is the truth to the situation. But if my soul has planned to be in his life to help him heal the issue of commitment, then I’d love to know how I can help. The Council says again, You can accept this person the way they are.

The Council says you’re all so much more than you think you are. You’re all on this wonderful path of growth, understanding, realizing there are many lives that you’ve experienced, and many more that you’ll create when you’re ready. Focus on being the creator. Focus on bringing joy and laughter into your life and everything will come to you. Everything will be shown. When you’re happy you’ll see the connections that are being made in your life. There will be more understanding. And stay in that feeling of joy.


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November 30, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Creation, Life Purpose, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | Leave a comment

What’s Going On with My Troublesome Brother?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Peace5, who wants to know about their brother. Peace5 says, He’s almost 23 years old and has been very troublesome lately. I don’t know what’s gotten into him. Even though he has an incurable disease, he stopped taking his medicine, he stopped taking care of himself, and he’s very nasty with me and our whole family, even my 6-year-old son.

The Council suggests trying to find compassion for your brother. Imagine how you’d feel knowing you have an incurable disease. Some people can find a way to work with an incurable disease and have positive thoughts. Others, like your brother, become depressed. Being nasty and stopping his medication is a sign he can’t find hope. He can’t love himself. He’s going through this depression because he’s closed himself off to loving himself and accepting love from others.

We hope your family will be able to find some sort of therapy for your brother that will help with his depression. Once he’s able to have a few positive thoughts, once he’s able to change his lower vibration, hope will come to him and he can have thoughts of helping himself. He can’t cure himself when he’s in the vibration he’s in now. That vibration must be changed.

If it’s at all possible we recommend doing the chakra breathing meditation we recommend in another post. You can do this with him and so can the rest of your family. This meditation will help align his chakras so he can feel better.

Get your brother the first Emmanuel book, by Pat Rodegast and leave it in his room where he can find it, but don’t tell him to read it. Once he’s able to connect with this book and begins to read about depression, illness, dying, and changing his life, it’ll start to put him on the right path.

Peace5 says, My brother takes medical marijuana for his disease, but I believe it’s harming him more than helping him. He’s not interested in anything at all, including looking for a job. All he does is lay around all day long, sleep, and shower four times a day even though he doesn’t go anywhere. He fights with us, curses at us for no apparent reason, and doesn’t speak with us. What’s going on with him and do you think he’ll ever change for the better?

Again The Council asks if you can find it in your heart to feel some compassion for your brother? Try to understand he’s in a difficult place. Can you accept where he is now? Offer him love. Speak with him. Talk with him like he’s a regular person. Don’t tiptoe around him or not say things in front of him. Get excited and share your life with him. Tell him stories. This will be the beginning of your brother feeling cared for.

Don’t force your attention on him, but when you’re around him try to be joyful. If you can be in a joyful vibration it increases the likelihood of your brother becoming joyful. It’s important you’re whole family is very accepting of you’re brother’s situation and condition and forget he has this incurable disease. Forget he’s laying around. Forget he’s doing nothing. Just be nice to your brother and accept who he is.

The Council asks Peace5 to remember you can’t make your brother better. You can be in the right vibration around him. You can speak to him joyfully. Have your brother feel that no matter how he behaves, he’s accepted. Show him by your conversation that you care about him.

At first he probably won’t accept your positive intentions, but we ask you to continue with them anyway. When your brother sees no one is fighting with him, that you accept him, that you allow him to lay around if he wants to, that you don’t preach to him about doing nothing, he’ll eventually get tired of doing these things and begin to raise his vibration and begin to try and find a better way. In doing this and sending him love and light with your thoughts to help him through his difficulties, things will change.

There are many reasons why your brother may have chosen the life he’s currently living. He wants to understand his situation. In the spirit world, where we’ve either experienced a similar life situation in another incarnation, or we’ve seen others go through what we’re going through, we wonder if we can also do that. Can I bring love into that situation? Can I turn that situation around? Do I want to teach things to other people about how to handle this situation and how we all need to reach for love and show love in that situation?

That’s why we choose situations like the one your brother is in. There are many reasons, but the many reasons are unimportant. The main reason is: Am I bringing love into this situation? Am I bringing love and support and positive thoughts to the person who’s going through this difficulty? That’s what’s needed. In spirit we’re all confident we’ll be able to do this. In reality it’s much more difficult. The reason why we came here is to have fun. We came here to face every situation with love. And when you bring love into any situation, it must change.

