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Do I Have A Twin Flame, Not A Soulmate?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Bluestar Child.

BSC: I would like to ask The Council if I have a twin flame, and I don’t mean a soulmate?

Council: Ahh, here we go again. In your reality so many have decided to bring in this twin flame or this soulmate. This can be difficult for you to understand, but we’ll put it out there in as gentle and simple a way as we can.

We were all created at the same time. There are no new souls. There are souls that are new by creating your current reality*. And so this twin soul that you’re looking for…

Bob: Twin flame?

Council: The twin flame that you’re looking for is you. You are the twin flame, the twin soul. When you meet this person you say, “Is this my twin flame because I look at this person and I feel so connected? We like so many of the same things. We say the same words. We understand the same things.”

It’s because this person is you in another form. This person is a mirror that’s reflecting part of yourself back to you. Isn’t that interesting?

BSC: What spiritual contract did I have with George, a boy I studied with at university? Was he my twin flame, or was he just another soulmate in my life?

Council: He was just another soulmate. You had a connection way back in Lemuria where you worked together, working with energy, working with crystals, working with the environment, and working with plants. And we see here in that particular life there was a great friendship between the two of you. And so you’ve come back together in your current life to meet, to recognize each other on a higher level, and to have a greater understanding of some particular things in this reality. And so there should be comfort in that relationship, but it’s another soul.

BSC: If I have a twin flame, but it’s not this boy, George, is my twin flame incarnated on another planet (for example, in the Plieades, where I come from, or another dimension), or is he in my current incarnation?

Council: This twin flame, as we’ve said, is you. And so when you meet someone, and you can meet many people in this reality and think, this is my twin flame, because each part of you will be reflected back to you in different ways, but you’ll feel the connection. You are connecting to another part of you that wishes to give you comfort and show you another way to handle things. It’s you teaching you how to be. And it’s wonderful because you’re just relying on you.

BSC: If he is incarnated now, have I met him? Or do I have to meet him in this life?

Council: There will be a meeting. What we see, what is planned, quite soon you’ll meet this part of you.

Bob: So Bluestar Child will meet a man who she’ll consider a twin flame?

Council: In her current reality there’s a spirit that will appear in her current life that will be considered, because of the connection which will be felt, would be considered a twin flame. It hasn’t happened yet.

*Note: It’s not clear to Cynthia and me what The Council means when they say, “We’re all created at the same time. There are no new souls. There are souls that are new by creating your current reality.” We intend to ask The Council for clarification on these points and either publish them soon in a new post, or we’ll update the current post to make their ideas more clear. Thanks for your patience.


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October 3, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Reincarnation, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | 1 Comment

What Can I Do About My Unhappy Marriage?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Maria.

Maria: I’m currently stuck in an unhappy marriage and I’m trying to keep the peace for the sake of my family. We have a young adult son still living with us. My husband and I have been talking about divorce for years now, but we’re still together.

Council: Is divorce what you truly want? Is it a different kind of attention you need in your marriage? We feel there’s a big part of you that doesn’t want to move forward with this divorce. What would you need to feel good in this marriage? What is it you think you can contribute to make this work?

Remember small things about how you met and how you were attracted to your husband. Go back to the good memories and focus on that. You’ll feel a stirring inside as the memories come back. Again, is this what you want? Look for it. Concentrate on this.

If you say you’ve been talking about a divorce for years, then ask yourself why it’s been years? Is it just to keep the family together? Truthfully ask yourself that question. Is it an excuse not to move forward unless you have another partner in the wings? Something you can be sure of if you leave this marriage? That you’ll have a wonderful new relationship? There are no guarantees, but you are the creator. So what is it you wish to create?

Maria: I do love my husband and care for him, but I’ve been very sad because we argue every day and we’re more like roommates that don’t get along.

Council: So what are you arguing about? Is it that important? Is it that you’re so aware of the lack of understanding and the lack of communication that was once there? It’s always possible to bring this back.

And so again we ask you to look at what you had. Do you still want it? Do you want to bring the magic back?

Maria: My husband has some addictions, but I know he’s trying to fight them. I know he loves me in his way also.

Council: Everyone has come into their lives with the thought of having a wonderful time. No one comes here to suffer. But as life goes along, you create different things from your experiences, and different things you want to work out that you’d like to understand and then change.

Remember your husband is also a spirit in a physical body. You are a spirit in a physical body. You both are trying to learn and work things out. The way that happens is you must come from a place of love. Look at yourself and feel love for yourself. It’s in there, even though sometimes it’s hard to find. Look at your husband. Look at him knowing he’s a spirit here with his issues and his work that he wants done.

And perhaps you’ll get to understand that you can help each other learn. You can help each other through this. And that’s how you turn around the issues that you’re looking at.

Maria: I didn’t expect to meet someone very special a few years ago that I felt I knew from other lives.

Council: And so realize that you brought this person in.

Maria: We couldn’t help but fall in love with each other. Nothing happened other than some kissing and communication of love. This person died in terrible circumstances and I almost died too as a result.

Through several mediums I’ve learned we’ve met at each and every incarnation since the time of Atlantis, as we promised each other we’d do that.

Council: We don’t say that every incarnation you have been together, but if believing that helps you face whatever it is that you need in your current lifetime, then you’ll create the mediums that tell you that. And so there are many, many, many lifetimes and you aren’t always together. That doesn’t make your relationship any less.

You came to each other again in your current lifetime for whatever amount of time you’ve created where you’d be together to enjoy each other and to make each other feel good, and that is what it sounds like you did for each other. And that’s a wonderful thing.

Maria: And we’ll meet again. I know that.

Council: If that’s what you want and this other soul wants, yes, you’ll create another lifetime where you’re together. How exciting is that?

Maria: I’d love to know more about my relationship with this man. I’ve received lots of communication from him and I now know he’s one of my guides and he’s helping me and protecting me.

Council: And so how does that make you feel? Is it wonderful to know that you have a connection with this person and that he’s still helping you in your current life? What is this person showing you? When the person has passed on, they’ll always help you move forward to create a new life for yourself. Are you hearing that information? Take a look. Pay attention.

Maria: I feel so privileged. Other mediums told me that he would help me find some other man if I move away from my husband.

Council: When you connect with a spirit who has crossed over, they will never tell you, “I’ll help you if you leave such and such a person.” They’d be there sending you love knowing, and having you know, that everything will be okay. But the choices are always yours. It’s not a spirit saying, “Well I’ll help you only if you do this.” So we’d ask you to question that information from these mediums.

Maria: I also had a dream or visitation from my Mom and she was trying to prepare me for a man that’s coming to me, but I woke up before she could tell me more.

Council: And so, are you creating another man? Is this what you want? Do you want to go back to the first relationship and make it work with your husband? Or are you ready to walk away and you’re creating another man? You are the creator.

Maria: As I’m trying to heal from the most difficult loss of my life – that man I fell in love with – and learn to live with my husband and all the health problems I have, I decided to try alternative medicine. Another big surprise from the universe, the person helping me with my health seems to be another soulmate, but this time he’s the one telling me we’ve been together in other lives, helping each other, and fighting on the same side of wars.

Council: So if you look at what you’re creating, you’re desperate to feel there’s a new man in your life. You’re desperate to feel loved. You want to hear those words from another man, and this is what you’re creating. That’s wonderful if that’s what you really want. And so question yourself. Think about it. This new man doesn’t come out of nowhere into your life. You invite this in.

And so from what we see the direction you’re going in, if something were to happen where this man would disappear, we’re sure the way you think, the way what you want is being dealt with, you’d create a third man, and then a fourth, and a fifth.

So we say ask yourself, “Why am I doing this? Maybe I should stop and feel good about myself. Maybe I should love myself for a while and then take a look at this marriage. What do I need to feel happy? Do I need to feel my own power? Do I need to understand more that I’m the creator, and everything that comes into my life, whether it’s good or bad, I am bringing it? So let me now question everything I’m creating.” And you’ll learn more about yourself and what it is that you want.

Maria: It was immediate recognition with this man who was helping me with my health issues. He used the word, “buddies,” but I don’t feel that type of connection, like fighting wars together. What I feel is a more loving, comfortable, and safe feeling. I feel like hugging him a lot, but just like I love to hug my son.

I also saw in my mind one of his spiritual guides. He said I described him perfectly. I think he’s holding back telling me more about those lives, and I’m doing something similar because I didn’t tell him what I think his guide was communicating to me. It was something like he was glad we finally met, and then he smiled a lot and had an expression like, “Pass the popcorn, this is going to be interesting.”

I’d like to know more about those past lives with this new man and what I can expect from him now.

Council: You can expect whatever it is that you create.

And so we’d say at this time, don’t live in the past. Don’t try to find out about past lives. You’re here to live your current life. In a past life he could have murdered you. You could have murdered him. Or you could have been great lovers, or brothers and sisters. That doesn’t matter. What matters is that you’ve brought this into your current life. What is it that you want and how will you go about creating it?

Be in the present. That’s a big lesson for you in this lifetime. So we’d say, question everything you do. Question what you think about everything. Question what you want, but stay in the present.

Maria: Is he a soulmate with whom I could share my life? Or just a very good friend, or perhaps a collaborator?

Council: Again, you wish us to be the fortune teller and that’s not our job. You will create your life the way you want it to be. There’s nothing you can’t create. And so, do you want him to be the person you spend the rest of your life with? Or do you just want him there for a while and then move on? And so stay with that thought. You are the creator. What is it that you want? It’s all up to you.

Maria: I’ve suffered so much with my previous loss that now I’m not even allowing myself to dream of falling in love again.

Council: We think you are allowing this dream.

Maria: I’m still debating divorcing my husband. How can I find a way to live independently from him?

Council: Think of how it truly would be. Can you support yourself? Can you pull away from him completely and move forward? We would say it’s very questionable because now at the end of your comment, the way you started it, you are ending it. By not knowing, you are still debating whether to leave this marriage or not. And so we say to you as a clue, look at this marriage again.

Maria: My health is limiting how much I can work. I’m very creative and I’ve been thinking about writing a book and also singing. No one ever shines a light on my singing.

Council: And so you shine the light on it. Sing by yourself. Sing in your house. Sing in front of friends. Show yourself that you appreciate your singing.

You want to write a book. Sit down and begin this book. And yet you say because of your health there are some things you can’t do. So once again, if you go through with this divorce, can you support yourself? Can you get around? Look at this. It is part of what you want to do in this lifetime to challenge yourself by how you think about yourself. And so start thinking the way you want to feel about yourself. Whether you’re there or not, imagine yourself being a great author. Imagine people asking you to sing, even if it’s only at parties.

See yourself where people around you are appreciating what you can do. But before you get there you must appreciate yourself for who you are, and appreciate your gifts. So do not look to others for attention and approval. Give yourself the attention you want. Approve of yourself first and your life will truly turn around.


Listen to the entire 17-minute audio recording of our session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Maria and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it. You can also ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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September 11, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Love, Marriage, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Reincarnation, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , | 2 Comments

Please Tell Me About My Past Lives With My Middle Child

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Heather Rose.

Heather: I want to ask The Council about my connection with my middle child, Mira. We both feel like we’ve made many contracts with each other before. She’s only 11, but she’s been saying this since she was little.

Council: It’s wise for you to ask what Mira remembers. What does she think she did with you before? This will get her in touch with past lives and then you would share what you think maybe you both did together.

We see here many, many lifetimes you’ve been together. You’ve been in the Pleiades, you’ve been in Sirius, and you’ve created many lives in different time periods. In your current lifetime you wish to be together and to explore that. And as we see, it was set up that you both thought, wouldn’t it be fun to come together and remember what else we did, and see how much we could remember, and how it would make us feel? That’s why the two of you are together again.

Heather: I know Mira’s right about our many past lives, but let’s face it, human beings love validation and verification. Thank you for all the endless love and light, Heather.

Council: That’s wonderful. Try meditating with Mira once or twice a week. The two of you are going to sit for ten minutes and just hold hands. Be quiet and see what comes into your minds. And then for fun sit another five minutes across from each other, hold hands, and just look into each other’s eyes. This is a wonderful exercise for anyone. You’ll see the other person’s face change. You’ll sometimes get memories when you do this. Because you have such a wonderful connection with Mira, we think you’ll have fun doing that and asking each other, “What did I look like? What did you see?”

Bob: Would The Council like to share any of the details of the lives that Heather Rose and her daughter, Mira, have shared?

Council: There were many different ones, but they also were very good at just hovering over people who were in a physical reality while they were still in spirit, guiding these people, helping them, and giving them information. They did a lot of that many, many times. They helped people in their dreams, and they always had fun doing this.


Listen to the entire 4-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Heather Rose and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it. You can also ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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July 28, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Helping Others, Meditation, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , | 2 Comments

Do I Pursue My Ex-Partner Or Try To Move On?

This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named, Lee. We previously published the post, Should I Continue My Relationship With My Current Partner? in response to Lee’s original questions.

Lee: Following up on the answers to my questions in the post above, I unexpectedly and completely fell in love with this man. He makes me feel loved and safe, and I would spend the rest of my life with him if he asked.

Council: He’s here to show you what you can experience, but not with him.

Lee: But he told me he doesn’t want a relationship anymore.

Council: And this is true.

Lee: We live in different states and he was supposed to move to be with me, but now he’s changed his mind and doesn’t even want to carry on the relationship long distance. I’m confused and heartbroken, of course. He seemed so cold and defensive toward me. I’m trying my best to stay away and not contact him, but my heart hurts. It’s so hard, and it brings back the pain of losing my husband and I don’t want to feel like that again.

Council: Losing your husband and finding this person, it would be normal to think that this relationship would be forever because it feels so good again. But it was a transitional stage to make you feel happiness again, to give you some joy, and to point out all the things you like in a relationship, and then move forward and create that in someone new.

Lee: I guess I’m just looking for why he feels he doesn’t want me anymore.

Council: At this time he doesn’t feel that he’s ready to commit to anyone. These are the challenges that he faces – wanting someone then not wanting someone and being afraid of permanency. At this point it’s very loving for you to just let him go and for you to let him deal with what’s on his plate, so to speak.

Lee: What do I do? Should I pursue him? Or should I try my best to forget him and move on, which I don’t really want to do? But if I’m forced, I have no choice.

Council: We advise you not to forget this man, but don’t pursue him either. When someone doesn’t want a relationship, and someone pursues them and pursues them, it only pushes them further away because they feel that what they want isn’t being heard or isn’t being honored. We say do not pursue, but also don’t forget.

Find all the things you loved in that relationship and start focusing on those things, and how you’d like them in a partner that’s looking for a commitment and looking to be with someone permanently. You will create that.

We do see there’s someone for you if you do the work and you focus more on the positive. You’ll bring this in.


Listen to the entire 4-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Lee and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it. You can also ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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July 23, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Creation, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , | 2 Comments

What Was My Past Life In Lemuria Like?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, A Lemurian.

Lemurian: I was told in a past life reading that I was a healer from Lemuria, and I’m a Pleiadian. I was also told I had a twin flame relationship with someone in the Pleiades who lives on Alcyone (a star in the Pleiades). I’d like to find out more about this and what my life was like in Lemuria.

Council: In Lemuria the teachings were about healing, oneness, honoring each other, and meditation. You learned how to use your mind to exist and to create what you needed. There was a peaceful atmosphere and there were always positive thoughts. There were times when you’d get together in groups and meditate in temples. And you taught little children about energy and thoughts.

The healing you performed wasn’t so much physical, but with your mind. When you experienced things that were upsetting or things that caused you to be anxious, you knew in that life how to change this, what to meditate on, and what part of the body to focus on. That’s the healing you did in Lemuria.

Lemurian: What was my family like in Lemuria?

Council: Everyone was family in Lemuria. That’s how they existed. Everyone worked together. Everyone learned from each other and cared for each other. There was the experience of unity and oneness. Have you created that here with your family? With your friends? In Lemuria that brought you great joy.

Coming in at this time in your current lifetime, because of what’s going on, in spirit you chose to come here now and to learn again how to focus, how to be positive, and how to be one with your family and friends.

We suggest that in your meditations or quiet time, you go with the elements of nature. That would feel familiar to you. Go within your heart and find that peaceful feeling that you had in Lemuria. It’s there. When you find it and you experience that oneness, that feeling of love for everyone that you’ve created in your life, you wanted to share that feeling and show it, not so much in what you say, but in how you treat yourself and others.

Lemurian: Can I meet my twin flame in my next lifetime, and what was he like?

Council: Your twin flame can be met in your next lifetime if that’s what you want. And because you’re in the midst of creating it, you’ll pick the way you meet, how important that person is in your life, if that person stays with you, or if that person comes into your life only for a while. Will this person turn out to be a parent or a teacher, or a friend? You’ll create that.

