Will I Have A Child With My Current Partner?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Sofia.
Sofia: I have a partner for one year now and really want to have a baby very badly. He has some financial difficulties (debts and bankruptcy of his company), and he’s working on solving these issues and getting stable. He says he also wants a baby after he’s financially stable. Then we can start planning for the baby and marriage. He has an eight-year-old daughter from a previous relationship.
In the beginning of our relationship, I got pregnant. Because of the situation, we didn’t continue the pregnancy. Of course, it was a difficult decision for me, as I’m ready, I have quite a good job, and an apartment, but I also want my partner to be ready for a child as well as myself.
My question is: Will I have a child with this partner?
Council: What we see here is that this can happen. Of course, we’d ask you to go into vibration, into a higher loving state of joy, and use the images to keep seeing that. But we would say to you, is this really what you want at this time? If someone else was to come along and you can create a baby with this new person, would you leave your current partner and go with the new one? We would not want you to go without a baby because you’re waiting for someone else to be ready.
And so we’d say discussion is needed on this. Does your current partner use images? Does your current partner want a baby as much as you do? You can move forward and have a child without your current partner being financially ready. And so if it’s something that you really want, it should be addressed. But we’d say to watch this for a while and see how you feel with the answers you’re getting when you talk with your partner about having children.
We do see in your current life, one way or another, you will create a child, and it’s all up to you. If you want a child with your current partner, then you must do the inner work. There’s nothing you can not have. And so be open to this. Be open to having conversations about children, about debt, and finances, and how you’ll handle your situation. You’ll see, by the answers you get, how you truly feel. It doesn’t have to be your current partner, and yet it can be if that’s what you want. It’s all up to you. You are the creator.
The lesson here is for you to be aware. Become aware of what you want, what your desire is, and do the work for it to happen. Be aware of what your partner wants. And that at a certain time, no matter what, you will have the child whether he’s ready or not. Be aware of the answers and you’ll learn about yourself, you will learn about your partner, and you’ll go forward and create what’s needed in your life to fill your desire.
Sofia: Can I do something for my partner so he can get stable with his finances more quickly?
Council: You can’t create for your partner. But you can, in your imagery, see it happening, see him getting a better job, getting more money, and doing anything where he’s able to pay off his debts. You can do that from your end, but your partner must do it from his end. So you can’t create for your partner, but you can create the energy to have what it is that you want in your life.
So when you create about your partner being in better situation financially, what you’re doing is creating that situation so you can have the child that you want. And so you’re both there for each other. So just use the imagery, use the feeling over and over again, things are moving forward and you’re able to have this child.
Sofia: I’m thinking about getting pregnant every day and every minute. It’s always on my mind. The feeling is so strong.
Council: But don’t think about having this child from a place of doubt. Do not think, I want this child, and I can’t have it now. Do not think, I want this child so bad, but it’s not happening. That will not create what you want.
So think of it every day as: How wonderful. I’m so excited to have this child. I’m preparing a life for this child. I can’t wait for it to happen. I’m so lucky. I’m so happy. That’s how you create. Do not create from doubt or from fear.
Sofia: Does this waiting have a purpose for me?
Council: The purpose is for you to learn about yourself, to learn about what is important to you, to learn about this man in your life, And so the waiting is fine. But we’d say, while you’re waiting, create in vibration. See it, feel it, and you will bring it forward.
Sofia: What can I take from this situation? I don’t feel much purpose at work, and in other things I enjoyed before. I just feel that the time has come for me to be a mom, and a wife, and focus on family for some time.
Council: And so if you’re not happy in your work, you can change what you do for work so that you feel better somewhere new. If what you want is to be a mom, then change how you think about your job, and think of it as, this job is giving me the ability to have money to move forward and have this child. This job is helping me to get everything together that I need to welcome this child into my life. So forget the thoughts of not wanting to be at your job and wanting to be a mom, because that’s coming from the negative.
And so we send you all blessings. And remember to have fun on this journey that you have created for yourself, and to have fun with the spirits around you that you have welcomed into your life. And always, always show kindness, and love, and compassion.
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Can I Manifest If I Have a Mental Illness That Prevents Me From Feeling Joy?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, Marylander, who asks: How does manifesting work if you have a mental illness that prevents you from feeling joy or staying in a good state?
The Council asks if Marylander is never in a vibration of joy? Do you never feel a moment of peace, or love, or happiness, or something that interests you and takes your mind away from sadness? Look for these moments and hang onto them as long as you can.
You can manifest when you’re sad or depressed, but it takes a longer time. If you can’t feel the joy you need to feel to manifest what you want into your reality, then try believing it’s somewhere within you. Look for pictures that represent something you’d like. Make a scrapbook. Look at these pictures every day and imagine how nice it would be to manifest what these pictures represent. This will make your energy a little lighter. You can do this.
Marylander says as a depressed person their emotions are mostly negative. They don’t feel they can control this and medicine makes things worse. The Council recommends becoming very aware of what you feel and then see what you’re thinking to bring this feeling in. Identify your thoughts and the feelings that come from these thoughts. It’s not always easy to come out of feeling down. What’s the opposite of what you’re thinking? What would you like? Make it up. Pretend.
When you want to change something in your life, be aware of what it is. Be aware of how you feel and how you’d like it to be. If you can get a picture in your mind of what you desire, that picture goes out into the universe and tells the universe what you desire. Even when you’re down you can look at a picture and perhaps it will change how you feel a little bit.
The Council says that because you feel you can’t create, they’re here to tell you you can still create. There will be moments of joy. There will be pictures to look at and wonder what it would be like to live like the pictures. This is the way you begin to manifest.