Bob closes by asking if there’s a possibility of curing this incurable disease. The Council says there’s always this possibility and this, of course, is up to your brother.


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November 10, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Chakras, Channeling, Life Purpose, Love, Meditation, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, Vibration | , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

What Can I Do About My 20-Year-Old Son’s Behavior

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Christine, who’s concerned about her 20-year-old son. He’s finished high school and has done very little with his life since then. He spends most of his days smoking marijuana from early in the morning until late at night. He also believes he has an alcohol addiction. When he was younger he was very outgoing and appeared happy and enthusiastic about life. Now he’s often very aggressive and his reaction to a situation often appears way out of proportion, and he can be very nasty and domineering.

The Council says your son’s behavior appears pre-planned so he can experience not moving forward in his life right now. His escaping with alcohol and marijuana was also pre-planned. His violence and frustration come from being in this place and pre-planning to change it.

Because your son isn’t moving forward to change his behavior, his higher self is trying to drag him in the direction of changing it, whether in the direction of seeking professional help, or going into a group for help, and reading about how he feels – anything taking him in the direction of wanting to change his behavior. He appears to be stuck in his situation and he’s not able yet to take those steps forward to change it. Your son has no understanding of how you’re trying to help or how you might try to speak about these things to him.

The only job you have right now is to let your son be who he is. We realize this could be frustrating and painful for you, but these are experiences and lessons he wanted to have and then to change. When he’s ready he’ll take these steps. You’re there to give your son love and support.

If he complains to you about being an alcoholic or being lazy and not being able to move forward, all you have to do is say, “Okay, what are you going to do about it?” He needs to realize it won’t magically happen. He has to do something about his situation, even if he was to start imagining he felt better or imagining he’s out there traveling the world. Have him imagine whatever it takes to make him behave differently. You can suggest that and then leave his situation alone.

Your job was to bring this soul forward into this life so it could go through whatever it picks to go through and to accept him and love him the way he is.

Christine says when he’s nasty and domineering it’s impossible to speak rationally with him and we’re left feeling totally depleted. He can also be very lazy. Because he’s my son, I feel like I’m responsible in some way. The Council says you’re playing the part that’s needed and he wished for you to play to get him to this point in his current situation.

When you feel frustrated it will help you if you think he’s really into living what he pre-planned. This is wonderful. Let’s let him do what he has to do and we’ll watch as he finds his way out of this situation and how he learns to change it. You aren’t responsible for his behavior. You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be. You did whatever you were supposed to do to get your son to this point and it’s all up to him now to change it.

Christine says, I felt we were very loving and attentive parents, but I know we weren’t perfect. My other son is very different. I’d appreciate some insight into my son’s behavior and our relationship. The Council says you have two sons. Make sure you offer them both love and support. Be there for both of them, not fine with one and disappointed with the other.


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September 10, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Imagination, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , | 2 Comments

Do My Current Career Struggles Relate to Job Karma?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Adhvazila, who asks about their professional life. They say, I’ve been struggling on the professional front for quite some time. Does this have anything to do with job karma and will it end any time soon?

The Council says they don’t like to use the word karma. Karma is really just a choice you make. In many of your lives you had it very easy, didn’t have to work, and had no patience for people who lived by standards that weren’t up to yours. In your current life you thought you’d like to experience the difficulty, the struggle, and how to accept it and change it. And that’s where you are right now.

We see you coming out of these career difficulties when you become grateful for the job you have, even if that’s not something that’s easy. Focus on the fact that you are working and that you can support yourself. Show this attitude of gratefulness and then begin to look elsewhere for other jobs. Put out there the kind of work you’d like to do. Show patience and kindness to everyone you meet because of the way you were in other lives. This is what you wanted to express in your current lifetime.

Adhvazila says, There’s a sense of loss of direction and currently my situation is also quite stressful. The Council says when you’re feeling stresssful it’s good to take deep breathes every day. Be grateful for the job you have. If the stress comes from your work or if it comes from the people you work with, be patient and kind and you’ll see the stress reduce.

Adhvazila asks, Will I ever be able to earn a good living in a less stressful environment? The Council’s advice is to love what you have and you’ll come out of the situation you’re in.


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June 2, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Career, Channeling, Gratitude, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , , | 2 Comments

My On/Off Relationship with My Sister-In-Law and Our Past Lives

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, SillyGoose, who’s asking about her relationship with her sister-in-law. She says, I feel like I have a strong connection with her and her husband from past lives. She can sometimes be very kind and sometimes she becomes very rude. I want to stay away from her, but then she manages to pull me back into her life again.

