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How Do I Let Go of a Decades Old Memory?

This post answers a question from a reader named, Pam, who read one of our other posts titled, What Past Life is Affecting My Current Life, and Why? where a reader named, Darla, says she experienced a past life as a child who was crippled. The Council said Darla remembered this past life because in her current life she wants to understand how people cope with disabilities, and she wants to experience how these disabilities can be changed by consciously reaching for better feeling thoughts.

That post prompted Pam, to write the following comment:

Ah, I know all this too well. My husband has multiple sclerosis and walks with a walker and it stirs up difficult feelings for me who saw my uncle suffering greatly from MS when I was only 5 years old. I think that vision of him lying in bed shaking and having to be fed by his wife has stayed with me all my life. Thanks for this post, Cynthia and Bob.

Cynthia and I replied to Pam’s comment saying The Council might suggest finding ways of letting go of that vision of your uncle and trying to see him in a more positive light because The Council says you attract into your life what you think about. And this prompted Pam’s question:

Interesting. How do I undo a memory from decades ago?ūüė©

We thought this was an excellent question for The Council and this is what the rest of this post is about.


After we read The Council Pam’s comment about her husband, they asked Pam: Don’t you find it interesting that something you found so upsetting as a child, you created in your life as an adult?

The Council says when Pam has an uncomfortable memory of her uncle, it’s to her benefit not to think of how horrible that was. Instead she can switch her focus to him being grateful to have someone who was there to feed him and take care of him. When you look at this situation and find things to be thankful for, you create a different (and better) outcome in your life.

The Council says Pam expects to experience the same thing with her husband as her aunt experienced with her uncle on the path she’s going down currently. By believing and imagining this you’ll create this experience. Can you change your focus? Can you make a change where you don’t see your husband getting that bad and going down a path where he has to be fed? Your husband can live the kind of life that you create in your reality with your thoughts. You have the power to make his journey easier in your lifetime. What you create with your thoughts you will experience. The Council says this is very advanced knowledge to understand what they’re saying here.

In Pam’s lifetime her husband could get better. There could be a miracle. His multiple sclerosis could slow down. He can live a full life.¬†Part of your husband’s soul will go along with what you create with your thoughts. Yet there’s another part of his soul that creates in his life what his soul needs to experience. The Council says Pam won’t know what this is. Instead you’ll be experiencing what you believe and are focusing on. The part of your husband’s soul that needs to experience whatever it needs to experience, whether it’s something similar to what you’re creating or something much more difficult, he’ll create this in his own reality.

The Council says we live in many different realities at the same time because we want to experience things in many different ways. The person next to you is functioning in your reality the way you’re creating it. But there’s another part of you that will create this situation a different way and you’ll play a different role in that reality.¬†The Council repeats it’s advanced understanding that it isn’t just you in this one life. You’re experiencing things from the past and from the future. You’re learning your lessons and having your experiences, but all you’re aware of right now is what you’re creating and focusing on.

The Council says you’ll only experience what you believe. In Pam’s possible reality her husband isn’t getting worse and she won’t experience that because that’s not what she’s focusing her attention on. Her husband may focus on what Pam is focusing on, but if there’s a part that needs to learn differently, that will go on in another reality and Pam will play a different role in that reality. The Council suggests sitting with these thoughts and trying to feel what they would be like. This is advanced learning.

Pam should focus on things with her husband she can feel grateful for and seeing him getting better or staying the same and having a comfortable life as much as possible. See him the way you want him to be and focus on how you’d like to feel as your husband gets better or is holding his own. Is it possible for Pam to create a miracle and her husband be free from MS? The Council says, Yes.

What Pam saw as a child with her uncle triggered what she brought in with her husband so she could learn from it. The Council often says our main purpose is to bring love into each situation. When you experience something like what Pam experienced as a child, the memory isn’t going away because your soul wants you to go into this experience and change it. Bring love and well-being into this situation with your husband.

Listen to the entire 9-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Pam and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it, or ask your own question.

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September 28, 2019 Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Challenges, Channeling, Gratitude, Health, Other Realities, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , | 2 Comments

Should My Son and I Leave My Husband?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, SoulSeekingNirvana, who says she’s had issues with her husband in the past and they’ve remained together in spite of these issues. Currently he’s changed from his past behavior, but SoulSeekingNirvana can’t seem to forget when she needed him the most and his behavior was the worst at those times.

The Council says there’s a problem when SoulSeekingNirvana can’t forgive her husband and let go of these issues. And they ask how she can move on from that?

