Was My Mother’s Death A Natural One?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Vibrationally Aware.
Vibrationally Aware: I just found out my mother was found dead in a hotel room today. I’m sad and I want to know two things. Was it a natural death? And does she have a message for me and my siblings?
Council: Was it a natural death? Each death – even though there is no such thing as death – each transition is planned. The way out of this reality, the ending of this reality, is planned by the spirit. And so, yes, it was a natural transition. Was it expected? No. There were health problems, we see here, but from what we see, all has gone exactly as was planned.
We understand you’re sad, but we’d like you to focus more on: She completed a life, she’s in spirit now, she’s learning from this experience, sharing with the other spirits what it was like, what was felt, what was learned, and leaves lessons for you and the family.
And so we’d advise you to ask yourself, besides the sadness, what have you learned from your mother’s life? What did she teach you by her actions? How did she respond to problems? And how did she move forward in her life?
Your mother’s passing was set up to teach the family, and we see there’s a lot of chaos that’s gone on there. And now each person, because of this shock, must learn to deal with a mother transitioning, understanding this is how she planned to end this reality and what your mother was all about. Each person is to learn about themselves through this transitioning, and that is the most important thing. We here know she’s among us and she is fine and she is happy, and when she’s ready she’ll create another reality and move on.
And so your lesson and the family’s lesson in all of this is, what did you experience? How is this experience helping you to move forward in your life? And to come to a place where you can focus on the thought that she’s very happy. And where she is, she can see you, she can see how you develop, and how you move on. And even from that, she will learn. And perhaps in her next incarnation, she’ll use what she’s learned from seeing you do what she’d want, to create in her next life. And so it’s all about creation. it’s all about what was experienced, and how to move on.
Bob: Vibrationally Aware asks if her mother has a message for her and her siblings, in addition to what you’ve already mentioned?
Council: The message always is that they send you love. The message is: Try not to separate within the family, and be together when it’s possible. It was important for her to know that her presence could somehow hold this family together. And from where she is, she’d like to see how you move forward. And so when you can, stay together. Show each other love. Try to understand each other, and that would make her feel happier, from where she came from to where she is now.
And the answer to all questions about how to improve your life and your reality is to be grateful for everything, have positive thoughts, and send yourself and others love.
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Do My Partner and I Share Any Past Lives Together?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Newlove, who says: I currently find myself in a relationship that happened a bit unexpectedly, but it is very welcome. My partner feels we may have shared past lives together and we’re merely continuing a previous life because we came together so easily. Have we had past lives together and can you tell me more about them?
Council: We see a past life in Athens, Greece where you were both born into slavery, you were cousins, and you were both household servants together who had a wonderful life. The family you were in service to treated both of you very well. You could work in the home, but you had time to go out on your own in the villages. Everything you did, you did with your cousin.
As cousins you worked in the home together, you went out and explored the towns together, and everything was so easy and so loving for both of you. You used to say to each other that all you need was to get married, but you couldn’t because you were cousins and you were both males.
You were so happy in that life that you wanted to come together again and have the joy you had before, with a little bit more independence, but to continue the happiness that you experienced in your past life. So the feeling of knowing each other and wanting to be together is coming from this lifetime in Athens.
Bob: Any other lifetimes that have a bearing on their current life?
Council: This Athens lifetime is the one that’s affecting their current life. So we ask Newlove, what do you want to do with this information? Are you comfortable with this? Do you feel there’s more that you want in your current relationship? When you think about it, does it make you feel good? Or is this something you maybe don’t wish to go into in your current life?
Look at where you are, what you’ve come through in your current life, and what you’ve learned from your past relationships. Does this person have the characteristics you want? You can’t base what you’re creating now on what you created in your lifetime in Athens. It’s different. You’re different people. There are different lessons you want to learn.
Look at this relationship as something brand new. And look at how this person is in this relationship. If it’s going too fast, you have the power to slow the relationship down.
Don’t go into this relationship thinking: this is wonderful, we had a wonderful life together, this is going to be great, and this is going to be easy. There are new lessons you want to learn in your current life, and you’ll know by watching your partner if he’ll be able to go along with what you want. And can you support what your partner wants in your current life, not in the past life?
You’ve come here to have fun, to find each other, to have a good relationship, but then to look around and ask yourself if this relationship meets your needs, and go in that direction.
Remember you are the creator. If you want a lasting relationship, of course you begin with visualizing how you want the relationship to be.
If there’s something you’re worried about that’s holding you back, it would be your higher self knowing what else you want to create in this lifetime, and you will create it. What you see in this other person, is that going to be good? There’s no reason to rush. You’ll get exactly where you’re supposed to be.
Newlove: He’s all in the relationship, but I may be a bit hesitant to go all in.
Council: So we ask you to ask yourself why you’re hesitant? What do you see in the relationship that’s going on? Why do you have that feeling? Search these thoughts and meditate on them. Remember your past life was a beautiful one, and somewhere in your subconscious you both know that, but what’s going on now? Your current life is a whole new life.
Newlove: Do I have cause to be hesitant and worried?
Council: This is what you need to figure out. And you’ll learn if you have cause to worry by watching the relationship, and just living your life day to day and seeing where it goes. It’s a learning process. There’s a lesson in this. Most important is to follow your feelings. If there’s a bit of hesitancy, follow that feeling. Keep your eyes open and just watch. There’s no rush. You are the creator.
Newlove: Or is this the relationship that will last and bring us the most happiness for the rest of this life together?
Council: It did this in your past life. Will your relationship bring you lasting happiness in your current life? If that’s what you want and you do the work to create it. If you can visualize it, and see it, and feel good about it, then you can create it. It’s all up to you.
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Why Don’t I Have A Good Relationship With My Mother?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Ilona, who asks about her relationship with her mother.
Ilona: I experienced difficulties that were a great challenge for me from the time I was young. My mother always perceived me negatively and didn’t show me as much love as my two sisters.
Council: You set this experience up yourself in spirit. From the very beginning you wanted to learn the lesson of independence, the lesson of accepting others for who they are, you wanted to learn about boundaries, and you wanted to learn how to let go of things and move your life in the direction you wanted. As a young child you began to have feelings that perhaps you weren’t good enough, feeling you weren’t accepted, and so your path began.
Ilona: I’d like to know why my mother doesn’t need me in her life? Why is she pushing me away? Did I hurt her in any way?
Council: There’s nothing you’ve done to hurt your mother, but in spirit, before you came into this reality, you and your mother set up the kind of relationship you’re having. What feels to you like your mother is pushing you away was an agreement you made with her so that your life would be difficult and you’d have to be stronger. And in finding your strength you’d feel very proud of yourself.
In 2020 my mother had a stroke, and in the first few months I felt like our relationship was getting better. That was until my youngest sister moved in with her. Since then my relationship with my mother has been tested again.
Council: Go back to this time when your mother had her stroke and you thought your relationship was improving. How did you feel about this? How do you remember this time? This is the feeling you’re looking for again, but you set it up so you’d feel this way whether you had your mother’s approval or not. This was a taste to remind you of what you were looking for, and then it was taken away. This was all your choice on a spiritual level.
Ilona: After my youngest sister moved in, my mother doesn’t respond to my messages, and doesn’t want to talk to me when my sister isn’t there. I suspect my sister doesn’t want me to have a nice relationship with my mother and only wants to keep my mother to herself.
Council: Whether this is what your sister wants or not, how do you feel about your relationship with your mother? It’s up to you to make up your mind and go in the direction of what you want to happen. It’s a lot of work to look at this relationship and decide if this is what you want. Is it too difficult? Or can you look at it and learn your lesson and feel good about yourself, whether you have your mother’s or your sister’s approval or closeness with them.
What can you find about yourself that makes you feel good? Is it somewhere else in a different relationship? Can you accept what your mother and sister do, send them love, and let go? If you can’t send love, can you just let go? Because what you’re looking for isn’t to be found in this relationship. This relationship is to get you to look more at yourself, to find out about yourself and the kind of person you are, what you’ll allow, and what you won’t allow. It’s about boundaries. The bottom line is you’re supposed to learn about yourself, love yourself, and feel good about what you accept, and what you don’t accept.
We’re not sent to Earth to suffer and feel horrible. We’re sent here to look at these lessons and to find a way of dealing with them, whether letting it go to make you feel good, or whether it’s pushing forward to see what you can do. When you realize you can’t change another person, can you accept them for who they are? See them and speak to them when you feel like it, or completely walk away. These are all decisions you wish to make. You wish to take your life in the direction you find more comfortable and more loving for yourself.
Ilona: Why is my youngest sister so manipulative?
Council: It’s the part she chose to play and that you both set up and agreed to in spirit. So if she’s manipulative, do you want this in your life? Do you wish to fight against this? Or can you accept your sister for who she is and know that she has her own lessons to learn from this kind of behavior? And then not focus on how manipulative she is, but how – now that you see it – that’s something you don’t want around you, and move forward appropriately.
Ilona: What can I do to improve my relationship with my mother?
Council: Always send your mother and your sister the energy of love, whether you understand them or not. And decide to be there for them when they want you to be there, or completely let go. You must make the decision. Remember you can’t change another person. You can accept them for what they’re doing because you don’t know what they’re trying to learn in their reality. Focus on yourself and what you want, and move in that direction.
Ilona: Is there any hope for me?
Council: There’s always hope. On an energetic level you can picture them changing. Picture them calling you. Picture them asking you to meet with them. You must do the work on an energetic level first. You can do this if it’s what you want, but you first have to decide what you want. Work energetically with them and you’ll see the change begin to happen. There’s nothing you can do physically in your reality to get them to change. You can see the change happen when you constantly focus on how you want your life to be.
Ilona: Is there anything I should know right now?
Council: The most important thing is to concentrate on yourself. See how your relationship with your mother and sister is going. Decide what you want. Do you want a relationship? Do you not want it? Then work energetically. Even if you decide it’s not what you want, picture your relationship going in different ways, but happily. Imagine they’re happy without you in their lives and you’re happy without them in your life. Always come from a place of love, letting go, and everyone feeling the happiness and joy that’s intended when you learn lessons.
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What Can My Family Do To Help My Brother Overcome Drug Addiction?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, PE, who says, I recently found out my younger brother has been abusing drugs. What can my family do to help him overcome this addiction?
The Council says #1, don’t blame him or be angry with him for this addiction. This is something he chose to go through. Be supportive in every way you can. Make suggestions on what he can do, and then leave it up to him to follow them. When your brother gets tired of being in this situation, he’ll change. We see he’s planned in this life to have this drug experience, but also to overcome it.