The Council says in a past life you were your sister-in-law’s mother. You were strict and trying to teach her, but she was a rebel in that life. When you handed out punishment you’d then feel guilty. She’d then pull you back in, make you love her, think she’d behave, and then she’d act out again. In your current life, part of her remembers how to pull you in. But there’s true love there between the two of you and your sister-in-law will get clearer on this as time moves on.

Understand this dynamic that’s going on now. If you can laugh at the idea that at one time your sister-in-law was your naughty little child that knew how to manipulate you, this is what’s going on in your current life. Understand you can let go of what she does and see yourself and her as spirits.

SillyGoose says, I’m confused if my sister-in-law really cares for me or is she just pretending to? The Council says your sister-in-law’s love is real.

When your sister-in-law is being rude, try to remember this comes from a time where she’d do that to annoy you as her mother. When your sister-in-law is frustrated she can turn to that being rude, but then afterward she’ll try and pull you back in her life again because she doesn’t want to loose you. Yes, there’s love there. Yes, you’re going through things. Yes, she’s going through things. But now you’re the one who has this information and can look at the situation differently. Just watch as your sister-in-law zig-zags back and forth. Perhaps you can find it somewhere within you to laugh about this because it’s a past life trait and it will change when you can accept it and be more humorous about it. Then you’ll be able to see the true love she has for you come through more and more.

Be humorous and patient with your sister-in-law. Watch how she acts as if you’re watching a movie, and your situation with her will make more sense as you begin to realize and understand her behavior is coming from a past life. Your purpose in this life is to love her again. This is what you wanted. Teach your sister-in-law that you accept her the way she is. Her purpose in this life was to know you’ll always be there for her and not leave her because she’s not a good person or doesn’t behave a certain way. You’re both learning from this dynamic that’s going on in your life and you brought these traits into your current life to help each of you learn from it.

SillyGoose asks, am I supposed to stay connected to my sister-in-law or is it better to stay away? The Council asks, with what you know now, what feels good to you when you ask yourself that question. The answer is within you. You know what it is. There’s no need for us to tell you. Ask yourself and do the work.

SillyGoose asks what lessons she has to learn from her sister-in-law, and The Council says, acceptance.


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May 5, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Channeling, Life Purpose, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , | Leave a comment

What’s My Life Purpose Now That My Husband Has Passed?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Grieving Widow, after she read our post, Why Did My Partner Crossover Sooner Than Expected?  She says I also have similar questions. My husband passed suddenly in a car accident and I’m unable to accept it. I’m constantly trying to connect with him and continue our relationship.

The Council asks Grieving Widow what she’d need to accept her husband’s death. You know he’s no longer in your physical reality, but he’s here in spirit. There are ways you can connect with him through meditation or asking for a connection in your dreams. You can ask for little signs he’s around that would give you the comfort he’s really gone nowhere. He’s still part of your life, being around you, seeing what you do. He left because it was his wish and his time to finish this lifetime. It was to give you a chance to explore more of who you are and what you want moving forward.

Grieving Widow says she doesn’t want to be here without her husband and asks The Council what is her purpose here without him? The Council says to find out who you are. What would make you happy? What ideas did you have while your husband was still here about things you wanted to do, but never had the chance? Now is the time to move forward and do these things.

Grieving Widow says we have three sons and my relationship with my oldest isn’t good. How can I help him with his life lessons and be the best mother to all my sons when I can’t even find joy in anything anymore?

The Council asks Grieving Widow if she’s saying she doesn’t find joy with her children? Do you focus at all on how to be with them, be part of their lives, and invite them into your life to give you some sort of comfort? Communication is needed here. There’s a coming together to bring you closer together.

What you need to remember is that your children will see how you’re carrying on now that your husband has passed on into spirit. How do you handle this? Do you show them that you’re aware your husband is now in the spirit world, and that you know at some point you’ll all go back into spirit, and that your husband is helping all of you from spirit? Do you talk to your children and uplift them in this moment?

The loss of a husband is traumatic, but your children have lost their father. Do you focus on that? This is a way for you to learn to be of service to others, and at this point it’s your children that need you. How will you be of service? The Council reiterates that much more communication is needed.

