Ask The Council

What will you ask Spirit?


Bob & Cynthia

Welcome to Ask The Council, a blog where you can ask a group of loving and wise spirit guides a question and get an answer, for free. You can contact us for a paid private session with The Council, and you can read the questions other readers have asked and the answers they’ve received. Other posts contain quotations from The Council that we hope you find inspiring, uplifting, and educational.

Ask The Council a Question

If there’s a question you’ve been thinking about and you’re curious how The Council might answer it, we encourage you to either use the blog’s Comments feature to ask your question, or contact us for a private session. You can click here to go to the ‘Let us know what you think about this post, or ask The Council a question’ section of this Welcome post and type your question there or you can type your question in the same section at the bottom of any post that inspires you to ask a question or leave a comment.

Since the blog is currently a project we do in our spare time it can take a while for us to do a session with The Council on a question and then publish a post on the session. Depending on the question and the session it can sometimes take weeks after a question is asked to publish a post with The Council’s answer. Please be patient.

The Council

Cynthia is able to communicate with a group of five non-physical spirit guides in a manner similar to the way Esther Hicks communicates with and speaks for the spirit guides, Abraham, and Jane Roberts communicated and spoke for the spirit guide, Seth. I (Bob) basically interview The Council as they speak through Cynthia during what we refer to as a session. Sessions generally last 5-15 minutes and are usually audio recorded. During the session Cynthia is aware of what The Council is saying and she also receives visual impressions and other types of telepathic communication from them.

The Council’s Basic Guidance

Since we began these sessions with The Council around 2009 they consistently emphasize a few basic ideas that we attempt to summarize here:

1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.

You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.

Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.

Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.

2) You are the creator of all that you experience.

As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.

If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.

3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.

You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.

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The Navigation Bar at the top of each page contains a link to the blog Home page and links to the following additional pages:

Welcome: A link that displays this Welcome message in the left column (and the right column). At the bottom of the Welcome message is a Comment box where you can post a general comment about the blog or ask The Council a question.

Questions & Answers: Use this link to display a list of introductions to our longer posts, most of which are responses to reader questions. This is an easy way to check out these more in-depth posts. They are listed in chronological order with the most recent post on top. Clicking on the post title will take you to the page where you can read the complete post.

Contact Us: The Contact Us page contains a contact form similar to the Comment form mentioned above. The difference between the Contact Us form and the Comment forms is that the Contact Us form is a private message to us (Cynthia and Bob). It is not posted on the blog. Comments appear on the post page where the comment is posted. The Contact Us form can be used for communicating with us about private sessions or other private matters you think aren’t appropriate for posting in a public Comment.

Bob & Cynthia


  1. Hello Bob and Cynthia and The Council! I have a question about people with Autism. I understand that people with Autism think differently than “typical” people. Working with this population shows that people with Autism can lack empathy or ability to read facial expressions and body language. They often perseverate on items or concepts and communication can be difficult. My question is, if we plan our lives in advance, why would so many people choose to be born with Autism?

    Comment by EG | July 21, 2017 | Reply

    • Hi, EG. We haven’t had many or any questions specifically about autism. We’ll be happy to ask The Council your question and post their response when it’s ready. Thank you for your question. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia

      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | July 22, 2017 | Reply

  2. Hello, my question is about whether or not I should be sexually intimate with my best friend. Does the council see this becoming an issue later on, or could it remain light and fun, which is what it’s meant to be? Im also wondering if we were connected from a past life or if this is a fresh feeling and new intention/relationship?

    Comment by Lavender | July 11, 2017 | Reply

    • Good question, Lavender. When we get a chance we’ll ask The Council your question and post their response. Stay turned. Love & light, Bob & Cynthia

      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | July 11, 2017 | Reply

      • Thank you! Im very much looking forward to the response!!

        Comment by Lavender | July 21, 2017 | Reply

  3. Happy summer! And such a happy summer it is, greatly in part to the healing I’ve received from the council. I am moving in the direction of love and working everyday to create expansion within myself and my family. I feel stronger as each week passes and my confidence is larger than it has ever been before.