There are lessons for all concerned. There are lessons for you, your family, and your brother on going through this, how to handle it, and how to have patience, love, and understanding. Stay away from blame and anger. Be supportive and suggest any kind of help you can find. Part of the lesson is finding help and letting go. Your brother must find his way out of this addiction.
While this addiction is going on, constantly ask yourself, How do I feel? What would I do if it was me? How can I understand this? What would I want? When you have these questions answered, you’ll know how to move forward in this situation. Above all, have patience and compassion.
PE asks, Is there a purpose for this drug addiction? The Council says: Yes, there is a purpose. Your brother chose to experience drug addiction to go through it, and to feel what it would be like. He chose it to feel how strong he’d be when he finds a way out of this addiction. He chose it to see how the spirits around him, including you and your family, would respond to him when he’s in his addiction and when he gets better.
There is a purpose. Your brother wants to go through this addiction to learn. Everyone concerned agreed to go through this experience to learn. Search your feelings to see how you’ll respond to him.
When you come into this reality your purpose is to take every situation and change it with love. That’s your answer to your question about the purpose of your brother’s addiction.
The Councils says they send everyone blessings, love, and happiness. And we ask you all to search for joy and find it any way you can, every day.
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Why Did My Boyfriend Stop Communicating With Me?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Momof3, who’s following up on our post, What Can You Tell Me About This Man In My Life? She says thank you so much for your response. I’ve been practicing what you suggested and was taking it slow and following my boyfriend’s lead. The signs I was getting from the universe were positive and I really felt like I was connecting deeply with this person. Was I wrong, because he ghosted me? He basically stopped communicating with me out of the blue and didn’t answer when I asked why. I thought everything was perfect and he just stopped. Do you have any idea why he did that?
The Council says at this time, a relationship with you isn’t what this man wants. Not knowing how to handle this, which is part of the lessons he wishes to go through, he just pulls away. We feel he can go back and forth on this issue until he realizes what he wants in his life. For you, knowing that he’s not ready for a relationship with you at this time, can you let this go? Or do you still want to do the inner work to create this relationship?
Momof3 says, I’m devastated and I feel disappointed and hurt for opening my heart to him. I don’t understand why he did this, especially since I felt we were so spiritually and deeply connected in a positive way. I don’t have any hard feelings towards him. On a soul level I feel he’s a good person and I still want to pursue a relationship with him. The Council says the way to pursue this relationship is to send this man love, wish him well in his life, and not try to bring him back. Wish him the happiness he’s searching for with the understanding that he needs to go through his own private challenges. In doing this the energy becomes lighter and more loving.
If this man is afraid to be trapped in something, this energy you’re sending him will change this feeling of fear. If he’s afraid you want more than he’s able to give you, this energy you’re sending him will also change this feeling. This is the way you move forward in this particular part of your life. If you still want a relationship, send him loving energy, wish him happiness, and always be thinking about how you wish the two of you can be together. If that’s now what you need at this time, send him love, light, and happiness. And hold in your heart the image of how you’d like this relationship to be. Make sure there’s no pressure. This is the message you give going back and forth while this situation continues.
Momof3 says, I know he has his free will whether he wants to pursue a relationship with me or not. And I guess he doesn’t want one even though I did want a relationship and I tried to manifest it. I’m wondering what I did wrong, or what I need to change so this doesn’t happen to me again. The Council says you didn’t do anything wrong. There’s the experiences you had together, and this man is learning from them, and hopefully you’ll learn from them. What do you want? Do you wish to go through this experience again? Do you wish to change this experience? Do you wish to let this experience go and create a relationship with someone new? The choice is always yours.
Momof3 says, I don’t want to go through repeat situations if it’s my lesson or if I need to change. Can you shed any light on this? The Council says you need to decide what you want and work with this energetically. There’s the challenge of you look at your behavior in the relationship. Decide what you think was positive and what you think was negative. What would you change to look at the relationship and see and hear clearly what this man put out to you in his words and behavior? Learn from this, then move on with your life and see which way you want to go with this relationship.
Momof3 asks if there was a miscommunication or does he just not want me? I followed my heart and my intuition. I thought we were awesome together, that we wanted the same thing, and that we could actually even complement each other. I was wrong. Now I’m doubting my own intuition and my spiritual guides, which upsets me because I can’t trust any feeling I have now. I felt like I listened to my intuition and was confident in the signs that I trusted were from the universe and my spirit guides regarding the relationship and moving forward with it, but it turned out to be wrong.
The Council asks what you learned from this? What are these signs you’ve seen, and how does that help you move forward? Look at the signs. Did you read them correctly? Everything is there when you go back into the relationship and, step by step, look and see what went on for both of you. What went on for you? What did you think? What are the words and actions this man used with you? As you learn from this you won’t have to repeat this experience.
Momof3 says, I don’t know how to let go of this situation. Can you give me any help? The Council says you let go by wishing this man love and light, and then with your imagination create a new relationship and the way you want it to be.
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How Can I Processes My Childhood Abuse?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Denisa, who asks about her childhood trauma. She says, I learned from The Council I chose this experience, but no matter how hard I try, I don’t know how to process it. The Council says, So you’ve learned about the trauma. Learning what you’ve gone through is enough to let the trauma go. Just knowing you created it to feel what it was like to go through it and change it to make it better.
Many people will ask, How do I process this trauma? And every day they think about it over and over in order to process it. Thinking about your trauma over and over only keeps you locked into it. We suggest not thinking about your trauma. You may feel this is strange advice, but when you don’t have those traumatic thoughts and pictures in your mind, it’s easier to go through it. It’s easier to process it by understanding you created this trauma for whatever reason and that’s it – the end. Don’t stay in your trauma thinking there’s some long drawn out purpose to it or process in it. There isn’t.
Instead of thinking about your trauma and how to get rid of it, leave it alone. Let it go. Take your mind and focus on other things, joyful things, things you wish to create in your life because thinking about that, you’ll create it. That’s the way you get through this trauma.
Denisa says, I’ve been working on myself a lot and sometimes I’m grateful for that experience, and sometimes I feel lost and don’t know what to do next. The Council says working on yourself doesn’t mean you go looking for all the things that are wrong with you. We suggest working on yourself by taking a positive attitude. When you have these positive thoughts, and when you can smile and feel good, that’s how you’re creating a better life for yourself.
Denisa says, I’d like to heal the pain I experienced as a child and move on. The Council sees you’ve gotten through this experience. The only pain you still experience is what you cause yourself by thinking about the trauma and remembering it over and over. You’re now creating more pain for yourself, which is keeping you in that painful situation. Change your thoughts. That’s how you let the pain go.
Denisa says, I haven’t spoken to my father in over 10 years because of the way he treated me. I’ve tried to connect with him in the past, but he’s very self-centered and manipulative, so I completely cut off contact with him. Do you think it’s okay that I don’t want to be in touch with him? The Council says of course it’s okay. He’s showing you what you need right now about how he is, and there’s no joy for you in that relationship. It’s what you’ve worked out in spirit. He’d create more uncomfortable feelings so you could walk away and let it go. This is part of him helping you to let go of that part of your life. Being around him wouldn’t make it easier. For what the two of you have worked out, communicating with your father will keep you in the trauma. It’s fine to let your relationship with him go.
Denisa asks if she and her father agreed go through this trauma on a spiritual level and The Council says, Of course. The agreement was to bring this trauma in and create an uncomfortable situation to learn from it and to see if you’re both in a place to heal it, or because of what’s going on in your lives, the healing wasn’t possible by staying together. And so one or both of you would create a situation where you can’t get along, and that’s the way you let go of this trauma, by not being around it. Stop keeping this in your mind and actively thinking about it. This is a gift that you give to each other to move on now.
Denisa asks what lessons did my father and I want to take from this experience? The Council says to learn about abuse, to learn about forgiveness, to learn about boundaries, and to learn creating joy in your life is what your life is all about. You don’t come here to suffer and be miserable. You come here to find a way to experience joy in this lifetime, to create it for yourself, and to help others find the joy they want. Help others in little ways to feel this joy. That’s your purpose.
Denisa asks if she and her father shared any past lives together. The Council sees a past life in Ireland where you were male cousins running an inn, and that was a very good life for both of you. You went through hardships. At one time there wasn’t enough food or enough money. There was a lot of community fighting. You learned to stick together and work through these diffuculties.
In your current life you wanted to understand how you’d handle another difficult situation, which was created by the abuse. Could you work through this? And does working through this abuse mean it’s okay to let it go and experience your life differently and seperately? That’s what’s going on now.
When Denisa finds herself focusing on the abuse that took place in her life, it’s a good idea to find something more pleasant to focus on. She can even think about the past life in Ireland where she had a very good life with the man who was her father in her current lifetime. Completely let go and know you’ve gone through this challenge of abuse. This separation is the way you both spiritually found to handle it. Now stop thinking about it and focus on creating how you want the rest of your life to be.
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Why Do I Attract Abusive Behavior Into My Life?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Waimarama13, who asks: Why do I keep attracting abusive behavior into my life no matter how hard I try to keep myself safe? When I think I’ve closed the door on abuse, it finds me again in unexpected places and ways. The Council says with all the work you’ve gone through, the part of abuse you haven’t focused on is your fear of it. As you go forward and meditate, go into the fear. What does it feel like? What thoughts does it bring up? It touches on the part of you that feels alone, that feels a victim, that feels helpless. In your meditations, ask to see the source of what this fear is bringing up. It’s not necessary to go back into past lives about this.
How do you handle this fear? Do you ask for help when you’re abused? There’s no need to be alone in this abuse. There’s no need to feel frightened and confused. The part of you that’s strong and connected to spirit wants to handle this fear in a very adult and calm way. Have you reached out to get help for this abuse? What are the steps you take? We’re not talking about the boundaries you create to help yourself.
Waimarama says, I’ve been through three abusive relationships in my life and I ended the last and worst one in 2017. I’ve never had a healthy relationship with a kind and respectful man, and all I want in my life is to settle down with someone nice. After the last relationship ended I did so much work on myself to gain knowledge, strength, confidence, and self-worth to ensure I never got into another relationship like that again. I also did spiritual work. To this The Council repeats that Waimarama hasn’t dealt with the fear.
Waimarama says, I vowed my home would be a safe zone free from abusive behavior. For two years I’ve been with a nice man who treated me well, but now even this relationship is on the verge of ending because he can’t cope with how my youngest daughter behaves, and I can’t cope with it either. I’m so confused about why this is happening. The Council says it’s happening because you’ve all pre-planned it.
Waimarama says, This time it’s my eight-year-old daughter who’s abusing me. She’s an extremely lovely girl, but she’s mildly autistic, which means she has a lot of trouble with her emotions, especially anger. Her dad was my last abuser and I feel she’s learned his abusive behavior, but when she’s angry she’s actually treating me worse than he did.