Grieving Widow says, I don’t believe I chose to be without my husband and I’m struggling to find a purpose to stay in this life. Do I have a purpose to remain here? The Council assures Grieving Widow that you did plan in spirit with your husband that he would pass. Your purpose, as we mentioned before, is to find out more about yourself and what you would like. What are your interests? Hold your children together. Bring your family closer. Be of service to others.

The Council understands in the human form this is a very difficult time for you. Give yourself more love by accepting you are sad at this moment, accepting this is a grieving time, accept all of that, but somewhere within that make time to help others through what they’re going through.

Grieving Widow says, I feel my sons will learn their life lessons better if I’m not here because I feel I hinder them. The Council reminds Grieving Widow that she is part of her children’s life lessons and they are very aware of how you speak and how you act. Remember that the way you do this, you are adding to their lessons and showing your children how to be and how not to be. They need you in their lives for many more reasons. Be aware of your behavior and your communication. This is part of what they agreed to learn and you have all agreed to this.

The Council understands Grieving Widow’s feeling that she’s hindering her children, but because you’ve all agreed to your husband’s passing, you don’t hinder them. And if you feel you hinder them now, how do you change that? If you can learn how to meditate and how to find things to be grateful for it will change your vibration and help you through this time.


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March 7, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Death, Gratitude, Helping Others, Life Purpose, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , , | 9 Comments

How Can I Help My Children?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, StrugglingMom, after she read our post, Is My Life Purpose to Save My Husband from Himself? StrugglingMom says, this post sparked a question about whether my purpose is to help my children, especially my oldest son, and to ask how I can do that.

The Council says your life purpose is all about you, not about saving other people. When you agreed to have these spirits come into this world through you, you agreed to allow them to come in to create the kind of reality they want. They already have in mind the lessons they want to learn, the challenges they want to work through, and if they want to be of help to other people. This is all set up within that spirit. Your purpose is to allow these spirits to come in and then let go and watch what they’re creating.

If there’s a way you can guide them to make their way a little easier, this is helpful, but your purpose isn’t to save your children from whatever they go through or to change whatever you think they’re going through. Your purpose is to give your children love and support in the gentlest way you know.

StrugglingMom asks, do my children and I share any past lives or lessons to learn because we have a difficult relationship and I’m struggling to be the mother my children need. The Council says one of the lessons here is about abandonment, which is what you and your oldest son experienced in another lifetime. In your current life you agreed to be together and work with each other through the difficult times you’re experiencing and not to abandon each other.

Look at what your oldest son is going through and find a way to have discussions with him. Give him guidance on how you think there might be an easier way to go through what he’s experiencing. Discuss what you think and the challenges you’ve gone through and how you worked through these challenges. It’s by your example and by teaching your son what you did to get through your experiences that give him a basis for how to work through his own stuff.

A lot of these children that are difficult and don’t follow rules are very advanced and want to grow up and make their own rules and change things. And they want to do this quickly. Sometimes these children are called Indigo Children because they know they have lots to do in their future, but they’re confused right now with the challenge of growing up under their parent’s rules.

You don’t need to let your son do whatever he wants if you believe it’s unsafe or mean. You can explain another way he can accomplish what he wants. The more discussion you have with your son, the better it will be. Discussion can help things turn around quickly. And by discussion we mean talking about each other and to each other, but not in a way your son is likely to experience as nagging.

Your purpose with your son is to listen to him, be supportive, and not get to the point where you’re so upset you do nothing and conversation stops. This is a form of abandonment. Your son wanted to learn how to be himself, whatever he chose to be in this life. No matter how he chose to be, you would be allowing and accepting, guiding him gently another way, not through punishment or abandonment, but through listening and relating back and forth.

The Council says StrugglingMom and her oldest son shared a past life together as brothers who had no family and they both felt abandoned. In his current lifetime your son wants to work through his abandonment issues and he wanted to have parents that were there to guide him.

StrugglingMom says, I don’t know whether to push him or just let him fail when he refuses to go to school or do schoolwork. Do I punish him and force control? Or do I just let him be, which makes me feel guilty because I feel like I’m taking the easy way out and not being his mother?

The Council says StrugglingMom’s guilt serves no purpose. As a parent you realize there are school requirements that need to be met. As your son moves through school even though he’s not interested in it, discuss with him why it must be done. When he goes to school or does his schoolwork you should praise him and this will give him more motivation to continue.