You can begin now by thinking about how you’ll want the relationship to be. With your thoughts, see how your meeting will be and live it now. Go into those thoughts and experience them and feel them as if you’re living them now, and you’ll draw them to you.

But wanting to meet this twin soul will come about if, when you create that life, you want that to be. You may want that now instead of in the next life. It’s all up to you.

Lemurian: Can The Council give me any information regarding this twin flame?

Council: Take that feeling of being positive, and no matter what you face and what you experience, when you focus on these feelings, you’ll bring them to you now and your life will improve. The feelings within you will exist with more happiness with what you create. Take all of that and use it in this lifetime. And when others see your attitude becoming gentle and having an acceptance of everything that happens, that’s how you’ll teach others in your current lifetime.

We send you all blessings, and all the wonderful thoughts that would help you, and the positive thoughts and the feelings that come with them. We send you the love that’s within you that you can experience at any time when you focus on your heart and ask for signs of who you really are. And when you do this, you’ll experience more joy and more love in your life.


Listen to the entire 7-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for A Lemurian and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it. You can also ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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June 25, 2022 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Channeling, Healing, Love, Meditation, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

How Can I Divorce My Abusive Husband?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, LovePeace.

LovePeace: I’ve been wanting a divorce from my abusive husband, but he’s reluctant to give it. He’s doing this on the premise of our son because he doesn’t want me to get married again. Can The Council please guide me how I can come out of this situation? Any suggestions will be welcome and appreciated.

Council: You can’t change the way your husband thinks or control the way he acts. The only thing that can make this change is if you create a life where you don’t interact with your husband as much as you do now. Start living your life as if you are single and without your husband. The more you can focus, and pretend, and find experiences you can have as if you’re single, you’ll start bringing this to you.

It’s always good to wish your husband happiness so he can move on, whether he can see that he’s created a new love interest, or that you’re serious about not wanting to stay with him. It’s up to you in your daily living to have less and less connection with your husband.

This is difficult when you co-parent, but even the littlest improvement, the littlest moving away, and in your mind you constantly think you’re moving forward to your new life, to a new partner if that’s what you want, to a new job, or to a new place to live. Go in that direction.

When you keep connecting, and thinking, and getting annoyed with what you don’t want, your attention to it will create this and give it more power. Take your thoughts and your imagination away from your husband and put it on you and the happiness you can imagine you create moving forward. Everything that’s created must be created in thought first.

LovePeace: I’d like to co-parent with my husband, but I don’t want him to be my husband because for almost 10 years our relationship has never been successful, and I don’t wish to continue living a lie anymore.

I also have a question about a suggestion The Council made for me in a past session. After moving to a different state I met a person during our company gathering. We haven’t talked a whole lot, but it seems there’s a connection between us. I’d like to ask The Council if my next partner will be from my current workplace, or will he manifest later at my potential next workplace?

Council: Enjoy this connection with this new person. Focus more and more on it. Create thoughts in your mind that you talk with this person more and more, that there’s a joy you experience with this person. That happiness and that feeling of pleasure will bring more of this to you. When you can get to a place of happiness, of excitement how your life is changing, and how you’re available to meet someone else, you’ll bring that in, whether you bring it in where you work now or if you change where you work.

If you love where you work and are happy about going there, it’s easier to create a partner that will fulfill what you want. It’s harder to create a partner that will come along in an environment where you don’t want to be there. If you’re not happy where you work, the first thing would be to create a new job in the environment that you like. Because of that environment, and it’s pleasing, and it makes you feel good, you’ll be able to create a partner that you wish to be with.

We send you all blessings, and all the wonderful thoughts that would help you, the positive thoughts and the feelings that come with them, and the love that’s within you that you can experience at any time when you focus on your heart and ask for signs of who you really are. And when you do this, you’ll experience more joy and more love in your life.


Listen to the entire 6-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for LovePeace and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it. You can also ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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June 23, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Help Me With My 3-Year Relationship With A Lying Drug Addict

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Carovana.

Carovana: I’m in a 3-year relationship with a drug addict, but the real problem is that he constantly lies.

Council: What have you learned about this drug addict and his lying? How do you handle this? Are you trying to change this person? You can’t do that. Can you be more understanding? Yes, you can understand, but there’s a time when you need to just watch this person and let them be who they are and then decide what you’ll do with this knowledge.

Carovana: He wants to appear different from what he really is, what he really does, and what he thinks. He twists facts and reality for his own benefit, and no matter how smart I am, he continues to try and deceive me.

Council: Are you tiring yourself out by trying to show this person you’re really smart and you know what he’s doing? We’d suggest you just let this person be, and then decide if you want to be around him. That’s all. You won’t change this person.

Carovana: I developed panic attacks due to the frequent state of restlessness and anxiety in which I’m thrown by his behavior, and we constantly fight. He doesn’t act this way solely to cover his drug abuse. His game spreads much wider and deeper. He’s also obscenely incoherent. His words go South and his actions go North.

Council: You can stay with this man if you can understand how he is and not believe what he says. Offer love and understanding. But to be in the relationship and saying to yourself, “I must show him that I know what’s going on, I must show him that I’m smart,” that’s not the purpose of this relationship.

The purpose of this relationship is to allow someone to be. It’s for you to allow others, and not just this person, but look at the years when you were growing up with your friends and family. Did you allow them just to be and then learn from it? And did this allow you to be just as you want to be, being in a place of love and peacefulness? Can you do that for yourself?

This was your mission, so to speak, in your current lifetime. Just to accept everyone and what they’re doing, and sending love and light to them to help them grow. But not to forcefully try to show them, “I know what you’re doing. You can’t fool me,” and tire yourself out. It’s just the purpose of being there, and most of all, just being yourself. That’s what this relationship is supposed to teach you.

When you see that someone is really one way and pretending to be another, do you do that? Do you do that to please people and to have them think of you differently? It’s a mirror effect. And so we say, just allow.

Carovana: The reason I stayed in this relationship so long is that another side of him, very prominent, is that he’s incredibly loving and sweet. He chose me as the woman of his life, tells me I’m the woman of his dreams, and is extremely attached and devoted to me. It’s almost morbid. This makes it really difficult to break up with him and in fact, all my attempts have failed. I’m also in a very lonely phase of my life so I lack the social support and the favorable environment that would make it easier to move on.

I can’t explain or comprehend this duality in him. He lost his mother when he was nine years old, but it’s not a good excuse to act this way now that he’s 36 years old. I hope The Council can shed some light on him, on us, and on me. I’d be very thankful.

Council: There are lessons for this man to learn, starting with his childhood and moving into adulthood. Not feeling safe enough for him to be who he really wants to be, he doesn’t know how, the role model wasn’t there, and the understanding of just being wasn’t there. Instead he chose to pretend because there’s no acceptance of himself.

With you there, if you can accept this man the way he is, you are the role model. You’re the role model by setting your boundaries, by not believing everything that’s said, but by understanding that everything that’s said is out of fear and nonacceptance of yourself. Once you can do that and not knock yourself out to understand it or change this person, it will change, because now you’re looking at it differently. And when you look at something differently, it will change.

See the relationship the way you want it to be. First concentrate on yourself. Accept yourself, and then look around you, and not at just this person, but others that come in and out of your life. And when you learn you have choices, you have the ability to bring into your life what you want. When you focus on that, it must happen.


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June 10, 2022 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

What Can I Do To Find A Partner To Love and Who Loves Me?

This post answers a question for The Council from a reader named, ACuriousSpirit, who asks: What can I do to find a partner to love, who loves me, and to have a happy and long-lasting relationship?

Council: Become like a child and pretend. The more pretending you can do, the better it is to create what you want.

Be specific in your thoughts. What kind of person would you like in your life? Think of this often. Do you need someone handsome? Do you need someone with a lot of money? Do you need someone that’s beautiful and caring? Do you want a tall person? A short person? Do you want someone with a good sense of humor?

When you do this, the mistake most people make is thinking of all this, but thinking of it from a place of frustration that this is what they want, but they don’t have it. The minute you go into, “I don’t have it yet, but this is what I want,” that but this is what I want and I don’t have it yet, slows down the process of what you’re trying to create.

We advise you to create from the beginning of your relationship. You meet this person. Can you imagine your phone is now ringing and you’re getting a call from this person? This person is asking you out. Are you laughing on the phone? What does your first date look like? What are you wearing? How does the relationship develop? Do you go on trips together? When you marry, how does that happen? Who asks who to get married?

Bring the relationship along in every detail you can imagine. Do you buy a house? What does that house look like? Go in every room and design it, feel it, and pretend like a little child that you have it. And in that pretending and make-believe you know you’re just starting to create what you desire.

The more you can get yourself happy, and laugh when you think: Let me go into this visualization, let me fix this, I saw this last time, but I’ll change it and make it better. And continuously do this and know what you desire is there for you. The more you do this, the quicker you’ll create it. But you have to do this from a place of happiness, and a place that it’s something that’s yours, that it’s available to you. Get away from the thought of, it’s taking too long, and will I ever be able to do this?

You must create what you desire out of faith, and know that you’re the creator. And along with that, you can create anything else you want. But you have to come from a place where you see what you desire, and you feel it. Feeling what you desire is the key. Visualizing what you desire sends those thoughts out into the universe. What brings it back to you and is the magnet is feeling what you desire.

Like a little child creates, they are a spaceman and they’ll see the whole thing in their head. And they’ll be excited because they’re going to the moon, or they’re going to Mars. You must feel the excitement that this is true. You’re in charge and you’re the creator. The more you can do this from a place of happiness and a place of belief, you will create what you desire. There’s nothing you cannot create. It’s all there for you.


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May 13, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Channeling, Desire, Feelings, Love, Questions & Answers, Relationships, You Create Your Reality | , , , , | 2 Comments

What Can You Tell Me About The Tension In My Husband’s And Son’s Relationship?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Kristi, after she read our post, Why Don’t I Have A Good Relationship With My Mother?

Kristi: Great post on family dynamics. This raises a couple questions of my own that I’d like to ask The Council.

My husband and I have a great relationship and we’ve been married 20 years this November. My husband treats me like any woman would ever want to be treated, and I have almost no complaints in this department. I’m so very thankful for him.

We have one child together, a son who’s 18 years old. My husband’s and my son’s relationship is a strained one, unfortunately. My husband sets extremely high standards for our son, which are often unattainable. And even if they were attainable, my husband wouldn’t be happy then either. I feel like my son could wrangle the moon and my husband wouldn’t care.

When standards aren’t met, a child often feels like they’re not good enough and I see this playing out before me. My son is a sweet guy, very smart, and stays out of trouble, but he has low self-esteem.

My husband makes no attempt to foster a close relationship with our son. We all live together in the same house, but my husband and son can go without talking to each other for weeks at a time. And when they do talk to each other, it’s usually my husband telling my son what he hasn’t done properly.

Council: This is so wonderful. We have such advice for you. We see it so clearly.

Your husband and son were husband and son in a previous lifetime. In that lifetime they were wonderful together. Whatever your son did, your husband praised him. Everything was okay and everything went along beautifully.

At the end of that life, your son said to his dying father, “I wish I could have done more. I wish you would have pushed me more so that I could have given you more, and so that I could have become more in this lifetime.”

And so, in the wonderful past life they experienced together, both wished they had done more. Your son wished he’d become more. Your husband wished he didn’t settle for what your son was in that past life, and he wished he did push your son more.

So going back into spirit they asked each other if they wanted to try this again, but this time the son wanted the father to push him. The son wanted to become so much more in the new life they create. Whatever way the father can find to push the son, to get him to do more, to not settle, the son wants the father to do that with him.

That will be our lesson, to become more as a father and be even more proud of his son than he was. And the son wants to be important. He wants to feel that. He doesn’t want to feel there’s so much more he could have done. He wants to know there’s a strong father behind him that won’t let him settle.

And so your husband creates a family where there weren’t good role models for him to follow. He becomes a stern father who, out of love, whether he can admit that or not, isn’t going to settle for what your son does, no matter how good it is. He’ll ignore your son and not give him any confidence or any hurrahs for what he does. And this is your husband’s way of pushing your son to want his father’s attention,  and to want more, and more, and more.

The most wonderful little book for you to read is, The Littlest Soul and the Sun, by Neale Donald Walsch, about two angels. One angel asks the other angel to come back into a new life, and if the first angel does something mean to the second angel, can the second angel still remember the first angel is a soul and forgive him. We suggest you read that book. That’s exactly what’s going on with your husband and your son.

They’re being tough with each other, but underneath they want so much more for each other. Your husband wants to leave this life thinking he was a wonderful father, and he pushed his son so much that, look what his son accomplished. And your son wants to think at the end of this life, my father never complimented me enough, he pushed me and pushed me, but I see it now, it was out of love because look at what I’ve become.

Bob: Is it a good idea for the son or the father to read, The Littlest Soul and the Sun, as well?

Council: They may not be open to it, but I’d leave the book around and see who gets drawn to it first and who reads it. It’s perfect for what’s going on, and it’s the wife’s job not to judge or step in because she can’t fix this. This is between your husband and your son. They’ll find a way. Their lessons and challenges in this reality is to find a way to come back to love. That’s the reason we’re all here, to come back to the state of love.

Bob: Was the father in this life the father in the past life, and the son in this life the son in the past life?

Council: Yes. And so they brought that role into their current life to work it through.

Kristi: I try to step in and talk to my husband about how difficult he’s being, but he doesn’t seem to understand where I’m coming from.

Council: Yes, he doesn’t understand, not at this time.

Kristi: He’s not abusive at all, but he doesn’t offer the love and acceptance a parent should provide.

Council: You provide love and acceptance to your husband and your son for the way they are. Always send them light so they can find a way to work out this challenge they wanted to go through in this lifetime, and they’ll find the path that will bring them to the state of love.

Kristi: My husband’s father was absent most of my husband’s life, so my husband didn’t have the best role model for parenting. Whereas I had the best father in the world and I only want the same thing for my son. I’d love for them to have a better relationship, but I understand this isn’t my battle. I’d love more insight into their dynamic, whether or not this was planned in spirit before coming to this Earthly plane, and why?

Council: It was definitely planned. And their higher selves know why they created this situation, what they’re trying to do, and will take them along their path until they understand and find a way to bring more love into their lives.

Kristi: Do you see my husband’s and son’s relationship getting better with time?

Council: It can always get better, but they are the creators. The best thing you can do is to accept what they create. They can create a change in a year if they want, or it could take 20 years. You must let them go through whatever it is they need to see, understand, and feel, and they’ll find a way.

Kristi: What can I do to help this situation?

Council: Send love, and have fun watching your husband’s and your son’s journey.


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April 19, 2022 Posted by | Acceptance, Agreement, Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Forgiveness, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Do My Partner and I Share Any Past Lives Together?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Newlove, who says: I currently find myself in a relationship that happened a bit unexpectedly, but it is very welcome. My partner feels we may have shared past lives together and we’re merely continuing a previous life because we came together so easily. Have we had past lives together and can you tell me more about them?

Council: We see a past life in Athens, Greece where you were both born into slavery, you were cousins, and you were both household servants together who had a wonderful life. The family you were in service to treated both of you very well. You could work in the home, but you had time to go out on your own in the villages. Everything you did, you did with your cousin.

As cousins you worked in the home together, you went out and explored the towns together, and everything was so easy and so loving for both of you. You used to say to each other that all you need was to get married, but you couldn’t because you were cousins and you were both males.

You were so happy in that life that you wanted to come together again and have the joy you had before, with a little bit more independence, but to continue the happiness that you experienced in your past life. So the feeling of knowing each other and wanting to be together is coming from this lifetime in Athens.

Bob: Any other lifetimes that have a bearing on their current life?

Council: This Athens lifetime is the one that’s affecting their current life. So we ask Newlove, what do you want to do with this information? Are you comfortable with this? Do you feel there’s more that you want in your current relationship? When you think about it, does it make you feel good? Or is this something you maybe don’t wish to go into in your current life?

Look at where you are, what you’ve come through in your current life, and what you’ve learned from your past relationships. Does this person have the characteristics you want? You can’t base what you’re creating now on what you created in your lifetime in Athens. It’s different. You’re different people. There are different lessons you want to learn.

Look at this relationship as something brand new. And look at how this person is in this relationship. If it’s going too fast, you have the power to slow the relationship down.

Don’t go into this relationship thinking: this is wonderful, we had a wonderful life together, this is going to be great, and this is going to be easy. There are new lessons you want to learn in your current life, and you’ll know by watching your partner if he’ll be able to go along with what you want. And can you support what your partner wants in your current life, not in the past life?

You’ve come here to have fun, to find each other, to have a good relationship, but then to look around and ask yourself if this relationship meets your needs, and go in that direction.