2021 has been the worst and hardest year of my life. Early this year my daughter told me her dad and new stepmother were abusing her. I took over her full custody, went through court to fight for her safety, and eventually won. The Council says while you were doing all this with the thought of protecting your daughter and taking full custody, what have you done to prepare to take care of her? What are all the ways for you to get help for your daughter? Pulling her out of an abusive relationship is a wonderful thing, but your work doesn’t stop there. Your daughter has her lessons, which coincide with your lessons. Even though this is pre-planned, it’s up to you to make the environment what you want. Are you calm and strong when you see your daughter is becoming emotionally upset? When you see there are touches of violence coming from her, what do you do in the beginning?
It would be wise for you to teach your daughter about spirits. Teach her how she can reach out to spirits that are there to help her. Play games with her about energy. There are many wonderful books you can find and read with her about energy. Teach her to feel it. Teach her to know spirits are around her, loving her, and helping her through everything she’s going through. It would be nice to sit and speak of happy thoughts. Plan happy adventures, and start redirecting your direction and her direction. Instead we see you in fear, whether you feel it consciously or not, waiting to experience her next outbreak of violence. With the fear and your waiting for it, you’re pulling it in.
Waimarama says, While we were going through court my daughter broke down emotionally and her behavior, which was already very bad, turned insanely bad. She viciously attacked me many times, was very destructive, and could barely sleep at all due to long night terrors that lasted hours every night. She was also extremely violent during these night terrors.
The Council asks what are you doing when this is going on? Do you realize your daughter is helping you deal with your lessons of fear, lessons of being a victim, and lessons of being alone and helpless? And you’re helping her with becoming more than she is, and to have a greater understanding of what’s going on. These lessons that you’re bouncing off each other are right there in front of you. It’s important your daughter sees you’re getting her help. There are many places that will help you deal with the violence and abuse and how to physically stop it.
Teach your daughter about spirits when she’s angry. Start with the color red and see the number seven, as a game. Next can you see the number six? Six is orange. What else do you see with the number six? Let’s move on to the number five. Five is all yellow, almost like a daisy. What does that five feel like? Now let’s go to four. Four is all green, like a Christmas tree. Then we go to the number three. Three is all blue like the sky. Can you see clouds with the number three? Then we go to number two. Two is a beautiful dark blue. Are there stars in the blue? When we get to one we’ll feel wonderful. It’s purple. Can you see the purple around the number one?
You can do this as many times as it needs to be done. It will bring your daughter’s emotions down and will have a calming effect. Start slowly. As she does this, do it with her and tell her what you see. As you explain it to each other the emotions are blending, and with your intention you’re helping each other. Bob asks if associating the number and the color with locations in the body is a good idea and The Council says it’s too much at this time.
Waimarama says, I thought I was going to lose my mind and that I might have to give my daughter over to foster care to look after her. I also called the police quite a few times. Luckily in the last two months she’s been pretty good, calmed down a lot, stopped being violent, and isn’t so aggressive. I’ve spoken to her about how this is a peaceful home where we don’t attack each other. She says she understands, but she also says she can’t control herself when she gets angry. The Council says this is the feeling of being uncontrollable, which is one of your daughter’s issues. The colors and numbers will help.
Waimarama says, Unfortunately in the last week she started getting aggressive and angry again. Last night she kicked me in the face so hard she injured my neck. I feel so dejected, disappointed, confused, and let down by life. The Council says this is understandable, but what physical actions are you taking to help yourself deal with this, learn other methods to give your daughter the help she needs, and learn how she can understand what’s going on and help herself? It’s all about her learning about herself, what she needs, and asking for it. And it’s also about you asking for help as you go through this. You’re both helping each other with the challenges you wish to experience in this lifetime.
Waimarama says, I’ve done everything I can to keep myself safe and to ensure I only have respectful and safe relationships in my life. The Council says you can see everything you’ve done, and everything you think you can do isn’t working. There’s always more.
Waimarama says, Now it’s my own child who’s abusing me, and because I’m the only one who can protect her from her father’s abuse, I’m trapped with her, protecting her while she abuses me. This is so unfair. The Council says you’re protecting your daughter from her father’s abuse, but who’s protecting you? Why aren’t you taking further steps? Everything must be done on an energy level first. Work with the colors and the numbers. Take as much time as you can to see your daughter getting better. See the calmness come over her. Direct your thoughts to help you have the relationships and the calmness you want in your life in the future.
Waimarama says, I just can’t understand why abuse keeps following me like a bad smell. I realize there must be some kind of lesson to learn, but I thought I’d learned it by strengthening myself and my boundaries. When my child starts abusing me I wonder what the lesson must be. I haven’t willingly invited this abuser into my life. She’s my child and no one chooses to have an abusive child, or a child with neurological and emotional problems. The Council says, As a spirit you’ve willingly invited your daughter’s abuse into your life. Many people have also chosen to have a child with these problems, and you have chosen this also. As your daughter’s spirit came along to work with you, she chose to be this kind of person to help you.
Waimarama says, I’m concerned for my daughter’s future. If she behaves like this when she’s eight years old and unable to control her extreme rage, what will she be like as a teenager and an adult? Will she get herself into trouble abusing and attacking others? The Council says of course she will, unless you do the work and you work with her.
Waimarama says, I’m such a peace-loving person. I don’t know how to deal with my daughter’s problem and help her to change for the better. Obviously my peaceful ways haven’t had any positive influence on her over the years. I wonder where this is coming from within her, as I’d like to be able to help her. Has she learned this behavior or inherited it from her father, or is it her autism, or both, or something else? The Council says the autism was created and pre-planned by the two of you. That’s a part of the problem. What she’s learned from her father has also been part of the problem. Seeing you unhappy, in victim mode and not knowing what to do about it instead of being in your strength, which is the place you want to get to, is also a contributing factor. As you help yourself and you help your daughter, the situation will all come together.
Waimarama says, Will I ever be able to keep a nice man and have a healthy relationship? I’m forty-five years old now and because I’m having this huge difficulty with my daughter, I feel like there’s not much hope left. My lovely man says it’s too much for him to deal with and that he doesn’t want these problems in his life. Just when I need my partner the most, he leaves me to deal with this situation on my own and distances himself from us, which hurts so much and breaks my heart.
The Council says, These problems aren’t part of what this man wants to create in his life moving forward. We understand you’d like a partner, but before this can happen you must get to a place of strength, independence, and knowing how to handle what’s going on in your life. Your focus should be on your daughter, how to help her feel better, and have tools to make herself better. When you have this up and running, the right man for you will come into your life. Before that happens and before you start putting all your energy into finding a man, work on yourself, and see yourself happy in the future. You don’t need to know how this is going to happen. Just imagine yourself and your daughter are happy and everything will begin to fall into place.
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Twin Flames, Soul Mates, and Future Lives Together
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Rose, who asks The Council about soul mates and twin flames. She says, I was in a relationship with a woman for about 5 years, but we clashed a lot. So I left for one year and was in a relationship with someone else.
My grandmother passed away and I traveled alone to the funeral. Something told me to contact my previous love. When I returned home I decided I would leave the woman I was with for a year who was my fiance and pursue a relationship with my previous love. Two days after getting home and bringing my original love back into my life, my mother passed away. This shattered me, but my original girlfriend kept me afloat through it.
The Council says this is a role that you and your original girlfriend have played together many times. You’ve been a support of any kind that’s needed in each reality that the two of you have created.
Rose says, The love I have for my original girlfriend is something I didn’t think was possible and it’s grown stronger since we were together the first time. Once as she was leaving my house she looked at me funny and said, It’s like another part of me is staring back at me, like an extension of my soul. The Council says this is because we’re all one, and sometimes what you see in the other person is a part of who you are. When you see great love and recognition in another person, you’re seeing the love you have within you and the spiritual part of yourself.
Rose says, While I have no doubt that this woman being in my life was planned in spirit, I’m not sure what her role is. Is it possible that she’s my twin flame? The Council says she is not a twin flame, but you are part of the same soul group that has chosen to come together many, many times. There’s great comfort in this relationship in each reality, whether you’re being a mother, father, siblings, or friends. It’s something you’re very used to.
Many people believe being a twin flame means you are created at the same time and you go through many lifetimes meeting each other. There’s great recognition as soon as one meets the other, and you have this great feeling that this person you’re with is part of yourself.
Bob asks if twin flames have anything to do with one soul being born into two bodies and The Council answers that twin flames can come in many different ways. It comes when you’re in spirit and there’s a blending with another spirit so the two of you feel as if you’re one, but this feeling isn’t felt in every lifetime.
When you feel this connection it’s you, in your current lifetime, connecting to all the lifetimes you’ve been with this other soul where you’ve changed roles. As time passes there’s a recognition that begins to get stronger and stronger, but it’s started in spirit where you both begin.
There’s a blending of spirits and you always want to learn the same lessons, and you have a desire to be of support. That’s why you have such a connection. It’s such a feeling of great love because you’re recognizing this other spirit subconsciously and you’re feeling the love, but because there’s such a connection you begin to feel and understand the love you have for yourself.
Rose asks if it’s possible for this woman to be her partner again in another lifetime. The Council says it all depends on what you both decide in spirit. If this is something you both want when the two of you are planning another reality, you can make this happen.
Rose says, I can’t imagine spending a lifetime with a different soul. I understand I have lessons to learn that other souls may need to teach me, but is it possible our souls will decide to pair again romantically? The Council says in your relationship you have a desire to share what you learn from other souls in your current reality. What you each learn you share with each other, and this will continue into the other realities you create if this is what you want. You are the creator.
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Is My Life Purpose to Save My Husband from Himself?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Amy, after she read a post we wrote called, “Help Leaving an Abusive Husband“. Amy says she wishes she read that post four years ago, but I probably wouldn’t have understood it then. I shared every emotion and felt every pain of the abusive relationship this woman spoke of about the struggle of leaving. I spent ten years of my life trying to live with this inner hell or fix it for the sake of my children, my career, my house, fear I’d be less happy alone than in an abusive relationship, and on and on. I placed one obstacle in front of another giving myself a reason to stay. I lived in fear and obsessed about the emotional abuse and my husband’s substance abuse I was allowing myself and my children to be subjected to day in and day out.
The Council says it’s wonderful you can look back and see what you allowed to happen. Now you can see how your marriage affected you and your children.
Amy says she spoke of nothing else to my friends and my therapist. For a long time I thought I was being punished and this was my fate. The Council says they hope you realize there was no one punishing you. It was an experience you needed to have and to work through, to see it and go forward with your life from where you are.