If your son’s path is difficult because this is what he’s creating, and if he fails and you know in good conscience that you’ve tried to put him on a path you feel has advantages, then his wanting to fail is part of what his spirit wants to experience. Your role is to do what you can as a parent to explain how your son’s education is something he needs to do to improve himself for when he grows up. If you can do this then you’re not abandoning him. If you throw your hands up and say I give up, and your son fails, your son will experience abandonment again. What your son hopes for, no matter what, is you don’t abandon him.

You can help your son heal his abandonment issues through patience and communication, and talking about yourself and what you’ve gone through. Talk about how it’s difficult to see your son not trying. And talking about how you’ll be there no matter what road he picks, whether he tries or whether he fails This will help.

Once your son understands you’re there for him no matter whether he succeeds or fails, instead of having to continue going through the lesson of abandonment, that lesson will be changed because you’re letting your son be the way he needs to be. In accepting and allowing your son, you also allow his lessons to change and allow him to heal.

By StrugglingMom agreeing to be part of these abandonment issues, if her son fails, how will this affect her? What does that bring up for her? There are also abandonment issues StugglingMom wants to learn about. StrugglingMom and her oldest son are handling abandonment in different ways. It’s like different ends of the same stick. The son at one end doesn’t want to be abandoned even though it’s a difficult situation. He wants to see what his mother will do.

On the other side of the stick is StrugglingMom. She doesn’t want to throw her hands up and give up, but at times she feels like it’s no use. Does she give up? Does she abandon her son? Both are facing issues of abandonment and they’re trying to help each other through these issues.

The Council says one of the hardest parts of being a parent is to allow these spirits to come in and then feel responsible for how their child creates its life. You are supposed to bring the child in and then allow it to be whatever it needs to be, and to be there for your child as they go through whatever issues they’re trying to work through.


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February 21, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Agreement, Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Guidance, Helping Others, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Why Did I Have a Loving Childhood and Now I’m Surrounded By Difficult Men?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Serenity, who says she’s a kind woman who comes from a wonderful family and grew up with minimal problems and nothing but love. When I got married we were happy at first, but as the years went by we grew apart and now have nothing in common.

The Council says they don’t see Serenity’s situation the same as she does. You have much in common with your husband and much more to accomplish with him. The feeling of drifting apart is caused by not connecting on a deeper level about moving forward. This relationship isn’t over.

Feeling you’re not connected with your husband allows you space to bring other souls into your life if that’s what you planned. It’s an opportunity to face life’s challenges and happy moments and have experience with another spirit.

Serenity says, we’re married 35 years. Several years ago I rekindled communication with my first love who had become a severe alcoholic and I’m helping him slowly get better.

The Council asks how you’re helping this man. Are you supporting the process of healing himself? You won’t heal anyone. The decision to heal is up to that spirit and it’s your place to accept what they’re going through. Whether he heals and becomes sober or stays with the alcoholism, your purpose is to be a watcher, a supporter, and allow him to be who he is. This is what you planned in spirit.

Serenity says, although my original feelings have changed, I still love both men in different ways. The Council says your feelings haven’t changed, they’re just refocused at the moment.

Serenity says, I’m confused about my purpose in life and why, after being brought up in such a loving environment, I seem to be surrounded by extremely difficult men.

The Council says this gives you a foundation for what you want to create going forward. If you were brought up in a loving environment, did you plan to face challenges and learn from them, and then change these challenges into a loving reality? The loving beginning of your life gave you something so when you get in other relationships, can you create a loving atmosphere. See if you can have a partner that’s also loving to help you find that loving feeling. It’s to learn what you’re currently going through isn’t what you want, but you’ll experience it and this will help you know what to create going forward?

Serenity says, all I ever wanted in life was a simple, intelligent, honest man to love me, have common interests, travel, and enjoy a beautiful life together. I’d like to know my purpose in life and why this has been so difficult to achieve in this incarnation.

The Council sees you wished to have the beautiful and perfect relationship that you have when you’re in spirit. You wanted to experience this in your current lifetime. You can still have this by focusing on what you want. How much of it do you have with this man you’re helping with alcoholism? How much of this experience do you have with your husband? Then refocus your thoughts and concentrate solely on the fact that you’ve had loving relationships in your youth and you need to create it again with these two men in your life.

When you feel this love around you, then you can make a choice to be with one of these men or keep both of them in your life. You came into this lifetime to have love at the beginning of your life and then have challenges. We are here to bring love into every challenge we have, no matter what that challenge is.

As you focus your thoughts and bring in better thoughts, the people around you will feel the change and it will help them move through their challenges and grow. You’ll be a beacon of light and help them through whatever it is they wish to learn.

