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Should I Contact My Dead Father Through a Medium?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, JERL, who says lately in my spiritual journey I’ve been drawn to my painful past and memories of my early childhood when I was neglected by my father and step-mothers. The Council says this is wonderful because you pre-planned in spirit to do this and it means you’re ready now. You’re ready to look at these memories, to go over what’s happened, change how you think about it, change how you understand it, change how you feel about it, and how to figure out how to let it go.

JERL says, I’m trying to sit with the sadness, but I keep feeling drawn to meeting with a medium to talk with spirit about my father who I was happily estranged from for ten years before he killed himself last year. The Council says there’s light and joy on the other side of the sadness. Just sit with it. The more you can sit with your sadness you’ll see it won’t kill you or hurt you. You’re remembering an emotion and you’re remembering it in order to go through it and heal it.

JERL says his father was very negative and part of JERL is afraid that even in spirit he’ll cause me painful memories if I speak with him. The Council says if you truly connect with your father’s spirit, and you don’t need someone else to help you do this, there won’t be a single negative thought, or negative word, or anything that would be said that can hurt you.

Unfortunately, in your reality people feel they have to go to someone else in order to speak with someone who’s passed into spirit. Meditate. Talk to your father in your mind and this other person won’t be necessary. Many of these mediums and psychics are very good, but what isn’t commonly understood is that they often don’t connect with the spirit of the person you want to connect with. These mediums are connecting with these people’s essence of who they were when they were alive.

When a medium gives you negativity or tells you something horrible that this spirit says to you, it isn’t who the spirit truly is. The medium is just connecting with who the person was when they were alive. When you connect with spirit it will be beautiful. If you feel you need someone to connect you with your father, keep searching until you find the right medium. All good mediums that give you messages from spirit will be helpful, they’ll make you laugh, there will be talk of love, and there will be great understanding.

JERL continues, on the other hand I’d like to understand what my father’s life goals were and be able to forgive him so I can pray for his well-being every day. The Council wants you to know that you chose your father to play this role in your life. You both got together in spirit and planned how your life would be and how you could learn from it. How your father behaved was part of the act he put on. It was like being on stage. He played a part. He lost track of who he truly was as a spiritual being. He was hurt as a child and this negativity and hurt carried through to his adult life. Unfortunately it affected you.

Know there are reasons your father was the way he was. It wasn’t your fault. This was something you both agreed in spirit to experience. When you think of your father, what did he teach you? What kind of person did it make you? When you understand that in reality he had his problems and they caused him to be the way he was. There were lessons your father wanted to learn.

When you think of your father, can you think of him having his own challenges? Think of how he was hurt and suffering inside. How you were treated doesn’t make it right. It was part of the deal you made with your father in spirit. When you think of him being negative and suffering, what did this teach you? What did you learn? When you can repeatedly look at your father’s negativity, no matter how many times it takes, and not feel sadness, even if you go numb, if you no longer hurt from it, you’re starting on the path of forgiveness. Know you’ve come through what you’ve experienced. What have you learned? The purpose of experiencing this neglect is to understand what you’ve learned.

JERL continues, I understand I chose my father in order to learn my lessons and that we were friends and enemies in other lives. In my current life, putting a boundary between him and me has been healthy for me. The Council says it’s wonderful you knew exactly what you had to do to make your life better. There’s no guilt in that.

JERL says he’s wary and a little scared of his thoughts that it’s time to reconcile with his father. The Council says if you truly want to reconcile, this will happen when you begin to understand your father had his challenges. He played the part he was supposed to in your life, and he did this to help you grow and learn because that’s what you wanted. All this thinking about your past will help you move forward. Then you’ll be ready to forgive. It’s not that someone is telling you it’s time to forgive. You’ll know it’s time because you’ll have more understanding.

JERL asks if he should trust his urges and meet with his father in spirit through a medium? The Council says if you go to a medium who gives you scary or angry messages, or any message that makes you feel bad, don’t go back to this person. Find someone else and you’ll see the difference in the messages that come through.