    I am certain that I am able to invite the very soul that I love so much into this family and even though I sometimes get anxious about exactly when this will happen, I have been able to call my energy back to me and re-focus relatively easily. My gratitude for this gift goes beyond words or the physical. Thank you.

    I have two questions now that I feel can help me even further. The first is this: Is there any advice for my partner on helping me to create this pregnancy? We have started trying, but he is still unsure if this is a possibility due to a report form the doctor that he received years ago. I’ve told him that our thoughts create our reality and I believe this with my whole heart, but I’m also wondering if there’s anything he can do with his physical body to help promote fertility? Is it strictly mind over matter? Anything I can send his way is much appreciated!

    My second question is one about my son. He is an amazing little boy who has taught me SO much and continuously pushes me to be my best self. I would like some advice on how to help him through some things he seemed to come into this life with. (I’m sure I’ve also partially created, during times of struggle where I have been less than perfect as his mama.)

    He’s a perfectionist. He wants very much to please and even more than that, he always wants to be on top. I know to some extent this is normal for all children, but I worry that he will be untrue to himself by being so concerned with having to be so perfect all the time. I want him to know that my love is unconditional and I want him to feel secure in making decisions that feel good to him as opposed to what he might think others want, from him.

    He is such a special little boy, smart beyond his years and SO easy to love. He has difficulty opening up and allowing himself to love my partner. Sometimes this bothers me and I know he holds back his true feelings surrounding the situation because he doesn’t want to upset me. I want to encourage communication and honesty while making sure he feels loved and secure, especially as this family grows. I want to provide him with tools that he will use for the rest of his life, tools that will make his journey more joyful and spiritual.

    Please tell me what I can do to help him and I will implement it immediately! And just out of curiosity, could you sneak in a little info about any past lives I’ve shared with both my little boy and my partner? I’m just SO darn curious!!! Thank you. Always and eternally.

    With all the LOVE,

    Comment by Wendy Aronsson | July 2, 2017 | Reply

  4. Hi Bob, Cynthia and the council,

    We have a spiritual leader/Guruji that we go to for guidance mostly related to family issues or gaining more spiritual knowledge. He says he can also talk to spirit world and gives us guidance based on that and on Astrology.

    Sometimes he says it is because of Astrology and he suggests us some chants, rituals of “pooja” that gets performed by priests. Most of the rituals include praying god and asking for wellness through interacting number of sanskrit shlokas.
    Sometimes that does have an effect and the other times it has positive effects but lasts temporarily.

    The more I read consunil’s guidance and read about spirituality – I have a question about the authenticity and the actual impact of such kind of rituals performed. One thought I have is it might work because we “believe” in it and it doesn’t if we dont “believe”. But I am not sure on this part.

    As the counsil say – We need to learn our lessons in order for our soul to grow and we “choose” this “difficult” experiences before taking birth. However, when we are born we sometimes feel its too much to handle and resort to such kind of activities. What I wanted to ask is that – does this sort of rituals have any effect or can postpone learning the lessons.

    The other question I have is regarding two of my friends – Pragna and Priayanka. I feel I share a connection from past lives with both of them. Both of them always love and give me support when I was going through difficult time. Can the council please tell me about the past lives we have shared and what is the pre birth plan for me with both my friends. I particularly love my friend Pragna who is in USA and I miss her a lot. She helps a lot in staying positive and sort of keeping me happy.
    I wish I can be toeghether with Pragna in future. Can the counsil see that happening ? or we were just meant to be together physically for a short amount of time and we need to live in separate countries now.

    Thanks for showing love and light – Bob,Cythia and the counsil
    Loads of love.