SoulSeekingNirvana says she’s been thinking about living independently with her son for some time now, but she’s worried about her son not having his father around. She sees two options. One is to continue living the way she does now and try to forget the past. The other is to live with her son separated from her husband.

The Council asks SoulSeekingNirvana if she can stay with her husband and not focus on how he wasn’t there for her. Can you focus on staying with your husband, making things more pleasant, and your son will have his father. Can you be loving and compassionate with your husband? Can you be caring for this man?

If you’re unable to do this, your son will always feel the disharmony between you and your husband. If you think you’re staying with your husband because of your son, and there’s fighting or negative feelings in your relationship, this isn’t a good solution and it’s time for you to move on. Your son will learn different lessons without a father.

As the creator of what goes on in your life, what do you want? Do you want to stay with your husband or do you want to be independent and live with your son without your husband? This is the question you need to ask yourself.

The Council says when you come into this reality and create challenges in your lives to grow from, it’s all about your ability to repeatedly experience forgiveness and show love. When you look at your husband, know he’s a spirit who’s come into this reality to learn lessons. Can you send love to your husband, one spirit to another, and help each other overcome the issues in your marriage? Can you have a nice relationship? If you’re going to continue being angry with your husband and go over and over how he wasn’t there for you, you’re not moving in the right direction.

SoulSeekingNirvana closed by asking if she decides to leave her husband, should she live alone or with her parents who can help with her son? The Council asks how the relationship is with her parents. Is it a safe, happy environment? If you don’t like your parents and your quarrel with them, you’re putting yourself and your son in a bad environment. If you need to be on your own, how do you see this? Can you create a loving relationship between you and your son?

The Council says coming into this reality with these choices, you’re looking for a way to get to a higher vibration. Not forgiving your husband doesn’t get you to this higher vibration. Forgiving, trying again if you can, and loving your husband, your son, or your parents will get you to this higher vibration.

Don’t ever blame your decision on whether to leave your husband on your son. This is your choice. You’re the one who has put yourself in the position to learn and grow more. Your son should be free from blame. He is a spirit who agreed to be part of your experience and help you grow. And we grow by showing love and compassion.

The Council closes by saying SoulSeekingNirvana’s husband has his own lessons to learn, but they believe he’ll make progress in the area of showing love, but the choice is his. Where he is on his path now, he’s headed in this direction.

Listen to the entire 7-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for SoulSeekingNirvana and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own unrelated question.

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September 20, 2019 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Love, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, Vibration | , , , | Leave a comment

Questions About an Abusive Separated Husband

This post answers questions from a reader named, Jolanda, who says 18 months ago she ended an 8 year relationship with her verbally and emotionally abusive husband, but because they have a child together they communicate almost daily, which gives him opportunities to manipulate her emotions.

The Council doesn’t think it’s necessary to have contact with your husband almost daily. It’s something you need, but your husband doesn’t. Is this because you don’t want to let go of your husband? If this relationship is hurtful, why would you want to stay in it? You can co-parent a child without having daily communication with your spouse.

One of the lessons you’ve created for yourself in this lifetime is protecting yourself and learning how to make boundaries. The Council says they don’t see this boundary-making happening. There’s no need to punish yourself. If you can begin setting these boundaries you’ll feel a little more powerful and you’ll allow the relief and healing to come into your life.

The Council says they don’t see a reconciliation with the husband occurring at this time. Recognize him as a spirit on his own path and learning his own lessons. You feel the love for him because you recognize him as a spirit. Wherever he is on his path, you can love him and let him go, and make the boundary to protect yourself, and change your life to a more powerful and peaceful one.

Jolanda says she and her husband agreed a few weeks ago they weren’t getting back together and she feels betrayed that he’s apparently moved on with a new girlfriend.¬†The Council asks Jolanda to find the energy to understand this agreement between the two of them. And if he changes his mind and says he wants to be with her again, can she make the boundary and say, “No. Enough. I can’t be in this type of relationship.” Instead of waiting to see where your husband is in this relationship, make your own boundaries. Think about how you’ll move forward and how you can get free from this relationship and find the happiness you wish for?

Jolanda says she’s pining for the love she had with her husband and wishing for someone else to love, but feels like she’ll never love anyone but her husband. The Council says the love she and her husband had isn’t there right now because there are lessons Jolanda needs to learn. Wishing for someone else to love is a wonderful direction to go in. Focus on this. What kind of person do you want in your life, down to every detail you can think of? And be ready to let this relationship in? When you can focus more on the new person you want in your life, things will change in this direction.