The Council thanks Cynthia and Bob for bringing in this information to all the souls who need to know there’s more to life than the human condition you’re experiencing, to hear our words, and to connect with their higher selves. This way each one of us, if we grow even an inch, we bring everyone else on this planet with us.


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February 6, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Healing, Life Purpose, Love, Marriage, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , | 3 Comments

Why Did My Brother’s Spirit End His Rugby Career with an Injury?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Phindezwa, who’d like to better understand her role in her younger brother’s life. A few years ago he was injured, which led to the end of his professional rugby career. Since then he’s struggled to find a meaningful career path and I’m currently supporting him, but I want him to be fully independent. Phindezwa asks why her brother’s spirit chose to end his rugby career and experience major difficulties over the last few years.

The Council says your brother’s spirit chose this path to be an example for others. It was pre-planned in spirit for him to have a rugby career he felt good about and to remember how that felt. Then your brother’s spirit wanted him to experience a feeling of failure, to not understand what happened, and not be able to move on. Once that was felt, you chose to be the creative and comforting one. It’s good that you’re playing this comforting role. But when your brother is trying too hard to find another career, almost out of desperation and sadness because that’s not what he wanted in his life, this makes it difficult to bring in this other career.

It’s good for you to talk to your brother as much as possible and share any ideas you and he might have about his new career. He can still have a career in sports if he wants, but not as a professional athlete. He needs to have a feeling of: I experienced the accomplishments I achieved, I believe I created this change in my life, and now there’s something more I can accomplish. There’s something out there that can make me feel even better than I did playing rugby. When he finds this he wants to show people that face the same sort of loss, whether being fired from a job or not finding one, how to go about overcoming this loss.

When your brother is able to pick himself up and try almost anything until the right position comes along, and if he faces everything he tries with the idea of seeing how it goes, and if this isn’t it then it will be something else. Each job leads him closer to what he wants to do. But we suggest somehow your brother keeps looking for work in the area of sports.

Phindezwa asks what her role is in her brother’s life. The Council says it’s to be a supportive person, the one that talks ideas through with him, the one that lifts his spirit, and the one that teaches him he can create whatever he wants. He was good at one thing. Now he’s in a place where he can be great again at something else.

You’re also there to see how your brother’s life is affecting you. Do you like being in the role of a supportive person? What feelings does it bring up in you? Know that you and your brother have pre-planned these experiences in spirit. You’re in the role you desired to experience. You wanted to see how to be supportive and yet step back and let your brother find his own way, but always be there for him. You’ll be showing your brother love and accepting him exactly the way he is. As you accept him and you know there’s a new career for him, he’ll begin to feel that.

As soon as your brother can create independence in his life, it will be there for him.


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January 29, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Career, Channeling, Helping Others, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , | Leave a comment

I’m Worried My Mother Will Pass Away

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, LoveMyParents (LMP), who asks about their mother’s health. LMP says recently her aunt passed away unexpectedly and she was younger than my mother. This has triggered a lot of concern regarding my health and my time with my mother.

LMP lives away from their home country and can only visit their parents once every year or two. They say, I’ve been crying a lot since my aunt’s death and worrying about my mother’s health. I plan to move back to my home country in about five years so I can spend quality time with my parents and I’m around when they need me. As an only child I’m very attached to my mother and can’t stand the idea of her passing away.

The Council asks LMP why they’re focusing on the loss of their mother. They have gone nowhere. You should appreciate that they’re here and you still have time to be with them. The more you focus on the fear of losing your parents, the more likely you are to bring this into your life.

The Council asks LMP to change the focus of their attention. Appreciate your parents. You have a lot of time with them. Plan when you’ll see them, how you’ll have a good time together, and that all is going well. Doing this will help you move forward toward what you want, which is having your parents around you. If you continue focusing on loss, you’ll create this in your life.

The Council wants to remind you there isn’t any loss when someone’s physical life comes to an end. They understand your aunt has transitioned and come home to spirit. She’s in a wonderful place. There’s no grief where we are. Appreciate her life. Your aunt is experiencing more joy now than you can imagine. Be grateful she and your parents are fine. Whenever someone transitions to spirit, all is well. There is no loss and you’ll all be together again.