Remember you are the creator. If you want a lasting relationship, of course you begin with visualizing how you want the relationship to be.

If there’s something you’re worried about that’s holding you back, it would be your higher self knowing what else you want to create in this lifetime, and you will create it. What you see in this other person, is that going to be good? There’s no reason to rush. You’ll get exactly where you’re supposed to be.

Newlove: He’s all in the relationship, but I may be a bit hesitant to go all in.

Council: So we ask you to ask yourself why you’re hesitant? What do you see in the relationship that’s going on? Why do you have that feeling? Search these thoughts and meditate on them. Remember your past life was a beautiful one, and somewhere in your subconscious you both know that, but what’s going on now? Your current life is a whole new life.

Newlove: Do I have cause to be hesitant and worried?

Council: This is what you need to figure out. And you’ll learn if you have cause to worry by watching the relationship, and just living your life day to day and seeing where it goes. It’s a learning process. There’s a lesson in this. Most important is to follow your feelings. If there’s a bit of hesitancy, follow that feeling. Keep your eyes open and just watch. There’s no rush. You are the creator.

Newlove: Or is this the relationship that will last and bring us the most happiness for the rest of this life together?

Council: It did this in your past life. Will your relationship bring you lasting happiness in your current life? If that’s what you want and you do the work to create it. If you can visualize it, and see it, and feel good about it, then you can create it. It’s all up to you.


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April 18, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Feelings, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

How Will My Marriage To My Husband End?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Starfish, about her marriage.

Starfish: I have a question about how my marriage to my husband might end. In a previous post The Council informed me (writing under the name, Starseed_Lightworker rather than Starfish) that after I’ve moved to the new state where my new job has led me, I’ll meet another person who’ll be perfect for me and my son.

Council: We see this, but what you think and what you’re going through has changed from when you asked your question before compared to where you are now. You create on a minute-to-minute basis. The direction the relationship is going now is for it to end. It will end the way you and your husband decide it will end, but with the thinking, feeling, and experiences we see, it’s going in the direction of ending.

Starfish: My husband recently moved with me and my son to our new state in the hope we can stay together, but we’re going through the exact same drama we’ve been living for the last ten years.

Council: It’s wonderful you see this.

Starfish: We’re just not perfect for each other. I’ve also been told I’ll stay friends with my husband, which I prefer considering the co-parenting I’d like to do for my son.

Council: This would be a wonderful thing if that’s the direction you wish to go in. See this, focus on it, and on being friends, and being able to co-parent.

Starfish: I’ve been told my husband will live far from my son and me, and he’ll teach me lessons about independence.

Council: Are you learning independence already? We see it’s there in front of you – the moving away, raising your son by yourself, being able to make good decisions out of a desire to move forward rather than out of fear, and not being so tied into what your husband wants or how he wants it. It’s all about what you want, and how you feel independent in what you’re doing now.

Starfish: I’d like to ask if my husband is planning on moving to India when the marriage is over, or will he stay in the USA.

Council: The direction he’s going in right now is to stay in the USA, but how the relationship is handled and how you treat each other has the ability to change this. We ask you to remember what you think and what you do changes all the time. You can have things work out and have your husband stay in the USA, or you can have him move to India and have things work out, or you can have your husband move to India and have things not work out.

The way you create your life all comes from you., and we stress that you are the creator of your life. Look at this. What do you want? How do you want your life to be? Focus on this and meditate on it. Feel things working out the way you want. At this time it’s very important you do this work. It’s critical right now to take what you want and work with it every single day.

See how it is. Do you wish him to stay in the USA and for you to move on, meet someone else, and have a different life? Do you want your husband to stay in the USA, and still be friends, and co-parent? Do you want him to move to India and still co-parent? What do you want? You are the creator.

Starfish: Can The Council please guide me if the end of my marriage will be an extramarital affair from either side?

Council: We don’t see that. That can be created, but we don’t see that now.

Starfish: My husband threatens that he’ll take his life and my life if I end our marriage. I’d like to know if he can do this for real, or is he just using this threat as blackmail.

Council: He’s using this threat because he is in fear because he doesn’t think he can actually do this. Don’t feed this thought. Don’t walk around thinking all the time that he’ll kill himself, he’ll kill me, and he’ll kill my son. That kind of thinking only focuses more attention on the fear and brings what you don’t want to you. Think about this as a thought your husband had that isn’t working and that you won’t allow in your reality. Focus on the way you see this. It’s very important to let go of fear tactics, to stay in the light, and to think positive thoughts.

Starfish: I feel so alone and I’m trying to find strength and happiness in this situation.

Council: You’re never alone. There are guides, there are angels, and there are masters around you to help you. When you stay in the vibration of fear, you can’t receive the higher vibration information about how to move on in your life. That’s why we say not to focus on the fear tactics. Hear what you’re afraid of, let it go, and move on to the way you want it to be. You’ll lose the feeling of being alone, you’ll feel better about yourself, you’ll feel more in charge, and you’ll feel very happy.


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April 10, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Creation, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , | 3 Comments

Should I Continue My Relationship With My Current Partner?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lee, who has a follow up question on our post, Why Do I Feel So Drawn To This Man? that we published last month in response to Lee’s earlier questions.

Lee: I feel drawn to a man I recently started dating. The relationship is moving very fast and we’re even talking about marriage.

Council: Is this what you want? It’s all up to you. You can take the relationship and have it move slowly or quickly, but you have to decide if you’re comfortable with it moving quickly.

Lee: I feel very connected and comfortable with this man. It’s as if I’ve known him forever.

Council: How wonderful. You recognize the spirit within this person that you’ve known in other lifetimes. You both agreed in spirit that this person would come into your life. What is it that you want? Where do you see this relationship going?

Lee: I feel very connected to him spiritually, physically, and emotionally, but he comes with a lot of failed relationships and baggage. I’m afraid I may be ignoring red flags and making a mistake.

Council: It’s good to recognize there are red flags. There’s always a problem when you’re getting signs, but you ignore them. By taking your time with this relationship you can see more and more what this person is truly like. There’s no reason to rush. If this relationship is something you both want, you’ll both feel the trust and the love in it to make the relationship happen.

Lee: I’m a recent widow and I feel guilty. I wonder if I’m just vulnerable and lonely, and the relationship isn’t real.

Council: Of course you’re vulnerable and lonely. That’s part of the human condition when we love someone and lose them. There’s no reason to feel guilty. It’s perfectly fine to move on and have another relationship if that’s what you want. But again we tell you, it would be wise to slow this relationship down. If it’s real and something you both want, time won’t change it. You can work towards it.

Lee: I’m also worried about my son’s reaction to the relationship.

Council: This is another reason to take your time. Because this relationship is new, it’s up to you to take a good look at it, see how you feel, check out the red flags, and take time to see what this person is really like before you involve your son. We feel you know that rushing into this relationship isn’t wise. If you do rush into it, you’ll be faced with challenges more quickly than if you take your time.

You might not know the direction to go if you rush. You’ll get exactly where you need to be. Be in the relationship. Experience the good and the bad, and see what it is that you want.

Lee: Should I continue with this relationship or is it infatuation?

Council: Of course it’s infatuation. Should you continue with this relationship? It’s totally up to you. And that’s why we say: Be in it. See what this relationship is. Don’t rush it. Experience this person and see what baggage he has. Why were there failed relationships? All of this will give you clues about what you want to do.

Bob: You say that it’s infatuation, but it sounds like you may not be ascribing a negative connotation to the word.

Council: In infatutuation, people are taken with someone else. They feel so in love and so happy, and that could be the feeling now. But in time you’ll learn about this other person. You’ll learn about yourself and how you handle another person if you see a lot of characteristics you don’t like. It’s good to give the relationship time. It’s something you want to learn from, and that’s why the relationship was created the way it was.

Bob: Earlier in the session you said Lee and her partner have relationships from past lives.

Council: Yes, there were a few connections. We see the coming together now is something they planned in spirit because they worked together in other lifetimes. But there’s no particular lifetime that’s tied into their current life where they need to learn something, complete something, or heal something. It’s just two spirits that like working together.


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April 9, 2022 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | 2 Comments

Why Don’t I Have A Good Relationship With My Mother?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Ilona, who asks about her relationship with her mother.

Ilona: I experienced difficulties that were a great challenge for me from the time I was young. My mother always perceived me negatively and didn’t show me as much love as my two sisters.

Council: You set this experience up yourself in spirit. From the very beginning you wanted to learn the lesson of independence, the lesson of accepting others for who they are, you wanted to learn about boundaries, and you wanted to learn how to let go of things and move your life in the direction you wanted. As a young child you began to have feelings that perhaps you weren’t good enough, feeling you weren’t accepted, and so your path began.

Ilona: I’d like to know why my mother doesn’t need me in her life? Why is she pushing me away? Did I hurt her in any way?

Council: There’s nothing you’ve done to hurt your mother, but in spirit, before you came into this reality, you and your mother set up the kind of relationship you’re having. What feels to you like your mother is pushing you away was an agreement you made with her so that your life would be difficult and you’d have to be stronger. And in finding your strength you’d feel very proud of yourself.

In 2020 my mother had a stroke, and in the first few months I felt like our relationship was getting better. That was until my youngest sister moved in with her. Since then my relationship with my mother has been tested again.

Council: Go back to this time when your mother had her stroke and you thought your relationship was improving. How did you feel about this? How do you remember this time? This is the feeling you’re looking for again, but you set it up so you’d feel this way whether you had your mother’s approval or not. This was a taste to remind you of what you were looking for, and then it was taken away. This was all your choice on a spiritual level.

Ilona: After my youngest sister moved in, my mother doesn’t respond to my messages, and doesn’t want to talk to me when my sister isn’t there. I suspect my sister doesn’t want me to have a nice relationship with my mother and only wants to keep my mother to herself.

Council: Whether this is what your sister wants or not, how do you feel about your relationship with your mother? It’s up to you to make up your mind and go in the direction of what you want to happen. It’s a lot of work to look at this relationship and decide if this is what you want. Is it too difficult? Or can you look at it and learn your lesson and feel good about yourself, whether you have your mother’s or your sister’s approval or closeness with them.

What can you find about yourself that makes you feel good? Is it somewhere else in a different relationship? Can you accept what your mother and sister do,  send them love, and let go? If you can’t send love, can you just let go? Because what you’re looking for isn’t to be found in this relationship. This relationship is to get you to look more at yourself, to find out about yourself and the kind of person you are, what you’ll allow, and what you won’t allow. It’s about boundaries. The bottom line is you’re supposed to learn about yourself, love yourself, and feel good about what you accept, and what you don’t accept.

We’re not sent to Earth to suffer and feel horrible. We’re sent here to look at these lessons and to find a way of dealing with them, whether letting it go to make you feel good, or whether it’s pushing forward to see what you can do. When you realize you can’t change another person, can you accept them for who they are? See them and speak to them when you feel like it, or completely walk away. These are all decisions you wish to make. You wish to take your life in the direction you find more comfortable and more loving for yourself.

Ilona: Why is my youngest sister so manipulative?

Council: It’s the part she chose to play and that you both set up and agreed to in spirit. So if she’s manipulative, do you want this in your life? Do you wish to fight against this? Or can you accept your sister for who she is and know that she has her own lessons to learn from this kind of behavior? And then not focus on how manipulative she is, but how – now that you see it – that’s something you don’t want around you, and move forward appropriately.

Ilona: What can I do to improve my relationship with my mother?

Council: Always send your mother and your sister the energy of love, whether you understand them or not. And decide to be there for them when they want you to be there, or completely let go. You must make the decision. Remember you can’t change another person. You can accept them for what they’re doing because you don’t know what they’re trying to learn in their reality. Focus on yourself and what you want, and move in that direction.

Ilona: Is there any hope for me?

Council: There’s always hope. On an energetic level you can picture them changing. Picture them calling you. Picture them asking you to meet with them. You must do the work on an energetic level first. You can do this if it’s what you want, but you first have to decide what you want. Work energetically with them and you’ll see the change begin to happen. There’s nothing you can do physically in your reality to get them to change. You can see the change happen when you constantly focus on how you want your life to be.

Ilona: Is there anything I should know right now?

Council: The most important thing is to concentrate on yourself. See how your relationship with your mother and sister is going. Decide what you want. Do you want a relationship? Do you not want it? Then work energetically. Even if you decide it’s not what you want, picture your relationship going in different ways, but happily. Imagine they’re happy without you in their lives and you’re happy without them in your life. Always come from a place of love, letting go, and everyone feeling the happiness and joy that’s intended when you learn lessons.


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April 7, 2022 Posted by | Acceptance, Agreement, Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Decision Making, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

I Feel My Marriage Won’t Let Me Move Forward With What I Want

This post answers some follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named, Angie. Angie previously asked The Council some questions which we answered in our post, Why Do I Feel So Drawn To This Man?

Angie: I do have another part to what I’d like to ask regarding my husband, Chris. First, I felt that I needed to get clarification on my connection to Brent (a co-worker – see previous post) as that has been weighing heavily on my mind. Is Brent aware of the kind of connection we share from other lifetimes and that we both pre-planned to come together in our current life to support each other? If not, how can I help him understand?

Council: He’s not aware of anything more than a friendship. If you want him to open up to more than that and question what you both have in this relationship, you’d have to visualize that, but allow him to be who he is. At this time we don’t advise you to push for Brent to be more than a friend. Be a good friend and companion to him. You can talk about things you have in common. You can make that apparent, but his growth and desire to learn more about you must come from him.

Angie: Although my husband and I have remained married for almost 24 years, I haven’t felt we were always aligned with each other. We’ve had our ups and downs, but something was missing between us. I don’t think we ever connected on the level I was looking for in a marriage.

Council: In this connection you’re looking for did you look at your husband from your heart? Did you look for loving things about him even when things are difficult? Do you connect by realizing your husband is also a spirit, and he has his challenges and feelings he needs to work through? Did you connect by appreciating your husband and looking for all the good things in your marriage? When you look for these things, you’ll find them.

Angie: In between our down times, Chris and I had many good years.

Council: That’s wonderful, and it’s good to think about and remember that.

Angie: But when I decided to go back to school, it was the most challenging time. It was challenging because I had to balance taking care of our two sons, focus on my studies, and try to have Chris understand that completing my degree was important to me and will bring success to our family.

Council: Do you know that you created all this and you both agreed to experience this challenge? Did you know you wanted to create this challenge to see if you could handle it so that you’d feel good about yourself? Did your husband agree to this challenge to learn to see you differently, or handle jealousy? There are different reasons this challenge was created, but because you both went through this, it’s something you both want to learn from.

Angie: The extra challenge was how Chris seemed upset with me for what I felt was being focused on my education. After all my hard work during a semester and taking my final exam one weekend, Chris accused me of being with someone else. It was the most hurtful thing to hear him say. There were other moments where I had to tell him I would continue to reach for my goals with or without him.

After I graduated and had a full-time job lined up, things smoothed out. Chris was happier and I thought I’d be happier along side him. I was happy for the next couple years. By this time both our sons were attending college and I was paying their tuition and room and board.

Council: We’d ask you to review what was going on that you were happy for a couple years. Take a good look at that and see what you created and what you went through. What was Chris going through?

Angie: I was able to provide my sons with financial support mostly because we didn’t have a mortgage. Things were going well for us. Chris and I decided to look into buying a new house, but it didn’t work out. I felt is wasn’t the right time. He kept pushing for us to buy a house. I still felt it wasn’t the right time and I explained to him, I’m paying quite a bit in tuition for our boys, including my own expenses and tuition loans. I wasn’t going to take on extra expenses that would come with buying a home. Instead of receiving his understanding, he reacted with a threat of divorce.

Council: In that do you realize you learned to make a boundary, and what you wanted to experience, and what you didn’t want to experience. Look at how you’ve grown, and how you were clear with what you wanted, and you were able to voice it.

Angie: Chris threatened divorce one other time. This was the turning point for me to focus on myself even more. I’m left wondering if our coming together was to have our children and provide for them up to the time they’d begin to create their own lives.

Council: That was part of what your lives are about.

Angie: I know I’ve had a lot of personal growth and I’ve noticed my husband seems to be stuck in the same place and not moving towards his goals as much. This has made it feel like we’re growing apart. Has our marriage run it’s course?

Council: It’s only run it’s course if you decide that’s what you want. If It’s what you want, you’ll create it to go in that direction. It’s really all up to you. That’s one of the great understandings we all need to learn when we create a reality. It’s all up to you.

Angie: I feel the urge to move forward with what I want and I don’t think I’ll be able to fully do this while I’m married to Chris. I do love and care for him very much, but I want to go toward what’s fulfilling and brings happiness.

