Will I Meet My Ex Again, Or Meet Someone New To Share My Life With?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Starfish.
Starfish: I was wondering if my ex and I will ever meet again. It was a very unique connection for me even though it’s been two years since we last talked, and I still think of him dearly. There was so much love there. We never officially dated, despite having feelings for each other. The connection was too triggering for both of us since we mirrored our childhood wounds so deeply. We weren’t ready for a relationship.
Council: So you chose to come together to look at these wounds and help yourself and each other heal them. But as we see what you planned, you didn’t think about staying together. So that purpose was done. You experienced it at whatever level you both could handle in this particular lifetime with what was happening around you.
Starfish: I want to know: Do my ex and I plan to meet again in the future to wrap up this connection?
Council: Well we would think so, but of course, as we said, that’s entirely up to the both of you to make the decision, and then to create it.
Starfish: Or was this connection just a lesson for me to learn to not reactivate the same wounds with my future partner or partners?
Council: It was to look at the same wounds that you had, and to heal them.
Starfish: I really wish to see him again. I miss him as a dear friend, and I wonder if he’s doing all right.
Council: We see he’s alright. And at the moment we see he has gone forward with his life. We don’t see anything at the present moment where you’d connect again.
Bob: I was under the impression you said before that they might connect again, and now you’re saying that…
Council: He has moved forward. You can connect again in another lifetime if that’s wanted, but in this lifetime there was the wanting to come together, but there was nothing that was planned where they would stay together. It was to work on the wounds and then make a choice from there, and that was to go on.
Bob: So in answer to Starfish’s question: Do my ex and I plan to meet again in the future to wrap up this connection? you weren’t referring to their current life?
Council: Not this lifetime.
Starfish: Does he feel the same about me too?
Council: We could say he wishes you well, but again, there’s no thought of reconnecting.
Starfish: A long time ago I asked him to block me so we couldn’t contact each other. He hasn’t unblocked me since then, and now I can’t contact him first.
Council: So at the time you suggested that, was it apparent to you that you no longer wanted this connection by asking him to block you, but now there’s a change of heart? If you want this reconnection, then we would always suggest doing the inner work. Talk to his spirit at night or in the day, and put to him what you’d like. And then do the work – the discipline of seeing it and feeling it however you want. You run into him, he calls you, whatever it is, if that’s your strong desire without any doubt, then we can say, of course you can create that again.
Starfish: Is there anything I can do? I’m willing to open my heart again this time. I regret pushing him away back then.
Council: Have the image in your mind of you and him sitting across from each other inside a pink bubble, and send that image to him. His spirit, of course, will receive it and will know what you’re doing, and then we’ll see where he would be with that. So that’s your part in what you can do.
Starfish: If my ex and I don’t plan to meet again, does The Council see anyone important coming into my life soon?
Council: Of course, if that’s what you want to create. We do see there was a thought of having a permanent relationship. There is someone that you can pull in – a spirit that’s willing to be part of this reality with you. And so, that is there for you if you choose to go in that direction. It’s always good to remember that it’s up to you. Your thoughts, your images, and your feelings will create what you want in your life.
But before you go into this focusing and imagining, you must raise your vibration. And by doing that you must become very happy, very joyful, very playful, and feeling like a child who’s excited about something. When you’re in that state, and you do the work in your mind of seeing it and feeling it, you will create it.
Starfish: What can I do to manifest a new loving romantic connection?
Council: Whatever it is that you want, you raise your vibration, and you do the inner work. It’s focus, focus, focus.
Starfish: Are there still any inner wounds I need to be aware of?
Council: Of course. There are many. And it will come up with what you choose to face in this lifetime.
Starfish: How can I work through these wounds?
Council: As they come up, whatever you find hurtful, look at it. What does it remind you of? How does it make you feel? Why does it make you feel this way? And then ask yourself if there’s forgiveness for all concerned with this, including yourself? And so, trust, we can say, is one of the issues. So learn about trusting.
And so, we send you love, we send you happiness, we send you energy to raise your vibration, and the ability to look inside yourself and around you, and appreciate yourself, and appreciate everything you have around you, and to go forward and look for the fun and the happiness.
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Is This Man At Work Interested In Getting To Know Me Better?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Clueless. after she read our previous post on a similar subject, Is This Man Interested In Knowing Me Better?
Clueless: Wow, I’m experiencing the same thing. I haven’t asked the guy at work for coffee, but everyone says I should.
Council: So everyone knows what’s best for you, and what you should or should not do.
Clueless: So many people at work think he’s interested, but I see no signs at all.
Council: There’s your answer. That is what you have to learn. It doesn’t matter if one, two, fifty, or one hundred people tell you what to do. Do you see it? Do you feel it? Do you feel it’s right to go and do this? Does it make you comfortable? Does it make you uncomfortable? Forget what everyone else says. Learn to follow your intuition.
Clueless: I’d love to get to know him as a friend, as we have so much in common, but I fear the rejection.
Council: Everyone in your reality doesn’t like rejection. But you must remember that if you are rejected in this lifetime, that doesn’t mean you won’t create with this person in another lifetime.
But is this experience teaching you to ask for what you want? It might be good for you to become friends with this person, but how does it make you feel? That’s where your answer is. Forgetting what everyone else says, forgetting about the rejection, is the Earth going to explode if you are rejected? Are you going to walk down the street and get hit by a car, or better yet get hit by lightning because you’re rejected? No.
Can you take the chance of asking this man to have coffee with you, and if you get a, “No”, can you say, “Alright, so I was right and those other people were wrong.” And so I’ve had that experience, and let it go. It’s just an experience. But if there’s a part of you that wants to ask him to have coffee, that wants to be friends, take the chance. Nothing horrible will happen.
So what do you learn from rejection? It doesn’t feel good, but at least I took a chance. And the next time it will be easier to take a chance. Or someone will take a chance and ask you to have coffee.
So it’s all about following your intuition. And if everybody is thinking, “This guy is interested,” then you can always tell these people that he should ask you. And if they say, “Well, he’s shy,” you can just laugh and say, “Well he’ll get over his shyness if he wants to know me better. But be playful about it. Don’t take things so seriously.
You know we’ve all come here to learn and have fun. And jumping into this reality we knew whatever happens, I can handle it, but let’s see what I learn from this lifetime. Let’s see what I learn from this creating. Will it make me strong? Will it make me proud of myself? And that’s what this is all about. It’s not that if you are rejected the world comes to an end and you can never go forward. It’s taking a chance. Pat yourself on the back. It worked, I took a chance, it worked, or it didn’t work. Okay, that person is not ready. I was ready, but that person wasn’t, so this isn’t the time. That is all that it is.
Clueless: Whatever others are seeing, I’m not seeing it from him. He’s an awesome guy, but I don’t know if he’s shy, or purely just not interested.
Council: So you have a choice here to wait until you see some sign from him, or to just jump in and ask, or to just wait. Just follow your feeling if it tells you to wait. And that’s the answer. Do you take a chance? Can you stop relying on what everyone else is saying and wait it out, or take the chance? In your imagination, in your thoughts, you can always see him asking you out. Having the feeling: Oh, I’m so surprised, this feels so great, he’s asking me. Create it that way, from joy, from happiness, and you’ll get what you want.
It makes us very happy to help. It’s so much fun for us to give answers to help people move forward. That’s our purpose right now.
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Does The Concept Of A Soul Contract Work Against My Free Will?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Ten.
Ten: Doesn’t the concept of a soul contract work against my free will?
Council: It doesn’t.
Ten: If I have a soul contract with someone to learn something, and then this experience is not what I desire to have in my reality… For example, instead I’d like to create a long-term relationship and have this person be a life partner. Is it possible for the soul contract to be rewritten?
Council: In your reality you are all so hung up on this contract. This contract isn’t written in stone. It’s something you’ve discussed with another soul. You’ve agreed to it, but you’ve also always agreed to the idea that if this way is not working we’ll find another way, but we will have it give us what we need. We’ll find another way to work it out.
So at night when you sleep, and you always leave your bodies and do this astral travel, you can talk this over with the other person, and you can put forth what you want to happen. Then when you’re back in your body in this reality, you start thinking of what it is you want and how you’d like to see it going. There’s nothing that you can’t create.
It takes work to sit. Make the time every day to see it, picture it, and feel it, but not from a place of doubt or a place of, “Oh, it’s not happening. It’s never going to happen, but I’ll try.” But yet you really truly don’t believe it, but you’re going to try, but you don’t believe it, but you’re going to try, but you don’t believe it. And that prevents it from happening. You have to be childlike and see it happen, and feel it, and you don’t have to know how you (which is your higher self) is going to create it. But it’s there. You can have anything you want.
So when you do this focusing every day, forget what’s going on right now and focus everything on the way you want it to be. If you do it with excitement, with joy, with the attitude of looking at what you’re going to create, this is great and things must change for the better.
Ten: Someone told me a person I met recently was just there to open my heart and there’s no possibility of being in a harmonious long-term relationship…
Council: How would someone else know that?
Ten: …with that person because of our soul contract.
Council: Someone else would not know what you’ve agreed to with another soul. They can not tell you how the relationship will be because no one, NO ONE (in capital letters) can create in your reality. It will all happen the way you want it to happen. You must feel it, you must believe it with such joy of knowing how happy you’ll be when it gets here. How happy and excited you are now that you are creating it, and no one else can tell you otherwise. Or I guess they can tell you anything, but they can not create in your life.
Ten: How do I work with my higher self to create the type of relationship I desire with the specific person, and change our agreement?
Council: Sit. Meditate. In your daily coming and going take a little time. If you’re going to a movie, create it in your mind that you are going to the movie with the person you want to go to the movie with. Find little ways to imagine things the way you’d like it with this other person, or the way you’d just like things to be for you. Take the time to imagine it and laugh, know that when you’re imagining, when you’re letting that good feeling in, you will create it.
Ten: If soul contracts restrict the possibilities of what can be created, then aren’t we just puppets of our higher selves? We have no power to actually be creators here in the 3D reality.
Council: So you are a puppet of you. That’s what you are saying. You are a puppet of you. Your higher self is you. And this soul contract, there should have been another way to describe two souls, three souls, four souls agreeing to do things a certain way. But once you put the word, contract, it’s almost like you expect your souls to go to court and have to fight this and get a divorce from this thought.
You are in control. Do it with your thoughts. Do it with your feelings. Know that you can connect.
At night, at any time, speak to the other soul in your mind. You will make things happen.
And so, as always it made us very happy to help. It’s so much fun for us to give answers to help people move forward. That’s our purpose right now.
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Is This Man At Work Interested In Getting To Know Me Better?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Confused.
Confused: I’m interested in someone at my workplace and I really feel that he’s interested in me as well. I asked him to have coffee with me and he agreed, but he didn’t follow through.
Council: And so when you asked him to have coffee with you, did you put it out there to this person? Part of this lesson for you is moving forward and being able to ask for what you want. And so when you perhaps mentioned coffee, did you say, “Is there a time you’d like to do this? Is there a good day for you?” So you take the situation further, and ask the question, and see how this person answers. But it’s all about you being able to ask for what you want.
Bob: As opposed to her waiting for him to ask?
Council: Yes.
Confused: I don’t want to ask him again since I was clear with my intention.
Council: That isn’t helping you grow. You need to be clear with your intention and to make sure from his response that this person knows what you’re speaking about.
So again, if you’d come across and say, “You know I mentioned before about us having coffee. Are you open to that?” And then if you get a yes then you say, “Well okay, then let’s plan a day or a time that works.” Take it further. Don’t be afraid to speak up for what you want for yourself instead of playing that sort of let’s wait and see game.
Confused: I do feel there’s attraction between us. He comes to the office twice a month so I don’t get to see him often. However, since I asked him for coffee, he was texting me daily for one month, but his texts were lacking substance. I decided to take a step back and stop interacting with him on a personal level and keep it very professional.
Council: So let us imagine here – because you don’t know what this person is going through – you took a step back. His texts were lacking substance. Maybe this person thought that was the safe way to go. Again, you stepped back. It’s time to move forward. And when you stepped back, because you don’t know what the other person goes through, that could come across as you not being interested.
And so, again, the both of you are sort of playing this waiting and questioning game. So one of you – and it was your wish for you to grow – one of you should take the relationship forward.
Bob: It sounds like you’re suggesting that Confused be more assertive.
Council: Yes, exactly, with the thought in your head that it doesn’t matter what answer you get, whether it’s yes or no. But for your growth you’ll feel good about yourself knowing you spoke up for what you wanted.
Confused: He has also stopped interacting with me as well. I’m confused because I thought there was something between us. Did I misread the signs?
Council: You didn’t misread the signs. It’s that you’re both having similar issues. So we’d say again, when you feel comfortable and you can say it in a funny, kidding way, ask him about having coffee. But lock it down. Ask for a date. Ask for a time. If you don’t get an answer, then you know it’s time for you to wait and to step back. But it’s really – and it’s important for you to understand, no matter what the answer is – it’s all about you. Your soul wanted to grow in this particular reality and to ask for what you want.
Confused: Should I let go if this feeling or the thought of us getting together and getting to know each other?
Council: Well that’s entirely up to you. If this is what you want, then see it. Be very kind when you do see the person, when you get together again for business. But being kind and being friendly won’t work against you. So there’s no reason at this time to let go of getting to know each other more. See it, feel it, and do the inner work.
Confused: He’s giving me mixed signals and I feel very confused.
Council: And he’s thinking the same thing about you. (Laughing)
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Did My Friend, Stephen, And I Pre-Plan To Connect In Our Current Life?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Sophie.
Sophie: I wanted to ask about my friend, Stephen. Our bond seems to be really strong, even when we don’t see or speak to each other for a long time. That makes me think we knew each other in a past life. Or perhaps it’s more accurate to say that we must have planned to connect in our current life. Could you shed some light on that?
Council: Yes, you did know each other in several lives. And yes, you did plan to connect in this life to get together.
Now it’s sort of iffy, but you both agreed that going forward when you would be at an older age, that there would be a marriage. There’s a possibility. But always know that you and your friend have the ability to change whatever you thought. And so you’re still in control, but yes, there is a closeness there.
Sophie: I had a dream that I was standing with an angel looking down at an altar where I could see myself and Stephen getting married in an incredibly bright golden light.
Council: When you look at this scene do you see a wreath of flowers on your head and with a thin veil? You would describe this as the time of Gwenevere or Camalot. And so you were married in this beautiful church, and it was something back then that was also planned in spirit. And you were very much in love and had this beautiful wedding ceremony. And that’s what you were allowed to see in that dream. And so it’s just the memories that are coming through that are trying to show you that, yes, you do have a close bond with each other.
Sophie: Neither of us has any interest in marriage at the moment.
Council: Yes, at the moment.
Sophie: But I was wondering whether this was a message that we were married in a past life?
Bob: And you’re saying it was.
Sophie: Lastly, I find it difficult to cope with the idea of us moving on to separate romantic partners. How can I support myself to do this and also maintain a relationship of mutual respect with Stephen?
Council: By knowing you are the creator and by deciding what you want. You can let your relationship flow and see where it goes, or you can create a marriage again if that’s what you want, or you can just be friends and go with different partners. But even if you do that, what’s important here is the understanding that you’ve been together before. And if you both decide that marriage isn’t in the cards in your current lifetime, you can do it again and be married in another lifetime.