Amy says thank God I found teachers like you, Abraham, and several others. Over the last 18 months I feel I have come so far. I’m in the process of divorce, at peace with it, and I can’t wait to see how the next chapter of my life unfolds. What used to feel hopeless now feels limitless. I’m okay with not knowing, surrendering, and having big dreams. I don’t feel the abuse like I used to. It feels far away from me now and I’m starting to see the lessons my husband taught me. If only I made these changes ten years ago perhaps I’d have been able to save my marriage.
The Council says you couldn’t save this marriage on your own. These were experiences you wanted to have. Now that you’ve gone through it and experienced the challenges and the hardship you wanted, now you’re able to change your life.
Amy says through meditation I’m trying to see my husband and I feel sorry for what I see because I don’t think he loves himself. The Council says the emotion of feeling sorry for your husband doesn’t do either of you any good. You need to send your husband love and light even if you don’t agree with what he’s going through or how he handles it. These are his lessons.
Amy asks The Council if her life purpose is to help her husband and save him from himself. The Council says no, it’s not. One of the things you agreed to before coming into this lifetime was to help your husband with his challenges, watch him, see what he’s going through, and learn from these experiences. You didn’t agree to save him. What you’re supposed to do is send light and love. You can’t get your husband to change. This is something he has to come to in his own time. Helping and understanding doesn’t mean staying in an abusive relationship. Send him the energy that’ll help push him through his challenges if and when he’s ready. That’s your purpose.
Amy says I feel like I failed my husband and our children on some level because I’ve been down this road with him before. The Council says you haven’t failed your husband or your children. Remember, in spirit before you came into this lifetime, you, your husband, and your children agreed to experience what you’ve been going through. They’re all lessons you wanted to experience. Know you’re on the right path. How you handle what you experience will make it change for you. It will help you to see it in a different way and help you move through it.
Amy says my Mom fell ill and passed away and my husband made this time very difficult. That was the catalyst for me. The pain brought me to a spiritual awakening and I’m now so thankful. The Council says we’d like you to pay attention to what you’ve said, which is the pain that brought you to a spiritual awakening. The pain did what it was supposed to do.
Amy says that was two years ago and asks The Council if this is guilt. The Council says of course this is guilt. It’s part of the human condition, but it’s not necessary. Remember that you, your children, and your husband are spirit and you’ve all agreed to create the drama that’s been going on. How you look at this and change it, and how you look forward with thoughts of happiness that you can create whatever you need to create is what’s important right now. Always send each other light and help them, but accept them as they are.
If your husband doesn’t behave the way you’d like him to behave, it’s because he’s still working on his challenges. Your husband isn’t in your life to meet what you expect from him. Wish him well, send him love, and hopefully when he’s ready, he’ll move through his challenges.
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Can I Create My Next Life While I’m Still in My Current Life?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the initials, SG, who says they’ve had a spiritual awakening, learned about soul contracts and reincarnation, learned how amazing heaven is, and learned that the soul never dies. SG says they’re a gentle soul in the middle of extremely difficult people, including members of my family.
The Council says you desired to be a kind of role model of peace, understanding, and positivity in your life, and in your desire for this you’ll attract some chaos and people with problems. By your actions and words you can teach these people to think and behave in different ways than they’re used to.
SG says, I tried to help everyone around me, but I learned they’re on their own journey and I have to allow them to learn their own lessons. The Council says this is excellent. Once you have that understanding the rest of what you create in your current life should come easily.
SG says, I know exactly the life I want in my next incarnation. Am I able to create it so it becomes my reality when I’m in heaven planning my next lifetime? The Council says your current life isn’t finished, so are you sure you know exactly what you want in your next life? They advise SG to live out their current life and create your next life when you return to spirit. You can imagine right now how you’d like your next life to be, but we suggest you concentrate on living every moment of this life. Be aware of who you’re pulling in to your circle of friends and how you are with your family.
You can begin to think about something you’d like in another life instead of your next life. Be open to creating what you want some time in your future. If you think, in my next life I’d love to have five children, when you get back to spirit and see what you’ve learned, you may change your mind and want no children. But you can think, in one of your future lives I’d like to experience having five children. I don’t know when I’ll be ready to create that life, but that’s something I’d like to experience. The Council encourages SG to be flexible in terms of which life they experience their desires because this automatically happens when you return to spirit.
We’re giving you a hint that more things are coming into your life you’d like to include. Some things are also coming you wouldn’t want to include in your life. Enjoy this and you can make a running list of what you think you’d like in another life, but not necessarily your next life.
The Council says when you review your life in spirit you see things differently. There may be situations in your current life that were meant to be created and these situations may change the idea of what you want in a future life. When you go back to spirit things are very different. You’re always surrounded by love. You learn very quickly. And you can help people on Earth while you’re there or choose to return to Earth right away.
The Council says of course you can begin to create what you want in another lifetime, but we guarantee you’ll change that thought when you return to spirit. You can create what you want your heaven to be like. Whatever you imagine is not even half of how wonderful it is when you get there. Just enjoy your present moment and you’ll be wonderfully surprised when you get there.
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What Past Lives Do My Friend and I Share?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, CuriousPisces, who asks if a friend and I have any significant past lives together, what were our roles, and how does it impact our current life? My friend asked me why someone like me has come into his life because he feels closer to me than others and feels a spiritual connection.
The Council says you shared many lives together. The most recent they see you were female he was male and you were both medical doctors during World War I. You worked very well together attending to the soldiers.
Look in your current life. The closeness you feel for each other, is it that you’re in sync with each other? That’s the closeness you had in this past life during the war. And you wished to experience this closeness again, but not during a war. You wanted to experience a lifetime during peacetime where you could see how much fun you could have together just knowing what each other thought. And you desired more happiness and free time in your current life. This is the most recent life and the lessons you want to experience in your current lifetime come from that lifetime.
The Council says it was part of your planning in spirit before you came into this life to have a romantic relationship together in your current life. You planned for your relationship to develop according to what else was going on in your lives. You allowed each other the freedom to have someone else come into your lives, but you wanted a close relationship and it could go into a permanent intimate relationship.
The impact of this past life on your current life is the intimacy between the two of you, but not under the pressure of war. There was a lot of tension in that life during World War I and not much time to enjoy life. Your friend died during the war. What you planned in this life was to be in a peaceful situation and not under pressure. You wanted to find things you both enjoyed and have the time and freedom to experience that together.
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Can I Forgive My Brother Without Having Him in My Life?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who says they’ve never had a close relationship with one of their brothers. The Council says you’ve had close relationships in other lifetimes. One of your brother’s lessons was to not be as kind in your current life as you’ve experienced him in a few other lifetimes. One of the things your brother wanted to experience was being difficult and seeing what that feels like. He wants to learn about this and bring it back to spirit.
When your brother became very difficult you agreed in spirit to try and still love him and not find fault with him. One of the lessons for the two of you is forgiveness. He wants to learn to forgive you if you turn away from him. But mostly he wants to forgive himself for not being able to control when he becomes mean or very negative to people. You want to learn to accept him the way he is and be able to forgive him.
The Council says when your brother becomes negative, mean, and unapproachable, which is all part of his lessons and what he chose to experience in this lifetime, his acting out is supposed to show the people around him the state he’s in. This sort of behavior isn’t meant to be about the people he’s insulting or hurting. It’s meant to show the people around him how your brother is hurting inside and how lost he feels. This is just part of the lessons your brother chose this lifetime.
When you’re able to realize your brother’s behavior is a choice he’s making, look at what these choices are teaching you. This was pre-planned in spirit so the people around him would learn how someone who’s hurting doesn’t know how to show love. Your brother tries to hurt others in some way because he hurts so much.
Anonymous says she tries to avoid her brother and say very little to her parents, siblings, and even my husband about him. The Council says this is a good choice.
Anonymous says she knows her brother needs compassion and The Council agrees. She asks if this is something she can do without getting involved in her brother’s life and The Council says of course. Forgiveness starts with understanding your brother is hurting a great deal for many different reasons. You don’t have to put yourself in your brother’s presence and experience this hurt yourself. Send him love, light, and good thoughts that he gets to a place where he can feel comfort. And wish him success in what he needs to experience.
It’s good to remember your brother chose this path. If you want him to change when he hasn’t learned the lesson he planned to learn from behaving the way he does, it would mean you’re trying to stop him on his learning path. Allow your brother to be the way he is. From a distance send him thoughts of success and happiness so he can go through this difficult journey and learn what he wants to experience.
If you can’t send your brother love, you can send him the thought of you forgiving him for hurting you or others. Wish him the joy and happiness of being able to travel this path and learn what he wishes to learn. Or you can send him white light to protect him on his journey to help him stay in touch with his higher self and perhaps find another way to be.
The best way you can send your brother love is to allow him to be the way he is, as hurtful as he is to others and himself. There’s a purpose for his behavior and you’ve all agreed to participate in this. Allowing is the first step of love and forgiving.
Anonymous asks The Council if she and her brother have unfinished business. The Council says the unfinished business is that he wishes to feel love from you and know it’s there, even if you can’t be around him. If you cross paths or speak, always treat him with kindness because he needs this. Remember you agreed in spirit to experience your brother this way in your life. It’s a difficult journey for him and for the people around him. What’s unfinished is for your brother to feel accepted by you, if not now, eventually. This doesn’t mean you need to be around him. You need to learn about forgiveness and allow your brother to be who he is. That’s what you both planned and what remains unfinished.
When you can allow your brother to be who he is, even if he’s not consciously aware of this in his physical form, his higher self will know and allow your brother to somehow know there’s forgiveness and acceptance, even if he’s still not in a good place. Forgive your brother the best you’re currently able.
Anonymous says she worries she’ll marry her brother in her next life. The Council laughs and says this is possible if you choose to. The Council understands you don’t want to be married to him the way he is in your current life, but things would be totally different in a new life.
Anonymous asks The Council what she needs to do to finish her experience of her brother. The Council says to send him love and light. Accept him and know he’s very brave to choose the lesson he’s chosen. He’s having difficulty within himself so when you send him love and light you help him on his path.
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Why Were My Friend and I Brought Together in this Lifetime?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Laura, who asks The Council about a man she met a year ago named, Eric. We have a special connection, but we’ve also both been going through difficult times in our lives since we met. I believe one or both of us has been going through a dark night of the soul and we talk to each other and see each other only occasionally because of this.
The Council says a dark night of the soul can last from many days to several years. During this time there’s no moving forward. You have no direction. Faith in yourself and in this life is lost. And you question your beliefs. The Council doesn’t see you or Eric are going through a dark night of the soul right now.