Council: Meditate on this. Picture yourself going forward with your husband and picture your life without him. What feels better? You’ll always know by how it feels. Do you wish to stay in this marriage and work out the problems? Is this something you wish to create and grow from? Or is it time that you wish to be on your own?

There isn’t any wrong answer. You’ll experience what you need to experience. Your higher self, which is you, is in control and well aware of what you want to create in this life. The best thing is to remain calm, meditate, and visualize what you want.

And so we wish you all love, and light, and happiness, and gratitude on your path. Be supportive of one another and love yourself, as well as others in your life. And remember every single day, you’re all spirits in a physical body, and you’ll create whatever you focus on. Even if you focus on something negative, you’ll create that. We urge you to have positive thoughts, laugh as much as you can, have fun, remember the wonderful and happy memories, and stay in the positive.


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March 23, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Feelings, Gratitude, Love, Marriage, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

How Can I Bring More Friends Into My Family’s Life?

This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who asks: Can The Council advise me on bringing more friends into my family’s life? I’m not lonely, but I’d love a stronger community and other families to share experiences and friendship with. Is manifesting a matter of meditation, or visualization?

Council: Manifesting first begins when you can raise your vibration. The easiest way to do this is to think of things you have and enjoy, or things you’ve experienced that you’re grateful for. And the more you’re grateful, the lighter your energy becomes. Your energy becomes a magnet for what you wish to attract. Manifesting first begins in happiness, gratitude, and joy, and then just focusing on what makes you feel this way.

We can tell you to go out and join groups and you’ll meet a lot of people, and that does work. But before you run anywhere, start doing the work in your mind. Meditate on it. See it. See yourself happy and with new friends. Create in your mind what you want to experience in your physical reality. Your physical reality must follow your thoughts. Focus on bringing in more friends for yourself and it will happen.

Anonymous: Can I manifest friends for my husband and children, or is that not allowing them to be on their own path?

Council: You can’t create for anyone else. You can hope they get to a place where they’ll create it. All you can really do is send them lots of love so they can take that love in and then create something they wish to create. Maybe they don’t want more friends, or maybe they do. You can support them just by sending them love, and then concentrate on what you want for yourself.

We wish you all love, and light, and happiness, and gratitude on your path, and to be supportive of one another, and to love yourself as well as others in your life. Remember every single day, you are all spirits in a physical body, and you’ll create everything you focus on. Even if you focus on something negative, you will create that.

Have positive thoughts, laugh as much as you can, have fun, remember the wonderful and happy memories, and stay in the positive.


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March 20, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Creation, Love, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Will I Find A Partner To Love And Who Loves Me?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, In This Lifetime, who read our post, Can Your Desire for Something Create It in Your Life? She says: I learned from this post there could be different experiences going on for myself that I came to this world to have. And she asks: What experiences is it that I’m here to have and learn from?

Council: You very much wanted to be independent. You wanted to be a creative person. You wanted to learn about your spiritual path. You wanted a family with the right person that would be there for you. But most of all you wanted to learn to be independent. You wanted to feel confident in your intelligence, how you tuned into different people, and how you treated people. Then you wanted to recognize how people treated you. It was these characteristics you wanted to learn about in yourself and in other people.

Lifetime: A counselor who can hear spirit led me to believe I came into this world to break free from a controlling and narcissistic husband who I shared many lifetimes where I was unable to break free successfully.

Council: You created these lives and that would be a big part of learning to be independent. If you feel you created this person and wanted to break free, there’s your challenge of independence.

Lifetime: I ended the marriage six years ago, have taken many years to let go, reconsider my beliefs, and relocate across the country.

Council: There you are. You’re on the right path.

Lifetime: Yet am I able to experience a committed partner in this lifetime who I can love as fully as I know I’m capable, and who can and will love me deeply?

Council: You’ve pre-planned this meeting also. Keep focusing on independence, keep focusing on feeling good about yourself, and know that everything you want, you will create.

Lifetime: I carry the herpes virus and although it hasn’t been active for a long time, I feel this is shameful and limits my opportunities for love.

Council: We suggest you let go of this shame and know you also created this.  Even though you’ve had herpes, this touches on your challenge of making you focus on the fact that no matter what’s in your life, you deserve love and you’re a wonderful person. Always make sure you’re kind. You wanted to bring out compassion and kindness in this lifetime.

Lifetime: Many people say my ex-husband didn’t treat me well and I’m worthy of being treated so much better. I haven’t found love with a partner, but I’ve reconnected with things about myself that I lost in my marriage. Will I find happiness in this lifetime?

Council: If you believe you deserve a partner who loves you, you can create this. There’s no question that you can have a good partner and happiness in your life, but you must believe you deserve this.

Lifetime: Or is this a lifetime of independence and finding love in myself, but not the pleasures of a shared life with a partner, as I had hoped would eventually happen after leaving my abusive marriage?

Council: You’ll find this person when you believe you deserve this relationship, when you love yourself, and are proud of yourself and what you’ve accomplished. Then you’ll bring in the right person for you.

Lifetime: Please let me know what my intention was for my current lifetime.

Council: Your intentions were independence, feeling good about yourself, creating what you want, and learning more on your spiritual path.

If you don’t meditate now, learn how to meditate. Stay with good thoughts. You wanted to be kind to others as well as yourself. When you do all these things you’ll be on the right path for you, for what you wanted to experience in this lifetime. Work on loving yourself first and you’ll attract the partner you’re looking for.


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March 11, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Challenges, Channeling, Creation, Life Purpose, Love, Meditation, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | Leave a comment

What’s The Best Way To Ask For Something You Want To Manifest?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Jess, who says: I recently saw a video about manifesting your desires and I was wondering something. In this video a person said the more detailed and specific you are with your desired outcome is a slippery slope, especially during challenging times.

For example, instead of saying you want wealth and abundance, you say you want a specific amount of money by a certain date. They say it’s okay to be detailed and specific with your outcome, but your specificity is limiting the universe. Another example is, you say you want a specific person for a romantic partner. By doing that you’re limiting the universe to one specific person, even if you love this person, their knowledge, and insight.

I was thinking about this because I also read a book called, It Works, by R. H. Jarrett. In it the author talks about being very detailed in your desired outcome, including when you want it to happen. I love this book and most of the information in it, but these are two conflicting ideas about manifesting. I was wondering what The Council can tell me about manifesting. Is it better to be more detailed? Or is it better to just say you want wealth and abundance instead of saying you want a million dollars? Are you limiting the universe by being more specific and detailed in the desired outcome?

Council: We say here that it’s all according to your belief. There are many people that have a strong belief that every detail they can want, they can manifest. And that will work for them. Other people would say you’re limiting the universe by asking for something very specific.

The universe knows what you want, and it will send you the visualizations you put out into the world. You can say to the universe, I want a partner in my life and I want you to send the most perfect person for me. And that will work for that person because that’s what they believe.

Either way works. You have to choose what’s more comfortable for you. When you think about what you want, what gets you more excited? What makes you happy to think about it? Is this person tall? Are they blonde? Are they skinny? Are they a millionaire? Or you can think, go ahead universe, you know what I want. Send me the most perfect person. Both ways work. It’s all according to what you believe and what makes you feel good.

There was one person who put out to the universe that they wanted a partner, and got the most wonderful partner that they could have created with their own mind. There was another person that went detail by detail with their outcome. In two weeks this woman wanted to meet the most perfect man in her life. He had to look a certain way. He had to have certain characteristics. Everything was wonderful, but because she went detail by detail, she forgot to specify anything about this partner having a job. She attracted a partner who was perfect, except he didn’t have a job, and this caused the relationship to fall apart. If you’re afraid you’ll forget something, just ask for the most perfect person for you.

You can’t limit the universe. The universe knows what you want and it will go by how you feel. Just know that what you are asking for is coming to you and be happy with that.


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March 9, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Channeling, Desire, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , | 1 Comment

Why Do I Feel So Drawn to This Man?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Angie, who asks: Why do I feel so drawn to this man? I’ve been married for almost 24 years. For the last 10 years I’ve experienced a lot of personal growth educationally, careerwise, and how I take care of myself, but I’ve always been focused on my husband. One of my goals was to go back and finish my college degree. When I finally decided to do this, I knew it was the right time. Several years before I graduated I learned that this company opened an innovation center near where I live. The moment I saw the office building I knew I was going to work there.

Council: So you’re very in tune with your feelings, and following them always keeps you on the right path.

Angie: In my last year in college I applied for a job only at this company and they hired me. I started in June 2016. In August 2017 my company sent me to Michigan where I was introduced to our Development Team. There was this one individual on the team I became curious about and I wanted to know more about him. He wasn’t on my project and I didn’t talk to him. His name is, Brent, and he had my attention. I went back home and didn’t think much about him. Later I’d hear co-workers talking about Brent and I was all ears and wanted to know what they had to say about him. Why would I want to know about someone who’s 1,400 miles away and that I didn’t have a conversation with?

Council: Because you’re very in tune with your feelings, but at the time you didn’t understand why you felt that way. Your strong feelings are just your higher self telling you that you know Brent. Why would you be so interested in this person? You never met him before. It’s the familiar feeling you have and all the joy you had together with Brent in other lifetimes.

Angie: I did contact Brent for work-related questions, but that was the extent of our conversations. In 2018 I was assigned to a project that Brent was also assigned to. I only worked with him temporarily, and when we spoke it was only about the project. After a while I was moved to another project, so I didn’t speak with Brent too much after that. By 2019 I decided to focus more on myself. My husband has this pattern of saying things to me that don’t feel good. Some of his actions weren’t so good either. I felt it was time to redirect my focus towards what I need to do for myself and not worry about my husband as much. I decided to plan more time with my friends and do things I enjoy.

Later that year I got to work with Brent again. We were able to work together more than last time, which let us talk more. We started to get to know each other and we clicked. We realized how much we had in common. I started to feel like Brent was special to me. I wanted to know more about him, and I just wanted to continue talking with him. Was it meant for us to be put in each other’s paths?

Council: This was pre-planned.

Angie: I definitely looked forward to talking to him every time I was at work. He had me laughing, and the feeling was something I hadn’t had in a long time. All I wanted was to be with him and I couldn’t understand why. I was so drawn to him. I’ve never felt this way with anyone before. As we were getting to know each other I noticed there were many parallels with our lives. We were just on different timelines, and then we eventually caught up to each other.

Now it’s 2022 and I’ve been trying to understand my connection with Brent and all the emotions that come with this. I try not to talk to him, try not to want to be near him, and I feel I’m being torn apart. I definitely felt it in the middle of my chest. It’s become a regular feeling, even when I’m trying to complete tasks for work.

Council: So feeling uncomfortable here only tells you that you had pre-planned together to come into each other’s life to support each other and make life happy, especially if one or both of you were having problems in your personal life. It was a feeling of: Let’s get together. We’ll enjoy the time we spend together and we’d bring joy into each other’s lives. That’s what you’re feeling. That’s what you wanted. Yet now you’re trying not to speak with Brent. It would give you disturbing feelings because you’re not following what you wanted.

Angie: How can someone have such an effect on another person when all they’ve done is talk through work or on the phone?

Council: In other lifetimes you and Brent were married quite a few times. You were cousins in one lifetime. In one lifetime Brent was your teacher. You and Brent have a lot of time together. Because you had a lot of fun and happiness in other lifetimes, you thought you’d pop into each other’s life this time.

Angie: I want to try and understand the purpose of our relationship and what it means to have Brent in my life.

Council: You brought Brent into your life just to experience joy and just to have a good time when you’re together. That’s all that’s really necessary if that’s what you pre-planned. It would be good for you to appreciate that. Appreciate all the times you get together. Just flow with this and see what you create from that.

Angie: I truly feel that Brent and I were meant to meet since I’ve now taken on a more spiritual path and I’m learning to be more present. If this is true, I just want to make sure I approach the situation appropriately and in the best way possible.

Council: It’s true that you did plan to meet. You planned to have a supportive relationship, to learn about each other, to help each other at work, and then personally. Just let this grow. That’s the way the two of you planned it, to come into each other’s life to see where you were at that time in your lives, and to take it from there. We say just enjoy this.

Bob: Angie doesn’t specifically ask about her relationship with her husband, but I’m wondering if you have any comments on that relationship.

Council: Not unless Angie asks. We’d say here for you, Bob, we answered the questions that Angie wrote, and even though you may be curious, or think Angie may want to know more, we’ll follow what she asks.


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March 8, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Feelings, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | 4 Comments

How Do I Move On From A Difficult Relationship?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Davis1Amanda, who asks, Can you let me know about a person in my past, how I can thank them for their role in my life, and understand how I can move on from that difficult relationship?

The Council says when you’re no longer physically in touch with a person, if you don’t talk to them, have them in front of you, and there’s no communication, there’s always communication energetically. To thank them, think of the role they played in your life. They’re always in your life to give you information about what you’re trying to heal.

When you think of this person, what do you think of? If you find yourself having lots of questions about the challenges this relationship brought you, start by being thankful for what you remember that was helpful. When you can’t figure out what was missing from this relationship, what made it difficult, or what the lesson was, change the focus of your attention and think about what you got of value in the relationship.

When you can find whatever it is you can be thankful for, then simply sit and talk to this person in your mind, thanking them. Perhaps you can tell them you don’t understand the full lesson yet, but thanking them for being there, whether it was for a short time or a long time. Send them love and pink light. They’ll receive it. Your higher self will know what you’re doing and their higher self will receive it. By doing this, the feelings you have about this relationship will change. Sometimes this will bring a person back into your life. Sometimes it gives the relationship lots of love so you can move on.

Your purpose now is to concentrate on what it was that you liked in this relationship. What drew you into it? What kept you there? You can always find good things when you think about any relationship. When you do this you’ll begin to release it, to get some understanding of it, and then move on. It’s your purpose right now to have gone through this relationship and now to move on, to learn it’s okay to move on, and what you wanted was to get some understanding. That’s where you are right now.

Meditate on this relationship. Think about it with joy. The more you can find yourself smiling, the more you can find things to appreciate about this relationship, the more you’ll move on from it, and more clarity will come to you.

The Council sends everyone blessings, love, happiness, peace, the courage to look at who you really are, the desire to know who you really are, and to experience who you really are. The way you do this is through the thoughts in your mind. Everything you live is coming to you from your thoughts.


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February 16, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

What Can I Do About My Son’s Anger Toward His Brother?

This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who says, I’ve been working on my relationship with my young son. In many ways it has improved and he seems to walk through the world with less anger. However, he still seems to have an enormous amount of anger and jealousy toward his younger brother. This is causing a lot of tension in our family and makes it difficult to trust him. Will his anger and jealousy ever go away?

The Council says his anger and jealousy will go away in time if he handles the challenge he’s set up for himself in spirit. Then this will change. At this particular time there is a jealousy of the younger brother, and this is normal in many families. And yet your son has brought in grudges from a few lifetimes, of feeling ignored, abandoned, and feeling that in these other lifetimes he wasn’t treated properly.

The way your son set up this lifetime was that he wanted to be the star attraction, and now having a younger brother, he doesn’t feel that way. There’s a lot of chaos going on and emotions that he doesn’t quite understand right now. He only knows that he isn’t very fond of his younger brother.

It’s good for you to have lots of patience at this time. The only thing you can do is show love, but there are also times where discipline is needed. What’s wanted here is equal attention between the two brothers so that the older son would see that his younger brother was special, and so was he.

Your problem son has to come to terms with being in this reality. If he wants to be a star or to have lots of attention, the way to get this attention is by finding something he loves and developing that talent, not by putting fear and worry in others, and by negative behavior. You have to find a way to show discipline, and also show love at the same time.

Anonymous asks, Is there anything I can do to alleviate this anger and jealousy? The Council says you have to remember that he is the creator. Even though he and you don’t understand what’s going on at this time, he set it up this way in spirit so he can find himself, and find the kind of person he really wants to be. By allowing him to be himself, by allowing him to learn about discipline and about being kind to others, that’s the way you help your son find the path he’s looking for.

Anonymous asks, Where does this anger and jealousy come from? The Council says it comes from other lifetimes where he felt ignored and he was disciplined improperly and unfairly. Your son has gone through lives where he was punished for things he did, and things he didn’t do. In one of these lives your son was thrown out as a very young child around nine years old. This is all in the subconscious, which is stirring up feelings that are confusing him. He doesn’t know how to let go of these hurt feelings from other times.

With patience, discipline, and showing love to both boys in front of each other, showing the younger son the love you have for the older son, and showing the older son the love you have for the younger son, showing kindness, and showing understanding, that’s how you teach and help him find his way.

Anonymous says, In the past The Council suggested I go to therapy, and I have. It’s been okay, but I honestly can’t seem to cultivate a sense of calm and peace in our family. My son is very resistant to any sort of calming technique like meditation and breathing. He prefers to laugh maniacally and endlessly pick on his little brother.