All of this is to show people you’ve had past lives, you’re still living, and you can have future lives. And you can decide who is in them and what direction they are going just by acknowledging that you are spirit, acknowledging that you have a choice, and manifesting by your thoughts and feelings of how it is with what you want. Do you have a picture or a focus of being married? How does that look? What does it feel like? Tap into the feeling. If you want to go separate ways, what does that look like? How does that feel? But always knowing it’s exactly what you both want to create this time, and you will create again.
Sophie: Deep down in my heart I’m just not ready to let go.
Council: That’s fine. Have fun with it and create what’s in your heart.
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Did My Partner Pre-Plan His Prostate Cancer?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lizzy.
Lizzy: My life partner was recently diagnosed with localized Stage 4 prostate cancer, which was a huge shock for both of us because we didn’t expect anything like this. I’ve been interested in topics like pre-birth agreements for some time and I’d like to ask: Is this a disease my partner wanted to experience?
Council: This disease wasn’t specifically called for, but it was some sort of disease, some sort of malady that would bring the both of you together, to work together to find a way to deal with it. And so at this time what was created was the prostate problem.
And so a Stage 4 prostate cancer in your reality is a time where they would suggest surgery, and if you’re comfortable with this, then it’s fine to go in that direction. If you’re not comfortable with it – and the choice is always yours – then you should explore other modalities, other things that can help.
And so you will create this now, step by step, how you want it to go, how you want to experience it. But it was specifically to bring the two of you to work together as you look for a way to heal, a way to show other people that will hear your stories or know what’s going on.
So you’re out there on the leading edge deciding which way to go and then to see it working, without doubt, to see, yes, this will work, this sounds right. This feels good. Follow what feels good. It’s now the time in this reality where everyone is learning how to follow their feelings. And so we would say, explore that.
Lizzy: Is there another reason why my partner has prostate cancer at such a young age?
Council: It’s just that the time was right for both of you to experience some sort of episode where there was a medical problem, and it has gone to prostate cancer.
Lizzy: What message is this disease supposed to be telling my partner?
Council: The message is to explore, to learn more, not to be frightened by a medical diagnosis, but to know in your heart that when you believe, when you research and you find something that feels right, to follow it and know that it will work. And so it’s learning with your feelings, learning from the knowledge you have, and to learn how not to doubt, but to go forward.
Lizzy: We talk about this disease openly because I know he needs it and I try to be supportive.
Council: Wonderful.
Lizzy: I’m reading a lot on the internet about prostate cancer and I’m looking for ways to help him even more. I started helping by cooking him healthier and lighter meals.
Council: How does that make you feel? Is that working?
Lizzy: I’ve read that cauliflower, broccoli, and celery are good for the prostate. Am I on the right track?
Council: If you were to read and believe that drinking soda every day would help it, if you truly believe it, it will work. So the point here is to find what you believe. Ah ha, this will work, this sounds good. When you have that ah-ha moment, follow it.
Lizzy: Are there any other superfoods that could help him to heal?
Council: Well if you continue to read in your reality, what’s been created is tomatoes are wonderful for the prostate. The zinc vitamin is excellent for the prostate. Large amounts of Vitamin C are good for the prostate. And yet if you were to read that and not believe that could work, it won’t. The lesson here is to feel what feels right. Acknowledge what feels right no matter what it is that you want to try. When it feels right and it gives you hope, and you know this can work, you should follow whatever it is.
And so continue to read up on it and maybe there will be more that you will feel will work. But we’d say at this point to do the color breathing, not only of the first chakra but all the chakras, and Bob will send that to you.
Lizzy: In general I try to stay positive because I know it’s important. But the more I think about it, I feel like I’m struggling because I don’t know what to do to help him heal.
Council: Ah ha. Just the word, struggle, brings on doubt and brings on the feeling of being helpless. And so now you should think: I know what to do. I’m searching for it and I will get the answer by reading and feeling what gives me more hope. What’s the thought that gives me more hope? What is it that we should do? And follow that.
Lizzy: Is there anything you would recommend?
Council: Of course, meditation every day. And the part of the body – in your reality there’s an explanation for this – the prostate is moving forward, going forward in your life. So if there’s a fear about the future, it could cause prostate cancer. If there’s a fear of money or career it would also cause this prostate problem. So look at what’s not working, or what’s causing you the most trouble in this life, and work on that.
Lizzy: His Urologist has recommended that my partner have surgery. That would mean we wouldn’t be able to have the children we want so badly. Is there any other option?
Council: Well there’s always the adoption option. But again we’d say research this, and if it’s possible, and you feel the only way to go forward now is to work with the sperm and have it frozen so that you can use it in the future, then by all means do that. You must follow what feels good to the two of you. That’s what’s being taught by all of us spirits that are out there channeling and teaching everyone that’s ready, everyone that’s wanting to grow, that now is the time when you need an answer, follow your feelings.
Lizzy: The only thing we could think of right now is sperm cryopreservation. Is that the path we should take?
Council: It’s not necessary right now while you do the research. If you feel, after trying other things or looking for other methods that feel right, if nothing feels right, then go in the direction of cryopreservation.
Lizzy: My life so far has taught me that every unpleasant situation has a hidden gift.
Council: And this will show the both of you are the creator. How you think about things, what you choose to focus on, you will see coming into your life. So no one can create for you. You will learn how to create by your research, by your thoughts, by your feelings, and you will learn that, yes, we are creating what happens in our lives.
Lizzy: Is there some gift for our relationship hidden in this disease?
Council: Always to bring you closer, always to learn how to rely on the spirit, rely on that you both have chosen this, and to go forward. There’s a great adventure in front of you. As long as you get rid of the fear, go on this adventure. You’ve chosen to do this together, and so you are fulfilling it. And now create the outcome that you want.
Lizzy: Is this disease meant to push us in a different direction in this life?
Council: It’s to help you become more of who you really are.
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Will I Have The Baby I Desire With My Partner?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Momof 3. in response to a post we wrote called: Will I Have A Child With My Current Partner?
Momof 3: We want to say here that we don’t have a turban on our head. We don’t look in a crystal ball and say, yes you will have a child, or no you won’t. It’s all your choice. If you want this child with your partner, if your partner wants a child with you, then see it, feel it, and do the inner work. And when the doubts come up just say, no, and see it the way you want it to be. If this will bring you happiness, if you can see you both having a child and experience the feeling of joy, and seeing what your life would be like living this, you will create it. No one else will create in your life.
So if you want this and your partner wants the same thing, how wonderful. You don’t need anyone else to tell you it will happen. Your thoughts and where you focus will or will not make it happen. So go into the feeling of joy and see it, and we promise you it will happen. It must happen if you see it as real as you can. Go into every detail you want. It will happen.
So we send you all blessings, and thoughts of happiness, and thoughts of love and joy, and seeing the energy around you growing and becoming more beautiful, and you feel lighter than you ever felt before because you are light. Let it shine.
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Did I Set Up A Difficult Time As A Test Of Faith?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Anonymous Number 3.
Anon 3: Your posts lately have been incredible. Thank you so much. To keep the conversation going I have a question that ties in with your post, Coming From Your Heart, Connecting To Your Higher Self, And Feeling Good, and your post, What Are The Limits To Positive Thinking?
Council: Oh, there are no limits to positive thinking.
Anon 3: I had a huge leap in my spiritual awareness around 2013 when I found Abraham’s Law of Attraction.
Council: Oh, wonderful. Yes, it’s so helpful, and it’s leading many people to see things differently.
Anon 3: I had this incredible experience of seemingly pulling things out of thin air. It was exhilarating. Some years later disaster struck and my entire life crashed around me. Within a couple months I found myself homeless, unwell, and without my beloved partner.
Council: Look how you created the other side of the coin. And so you created it to learn from it, experience it, and change whatever you wish to change.
Anon 3: The Abraham System didn’t work for me then. I don’t think I’ve understood why that happened yet. I usually learned the lesson from an experience, but this one has consistently evaded me, and I think I’m still scarred by it even though it was six years ago.
Council: You’ve created this experience, (we’ll use Abraham’s words) you’ve created this contrast in your life to see how it was wonderful, and now experiencing the other side of the coin. And it’s your wish at this point to change it back. And you feel the Abraham material isn’t working for you because now what your higher self is showing you is you must find another way. Abraham took you so far, you see it works, and if you stop doubting it would work again.
But now you seem to be looking for something else. And many of the souls right now, what they’re looking for is a way to connect with their higher selves and to get the answer themselves. And what we’ve all agreed on before coming into this reality is that at a certain stage of your life, you’d get your answers by the way you feel, and that’s by connecting with the Heart Chakra.
So whatever it is that you want – success, more money, a new lover – go into your heart chakra and see the beautiful green or pink light, and picture what you want. And then sit and ask your higher self, how do I get there? You’ll be surprised how you will get ideas and how things will automatically come to you because every day you’ll say: “I want to come from my heart. I want to connect with my higher self. I want that guidance in my life.” And so when you do that, you’ll begin to see how in control you are to put yourself on the path you want, and have a life of joy, which we all planned for when we came into this life.
And so we experience the opposites and then we find a way to change it. And we bring in the good, and sometimes we go back into what Abraham describes as contrast, and then we change it again. Life goes up and down, up and down. And that’s what we all want because we figure: Coming here, this will be a lot of fun. Let’s see what I create. Let’s see who comes in to help me in this life. And so that is where you are right now.
You are to rely on yourself by taking the time every day to tell your higher self you want to connect with it because you are your higher self. But you want to find a way to create things beautifully and easily in your life. So when you have to make a decision, ask your higher self, and sit and wait. And don’t wait for the words. Think of which way you want it to go. Then how do you feel? How does it feel in your chest? in your stomach? How does your body feel? And that is what we all, at this time, are learning. How to make decisions and create a better life by what we feel. Not logically, not with words, but by what we feel. That’s what we mean to get across: How we feel. And that’s why you are now on a new way of learning.
Anon 3: Since my life fell apart six years ago I’ve felt it almost impossible to align to my highest timeline or do the Abraham work because when I do, I remember what happened to me and I think there’s no point.
Council: And so, right there, that belief, that thought, will never make it work.
Anon 3: Did I set this catastrophic time up as a test of faith?
Council: Of course. You set it up for a lot of reasons, but mostly so that you would grow, and you will learn how to guide yourself.
Anon 3: Around then I started asking my higher self for guidance, but I’m not sure whether I can trust it.
Council: Of course you can trust it, but you must learn to work with the feelings. Go into the heart chakra, picture what you want in there and ask the question. Ask your higher self: Show me, and then forget about the doubt. And of course, when you do doubt, just acknowledge it and say: “No, No. I will wait. I am my higher self. I am connecting to me. I am connecting to what I have planned and what I want to go through in this life.” And you will see the difference.
Anon 3: At the time, I asked for and thought I saw signs that my partner was returning, but they never did. Since then I’ve asked for guidance about several other things and it was spot on.
Most recently I have finally, after all these years, felt ready to be in another relationship and really want to be married.
Council: And if that is what you really want, and you work with your higher self, and you work with being in joy and happiness, and aligning with that higher vibration, you will bring that in.
Anon 3: I’ve asked my higher self if this new person in my life is the one, and it’s continually and consistently sent me signs saying: Yes, yes, yes.
Council: Okay, so then when you sit down and you meditate, thank your higher self and ask to be shown more signs that this person is for you. It’s that simple. The doubts are what changes the outcome. And so with faith in your intuition, in your higher self, ask for the signs and wait until you see them.
Anon 3: But because I thought I saw these same signs about my ex-partner, I’m doubting them.
Council: Of course, but now you have another way to do it. Now you have another way to ask. And you have another way to find the answers, and that is with your feelings.
Anon 3: I also did this thing where for a long time I followed angel numbers and synchronicities thinking they must be my path.
Council: Oh, it helps many, many people. And then again after a while that doesn’t seem to work because you want more. Your higher self wants you to learn you can do it easily. You can do it from your own knowledge, and the answers will come from you.
Anon 3: But most of the time I just landed in hot water by following the angel numbers and synchronicities…
Council: Ah, there’s a sign.
Anon 3: …where they were indicative that something bad was going to happen, which adds to the mistrust I now feel of the signs I receive. I’d love to know what happened there.
Council: You don’t need the angel numbers and synchronicities anymore. That’s why you created it not to work the way it did before. It’s only your way of finding a way to get guidance for yourself, a way to grow and learn how powerful it is when you can ask your higher self and get the answer from your higher self, not from anywhere else.
Anon 3: How do I know if and when I can trust the signs I’m being sent by my higher self?
Council: Because your higher self will only send you positive answers, and it will always feel good. And the outcome – whatever it’s showing you to do, or say, or the direction to go in – will always bring you experiences that are positive, that make you feel good, and help you grow more in a positive direction.
And so we send you all blessings, and thoughts of happiness, and thoughts of love and joy. And seeing the energy around you growing and becoming more beautiful. And you feel lighter than you have ever felt before because you are light. Let it shine.
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Will My Baby Be Healthy And My Partner Stop Smoking Marijuana?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Zumza.
Zumza: I wrote to you previously about the termination of a pregnancy because my partner was financially unstable. I also wrote because the fetus in that pregnancy that I had a connection with showed up in a dream. And also I experienced unconditional love I felt during the time I was pregnant that I never felt before.
Now I feel I might be pregnant again, but I didn’t plan this pregnancy. The situation of my partner’s finances hasn’t changed. He even turned out to have a marijuana addiction, which I don’t support, and we started arguing about it.
Council: First we’d like to say here that although you say the pregnancy is unplanned, you planned this pregnancy in spirit. You wouldn’t have brought this pregnancy into your life experience if you didn’t want it. So you created this pregnancy. Now why have you created it?
And then you turn and look at your partner, which we see is having a problem with marijuana. Why have you created that in your lifetime? Is it a way to sever ties with this person? Is it a way to realize, “Well I want to be with this person, but perhaps it’s better for us not to have a relationship where we have children?” Always question yourself, because there’s no one that will create anything in your life but you.
Zumza: I want a baby, but I’m scared that my partner’s marijuana addiction will affect the health and development of the baby.
Council: Yes, of course it can affect the baby’s health. And so that’s something that’s making you question: Should you have a baby? Should you have a baby with your current partner? So look at your situation from that point of view. Your situation is all about you and learning what you want. It’s not about trying to cure someone of marijuana or helping them with better financial ways to bring in money. It’s not about you going out and getting another job to fix the financial situation.
What is it that you want? Look at whether this person has a problem with finances, if this person has a problem with marijuana, yet tells you he wants children, but yet smokes the marijuana knowing it can have a defect on the child. What is that showing you? So allow yourself to see the whole picture and then take yourself out of it and realize, what is it that you want?
Zumza: He started smoking marijuana again recently and before that he was smoking during the summer. I live a clean life and if his addiction continues I just want to end this relationship.
Council: So it sounds here like you’re not only saying it, but feeling that you want to end this relationship. And so, what else do you need to see to end it?
Zumza: Do you see if I continue the pregnancy, I will have a healthy baby?
Council: We can’t say to you, “Yes, you will have a healthy baby,” or, “no you won’t have a healthy baby; this isn’t a good idea,” because you will create the outcome. We feel the direction you’re going in – and you can always change your direction and the choice will always be yours – the direction that you’re going in is to scare yourself out of this relationship. If you have a baby and you’re not comfortable going forward because of your partner’s marijuana addiction, you will create a problem with the child that is born because of this addiction.
