A Broken Sacred Contract and How to Move On
This post is inspired by a question for The Council from Chris who asks how to move on when someone she feels she was meant to spend her life with broke a sacred contract by leaving. She also asks if it’s possible to find another partner under the circumstances.
Sacred Contracts
The Council observes that souls frequently agree to come into physical bodies during the same lifetime and help each other in their physical lives, but the Council isn’t inclined to understand these agreements as binding sacred contracts, as implied by Chris’s question. The Council believes the idea of an unchangeable binding sacred contract goes against one of the most important principles in all of creation: the free will that all humans, all souls, all spirit is given by our creator to choose, in any moment, from an infinite variety of possibilities. The Council’s idea of a sacred contract is the agreement each soul makes to unconditionally love the part of itself that comes to experience life in a physical body.
Remembering the Love
In the case of the person who didn’t stay with Chris, The Council sees this person as agreeing to help her remember the love she truly is – the love we all are and we all come from as spirit. Chris’s strong desire to be reminded of this love is what attracted this person to her, but The Council observes this person has a strong desire to live as a free spirit in this lifetime and Chris has the ability to attract a more desirable long-term partner. This is the answer to Chris’s second question about finding another partner.
Practice the Feelings You Desire
Chris’s question about how to move on with life when we feel almost hopelessly stuck, is a question that many are likely to ask at some point in our lives. In order to move on from stuckness to something more desirable, The Council advises us to practice feeling the feelings of what we desire. In Chris’s case, if she desires a partner, Chris should practice feeling the way she’d like to feel when she has the partner she desires.
We Create Our Reality With Our Feelings
If this seems a little confusing, it’s probably because most of us are used to waiting until something occurs in physical reality before we pay much attention to our feelings about it – if we pay attention to our feelings at all. The Council assures us we create our reality with our feelings, and when we practice feeling what we desire rather than what troubles us, we’ll experience more of what we desire in our lives.
Appreciating Unpleasant Feelings
This doesn’t mean we need to criticize ourselves when we have unpleasant feelings. The Council suggests we think of unpleasant feelings as helpful reminders we’re not allowing ourselves to feel the unconditional love our spirit continually offers us. Rather than continuing to focus on an unpleasant feeling, The Council suggests we use the unpleasant feeling to help us determine how we prefer to feel and then begin practicing the preferred feeling.
If we’re used to paying more attention to uncomfortable feelings than comfortable ones, it can be a challenge to change this habit. Appreciating uncomfortable feelings because they help us get in touch with more desirable feelings can help us with the transition to feeling more desirable feelings and experiencing a more desirable life.
Find a Good Feeling Memory
The Council understands that when we feel really stuck, it can seem impossible to imagine anything other than being stuck and feeling stuck. If this happens, The Council suggests looking for a good feeling memory and practicing that – something you’ve experienced in your past that will put a smile on your face, make you laugh, or just help you feel a little bit better. Trust your spirit and intuition to guide you to one or more better-feeling feelings.
Feeling Better in the Present
Notice how remembering something that feels good makes it easier to remember other things that feel good. In Chris’s case she might remember something about the person that left her that made her feel good in the past. If thinking about this person is too unpleasant, she can look for any memory of a time where she felt good about being with someone. As we let ourselves focus attention on good feeling experiences we’ve had in the past, we can experience feeling better in the present.
Feeling Good about Something in the Future
The more we’re able to feel good feelings in the present, the easier it becomes to practice feeling these good feelings about something we desire in our future. This is what The Council promises us will bring what we desire. Remembering one or more good feelings from our past, allowing ourselves to feel these good feelings in the present, and then letting ourselves begin to feel these feelings about what we desire in our future is The Council’s advice for moving on when we feel stuck.
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If you have any questions about the information in this post or our other posts, please feel free to ask a question in the Comment section at the bottom of the post. We’ll do our best to answer in a comment or a separate post. Also feel free to ask The Council an unrelated question if you have one. We’ll do our best to respond.
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1) You are much more than you think you are.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
If you find this difficult to believe, merely imagining the possibility of this idea from time to time will help you experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are. As the saying goes: try it, you’ll like it.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea and the next.
3) Manifesting your desires is what it’s all about
Every experience of something unwanted instantly communicates to the totality of who you are a desire for what’s wanted instead.
Who you really are is such a powerful creator that everything you desire instantly becomes real in a non-physical reality.
These non-physical creations are at least as real as physical creations. From a broader point of view they are more real because every physical creation was first a non-physical creation inspired by desire.
If you ever wondered what life is really all about, it’s about the joy of manifesting your non-physical creations into your physical experience.
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Hello, I am dealing with an issue relating to a twin soul that has to do with the notion of contracts in this post. Is there a way to ask privately about this.
Hi Jane,
We’ve set up a Contact Us page on the blog for readers interested in paying for a private session with The Council, Cynthia, and me. Sessions are 30 or 60 minutes. Rates are posted on the Contact Us page, which has a link on the navigation bar at the top of each blog page. If you’d rather not to pay for a private session, we encourage you to post a question in a Comment box regarding your twin soul issue and we’ll do our best to post an answer from The Council, free of charge, on this blog as soon as we can. We look forward to hearing from you.