Will My Baby Be Healthy And My Partner Stop Smoking Marijuana?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Zumza.
Zumza: I wrote to you previously about the termination of a pregnancy because my partner was financially unstable. I also wrote because the fetus in that pregnancy that I had a connection with showed up in a dream. And also I experienced unconditional love I felt during the time I was pregnant that I never felt before.
Now I feel I might be pregnant again, but I didn’t plan this pregnancy. The situation of my partner’s finances hasn’t changed. He even turned out to have a marijuana addiction, which I don’t support, and we started arguing about it.
Council: First we’d like to say here that although you say the pregnancy is unplanned, you planned this pregnancy in spirit. You wouldn’t have brought this pregnancy into your life experience if you didn’t want it. So you created this pregnancy. Now why have you created it?
And then you turn and look at your partner, which we see is having a problem with marijuana. Why have you created that in your lifetime? Is it a way to sever ties with this person? Is it a way to realize, “Well I want to be with this person, but perhaps it’s better for us not to have a relationship where we have children?” Always question yourself, because there’s no one that will create anything in your life but you.
Zumza: I want a baby, but I’m scared that my partner’s marijuana addiction will affect the health and development of the baby.
Council: Yes, of course it can affect the baby’s health. And so that’s something that’s making you question: Should you have a baby? Should you have a baby with your current partner? So look at your situation from that point of view. Your situation is all about you and learning what you want. It’s not about trying to cure someone of marijuana or helping them with better financial ways to bring in money. It’s not about you going out and getting another job to fix the financial situation.
What is it that you want? Look at whether this person has a problem with finances, if this person has a problem with marijuana, yet tells you he wants children, but yet smokes the marijuana knowing it can have a defect on the child. What is that showing you? So allow yourself to see the whole picture and then take yourself out of it and realize, what is it that you want?
Zumza: He started smoking marijuana again recently and before that he was smoking during the summer. I live a clean life and if his addiction continues I just want to end this relationship.
Council: So it sounds here like you’re not only saying it, but feeling that you want to end this relationship. And so, what else do you need to see to end it?
Zumza: Do you see if I continue the pregnancy, I will have a healthy baby?
Council: We can’t say to you, “Yes, you will have a healthy baby,” or, “no you won’t have a healthy baby; this isn’t a good idea,” because you will create the outcome. We feel the direction you’re going in – and you can always change your direction and the choice will always be yours – the direction that you’re going in is to scare yourself out of this relationship. If you have a baby and you’re not comfortable going forward because of your partner’s marijuana addiction, you will create a problem with the child that is born because of this addiction.
And so before you go into this, feel what it is. Are you uncomfortable taking the chance of having this child with this person? Are you uncomfortable about maybe having a child that will have some sort of defect because of your partner’s marijuana addiction? You are creating this so that you can open your eyes to what you want, what you will settle for, or what beautiful happiness you are looking for and will find, but perhaps it will be with someone else.
You can’t change your partner. If he stops smoking marijuana right now, what’s to say he won’t do it again? If there’s a problem with finances, who’s to say there won’t be problems again? It’s in your belief at the moment, from what we see, that you are creating a way for you to look at your situation, to look at the truth of what you’re saying, what you are bringing forth, and to make a decision from that. No one can make this decision for you.
Zumza: Will my partner quit smoking marijuana, and why is he smoking it?
Council: He’s smoking it for many of the needs that he feels he has. That doesn’t matter. Will he quit? Maybe, maybe not. It’s his choice. Right now, with the energy around him, we don’t see him quitting. If he does quit, he will return to smoking marijuana. This is what is seen now because that’s what is being created now. Can he change? Yes he can, when he’s willing to create for himself how he wants to live.
And so is it something that you want? Again, look at it. Question yourself. It’s about you. What do you want in your life? A partner that you have to worry about, or maybe someone brand new where it feels perfect, there’s happiness, there’s no problem, and a child will come from another relationship. And so, again, it’s your beliefs, it’s what you choose to focus on now. That will show you the direction your life is going in.