And so before you go into this, feel what it is. Are you uncomfortable taking the chance of having this child with this person? Are you uncomfortable about maybe having a child that will have some sort of defect because of your partner’s marijuana addiction? You are creating this so that you can open your eyes to what you want, what you will settle for, or what beautiful happiness you are looking for and will find, but perhaps it will be with someone else.
You can’t change your partner. If he stops smoking marijuana right now, what’s to say he won’t do it again? If there’s a problem with finances, who’s to say there won’t be problems again? It’s in your belief at the moment, from what we see, that you are creating a way for you to look at your situation, to look at the truth of what you’re saying, what you are bringing forth, and to make a decision from that. No one can make this decision for you.
Zumza: Will my partner quit smoking marijuana, and why is he smoking it?
Council: He’s smoking it for many of the needs that he feels he has. That doesn’t matter. Will he quit? Maybe, maybe not. It’s his choice. Right now, with the energy around him, we don’t see him quitting. If he does quit, he will return to smoking marijuana. This is what is seen now because that’s what is being created now. Can he change? Yes he can, when he’s willing to create for himself how he wants to live.
And so is it something that you want? Again, look at it. Question yourself. It’s about you. What do you want in your life? A partner that you have to worry about, or maybe someone brand new where it feels perfect, there’s happiness, there’s no problem, and a child will come from another relationship. And so, again, it’s your beliefs, it’s what you choose to focus on now. That will show you the direction your life is going in.
Zumza: Why did I get pregnant at the least favorable time?
Council: This is you. This is what you’re creating. You have a desire for a child, but perhaps you’re creating your situation with the least favorable experiences because you need to see what your partner is like. Do you want to keep him in your life? Do you want to take a chance and raise this child alone?
And so, again, look at your choices. You are creating this so that you will open your eyes and see what it is that you have created so far. And do you want to keep creating on that path, or do you want a new path?
Zumza: I promised myself I wouldn’t terminate a pregnancy ever again.
Council: If it’s a promise that feels good to you, then we’d say, go for it. Is it a promise that you’ve made to yourself, but in the background is the worry that this child can be born with a defect? We’d say, look at it again. If you wish to have this child, then you must do the inner work and see this child being perfect, happy, and see yourself raising this child with joy and fun. That work must begin now.
And so we send you all blessings, and thoughts of happiness, and thoughts of love and joy, and seeing the energy around you growing and becoming more beautiful. And you feel lighter than you’ve ever felt before because you are light. Let it shine.
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Will My Brother And I Heal Our Relationship?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Diana.
Diana: Thank you for your amazing work. My question is: Will my brother and I ever have healing in this lifetime? He denies the emotional abuse I experienced from our narcissistic parents, and he’s been pushing me away my whole life.
Council: Did it ever cross your thoughts that he denies this because it’s very painful for him to realize what you’ve gone through? And perhaps he’s gone through some things that he’s not ready to deal with? It’s not about wanting to push you away or not believing you, but about the uncomfortable feelings that it stirs within him.
Diana: On some level he does care though and wants to have some contact, but only if I never mention my experience or pain.
Council: We’d like to ask you at this point, are you constantly bringing this abuse up with him? It’s like he has a wound in his heart and you keep sticking your finger in it. He’s heard what you have to say and it makes him very uncomfortable. Yes, he’d like to have a relationship with you, but are you basing it on that you must talk about your abuse many times? Why aren’t you letting go of it?
If it’s you that wants this relationship, then it’s good for you to get to a place where you can realize it’s best, for now, not to speak of abuse, and to build your relationship without that part coming forth. And we say that this is for right now. If you can begin a relationship slowly and have it grow, then your brother doesn’t have to be afraid all the time that you’re going to bring up the abuse. When he’s ready he will bring it up, but he has to get to a place where he is ready. Can you allow your brother to grow at his own pace? Can you show compassion? Can you show love and have a relationship with him?
Diana: This doesn’t feel authentic to me so I’ve slightly distanced myself and I’m grieving a lot because I love him so much.
Council: Why do you think it’s not authentic to stay away from a painful subject right now? Why must it be authentic only if you can talk about this abuse? There’s pain involved in this, pain that you went through, and pain that he goes through.
And again we say it’s very important for you to look at yourself. Why must you bring up this abuse? You are keeping yourself in a painful situation. You are creating the distance because you need to talk about it and your brother doesn’t. You are ready, but he is not. So can you come together and start to build a relationship without talking about the abuse? You are keeping yourself in that relationship, in that situation that you went through, that was painful.
And this is all for your own growth to realize, what is your part in this? Why is it so important to speak about the abuse to someone who’s not ready? Perhaps you can find someone that will help you and talk with you about this, but if you truly want this relationship with your brother, you can leave out the abuse. And you can both come together and heal, and feel loving feelings for each other in time. The choice is always yours.
Diana: Will he ever understand, accept, and acknowledge my truth?
Council: Yes, eventually this can happen, but for now, can you let go of the subject of abuse?
Diana: Or will I also have to detach from him like I’ve detached from my parents? This leaves me completely alone.
Council: Detaching at this point will keep you alone and keep you feeling hurt. So why must you detach? It’s just a simple choice of, right now we will not talk about this abuse. Right now we’ll build a loving, caring relationship with each other by talking about other things and experiencing other things, and finding happy things to share. If this is what you want, then go in the direction of love. Go in the direction of joy. Go in the direction of compassion for yourself and your brother. When you choose this you’ll have the relationship you want.
We send you all blessings, and thoughts of happiness, and thoughts of love, and joy, and seeing the energy around you growing and becoming more beautiful, and you feel lighter than you’ve ever felt before because you are light. Let it shine.
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Will I Have A Child With My Current Partner?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Sofia.
Sofia: I have a partner for one year now and really want to have a baby very badly. He has some financial difficulties (debts and bankruptcy of his company), and he’s working on solving these issues and getting stable. He says he also wants a baby after he’s financially stable. Then we can start planning for the baby and marriage. He has an eight-year-old daughter from a previous relationship.
In the beginning of our relationship, I got pregnant. Because of the situation, we didn’t continue the pregnancy. Of course, it was a difficult decision for me, as I’m ready, I have quite a good job, and an apartment, but I also want my partner to be ready for a child as well as myself.
My question is: Will I have a child with this partner?
Council: What we see here is that this can happen. Of course, we’d ask you to go into vibration, into a higher loving state of joy, and use the images to keep seeing that. But we would say to you, is this really what you want at this time? If someone else was to come along and you can create a baby with this new person, would you leave your current partner and go with the new one? We would not want you to go without a baby because you’re waiting for someone else to be ready.
And so we’d say discussion is needed on this. Does your current partner use images? Does your current partner want a baby as much as you do? You can move forward and have a child without your current partner being financially ready. And so if it’s something that you really want, it should be addressed. But we’d say to watch this for a while and see how you feel with the answers you’re getting when you talk with your partner about having children.
We do see in your current life, one way or another, you will create a child, and it’s all up to you. If you want a child with your current partner, then you must do the inner work. There’s nothing you can not have. And so be open to this. Be open to having conversations about children, about debt, and finances, and how you’ll handle your situation. You’ll see, by the answers you get, how you truly feel. It doesn’t have to be your current partner, and yet it can be if that’s what you want. It’s all up to you. You are the creator.
The lesson here is for you to be aware. Become aware of what you want, what your desire is, and do the work for it to happen. Be aware of what your partner wants. And that at a certain time, no matter what, you will have the child whether he’s ready or not. Be aware of the answers and you’ll learn about yourself, you will learn about your partner, and you’ll go forward and create what’s needed in your life to fill your desire.
Sofia: Can I do something for my partner so he can get stable with his finances more quickly?
Council: You can’t create for your partner. But you can, in your imagery, see it happening, see him getting a better job, getting more money, and doing anything where he’s able to pay off his debts. You can do that from your end, but your partner must do it from his end. So you can’t create for your partner, but you can create the energy to have what it is that you want in your life.
So when you create about your partner being in better situation financially, what you’re doing is creating that situation so you can have the child that you want. And so you’re both there for each other. So just use the imagery, use the feeling over and over again, things are moving forward and you’re able to have this child.
Sofia: I’m thinking about getting pregnant every day and every minute. It’s always on my mind. The feeling is so strong.
Council: But don’t think about having this child from a place of doubt. Do not think, I want this child, and I can’t have it now. Do not think, I want this child so bad, but it’s not happening. That will not create what you want.
So think of it every day as: How wonderful. I’m so excited to have this child. I’m preparing a life for this child. I can’t wait for it to happen. I’m so lucky. I’m so happy. That’s how you create. Do not create from doubt or from fear.
Sofia: Does this waiting have a purpose for me?
Council: The purpose is for you to learn about yourself, to learn about what is important to you, to learn about this man in your life, And so the waiting is fine. But we’d say, while you’re waiting, create in vibration. See it, feel it, and you will bring it forward.
Sofia: What can I take from this situation? I don’t feel much purpose at work, and in other things I enjoyed before. I just feel that the time has come for me to be a mom, and a wife, and focus on family for some time.
Council: And so if you’re not happy in your work, you can change what you do for work so that you feel better somewhere new. If what you want is to be a mom, then change how you think about your job, and think of it as, this job is giving me the ability to have money to move forward and have this child. This job is helping me to get everything together that I need to welcome this child into my life. So forget the thoughts of not wanting to be at your job and wanting to be a mom, because that’s coming from the negative.
And so we send you all blessings. And remember to have fun on this journey that you have created for yourself, and to have fun with the spirits around you that you have welcomed into your life. And always, always show kindness, and love, and compassion.
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Is Humanity Ready For The Information I Plan To Offer In My Workshop?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Just Me Again.
Just Me Again: I never went to Cambodia.
Bob: Apparently Just Me Again asked The Council about going to Cambodia in a previous question.
Just Me Again: Not only because of not wanting to leave my cat behind, but also because life happened and I had to learn some more. I got retrenched and moved to a small town in the countryside. My brother took his own life in the early stages of Covid, and I brought my mother to stay with me in this small town, as we were both struggling with my brother’s death.
Council: It was pre-arranged that you and your mother would always be there for one another. So whether she was there for you as a child and it’s your turn now to be there for her, it’s an agreement and commitment you made, and it’s still your choice whether you would follow through on it.
Just Me Again: I’m working on a project to create a center where we offer a 10-day residential retreat for women, not only to empower them, but also for them to return home with knowledge to also empower their families and communities. It’s a holistic program to help these women understand how to deal with the baggage they carry, learn about self-love and forgiveness, discover their gifts and abilities, etc., and focus on working with high-vibration tools like flower essences, crystals and gemstones, and consciously consuming high vibration food, etc.
Council: And we’d say at this point, the best teachers are the ones that haven’t learned about crystals and essences from books, but have used it in their life so that you can give an example of what happens. Right now, people are very interested in knowing how it works. How do you know it works? So we’d say look into this program that you wish to develop, and how you’ll develop it.
But we’d say at this point going forward in your reality it’s very important to teach about vibrations, how to get into a higher vibration, how to stay there, and how to use your mind to create with your feelings, and with your images. We’d say this is very important for you to add to your program and to teach this, and then it will be very successful.
And have stories about yourself, and about others you know who have used the tools you’re going to give these women, and how it affected them. How did they make the change? People get hope when they hear success stories. And that is part of your path.
Just Me Again: There will also be workshops following the 10 days to teach creating your own high-vibration medicine.
Council: Wonderful.
Just Me Again: I resonated with your previous advice about having a past life in Atlantis and it feels like memories are coming back, and much of the center is based on guidance downloads that I’m receiving.
Council: So ask your higher self to give you memories of your past life in Atlantis, or any other life where you were in a healing capacity. And keep asking, because at this point in your reality, what we see is many, many people now will start to depend on their higher self, even though some people don’t realize the higher self and your human self are one entity. Even if they separate it, asking your higher self for information, it will always come, and it will come in your feelings.
And so it’s important that you teach people how to feel, how to ask a question and feel. That’s how the answers will come going forward in your reality. And this way you’re pointing others in the right direction. Develop the vibration and learn how to stay in it. Talk to your higher self and sit and wait for the feeling. You will get your answers.
Just Me Again: It is a process of downloading this information I am receiving. I feel there’s still more to come.
Council: There is much more to come.
Just Me Again: I’d like to ask a few questions. Although I’m not giving the long version of the program here, does The Council feel that humanity is ready to receive the straightforward basic knowledge of what I have to offer at this time?
Council: Definitely. We say to go forward with this plan. When you think of it, does it make you excited? Do you feel joy? There’s your feeling. Do it.
Just Me Again: Will the program be as effective as I believe it will be?
Council: Yes, if you gather enough information and experiences, it will be very successful.
Just Me Again: And is there any guidance from The Council?
Council: We feel we’ve given it to you (laughs).
Just Me Again: If funds for this project are approved, I’ll take my mother with me to the center, as I’ve committed to taking care of her.
Council: Yes, you have.
Just Me Again: She’s very open to all this new information, loves reading, going through my books on these topics, and she’s 80 years old. Will it be the right thing to take her with me? The funding will allow me to get special care for her on the premises, and allow me to follow my calling at the same time.
Council: Talk to her about your plans and what you’re going to teach, because she’ll be aware of this stuff and she’ll use it in her own way. So make your mother part of the discoveries.
Just Me Again: Are there perhaps any messages from my father and/or brother who are both on the other side? Or any other messages from anyone that I need to receive right now?
Council: Of course we’d say the only message that they give is feeling proud of supporting you on your path, and of sending love so that you can create what you thought you’d like to do in spirit. And so they are on their path, and they are learning in the spirit. They are planning new lives, and they are helping others. And so when you ask if they have messages, the one big message is they always send you love, because they want you to get through this reality by having accomplished what you planned in spirit.
Just Me Again: Are there perhaps any other lifetimes with knowledge of high-vibration healing and tools that The Council wants to make me aware of that may assist me in establishing this program?
Council: We’d say read everything you can on Atlantis. Read everything you can on Lemuria. In the early parts of Egypt, they used a lot of teachings from Atlantis, and then we’d say they added their spin to it. Study early healings from Egypt. Learn what they did in the temples. And as you begin to remember this, your knowledge will grow. You’ll get new ideas that you don’t have now to put into your programs, and this is a wonderful adventure.
Bob: So are you saying that Just Me Again had past lives in Lemuria, Atlantis, and Egypt, all three.
Council: Yes
And so we send you all blessings. And remember to have fun on this journey that you’ve created for yourself, and to have fun with the spirits around you that you’ve welcomed into your life. And always, always show kindness, and love, and compassion.
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What Can I Do About My Problems With A Work Colleague?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, A Frustrated Worker.
Frustrated: I have a question about a work scenario. I’ve had a special and intricate working relationship with a colleague for nearly a decade. While they have an anxious disposition, they were always supportive and followed through when it counted. But for the last few years they’ve really let me down. There have been delays after delays, they’ve continuously moved deadlines, put other peoples’ work before mine, told little white lies, dismissed my feelings about the work being delayed, and this sort of thing.
Council: Why have you stayed in that situation for a couple of years? It’s a situation that’s presenting itself to you. When you look at it, it makes you turn and look at yourself for the growth to see why you stay in that situation when everything is showing you that it’s not working and there is a problem here.