You’re waiting to make a connection to spirit, and the way to do this is to question yourself. Ask yourself who you are? Is there more than me in this body? When I imagine things, who is doing the imagining? When I question my life and my beliefs, who is doing the questioning? When I sit back and watch what I’m doing, who’s doing the observing?
When you become familiar with energy and you can play with it and perhaps learn to see it and feel it, you’ll understand everything is energy. When you leave this lifetime you leave behind your body, but you have a chance to claim another lifetime. You can be in spirit and learn from what you’ve gone through in your physical life. You can help others who are still in this reality. And you do all these things without the physical body you’re in now.
Learn easy ways to meditate, or have the confidence to sit still for a few minutes a day and have your thoughts run through your mind. What is it you’re thinking of? What visions appear in your head? You’ll always receive guidance from your higher self.
This is the time for you and many others to go inward and find out who you truly are. It’ll be easier for some than for others. Question your whole life. Look at your childhood and look at your life now. What direction have you gone in? What experiences have you had over and over again, perhaps with different people, but the same experiences? What has brought you happiness in this lifetime? What do you find challenging? When you ask yourself these questions you can begin to connect with who you truly are. As you acknowledge the reality of this question-asking process, the information will come to you about the direction you wish to go in.
If you get depressed and sit around not asking these questions, you won’t be able to find the answers. If you don’t like your life, know that you can create your life differently. This is the time you’ve created so you can go inward and find these answers.
Laura asks why she and Erica have been brought into each other’s lives. The Council says it’s because you’ve been helpful to each other in other lifetimes and played many different roles together. You are a comfort to each other. As Eric goes through his lessons and you go through yours, you will learn from these experiences. It’s good to share what you experience, what you find out, what you question, and what you believe. And always share when you get that ah-ha moment or that feeling of light and understanding. This will help you both.
Laura asks if she and Eric will be together someday. The Council says this is up to the two of you. This was what you planned while you were together in spirit. It’s what you wanted. The Council closes by advising Laura to relax, visualize this goal happening, and work towards it.
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Comparing Ideas of Abraham and Robert Schwartz on Learning
This post answers questions from a reader named, Lindsay, who’s reading Your Soul’s Gift, by Robert Schwartz and really enjoying it. Before reading this book she was reading Abraham as channeled by Esther Hicks, and was having difficulty reconciling these two points of view. Abraham says you can be, do, or have anything you desire, and Rob talks about a spiritual pre-life plan that includes suffering to help you learn and grow.
The Council begins by saying you don’t pre-plan every minute of your life while you’re in spirit. You plan some lessons you want to learn, and some of these are very pleasant and some are challenging. If you’ve chosen a lesson that causes a lot of pain and suffering, you have the free will to change this spiritual plan while you’re in human form.
Abraham says you can be, do, or have anything you want in this life and The Council agrees. They also say this can sometimes take a lot of work and focus. Many people have problems doing this because they figure if they focus for a day or a week that’s enough to change things. Sometimes it takes a lot more focus and time. During this time you’d be learning patience, researching what you want, and getting into it in more detail.
When you’re in spirit and planning to come into a physical body the challenges you wish to go through as a human are difficult, but in the spirit world you think you can handle this. You think, let me see how I can turn this situation around and bring more love into it. And we in spirit, guide you any way we can to help you get through whatever it is you want to learn. In your human form things can be challenging, but in your spiritual form you are learning and growing. When you return to spirit you’ll be able to bring what you’ve learned back with you and all spirits will learn from it.
Robert Schwartz’s books deal with why we pick challenging experiences, what we can learn from them, and how these experiences will affect the people around us. Abraham is lighter. He says you’re in control and you can change your life. Just imagine what you want, see it, feel it, and you can create it. Both of these points of view work, but they are coming from different directions.
Not everyone plans to suffer through their life and not everyone plans to be happy all the time. Life is about experiences. Everything you go through, whether it’s a happy life or a challenging life, is experience to learn and grow from.
When you choose an experience that’s difficult and you’re in pain, you can change this by meditating and remembering who you truly are as a spiritual being. You have all the tools you need to get through this life and change it. If you want a difficult experience there’s a way to get through it. Meditate on this and see your situation the way you want it to be.
The purpose of Robert Schwartz’s books are to demonstrate more understanding of why people suffer. People who are suffering want answers. They ask why they’re suffering and why are they going through what they’re going through. Robert Schwartz sheds light on this. His information is very important to the people who need to understand why life is so difficult for them when they think they would never chose to create these difficulties.
When you read some of Robert’s stories you begin to realize they make sense. At one time or another, in one of your many lifetimes, you will have challenges. It will be difficult for you, but it’s because you wished to experience these challenges.
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What is this Loving Relationship Trying to Teach Us?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Hornetto, who asks a question about a loving relationship that’s mutual in one deep sense, but not in another and he doesn’t know how to define this love. He says this relationship is a soul contract and he wonders what it has to teach the two of them.
The Council says when some people talk about a soul contract they think this is the person for the rest of my life. A soul contract can just be someone you meet, even if just for a little while, that comes into your life, you experience things together, you help each other through different experiences, and then the two of you move on to other relationships and other soul contracts. Some people create many different loves in their life and The Council says they are all soul contracts.
The Council says they see the relationship Hornetto is asking about is for a time. He’s not meant to be in this relationship for his entire lifetime. You’re there to help each other, challenge each other, bring up lessons for each other, and move within those lessons to find understanding. And when you don’t understand you begin to question yourself and you no longer need that person to help you heal or work through your lesson. This person came along to be a catalyst for you to face what you want to heal and to know you can do it yourself.
The Council asks Hornetto what he’s learned from this relationship. What are the up parts and the down parts? How does this relationship make you feel? What does it remind you of? What lessons can be in this relationship? When you part you can still work on these lessons.
Hornetto asks The Council how he can make the best choices for both himself and his partner and The Council says it’s not your place to make choices for another person. Go within your heart and choose for yourself. It’s not your place to force something to happen, but to just flow with the situation. The whole time you’re in this relationship be grateful for it and what it’s there to teach you. Be grateful you’re both there to help each other try to heal.
The Council repeats that this relationship was planned in spirit to be for a limited time. They say this can change, but for this change to occur Hornetto must work on the lessons the relationship is teaching him. When you learn to heal yourself the relationship will have a better way of healing and if you both want to stay together you’ll then be able to.
The Council closes by saying these two people are together to bring up the lessons they need, but begin with the lesson of abandonment and you’ll figure out the rest of your lessons in time.
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What Lessons Can I Learn From My Deteriorating Marriage?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, Heartbroken, who says her marriage is in shambles because of an individual. She wants to separate from her husband, but he wants to be in the marriage. Heartbroken wants to know what lessons she’s supposed to learn from this experience because she doesn’t understand what to do.
The Council says they see a lifetime not to long ago in Germany that relates to Heartbroken’s current life. In that life Heartbroken was a female who didn’t have any compassion, commitment, or understanding of the people around her and she expected perfection from these people. There was no patience with other people. Heartbroken had many suitors in that life and if they didn’t meet all her standards she’d leave them heartbroken.
In your current life try to understand where the other person is coming from and what they’re experiencing. Have patience and commitment with other people. At the end of your life in Germany you were very lonely and you had a lot of regret for how you treated people. In your current life you want commitment to people so that you don’t experience the loneliness you experienced in Germany. You want family and love. In your current life you want to learn about understanding, emotions, and commitment.
If there’s another person in your life and you think it would be better to get out of your marriage and be with this new person, if the lesson of patience and understanding hasn’t been learned, you will find fault with this person and want to move on to a new person. And this scenario will continue in your life until you stay still and try to understand where the other person is coming from.
What makes your husband behave the way he does? Is he asking for forgiveness? Is there a true desire to come together? Instead of throwing your marriage away is it possible for you to understand your husband better and move forward?
You need to get to the lesson in your experience. Do you understand why your marriage is in shambles? Is there a point where forgiveness can be given to your husband and then move on if you feel this is necessary? The main thing here is to understand your husband because in your past life in Germany you never bothered to understand people.
What is your role in the marriage? Why is it in shambles? What is your responsibility for your actions? Understand why your husband did what he did. Look for compassion, understanding, and forgiveness and then move on from your marriage if this is what you want.
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Questions About Creating Other Lifetimes
This post answers some follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named, Hubert, to our post, How Do We Create Probable Selves That Have Different Parents? where we talk about the idea you can create anything you desire. He asks if he chooses to create a reality and he wants certain spirits in that life as family members, are those spirits now bound to participate in that reality simply because he has this desire?
The Council says no spirit is ever bound to participate in a lifetime simply because someone else has the desire for them to be in it. You’d discuss this desire with these individuals while you’re still in spirit and if they wish to participate in that life in order to help you or learn lessons they need to learn, as long as it’s in the direction of what they want to experience they’d agree to be in your life.
These decisions are made in spirit beforehand based on what each spirit wants to learn and if it’s a good fit for them. Consideration is also given to whether you’ve been together in previous lifetimes and you need to work something out or expand on some aspect of what’s already been experienced. If all the souls involved agree in spirit to participate in another lifetime then they would agree that somehow in that life you would meet. Sometimes you know ahead of time when this meeting will occur and sometimes you don’t know.
Hubert says there’s a person he’s calling “J” who he’s somewhat acquainted with and feels a connection to. He asks if he’s shared any lifetimes with her? The Council says there was a lifetime in Ireland that stands out where Hubert had difficulty speaking, had a stutter, and had difficulty pronouncing words so he could be understood. In that lifetime J was a teacher and was very patient with Hubert, helping him to speak and write in order to improve his communication.
Hubert asks if he was to create another lifetime with J as a sibling or a parent, does he create this lifetime on his own or would there be other factors? The Council says everyone creates what they desire and who they want in their life, but it depends on whether J agrees to come into that lifetime again and work with Hubert.
The Council says if J doesn’t want to come into Hubert’s life there are other spirits Hubert has worked with in other lifetimes that would come forward and agree to play the part Hubert wants them to play. The Council adds that if a specific life is desired with J, then the time would come where they both agree on this and create it together.
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Who Am I? Where Am I From? And What Is My Purpose?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Kristie, who starts by asking, who am I and where am I from?
The Council says Kristie is a wonderful spirit made of love and light who’s chosen a journey into a reality she wishes to create. You have a physical body to get around in and you create a personality in this reality. When you return to spirit at the end of your physical life, the body falls away and the personality stays with you so you can learn from it and share what you’ve learned with other spirits.
The Council says you’re from the great source; the energy that manifests into many things. You’re from many planets and many lifetimes. You’re part of the whole and you’re never alone. And you are part of the collective unconscious from spirit into this humanity.