Zumza: Why did I get pregnant at the least favorable time?
Council: This is you. This is what you’re creating. You have a desire for a child, but perhaps you’re creating your situation with the least favorable experiences because you need to see what your partner is like. Do you want to keep him in your life? Do you want to take a chance and raise this child alone?
And so, again, look at your choices. You are creating this so that you will open your eyes and see what it is that you have created so far. And do you want to keep creating on that path, or do you want a new path?
Zumza: I promised myself I wouldn’t terminate a pregnancy ever again.
Council: If it’s a promise that feels good to you, then we’d say, go for it. Is it a promise that you’ve made to yourself, but in the background is the worry that this child can be born with a defect? We’d say, look at it again. If you wish to have this child, then you must do the inner work and see this child being perfect, happy, and see yourself raising this child with joy and fun. That work must begin now.
And so we send you all blessings, and thoughts of happiness, and thoughts of love and joy, and seeing the energy around you growing and becoming more beautiful. And you feel lighter than you’ve ever felt before because you are light. Let it shine.
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Will I Have A Child With My Current Partner?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Sofia.
Sofia: I have a partner for one year now and really want to have a baby very badly. He has some financial difficulties (debts and bankruptcy of his company), and he’s working on solving these issues and getting stable. He says he also wants a baby after he’s financially stable. Then we can start planning for the baby and marriage. He has an eight-year-old daughter from a previous relationship.
In the beginning of our relationship, I got pregnant. Because of the situation, we didn’t continue the pregnancy. Of course, it was a difficult decision for me, as I’m ready, I have quite a good job, and an apartment, but I also want my partner to be ready for a child as well as myself.
My question is: Will I have a child with this partner?
Council: What we see here is that this can happen. Of course, we’d ask you to go into vibration, into a higher loving state of joy, and use the images to keep seeing that. But we would say to you, is this really what you want at this time? If someone else was to come along and you can create a baby with this new person, would you leave your current partner and go with the new one? We would not want you to go without a baby because you’re waiting for someone else to be ready.
And so we’d say discussion is needed on this. Does your current partner use images? Does your current partner want a baby as much as you do? You can move forward and have a child without your current partner being financially ready. And so if it’s something that you really want, it should be addressed. But we’d say to watch this for a while and see how you feel with the answers you’re getting when you talk with your partner about having children.
We do see in your current life, one way or another, you will create a child, and it’s all up to you. If you want a child with your current partner, then you must do the inner work. There’s nothing you can not have. And so be open to this. Be open to having conversations about children, about debt, and finances, and how you’ll handle your situation. You’ll see, by the answers you get, how you truly feel. It doesn’t have to be your current partner, and yet it can be if that’s what you want. It’s all up to you. You are the creator.
The lesson here is for you to be aware. Become aware of what you want, what your desire is, and do the work for it to happen. Be aware of what your partner wants. And that at a certain time, no matter what, you will have the child whether he’s ready or not. Be aware of the answers and you’ll learn about yourself, you will learn about your partner, and you’ll go forward and create what’s needed in your life to fill your desire.
Sofia: Can I do something for my partner so he can get stable with his finances more quickly?
Council: You can’t create for your partner. But you can, in your imagery, see it happening, see him getting a better job, getting more money, and doing anything where he’s able to pay off his debts. You can do that from your end, but your partner must do it from his end. So you can’t create for your partner, but you can create the energy to have what it is that you want in your life.
So when you create about your partner being in better situation financially, what you’re doing is creating that situation so you can have the child that you want. And so you’re both there for each other. So just use the imagery, use the feeling over and over again, things are moving forward and you’re able to have this child.
Sofia: I’m thinking about getting pregnant every day and every minute. It’s always on my mind. The feeling is so strong.
Council: But don’t think about having this child from a place of doubt. Do not think, I want this child, and I can’t have it now. Do not think, I want this child so bad, but it’s not happening. That will not create what you want.