Frustrated: It’s left me in a very tricky situation. I recently had to confront them. They took offense and it looks as though our working relationship may be over.
Council: Taking this step and confronting them is good. When they take offense you have to realize either it’s something they’re going through or it’s something to do with their thinking. When it goes that far it’s very plain for you to follow your feeling. It can’t be comfortable being in this. Your feelings, which is your higher self’s way of talking to you, is saying, “It was good, but now it’s time for a change. And the change comes because you are ready for growth.
Frustrated: Separating the work we’ve done together and the work I have planned for us will be like undressing a salad. And because the work they do is very excellent and idiosyncratic, I can’t see who I’d replace them with.
Council: It’s time, when you make the salad and you make the same dressing for many years, that you tire of it, or your taste buds want something new. So now it’s time to dress your salad with something new.
Frustrated: Can this relationship be saved, or am I supposed to let this go?
Council: There’s nothing to save. It was wonderful. Hopefully all involved have learned from it and now have different paths to travel, and this includes yourself. There’s nothing to save. You’re supposed to follow your feeling and get excited about something new that you can bring into your life. And you do this by writing it down, thinking over and over about the new people that could come into your life, and the way you want it to be. So you start that inner work and you begin to bring in the new people.
Get yourself in a happy mood and excited mood where you’re thrilled to be going forward. When you do that you must bring in these new people. Make up your mind instead of thinking, should I try and fix it, should I hold on? If you make up your mind to move forward, there’s a new path, there are new things to learn, and there are new people to bring into your life. Once you start imagining that, making that your intention, these people will definitely come along.
Bob: Just to be clear, to answer the question, “Am I supposed to let this person go?” The answer is, yes?
Council: That’s what’s happening around you. It’s pointing to that. Is your higher self showing you this? And you feel the loss of the relationship. You feel it’s not working. You know they’re putting you off and putting others before you. The answer is so simple. You can hang on to this relationship, but it won’t get better. You can try to create it, but why would you want to create this where your feelings are pushing you to move in another direction?
Frustrated: What would I have to do to save this relationship, or how do I find their replacement?
Council: If you want to save this, then you would see these people understanding what you’re saying, you’d see them wanting to work with you and put your work first, and coming through for you. You can see that. You can create this.
And yet we must say here that even if you create this for a while, what you’ve created in spirit is that now it’s time to move on.
Frustrated: Are there other souls who are lined up to take the place of this person if they decide with their free will to leave?
Council: Definitely, but it’s your work to call it in, to imagine it, to see it, to be open and excited about this wonderful new part of your journey.
Frustrated: Why did this happen? Is there a higher purpose for why this has occurred?
Council: Of course there’s a higher purpose. It’s your higher self that wants to go forward, that you’ve planned in spirit other things you want to do. So of course there’s a higher purpose, and guess who created it? You did. You created it in spirit. Remember that you are a spirit, that you create everything that happens, and move towards what you want.
Bob: It sounds like you’re saying that the higher self of A Frustrated Worker has created one direction and the higher self of the colleague maybe created another direction.
Council: Everyone has created their own direction. What’s important here is the direction you want to go in. How does it feel in the situation you are in? Is it satisfactory to you? Does it bring you joy? If not, follow your feelings. There’s something new, there’s something different. These other people have created what they want and they’ll go in their direction. And so it’s just for you to accept and let flow what’s being presented to you.
Frustrated: I’d really appreciate your insight, as I feel I’m in complete limbo at the moment.
Council: Imagine what you wish for. Start creating with your mind. It’s a wonderful time to do this.
Happiness and blessings to everyone. Enjoy yourself. Find your power. Create happiness every day, even if it’s the littlest bit, because when you’re in the vibration of happiness, you’ll be able to bring into your life at any time what will give you happiness on a longer basis. So have fun with this.
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Questions About How We Manifest Our Own Realities
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Firefly.
Firefly: I have some questions regarding manifesting our own realities. Are things like cigarettes and alcohol only bad for my health if I believe they are?
Council: Yes.
Firefly: I hear people warned that these things will lower one’s vibration.
Council: If you believe it will lower your vibration, it will. If you believe it will hurt your body, it will. You must be very sure of your thoughts around this because you’ll create it. And sometimes wondering if it’s bad for you, because you have that thought, it will be bad for you. So we’d suggest if you want to do this, you create yourself having a wonderful life, having a healthy life, and feeling great.
Firefly: Is there a good reason to be thinking about whether one’s vibration is lower or higher?
Council: You will know immediately by how you feel. When you’re depressed or when you’re angry, you know your vibration is low. And so you question: Why are you depressed? Why are you angry? Why are you sad? What’s going on? When you’re laughing, when you’re thinking of memories that have made you happy, when you’re planning the future things that will make you happy, your vibration automatically lifts. So you’re very much in control, and you’ll feel it.
Bob: So you’re saying there is a good reason to think about whether your vibration is lower or higher?
Council: We’d say you don’t have to focus on whether your vibration is high or low. Just focus on how you feel in the moment. What’s going on? And then the way you feel, or what thoughts made you feel that way? And you’ll know exactly how to lower or raise your vibration. It’s that simple.
Firefly: Does it really matter if we think about whether our vibration is lower or higher?
Council: What matters is that you have thoughts that make you feel good. And the more you can do that, you’re automatically in a raised vibration. You are automatically living a good life. And so stay in joy. We say this all the time. The answer to everything is: find the joy and you’ll feel the happiness. Find the love and you’ll feel the happiness. You’ll feel that lift in your vibration and that is the answer. Everything you look at, love it. Show compassion and happiness, and think thoughts that bring you joy, even if it’s something from when you were five years old, if it makes you laugh or if it makes you smile.
We can even say when you meditate or just sit in a chair for five minutes, smile. Sit there and smile. Don’t think of a thing, just smile. You’ll find that you feel better.
Firefly: Do people like me ever decide to indulge in alcohol and cigarettes before coming into this life just for the purpose of having fun?
Council: Yes, of course. And then you can perhaps experience having fun and not needing these things. Or having a life with drugs and alcohol and loving every part of it. It’s how you think about it. You are in control.
Firefly: If I feel like I’d like a better income and more money very quickly, what’s the best way to align with these resources?
Council: Play games, walk into stores, look at expensive stuff, see yourself buying it, see yourself winning the lottery, see yourself with a large bank account, look at your checkbook and write numbers in it that give you much more money than you have. Play the game and experience it. You can buy whatever it is. If you want a house, picture the house. What does it look like? Picture every detail of it and that it’s yours. And the more you practice having the things you want that are expensive, the universe will bring that to you. Actually it’s you that’s putting out into the universe, “This is what I want.” And when you realize this is what you want, and you have fun with it, it must come to you.
Firefly: I’m in a loving relationship with a man who’s a good friend. By imagining how I’d like the relationship to expand and go in beautiful directions, am I creating this relationship?
Council: Of course. You create with your thoughts
Firefly: Is he creating a completely different reality or relationship, or are we creating one together?
Council: What he’s creating can be different, but if you do come together, then that part of you that’s creating it, you’ll both create it and come together. And there are so many different parts of you that part can go off and create something very different, but you won’t experience it because the part of you that’s in your current reality wanting this, because you want it, and you focus, and you create it, you will have it.
Firefly: Does this creation stretch over many of our lifetimes?
Council: Anything you can create, you can create in any lifetime, over and over again if that’s what you wish.
Bob: Do you see Firefly and the man she’s in a relationship with have shared previous lifetimes?
Council: Most of the lifetimes were as siblings, and so that has no bearing on what’s created in your current lifetime. Focus on what you want now.
Firefly: I sometimes want another child with this man who I love. I have three children from a previous relationship. Is it outlandish to want to manifest a baby that’s ours, but have the pregnancy be delightful and non-damaging to my body at age 43?
Council: Why is that outlandish? Just that thought will keep you from creating it. You can create anything you want. If this is what you want at this time of your life, of course you can create it, but the doubts will get in the way. And so it doesn’t matter. There are women that are older that have created pregnancies. Think of what you want and why you want it. Does it bring you happiness? Then go off and create it. See it and feel it like it’s already yours.
Firefly: By doing my best to visualize getting pregnant, can we really create an outcome that defies what we believe we’ve learned from scientific observation?
Council: You can create a future that has nothing to do with scientific information. You can create something that’s way off the charts. There’s no limit. If 100 people say you can not create this because of reasons A, B, C, etc., it doesn’t matter. What matters is what you believe. And so take the limits off and create whatever it is.
Firefly: My child is worrying me and I want this child to be safe and well. How can I help them best?
Council: See it. Connect with the spirit that has agreed to come into your life. If it’s something you both want, if you agreed upon it in spirit and the spirit said, Well, let’s look at your life at the time I want to come in. Is it something I want to experience? Is it something I want to share with you? Everything is possible. Connect to the spirit, offer it a home, offer it safety, offer it help, offer it happiness, and most of all offer it love.
Firefly: How much power do I have to create change for others?
Council: You can not create change for others. Everyone is their own creator. You can help them. You can create what you know they want and see it for them to give them more support, more energy, and strength to stay with the thought of what they want, but you can not create it.
Firefly: Is it possible, in imagining all that one wishes to manifest, to be asking too much or employing greed?
Council: There’s no greed. There’s no limitation on what you can ask for. Everybody can have everything they want. There’s no limit to anything. And so if you want 100 different things, you are not taking them away from another person. There’s enough for everyone. Use your power of manifestation.
And so we send you blessings, and joy, and love, and the ability to have wonderful memories, to laugh, and to hope, and to stretch out your hand and help each other, and enjoy this life that you’ve created. Remember, no one creates for you. It’s all up to you. The people around you that you’ve chosen to be in your life have agreed to come and help you. They’ve agreed to learn from you. There are things that they need from this.
And so you’re all there, everything is planned with love, and when you go back into spirit you’ll go, “Wow, what a trip.” So enjoy and have fun.
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Will The Spirit Of My Unborn Child Return To Me?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Zumza.
Zumza: I had an abortion a couple months ago. My boyfriend and I wanted a child, and the feeling of someone wanting to come through us was very, very strong. I was ready to have a baby, but he wasn’t ready financially. I got pregnant very quickly after five or six months of knowing each other, so there was also a doubt that the timing was good. We decided to have an abortion, although I was convincing my boyfriend we’d make it through and the timing was good. I felt a very strong connection to the spiritual world and a lot of love for the fetus. We were communicating in my mind. I apologized for the abortion and asked the spirit to come back.
Council: We see here there’s a lot of doubt around the time you were thinking of having a child, where you wanted the child, but you doubted the timing was right. There was doubt about the finances. And then doubting the pregnancy, or having an abortion, and the regret. That vibration will not bring you what you want. And so we’d say if you choose to get pregnant again, and there are the same concerns about timing and about money, it’s wise to do everything you can to change the way you look at your situation. Be more positive about how it will work out, and stay away from thoughts that are doubtful.
Zumza: I had an abortion and the next day I broke my leg. It was a tough period. I prayed a lot for the baby and for good karma. Later on a baby came into my dream. He was playing in the spiritual world with guides. He was happy and I felt so much love.
Council: Right there by paying attention to this dream and what you’ve seen, this spirit has allowed you to see that it’s healthy, that it’s happy, and there’s no need for regret, blame, or guilt. Once again, it’s a wonderful thing that the spirit has shown you that.
And so if you can change the way you think of it and say, “How wonderful. The spirit heard me talking to itself and came to me. I was open enough to receive that dream, and now how do I handle it? Am I happy for this spirit?” The spirit is happy, so why should I torture myself?
And so, always what you’ve been shown is to be more positive. Know everything is okay. Whether or not there was an abortion, everything is okay. All is well.
Zumza: Since the abortion I’m feeling so much regret. I thought, “I just started a new role and if I leave, how will that look?” But after my decision, my two colleagues told me they are pregnant and I thought, “That could have been my happiness.”
Council: And so the concern here – again take a look at your thoughts – if you got pregnant and had to leave your job, how would it look? It doesn’t matter how it would look. Is it what you want? Are you going forward with appreciating you are pregnant and having the dream that you want? So once again, rethink how you look at your situation.
Zumza: Also, we’re not married yet. I was thinking I wanted the baby to come into a married family.
Council: Okay, so if you’re preparing, if you’re creating that you’re pregnant again, you’re thinking you’d like this child to come into a married family. Are you taking those steps toward marriage? Follow your feeling. If this is what you want, if this is what you need to be happy and to have a full pregnancy, and a wonderful baby, then take the steps toward what you want. And that would be to go ahead and do as you wish and be married.
Zumza: But now I want nothing else but the spirit of this child back in my life. In my dream it was a boy, and I felt it was a boy during the pregnancy. I just can’t live without him in this world.
Council: And that is such an unfortunate thought. When you think that you cannot live without this spirit, what do you think that does to your vibration? That is a very low vibration. It’s easy to change that. It’s like, I love the thought of moving on with my life and welcoming this spirit back if it chooses to come back to me. Do you see the different feeling of the different thoughts?
Zumza: I keep asking the spirit to come back, and he replies that he will, but maybe it’s only in my mind.
Council: And so instead of thinking maybe it’s all in my mind, change it to: How wonderful, let me trust this feeling. The spirit is telling me it will come back.
Again, you’re changing a thought of doubt to a positive thought in order to raise your vibration so it’s easy for you to create what you want.
Zumza: My boyfriend is working on getting stable with finances at the moment.
Council: That is a wonderful thing.
Zumza: Will this spirit come back to me?
Council: We do see here that there is a wonderful possibility of this happening. But once again, you must change the way you see things, the way you prepare for it, and know that when you’re in a higher vibration of joy and love and excitement of where you’re going in this lifetime that you are creating, then we see this spirit, or any other spirit that wants to come, will come to you.
There’s definitely a pregnancy, and if you change this vibration and the way you’re thinking, and you speak to this spirit, you both have a chance to come together and plan what’s wanted for both of you.
Is it a good experience for you to be with this spirit? This spirit will think of what kind of life you are planning. Is it good for me to become part of that family? Is it what I want to experience? And so we say the positive attitude and higher vibration will make this happen.
Zumza: Will I get pregnant again?
Council: Yes, we do see that.
Zumza: I was a career-driven person for some time, but I achieved what I wanted and there’s nothing else I want more than a family. I’m already over 30 and scared it will be too late if it will take too long.
Council: Ah, there we are. You are scared. You are doubting. Will it take too long? I’m too old. That will stop the way you create. So the thought is, I’m over 30. Well I know many people in their 40s and even some women in their early 50s have given birth. Oh, I want this. This is in my plans for my future, so this will happen. I’m not running out of time.
And so, again, the way you see it, being afraid of being too old, being afraid of not having enough time, will not help you create what you want. Do this inner work with your thoughts and how you feel, and when you focus, you are the creator. You will bring it in.
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Have I Met The Person I’ll Marry After My Husband Passed?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Momof3, and is in response to our post, Do I Have A Twin Flame, Not A Soulmate?
Momof3: This topic of twin flames and soulmates has been something that’s intrigued me. I’ve often wondered if my late husband is my twin flame or soulmate. I was inseparable from him, but he passed away. I still feel connected with him spiritually and energetically, and it overwhelms me sometimes.
Council: Of course you’re still connected. Just because someone passes into spirit and one is back in the physical reality, there’s no break in the connection.