LMP says they’ve been feeling depressed and have experienced many sleepless nights recently. Can The Council please guide me if my plan to move to my home country in five years is okay and will I still have some years to spend with my mother and father? The Council says if you stop being afraid one of your parents will pass on from their physical life, five years is fine. There’s a future that includes you and them being together again. Don’t put a limit on your thinking. Appreciate your parents. They are here and you are here. Think about when you’ll get together and have some fun.

LMP asks if there’s any way to increase the length of my parents’ life using visualization and positive thought. The Council says positive thoughts and visualization will always help keep your parents in your reality. If you keep focusing on your parents being healthy, you can create that.

Remember that positive thinking lets you create in a way that allows your parents to be there for you. If the time comes where your parents are ready to leave this physical reality, you’ll know about this in spirit ahead of time and there will be an acceptance of their passing. But we see here what’s being created by all of you is plenty of time to be together.

Stay focused on the positive. Enjoy and feel grateful for every moment. Don’t have the thought in the background of how much more time do I have with my parents. That’s still coming from a negative place. Be positive and you’ll have your parents around. You’ll create this in a way that when it’s time for them to transition to spirit when they truly want this, you’ll be fine with it.


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January 23, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Channeling, Health, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | 1 Comment

How Can I Help My Daughter Feel More Confident?

This post answers question for The Council from a reader named, Mel, who asks the best way to help her daughter feel more confident and boost her self-esteem. Mel wonders if her daughter’s past lives are preventing her from seeing the wonderful, smart, amazing woman she is?

The Council says Mel’s daughter needs to feel accepted. Do you compliment her often? Do you point out all the wonderful things she does? Right now your daughter’s confidence comes from you. When she gets enough of this and she believes it and accepts it, she’ll have more and more confidence in herself and won’t need the acceptance from outside herself. She wanted to learn appreciation for herself in her current life.

In your daughter’s last lifetime she worked as a servant and did what needed to be done. There wasn’t any excitement for her in that life and she didn’t have any goals. In her current life your daughter wanted the experience of feeling confident, and when she feels this way she’d allow herself to experience desires of different things she wants. We ask you to allow your daughter to be who she is, but also to fan the flame of her feeling good about herself.

Mel says maybe the interactions my daughter and I had in our past lives have prevented her in some way from healing her lack of confidence in her current life. The Council reminds Mel that the confidence your daughter is working on in her current reality comes from her last lifetime where there wasn’t any confidence, no dream, and no hope.

Mel asks if her daughter’s being overweight is a result of past lifetimes. The Council says the desire to lose weight isn’t a problem from past lives. This is something your daughter created to accept, and once it’s accepted and your daughter feels good about herself, the extra weight will disappear when the time is right and when your daughter learns what she wanted to experience.

The Council says if there’s a problem with being overweight, is it in your eyes or your daughter’s? Does something come up if you talk about this? Is this more negative than positive? If it is The Council advises talking more positively about weight loss. The fact it’s part of who your daughter is now doesn’t mean she’ll always be this way. Being overweight is one more thing your daughter created to keep in front of her while she was trying to build up her confidence.

The Council reminds Mel that everything she and her daughter talk about should be positive on all subjects. When your daughter learns to be more positive and look at things more positively, her life will change for the better.


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January 20, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Channeling, Healing, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Help Me Understand the Deaths of My Mother and Her Brothers

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Elyanna, who’s asking about the death of her mother and the subsequent deaths of her mother’s brothers. It seems strange they were sudden deaths and occurred in the bathroom. My other uncle died recently from a COVID related illness.

The Council says it doesn’t matter if these people died in the yard, on the beach, or in the bedroom. Rather than asking why these people died in the bathroom, the important questions are: How do you feel about these deaths and the disappearance of these people from your life? What’s coming up for you emotionally? What are these deaths teaching you?

Elyanna says her widowed grandmother has been devastated due to the loss of five of her children and though she prays a lot she doesn’t understand why this has happened to her. The Council says your grandmother, in spirit, wanted to learn the same lesson you wanted to learn about what happens when someone dies. Can you still connect with them? You were both interested in these lessons.

You and your grandmother, while in spirit, were talking about this and your grandmother was wonderful enough to ask if she can get in on this lesson learning with you. We can both go through this. And as we go through it, if we have the courage to talk about it and how it makes us feel,  maybe we’ll both learn from these deaths. It will lead to a greater acceptance and not so much confusion. We’ll know we are all spirits who move on in and out of lifetimes.