Jolanda says she feels her marriage was a divine bond and that she and her husband are deeply connected at a soul level. The Council says of course there’s a soul connection. This relationship was all agreed to in spirit so you could discover the role of independence, the role of boundaries in your life, the role of speaking up for yourself, and the role of learning how to protect yourself.

The Council closes by telling Jolanda: When you begin to love yourself enough to protect yourself; when your begin to believe there’s another way, and there’s more for you, and the soul who is your husband needs to go on with his lessons; when you begin to focus in a whole new direction on what you truly want in your life; The Council promises Jolanda her life will begin to change for the better.

Listen to the entire audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Jolanda and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

If you like this session, please consider clicking the Like button in the section below the recording to let us and our other readers know. Thanks.

October 7, 2018 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Marriage, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Should I Stay In My Marriage or Leave with My Child?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name SoulPeace, who says she needs to choose between staying in a marriage that isn’t working out well and trying to make it better, or walk out of the marriage with their child.

The Council asks SoulPeace what part they’re playing in this marriage? Is she adding to the difficulties that are coming up? When you step back and look at this relationship the major question is, why isn’t the marriage working? What do you need from this marriage and what are you bringing to it? Do you feel the love you felt in the beginning of this relationship?

The choice is always yours whether to leave the marriage or stay with it, but the work must begin within you first. Look at what you have without blame, then try to decide what you’d like your marriage to look like. If you can focus on the marriage working and be open to the positive changes, then you can make this marriage work. As you begin to change how you treat your husband, how you speak to him, and how you appreciate the little things he might do, The Council says you can stay in this marriage lovingly.

SoulPeace says she’s always been scared of living on her own and taking on all the responsibilities of caring for their child. She doesn’t feel the love for her husband the last few years. The Council asks if she’s able to partner with him in bringing up their child? Are they able to get together and have fun with this child so it has a more loving life?¬†When you’re able to come together and take the focus off what the other person is doing wrong and you’re in the vibration of love and joy even though the focus is your child, you have the ability to make the marriage better.

SoulPeace says she feels like she’s with her husband because it’s the more traditional option and she’s scared to live on her own. She finds it difficult to forget the things that happened in the past. The Council reminds SoulPeace that it’s a choice to take the focus off the past. When do you let go of this? When do you begin looking forward instead of backward? Have you learned from the mistakes you’ve made? What have you done to prevent these mistakes from continuing? If you decide to stay in this marriage, but continue with blaming your husband and stay in the vibration of anger and hurt, you won’t be able to change your future so you have a happy life.

If you decide you want to save your marriage, try thinking the reason you’ve gone through the dissatisfaction in your marriage is that you and your husband agreed to come to this point and then ask yourself if you can turn your marriage around. If you decide to leave, what are the steps you’d take to support your child and live¬†on your own¬†just the two of you? See this how you want it to be rather than out of fear. Visualize how leaving could work for you.

SoulPeace says she feels like she’s coming back to the same point in the relationship over and over. She’d like closure to this and to move ahead in any direction which is best for her and her child. The Council asks SoulPeace if she’s truly looking for closure or does she want to fix the marriage?

To start closure The Council suggests SoulPeace imagine where she and her child would go and how you’d live. If you want to change your marriage for the better The Council suggests letting go of the past. Maybe your husband doesn’t know how to undo what was done or fix the marriage, but perhaps you can discuss moving forward. Can you leave the past in the past?

Discuss how you’d like your marriage to be. What does your husband want the marriage to be like going forward? When memories come of what your husband did or didn’t do in your marriage that hurt you, acknowledge the hurt and then say goodbye to those thoughts. After a while those thoughts won’t come as frequently. Yes these things happened, but now you have an opportunity to create the future differently. You have the power to refocus on a happier thought and create the life you desire.

The Council closes by saying SoulPeace has a lot of work to do and a wonderful journey in whichever direction she chooses.

Listen to the entire 10-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for SoulPeace and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about it.

April 8, 2018 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Finding a Loving and Financially Secure Husband

This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Diana, who¬†says she’d love to meet her soulmate husband soon and she asks if The Council has any insights on this and if there’s anything she can do to speed up the process.

The Council asks Diana what she’s thinking about to¬†create this marriage in her life. They encourage her to think more about¬†what she will bring to the relationship and not so much about what her husband will bring. As she begins to focus on herself and what makes her happy, she’ll begin to attract that in another person.

Diana asks if The Council is able to see her future husband and The Council says it’s her beliefs and what she focuses on that will pick the husband that she calls in with her thoughts and feelings. They say there are perhaps 10 different men that can come into Diana’s life, and as she focuses on what she wants and what she brings to the relationship, she will draw the most appropriate husband to her.