And so you want to know if this was your soulmate. We’d say, yes, because this soul and you have chosen each other as mates in this particular lifetime. Any two people that come together are soul mates. You decide to spend this life together, or part of this life together, and work things out together. And so you are mates.
We realize many in the physical world think there’s something wonderful, that they must find the one, the soulmate. Anyone you have a relationship with is a soul that’s mated to you for whatever length of time you decide. And so we’d say, yes, and enjoy that, and enjoy the connection you still have with your husband.
Bob: In a recent post you clarified the difference between the terms, twin flame and soulmate.
Council: Yes. This relationship with her husband was not a twin flame. He was another spirit.
Momof3: I’m sure we had a soul contract or past lives together, or maybe I’m just believing these things to have answers and cope with losing him.
Council: The soul contract you speak of is just an agreement that we’ll go into the physical reality and this is what we plan.
Momof3: But since my husband passed, I’ve met other men and had relationships, and I also feel connected to those men. I guess they’ve all come into my life to teach me something. Are they all my soulmates also, or is there just one?
Council: They are soulmates also. They’ve come in to give you the feeling of love that you feel you’ve lost with your husband passing on. And so it’s just a way to experience love. Different ways are available with different people, and that is all agreed upon.
Momof3: I was told that my late husband wasn’t the one I’d spend my life with and that my true soulmate or twin flame would come after him.
Council: There’s such an emphasis in your reality about this true soulmate. We’ll say again, anyone that you’re in a relationship with is a soulmate. So yes, it’s true you didn’t spend this entire reality with your husband. There will be others. There will be as many as you wish to create. You can get tired of creating many other mates, and then you may create the one that fills your desire for what you want a soulmate to be. And that’s how it works.
Momof3: Of course I never thought that would be true and I’d lose him.
Council: Nothing has been lost. It’s important to remember that. The connection is there and you can still speak to your husband and he’ll speak to you. You only need to be quiet and to believe, and you’ll see the answers.
Momof3: I wonder if I’ve met this person I’d marry now.
Council: We don’t see that yet. And yet if someone comes along and you really want this person to be your forever partner, you can create it that way. It’s so important to remember that you are the creator.
So as you go about your life and the people you pull in to meet, see which one fits perfectly to what you want. And then you’ll create that reality that you’ll be together, and how long you’ll be together.
Momof3: I’ve had a love relationship that recently ended, and I’m trying not to get involved in another one too soon.
Council: It’s all up to you.
Momof3: But I feel like there are connections with people I meet. In particular, there’s a man I’m dating, I’ll call him, J, but I don’t want to make the same mistakes of past relationships.
Council: There’s no rush. Take your time. Enjoy this relationship. See it the way you want it. Focus on the way you want it to be, and that is what you’ll create.
Momof3: I do believe all these friendships and meetings are to teach me something and help me heal, and for me to help J, as well.
Council: It’s to teach you that you are the creator.
Momof3: In helping J, I feel healing, but I feel that I’m searching for my soulmate and I feel incomplete.
Council: That’s because of the belief you have. So now remember that anyone who comes into your life can fit the bill of being your soulmate. And while no one is perfect, whoever comes into your life, there’s always some sort of agreement, I will teach you this, you will teach me that. We’ll go through certain things.
And so, do not expect the perfect soulmate to be a perfect physical human being. That’s not what you’re here for.
Bob: How would you address this feeling that Momof3 has about feeling incomplete?
Council: Because many come into this reality with the belief – and they are here to change this belief – that they are not complete, that you have to have the soulmate to be complete, that you have to have the twin soul to be complete. That isn’t true. You are complete. You are everything that you have ever been in every life. Every answer that you need to every question is within you.
The way to create whatever it is that you want in this life is up to you. You can change it day by day by what you want. And just by focusing on it the life around you will change. It’s all up to you. No one will come along and do it. It’s all up to you.
Bob: So it sounds like you’re saying that the feeling Momof3 has that she’s incomplete comes from a belief that she needs someone outside of herself to complete her. And it sounds like you’re suggesting that’s not true.
Council: Exactly.
Momof3: Then there’s my oldest son. We’re so alike, but we also butt heads a lot. I feel like he hates me and loves me, and it’s a difficult relationship. Is he from my past lives? And does he have to work out things with me from these past lives?
Council: Yes, you know your son from before, but what’s going on now is that you’re here to learn that you have given birth to this soul. You have agreed to bring this soul into this reality. You’ve only agreed to give him entry. You do not control him. You don’t own him. You’re here to watch how he grows, to learn from what he goes through, and to be as understanding as you can.
The way to love him is to let him be himself. Yes, there are times your child will hate you. There are times your child will love you. But when you show love and you allow this child to be whatever he needs to be, and to work on whatever he needs to work on, it will all turn around. And because you show love and acceptance, you’ll receive that same love and acceptance.
Momof3: How can I have a loving relationship with him, or do I just let him be and concentrate on myself?
Council: Of course let him be, but show him love. Show him when you’re disappointed, when you feel maybe his actions are hurtful, but allow him to be. And whenever he does something you don’t approve of, we would end the conversation with the words: I love you, and I’ll allow you to go through whatever you need to go through. Those words will change so much.
Have patience. Just remember you’re not here to control. You’re not here to boss this person around and have things done the way you want. Watch him with curiosity. What is he learning? What is he going through? And what am I learning from it? There’s great growth on both parts when you can look at things this way. And all will be well.
Momof3: Maybe I’m just trying to find answers to feelings and emotions I feel towards men that I can’t explain. Maybe it’s just me being lonely and simply wanting to be loved and to love like it was with my husband. But I feel lost and confused, and I feel like I’m constantly searching for my other half.
Council: You are your other half. What we wish you to do now is to focus on what it is that you want, and know that you can have this.
Momof3: I try to hold back my emotions and feelings because I know I’m vulnerable and just looking to be loved like I was with my husband.
Council: And so your thoughts would be: I am strong. I am a creator. I had a wonderful time with this person that was my husband and I want more of it. And so now I’ll create it. Now I’ll bring someone else in.
You are not lost. You are not a victim. You are now a creator. Think of what we just said, how the feeling is so much different from the way you think about your situation. Come from a place of power and know you can do this.
Momof3: But it’s difficult because I feel when I don’t listen to my heart and emotions, I feel anxious, unbalanced, and overwhelmed.
I’d love to know if I’ve already met the person I was told I’d eventually marry, and who it is, or his name.
Council: You have not finished creating yet.
Momof3: Or if that was something just made up.
Council: We ask you to focus. Do not go so much from what others tell you, but know yourself. We can say over and over again, you are the creator. Picture it. Feel the way you want your life to be. Picture yourself married again and having a wonderful life. See it. Every time you can, see it and feel it, and it has to come to you. But you must take this place of power and understanding of who you really are and make this happen, because you can.
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Why Does My Cat Urinate Outside Its Litterbox?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Janet.
Janet: My 18-year-old cat is going to the bathroom outside his litterbox. His veterinarian has ruled out medical issues and says my cat’s trying to tell me something. What’s he trying to tell me?
Council: At this point we can see that this cat is forgetting, almost like a person having dementia, so sometimes he just forgets to use his litterbox. But your cat also wants attention. So we’d say, at some point during the day or in the evening, have this cat in your lap or next to you, pet it, give it a lot of attention, and speak to it. That’s what this little soul wants.
Bob: Eighteen years old is kind of old for a cat. Do you think the extra attention will…
Council: Yes, it will help, but part of this problem is your cat just forgets to use the litterbox.
Bob: And can that be helped?
Council: Yes, with the extra attention you give this cat.
Janet: I feel soul-connected to this cat as well. How are we soul-connected?
Council: You are soul-connected. We see that the soul of this little cat has chosen you, and you chose it to work through this issue of his not using his litterbox sometimes. Also for you to get more of an understanding of what happens with age, not only in humans, but also in animals. And for the soul of this cat to still have the love it wants, as if it was a kitten. And so you are connected where you’ve chosen each other to experience this.
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What Can I Do About My Temper Towards My Child?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who’s having difficulty with her temper towards one of her children.
Anon: I’ve been loosing my temper terribly lately with one of my children and it’s stressful for the whole family. Many of their behaviors trigger me and I can’t seem to regain my composure once I’ve lost it. I’m generally not a volatile person, just with this child.
Council: In one life we see this child was your father and he was very strict with you growing up. And so it was an intention of both of you to switch roles this time, but instead of you being the strict parent, you would be the understanding parent. You would be the parent who watches the child , sees what it does, and then teaches it along the way.
In another life you were living in an orphanage and there was no way for you to do anything you wanted to do. You were living the Cinderella story, the part where she works and works, and is always told what to do.
So things that go on in your life now when people don’t behave the way you want, or people do things that upset you, it will trigger these memories. And so now is the time to realize these feelings are brought forth from another life and they wish to be healed.
When your children get on your nerves, think of how you would have been in an orphanage, constantly working, being told what to do, no freedom, and no understanding. Imagine what it would be like to have a father that’s so strict and allows you to do nothing.
And so you, with these other souls, have come together to have a better life, to face some of the similar lessons, but to turn this situation around.
Anon: What can I do and where does this come from?
Council: You can ask before you go to bed at night to have memories of these lives, or to have dreams, or just imagine. Use your imagination. What would that have been like? And as you do this you’ll get more understanding.
Anon: Things feel busy right now and I’m stretched thin. I’m often parenting alone. There are activities, school, work, visitors, and neighborhood dramas, but it feels like an excuse to link my behavior to any of that.
Council: But can you imagine when you’re an older child in this orphanage having to take care of many of the little ones that were there? It’s the same scenario.
Anon: I guess I’m wondering how to be more resilient, more present, and less triggered. I’m very interested in The Council’s thoughts.
Council: It’s so important for you to try and tune into these other lives, as we say with a meditation, or asking for dreams, or even just using your imagination.
When your children annoy you, or something happens and you’re stressed, and you’re tired, and there’s so much to do, if you can stop at that point and remember: I can handle this now. It’s not the same scenario. It’s not as bad as it was in this other life.
And as you realize that, you will become calmer, you’ll find a better way to handle each situation instead of going into those feelings that are brought forth from these other lifetimes. Just remember, this is information to guide you. And with this information you can change how you feel, and that’s what’s important.
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Do We Have To Unite With Our Twin Flame To Spiritually Ascend, Or With Our Multidimensional Self?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Bluestar Child.
Bluestar Child: In general, is it necessary to unite with your twin flame to spiritually ascend from the third dimension here on Earth, or is it an attachment of the ego that we need to let go of and actually have to unite with our own multi-dimensional selves?
Council: Exactly, let go of the ego. You don’t need anything or anyone else to move up the ladder and go from one dimension to another, which you’ve already done.
And so it’s the beliefs that you must have a twin soul, you have to have a soulmate. No. You need to create what you want with your thoughts. You need, in your prayers, in your meditations, to always want to connect with that higher part of you that knows what it wants to do, that knows what you wanted to experience in this lifetime. That’s all that’s needed. No one else is needed.
BS: Is there a true twin flame?
Council: When you create a twin flame, you take a part of your spirit and send it out there and create the kind of person you want this twin flame to be in your life. So it’s you (as a spirit) taking on the persona of another person: a man, a woman, an animal, whatever it is. But it is you, and you can create this as many times as you want and in as many realities as you want. The twin flame is you.
It’s like you looking in a mirror and saying, “Let me put on this Halloween costume and let me see what I find with this person that I’m creating. What is it about me that I want to learn? Why do I want to create this twin flame so I can feel comfortable? Why do I want to create this twin flame so that I can have a lot in common, so that I can grow at a pace that feels comfortable, that I’m supported by someone (and that someone is you) to go through this reality and [go through] what I want to experience.”
Bob: Do you differentiate between the terms twin flame and soulmate?
Council: The soulmate is someone that you create because you think this soulmate will be the great love of your life. And it’s another spirit that’s agreed to come into your life and play that part.
But when you create this twin flame, it’s the mirror of you. And so there’s not another spirit that’s involved in that.
Bob: So on the subject of twin flames, if it’s another person, how is there not another spirit involved in that?
Council: A twin flame is you. It’s a part of you that you’ve sent out to come in the form of a person, or an animal, or whatever it is that you need.
A soulmate is another soul that perhaps you’ve been in other lifetimes with, or it can be someone new, but it’s a different soul, a different spirit that said, “Yes, I will come in and be whatever we decide we need to be in this lifetime.”
The twin flame is you creating with you.
Bob: I think I understand. It sounds like you’re saying that in spirit you send a part of yourself and create another person, but it’s your actual spirit in the form of another person.
Council: Exactly.
Bob: And you’re calling them a twin flame.
Council: Yes.
Bob: It doesn’t involve the spirit or soul of another.
Council: Excellent, Bob. Yes, you’ve got it.
Bob: But the soulmate…
Council: …is another spirit.
Bob: Thank you very much for that clarification. I appreciate that.
Council: Good question.
Bob: Now we have a point of clarification that we’d like to ask about in our post where we answered Bluestar Child’s first four out of five questions. It was a post entitled, Do I Have A Twin Flame, Not A Soulmate?
Early in that post Bluestar Child said, “I would like to ask The Council if I have a twin flame, and I don’t mean a soulmate.” And you said, You’re going to try to answer them. This can be difficult to understand.” And we appreciate that you just provided some of that clarification.
Council: Yes, we’ve just given you the simplest explanation.
Bob: Now in that previous post, just after that statement, you said, “We were all created at the same time. There are no new souls.” And then you said, “There are souls that are new by creating your current reality.” And we’d like some clarification on those three statements.
Council: There are no new souls, but we’ll say there are millions, or a nice word that Cynthia likes, cazillions of souls everywhere, in every reality, in every dimension. And so there’s not a new soul being born. What happens is, in your reality when you bring a person in, it’s someone that’s agreeing to be here. It’s not a brand new soul. When you give birth, it’s not a brand new soul. The soul could be thousands of years old. We are all here. We are all doing many, many, many things.
So there’s no need to create a new soul. When you feel you want to create something, there’s nothing brand new. You’ll send out a part of yourself for whatever reason so that to your human mind it seems like a new soul, but it isn’t. There’s no need for anything new. We’re all here forever.
Bob: That’s interesting. So it sounds like you’re saying that on a spiritual level, all souls were created at the same time.
Council: Always was, always will be. And there are no words in your language to explain this. It’s just that we’re vibration and we are energy that goes on forever. There is a change in form perhaps, but we are always there.
Bob: And the change in form doesn’t involve any new souls?
Council: Exactly. And believe this or not, we all know each other, all cazillion trillion millions. We’re all connected. How wonderful is that? That will blow your mind.
Bob: So when you say there are souls that are new by creating your current reality, you’re saying that an old soul can seem new by bringing them into our current reality and experiencing them for the first time.
Council: Exactly. It could be a soul that you’ve never been with before so they would feel new.
Bob: But this soul and all souls were originally created all at the same time.
Council: Exactly.
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Is The Man I Met My Romantic Soulmate?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Adrian.
Adrian: I’ve met a man and there are all these signs he may be someone very special to me. During our first kiss, two dragonflies flew into his house.
Council: Isn’t that magical and lovely?
Adrian: I’ve known him about a week and hate to prematurely jump in before really knowing him, but there are all these strange signs and they are almost bizarre in nature.
