Finding Closure: Lessons on Soulmate Relationships
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Lisa.
Lisa: I met a man about two years ago. I thought he was my twin flame or karmic soulmate. I was open, honest, and vulnerable. In return, he was rude and disrespectful, and [he] ran. He doesn’t talk to me anymore. Will he ever return and give me a sincere apology?
Council: So this man you met, and you had great feelings for him. We could say he did not feel the same way. When you spoke of other lifetimes or being together before, or soulmates, or whatever, it is not what he was into, and that pushed this person away. It is something that you wanted very badly. Can you let go of this and know that it was a dream for you, but this man had different thoughts?
We do not see this person coming back into your life, which is good because it would only hurt more. You now have the freedom to put yourself in a place where you will bring in the right person who believes what you believe, and you can build on that.
Lisa: Will we ever be friends?
Bob: I think you answered that.
Lisa: Was it all in my head?
Council: It was in your head, it was in your heart, and that only tells you how wonderful [it is] that’s what you want. But you were lucky enough to experience this. And yes, it would hurt, but you know now you cannot force what you want onto someone else. And now you are free to bring in. And so you meditate and say, “Ah, the universe is helping me find the exact perfect person who is perfect for me, so that we would have a wonderful relationship.” And that’s where you are, and that’s a good place.
Bob: When Lisa says that she thought he was a twin flame or karmic soulmate, she asks if it was all in her head…
Council: This person did not come into this reality to be your soulmate or twin flame. The relationship would have been very different if you had both agreed to that. And so again we say, you are in a wonderful place. Now create the person that would be perfect for you.
Lisa: Did he ever feel a strong connection like I did?
Council: Not in the same way. It was more of a friendship or an acquaintance. We would not even say a deep friendship, and that is fine. You have created it that way so that there would be no mistaking it, that you would hold onto it and think he’ll come back, and you would be wasting a beautiful time in your life finding the right person by hanging on to something that was not planned to be this lifetime.
Lisa: What was the lesson?
Council: The lesson was for you to see what works. And you saw that he did not agree with your beliefs, so you learned that. And now are you in a place where you can let go and trust in yourself, trust in the universe, to help you bring the one? And you will see the difference when you find the one that will work with you.
Lisa: Is he my karmic soulmate or twin flame?
Bob: And I believe you answered that. No, he’s not.
Council: No, he’s not.
Lisa: Should I give up hope we can be friends and talk the way I want to?
Council: You can waste time, yes. You can create anything you want. But if you… We would say, you can take as long as it takes you to create being friends again, but we would say, ask yourself why you would do that when you can easily create someone else. You can create this person to come back into your life. You can create some sort of relationship. Can you create that it lasts? It is showing you so much working against you that, yes, you can change it if you want to, but we would say ask yourself, “Why do you want to?” Do you not believe you can have it easier, that you can create more, or take as long as it takes you to create this change? The decision, the choice, is always yours.
Lisa: What do I have to know about this?
Council: We think you know all now. We see you having a wonderful relationship with someone new if that is what you want. And so we say again, the choice is yours.
And we send you all love, and light, and happy thoughts, and fun on your way to creating and expanding your lives.
Finding Closure: Lessons On Soulmate Relationships
Cynthia, Bob, and the Council
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1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
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