The Council says, When your son laughs maniacally, how do you handle it? Do you become angry? Do you become fearful? Instead, there’s a way you can just look at your son, with your eyes show him love, but immediately turn and walk away. Do not feed it or ask him why he’s doing this. Walk away and he’ll have to deal with what he’s done.

Anonymous says, I’m very open to any perspective or suggestions from The Council. The Council says it’s like we’ve said before, love is the answer, but so is understanding, and so is allowing your son to become who he wants to become. At this time it takes a lot of patience on your part. There’s a lot of unnecessary behavior going on. Know that while this is going on that you won’t condone it, but you won’t fight it and have long discussions about it either. When this behavior comes up, look kindly, but then turn and walk away. This will be unexpected, and that will help him find another way of thinking about what’s going on.


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February 10, 2022 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , | Leave a comment

What’s Blocking Me From Attracting A Romantic Partner Into My Life?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Eden, who asks, What is blocking me from attracting a romantic partner into my life? I’ve been single for years now and I’ve done a lot of work on myself during this time in order to welcome in a partner to enhance my life. However, I’m still not attracting in the right person. I feel as though I might have an unconscious block or a limiting belief, which is stopping me from attracting the right person. Could you please shed some light on this?

The Council says in one particular lifetime in the early 1800s you were a wife in a very lovely marriage with children. But your husband died unexpectedly and left you broken-hearted for this whole lifetime. You became a totally different person, sad and obsessed. You always wished your partner was still there.

In your current lifetime, subconsciously the fear is there that if you find the perfect partner, the relationship would end prematurely in your partner transitioning to spirit. That’s the belief that comes into your current lifetime. That’s the belief you wanted to work on and heal.

We ask you to not only visualize what you’ve lost now that you have this information, but think about how wonderful your relationship was. Meditate on this and ask for information about your marriage. How do you think your life would have been with a husband and children? Bring that relationship into your current lifetime. It was beautiful and it ended early, but that was then. Now you can have another beautiful relationship and it will last your entire lifetime.

There’s the belief of worry, and fear of being abandoned again that’s stopping you from pulling in someone who you want to have a relationship with.

We can tell you that in spirit you planned to have a relationship in your current lifetime with the spirit of the husband you lost in the lifetime we mentioned. It’s there for you. We suggest you concentrate on the joy that you’ll have the opportunity to be together again, and have another lifetime together, and create as you both go along.

Stop worrying about not finding the perfect person, what is wrong, and what’s blocking you. You now have the answer to those questions. But you also know now that in spirit you and your husband from a past lifetime have both agreed you’ll come together to have another great relationship, to live out another wonderful life. We wish you well on this. Meditate on it and feel the happiness and excitement that you’ll meet this person again.

Eden closes by asking, Is there a partner out there for me with whom I can create a beautiful and fulfilling relationship, which is really what my heart yearns for? The Council says this relationship is there for you. Now create it.


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January 22, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Channeling, Healing, Other Realities, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , | 2 Comments

Do I Have Many Lifetimes That Emphasize Romance?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Tom, who says, I find myself getting aroused frequently and somewhat easily, and I’m often thinking about making love. I get the feeling I’ve had an abundance of lifetimes that emphasize romance and other physical pleasures, and that my soul is rather fond of the physical. Is this assessment true?

The Council says we see 3 past lives in particular that are affecting your current life for the reasons you wish to learn about. The first life, in Egyptian times, you were one of the priestesses in the Temple of Bast and you weren’t allowed to have relationships of any kind with men. Your life was devoted to the goddess. In that lifetime you saw many young people in relationships and you always wanted that. But you knew if you were to have a relationship you’d be buried alive. And so you had a life of chastity, always wondering what it would be like to be in a romantic relationship.

In another lifetime in the 1100s, you were a knight in the Knights Templar and had to take a vow of poverty and chastity. Even though you traveled around to many different towns and were around beautiful women, you had to live a vow of chastity.

Then coming forward, because of these two lives, you wished to know what it would be like to be in intimate relationships and to be sexual. The next lifetime we see was in the court of Henry VIII where you were one of the handmaidens and you had many sexual relationships.

In your current life you wish to have relationships, but for it to be more pleasant for you. These past three lives weren’t pleasant, even when you were a sort of courtesan in the time of Henry VIII. In your current life you’re looking for more of a permanent relationship. This is why you often have the feeling of being aroused. It’s you looking on that path to find what it is that’s needed and what you wish to experience in this lifetime.

Tom closes by saying, And if my assessment is true, can you tell me about these lifetimes that are romance-heavy? The Council says what we’re trying to help you understand is why you feel this frequent arousal in your current lifetime. Even though you’re looking to hear about romance-heavy lives, that’s not what’s affecting your current life. What’s affecting your current life are the three lives we’ve told you about.

Meditate on these lives. Study these time periods. Imagining what it would have been like will bring you to a point where you’ll understand that was then, but that’s not what you want now. This will also give you the freedom to visualize and fantasize more about what you want in this lifetime. The kind of person and the kind of life you would like. And that’s the background of what’s going on for you in your current life.


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January 20, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

What Can My Family Do To Help My Brother Overcome Drug Addiction?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, PE, who says, I recently found out my younger brother has been abusing drugs. What can my family do to help him overcome this addiction?

The Council says #1, don’t blame him or be angry with him for this addiction. This is something he chose to go through. Be supportive in every way you can. Make suggestions on what he can do, and then leave it up to him to follow them. When your brother gets tired of being in this situation, he’ll change. We see he’s planned in this life to have this drug experience, but also to overcome it.

There are lessons for all concerned. There are lessons for you, your family, and your brother on going through this, how to handle it, and how to have patience, love, and understanding. Stay away from blame and anger. Be supportive and suggest any kind of help you can find. Part of the lesson is finding help and letting go. Your brother must find his way out of this addiction.

While this addiction is going on, constantly ask yourself, How do I feel? What would I do if it was me? How can I understand this? What would I want? When you have these questions answered, you’ll know how to move forward in this situation. Above all, have patience and compassion.

PE asks, Is there a purpose for this drug addiction? The Council says: Yes, there is a purpose. Your brother chose to experience drug addiction to go through it, and to feel what it would be like. He chose it to feel how strong he’d be when he finds a way out of this addiction. He chose it to see how the spirits around him, including you and your family, would respond to him when he’s in his addiction and when he gets better.

There is a purpose. Your brother wants to go through this addiction to learn. Everyone concerned agreed to go through this experience to learn. Search your feelings to see how you’ll respond to him.

When you come into this reality your purpose is to take every situation and change it with love. That’s your answer to your question about the purpose of your brother’s addiction.

The Councils says they send everyone blessings, love, and happiness. And we ask you all to search for joy and find it any way you can, every day.


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January 15, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Helping Others, Life Purpose, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

What’s Causing My Block To Intimacy?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Monica, who says, I’d like to ask The Council about my block in intimacy. I’m ashamed and I feel uncomfortable. My husband is very upset because of this block and I want him to be happy. I’d like to know what causes my block in intimacy and how I can change it.

The Council says there were many past lives where you didn’t have this challenge, but there were two past lives that are connected to this block in intimacy. In one lifetime you were a slave back in Greece and sold from person to person. There was an issue of trust because of the misuse of your body. You had no control and you had to go along with the cruelty you experienced.

In the last part of that particular lifetime you were sold to someone that told the villagers where you lived that your purpose was to be a prostitute. You had sex with many people and at the end of that particular lifetime you were stoned for this reason. It was a sad, cruel life, and it was something you didn’t want to experience as a personality, but you chose to go through this to learn from it.

Because you chose not to deal with this sadness in other lifetimes, you went through a similar experience again as a Negro slave who was taken from Africa and brought to Vermont. You lived a life there of no trust for people and not knowing what would happen to you. You were passed around from man to man and sold many times.

This issue of intimacy is coming up in your current lifetime so that you’d feel it and perhaps look into the reasons for this problem, which you’re doing now, and to overcome this problem.

The man you’re married to now had no part of your mistreatment in both of these past lives. This fear within you was brought into your current life by you to experience it and realize it isn’t your problem in this life because you’re in a secure relationship. Know that this fear comes from past lives, and work on releasing this fear in your current life.

Knowing there were other past lives where you didn’t have this intimacy problem and you were able to experience intimacy and wonderful relationships, you have the power to experience this intimacy again.

In your current lifetime you wanted to experience the fear and the challenge, learn about it, and then change it.

You’re exactly on your path. You’re going along with exactly what you planned in your current lifetime.

The Council closes by suggesting we all search for joy and to find it in any way we can, every day.


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January 11, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

What Can You Tell Me About Loki Energy?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, LadyInLife, who says, Everything in my life is changing. I have a new relationship, I have a new job, my car suddenly died for good, and I’m moving into a new home. It feels a little chaotic and exciting, though there’s a lot of pressure for me to succeed.

The Council asks where this pressure is coming from? You will succeed, and you’ll go at your own speed with your own ability to take what you learn and put it to use. Any pressure to succeed should be totally ignored. You should look at your own doubt about yourself, or if you’ll succeed. Just think lightly of having fun along the way. You’re exactly where you need to be at this point.

LadyInLife says, A palm reader recently told me I’ve got a lot of Loki energy around me. Can you tell me more about Loki, his energy, and how I can best work with this energy and honor it? The Council says in mythology the Norse god, Loki, was known to be a great manipulator of energy and people. He was able to change shapes into whatever he wanted.

Learning about Loki is about learning to increase your energy. But when you learn about this, always have in your mind the correct and fair way to use this energy. Take this powerful energy that’s there for all of us and don’t use it for manipulation. Use it in ways that increase what you can do. Use this energy in ways that increases what can happen for other people and the support you show for these people. It’s a powerful energy, but in your reality’s comic books we see Loki is made out to be the bad or evil guy.

You don’t need to learn too much about Loki, but learn the correct use of energy. Loki grabs your attention, but then take your attention and look beneath it. Remove the person, Loki, from what you’re learning and see what’s there and how you’d use this energy. This will increase your ability to manifest and do things.

LadyInLife says, Interestingly the man I’m seeing is really into Loki and even has two tattoos dedicated to him. The Council says you both had a past life together as children. It was a fun life where you were very close and you played many games. You both came from wealthy families. You had the freedom to not work and had lots of time for play. You both used your imaginations and pretend stories to become other people. You could live on other planets. The imagination you both had together was very helpful and gave you a happy childhood.

In your current lifetime you both created a common interest in Loki to bring you together. But we say again, go beyond the person of Loki and learn about astral travel, changing shapes, and using energy to help people rather than manipulate them. Go forward and learn more about this.

LadyInLife says, I’m also wondering if you can tell me about any past life connections I have with this man I’ve been seeing, and tell me about how Loki is involved with us. The Council says this is coming from your imaginations in the past life we mentioned. Before you came into this lifetime you created this life where you’d learn of something beyond this time and could experience it and learn about it together. You wanted to live with the principles you find in the subject of Loki that the two of you created.

LadyInLife says, This relationship is fairly new, but it feels like it has long-lasting potential and hopefully it will remain a harmonious and beautiful thing. The Council says your relationship was created to be a long-lasting one. You created it to take you both on an interesting journey in this lifetime. Going forward, enjoy every step of the way, see what you learn, and how you can both grow from this.

The Council wishes everyone fun on your path, happiness along the way, challenges you can overcome, and to create the manifestations you want. You can begin to learn it’s easier and easier to direct your life. Stay in joy, stay in love, and follow your path.


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January 8, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Helping Others, Imagination, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Is There a Long-Term Relationship in My Future?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Core, who asks for advice on her romantic relationships. She says, For the past few years I’ve been experiencing brief connections that never lead to anything long-term. While these experiences have taught me a lot, they’ve also been heartbreaking for me. I recently went through another one of these brief relationships and it’s really bringing me down. I’m starting to feel a loss of hope because I don’t understand how I can get out of this pattern. I feel each time this happens, I learn many things and I’m trying my best, but I’d like to experience being in a relationship and building a foundation for something that lasts longer than a month or two.

The Council says in a past life you lived in a farming community. You were alone most of the time working, unable to get away and be with other people. In your current lifetime you wanted to be able to flit around from relationship to relationship, whether it’s an intimate one, a friendly one, or family. You wanted the freedom to experience a lot of these relationships.

Now that you’ve done that and you desire to turn your path to a more permanent relationship, the first step would be to appreciate every relationship you’ve had. Think about this and outline in your mind all the things you liked about each one.

When you’re in a new relationship, instead of worrying if it will last or not, appreciate what you have. Tell yourself you’ll love this relationship and appreciate everything that goes on, no matter how long the relationship lasts. Being in the present and being appreciative will change the energy of worrying if your current relationship will last or not, to: this is wonderful, I love being in this relationship and I appreciate it. Now I’m ready to find a permanent relationship. If you put that energy out there, things will begin to change.

Core asks, Is there a longer-term romantic relationship between me and a partner there for me in the future? The Council says you’ve planned in spirit that there will be one. To bring this relationship in now you should constantly think you’re ready for it, and not be upset about the relationships that didn’t last. Appreciate them. Appreciate that you could experience so many different relationships and now you’re ready and waiting to find a relationship that will work just for you. You’ll bring in the right person to have a relationship with.

Core asks, What can I do to make finding a long-term relationship easier on myself. The Council says to meditate, and keep seeing down to the tiniest detail, what you’d like a permanent relationship to look like. As you keep meditating and visualizing this, you’ll begin to bring in the energy of the right person for you.

Core asks, Can you provide any insights on my situation and why I’ve been experiencing these brief connections. The Council reminds Core how she wanted the different experiences because in a past life that you want to heal differently, you went from having minimal relationships with others to having many relationships in your current lifetime. You’ve now had a balance. You’ve had almost no relationships and you’ve had a lot of them. Now you can steer your life in the direction you want. When you make the connection to a past life that you’re working on now, the connection becomes easier to make, and the change is easier to make.

Core says, There’s a similar pattern around other aspects of my life. Living situations, career, friends, and circumstances come into my life and then leave so fast for me. The Council agrees and says it’s because it’s all energy and it comes in many different forms.

Core says, I know I’m growing and transforming rapidly because of these brief relationships, but I’m beginning to burn out. Any help would be greatly appreciated. The Council advises Core to visualize and feel as if you’re already in the relationship you desire and you’ll create this relationship.

The Council closes by saying to have fun on your path. Always look for the fun. Happiness will bring in everything you wish to create, even if you know what it is now or not. Your higher self knows. When you stay happy, your higher self is able to bring in what you want to create.


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December 29, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Meditation, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Where Is My Love Companion?

This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named, Chris, after we posted, Are There Things We Ask For That We Never Get? In that blog, Chris says The Council mentioned that her issues were fear and success, but I really think it’s about love. The Council says if you believe it’s about love, then that’s where you are in your journey, and that’s the path you want to discover right now.

Chris says since I was 29 years old I’ve wanted to find my lifelong love companion. I’ve stayed open, hopeful, and always kept my eyes and heart open. I’m now 59 and I can say the only ones who showed up were two amazing and lovely men who weren’t available because they were either in unhappy marriages, separated, or asked by their spouse for a divorce when I met them, but neither left their spouse despite their “love” for me.

The Council says it was important for you to be with these men to see what you could learn from them. How were their relationships with their partners? How was your relationship with them? And then to create, from what you knew was false and what you were being told was true, the kind of person you wanted in your life, that you could build a life with and go forward. It was very important you had these relationships.

Going forward we advise you to visualize what you want, in every detail possible, and write it down. Writing makes it powerful so that you can create the person that’s for you. The person you can learn from and has similar desires so you can build the life you want. But we repeat that meeting these people was necessary in your life.

Chris says The Council mentioned there’s the person, Ted, near me who’s one of the two men I mentioned, or someone new in South America. I wish with all my heart Ted is the one with him saying, I see us together, but it will take patience and time. The Council replies that when you look at your situation with Ted, again you’re waiting for someone to tell you it will take time but we’ll be together. It’s a similar vibration to the two that you were with before. They were going to leave their wives but never did. You need to look at this. You’ve created this situation again but in a lesser way.

Are you willing to stay and wait yet again for this man, or do you want to go out and start looking for new people to bring into your life, and find a partner that’s what you want and that’s available? This is important to visualize and think about when you create a new partner in your life.

Chris says, I’m beginning to lose hope after decades of hopes and prayers. Or was it just not the time, until now? The Council says it was about learning lessons with these two relationships. And now with Ted, it’s a learning relationship. It’s for you to ask yourself what you truly want. And to figure out why you wait for the other person to come forward and make the move when you can create something where there’s a new person, and the relationship moves quickly and easily. You’ll both have the same goals and want the same things.