Council: And we do want to say here, you do realize you are creating these signs. You’re creating them to give you comfort, to show you what direction to go in, and to make you feel that you have support from another reality. You have the idea that this is the person, but you’ll create the relationship you want whether you had these signs or not. It’s wonderful and very playful and very creative the way you’re bringing this relationship in. Isn’t it fun?
Adrian: For example, I programmed his name into my phone. At first I only had his first name, Bobby. Then once I put in his last name, the phone decided to call him, The Abraham Group all on its own. And my phone also decided to program his email address as your email address for this blog. We had a good laugh about that.
Council: Do you see how wonderful and creative you are to bring joy in such a funny way, and of bringing closeness to the two of you at this stage of the relationship?
Adrian: Today I got curious and looked up your email address on the internet, found your website, and I couldn’t believe you talk about Abraham and Esther Hicks, whose work I’m familiar with, and that your site is connected to a galactic council.
Council: This is another connection that you’ve created.
Adrian: I’m dumbfounded and awestruck all at the same time.
Council: Pat yourself on the back for this.
Adrian: Is this man as special to me as I think he may be based on all these signs?
Council: Well we’d certainly think that you have gone through all this creativity to give you the signs that, yes, you can have a wonderful relationship. It’s still always up to you.
Adrian: Can I really trust this?
Council: Ahh, can you really trust yourself? Can you trust what you focus on and remove the doubts? Then you’ll see what you can create.
Adrian: What does all of this mean?
Council: It means you’re having a wonderful time, that you’re so connected to your higher self, that you’re enjoying this relationship, and that it’s something you wanted to do, and you’ve done it. Look at the immense things that you’ve had happen within that short period of time. That should take away all of your doubt.
And so we say keep creating. Have fun with this relationship. And you’ll both feel closer to your higher self. You’ll both be able to stay in that vibration of joy. And when you’re in that vibration of joy, put on your seatbelts. There’s nothing you can’t create. And we say again, nothing. So have fun.
Adrian: I’m getting divorced and I’ve asked for my romantic soulmate to come in at the right time. I only recently decided to date, thinking that while I’m not really ready (my divorce is still in its early stages), it felt like time to meet someone nice for this moment. But I honestly didn’t expect to meet my soulmate now. Is this man my romantic soulmate that I’ve been calling in?
Council: Well it looks that way to us. We see this beautiful future that you have in mind that you would like with this person, but we can’t make that happen. You have to decide if this person is for you. No one can tell you if this is your soulmate because there are many souls that are around saying, “Well we’ll jump in if you don’t want this one or that one.”
So you decide. Do you want this person? Do you want this relationship? Do you want to go forward with this? And you will create it. Look at the power of what you’ve created already.
So there’s nothing, as we say, written in stone. If this is what you want, and if you stay in the vibration of joy and you create it in your mind, you will have it.
Adrian: Can I trust this?
Council: Can you trust yourself? There’s no one else that’s going to make it happen. There’s no magic from somewhere else that you need to tap into. You are the magic. You are the focus. You are the creator. And when you doubt, just look at what you’ve told us you’ve created already.
Adrian: I will say, after three great dates now, that I feel really good around him. He feels really familiar and comfortable to me – like home. Any guidance would be so greatly appreciated. I guess I’m having a hard time believing the unbelievable at the moment.
Council: And that is where the problem is, having a hard time believing.
So you’ll work on this. You’ll focus on visualizing exactly what you want. And if it doesn’t go in the direction you want, ask yourself, what have I been thinking? What have I been feeling? Because your thoughts will create what you feel. How you feel goes out and creates what you want. So if you start having anxiety that maybe this isn’t the person, that anxiety will go out there and interfere.
So we suggest you go into the thoughts of: This is wonderful. Yes, this is what I want. I feel great. That feeling great will help you create what you desire.
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Why Did I Choose This Life And My Husband?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Elizabeth.
Elizabeth: I have severe childhood trauma. I’ve never felt so lost in life. I’m 37 years old. Growing up I had a very turbulent environment with no therapy. I’m not sure if I can trust my thoughts. I feel crazy and lonely. When I was 26, my son was diagnosed with cancer. When I was 32 I lost my sister to heroin. My parents are still drunks and I feel like I’m their parent.
What’s worse, I’m not sure if I’ve settled in my marriage. I’m unfulfilled internally and I’m not sure what I should do. Fear is definitely there. Can you tell me why I chose this life, and why I chose my husband?
Council: You chose this life with all these experiences you mention to find yourself and to learn about yourself. How do you handle deaths in your family? How do you handle being in a relationship that you think you’ve settled for? How have you gotten through and handled your childhood traumas? It’s all about looking at yourself.
And so here, until now, you’ve had a difficult reality. So we say, Where’s your hope? Where’s your focus now?
You can feel lonely. And of course if you meditate you’ll eventually learn that you’re not alone. There are guides, there are angels, and there are ancestors that are around you to help you. But you need to sit down in quiet time and ask for this help. Go through every issue one at a time. Tell yourself: I need to understand this. How do I change my feelings about this? And know, absolutely without any doubt, that you will get the answers to your questions. You are not alone.
It’s the reality you created to go through these experiences, feel the loneliness, and then say, I must change this. I feel horrible. I don’t understand this. And you know what? I don’t want to go through this anymore. So let’s see what I can do.
And so you find joy. If you have to watch a movie, if you need to read a book, if you need to put on music, or do anything that will immediately uplift you. And when you’re in this beautiful, uplifting vibration, start thinking about what you want. What is something new you can bring in? And then follow that desire. Follow that idea in your head. Don’t give up on it.
Your purpose for coming into this life was to experience things from past lifetimes that you needed to repeat here – the losses and the sadness – but this time around you wanted to not just experience it, but to change it.
Bob: Can you give Elizabeth any clues about why she chose her husband?
Council: Because she’s been with this person in other lifetimes – and we see here there were a few good relationships – when this other soul was planning this path they agreed to come again and be supportive, or not be supportive and make things more difficult so that she’d learn on her own that she could change it. And so it was from being in spirit and deciding to come in and be whatever was needed for you to realize you can change things.
So you haven’t settled. You have agreed in spirit to this marriage. This person is here. Do you wish for your marriage to work out? Then you focus on that. Do you wish to move on and create something else? Then you focus on that. But you’re not settling. You’re going through all the things you wanted to go through to learn that you are the creator.
And many, many people at this time are going through their lives and realizing, I’m in charge here. My God, I can make this happier. What have I been doing being miserable? I can really change this job, this relationship, this sickness, this loneliness, this sadness. I can change all of it.
And so there’s a great shift taking place in your reality at this time. Everyone is heading toward feeling better about themselves and they are starting to create exactly what it is that they want.
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What’s Blocking My Having A Long-Term Relationship?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who’s looking for a long-term relationship.
Anon: I asked you about a long-term relationship in my future a while back and recently, after not focusing on relationships for a while, I tried to date again and met someone I thought had some potential. However, it’s been a very brief and confusing experience and they’ve decided to see someone else.
Council: So what have you found in this relationship that would bring you joy? What have you found that you can move on and find in another relationship? It’s always good to look for the experience and you’ll find in it things you want and things you don’t want.
And so we always say, before you look again, what have you learned? And what is the desire you want that you can create with the next person you bring into your reality?
Anon: I feel I understand the part I may have played in sabotaging things a bit, but I can also see that this person has baggage that makes us incompatible, at least for now.
Council: It’s good that you acknowledge this, but this baggage that you mention, it’s just experiences. It’s just beliefs the other person has, wanting to change or bring into their reality.
As a spirit you can notice, and you’ll only notice where you are, you can notice the differences or the baggage as something you’d like to go through with this person and also learn from. Or just help. Or you can be in another place where this is too much for me. I don’t want to be involved. There’s no right. There is no wrong. It’s just choices.
Anon: Is this just another short learning experience, or is there any further potential in this relationship?
Council: There is always potential. But what we like to put out there to everyone over and over again, you are the creator. If there’s potential and you want to stay in this relationship and see how you create it the way you want it to go, it’s because that is your focus and your heart’s desire. Your wanting will make it the way it will appear in your reality.
So yes, of course there’s the possibility of a relationship with this person. And there’s also the letting go if that’s what you wanted. Always know that you are the creator. What will you learn in the relationship? How will you bring love into this relationship?
Everyone has your so-called baggage. You have baggage. Where is it?
Always remember it’s your choice on the path you take. It’s not written in stone anywhere that you must do this because there’s this contract. There is no contract. There’s just spirits coming to help and say, “I’ll be there for you. I’ll go through this with you. Or I’ll pop in for a little while.”
The #1 example we’d give you is to look at this relationship. Is there enough for you to want to work through the baggage? Or is it too difficult for you? Make that decision and then go from there.
“Well it’s difficult, but I’d like to create it a little differently.”
“Well it’s too difficult. I need to get out of this situation and find somebody else where it’s easier.”
Well you can do this also.
“Oh, I’d like to have two or three partners at one time and just have fun.”
You can create that too. You are the creator.
Anon: At the least I do feel like this person could become a friend in my life and I’d like to help them on their journey, but I’m not completely sure.
Council: Well, you can jump in there for a little while. Show kindness. Be supportive. Show love. See what you receive back. And is this making you feel you’re closer to the true you? Are you closer to spirit?
Whatever decision you make, whatever direction you decide to go in, if you don’t like it, well the answer is simple. You change your mind and you start creating in another direction. It’s as simple as that.
Anon: What would be the most loving way for me to approach this connection?
Council: Be genuine. Love yourself. And in every situation try to remember this person is also a spirit that has agreed to be in your life, and wants you in their life for whatever reasons. Isn’t that wonderful? What a wonderful friendship. So take this relationship where you want.
Anon: Is there someone else coming into my life with whom I’d be able to build or co-create a long-term romantic relationship?
Council: It’s entirely up to you.
Anon: What’s blocking a long-term relationship from coming in?
Council: Just your focus. Find your desire. Focus on it and it will happen.
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Do I Have A Twin Flame, Not A Soulmate?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Bluestar Child.
BSC: I would like to ask The Council if I have a twin flame, and I don’t mean a soulmate?
Council: Ahh, here we go again. In your reality so many have decided to bring in this twin flame or this soulmate. This can be difficult for you to understand, but we’ll put it out there in as gentle and simple a way as we can.
We were all created at the same time. There are no new souls. There are souls that are new by creating your current reality*. And so this twin soul that you’re looking for…
Bob: Twin flame?
Council: The twin flame that you’re looking for is you. You are the twin flame, the twin soul. When you meet this person you say, “Is this my twin flame because I look at this person and I feel so connected? We like so many of the same things. We say the same words. We understand the same things.”
It’s because this person is you in another form. This person is a mirror that’s reflecting part of yourself back to you. Isn’t that interesting?
BSC: What spiritual contract did I have with George, a boy I studied with at university? Was he my twin flame, or was he just another soulmate in my life?
Council: He was just another soulmate. You had a connection way back in Lemuria where you worked together, working with energy, working with crystals, working with the environment, and working with plants. And we see here in that particular life there was a great friendship between the two of you. And so you’ve come back together in your current life to meet, to recognize each other on a higher level, and to have a greater understanding of some particular things in this reality. And so there should be comfort in that relationship, but it’s another soul.
BSC: If I have a twin flame, but it’s not this boy, George, is my twin flame incarnated on another planet (for example, in the Plieades, where I come from, or another dimension), or is he in my current incarnation?
Council: This twin flame, as we’ve said, is you. And so when you meet someone, and you can meet many people in this reality and think, this is my twin flame, because each part of you will be reflected back to you in different ways, but you’ll feel the connection. You are connecting to another part of you that wishes to give you comfort and show you another way to handle things. It’s you teaching you how to be. And it’s wonderful because you’re just relying on you.
BSC: If he is incarnated now, have I met him? Or do I have to meet him in this life?
Council: There will be a meeting. What we see, what is planned, quite soon you’ll meet this part of you.
Bob: So Bluestar Child will meet a man who she’ll consider a twin flame?
Council: In her current reality there’s a spirit that will appear in her current life that will be considered, because of the connection which will be felt, would be considered a twin flame. It hasn’t happened yet.
*Note: It’s not clear to Cynthia and me what The Council means when they say, “We’re all created at the same time. There are no new souls. There are souls that are new by creating your current reality.” We intend to ask The Council for clarification on these points and either publish them soon in a new post, or we’ll update the current post to make their ideas more clear. Thanks for your patience.
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What Can I Do About My Unhappy Marriage?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Maria.
Maria: I’m currently stuck in an unhappy marriage and I’m trying to keep the peace for the sake of my family. We have a young adult son still living with us. My husband and I have been talking about divorce for years now, but we’re still together.
Council: Is divorce what you truly want? Is it a different kind of attention you need in your marriage? We feel there’s a big part of you that doesn’t want to move forward with this divorce. What would you need to feel good in this marriage? What is it you think you can contribute to make this work?
Remember small things about how you met and how you were attracted to your husband. Go back to the good memories and focus on that. You’ll feel a stirring inside as the memories come back. Again, is this what you want? Look for it. Concentrate on this.
If you say you’ve been talking about a divorce for years, then ask yourself why it’s been years? Is it just to keep the family together? Truthfully ask yourself that question. Is it an excuse not to move forward unless you have another partner in the wings? Something you can be sure of if you leave this marriage? That you’ll have a wonderful new relationship? There are no guarantees, but you are the creator. So what is it you wish to create?
Maria: I do love my husband and care for him, but I’ve been very sad because we argue every day and we’re more like roommates that don’t get along.
Council: So what are you arguing about? Is it that important? Is it that you’re so aware of the lack of understanding and the lack of communication that was once there? It’s always possible to bring this back.
And so again we ask you to look at what you had. Do you still want it? Do you want to bring the magic back?
Maria: My husband has some addictions, but I know he’s trying to fight them. I know he loves me in his way also.
Council: Everyone has come into their lives with the thought of having a wonderful time. No one comes here to suffer. But as life goes along, you create different things from your experiences, and different things you want to work out that you’d like to understand and then change.
Remember your husband is also a spirit in a physical body. You are a spirit in a physical body. You both are trying to learn and work things out. The way that happens is you must come from a place of love. Look at yourself and feel love for yourself. It’s in there, even though sometimes it’s hard to find. Look at your husband. Look at him knowing he’s a spirit here with his issues and his work that he wants done.
And perhaps you’ll get to understand that you can help each other learn. You can help each other through this. And that’s how you turn around the issues that you’re looking at.
Maria: I didn’t expect to meet someone very special a few years ago that I felt I knew from other lives.
Council: And so realize that you brought this person in.
Maria: We couldn’t help but fall in love with each other. Nothing happened other than some kissing and communication of love. This person died in terrible circumstances and I almost died too as a result.
Through several mediums I’ve learned we’ve met at each and every incarnation since the time of Atlantis, as we promised each other we’d do that.
Council: We don’t say that every incarnation you have been together, but if believing that helps you face whatever it is that you need in your current lifetime, then you’ll create the mediums that tell you that. And so there are many, many, many lifetimes and you aren’t always together. That doesn’t make your relationship any less.
You came to each other again in your current lifetime for whatever amount of time you’ve created where you’d be together to enjoy each other and to make each other feel good, and that is what it sounds like you did for each other. And that’s a wonderful thing.
Maria: And we’ll meet again. I know that.
Council: If that’s what you want and this other soul wants, yes, you’ll create another lifetime where you’re together. How exciting is that?