So think of it every day as: How wonderful. I’m so excited to have this child. I’m preparing a life for this child. I can’t wait for it to happen. I’m so lucky. I’m so happy. That’s how you create. Do not create from doubt or from fear.
Sofia: Does this waiting have a purpose for me?
Council: The purpose is for you to learn about yourself, to learn about what is important to you, to learn about this man in your life, And so the waiting is fine. But we’d say, while you’re waiting, create in vibration. See it, feel it, and you will bring it forward.
Sofia: What can I take from this situation? I don’t feel much purpose at work, and in other things I enjoyed before. I just feel that the time has come for me to be a mom, and a wife, and focus on family for some time.
Council: And so if you’re not happy in your work, you can change what you do for work so that you feel better somewhere new. If what you want is to be a mom, then change how you think about your job, and think of it as, this job is giving me the ability to have money to move forward and have this child. This job is helping me to get everything together that I need to welcome this child into my life. So forget the thoughts of not wanting to be at your job and wanting to be a mom, because that’s coming from the negative.
And so we send you all blessings. And remember to have fun on this journey that you have created for yourself, and to have fun with the spirits around you that you have welcomed into your life. And always, always show kindness, and love, and compassion.
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Will The Spirit Of My Unborn Child Return To Me?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Zumza.
Zumza: I had an abortion a couple months ago. My boyfriend and I wanted a child, and the feeling of someone wanting to come through us was very, very strong. I was ready to have a baby, but he wasn’t ready financially. I got pregnant very quickly after five or six months of knowing each other, so there was also a doubt that the timing was good. We decided to have an abortion, although I was convincing my boyfriend we’d make it through and the timing was good. I felt a very strong connection to the spiritual world and a lot of love for the fetus. We were communicating in my mind. I apologized for the abortion and asked the spirit to come back.
Council: We see here there’s a lot of doubt around the time you were thinking of having a child, where you wanted the child, but you doubted the timing was right. There was doubt about the finances. And then doubting the pregnancy, or having an abortion, and the regret. That vibration will not bring you what you want. And so we’d say if you choose to get pregnant again, and there are the same concerns about timing and about money, it’s wise to do everything you can to change the way you look at your situation. Be more positive about how it will work out, and stay away from thoughts that are doubtful.
Zumza: I had an abortion and the next day I broke my leg. It was a tough period. I prayed a lot for the baby and for good karma. Later on a baby came into my dream. He was playing in the spiritual world with guides. He was happy and I felt so much love.
Council: Right there by paying attention to this dream and what you’ve seen, this spirit has allowed you to see that it’s healthy, that it’s happy, and there’s no need for regret, blame, or guilt. Once again, it’s a wonderful thing that the spirit has shown you that.
And so if you can change the way you think of it and say, “How wonderful. The spirit heard me talking to itself and came to me. I was open enough to receive that dream, and now how do I handle it? Am I happy for this spirit?” The spirit is happy, so why should I torture myself?
And so, always what you’ve been shown is to be more positive. Know everything is okay. Whether or not there was an abortion, everything is okay. All is well.
Zumza: Since the abortion I’m feeling so much regret. I thought, “I just started a new role and if I leave, how will that look?” But after my decision, my two colleagues told me they are pregnant and I thought, “That could have been my happiness.”
Council: And so the concern here – again take a look at your thoughts – if you got pregnant and had to leave your job, how would it look? It doesn’t matter how it would look. Is it what you want? Are you going forward with appreciating you are pregnant and having the dream that you want? So once again, rethink how you look at your situation.
Zumza: Also, we’re not married yet. I was thinking I wanted the baby to come into a married family.
Council: Okay, so if you’re preparing, if you’re creating that you’re pregnant again, you’re thinking you’d like this child to come into a married family. Are you taking those steps toward marriage? Follow your feeling. If this is what you want, if this is what you need to be happy and to have a full pregnancy, and a wonderful baby, then take the steps toward what you want. And that would be to go ahead and do as you wish and be married.