Kristie asks if she’s found her mission in life yet. The Council says your true mission is to take whatever situation you find yourself in and make it happy. When you focus on being happy the vibration within you changes, the vibration around you changes, and you bring this vibration into this whole reality.
The Council says at one point before coming into this reality it was important for Kristie to have family and to learn how to understand people with difficulties. You wanted to create difficulties in trusting and believing in people to inspire the souls around you to understand you better. Even though you have doubts about how you’re treated and what people say about you, you wanted to take the chance and reach out to other people beyond these doubts and trust issues, even if some of these people don’t act in a way you appreciate or show you understanding.
If Kristie is unable to reach beyond her doubts and help others, then she’ll bring in the lesson of loneliness to deal with. Maybe she wouldn’t have many friends or not be close to her family. What would life be like when you feel lonely? And as you learn from this lesson, do you want to change it? Or do you want to continue on the path of loneliness for the rest of this lifetime to learn more from this and understand other people who are introverted and lonely?
There are many lessons and many obstacles that you planned so you could transform them and take a leap up the spiritual ladder and bring more love into yourself.
You wanted to learn about trust and The Council asks Kristie to look at these trust issues in her life. Have you learned to trust people? Are you afraid of what people say? or wonder if they’re honest? or if they’ll treat you right? You wanted to get past these trust issues so you could reach out and be there for other people.
Kristie was also very interested in history in her past lives and The Council says if she hasn’t looked into this by now, they suggest she read books and watch movies on ancient civilizations. She’ll derive a lot of happiness from this. You’ll remember things from some of your past lives, and some of this research will stimulate your memory and give you ideas of what directions you wish to go in now.
Kristie asks when she’ll begin to achieve her life purpose. The Council says she’ll begin right now because she has enough information from this post to start looking at how she’s lived her life, how she’s handled things, and the direction she wanted her life to go.
Kristie says today was a particularly rough and uncomfortable day. The Council says when you find you’re in one of these rough days, recognize that you’ve created this situation and ask yourself what you’re learning from it? What is it trying to teach you? What’s your feeling about it? Does it remind you of something? What’s the opposite of this feeling and then focus on that when you’re depressed or you’re having a difficult day. Identify your thoughts and feelings and then reach for a lighter thought.
The Council realizes it’s difficult to choose loving thoughts when you’re feeling down. Once you can identify the feeling and reach for its opposite, imagine what it would be like to think and feel better. This can shift your perspective and bring in love.
The Council closes by saying the peace Kristie is looking for is within her. It’s her job to look for it, find it, and bring it out. And they remind her again she’s the love and light of her spirit.
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Questions About A Very Satisfying Past Life Regression Session
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, She’s A Maineiac, about a past life regression therapy session she had last summer. During this session she traveled to another dimension that she assumes was the place we go when we experience what it’s like in between our lives we incarnate into on Earth.
She felt like she was floating in vast space, but it was incredibly peaceful and full of love and light. She felt her spirit expanding and all encompassing, like she was near the Source of all that is. During the session her spirit guides or higher spirits spoke through her and gave her advice. Her first questions for The Council are, who were these beings? Are they just my higher self?
The Council says these beings are your spirit guides that have been with you for many lifetimes and they’re here to help you plan the experiences you want to have during your next incarnation. They also help bring in other souls that would be interested in being part of your life. You get to speak with these guides in your dreams as well as when you leave this lifetime. Your higher self is there with your spirit guides, communicating with you in any way necessary to allow you to see, feel, and hear this connection with your spirit guides.
She’s A Maniac asks why she experienced this apparent time between lives rather than experiencing past lives like she expected to. The Council says at this time in her life she wanted to know what it’s like when you pass over to the other side. You also wanted to know the feeling of peace. She experienced this because it’s something her higher self knew the physical part of her wanted to experience.
Where you went many souls can go at night while they sleep. It’s a place you experience between your Earthly lives. You go there to become refreshed and to re-energize yourself. You are in the highest spiritual energy when you’re there. You can learn more about this place between lives by reading books by Michael Newton. If you wish to return to this place between lives and remember being there you don’t have to be regressed. You can ask to go there before you go to sleep and ask to remember it.
She’s A Maineiac asks if her spirit guides see whether she’s heading down the right path in her life or if she’s stuck? The Council says there’s never a wrong path for you to go down and there isn’t any stuckness. Sometimes you’re waiting for additional information or new ideas to come through from spirit and help you further down your path. This is where you were at the time of this session. You’ve come to the point where you wanted to open up more spiritually and have more understanding of the spirit world.
Incorporate that loving feeling into your everyday life and you’ll see positive changes in your life. Things that bothered you before will no longer bother you. Your higher self is telling you this experience is needed at this time so you can go further on your path and become more enlightened.
Whatever path you choose, you’ll learn the lessons you planned in spirit. You’ll get to where you want to go in this lifetime and have the experiences you wanted. Whether you choose to learn from these experiences, enjoy happy things and invite more of them into your life, or whether you wish not to learn the lessons from the harder experiences, how you learn to accept what you create will bring you down one path or another. There are easier paths and harder paths, but you are on the right path. We don’t see any stuckness.
For all of us there is one path or another and you choose what path you go down. And when you choose and you don’t like the path you’re on you can change your mind and choose again. Your guides are always with you. You receive information every night, whether you recall it consciously or subconsciously, it will come to you when you’re at a point in your life where you need this information. It will come to your conscious mind as an idea, or something you see or read, or some other way.
She’s A Maineiac closes by asking what was this dimension I went to during this session? The Council says it’s Nirvana, it’s Heaven, it’s a place of holiness, it’s a place where you experience only good. You connect with spirit strongly there. It’s a place of light and love. The name you give this place doesn’t matter. What matters is that you remember the feeling you had while you were there.
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I Don’t Know How to Move Forward in My Life
This post answers questions from a reader named, Garnet, who says she doesn’t have a father in her life, and she was her mother’s replacement for a husband she never had, a replacement for a mother her mother never had, and a replacement for friends her mother never had.
The Council asks Garnet, because she has a mother and grandmother that acted in certain ways, what does she think the lesson for Garnet is? When you tune into this lesson you’ll see the parts that made your mother’s life difficult and made your life difficult. Do you want to continue living with these difficulties? You don’t have to behave the same way your mother and grandmother behaved. You can take the giant leap to know this isn’t how you want to be. This isn’t how you bring love into your life and to others around you.
Your mother and grandmother are two very brave spirits who have lived their lives to show you how they affected you. How can you change your life moving forward. This is a magnificent lesson for you to learn, experience, and now bring love into this lesson and change your life for the better.
Garnet says she doesn’t know how to move forward because she’s lost her sense of self. The Council suggests if Garnet has friends who have loving families, watch them. How do they relate to each other? What part of that would you like in your life? If you don’t have friends with loving families, you can learn how to move forward by watching TV shows or movies of families where the mother and father are good parents and the children are learning, growing, and experiencing happiness.
You’ve learned from your family the lesson of how you don’t want to be. You can now look at other people in your life or TV or the movies and this can teach you how you want to be moving forward. Focus on how these people bring happiness into their lives and show kindness to themselves and others.
Garnet says it was because of an unrequited love in her life that she was able to unload her problem with her mother, but she doesn’t feel grateful for her mother’s role in her life. The Council says perhaps not right now, but as Garnet gives her relationship with her mother more thought, she may come to appreciate her role in Garnet’s development.
The Council tells Garnet that when you’re in the vibration of feeling sad and not feeling love for her mother, her family, and for herself, how can you expect to draw in a partner that loves you? The first thing you need to do is understand you are a brave spirit for coming into this difficult situation and start loving yourself. When you begin to love yourself you’ll bring a loving partner into your life.
Garnet asks why she went through this experience with her mother and what’s she’s done to deserve such a bad life? The Council says Garnet planned this life in spirit so she could turn it around. Then she’ll see the second part of what she planned, which is a happy life – the kind of life she wants. But first she must change her vibration by changing what she focuses on.
Now is the time to understand it was a tough lesson that you picked. Now The Council has given you some explanation of your life, and your job right now is to feel good about yourself and to find the second part that will be more of what you want.
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Questions About an Abusive Separated Husband
This post answers questions from a reader named, Jolanda, who says 18 months ago she ended an 8 year relationship with her verbally and emotionally abusive husband, but because they have a child together they communicate almost daily, which gives him opportunities to manipulate her emotions.
The Council doesn’t think it’s necessary to have contact with your husband almost daily. It’s something you need, but your husband doesn’t. Is this because you don’t want to let go of your husband? If this relationship is hurtful, why would you want to stay in it? You can co-parent a child without having daily communication with your spouse.
One of the lessons you’ve created for yourself in this lifetime is protecting yourself and learning how to make boundaries. The Council says they don’t see this boundary-making happening. There’s no need to punish yourself. If you can begin setting these boundaries you’ll feel a little more powerful and you’ll allow the relief and healing to come into your life.
The Council says they don’t see a reconciliation with the husband occurring at this time. Recognize him as a spirit on his own path and learning his own lessons. You feel the love for him because you recognize him as a spirit. Wherever he is on his path, you can love him and let him go, and make the boundary to protect yourself, and change your life to a more powerful and peaceful one.
Jolanda says she and her husband agreed a few weeks ago they weren’t getting back together and she feels betrayed that he’s apparently moved on with a new girlfriend. The Council asks Jolanda to find the energy to understand this agreement between the two of them. And if he changes his mind and says he wants to be with her again, can she make the boundary and say, “No. Enough. I can’t be in this type of relationship.” Instead of waiting to see where your husband is in this relationship, make your own boundaries. Think about how you’ll move forward and how you can get free from this relationship and find the happiness you wish for?
Jolanda says she’s pining for the love she had with her husband and wishing for someone else to love, but feels like she’ll never love anyone but her husband. The Council says the love she and her husband had isn’t there right now because there are lessons Jolanda needs to learn. Wishing for someone else to love is a wonderful direction to go in. Focus on this. What kind of person do you want in your life, down to every detail you can think of? And be ready to let this relationship in? When you can focus more on the new person you want in your life, things will change in this direction.
Jolanda says she feels her marriage was a divine bond and that she and her husband are deeply connected at a soul level. The Council says of course there’s a soul connection. This relationship was all agreed to in spirit so you could discover the role of independence, the role of boundaries in your life, the role of speaking up for yourself, and the role of learning how to protect yourself.
The Council closes by telling Jolanda: When you begin to love yourself enough to protect yourself; when your begin to believe there’s another way, and there’s more for you, and the soul who is your husband needs to go on with his lessons; when you begin to focus in a whole new direction on what you truly want in your life; The Council promises Jolanda her life will begin to change for the better.