Maria: I’d love to know more about my relationship with this man. I’ve received lots of communication from him and I now know he’s one of my guides and he’s helping me and protecting me.
Council: And so how does that make you feel? Is it wonderful to know that you have a connection with this person and that he’s still helping you in your current life? What is this person showing you? When the person has passed on, they’ll always help you move forward to create a new life for yourself. Are you hearing that information? Take a look. Pay attention.
Maria: I feel so privileged. Other mediums told me that he would help me find some other man if I move away from my husband.
Council: When you connect with a spirit who has crossed over, they will never tell you, “I’ll help you if you leave such and such a person.” They’d be there sending you love knowing, and having you know, that everything will be okay. But the choices are always yours. It’s not a spirit saying, “Well I’ll help you only if you do this.” So we’d ask you to question that information from these mediums.
Maria: I also had a dream or visitation from my Mom and she was trying to prepare me for a man that’s coming to me, but I woke up before she could tell me more.
Council: And so, are you creating another man? Is this what you want? Do you want to go back to the first relationship and make it work with your husband? Or are you ready to walk away and you’re creating another man? You are the creator.
Maria: As I’m trying to heal from the most difficult loss of my life – that man I fell in love with – and learn to live with my husband and all the health problems I have, I decided to try alternative medicine. Another big surprise from the universe, the person helping me with my health seems to be another soulmate, but this time he’s the one telling me we’ve been together in other lives, helping each other, and fighting on the same side of wars.
Council: So if you look at what you’re creating, you’re desperate to feel there’s a new man in your life. You’re desperate to feel loved. You want to hear those words from another man, and this is what you’re creating. That’s wonderful if that’s what you really want. And so question yourself. Think about it. This new man doesn’t come out of nowhere into your life. You invite this in.
And so from what we see the direction you’re going in, if something were to happen where this man would disappear, we’re sure the way you think, the way what you want is being dealt with, you’d create a third man, and then a fourth, and a fifth.
So we say ask yourself, “Why am I doing this? Maybe I should stop and feel good about myself. Maybe I should love myself for a while and then take a look at this marriage. What do I need to feel happy? Do I need to feel my own power? Do I need to understand more that I’m the creator, and everything that comes into my life, whether it’s good or bad, I am bringing it? So let me now question everything I’m creating.” And you’ll learn more about yourself and what it is that you want.
Maria: It was immediate recognition with this man who was helping me with my health issues. He used the word, “buddies,” but I don’t feel that type of connection, like fighting wars together. What I feel is a more loving, comfortable, and safe feeling. I feel like hugging him a lot, but just like I love to hug my son.
I also saw in my mind one of his spiritual guides. He said I described him perfectly. I think he’s holding back telling me more about those lives, and I’m doing something similar because I didn’t tell him what I think his guide was communicating to me. It was something like he was glad we finally met, and then he smiled a lot and had an expression like, “Pass the popcorn, this is going to be interesting.”
I’d like to know more about those past lives with this new man and what I can expect from him now.
Council: You can expect whatever it is that you create.
And so we’d say at this time, don’t live in the past. Don’t try to find out about past lives. You’re here to live your current life. In a past life he could have murdered you. You could have murdered him. Or you could have been great lovers, or brothers and sisters. That doesn’t matter. What matters is that you’ve brought this into your current life. What is it that you want and how will you go about creating it?
Be in the present. That’s a big lesson for you in this lifetime. So we’d say, question everything you do. Question what you think about everything. Question what you want, but stay in the present.
Maria: Is he a soulmate with whom I could share my life? Or just a very good friend, or perhaps a collaborator?
Council: Again, you wish us to be the fortune teller and that’s not our job. You will create your life the way you want it to be. There’s nothing you can’t create. And so, do you want him to be the person you spend the rest of your life with? Or do you just want him there for a while and then move on? And so stay with that thought. You are the creator. What is it that you want? It’s all up to you.
Maria: I’ve suffered so much with my previous loss that now I’m not even allowing myself to dream of falling in love again.
Council: We think you are allowing this dream.
Maria: I’m still debating divorcing my husband. How can I find a way to live independently from him?
Council: Think of how it truly would be. Can you support yourself? Can you pull away from him completely and move forward? We would say it’s very questionable because now at the end of your comment, the way you started it, you are ending it. By not knowing, you are still debating whether to leave this marriage or not. And so we say to you as a clue, look at this marriage again.
Maria: My health is limiting how much I can work. I’m very creative and I’ve been thinking about writing a book and also singing. No one ever shines a light on my singing.
Council: And so you shine the light on it. Sing by yourself. Sing in your house. Sing in front of friends. Show yourself that you appreciate your singing.
You want to write a book. Sit down and begin this book. And yet you say because of your health there are some things you can’t do. So once again, if you go through with this divorce, can you support yourself? Can you get around? Look at this. It is part of what you want to do in this lifetime to challenge yourself by how you think about yourself. And so start thinking the way you want to feel about yourself. Whether you’re there or not, imagine yourself being a great author. Imagine people asking you to sing, even if it’s only at parties.
See yourself where people around you are appreciating what you can do. But before you get there you must appreciate yourself for who you are, and appreciate your gifts. So do not look to others for attention and approval. Give yourself the attention you want. Approve of yourself first and your life will truly turn around.
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Please Tell Me About My Past Lives With My Middle Child
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Heather Rose.
Heather: I want to ask The Council about my connection with my middle child, Mira. We both feel like we’ve made many contracts with each other before. She’s only 11, but she’s been saying this since she was little.
Council: It’s wise for you to ask what Mira remembers. What does she think she did with you before? This will get her in touch with past lives and then you would share what you think maybe you both did together.
We see here many, many lifetimes you’ve been together. You’ve been in the Pleiades, you’ve been in Sirius, and you’ve created many lives in different time periods. In your current lifetime you wish to be together and to explore that. And as we see, it was set up that you both thought, wouldn’t it be fun to come together and remember what else we did, and see how much we could remember, and how it would make us feel? That’s why the two of you are together again.
Heather: I know Mira’s right about our many past lives, but let’s face it, human beings love validation and verification. Thank you for all the endless love and light, Heather.
Council: That’s wonderful. Try meditating with Mira once or twice a week. The two of you are going to sit for ten minutes and just hold hands. Be quiet and see what comes into your minds. And then for fun sit another five minutes across from each other, hold hands, and just look into each other’s eyes. This is a wonderful exercise for anyone. You’ll see the other person’s face change. You’ll sometimes get memories when you do this. Because you have such a wonderful connection with Mira, we think you’ll have fun doing that and asking each other, “What did I look like? What did you see?”
Bob: Would The Council like to share any of the details of the lives that Heather Rose and her daughter, Mira, have shared?
Council: There were many different ones, but they also were very good at just hovering over people who were in a physical reality while they were still in spirit, guiding these people, helping them, and giving them information. They did a lot of that many, many times. They helped people in their dreams, and they always had fun doing this.
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Do I Pursue My Ex-Partner Or Try To Move On?
This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named, Lee. We previously published the post, Should I Continue My Relationship With My Current Partner? in response to Lee’s original questions.
Lee: Following up on the answers to my questions in the post above, I unexpectedly and completely fell in love with this man. He makes me feel loved and safe, and I would spend the rest of my life with him if he asked.
Council: He’s here to show you what you can experience, but not with him.
Lee: But he told me he doesn’t want a relationship anymore.
Council: And this is true.
Lee: We live in different states and he was supposed to move to be with me, but now he’s changed his mind and doesn’t even want to carry on the relationship long distance. I’m confused and heartbroken, of course. He seemed so cold and defensive toward me. I’m trying my best to stay away and not contact him, but my heart hurts. It’s so hard, and it brings back the pain of losing my husband and I don’t want to feel like that again.
Council: Losing your husband and finding this person, it would be normal to think that this relationship would be forever because it feels so good again. But it was a transitional stage to make you feel happiness again, to give you some joy, and to point out all the things you like in a relationship, and then move forward and create that in someone new.
Lee: I guess I’m just looking for why he feels he doesn’t want me anymore.
Council: At this time he doesn’t feel that he’s ready to commit to anyone. These are the challenges that he faces – wanting someone then not wanting someone and being afraid of permanency. At this point it’s very loving for you to just let him go and for you to let him deal with what’s on his plate, so to speak.
Lee: What do I do? Should I pursue him? Or should I try my best to forget him and move on, which I don’t really want to do? But if I’m forced, I have no choice.
Council: We advise you not to forget this man, but don’t pursue him either. When someone doesn’t want a relationship, and someone pursues them and pursues them, it only pushes them further away because they feel that what they want isn’t being heard or isn’t being honored. We say do not pursue, but also don’t forget.
Find all the things you loved in that relationship and start focusing on those things, and how you’d like them in a partner that’s looking for a commitment and looking to be with someone permanently. You will create that.
We do see there’s someone for you if you do the work and you focus more on the positive. You’ll bring this in.
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What Was My Past Life In Lemuria Like?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, A Lemurian.
Lemurian: I was told in a past life reading that I was a healer from Lemuria, and I’m a Pleiadian. I was also told I had a twin flame relationship with someone in the Pleiades who lives on Alcyone (a star in the Pleiades). I’d like to find out more about this and what my life was like in Lemuria.
Council: In Lemuria the teachings were about healing, oneness, honoring each other, and meditation. You learned how to use your mind to exist and to create what you needed. There was a peaceful atmosphere and there were always positive thoughts. There were times when you’d get together in groups and meditate in temples. And you taught little children about energy and thoughts.
The healing you performed wasn’t so much physical, but with your mind. When you experienced things that were upsetting or things that caused you to be anxious, you knew in that life how to change this, what to meditate on, and what part of the body to focus on. That’s the healing you did in Lemuria.
Lemurian: What was my family like in Lemuria?
Council: Everyone was family in Lemuria. That’s how they existed. Everyone worked together. Everyone learned from each other and cared for each other. There was the experience of unity and oneness. Have you created that here with your family? With your friends? In Lemuria that brought you great joy.
Coming in at this time in your current lifetime, because of what’s going on, in spirit you chose to come here now and to learn again how to focus, how to be positive, and how to be one with your family and friends.
We suggest that in your meditations or quiet time, you go with the elements of nature. That would feel familiar to you. Go within your heart and find that peaceful feeling that you had in Lemuria. It’s there. When you find it and you experience that oneness, that feeling of love for everyone that you’ve created in your life, you wanted to share that feeling and show it, not so much in what you say, but in how you treat yourself and others.
Lemurian: Can I meet my twin flame in my next lifetime, and what was he like?
Council: Your twin flame can be met in your next lifetime if that’s what you want. And because you’re in the midst of creating it, you’ll pick the way you meet, how important that person is in your life, if that person stays with you, or if that person comes into your life only for a while. Will this person turn out to be a parent or a teacher, or a friend? You’ll create that.
You can begin now by thinking about how you’ll want the relationship to be. With your thoughts, see how your meeting will be and live it now. Go into those thoughts and experience them and feel them as if you’re living them now, and you’ll draw them to you.
But wanting to meet this twin soul will come about if, when you create that life, you want that to be. You may want that now instead of in the next life. It’s all up to you.
Lemurian: Can The Council give me any information regarding this twin flame?
Council: Take that feeling of being positive, and no matter what you face and what you experience, when you focus on these feelings, you’ll bring them to you now and your life will improve. The feelings within you will exist with more happiness with what you create. Take all of that and use it in this lifetime. And when others see your attitude becoming gentle and having an acceptance of everything that happens, that’s how you’ll teach others in your current lifetime.
We send you all blessings, and all the wonderful thoughts that would help you, and the positive thoughts and the feelings that come with them. We send you the love that’s within you that you can experience at any time when you focus on your heart and ask for signs of who you really are. And when you do this, you’ll experience more joy and more love in your life.
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How Can I Divorce My Abusive Husband?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, LovePeace.
LovePeace: I’ve been wanting a divorce from my abusive husband, but he’s reluctant to give it. He’s doing this on the premise of our son because he doesn’t want me to get married again. Can The Council please guide me how I can come out of this situation? Any suggestions will be welcome and appreciated.
Council: You can’t change the way your husband thinks or control the way he acts. The only thing that can make this change is if you create a life where you don’t interact with your husband as much as you do now. Start living your life as if you are single and without your husband. The more you can focus, and pretend, and find experiences you can have as if you’re single, you’ll start bringing this to you.
It’s always good to wish your husband happiness so he can move on, whether he can see that he’s created a new love interest, or that you’re serious about not wanting to stay with him. It’s up to you in your daily living to have less and less connection with your husband.
This is difficult when you co-parent, but even the littlest improvement, the littlest moving away, and in your mind you constantly think you’re moving forward to your new life, to a new partner if that’s what you want, to a new job, or to a new place to live. Go in that direction.
When you keep connecting, and thinking, and getting annoyed with what you don’t want, your attention to it will create this and give it more power. Take your thoughts and your imagination away from your husband and put it on you and the happiness you can imagine you create moving forward. Everything that’s created must be created in thought first.
LovePeace: I’d like to co-parent with my husband, but I don’t want him to be my husband because for almost 10 years our relationship has never been successful, and I don’t wish to continue living a lie anymore.
I also have a question about a suggestion The Council made for me in a past session. After moving to a different state I met a person during our company gathering. We haven’t talked a whole lot, but it seems there’s a connection between us. I’d like to ask The Council if my next partner will be from my current workplace, or will he manifest later at my potential next workplace?
Council: Enjoy this connection with this new person. Focus more and more on it. Create thoughts in your mind that you talk with this person more and more, that there’s a joy you experience with this person. That happiness and that feeling of pleasure will bring more of this to you. When you can get to a place of happiness, of excitement how your life is changing, and how you’re available to meet someone else, you’ll bring that in, whether you bring it in where you work now or if you change where you work.
If you love where you work and are happy about going there, it’s easier to create a partner that will fulfill what you want. It’s harder to create a partner that will come along in an environment where you don’t want to be there. If you’re not happy where you work, the first thing would be to create a new job in the environment that you like. Because of that environment, and it’s pleasing, and it makes you feel good, you’ll be able to create a partner that you wish to be with.
We send you all blessings, and all the wonderful thoughts that would help you, the positive thoughts and the feelings that come with them, and the love that’s within you that you can experience at any time when you focus on your heart and ask for signs of who you really are. And when you do this, you’ll experience more joy and more love in your life.
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Help Me With My 3-Year Relationship With A Lying Drug Addict
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Carovana.
Carovana: I’m in a 3-year relationship with a drug addict, but the real problem is that he constantly lies.
Council: What have you learned about this drug addict and his lying? How do you handle this? Are you trying to change this person? You can’t do that. Can you be more understanding? Yes, you can understand, but there’s a time when you need to just watch this person and let them be who they are and then decide what you’ll do with this knowledge.
Carovana: He wants to appear different from what he really is, what he really does, and what he thinks. He twists facts and reality for his own benefit, and no matter how smart I am, he continues to try and deceive me.
Council: Are you tiring yourself out by trying to show this person you’re really smart and you know what he’s doing? We’d suggest you just let this person be, and then decide if you want to be around him. That’s all. You won’t change this person.
Carovana: I developed panic attacks due to the frequent state of restlessness and anxiety in which I’m thrown by his behavior, and we constantly fight. He doesn’t act this way solely to cover his drug abuse. His game spreads much wider and deeper. He’s also obscenely incoherent. His words go South and his actions go North.