These relationships were necessary so you can know this isn’t what you want. Now create what you do want.


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December 16, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Creation, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , | Leave a comment

Should I Stay Married to My Husband?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Starseed_Lightworker, who says, I’m at a crossroads in my life and I’d appreciate your guidance in the decision I want to make. My husband and I have had various issues since the beginning of our marriage and it’s been ten years now. I was in an abusive relationship for a long time, and then I decided to love myself and be self-dependent. I was in such a miserable situation earlier in my life that I felt like committing suicide a couple of times during that phase, but my love for my young child kept me alive. By hard work and the grace of God I’m now in a position to take care of myself and my child. The thing is that my husband seems to have changed during the last three years, but I can’t forget what he and his family did to me earlier.

The Council asks you to remember that your husband is on his own journey, and there are challenges and issues that he wishes to learn about, even though you don’t know what this is. We think it’s wonderful that you’ve begun to see the change in your husband. And it’s wonderful that you’ve gone ahead and become what you planned in spirit to become in this life, which was to be powerful, independent, and to do it all yourself and not need another person to do things for you. You don’t have to suffer through abuse or the fear of abandonment. You’ve changed your path and in your lifetime you’ve created the path you wanted to find.

Starseed says, Going forward my plan is to keep doing better work in the office and study part-time in a university while doing work to support myself and my child. Eventually when my child grows up I plan to retire, travel, and do more spiritual and teaching work. I don’t want to be dependent on anyone for money, happiness, and taking care of me. I want to do it all myself. The Council says they see you’re already on this path.

Starseed says, I’ve begun to find solace in loneliness now. The Council says you’re beginning to find solace with yourself, not with loneliness. There’s quite a difference.

Starseed says, I have a very good job opportunity in a different state. It’s remote work right now, but I can move there if I want, which would be a fresh start for me and my child and a different way of living life. The Council says this was also something you wanted to create. You wanted to create travel, have the ability to move around, and be successful wherever you are. Look at what you’ve done. You’ve already brought this opportunity into your life.

Starseed says, The difficult decision I need to make is, should I continue staying with my husband for the sake of my child having a father. Or should I move on and build a new life for myself and my child? At the current moment I like my husband as a friend since he’s changed from his abusive patterns, but I’ve lost the love.

The Council says, Wouldn’t it be wonderful to be able to remain friends, but not be together as partners? Wouldn’t it be wonderful to have a friend that lives nowhere near you, but you can communicate in whatever way you wish and whatever time you want? We see what you’ve planned and you’ve planned to move on. We see there’s great success in your future if you stay on the path you wanted to create for yourself, and we see you’re doing a wonderful job of this. You’ll have another love in your life if you wish to not stay with your husband.

You’ve done so much and taken yourself so far. Would you hold yourself back now when you have the opportunity to move on? And as you move on, the work you do will change and your career will change. You have the opportunity if you really want this. If you’re afraid to leave right now, you can leave in the future. We see this is there for you. It’s what you’ve created. But we’d ask you, why would you come so far and hold yourself back? There’s no wrong answer. You will move forward. You’ll decide when. You have the power to make this move happen when you’re ready, and this is a beautiful thing.

Starseed says, I don’t know whether I can love my husband again considering the history. At the same time, I’m also not sure if there will be love for me outside of this marriage. Can The Council please guide me and provide some input. The Council says they are so happy for you. It’s hard for some people after they leave the spirit world. They have all these plans and one thing or another gets in the way. Or their plans change, which is fine. But you have created so much of what you wanted, of what you planned when you were in spirit. You’re a powerful soul. You’ll go forward in this life, whether it’s right now or five years from now.

You are right on track. You’re doing exactly what you wanted to do, and that’s a wonderful thing. We here are so happy for you. We’re proud that you’ve stayed on the path. We know it wasn’t easy, but you took your situation and changed it. Love yourself. Hug yourself. Kiss the mirror as you look at yourself. You’ve come a long way and we wish you much happiness and speed on your journey.

Stay friends with your husband, if that’s possible. Know that when you’re ready and when you want it, you’ll bring in another person to love. If you stay on your path, whether you go now or later, there’s another love and a successful future waiting for you. As much as you can, create in your mind how you think your life would be when you move on. Imagine where you want to live, how you want to work, and how you’d like to spend your free time. The more you focus on these things, the more you’ll know when it’s time to do what you want to do. The choice is always yours.

If you’re afraid at this moment, or you choose to stay and six months, a year, two years, three years later, you don’t like that you stayed, there’s no problem. Then you make another decision and change what you do. Go in the direction you want. Whether you go now or later it doesn’t matter. You are the creator. And while you’re trying to decide, imagine in every detail you can, the way you wish your life to be and all your answers will come.

We wish you all happiness, success, and most of all love and joy. Find the fun and joy on your path. If you feel you don’t have it, head towards it, imagine it, and know you are the creator. What you think of, what you say, what you write, what you visualize over and over is how you’re planning your future.


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December 8, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Imagination, Love, Marriage, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Soul, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | | 6 Comments

Is It Time To Separate From My Husband?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Confused and Sad, who says, I’ve been married for close to 30 years. The last few years have had me reflect on how different my husband and I are, and how much we’ve grown apart. It seems our history and our finances are the main reason we’re still together. My husband is a good man, but we have very little, if anything, in common. We rarely agree on anything and this makes me very sad. I feel in my heart we’d both be happier apart, and perhaps have a chance to find a true partner who can make us happy.

The Council says the pre-planning of this marriage in spirit comes from a lifetime where you were both married to other people and you were very mean and selfish with your partners. You felt stuck in these marriages. You didn’t know each other in that life, but there was always the thought to find someone better. You thought you were with people who weren’t pretty, weren’t handsome, weren’t intelligent, people that made you feel closed in, or had nothing in common with you. And both your spirits were willing to work on the same issues so you decided to do it together in your current lifetime.

When you came into your current life it was to come together and learn how to accept who the other person is, whatever their issues were. You wanted to learn how to allow someone to be different. You don’t have to have all these things in common. You wanted to learn how to love yourself and not to look for someone new that would make you happy and feel loved. You must love yourself.

And then you took it a step further and you decided that because you were so selfish and mean in your past life, in your current life when you learned how to accept your spouse for who they were, you were going to try to help them feel good about themself. You were going to take the focus off of you and how miserable you felt, and how this person wasn’t making you happy, and try to do something for this other person,. and give of yourself. And in that you’d feel the change within yourself, and you’d feel better and more love for yourself.

At first we imagine this may be difficult, but when you see you’re focusing on the other person and allowing them to take in this beautiful energy you’re sending by trying to do something for them, or just the energy of letting them be who they are, what you’re looking for in other people you’ll find in yourselves. When you find it in yourselves, you’ll realize both of you created this situation in this marriage. You’re exactly where you need to be to realize: How can I fix this? I love this person, but I don’t, because there’s someone who’d be prettier or handsomer, someone that would give me more attention, someone that would make me feel happier than I am. All of this love comes from within you, not from another person.

When you ask yourself to be nicer, to be understanding, to say to yourself, Today let me do this for this person or with this person, knowing it’s something that person likes, you will be so proud of yourself, and the feeling you want to have in a marriage will return. It will not only return, but it will be better than it was.

Confused says, We’ve both tried to make each other happy for the sake of the children and family, but we’re just two very different people. The Council says, Isn’t that wonderful. Look at what you can learn from being two totally different people.

Confused says, We’re both scared to leave because we’re all each other has known for so many years. The Council says of course the feeling of being scared will come up because you know this isn’t what you wanted. You don’t want to flee your marriage. You didn’t plan to go off and find something else. You both created this situation so you could grow within yourself and for each other.

Confused says, I know we’re both confused and scared because separation or divorce can be just as difficult as staying together. The Council says if you were to do this and move on, the happiness you’re looking for you won’t find somewhere else. It’s within this marriage, it’s within yourselves that you wanted to grow and learn, and you will feel this.

Confused says, I’ve tried to figure out why we would have chosen each other, what lessons we were supposed to learn. Is it finally time to move on and co-create the life we’d both like to live? And perhaps find true love with a partner more suited for each of us that can make us happy?. The Council says this other partner you’re looking for will be no different because you both planned to live your life this way.

Confused says, We do try and communicate and work things out, but our thought processes are just so completely different. The Council says, Isn’t it wonderful?. Do you stop and wonder what your spouse is thinking of? Do you try to understand it? Do you try and see it? And you don’t have to agree with each other. That’s the most wonderful thing. You can still have your beliefs and your ways of thinking, but how interesting it would be to see how your spouse’s mind works. And you can learn much from this. Let go of being rigid and thinking we have different ideas. What can you learn from this? Maybe it would be fun for you to think this way. Or maybe you can learn from thinking this way. It’s all opportunities in front of you.

If you feel you don’t want to stay in this marriage, it’s always your choice. You’ll create it again because the lessons you want to learn are right here. All the opportunities are right here for you.

Confused says, Our thought processes are just so completely different that it never ends well. We just seem to see things completely differently. The Council says, And so you argue and you fight because you don’t agree because you think differently. When you go to school the teacher thinks differently than a student. The student in the back of the room could be thinking differently than a student in the front. You don’t fight over this. You listen and learn from it. But most important, you allow the person to be who they are. And that’s the most wonderful gift you can give anyone.

Confused closes by asking, Have we learned all we can from each other, and is it finally time to move on? The Council says we’ve given you the answer. We wish you so much fun on your journey. Take your focus off your disagreeing, your not having things in common, off the fighting and difficulty communicating. Take your focus and say, This is another spirit who’s agreed with me to come into this reality to create this situation. While we go through it we’re going to learn about each other.  Most importantly we’re going to learn about ourselves. Are we able to accept others if they’re not like us? Because your purpose in this life is to bring love into this reality.


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December 6, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Helping Others, Love, Marriage, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , | Leave a comment

Tell Me About My Daughter’s Star Connections

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, E-Diggity, who says, My daughter has come into a psychic ability and she has guides who I believe are Arcturian. I’d like to know more about her star connections, the nature of my relationship with my daughter, and these other beings beyond this lifetime.

The Council says it’s interesting you say your daughter has become psychic because the main star system she returns to is the Andromeda galaxy. The purpose of these souls, when they visit other star systems, when they visit planets, when they visit other dimensions, is to bring peace and love. They use their psychic ability to see how people are expanding, what they’re learning, and how they’re using their energy to expand their connection to others. In your current lifetime you both are here to bring as much peace and love as you can into your reality.

When you come from Andromeda, it’s not only characterized by psychic ability and spreading peace and love, but being intellectual is also important, studying many different subjects of where you are, what dimension you’re in, and how everything is moving forward. Knowledge, increasing your psychic ability, meditation, reading about channelers, and working with energy in any way possible, even only if it’s for yourself, are all important.

When you’re around people, bring in this energy of peace and love. You do this by increasing the energy in your seventh chakra. You can do this by learning to do the chakra breathing meditation. That’s one of the ways of doing that. Constantly work with the vibration of the purple light that always keeps you connected to your higher purpose.

You and your daughter are here together and you’ve shared other lifetimes together. In your current lifetime you wanted to expand in all directions. If you find you’re with people who are troubled, people who are depressed, people who are angry, you wanted to learn to use the energy of the purple ray to increase your energy, and then when you feel the power increase within you, you wanted to spread it out around these people.

It’s a great job you’ve taken on. In other lifetimes, when spirits from other dimensions that weren’t peaceful came to Earth or other planets, you’d jump in and go there to keep an eye on this and send in the energy of peace and love. And you’d help people with their schooling and learning because as they learn, they’d go more in the direction of peace and expansion.

When you and your daughter were around in the time of Lemuria and Atlantis, you were there helping them learn to use energy, to use intelligence, to use the vibration from stones and the elements in that island. But then you saw that by helping them learn, it wasn’t possible for you to get in the way of learning when these people turned greedy and power-hungry.

You are both advanced in this field of energy work. We advise you to study any subject that brings you pleasure – anything in the sciences, learn about history, and watch the people around you and help them move forward in peace and love. That’s what you both have decided to do in this lifetime, which is a very great task.

You and your daughter have done a lot of traveling. You’ve been to Sirius, the brightest star in the sky, for quite a long time. In the very beginning of your work you were also star seeds. These are souls that travel to different new galaxies, new planets, new stars, and create life there. That was also an experience that this mother and child had. They’ve been around forever popping in and out of galaxies.

It’s nice to know about your past, but you are here on Earth to concentrate on your life here. Study, learn, share information, help other people to learn in any way you can, even if it’s to teach young children to play games and learn. Whatever you do, bring happiness, bring peace, and bring love. This is what you and your daughter pre-planned in spirit.

E-Diggity says, I hope to validate and facilitate my daughter’s expansion into these psychic abilities. I want to invite this connection to these benevolent beings and do what we came here to do. The Council says you’re already connected. There isn’t any more you need to do. If you meditate, if you spend time outside at night when it’s warm and you can just sit somewhere and watch the stars, you’ll feel a great love in your heart. You’ll smile and with a bit of remembering you’ll realize that what you look at in the sky is also your home, not just this planet where you are now.

The Council closes by saying if there’s a place where you can go to study the stars, watch movies about the stars, or go to a planetarium, when you take these steps it sets off a memory. On your own you’ll begin to have a feeling of what to do. Go to museums and places where you can learn about the different galaxies and about what people believed went on there. Learn the sciences, and you’ll feel very much at home.


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December 5, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Chakras, Channeling, Helping Others, Life Purpose, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Psychic Ability, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Requesting Guidance for a Never-Ending Divorce

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Amy. She says it’s a full year since I asked The Council about my divorce and it’s as if time has stood still. My divorce is no further along than it was then. I’ve tried everything to move the divorce forward, but my husband is intent on going to trial, and he has so much to lose. The challenges he’s faced with emotional abuse and substance abuse will now play out publicly in court and it’s possible he might lose custody of our children.

The Council says this is the way your husband wants the divorce to go. How would you like the divorce to go? If you put the thought in your mind that your husband is intent on going in the direction of court, does it bring up fear? Does it bring up frustration? Or are you satisfied with this and think we’ll go to trial, but I know his behavior and abuse will come out and the trial will go in my favor?

Find thoughts that bring you satisfaction and joy. The timing of when your divorce is finalized doesn’t matter. What will make the divorce move forward is if you take your thoughts away from frustration and appreciate your life. Go about your business and do what you want with your children and know that this divorce will eventually happen when you accept the way it’s going and know for sure, without a doubt in your mind, that everything will come out okay for you and your children.

Your husband has his lessons to go through. At this point your lesson is to accept what’s going on. Don’t think of the divorce as a battle and you’re going to war. Your husband is bringing on this challenge. You can accept it with peace in your mind and things will turn out in your favor.

Amy says, Losing custody of our children isn’t what I wanted for my husband, but he watches TV all day long and on TV you don’t see reasonable people gracefully dismantling their lives with their children at the center. I feel I’ve been fair and I’ve tried to settle this divorce fairly and quietly for the sake of our children, but there’s something blocking this divorce. The Council says the block is what you and your husband have come together to do and the lesson to be learned in it. You may not realize that spiritually your husband may have decided he wants to lose his children and learn what that’s about. You don’t have to know the reason, or what your husband is creating. This will show itself to you.

Amy says, We still live together, I still support him, and he refuses to work. The Council asks Amy why her husband should work if she lets him live with her and supports him? This doesn’t seem sensible. If you want to keep him living in your home and supporting him, that’s fine, but know you’re agreeing to this. You’re allowing this to happen. If you want something different you’d handle the situation differently.

Amy says, I can see so clearly what my life looks like with my children when I get to the other side of this divorce. I’ve deepened my relationship with myself over the last year and I’m anxiously awaiting the change and the experience it will bring to my family overall. The Council reminds Amy to do the inner work, keep seeing the pages of a calendar flying by, and the time has passed and your divorce is happening.

Amy says, I’ve been getting ready to get ready, as Abraham-Hicks teaches, and I feel good. It’s surprising to most people that I feel no animosity toward my husband. The Council says this is wonderful because animosity isn’t necessary and that in spirit you both created this situation.

Amy says, Our life is far more peaceful than it ever was before, living without the emotion and intensity our marriage held. We’re co-parents living in the same house and it feels a little like a dress rehearsal. The Council says without saying too much about your husband, some of what he’s created is to go through life easily and have things done for him. What he’s creating and will continue to create is to have people come into his life and make it easier.

Amy says, I’ve recently come to the point where I stopped trying to control the outcome and I’ve even given up on the timeline for the divorce. Right now I get to be with my children every day while the divorce works itself out and I’m grateful for every minute with them in the same house. Having said that, it’s time for me to move on. I feel a strong pull towards something else and I have no idea what that is. This is exciting – nervous excitement. There’s not another love interest or even a thought of one, or a friend or a family member pulling me along so I know this is a different calling.