    Comment by learningsoulsite | June 30, 2017 | Reply

  5. Hello, I have a question for The Council. I feel like there is so much more that I have to accomplish and get depressed when things don’t work out. I’m convinced that I have the ability to live the life I want to lead, but seem to be frustrated quite often–meaning things seem like they might happen then don’t. Also, I have a bit of difficulty with people. Any advice? Anything from a previous life that I am trying to rectify? Which career at this point would I be most successful?


    Comment by Anonymous | June 28, 2017 | Reply

    • Hi, Anonymous. Good questions. We’ll ask The Council when we have time and post their response. Stay turned. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia

      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | June 28, 2017 | Reply

  6. Hi Bob and Cynthia,
    I asked a question of the council a few months ago and was grateful for your thoughtful response- I had recently had an abortion and was really feeling sad and guilty about it (In my previous question I wondered if the aborted soul would return o our family). I’ve tried to work through my negative feelings around the abortion these past few months- saw a few therapists, have done some reading, tried communicating with the aborted soul…. and while I do feel more functional, I feel there is still so much more work to do. Can the Council provide any guidance as to how I can truly work through this experience in a healthy way and learn to forgive myself?

    Comment by Anonymous | June 5, 2017 | Reply

  7. Hello Bob,Cynthia and Counsel,

    Hope you guys are doing good. From the last couple of days I have been thinking about a question, which is in regards to my marriage.
    For a long time almost for 5 months, my husband was not calling me and we were still going over the issues the two times we talked in that time. Now, from last week he called and he claims that he is changed and he understood my issues and willing to work on those. He sounds very changed but I am little bit skeptical since this is not his usual behavior with me. I am more keen on settling in India and he is saying he would need like 2 more years to do that.

    The question that keep me unsure is that – if he is actually changed or he wants me just for the sack of money and the home loan that we have. When I go there, I am pretty much alone without a family and I need to go through a lot if those issues happen again.

    I also think about the counsel’s guidance from last time and it was said that in the pre birth plan, the issues between my husband and me were suppose to be resolved once I learn to be independent. I also think about our son and feel that if things to workout, it would be good for him and me for our future life together.

    If I think about it positively and move ahead and possibly reconcile, Is this a good time to do that or should I wait for some more time. Can the counsel please guide me as in what changes I should see in him and may be in me too in order to this relationship to workout.

    Thanks so much.


    Comment by learningsoulsite | May 22, 2017 | Reply

  8. I have decided to write in today, as my mom has often pointed The Council out to me and has even written about a difficult situation I had to go through (a second time again) to you and showed me the response.
    I have three main holes in me that I need help healing.

    First, it is my relationship. I will be 25 years old in a few months. I am dating (and staying with) a 21 year old man. Although I have great confusion around this, I am almost sure I love him for the right reasons. We have been together for two years (then broken up for, not sure, but could be 6 months – because I decided to pursue a love-less ego boost relationship with someone I could never pursue a life with). And by some “miracle” I got back with the 21 year old man. It was as of we were never apart. And for a few months it was amazing. I suppose I felt ‘home’ again.

    It’s been a little over a year again, being together, and a lot has changed. He can be the most amazing guy, and then at times make choices that damages me emotionally and to the point where I feel physically sick. Although he is not an alcoholic at all – these bad choices always involves his friends and alcohol. He has made the same mistake numerous of times. Always apologizes, and then he does it again. We are currently at a point where I have told him to stop drinking completely or we need to end this. (Of course everything in me had hoped that he would choose the ‘quit drinking’ issue – which he did).

    The concern I have now though, is. 1. Am I molding this person into someone I want and am I forcing him to face personal issues, he is not ready for? Or could this be a positive thing? 2. I feel haunted by the moments where he has hurt me, yet I want to be in this relationship. Is there a soulmate in this person whom I can pursue a life with? Has he come to a realisation? Is there hope for us? Or have I learnt the necessary lessons and do I need to be strong and let go? What if that will be the biggest mistake ever?