It’s wonderful your grandmother prays a lot, but The Council feels what will help now is if the two of you speak about these deaths and look for their spiritual meaning. Who were these people in your life? Who are both of you and what you’ve learned? You’ve all created this situation in spirit and these deaths wouldn’t happen unless you all agreed to it. The lesson isn’t so much where these people die, but what this brings up for you?

Your family has come together so you can all work on these lessons about death and what it brings up for each of you. Keep in mind there’s really no death. There’s just moving on to another form of reality. You’ll have people on the other side waiting for you. You’ll talk about this life and what you’ve all learned. Do you want to go through a similar life again or do you want to learn different lessons? Was it fun being in this lifetime? Do you realize you worked together well? Did you all accomplish what you wanted to? If you didn’t accomplish what you wanted it doesn’t matter in spirit because you can choose to learn these lessons in your next life..

You all wanted to learn about death and that there’s so much more than this individual life. We suggest you read Brian Weiss’s books about life after lives so you get the feeling there’s more and there’s no ending. You’ll always be together in spirit with your loved ones. You’ll be together in other lifetimes if you all choose to. The Council closes by describing your family as being brave.


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December 8, 2020 Posted by | Acceptance, Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Death, Feelings, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Reincarnation, Spirit | , , , | Leave a comment

Is My Family Trauma More Spiritual Than Psychological?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Gloribet, that were prompted by her reading of our post, What is the Purpose of My Life?  Gloribet says she experienced much pain as a child because of emotional abuse and hard discipline from my father. This seems to be a theme in my father’s family where there’s a lot of trauma that’s passed down through generations.

The Council says the reason your family is experiencing this trauma is that each person wanted to work with this trauma and learn from it. You came together as a family to experience this trauma so that each person can realize it’s in the family and ask why this is going on? Just having this thought will provide each of you with support.

Gloribet says this trauma had a great effect on me. I put my life and health at risk constantly, but I’ve always been very protected. Now I’m healing and growing spiritually from what I lived. Is there a spiritual component to the pain in my father’s side of my family? Is the cause of this generational trauma more spiritual than psychological?

The Council says it’s always spiritual. It comes into your human life as a psychological problem or challenge, but your spirit chooses this challenge in order to work its way through it. Every member of your family has a different reason for going through this trauma, but you all came together to offer support you can feel on an energy level.

Gloribet asks: How can I help my family break from this trauma and give my aunt’s children a chance at a life filled with love and light rather than anger and pain? The Council says you can’t change anyone else. Your cousins will go through what they need to go through until they come to a place of understanding and learning. How you can help others in your family not have to go through this trauma is by treating everyone with kindness, empathy, understanding, and love. Don’t always focus on this problem in your family and talk about it. You’ll teach the younger generations through your actions and let these people know there’s someone there for them to speak about this trauma if they choose.

Gloribet asks if her helping with this family trauma is part of her chosen spiritual path and will help her with her personal growth. The Council says if your path has been difficult, it was chosen by you in spirit. Of course you’re on the right path. Will you get to where you want to go? Yes, when you show kindness and love and accept people for the way they are.


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December 2, 2020 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Healing, Helping Others, Life Purpose, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Tell Me About My Kundalini

This post answers a question for The Council from a reader named, Luana, who asks about her kundalini. She says the electricity she feels is very real and she feels she has to control all her emotions. Luana closes by asking for help.

The Council says the kundalini is an energy center in your first chakra you can awaken through meditation or visualization, working with different colors of each chakra. The electricity you feel won’t make your hair stand up or hurt you in any way. And many people believe working with kundalini energy requires controlling your emotions.

When you learn to work with kundalini energy you bring it about by visualizing your energy rising from one chakra to another. You do this slowly and visualize each step. You’ll get a tingling feeling, but there’s nothing to be afraid of.

Bring your kundalini up to the heart chakra and stop there. When your kundalini comes into your heart you’ll feel a lot of love, you’ll be able to forgive more, and you’ll be aware of accepting more love in your life for yourself and others.

There are myths that when you bring the kundalini energy all the way up your spine to the top of your head and beyond you can travel to other planes and other lives, but we want your to know you don’t have to work with your kundalini to do that. You can also accomplish this with meditation and visualization.

If you do the chakra breathing we recommend in another post, the kundalini energy will rise by itself without any special effort on your part.

Go slow with your exploration of your kundalini energy. In a past life you dabbled quite a bit in the occult, you were taken with its power, and did what you would consider some not very nice things. In your current life we recommend you go slowly with this energy and only do good.


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November 28, 2020 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Channeling, Forgiveness, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

   

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