The Council says it’s wonderful that you’ve stopped trying to control the outcome. This is the way to make the divorce happen. Stay in that feeling of excitement. Stay in the feeling of being pulled toward something new and wonderful. Even if you don’t know what you’re excited about, stay in that excited, happy feeling.

Amy says the universe takes care of my husband. Life just happens for him. He just seems to walk through life carelessly without consequences. No matter how badly he treats people or screws up, someone picks up the slack. It’s as if you can see him being carried. I know we all have a higher power watching over us. It’s just easy to see with my husband that he’s always taken care of no matter how bad his behavior is or how much he alienates friends and family. The Council says this isn’t any part of what you need to experience. He’ll go through all the emotions and all the experience he needs on his path.

Amy says, I can’t be the person I’ve been for my husband anymore. I need to move on, but I feel a block and I can’t seem to clear it. The Council says there isn’t any block. Think of the divorce moving forward. You’re on the correct path. All that you wish, if you continue to focus on it, will come to you. Let go of the time factor. It’s not necessary. Stay in a vibration of happiness and love and you’ll see your divorce come quickly.

The Council says you’re all so much more than you think you are. You’re all on this wonderful path of growth, and understanding, and realizing there are many lives you’ve experienced and many more you’ll create when you’re ready. Focus on being the creator. Focus on bringing joy and laughter into your life and everything will come to you. When you’re happy, you’ll see the connections that are being made. There will be more understanding. Stay in that feeling of joy.


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December 1, 2021 Posted by | Abraham-Hicks, Acceptance, Audio Content, Channeling, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

How Can I Help This Man With His Commitment Issues?

This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named, Unicorn, to our post, Why Has This Man In My Life Become So Distant? Unicorn says, I’d love to know how I can help this man with commitment issues, but I have no idea how to. His behavior has turned 360° and I think he’s met someone else and hasn’t been honest with me.

The Council says there are several relationships this man goes in and out of. But you’re helping him with his commitment issues by understanding them, then letting them go, and allowing this man to be who he needs to be. Forcing him to face these commitment issues doesn’t help this situation. Now that you know there are these commitment issues, you can’t force this. You can only accept the situation, wish this man well, and see how he moves along his path.

The Council says it’s always Unicorn’s choice to know she’s unable to heal what this man is going through regarding commitment. You can only be in this man’s life if you wish to be in his life, but you can’t heal his life. This man has to understand why these issues are going on in his life and he has to decide for himself if he wants to make a change. You see the situation as his commitment issue. It’s upsetting and you want to heal this. This man can be very happy not being committed to one person.

You don’t know the path this man is on. All you can know is, do you wish to be in this man’s life? Do you wish to be his friend? Can you handle this? If you’re only in this man’s life hoping you’ll be able to push him into understanding his commitment issues and he’d have an “ah ha” moment, this isn’t how things works. The choice is yours to be in some sort of relationship or out of it.

Send love into this relationship and watch it grow. Create with your thoughts the way you’d like this relationship to be. Create with your thoughts that whatever this man’s commitment issue is, why it’s there, and where it comes from, you can send light to this man to help him on his path.

Unicorn says, He always called me Unicorn because he never met someone like me before. Then overnight he pretty much became a magician when it comes to communication. He hardly ever communicates with me, but he agrees to see me without being intimate or affectionate when we’d become close in this way months ago. The Council says at this point it’s up to you. Can you deal with this kind of relationship? Is this what you want? Are you comfortable with this? See where the relationship goes and use your thoughts and your feelings to create more. The choice is always yours.

Unicorn says, I’m still confused why this man is happy to see me, but not communicate with me. The Council says he can be happy to see you now and then, when he’s in the mood, and he has nothing else going on. You don’t need to know the reasons why. If there’s happiness when you get together, be in that moment and enjoy it.

Unicorn says, I feel this man pushed his way into my life to cause grief and chaos. The Council says there was no pushing. Your coming together was planned in spirit. You let this man into your life to discover what you need to discover about you, and about how you let this relationship affect you. Moving forward, take your attention off this man and put it on yourself. Why are you in this relationship? Why does it bother you? Why do you stay in this relationship? How does it make you feel? How can you bring joy into this relationship when you’re together? Your purpose is to accept what this relationship is, to bring joy into it, and to appreciate what’s there.

Unicorn says, To be honest, I’m deeply hurt. I’m lost in what to do and need guidance. All I want is the truth to the situation. But if my soul has planned to be in his life to help him heal the issue of commitment, then I’d love to know how I can help. The Council says again, You can accept this person the way they are.

The Council says you’re all so much more than you think you are. You’re all on this wonderful path of growth, understanding, realizing there are many lives that you’ve experienced, and many more that you’ll create when you’re ready. Focus on being the creator. Focus on bringing joy and laughter into your life and everything will come to you. Everything will be shown. When you’re happy you’ll see the connections that are being made in your life. There will be more understanding. And stay in that feeling of joy.


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November 30, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Creation, Life Purpose, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Why Aren’t My Partner and I Planning to Have Children?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Denisa, who asks for guidance with her relationship with her life partner. We’d love to start a family together, but still nothing happens. My life partner keeps talking about wanting to have children with me, but he also mentions that he’d like my financial situation to be similar to his. I’d also like that, but I don’t know what to do to improve my finances. It seems very difficult for me right now. Is my financial situation the reason we don’t try to have children, or is it something else?

The Council says your finances are part of the reason you’re not trying to have children, and it comes from a lifetime you had as brother and sister in a very poor family. There wasn’t enough to eat, there wasn’t enough clothing, and you had no education. You were the older one and took care of your brother. You found the means to feed both of you and move forward in life. You were the one who took care of your brother.

In this life your boyfriend has the subconscious memory of the previous life. He desires you to be in a better financial situation, thinking this will take care of you both going forward in this life. Your boyfriend doesn’t want to have children where there will be an experience of lack. It’s the memory of you taking care of him, and that’s what’s causing this delay with children and with wanting you to have a better financial situation before you go forward.

It’s not that you have to do better financially. It’s that your boyfriend needs to deal with his issue of being able to independently take care of you and a family. That’s what he wanted to learn going forward. In that past life you took care of him. In this life he wanted to take care of you. And yet these memories are within him and so he can insist you do better financially.

This is where the hold-up with having children is coming from. If you both can agree on it we suggest you have children now. Your boyfriend will learn he can fulfill the role of being the breadwinner, being independent, learning how to be a family man, and learning how to take care of himself, you, and your children.

Denisa asks, Have my boyfriend and I agreed in spirit to have children in this lifetime? The Council says yes. You both want this a great deal, but there are the memories and past lives you need to work through. You need to understand where this desire for your financial stability comes from and you both need to let go of this.

Denisa asks, What can I do to improve my financial situation. The Council says that isn’t necessary. That isn’t what you need to do. What is meant now is to have conversations and be in a place where you can express that the financial situation you have, what you make now, is more than enough for now to start a family. Eventually we see you can make more money, but what’s needed is to express that your situation is okay and you believe he has the ability to take care of you, himself, and a family. Give him the confidence to go forward with this. This is what was agreed upon.

Eva says, It seems to me I don’t know which way to go. I’m thinking about writing a book about my childhood, what I’ve been through, and what I’ve learned from it. The Council says writing is very powerful, and writing is energy. We’d say write about your childhood or anything else because you’re putting more energy out and that will bring you more financial success.

Eva asks, What is the main purpose of our relationship? The Council says to be supportive of each other. Support your partner with words that give him confidence. Your partner wanted to teach you to be the supporter, the one who listens to the questions, the one who’s able to talk about what’s worrying both of you. You would bring guidance to your relationship. You’d make things are clearer for him to give him the opportunity to grow. As you listen to him and give him confidence, you are growing also because you’re fulfilling what you both agreed to.


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November 18, 2021 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Guidance, Life Purpose, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Should I Give This Man Who’s Come Back In My Life A Second Chance?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Eva. She says, After one year without any contact, this man who The Council told me (in a previous session) was my son in a previous life, has come back into my current life. He’s a father now, but he claims he can’t be with his wife and he’s asked me for a second chance. My common sense is stopping me from getting involved with him again. I’m not really happy in my marriage, but I haven’t made a decision to get a divorce.

The Council says if you’re thinking this person would be the answer to finding happiness, we would say this isn’t the way to find it. This man won’t bring you a deeper and truer relationship than what you have with your husband. Find ways to feel good about yourself.

If there’s no rush for a divorce from your husband, there’s a reason for this. Pay attention to this and look for the goodness you can find in your marriage. Be grateful. As you look for this gratitude, more will appear in your life. You’ll still be able to make the choice in the future whether to leave the marriage or not. Being with the other man isn’t the answer to what you’re trying to achieve.

Eva says, I’m always trying to do the right thing for everyone. The Council says it’s time to do the right thing for yourself. Eva asks if The Council has any advice on how she should move on. The Council advises meditation. If you can’t meditate, just sit quietly for ten minutes and see what thoughts come to you and what direction it takes you in. It’s the quieting down of your mind that will give you a stronger direction and answers to your questions.

Now is the time to focus on what you’d like your life to look like. The more you can focus on this while being grateful for what you already have, the universe will deliver more loving and happy situations to you. Meditate. Do chakra breathing to align yourself and you’ll see your life get more clarity. Ideas will come to you through your intuition, which you’ll immediately know are the right directions for you.

Eva says, I’d really like to help this man with his little girl. I’d really love to be part of his life, but at the same time I don’t want to hurt anybody. The Council asks Eva, Can you seriously think about being in this man’s life and helping him with his daughter, and not being pulled into trying to make that relationship what’s missing in the relationship you have with your husband?

If you truly want a relationship with this man, we say take your time about it and focus on the way you want this relationship to be. But there’s a lot you need to look at now in your life with your husband. Look at it, learn from it, find the gratefulness, find the love, and then create with your mind what you want your life to be like. Your marriage was something that was preplanned in spirit and you need to focus on this first.


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November 16, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Gratitude, Questions & Answers, Relationships, You Create Your Reality | , , , , | Leave a comment

What’s Going On with My Troublesome Brother?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Peace5, who wants to know about their brother. Peace5 says, He’s almost 23 years old and has been very troublesome lately. I don’t know what’s gotten into him. Even though he has an incurable disease, he stopped taking his medicine, he stopped taking care of himself, and he’s very nasty with me and our whole family, even my 6-year-old son.

The Council suggests trying to find compassion for your brother. Imagine how you’d feel knowing you have an incurable disease. Some people can find a way to work with an incurable disease and have positive thoughts. Others, like your brother, become depressed. Being nasty and stopping his medication is a sign he can’t find hope. He can’t love himself. He’s going through this depression because he’s closed himself off to loving himself and accepting love from others.

We hope your family will be able to find some sort of therapy for your brother that will help with his depression. Once he’s able to have a few positive thoughts, once he’s able to change his lower vibration, hope will come to him and he can have thoughts of helping himself. He can’t cure himself when he’s in the vibration he’s in now. That vibration must be changed.

If it’s at all possible we recommend doing the chakra breathing meditation we recommend in another post. You can do this with him and so can the rest of your family. This meditation will help align his chakras so he can feel better.

Get your brother the first Emmanuel book, by Pat Rodegast and leave it in his room where he can find it, but don’t tell him to read it. Once he’s able to connect with this book and begins to read about depression, illness, dying, and changing his life, it’ll start to put him on the right path.

Peace5 says, My brother takes medical marijuana for his disease, but I believe it’s harming him more than helping him. He’s not interested in anything at all, including looking for a job. All he does is lay around all day long, sleep, and shower four times a day even though he doesn’t go anywhere. He fights with us, curses at us for no apparent reason, and doesn’t speak with us. What’s going on with him and do you think he’ll ever change for the better?

Again The Council asks if you can find it in your heart to feel some compassion for your brother? Try to understand he’s in a difficult place. Can you accept where he is now? Offer him love. Speak with him. Talk with him like he’s a regular person. Don’t tiptoe around him or not say things in front of him. Get excited and share your life with him. Tell him stories. This will be the beginning of your brother feeling cared for.

Don’t force your attention on him, but when you’re around him try to be joyful. If you can be in a joyful vibration it increases the likelihood of your brother becoming joyful. It’s important you’re whole family is very accepting of you’re brother’s situation and condition and forget he has this incurable disease. Forget he’s laying around. Forget he’s doing nothing. Just be nice to your brother and accept who he is.

The Council asks Peace5 to remember you can’t make your brother better. You can be in the right vibration around him. You can speak to him joyfully. Have your brother feel that no matter how he behaves, he’s accepted. Show him by your conversation that you care about him.

At first he probably won’t accept your positive intentions, but we ask you to continue with them anyway. When your brother sees no one is fighting with him, that you accept him, that you allow him to lay around if he wants to, that you don’t preach to him about doing nothing, he’ll eventually get tired of doing these things and begin to raise his vibration and begin to try and find a better way. In doing this and sending him love and light with your thoughts to help him through his difficulties, things will change.

There are many reasons why your brother may have chosen the life he’s currently living. He wants to understand his situation. In the spirit world, where we’ve either experienced a similar life situation in another incarnation, or we’ve seen others go through what we’re going through, we wonder if we can also do that. Can I bring love into that situation? Can I turn that situation around? Do I want to teach things to other people about how to handle this situation and how we all need to reach for love and show love in that situation?

That’s why we choose situations like the one your brother is in. There are many reasons, but the many reasons are unimportant. The main reason is: Am I bringing love into this situation? Am I bringing love and support and positive thoughts to the person who’s going through this difficulty? That’s what’s needed. In spirit we’re all confident we’ll be able to do this. In reality it’s much more difficult. The reason why we came here is to have fun. We came here to face every situation with love. And when you bring love into any situation, it must change.

Bob closes by asking if there’s a possibility of curing this incurable disease. The Council says there’s always this possibility and this, of course, is up to your brother.


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November 10, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Chakras, Channeling, Life Purpose, Love, Meditation, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, Vibration | , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Does a Past Life Explain Why I Can’t Make Friends?

This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who’s 22 years old and says, Since I was small I never seemed to have any solid friends or long-term friendships. They always seem to end in either dramatic ways or simply letting each other go one day and never speaking again.

The Council says they see a particular past life where a similar situation was experienced because Anonymous never behaved how you truly felt. You behaved as if you were being of service. There was no true friendship. You tried to make and keep friends by serving and doing everything for these people. You changed your personality and were the way you thought these people expected you to be.

In your current life it’s quite different. What you’re doing in this life isn’t serving as much as being of service to these other people. What you’re experiencing and what you planned to do was to be in communication and in a relationship with these different people, but to be in a way that would annoy them and have them find fault with you and pull away.

What you volunteered to do was to teach these people how to respond to others who aren’t exactly the way they want these people to be. In your current life you offered to help others, to be of service again, but just by being yourself and to have traits that these other people weren’t interested in.

What you set up was, at a very early age to somehow feel that you weren’t worthy to have friends. You set this up at an early age so that as you grew, you created relationships where you didn’t feel wanted and you experienced this by family and other people pulling away.

As you move forward, what needs to be done for you to change this pattern is to be who you truly are, but take the focus off yourself and show true interest in other people. Ask other people about themselves. Listen to what they have to say. When you show interest in others, that energy will come back to you and you’ll find others who now want to be with you and be interested in who you are.

This was a big challenge you set up. All these people that dropped out of your life,  how they handle it and how they learn from it is a lesson for them. It’s not your concern how they learn from this situation. You did your part by trying to teach these people to be different, to accept how they were, and to see you for who you really are. It was you helping many souls.

Anonymous says, I always wracked my brain why I can’t make friends because most of the time, especially since I was around 16 years old, I’ve tried my hardest to be a good friend and fit in. The Council says don’t try to fit in. Be yourself and focus attention on truly learning and being interested in other people.

Anonymous says, In high school I thought once I got to college where I could be with a new group of people and have space away from my parents, I’d surely be able to make tons of friends. But the same cycle continued and now I’m about to graduate. Currently I feel I have two true friends, my fiancé and my mother. I’ve also always butted heads with family members and in certain periods of my life I didn’t speak to one or both of my parents. I’m aware that when I was little my parents would sometimes say tell me I was unlikeable, but my current situation seems bigger than just a self-fulfilling prophecy. It feels like this is something I’m meant to overcome as part of my life purpose, but for a reason I don’t understand. Do I have a past life that could help explain why I feel, at the root of my soul, like an unlikeable outcast?

The Council asks you to connect the past life they mentioned earlier in the session to now. Decide you’ve done enough from that past life and you wish to have a new path in your current life where you truly appreciate yourself, don’t try to fit in, and be your true self. When you do, you’ll bring into your life the kind of people that are also able to appreciate you. Fitting in is what you did in this past life.