Zumza: But now I want nothing else but the spirit of this child back in my life. In my dream it was a boy, and I felt it was a boy during the pregnancy. I just can’t live without him in this world.
Council: And that is such an unfortunate thought. When you think that you cannot live without this spirit, what do you think that does to your vibration? That is a very low vibration. It’s easy to change that. It’s like, I love the thought of moving on with my life and welcoming this spirit back if it chooses to come back to me. Do you see the different feeling of the different thoughts?
Zumza: I keep asking the spirit to come back, and he replies that he will, but maybe it’s only in my mind.
Council: And so instead of thinking maybe it’s all in my mind, change it to: How wonderful, let me trust this feeling. The spirit is telling me it will come back.
Again, you’re changing a thought of doubt to a positive thought in order to raise your vibration so it’s easy for you to create what you want.
Zumza: My boyfriend is working on getting stable with finances at the moment.
Council: That is a wonderful thing.
Zumza: Will this spirit come back to me?
Council: We do see here that there is a wonderful possibility of this happening. But once again, you must change the way you see things, the way you prepare for it, and know that when you’re in a higher vibration of joy and love and excitement of where you’re going in this lifetime that you are creating, then we see this spirit, or any other spirit that wants to come, will come to you.
There’s definitely a pregnancy, and if you change this vibration and the way you’re thinking, and you speak to this spirit, you both have a chance to come together and plan what’s wanted for both of you.
Is it a good experience for you to be with this spirit? This spirit will think of what kind of life you are planning. Is it good for me to become part of that family? Is it what I want to experience? And so we say the positive attitude and higher vibration will make this happen.
Zumza: Will I get pregnant again?
Council: Yes, we do see that.
Zumza: I was a career-driven person for some time, but I achieved what I wanted and there’s nothing else I want more than a family. I’m already over 30 and scared it will be too late if it will take too long.
Council: Ah, there we are. You are scared. You are doubting. Will it take too long? I’m too old. That will stop the way you create. So the thought is, I’m over 30. Well I know many people in their 40s and even some women in their early 50s have given birth. Oh, I want this. This is in my plans for my future, so this will happen. I’m not running out of time.
And so, again, the way you see it, being afraid of being too old, being afraid of not having enough time, will not help you create what you want. Do this inner work with your thoughts and how you feel, and when you focus, you are the creator. You will bring it in.
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Pregnant With An Unplanned Third Child At 40 That My Husband Doesn’t Want?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, L.
L: I’d love to ask The Council’s advice. I’ve recently determined I’m pregnant with our third child. It was unplanned, and I’m 40 years old. I’m struggling to find clarity in my heart about what to do. We’re in a big transition, seeking a new home and work. And physically I feel how challenging another child would be on my body and my energy. And my husband doesn’t want another child.
Council: You already know your husband doesn’t want this child. It sounds like you have a problem with knowing how you’d handle this new child and that it will be stressful.
And so we’ll say here, where we can never make the decision for you, it’s so wonderful that no matter what you decide, we see here that this spirit, and you, and your husband have agreed to either way, having the baby or not having the baby. It was thought that spirit would come in at a certain time and you would then all decide, were you ready?
And so if it’s something that makes you uncomfortable, that you don’t feel in your heart it is a good decision, it’s okay not to bring forth this child into this reality. You’ve all agreed to this. And so there’s no wrongdoing. There’s nothing to feel guilty about. The child will go on and, if it wishes, be born to another couple. It may stay in the spirit world for a while, or a long time. Nobody will suffer from this.
And so the decision is yours, and it should be made with love. You and your husband send each other love and send this spirit love. This spirit already is sending you love.
And so everything, no matter which way you decide, will be perfect.
L: And yet I also feel it’s a divine blessing to conceive without trying, and there’s immense grief considering how to end the pregnancy.
Council: It’s a divine blessing because you are divine, the child is divine, your husband is divine, and you’d agreed to have this child if it was at a good time and if it would be good for all three of you. So the three of you brought this pregnancy forward and brought it through with the knowledge that if it wasn’t a good time to have this child, you could end the pregnancy and release the child.