Your father has reviewed his life and knows he did his part. He’s sending you light to help you get to a place of forgiveness. When you’re ready, you’ll let this light in.

Learn to meditate. Sit quietly in a chair, even if it’s for five minutes a day, and picture your father’s face. This may be difficult in the beginning. Then begin to speak to your father. You can tell him how you feel and what your experience with him has done to you. Ask your father to let you know it was all part of your spiritual plan. Ask for information and your father and your spirit guides will help you get it. Somehow you’ll just know the answers to your questions. It’s not like you’ll hear a word for word explanation. It will come all at once in a block of feeling. Everything will lift and you’ll realize you’re surrounded by guides, angels, and beautiful light energy.

Since you’ve gone through this painful history it’s now helping you move past it. Before you go to bed you can ask for information or ask to feel forgiveness. When you feel this forgiveness you’ll be able to connect with your father, because the negativity between you and spirit will prevent this from happening. If you do the work and take the time, you’ll find the answers you seek. No one else is needed.


Listen to the entire 12-minute audio recording of our session with The Council to hear all their guidance for JERL and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask your own question.

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September 12, 2020 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Connecting With Spirit, Forgiveness, Healing, Meditation, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

Should My Son and I Leave My Husband?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, SoulSeekingNirvana, who says she’s had issues with her husband in the past and they’ve remained together in spite of these issues. Currently he’s changed from his past behavior, but SoulSeekingNirvana can’t seem to forget when she needed him the most and his behavior was the worst at those times.

The Council says there’s a problem when SoulSeekingNirvana can’t forgive her husband and let go of these issues. And they ask how she can move on from that?

SoulSeekingNirvana says she’s been thinking about living independently with her son for some time now, but she’s worried about her son not having his father around. She sees two options. One is to continue living the way she does now and try to forget the past. The other is to live with her son separated from her husband.

The Council asks SoulSeekingNirvana if she can stay with her husband and not focus on how he wasn’t there for her. Can you focus on staying with your husband, making things more pleasant, and your son will have his father. Can you be loving and compassionate with your husband? Can you be caring for this man?

If you’re unable to do this, your son will always feel the disharmony between you and your husband. If you think you’re staying with your husband because of your son, and there’s fighting or negative feelings in your relationship, this isn’t a good solution and it’s time for you to move on. Your son will learn different lessons without a father.

As the creator of what goes on in your life, what do you want? Do you want to stay with your husband or do you want to be independent and live with your son without your husband? This is the question you need to ask yourself.

The Council says when you come into this reality and create challenges in your lives to grow from, it’s all about your ability to repeatedly experience forgiveness and show love. When you look at your husband, know he’s a spirit who’s come into this reality to learn lessons. Can you send love to your husband, one spirit to another, and help each other overcome the issues in your marriage? Can you have a nice relationship? If you’re going to continue being angry with your husband and go over and over how he wasn’t there for you, you’re not moving in the right direction.

SoulSeekingNirvana closed by asking if she decides to leave her husband, should she live alone or with her parents who can help with her son? The Council asks how the relationship is with her parents. Is it a safe, happy environment? If you don’t like your parents and your quarrel with them, you’re putting yourself and your son in a bad environment. If you need to be on your own, how do you see this? Can you create a loving relationship between you and your son?

The Council says coming into this reality with these choices, you’re looking for a way to get to a higher vibration. Not forgiving your husband doesn’t get you to this higher vibration. Forgiving, trying again if you can, and loving your husband, your son, or your parents will get you to this higher vibration.

Don’t ever blame your decision on whether to leave your husband on your son. This is your choice. You’re the one who has put yourself in the position to learn and grow more. Your son should be free from blame. He is a spirit who agreed to be part of your experience and help you grow. And we grow by showing love and compassion.

The Council closes by saying SoulSeekingNirvana’s husband has his own lessons to learn, but they believe he’ll make progress in the area of showing love, but the choice is his. Where he is on his path now, he’s headed in this direction.

Listen to the entire 7-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for SoulSeekingNirvana and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own unrelated question.

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September 20, 2019 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Love, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, Vibration | , , , | Leave a comment

   

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