Diana says she struggles with issues of lack and poverty and she’d like to meet someone who doesn’t have these struggles. The Council says as she struggles with these issues she’ll bring in someone she’s attracted to, but he’ll have similar issues. That is why it’s very important to work on herself and her thoughts first.

If Diana’s thoughts are on lack and poverty it is unlikely she’ll be able to attract someone who’s wealthy. She can change her thoughts to: her abundance is growing ¬†and she’s ready to receive more in her life. She is a spirit in a physical body. There is abundance all around her, she just has to claim it with her thoughts.

Listen to our 7-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all The Council’s guidance for Diana and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

May 6, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Challenges, Channeling, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Having More Positive Thoughts After My Abortion?

This post is inspired by a follow-up question from a reader named Michelle, who was advised by The Council to think better feeling thoughts after she terminated a pregnancy and she’s asking for help with this.

The Council advises Michelle to concentrate on who she is as a spiritual being and to think about the direction she’d like her life to go in right now. They ask if she feels secure about not having any more children, which they feel is a decision made by Michelle’s husband.

The Council advises Michelle not to feel guilty because she had an abortion. This abortion was pre-planned in spirit by her and the soul of the child she aborted, and she and the child have fulfilled what they wished to experience.

The Council asks what Michelle has learned from this abortion. Does she wish to get pregnant again and have another child? They tell Michelle only she can make this decision.

The Council says the aborted pregnancy was a wake up call for Michelle to take control of what she wants and not do what other people want her to do. It’s about changing her path and waking up to what she wants in her life. This is how her higher self planned to bring her to this point and then move her forward.

The Council advises Michelle to every now and then gently bring up the idea with her husband that the thought of having another child makes her feel happy. How she speaks about this can make her husband more open to having another child. The Council also recommends doing the inner work of seeing things the way she wants them to be and imagine it’s already happening, because it is happening in another reality. They advise Michelle to bring this reality to her with her thoughts and feelings.

The Council advises Michelle to let go of any guilty feeling about terminating her earlier pregnancy. As she stays in the vibration of guilt and sadness she cannot create the joy she wants. They say to go into the vibration of joy by thinking of good memories and fantasizing a very happy future. As she feels her mood begin to feel more positive, that’s when she’s able to create what she wants.

The Council says Michelle’s husband is possibly influenced not to have another child by his elderly mother living with them and perhaps when his mother passes, his mind would begin to change.

The Council says the soul of Michelle’s aborted child would like to see Michelle change her life and begin to think about what she would like her life to be like going forward. This is the reason for the abortion.

Listen to our entire 10-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Michelle and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

April 19, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Creation, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Pregnancy, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Getting Along Better With My Husband and In-laws?

This post is a follow up that was inspired by some additional questions from a reader named Vacha, whose question about guilt over terminating a pregnancy we recently answered. Now Vacha is asking about moving back to India where her parents live, and how to get along better with her husband and in-laws.

The Council understands that¬†Vacha has issues with her in-laws in India¬†and¬†they recommend putting the move on hold for now.¬†Vacha has issues with¬†her husband, things to discover within this relationship, and things to teach her son while she’s with her husband. If she’s¬†able to work out her issues with her husband before this move back to India, she’ll be able to work out the issues with her in-laws when this move¬†eventually takes place.

Watch what’s going on in the relationship with her husband and see each problem in the light of what it’s trying to teach both of them.

The Council reminds Vacha it’s not her place to have her family get along. Her purpose is to see what’s happening, change the way she handles each situation, see things¬†the way she wants it to be from a place of love, and everything will change. Her¬†parents, her¬†in-laws, and her¬†husband will all change because they’re around her¬†and she’s¬†creating a new¬†reality with her¬†mind, her¬†words, and her¬†feelings.

Vacha asks The Council what spiritual lesson she’s learning with regard to her husband, mother-in-law, and other family members? And The Council says her purpose is to take difficult situations and bring love into them.

Vacha has a powerful mind if she chooses to use it. She can use her thoughts and feelings to create what she desires. The Council recommends spending a lot of time seeing herself with her son and husband in happy and successful situations.

Vacha wants to understand¬†other people’s feelings and¬†fears, and help these people¬†move through them. She should watch the people around her and she’ll begin to see what they need and what causes the difficulty in her relationships with them.

Listen to our entire session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Vacha and the rest of us.

October 4, 2016 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | 2 Comments

   

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