L: It’s very early, but I wouldn’t wish to wait very long if we take this path of stopping the pregnancy.
Council: This is understandable so all of you can go on. The spirit can go on, you can go on, and your husband can go on.
L: Can you shed any light on spirit and moving forward with love for our entire family?
Council: There’s all love for you in spirit. All of you have it within you. All of your higher selves know what’s planned. And any decision, and we say it again, any decision that you make is perfect.
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What Can You Tell Me About the Baby I Lost?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, CocoMakerDesigns, who’s asking about the baby she lost. Why did he come to me and why did he have to go?
The Council says your pregnancy was an agreement between the two of you. The spirit who was your child wanted to just experience the very beginning of life. Because you’ve had other lifetimes with this spirit, you decided to be the person that would help him come into this world to feel what it was like to be an embryo in the uterus. You volunteered in spirit to do this.
From what we can see, the spirit of your son has already gone into another reality and is living a life differently than it would have with you.
If you feel you’d like to know if you’ll see this spirit again, we can say, yes, you’ll have other realities together if this is something you both want.
Now you’re in a place where, if you still want to have children, you can go forward with this and create other spirits that are waiting to come to you and have agreed to part of your life. Whatever you wish to create and experience and they wish to create and experience, it links up together. These other spirits are on standby if you wish to have more children.
Coco wraps up her questions by asking, Should I stop trying to have more kids? The Council says if this is something you want, then go for it. It’s already in your plans and you have the power to go forward with what you’ve planned with other spirits.
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Will I Have A Baby?
This post answers questions from a reader named Kimberly, who wants to know if it’s guaranteed she’ll have a baby when she’s ready; if there’s a soul ready to be her baby; and if Kimberly has a soul contract with this soul or souls to become her baby.
The Council begins by saying if Kimberly decides to have a baby and is truly aligned with this thought and what she’s planned for, then she will guarantee she has a baby. The idea here is that we each create the reality we experience with our beliefs, our thoughts, and our feelings.
The Council says they see three souls who have agreed to be Kimberly’s children in this lifetime if this is what she wants. The say in spirit Kimberly decided she’d come into this lifetime and then choose whether or not to have children as her life progressed.
The Council says there isn’t a written contract, but there’s an agreement that as Kimberly goes through different situations in this lifetime, if she decides to have one child, then one of the souls will join her and the other two souls will be free to have other experiences. If she decides to have two children, the second soul will join her. And if Kimberly chooses to have three children, the third soul will join her.
The Council says Kimberly had many different plans on what to do in this lifetime and which directions to go in. Most of all she wanted to be very strong, decisive, and able to take care of whatever comes along.
She wanted to be very successful in this lifetime and to be able to multi-task. Kimberly arranged with her higher self that she’d keep very busy in this lifetime. She’ll want to teach children and others around her, but not necessarily in a school setting. Because she wanted to have strong beliefs, she wanted to pass this information on to others.
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Were All Three Abortions the Same Spirit?
This post in inspired by an anonymous reader who’s had 3 abortions and asks The Council if all 3 pregnancies were the same spirit? Anonymous also says she’s ready for a baby and she asks if the same spirit will come back to be her child?
The Council says each of Anonymous’s previous pregnancies were 3 different spirits that quickly came in knowing their lives wouldn’t continue. They ask her to look at this pattern of getting pregnant and then terminating these pregnancies, which they add is her choice and is fine. But The Council suggests if Anonymous were to become pregnant again given a similar mindset as her earlier pregnancies, she would most likely terminate this new pregnancy also.
The Council asks Anonymous if she’s happy with her life and would she be content bringing a child into that life. Now is the time to begin changing her life so that if there’s a pregnancy, she’ll be able to give birth to the child. The key is to look at her life.
Anonymous wants to learn more about herself. The clarity she seeks will come when she looks at her life and questions her responses and what she is creating for herself. As she reviews her life, her learning will bring her clarity, and then perhaps there will be an opportunity to have a child.
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