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It Doesn’t Make Sense to Me That If Something Doesn’t Work Out in This Lifetime, You’ll Have Opportunities in Other Lifetimes
This post answers questions from a reader who goes by the name, Anom, who says in many of our posts there is a concept that if something doesn’t work out in your current lifetime you’ll have opportunities in other lifetimes to work it out, and this doesn’t make sense to them.
Anom gives an example of two souls who agree to be in a relationship in their current lifetime. One of these souls turns around and decides they don’t want to follow this agreement after all, but the other soul remains interested in keeping the agreement. Anom asks: Does this mean the person who remains interested in the relationship will have to keep reincarnating with the person who decided not to pursue the relationship until the two of them are able to create this relationship?
Anom goes on to say that in our blog you can see questions from people who are in deep pain because of situations like the one Anom describes here. Anom says it sounds very unfair that one soul would have to keep trying to create this relationship when the other soul chose not to follow the original agreement.
The Council says the two souls will only reincarnate and try to create a relationship together in another lifetime if this is something desired by both souls. Spirit can change it’s mind and say, I don’t need to work out this relationship with you. The soul who was interested in the relationship can find another way to get the experience they desire. There isn’t any right or wrong way to accomplish what the two souls intend to accomplish.
A spirit doesn’t plan a life and say, “Oh gosh, I have to go through trying to create this relationship again because we didn’t pull it off in the last lifetime and there are these lessons we need to learn.”
The spirit who wanted the relationship can say, “There are other things I wish to learn right now and we can create this relationship in another lifetime, maybe going about it differently. Or perhaps I can pick another soul to help me with the lessons I wished to learn with you.”
The Council says spirit always knows nothing is lost. Spirit can find what it is looking for and work it out in your current lifetime; spirit can choose not to work on these lessons for many lifetimes; or spirit can choose to jump in the next lifetime and work through these lessons with the same soul. It’s always the choice of every spirit involved in the situation. And the situation isn’t as fixed as Anom appears to think it is.
Anom says even in our blog we have questions from people who are in deep pain because of situations like the one Anom describes. The Council says this is because these people don’t remember they are a spirit within their physical body. It is because they don’t allow love into the situation. And it’s because they don’t allow the other person to be who they are.
When you’re aware you’re spirit and you know that no opportunities for growth is lost, you allow the other person to be who they are, and you allow that person to grow and to learn what they need to learn. And you’re allowing yourself to grow and learn other things or you may learn from the situation. Understand that you and the other person are spirit and there are many ways you can bring love into this reality, which is the main reason you are here on the Earth path.
Anom says it sounds very unfair that one spirit would have to keep trying to create the relationship because the other person didn’t want to follow their original agreement. The Council says this relationship is only created in another lifetime when both spirits agree to follow that particular plan.
When you think there are other roads you can follow beside creating the originally agreed to relationship, and you’re able to focus on something you desire rather than on being disappointed and suffering and having to try this relationship in another lifetime, you’ll experience something else you’ve planned.
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I’m Depressed and Nothing Feels Real
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Harmony, who says she has a problem with the idea that each person creates their own reality, because this idea feels like nothing is real and everything is replaceable. Her questions are in response to our recent post, Learning About Spirituality, But Has Fears and Doubts, which attempts to answer Harmony’s earlier questions about being filled with fear, doubt, and questions about her spirituality, which replaced her feelings of joy and peace she previously felt from learning about spirit. (Note: Harmony apparently posted her original question using the name, Lola.)
The Council says everything is replaceable, and everything in this reality is real. When this reality comes to an end for Harmony, she’ll go back to being who she truly is as a spiritual being and the reality she was living is no longer real for her. The feeling Harmony has that things aren’t real is because she intuitively knows they’re only temporarily real.
The Council says Harmony has created everyone in her life. She’s created these people with the understanding from these souls who wish to be in her life. You have the power to bring in souls and lessons you wish to experience. No one is creating in your life but you.
The Council says while Harmony knows this reality doesn’t feel real, it would be wise to change her belief to: eventually she’ll become the spirit she truly is, and she’s created this reality to learn from it. This reality is something she wants to experience, but she’s in charge of who comes in and out of her life.
Meditate on the idea that you’re close to connecting and understanding your higher self. Your reality is temporary and you’re in it because you wish to be. You wish to go through these difficult thoughts so you can learn from them.
You are this intelligent soul that creates some realities to be light and easy, some realities where it’s difficult physically or mentally, and there are realities where you’re brought on a spiritual path you don’t understand and you need to ask questions and read about it and meditate. You need to listen to your ideas, whether they’re positive or negative, and see where these ideas bring you. Each step will guide you to questions and answers until you can connect with something you’re comfortable with.
Harmony asks if love is only a construct of belief and The Council says love is the only thing that really exists. Love is truth, love is reality, and love is who you are and we all are. Love allows you to have doubts. It allows you to create any kind of life you wish and to learn from it or not learn from it. Love has created everything that is. And if you’re not experiencing love, it’s not because there’s an absence of it. It’s because you’re not allowing love in.
Harmony asks if the people around her are created by her and change according to her beliefs? And The Council says that’s exactly how it is. Then Harmony adds that this idea scares her and makes her feel alone. She wants other people to be real. The Council says the people around Harmony are as real as she allows them to be. There are souls that are in Harmony’s life to play whatever part she wishes them to play. And it’s because of the love we all have for each other that we come in to play these parts.
The Council advises Harmony to sit still and concentrate on her heart for as little as 10 minutes a day, look for a little light that shines there, and allow this light to grow more and more. Clarity will come.
Harmony closes by apologizing if others find these questions uncomfortable, and The Council says Harmony has created the uncomfortableness to learn from it.
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Why Did I Have an Accident that Severely Hurt a Family Member?
This post answers a question for The Council from a reader named, Laura, who asks why she had an accident where a family member was severely injured? Laura still feels very guilty about the accident and it’s affected her whole life.
The Council begins by reminding Laura that in every lifetime you create there are lessons you wish to learn and experiences you wish to have and work through. Laura’s current lifetime comes from other lifetimes she’s gone through were she didn’t allow herself to understand the abuse other people went through.
In your current life you created this accident to experience it’s feelings so you could learn from them. In the other lifetimes you’ve experienced where there was abuse, murder, suicide, and deaths in families and in relationships, the one thing you didn’t learn was forgiveness.
In other lifetimes you weren’t able to forgive the people around you who committed accidents. You didn’t understand why these people weren’t punished, or if they were punished, you thought it was never enough. The Council asks Laura if she’s punishing herself in her current life. They see she’s still not understanding the reason she created this accident.
This accident was agreed upon in spirit by everyone involved in it. Can the person who was injured live a good life with their disability? Can the family of the person that was hurt understand what happened? They all agreed to go through this experience and most of them are also working on forgiveness.
Read about past lives, how people learned from their other lives, and how they affect your present lifetime. When you realize what the lesson is from this accident, can you begin to forgive yourself and focus on how all the souls involved also had many lessons to learn from it? Instead of punishing yourself or holding onto grief and not forgiving yourself, can you imagine how you played your part? You really wanted to experience this accident because in so many other lifetimes you weren’t able to forgive others. Now you’ve brought this accident into your life so you can learn forgiveness.
The Council recommends Laura read, Your Soul’s Plan, by Robert Schwartz, or any book by Brian Weiss on past lives. When you read these books and see how people have created misfortunes, diseases, and loneliness, you can begin to see what was created and what people were trying to experience and learn from, and you’ll understand more about why you’ve created this accident.
No one has created this accident but you and you can begin to see the purpose for it. Take the focus off the idea that this accident has tortured you your whole life and you can’t forgive yourself. The Council says of course you can forgive yourself.
It’s a big deal for Laura to learn this lesson of forgiveness in this lifetime. It’s a difficult lesson because it’s been in so many of her lifetimes, and she’s never understood and properly learned from it the way her soul wants to learn it.
Don’t be surprised when you get to the place of forgiving yourself. It will be a great relief. When you see how you’ve all come together to experience this accident and the forgiveness, you’ll begin to find love, first for others and then for yourself.
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Moving On From a Mistaken Soul Contract
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Eden, who’s read our post, A Broken Sacred Contract and How to Move On, and says she’s currently struggling with the same issue of a broken soul contract. Her partner ended their relationship recently and Eden feels this amounts to breaking a soul contract the two of them had together.
The Council begins by reminding all of us that spirit always has the ability to change, at any point, the lessons it wants to learn, implying that Eden’s partner has the ability to change a soul contract if this is his desire. But The Council goes on to say that what Eden and her partner planned in spirit for this lifetime didn’t come about in the way they planned and therefore the lessons they planned on learning couldn’t be accomplished while the two of them remained together in a romantic relationship.
The Council sees that Eden and her partner had been together in several lives before this life, and what they planned in spirit for this lifetime was for one of them to be the mother and the other one of them would be her child. As an alternative, one of them could be an orphan and the other spirit could be the teacher of this child. The lessons the two of you planned on learning were planned to come from the mother-daughter or the orphan-teacher relationship, not from a romantic relationship.
In your relationship with this partner he subconsciously felt there was something wrong, and his spirit knew this wasn’t the direction it wished to go in. Even though Eden doesn’t consciously believe she had a change of heart about being in this relationship, you both agreed, in spirit, to end the relationship so you’d be able to move on and experience the lessons you, in spirit, wanted to learn.
Now you’ll go off and have different experiences. The Council says you always have a backup plan. Some of what you wished in spirit to learn, will be learned along the way from other people. The Council says the mother-child or teacher-orphan relationship that was originally planned in spirit didn’t come about. And they say this only shows that at any point in your life you’re able to change what’s going on if the lessons you originally planned don’t materialize. And The Council assumes in a different lifetime the two of them will return to learn what they previously planned to learn in this lifetime from the mother-daughter or teacher-orphan relationship.
The Council closes by advising Eden to appreciate the relationship she had with her partner and wish each other the best. And moving forward knowing that Eden has lessons she desires,ask for these lessons to come forward into her life in her meditations and prayers, and life will answer Eden’s prayers. Eden will see that although her life is changing in a different direction from what she originally thought, there will be very interesting experiences that will come along.
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Learning About Spirituality, but Has Fears and Doubts
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lola, who’s been trying to learn about spirituality, but now she’s filled with fears, doubts, and questions that override the feelings of joy and peace she previously felt from learning about spirit.
The Council says the most important thing for Lola is to learn about herself. They advise her to meditate on the fact that she is spirit. As spirit you volunteer to come into this lifetime and work through different lessons and experiences to help yourself grow and to help others grow.