    Another thing I could really use some guidance with is my “career”. I have been an au pair for quite some time. I do this with no passion, in fact, I do it with a heavy heart. This is not my calling. I am more. Yet, I stay stuck, as I can not get a admin job, due to the fact that I have no experience. Also, I can not do it in the “live your life and leave the job that makes you unhappy” way as I have to still survive financially. Where does my heart want to take me? I said ‘admin’ as I feel it is probably the best I can find with only childcare experience.

    Last thing. I have come to the realisation lately that I am utterly unhappy. It is as if my eyes open and my soul told me “Wake up. You need to start loving yourself.” I feel like a have been doing a little bit better, but not with the passion I should be grabbing this new life that awaits me. Maybe just a little guidance on this?

    I want to have a relationship with myself. A joyful, beautiful one. I want to feel free.

    I would appreciate any guidance you offer and await it with a open mind and open heart.

    Thank you.

    Comment by LostSoul | May 8, 2017 | Reply

    • Hi, Lost Soul. We’ll ask The Council your questions when we have time and post their response. Love and Light, Bob & Cynthia

      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | May 10, 2017 | Reply

      • Thank you!
        I am looking forward to ypur response.

        Comment by LostSoul | May 23, 2017 | Reply

  9. Thank you. I can’t wait to hear what the council has to say

    Comment by Brennan | April 27, 2017 | Reply

  10. Hi bob and Cynthia

    Thank you so so much for your time and help. You kindly answered my questions around my new baby and losing my job and also about my fear of being sick.

    Council mentioned that kids get sick and doesn’t mean I should get sick and I shouldnt live in the fear. I’d like to expand on this as this fear is a phobia of myself vomiting and since having kids it’s getting worse and worse. I am so scared of kids catching a stomach bug and I know it’s going to happen one day and I am petrified of catching it. I feel like I would rather die than vomit and it’s taking over my thoughts every day of whether we will catch it. How can I overcome this fear? I know of other people
    With this phobia and no amount of therapy seems to help. I don’t see anyone who has got over it.

    Can anyone help with how I can overcome this? It’s taking over my life and I know one day it will happen. It’s ruining my time as a parent as I am so scared I will not cope!

    I am fine with other illness like colds measles chicken pox – it’s only vomiting 😦

    I would be so grateful for advice as I cannot live like this!

    Many thanks and blessings x

    Comment by Anon | April 27, 2017 | Reply

    • Hi, Anon. Maybe there’s a past life connection with your phobia of vomiting. We’ll ask The Council about your phobia and publish a post on their reply. Hang in there. Love & Light, Bob & Cynthia

      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | April 27, 2017 | Reply

  11. I’ve been learning a little about pre-birth planning. I’m curious to see if y’all can help me with this. My birth name is Sheala. I am changing my name to Brennan. I’m going to be going through the change soon. I’m going from female to male. I’m wondering if I planned in my pre-birth planning to be transgender. If so why did I plan this? It’s hard to even be gay/lesbian in this day and age. Transgender is extremely hard for some to understand. On top of that I have mental illness. What is the purpose for me to have all these things that are “shunned” upon? What is the reason for me in this lifetime?

    Comment by Brennan | April 24, 2017 | Reply

    • Good question, Brennan. We’ll ask The Council as soon as we can a post their response. Love and Light, Bob & Cynthia

      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | April 25, 2017 | Reply

  12. Hello, I would love to meet my Soulmate Husband (the soulmate I will marry) soon, someone who I connect with deeply on all levels, and there is huge mutual love. Do The Council have any insights on this please? Is there anything I can do to speed up the process? Are they able to see him at all?

    I understand that I will attract the same vibration as myself… however I struggle with lack/ poverty issues, and would love to meet someone who does NOT struggle with poverty issues, so that I feel safe and secure. Do you have any insights? Many thanks and much gratitude, Diana

    Comment by dianawalles | April 20, 2017 | Reply

    • Hi, Diana. We’ll ask The Council how you can find a loving and financially secure husband and post their response as soon as we have time. Love, Bob & Cynthia

      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | April 20, 2017 | Reply

  13. Hello, I’m 42 years old, and for over 20 years have been trapped in meaningless, unfulfilling office jobs. I’d love to focus more on my creativity and art, and also to develop healing work and group skills.