When you act one way because a person likes you that way, and another person likes you another way so you behave in that way, you are not being yourself. You’re being who you think these other people want you to be. Be yourself. Be kind. Be compassionate. Focus on positive thoughts. Be interested in what people are doing. Share your stories and you’ll see a difference.


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October 29, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Feelings, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , , | 2 Comments

Why Did My Boyfriend Stop Communicating With Me?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Momof3, who’s following up on our post, What Can You Tell Me About This Man In My Life? She says thank you so much for your response. I’ve been practicing what you suggested and was taking it slow and following my boyfriend’s lead. The signs I was getting from the universe were positive and I really felt like I was connecting deeply with this person. Was I wrong, because he ghosted me? He basically stopped communicating with me out of the blue and didn’t answer when I asked why. I thought everything was perfect and he just stopped. Do you have any idea why he did that?

The Council says at this time, a relationship with you isn’t what this man wants. Not knowing how to handle this, which is part of the lessons he wishes to go through, he just pulls away. We feel he can go back and forth on this issue until he realizes what he wants in his life. For you, knowing that he’s not ready for a relationship with you at this time, can you let this go? Or do you still want to do the inner work to create this relationship?

Momof3 says, I’m devastated and I feel disappointed and hurt for opening my heart to him. I don’t understand why he did this, especially since I felt we were so spiritually and deeply connected in a positive way. I don’t have any hard feelings towards him. On a soul level I feel he’s a good person and I still want to pursue a relationship with him. The Council says the way to pursue this relationship is to send this man love, wish him well in his life, and not try to bring him back. Wish him the happiness he’s searching for with the understanding that he needs to go through his own private challenges. In doing this the energy becomes lighter and more loving.

If this man is afraid to be trapped in something, this energy you’re sending him will change this feeling of fear. If he’s afraid you want more than he’s able to give you, this energy you’re sending him will also change this feeling. This is the way you move forward in this particular part of your life. If you still want a relationship, send him loving energy, wish him happiness, and always be thinking about how you wish the two of you can be together. If that’s now what you need at this time, send him love, light, and happiness. And hold in your heart the image of how you’d like this relationship to be. Make sure there’s no pressure. This is the message you give going back and forth while this situation continues.

Momof3 says, I know he has his free will whether he wants to pursue a relationship with me or not. And I guess he doesn’t want one even though I did want a relationship and I tried to manifest it. I’m wondering what I did wrong, or what I need to change so this doesn’t happen to me again. The Council says you didn’t do anything wrong. There’s the experiences you had together, and this man is learning from them, and hopefully you’ll learn from them. What do you want? Do you wish to go through this experience again? Do you wish to change this experience? Do you wish to let this experience go and create a relationship with someone new? The choice is always yours.

Momof3 says, I don’t want to go through repeat situations if it’s my lesson or if I need to change. Can you shed any light on this? The Council says you need to decide what you want and work with this energetically. There’s the challenge of you look at your behavior in the relationship. Decide what you think was positive and what you think was negative. What would you change to look at the relationship and see and hear clearly what this man put out to you in his words and behavior? Learn from this, then move on with your life and see which way you want to go with this relationship.

Momof3 asks if there was a miscommunication or does he just not want me? I followed my heart and my intuition. I thought we were awesome together, that we wanted the same thing, and that we could actually even complement each other. I was wrong. Now I’m doubting my own intuition and my spiritual guides, which upsets me because I can’t trust any feeling I have now. I felt like I listened to my intuition and was confident in the signs that I trusted were from the universe and my spirit guides regarding the relationship and moving forward with it, but it turned out to be wrong.

The Council asks what you learned from this? What are these signs you’ve seen, and how does that help you move forward? Look at the signs. Did you read them correctly? Everything is there when you go back into the relationship and, step by step, look and see what went on for both of you. What went on for you? What did you think? What are the words and actions this man used with you? As you learn from this you won’t have to repeat this experience.

Momof3 says, I don’t know how to let go of this situation. Can you give me any help? The Council says you let go by wishing this man love and light, and then with your imagination create a new relationship and the way you want it to be.


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October 27, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , , , | 2 Comments

How Can I Processes My Childhood Abuse?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Denisa, who asks about her childhood trauma. She says, I learned from The Council I chose this experience, but no matter how hard I try, I don’t know how to process it. The Council says, So you’ve learned about the trauma. Learning what you’ve gone through is enough to let the trauma go. Just knowing you created it to feel what it was like to go through it and change it to make it better.

Many people will ask, How do I process this trauma? And every day they think about it over and over in order to process it. Thinking about your trauma over and over only keeps you locked into it. We suggest not thinking about your trauma. You may feel this is strange advice, but when you don’t have those traumatic thoughts and pictures in your mind, it’s easier to go through it. It’s easier to process it by understanding you created this trauma for whatever reason and that’s it – the end. Don’t stay in your trauma thinking there’s some long drawn out purpose to it or process in it. There isn’t.

Instead of thinking about your trauma and how to get rid of it, leave it alone. Let it go. Take your mind and focus on other things, joyful things, things you wish to create in your life because thinking about that, you’ll create it. That’s the way you get through this trauma.

Denisa says, I’ve been working on myself a lot and sometimes I’m grateful for that experience, and sometimes I feel lost and don’t know what to do next. The Council says working on yourself doesn’t mean you go looking for all the things that are wrong with you. We suggest working on yourself by taking a positive attitude. When you have these positive thoughts, and when you can smile and feel good, that’s how you’re creating a better life for yourself.

Denisa says, I’d like to heal the pain I experienced as a child and move on. The Council sees you’ve gotten through this experience. The only pain you still experience is what you cause yourself by thinking about the trauma and remembering it over and over. You’re now creating more pain for yourself, which is keeping you in that painful situation. Change your thoughts. That’s how you let the pain go.

Denisa says, I haven’t spoken to my father in over 10 years because of the way he treated me. I’ve tried to connect with him in the past, but he’s very self-centered and manipulative, so I completely cut off contact with him. Do you think it’s okay that I don’t want to be in touch with him? The Council says of course it’s okay. He’s showing you what you need right now about how he is, and there’s no joy for you in that relationship. It’s what you’ve worked out in spirit. He’d create more uncomfortable feelings so you could walk away and let it go. This is part of him helping you to let go of that part of your life. Being around him wouldn’t make it easier. For what the two of you have worked out, communicating with your father will keep you in the trauma. It’s fine to let your relationship with him go.

Denisa asks if she and her father agreed go through this trauma on a spiritual level and The Council says, Of course. The agreement was to bring this trauma in and create an uncomfortable situation to learn from it and to see if you’re both in a place to heal it, or because of what’s going on in your lives, the healing wasn’t possible by staying together. And so one or both of you would create a situation where you can’t get along, and that’s the way you let go of this trauma, by not being around it. Stop keeping this in your mind and actively thinking about it. This is a gift that you give to each other to move on now.

Denisa asks what lessons did my father and I want to take from this experience? The Council says to learn about abuse, to learn about forgiveness, to learn about boundaries, and to learn creating joy in your life is what your life is all about. You don’t come here to suffer and be miserable. You come here to find a way to experience joy in this lifetime, to create it for yourself, and to help others find the joy they want. Help others in little ways to feel this joy. That’s your purpose.

Denisa asks if she and her father shared any past lives together. The Council sees a past life in Ireland where you were male cousins running an inn, and that was a very good life for both of you. You went through hardships. At one time there wasn’t enough food or enough money. There was a lot of community fighting. You learned to stick together and work through these diffuculties.

In your current life you wanted to understand how you’d handle another difficult situation, which was created by the abuse. Could you work through this? And does working through this abuse mean it’s okay to let it go and experience your life differently and seperately? That’s what’s going on now.

When Denisa finds herself focusing on the abuse that took place in her life, it’s a good idea to find something more pleasant to focus on. She can even think about the past life in Ireland where she had a very good life with the man who was her father in her current lifetime. Completely let go and know you’ve gone through this challenge of abuse. This separation is the way you both spiritually found to handle it. Now stop thinking about it and focus on creating how you want the rest of your life to be.


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October 13, 2021 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Helping Others, Life Purpose, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Why Do I Attract Abusive Behavior Into My Life?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Waimarama13, who asks: Why do I keep attracting abusive behavior into my life no matter how hard I try to keep myself safe? When I think I’ve closed the door on abuse, it finds me again in unexpected places and ways. The Council says with all the work you’ve gone through, the part of abuse you haven’t focused on is your fear of it. As you go forward and meditate, go into the fear. What does it feel like? What thoughts does it bring up? It touches on the part of you that feels alone, that feels a victim, that feels helpless. In your meditations, ask to see the source of what this fear is bringing up. It’s not necessary to go back into past lives about this.

How do you handle this fear? Do you ask for help when you’re abused? There’s no need to be alone in this abuse. There’s no need to feel frightened and confused. The part of you that’s strong and connected to spirit wants to handle this fear in a very adult and calm way. Have you reached out to get help for this abuse? What are the steps you take? We’re not talking about the boundaries you create to help yourself.

Waimarama says, I’ve been through three abusive relationships in my life and I ended the last and worst one in 2017. I’ve never had a healthy relationship with a kind and respectful man, and all I want in my life is to settle down with someone nice. After the last relationship ended I did so much work on myself to gain knowledge, strength, confidence, and self-worth to ensure I never got into another relationship like that again. I also did spiritual work. To this The Council repeats that Waimarama hasn’t dealt with the fear.

Waimarama says, I vowed my home would be a safe zone free from abusive behavior. For two years I’ve been with a nice man who treated me well, but now even this relationship is on the verge of ending because he can’t cope with how my youngest daughter behaves, and I can’t cope with it either. I’m so confused about why this is happening. The Council says it’s happening because you’ve all pre-planned it.

Waimarama says, This time it’s my eight-year-old daughter who’s abusing me. She’s an extremely lovely girl, but she’s mildly autistic, which means she has a lot of trouble with her emotions, especially anger. Her dad was my last abuser and I feel she’s learned his abusive behavior, but when she’s angry she’s actually treating me worse than he did.

2021 has been the worst and hardest year of my life. Early this year my daughter told me her dad and new stepmother were abusing her. I took over her full custody, went through court to fight for her safety, and eventually won. The Council says while you were doing all this with the thought of protecting your daughter and taking full custody, what have you done to prepare to take care of her? What are all the ways for you to get help for your daughter? Pulling her out of an abusive relationship is a wonderful thing, but your work doesn’t stop there. Your daughter has her lessons, which coincide with your lessons. Even though this is pre-planned, it’s up to you to make the environment what you want. Are you calm and strong when you see your daughter is becoming emotionally upset? When you see there are touches of violence coming from her, what do you do in the beginning?

It would be wise for you to teach your daughter about spirits. Teach her how she can reach out to spirits that are there to help her. Play games with her about energy. There are many wonderful books you can find and read with her about energy. Teach her to feel it. Teach her to know spirits are around her, loving her, and helping her through everything she’s going through. It would be nice to sit and speak of happy thoughts. Plan happy adventures, and start redirecting your direction and her direction. Instead we see you in fear, whether you feel it consciously or not, waiting to experience her next outbreak of violence. With the fear and your waiting for it, you’re pulling it in.

Waimarama says, While we were going through court my daughter broke down emotionally and her behavior, which was already very bad, turned insanely bad. She viciously attacked me many times, was very destructive, and could barely sleep at all due to long night terrors that lasted hours every night. She was also extremely violent during these night terrors.

The Council asks what are you doing when this is going on? Do you realize your daughter is helping you deal with your lessons of fear, lessons of being a victim, and lessons of being alone and helpless? And you’re helping her with becoming more than she is, and to have a greater understanding of what’s going on. These lessons that you’re bouncing off each other are right there in front of you. It’s important your daughter sees you’re getting her help. There are many places that will help you deal with the violence and abuse and how to physically stop it.

Teach your daughter about spirits when she’s angry. Start with the color red and see the number seven, as a game. Next can you see the number six? Six is orange. What else do you see with the number six? Let’s move on to the number five. Five is all yellow, almost like a daisy. What does that five feel like? Now let’s go to four. Four is all green, like a Christmas tree. Then we go to the number three. Three is all blue like the sky. Can you see clouds with the number three? Then we go to number two. Two is a beautiful dark blue. Are there stars in the blue? When we get to one we’ll feel wonderful. It’s purple. Can you see the purple around the number one?

You can do this as many times as it needs to be done. It will bring your daughter’s emotions down and will have a calming effect. Start slowly. As she does this, do it with her and tell her what you see. As you explain it to each other the emotions are blending, and with your intention you’re helping each other. Bob asks if associating the number and the color with locations in the body is a good idea and The Council says it’s too much at this time.

Waimarama says, I thought I was going to lose my mind and that I might have to give my daughter over to foster care to look after her. I also called the police quite a few times. Luckily in the last two months she’s been pretty good, calmed down a lot, stopped being violent, and isn’t so aggressive. I’ve spoken to her about how this is a peaceful home where we don’t attack each other. She says she understands, but she also says she can’t control herself when she gets angry. The Council says this is the feeling of being uncontrollable, which is one of your daughter’s issues. The colors and numbers will help.

Waimarama says, Unfortunately in the last week she started getting aggressive and angry again. Last night she kicked me in the face so hard she injured my neck. I feel so dejected, disappointed, confused, and let down by life. The Council says this is understandable, but what physical actions are you taking to help yourself deal with this, learn other methods to give your daughter the help she needs, and learn how she can understand what’s going on and help herself? It’s all about her learning about herself, what she needs, and asking for it. And it’s also about you asking for help as you go through this. You’re both helping each other with the challenges you wish to experience in this lifetime.

Waimarama says, I’ve done everything I can to keep myself safe and to ensure I only have respectful and safe relationships in my life. The Council says you can see everything you’ve done, and everything you think you can do isn’t working. There’s always more.

Waimarama says, Now it’s my own child who’s abusing me, and because I’m the only one who can protect her from her father’s abuse, I’m trapped with her, protecting her while she abuses me. This is so unfair. The Council says you’re protecting your daughter from her father’s abuse, but who’s protecting you? Why aren’t you taking further steps? Everything must be done on an energy level first. Work with the colors and the numbers. Take as much time as you can to see your daughter getting better. See the calmness come over her. Direct your thoughts to help you have the relationships and the calmness you want in your life in the future.

Waimarama says, I just can’t understand why abuse keeps following me like a bad smell. I realize there must be some kind of lesson to learn, but I thought I’d learned it by strengthening myself and my boundaries. When my child starts abusing me I wonder what the lesson must be. I haven’t willingly invited this abuser into my life. She’s my child and no one chooses to have an abusive child, or a child with neurological and emotional problems. The Council says, As a spirit you’ve willingly invited your daughter’s abuse into your life. Many people have also chosen to have a child with these problems, and you have chosen this also. As your daughter’s spirit came along to work with you, she chose to be this kind of person to help you.

Waimarama says, I’m concerned for my daughter’s future. If she behaves like this when she’s eight years old and unable to control her extreme rage, what will she be like as a teenager and an adult? Will she get herself into trouble abusing and attacking others? The Council says of course she will, unless you do the work and you work with her.

Waimarama says, I’m such a peace-loving person. I don’t know how to deal with my daughter’s problem and help her to change for the better. Obviously my peaceful ways haven’t had any positive influence on her over the years. I wonder where this is coming from within her, as I’d like to be able to help her. Has she learned this behavior or inherited it from her father, or is it her autism, or both, or something else? The Council says the autism was created and pre-planned by the two of you. That’s a part of the problem. What she’s learned from her father has also been part of the problem. Seeing you unhappy, in victim mode and not knowing what to do about it instead of being in your strength, which is the place you want to get to, is also a contributing factor. As you help yourself and you help your daughter, the situation will all come together.

Waimarama says, Will I ever be able to keep a nice man and have a healthy relationship? I’m forty-five years old now and because I’m having this huge difficulty with my daughter, I feel like there’s not much hope left. My lovely man says it’s too much for him to deal with and that he doesn’t want these problems in his life. Just when I need my partner the most, he leaves me to deal with this situation on my own and distances himself from us, which hurts so much and breaks my heart.

The Council says, These problems aren’t part of what this man wants to create in his life moving forward. We understand you’d like a partner, but before this can happen you must get to a place of strength, independence, and knowing how to handle what’s going on in your life. Your focus should be on your daughter, how to help her feel better, and have tools to make herself better. When you have this up and running, the right man for you will come into your life. Before that happens and before you start putting all your energy into finding a man, work on yourself, and see yourself happy in the future. You don’t need to know how this is going to happen. Just imagine yourself and your daughter are happy and everything will begin to fall into place.


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