We all have our work that we come here to do. Everything you come here to do is decided on before you come into your current lifetime. You bring spirits with you that you’ve been with before. They come into your life to help you, or to make your life harder so you learn and grow. There’s nothing fearful in that.
Lola pre-planned in spirit before coming into this lifetime to experience these fears, doubts, and questions so she’d be able to work through them. The #1 purpose of every spirit is to come into a lifetime and bring love into whatever you’re creating. So if you’ve come into this lifetime with obstacles, you’ve asked for these obstacles so you can find your way through them and bring love into them. Take the fear you experience and turn it into love.
In every situation there are only two choices: fear and love. In which direction do you want to go? As you focus on love, you’ll find more experiences coming your way that will show you more love, show you happiness and kindness, and help you open up to who you are as a spiritual being. If you focus on your fears, you’ll bring more of these fearful experiences into your life and have to work through them to change your beliefs and what you’re experiencing around these fears.
We’re all coming from one source of energy, which is love. Each time you come into this reality you create another part of who you are as a spiritual being. When you return to spirit, everything you’ve gone through, the good and the bad, you take back with you and everyone in spirit learns and grows from your experience. We’re all one, and yet there’s the individual part of you, and that part changes and grows with each incarnation you have.
Lola says there’s a feeling we can’t escape from our creation of bad experiences. The Council says you can always escape from experiences by what you focus on. The more you focus on bad experiences, the more you’ll bring them to you. You need to begin to understand you’re a powerful spirit. You’re here to change things for the better. You are the complete creator of everything that goes on in your reality. No one else can create for you.
When you learn the most powerful tool you have is choice, and you think everything is scaring you and you don’t know what to do, what if you just try to see your situation differently? What if you try to feel happier and calmer? Beginning to do this will show you what you can change. There’s a positive aspect to your fears.
Know that you chose to experience these fears so you can change them and grow from them. You’re the creator. How can you change the things that are frightening you? Use your imagination and see things turning out better. See yourself safe. See yourself smiling and happy. If you can hold onto these images and feel what you’re imagining, you’ll see your life change. That is what you came into this lifetime to do.
In a past life in ancient Egypt you were one of the priests that taught children about energy, how you control your thoughts, and how you create your future. As a loving teacher you couldn’t understand why some of the children weren’t able to easily understand what you were teaching because it was so simple for you. So in your current lifetime you wanted to experience what these slower children were going through. You chose to make things harder for yourself by not knowing how to turn obstacles around into love with your mind. As you try these things again it will come to you easily because it’s something you’ll remember from this past life.
Lola asks if we’re able to experience evil so deeply that we forget our true nature as spiritual beings? The Council says, yes, if you focus on evil. Thinking thoughts like, evil cannot touch me, evil is an illusion, everything is from the light, I am safe, and I am love can be beneficial.
The Council advises Lola to learn about the chakras, their colors, their energy, and what they do. Surround yourself in white light when you wake up and before you go to sleep.
There isn’t good energy and bad energy. There’s only energy. What you do with this energy, how you think about it, what you want to create with this energy makes it good or bad. What do you want to do with energy? You’re here to learn how to change your thought, your situations, your experiences around you with your mind.
Lola says she can’t picture herself free of fear in the future, even if she’s surrounded by loving people. How can she overcome her fears and doubts if she doesn’t understand everything fully?
The Council says when you have these fears and negative thoughts, be still and acknowledge that you’re having these fears and thoughts and then ask yourself how you can turn them around and reach for the light within you. Look for a pinhead of light in your heart and concentrate on that light growing until it comes out of your chest and puts you in a capsule of loving energy. If you’re working to find this light within you, you won’t have time to focus on doubt and negativity.
Lola closes by saying she feels like she’s deviated too far from her soul purpose and The Council says this will never happen. You’ll find a way through these obstacles, whether it’s the easy way or some illusion that you create. And if you feel you haven’t succeeded, you’ll come back to another reality and try to find your way through these obstacles again.
You’re here to understand how you create with your mind and your feelings, and how you can change anything to be beautiful, to have loving energy, and to help you grow. That’s your purpose. You’ll never stray from this purpose. Whatever obstacle you create, it’s just you trying to push you to learn how to work through this obstacle.
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Learning Empathy Through Relationships
This post answers questions from a reader named Sarah, who contacted us recently about a friend who’s in love with her, but now refuses to speak with her. (We published Looking for a Meaningful Relationship in answer to that question.) Sarah recently had a relationship experience with a different man and asks The Council if she created this new experience to develop empathy for her friend she asked about earlier.
The Council says, yes, Sarah’s spirit called in a situation that is similar so she could see things from the opposite point of view.
Sarah says she’s developed deep feelings for someone who says he’s got a rare condition that causes him to be detached from a relationship. As she expressed her emerging feelings for him, he said he’s unable to feel anything.
The Council says this man is unable to have the same feelings Sarah has for him. They say this situation is similar to the other relationship where Sarah’s friend expressed love for her, but she didn’t feel love for him. And The Council says the man that she wants to have a relationship with now has made a personal choice to remain unattached, similar to Sarah and her original friend.
Sarah asks the purpose of the (so called) condition of the new man in her life. The Council says this is a condition of choice. He is able to decide to try and make this relationship work with Sarah. The Council advises Sarah to look carefully at what this man is saying about having a condition he’s unable to control. The Council says it’s a pattern in this man’s life when he doesn’t want to do something, to say it’s out of his control when it’s really his choice.
Sarah asks The Council if her current situation is providing the opportunity she wanted to create empathy with her original friend or is it more multi-faceted?
The Council replies that it’s multi-faceted, but it definitely also Sarah calling this new relationship in to understand how the man in her first relationship feels with her not returning his feelings. Now she’s created a situation where she’s involved with a man who’s not ready to return her feelings and this will give her some understanding and empathy for the man in the earlier relationship.
The Council asks Sarah if what’s going on in her current relationship is something she wishes to change into something more with her focus and desire. Or is this relationship something she understands and wants to go into further and learn additional lessons.
The Council suggests Sarah focus on what she perceives now and how she’d like things to be in the future. Send both men love on their journeys and accept these men the way they are. They are in Sarah’s life to teach her lessons and to bring out more empathy and more love for her to learn from. When Sarah is able to send this empathy and love out to others, it will change everyone.
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Choosing Two Abusive Marriages to Learn What You Want
This post is inspired by follow-up questions from Vacha who has been in an abusive marriage and has moved back to India with her parents. This is Vacha’s second marriage and both husbands were physically abusive.
The Council asks Vacha if there’s any question in her mind that she did the right thing when she left her husband. They imagine if you’re in an abusive situation, you’d feel comfortable that you had the power and the knowledge how to get out of this relationship.
Vacha asks The Council if she has any karmic accounts with her two husbands, and The Council says this in not the case.
The Council asks Vacha if she sees a pattern in why she chose these two abusive marriages. These have been lessons about awareness. The signs of abuse were there before each marriage. What has Vacha learned from these relationships? The Council says if Vacha doesn’t start asking herself this question, she will bring another abusive relationship. She has created this situation so she would learn about awareness, self-worth, courage, and how to create what you want.
Vacha asks if The Council sees her in a good relationship in the future. And The Council says she must do the work they describe if she wants a good relationship. Let go of the fear of what she’s experienced and let go of the question if there’s someone better for her. Focus on herself and find within the strength to believe she deserves better. Visualize a better life. Think of the abusiveness as a learning lesson and then let it go.
Vacha asks if there’s a chance she planned to have these abusive relationships before coming into this world, and The Council says definitely.
The Council says Vacha needed to fail in these two marriages in order to see what she wanted to learn. And she’s right on track; there’s nothing wrong here.
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Welcome
Bob & Cynthia
Welcome to Ask The Council, a blog where you can ask a group of loving and wise spirit guides a question and get an answer, for free. You can also contact us for a paid private phone session with The Council, and you can read the questions other readers have asked and the answers they’ve received. Other posts contain quotations from The Council that we hope you find inspiring, uplifting, and educational.
Ask The Council a Question
If there’s a question you’ve been thinking about and you’re curious how The Council might answer it, we encourage you to either use the blog’s Comments feature to ask your question, or contact us for a private phone session. You can click here to go to the ‘Let us know what you think about this post, or ask The Council a question’ section of this Welcome post and type your question there or you can type your question in the same section at the bottom of any post that inspires you to ask a question or leave a comment.
Since the blog is currently a project we do in our spare time it can take a while for us to do a session with The Council on a question and then publish a post on the session. Depending on the question and the session it can sometimes take weeks after a question is asked to publish a post with The Council’s answer. Please be patient.
The Council
Cynthia is able to communicate with a group of five non-physical spirit guides in a manner similar to the way Esther Hicks communicates with and speaks for the spirit guides, Abraham, and Jane Roberts communicated and spoke for the spirit guide, Seth. I (Bob) basically interview The Council as they speak through Cynthia during what we refer to as a session. Sessions generally last 5-15 minutes and are usually audio recorded. During the session Cynthia is aware of what The Council is saying and she also receives visual impressions and other types of telepathic communication from them.
The Council’s Basic Guidance
Since we began these sessions with The Council around 2009 they consistently emphasize a few basic ideas that we attempt to summarize here:
1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
Finding Your Way Around the Blog
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At the bottom of the left column on the Home page is a ‘Previous Entries’ link that will take you to a page with a list of earlier posts.
Blog Features
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Archives: The Archives list indicates the number of posts for each month listed. Clicking on the link for a month will display in the left column of the page a list of the posts published that month.
Categories: This is a list of keywords used to categorize posts. Posts can be included in more than one category, if applicable. Clicking on a category link will display in the left column a list of posts assigned to the category you selected.
Navigation Bar
The Navigation Bar at the top of each page contains a link to the blog Home page and links to the following additional pages:
Welcome: A link that displays this Welcome message in the left column (and the right column). At the bottom of the Welcome message is a Comment box where you can post a general comment about the blog or ask The Council a question.
Questions & Answers: Use this link to display a list of introductions to our longer posts, most of which are responses to reader questions. This is an easy way to check out these more in-depth posts. They are listed in chronological order with the most recent post on top. Clicking on the post title will take you to the page where you can read the complete post.
Contact Us: The Contact Us page contains a contact form similar to the Comment form mentioned above. The difference between the Contact Us form and the Comment forms is that the Contact Us form is a private message to us (Cynthia and Bob). It is not posted on the blog. Comments appear on the post page where the comment is posted. The Contact Us form can be used for communicating with us about private sessions or other private matters you think aren’t appropriate for posting in a public Comment.
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