Marylander says there were two people they wanted to be with and they feel guilty they didn’t attract them as a partner. And they wonder if they were able to be more positive, would they have manifested these relationships?
The Council says if the relationship didn’t happen, what kind of feelings did it leave you with? Were you able to get past the “nobody loves me” phase and get to, “this is something I wanted. It didn’t work out. We must have created the possibility before we came into this lifetime. Let me look again and see what else is coming into my reality.” In other words, by focusing on aspects of the relationship that worked, they don’t have to attract the same person, but someone with the qualities you desire.
Marylander says they don’t feel capable of having someone be with them and The Council says this is the main problem. You have to change your thoughts. You are capable of having someone you desire be with you. You have to think of bringing in the right person for you with the qualities you want. And The Council asks what Marylander is bringing to the relationship? When you begin to think of “us” (you and someone else), the energy changes to help you create the someone else.
Be excited about the possibility of these relationships, but if they didn’t work out it was agreed upon in spirit. Your belief system for this lifetime was to become a stronger person, was to let go of doubts, and always know you can create something better than what you’ve experienced. And The Council adds this guidance is for everyone.
Marylander says they’re abandoned and alone. And The Council says how about thinking you’re in a state of creating the perfect partner for yourself. What would I like in this new person? And they suggest Marylander forget the idea of being abandoned and alone.
Marylander asks if it’s pointless to pray when they’re feeling abandoned and alone. The Council says it’s good to pray if you pray with positive thoughts. Examples include: Dear God, please help me. I know you will. I just need to be a little patient. Dear angels, bring the right person to me. I know you’re already doing it, I have to be ready to receive it.
The Council closes by saying the only thing that’s preventing Marylander from manifesting is themself and how they focus their thoughts. The point of being depressed is to learn how to bring love into the depression and to turn it around. And The Council adds to be patient with yourself.
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Choosing Two Abusive Marriages to Learn What You Want
This post is inspired by follow-up questions from Vacha who has been in an abusive marriage and has moved back to India with her parents. This is Vacha’s second marriage and both husbands were physically abusive.
The Council asks Vacha if there’s any question in her mind that she did the right thing when she left her husband. They imagine if you’re in an abusive situation, you’d feel comfortable that you had the power and the knowledge how to get out of this relationship.
Vacha asks The Council if she has any karmic accounts with her two husbands, and The Council says this in not the case.
The Council asks Vacha if she sees a pattern in why she chose these two abusive marriages. These have been lessons about awareness. The signs of abuse were there before each marriage. What has Vacha learned from these relationships? The Council says if Vacha doesn’t start asking herself this question, she will bring another abusive relationship. She has created this situation so she would learn about awareness, self-worth, courage, and how to create what you want.
Vacha asks if The Council sees her in a good relationship in the future. And The Council says she must do the work they describe if she wants a good relationship. Let go of the fear of what she’s experienced and let go of the question if there’s someone better for her. Focus on herself and find within the strength to believe she deserves better. Visualize a better life. Think of the abusiveness as a learning lesson and then let it go.
Vacha asks if there’s a chance she planned to have these abusive relationships before coming into this world, and The Council says definitely.
The Council says Vacha needed to fail in these two marriages in order to see what she wanted to learn. And she’s right on track; there’s nothing wrong here.
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How Can I Develop a Long-Term Romantic Relationship?
This post is inspired by a reader named Frankie who’s been in several relationships with men who haven’t been willing to make the commitment she desires. The Council asks if Frankie understands her partner doesn’t want a commitment, does she choose to stay in these relationships anyway? They feel there’s a part of Frankie that holds onto these relationships, even when she knows they’re not going in the direction she’d like.
Frankie is currently friends with a fellow she fell in love with several years ago, but the romantic part of the relationship didn’t work out. This fellow is currently in a relationship with a woman he intends to marry, and Frankie’s hurt by this because her friend is showing a commitment to his girlfriend that he never showed her.
The Council says coming into this lifetime Frankie wanted to know what was going on around her, and going forward in her relationships they recommend being aware if they’re what she wants. In this lifetime Frankie wants independence, awareness, and strength to be on her own. And this is one reason she hasn’t experienced a long-term commitment.
When Frankie is able to be on her own and love herself, she’ll have the relationship she’s looking for. It’s good for her to continue with relationships, but it’s good for her to be aware if they’re going in the direction she desires. And instead of hoping a relationship will work out, she wants to become aware of what’s going on and not settle for a relationship that isn’t exactly what she wants. She wants to be okay with moving on from a relationship she doesn’t want and being by herself for a while. And as she becomes more okay with herself, and loving herself, and knowing there’s more out there, she’ll pull in the relationship she desires.
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April 6, 2011 Daily Thought
There is a growing awareness
That your dreams
Are part of your reality,
And they have the potential
To be magnificent creations.
—The Council
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2010-12-17
Tuning into your emotions will immediately show you what you are creating.
Is it contrast or desire?
Being aware is the first step in creating the life you want.
—The Council
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Cynthia is able to communicate with a group of five non-physical spirit guides in a manner similar to the way Esther Hicks communicates with and speaks for the spirit guides, Abraham, and Jane Roberts communicated and spoke for the spirit guide, Seth. I (Bob) basically interview The Council as they speak through Cynthia during what we refer to as a session. Sessions generally last 5-15 minutes and are usually audio recorded. During the session Cynthia is aware of what The Council is saying and she also receives visual impressions and other types of telepathic communication from them.
The Council’s Basic Guidance
Since we began these sessions with The Council around 2009 they consistently emphasize a few basic ideas that we attempt to summarize here:
1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
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