    I’ve been in despair for many years – not knowing how to fulfill my potential, because I work in a meaningless, badly paid, full-time job – and have: a) no money to use for trainings b) I’m exhausted all the time c) I have very little spare time to develop my art, healing skills etc. I feel trapped.

    Is there any hope for me still to break out of this cycle, and somehow survive financially? Will I ever get any support from anywhere? I want to feel like I’ve lived, before I die. I hope to thrive one day, to use my potential, and break free from struggle 😦

    Comment by Diana | April 20, 2017 | Reply

    • Hi, Diana. We’ll ask The Council about how you can find more satisfying work and post their response when we have time. Love, Bob & Cynthia

      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | April 20, 2017 | Reply

  14. I want to ask for your help. I’m 42 years old and a single woman. In my life I’ve never done anything important. For me it´s very difficult to have any kind of relationship or employment. I’m very worried because I feel the time is running and I don´t have a real life. I feel I’m died on life.

    Also I want to know why all that I’ve wanted had become impossible, especially if it’s about a relationship. All my love relationships became impossible and platonic. I usually got obsessed with this man. I really spent a lot of years trying to forget and moved on every relationship.

    In my career I don’t know what to do. I studied something but now I lost interest in this and I’d like to find other things, but this looks impossible too. So I feel very worried for my financial situation and I don’t know what to do to survive now.

    Thank you for all the help you can give.

    Comment by fernanda wu | April 19, 2017 | Reply

    • Hi, Fernanda. We’ll ask The Council your questions about relationships and career, and post a response as soon as we have time. Love, Bob & Cynthia

      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | April 20, 2017 | Reply

  15. Hello Bob,Cynthia and Counsil,

    Thanks for guiding and inspiring us with all the wonderful answers. Last few days I have been reading few books by Dr.Brian Weiss and Khorshed Bhavnagari’s books about Spirit world. I am also reading Abraham and Hick’s books.

    The question I had is for Spiritual Realms. I have read that each reincarnation that we have is for learning things and we expand in the spirit world. From the books knowledge, there are 7 realms and we grow and eventually become one with source after 7th realm.

    If there are indeed realms, I just wanted to know which level(If there are 7) of realm my spirit belonged to when I took birth in this lifetime and what is the main learning that I intend of having in this life time. From the book, I came to know that depending upon the life we live,based on Karma – we can either expand or we can come down in the realm.

    Can the council please guide us if this is true. If this is not true, how do we exactly expand the learning experiences in this life time?

    Thanks again – loads of respect –

    Comment by learningsoulsite | April 18, 2017 | Reply

    • Hi, Vacha. We’ll ask The Council your question about spiritual realms and post a response as soon as it’s ready. Love, Bob & Cynthia

      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | April 20, 2017 | Reply

      • Hello Bob, cynthia and council,

        I have one more question which I have been thinking from sometime. It is regarding the pre birth plan that I have with my son . Since I dont know yet which way my marriage would go, I am not sure about the future that lies for my son And me with respect to family .
        I was just wondering did my son came to this life knowing that this would happen and what could be his pre birth plan with me and his learnings out of this whole experience of getting born in unstable family.

        Thanks again for helping like you always do,
        Deeply grateful ,

        Comment by learningsoulsite | April 21, 2017 | Reply

        • Hi, Vacha. Please try and wait until we’ve answered your more recently posted questions before posting new questions. This will help us keep track of them. Love and Light, Bob & Cynthia

          Comment by Cynthia & Bob | April 21, 2017 | Reply

          • I am sorry bob and cynthia. I would ask new questions later.

            Comment by learningsoulsite | April 22, 2017

  16. Please explain the buffer of time in regards to manifestation.
    thank you

    Comment by Juan Ramirez | April 8, 2017 | Reply

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