Council: You can stay with this man if you can understand how he is and not believe what he says. Offer love and understanding. But to be in the relationship and saying to yourself, “I must show him that I know what’s going on, I must show him that I’m smart,” that’s not the purpose of this relationship.
The purpose of this relationship is to allow someone to be. It’s for you to allow others, and not just this person, but look at the years when you were growing up with your friends and family. Did you allow them just to be and then learn from it? And did this allow you to be just as you want to be, being in a place of love and peacefulness? Can you do that for yourself?
This was your mission, so to speak, in your current lifetime. Just to accept everyone and what they’re doing, and sending love and light to them to help them grow. But not to forcefully try to show them, “I know what you’re doing. You can’t fool me,” and tire yourself out. It’s just the purpose of being there, and most of all, just being yourself. That’s what this relationship is supposed to teach you.
When you see that someone is really one way and pretending to be another, do you do that? Do you do that to please people and to have them think of you differently? It’s a mirror effect. And so we say, just allow.
Carovana: The reason I stayed in this relationship so long is that another side of him, very prominent, is that he’s incredibly loving and sweet. He chose me as the woman of his life, tells me I’m the woman of his dreams, and is extremely attached and devoted to me. It’s almost morbid. This makes it really difficult to break up with him and in fact, all my attempts have failed. I’m also in a very lonely phase of my life so I lack the social support and the favorable environment that would make it easier to move on.
I can’t explain or comprehend this duality in him. He lost his mother when he was nine years old, but it’s not a good excuse to act this way now that he’s 36 years old. I hope The Council can shed some light on him, on us, and on me. I’d be very thankful.
Council: There are lessons for this man to learn, starting with his childhood and moving into adulthood. Not feeling safe enough for him to be who he really wants to be, he doesn’t know how, the role model wasn’t there, and the understanding of just being wasn’t there. Instead he chose to pretend because there’s no acceptance of himself.
With you there, if you can accept this man the way he is, you are the role model. You’re the role model by setting your boundaries, by not believing everything that’s said, but by understanding that everything that’s said is out of fear and nonacceptance of yourself. Once you can do that and not knock yourself out to understand it or change this person, it will change, because now you’re looking at it differently. And when you look at something differently, it will change.
See the relationship the way you want it to be. First concentrate on yourself. Accept yourself, and then look around you, and not at just this person, but others that come in and out of your life. And when you learn you have choices, you have the ability to bring into your life what you want. When you focus on that, it must happen.
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What Can I Do To Find A Partner To Love and Who Loves Me?
This post answers a question for The Council from a reader named, ACuriousSpirit, who asks: What can I do to find a partner to love, who loves me, and to have a happy and long-lasting relationship?
Council: Become like a child and pretend. The more pretending you can do, the better it is to create what you want.
Be specific in your thoughts. What kind of person would you like in your life? Think of this often. Do you need someone handsome? Do you need someone with a lot of money? Do you need someone that’s beautiful and caring? Do you want a tall person? A short person? Do you want someone with a good sense of humor?
When you do this, the mistake most people make is thinking of all this, but thinking of it from a place of frustration that this is what they want, but they don’t have it. The minute you go into, “I don’t have it yet, but this is what I want,” that but this is what I want and I don’t have it yet, slows down the process of what you’re trying to create.
We advise you to create from the beginning of your relationship. You meet this person. Can you imagine your phone is now ringing and you’re getting a call from this person? This person is asking you out. Are you laughing on the phone? What does your first date look like? What are you wearing? How does the relationship develop? Do you go on trips together? When you marry, how does that happen? Who asks who to get married?
Bring the relationship along in every detail you can imagine. Do you buy a house? What does that house look like? Go in every room and design it, feel it, and pretend like a little child that you have it. And in that pretending and make-believe you know you’re just starting to create what you desire.
The more you can get yourself happy, and laugh when you think: Let me go into this visualization, let me fix this, I saw this last time, but I’ll change it and make it better. And continuously do this and know what you desire is there for you. The more you do this, the quicker you’ll create it. But you have to do this from a place of happiness, and a place that it’s something that’s yours, that it’s available to you. Get away from the thought of, it’s taking too long, and will I ever be able to do this?
You must create what you desire out of faith, and know that you’re the creator. And along with that, you can create anything else you want. But you have to come from a place where you see what you desire, and you feel it. Feeling what you desire is the key. Visualizing what you desire sends those thoughts out into the universe. What brings it back to you and is the magnet is feeling what you desire.
Like a little child creates, they are a spaceman and they’ll see the whole thing in their head. And they’ll be excited because they’re going to the moon, or they’re going to Mars. You must feel the excitement that this is true. You’re in charge and you’re the creator. The more you can do this from a place of happiness and a place of belief, you will create what you desire. There’s nothing you cannot create. It’s all there for you.
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What Can You Tell Me About The Tension In My Husband’s And Son’s Relationship?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Kristi, after she read our post, Why Don’t I Have A Good Relationship With My Mother?
Kristi: Great post on family dynamics. This raises a couple questions of my own that I’d like to ask The Council.
My husband and I have a great relationship and we’ve been married 20 years this November. My husband treats me like any woman would ever want to be treated, and I have almost no complaints in this department. I’m so very thankful for him.
We have one child together, a son who’s 18 years old. My husband’s and my son’s relationship is a strained one, unfortunately. My husband sets extremely high standards for our son, which are often unattainable. And even if they were attainable, my husband wouldn’t be happy then either. I feel like my son could wrangle the moon and my husband wouldn’t care.
When standards aren’t met, a child often feels like they’re not good enough and I see this playing out before me. My son is a sweet guy, very smart, and stays out of trouble, but he has low self-esteem.
My husband makes no attempt to foster a close relationship with our son. We all live together in the same house, but my husband and son can go without talking to each other for weeks at a time. And when they do talk to each other, it’s usually my husband telling my son what he hasn’t done properly.
Council: This is so wonderful. We have such advice for you. We see it so clearly.
Your husband and son were husband and son in a previous lifetime. In that lifetime they were wonderful together. Whatever your son did, your husband praised him. Everything was okay and everything went along beautifully.
At the end of that life, your son said to his dying father, “I wish I could have done more. I wish you would have pushed me more so that I could have given you more, and so that I could have become more in this lifetime.”
And so, in the wonderful past life they experienced together, both wished they had done more. Your son wished he’d become more. Your husband wished he didn’t settle for what your son was in that past life, and he wished he did push your son more.
So going back into spirit they asked each other if they wanted to try this again, but this time the son wanted the father to push him. The son wanted to become so much more in the new life they create. Whatever way the father can find to push the son, to get him to do more, to not settle, the son wants the father to do that with him.
That will be our lesson, to become more as a father and be even more proud of his son than he was. And the son wants to be important. He wants to feel that. He doesn’t want to feel there’s so much more he could have done. He wants to know there’s a strong father behind him that won’t let him settle.
And so your husband creates a family where there weren’t good role models for him to follow. He becomes a stern father who, out of love, whether he can admit that or not, isn’t going to settle for what your son does, no matter how good it is. He’ll ignore your son and not give him any confidence or any hurrahs for what he does. And this is your husband’s way of pushing your son to want his father’s attention, and to want more, and more, and more.
The most wonderful little book for you to read is, The Littlest Soul and the Sun, by Neale Donald Walsch, about two angels. One angel asks the other angel to come back into a new life, and if the first angel does something mean to the second angel, can the second angel still remember the first angel is a soul and forgive him. We suggest you read that book. That’s exactly what’s going on with your husband and your son.
They’re being tough with each other, but underneath they want so much more for each other. Your husband wants to leave this life thinking he was a wonderful father, and he pushed his son so much that, look what his son accomplished. And your son wants to think at the end of this life, my father never complimented me enough, he pushed me and pushed me, but I see it now, it was out of love because look at what I’ve become.
Bob: Is it a good idea for the son or the father to read, The Littlest Soul and the Sun, as well?
Council: They may not be open to it, but I’d leave the book around and see who gets drawn to it first and who reads it. It’s perfect for what’s going on, and it’s the wife’s job not to judge or step in because she can’t fix this. This is between your husband and your son. They’ll find a way. Their lessons and challenges in this reality is to find a way to come back to love. That’s the reason we’re all here, to come back to the state of love.
Bob: Was the father in this life the father in the past life, and the son in this life the son in the past life?
Council: Yes. And so they brought that role into their current life to work it through.
Kristi: I try to step in and talk to my husband about how difficult he’s being, but he doesn’t seem to understand where I’m coming from.
Council: Yes, he doesn’t understand, not at this time.
Kristi: He’s not abusive at all, but he doesn’t offer the love and acceptance a parent should provide.
Council: You provide love and acceptance to your husband and your son for the way they are. Always send them light so they can find a way to work out this challenge they wanted to go through in this lifetime, and they’ll find the path that will bring them to the state of love.
Kristi: My husband’s father was absent most of my husband’s life, so my husband didn’t have the best role model for parenting. Whereas I had the best father in the world and I only want the same thing for my son. I’d love for them to have a better relationship, but I understand this isn’t my battle. I’d love more insight into their dynamic, whether or not this was planned in spirit before coming to this Earthly plane, and why?
Council: It was definitely planned. And their higher selves know why they created this situation, what they’re trying to do, and will take them along their path until they understand and find a way to bring more love into their lives.
Kristi: Do you see my husband’s and son’s relationship getting better with time?
Council: It can always get better, but they are the creators. The best thing you can do is to accept what they create. They can create a change in a year if they want, or it could take 20 years. You must let them go through whatever it is they need to see, understand, and feel, and they’ll find a way.
Kristi: What can I do to help this situation?
Council: Send love, and have fun watching your husband’s and your son’s journey.
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Do My Partner and I Share Any Past Lives Together?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Newlove, who says: I currently find myself in a relationship that happened a bit unexpectedly, but it is very welcome. My partner feels we may have shared past lives together and we’re merely continuing a previous life because we came together so easily. Have we had past lives together and can you tell me more about them?
Council: We see a past life in Athens, Greece where you were both born into slavery, you were cousins, and you were both household servants together who had a wonderful life. The family you were in service to treated both of you very well. You could work in the home, but you had time to go out on your own in the villages. Everything you did, you did with your cousin.
As cousins you worked in the home together, you went out and explored the towns together, and everything was so easy and so loving for both of you. You used to say to each other that all you need was to get married, but you couldn’t because you were cousins and you were both males.
You were so happy in that life that you wanted to come together again and have the joy you had before, with a little bit more independence, but to continue the happiness that you experienced in your past life. So the feeling of knowing each other and wanting to be together is coming from this lifetime in Athens.
Bob: Any other lifetimes that have a bearing on their current life?
Council: This Athens lifetime is the one that’s affecting their current life. So we ask Newlove, what do you want to do with this information? Are you comfortable with this? Do you feel there’s more that you want in your current relationship? When you think about it, does it make you feel good? Or is this something you maybe don’t wish to go into in your current life?
Look at where you are, what you’ve come through in your current life, and what you’ve learned from your past relationships. Does this person have the characteristics you want? You can’t base what you’re creating now on what you created in your lifetime in Athens. It’s different. You’re different people. There are different lessons you want to learn.
Look at this relationship as something brand new. And look at how this person is in this relationship. If it’s going too fast, you have the power to slow the relationship down.
Don’t go into this relationship thinking: this is wonderful, we had a wonderful life together, this is going to be great, and this is going to be easy. There are new lessons you want to learn in your current life, and you’ll know by watching your partner if he’ll be able to go along with what you want. And can you support what your partner wants in your current life, not in the past life?
You’ve come here to have fun, to find each other, to have a good relationship, but then to look around and ask yourself if this relationship meets your needs, and go in that direction.
Remember you are the creator. If you want a lasting relationship, of course you begin with visualizing how you want the relationship to be.
If there’s something you’re worried about that’s holding you back, it would be your higher self knowing what else you want to create in this lifetime, and you will create it. What you see in this other person, is that going to be good? There’s no reason to rush. You’ll get exactly where you’re supposed to be.
Newlove: He’s all in the relationship, but I may be a bit hesitant to go all in.
Council: So we ask you to ask yourself why you’re hesitant? What do you see in the relationship that’s going on? Why do you have that feeling? Search these thoughts and meditate on them. Remember your past life was a beautiful one, and somewhere in your subconscious you both know that, but what’s going on now? Your current life is a whole new life.
Newlove: Do I have cause to be hesitant and worried?
Council: This is what you need to figure out. And you’ll learn if you have cause to worry by watching the relationship, and just living your life day to day and seeing where it goes. It’s a learning process. There’s a lesson in this. Most important is to follow your feelings. If there’s a bit of hesitancy, follow that feeling. Keep your eyes open and just watch. There’s no rush. You are the creator.
Newlove: Or is this the relationship that will last and bring us the most happiness for the rest of this life together?
Council: It did this in your past life. Will your relationship bring you lasting happiness in your current life? If that’s what you want and you do the work to create it. If you can visualize it, and see it, and feel good about it, then you can create it. It’s all up to you.
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How Will My Marriage To My Husband End?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Starfish, about her marriage.
Starfish: I have a question about how my marriage to my husband might end. In a previous post The Council informed me (writing under the name, Starseed_Lightworker rather than Starfish) that after I’ve moved to the new state where my new job has led me, I’ll meet another person who’ll be perfect for me and my son.
Council: We see this, but what you think and what you’re going through has changed from when you asked your question before compared to where you are now. You create on a minute-to-minute basis. The direction the relationship is going now is for it to end. It will end the way you and your husband decide it will end, but with the thinking, feeling, and experiences we see, it’s going in the direction of ending.
Starfish: My husband recently moved with me and my son to our new state in the hope we can stay together, but we’re going through the exact same drama we’ve been living for the last ten years.
Council: It’s wonderful you see this.
Starfish: We’re just not perfect for each other. I’ve also been told I’ll stay friends with my husband, which I prefer considering the co-parenting I’d like to do for my son.
Council: This would be a wonderful thing if that’s the direction you wish to go in. See this, focus on it, and on being friends, and being able to co-parent.
Starfish: I’ve been told my husband will live far from my son and me, and he’ll teach me lessons about independence.
Council: Are you learning independence already? We see it’s there in front of you – the moving away, raising your son by yourself, being able to make good decisions out of a desire to move forward rather than out of fear, and not being so tied into what your husband wants or how he wants it. It’s all about what you want, and how you feel independent in what you’re doing now.
Starfish: I’d like to ask if my husband is planning on moving to India when the marriage is over, or will he stay in the USA.
Council: The direction he’s going in right now is to stay in the USA, but how the relationship is handled and how you treat each other has the ability to change this. We ask you to remember what you think and what you do changes all the time. You can have things work out and have your husband stay in the USA, or you can have him move to India and have things work out, or you can have your husband move to India and have things not work out.
The way you create your life all comes from you., and we stress that you are the creator of your life. Look at this. What do you want? How do you want your life to be? Focus on this and meditate on it. Feel things working out the way you want. At this time it’s very important you do this work. It’s critical right now to take what you want and work with it every single day.
See how it is. Do you wish him to stay in the USA and for you to move on, meet someone else, and have a different life? Do you want your husband to stay in the USA, and still be friends, and co-parent? Do you want him to move to India and still co-parent? What do you want? You are the creator.
Starfish: Can The Council please guide me if the end of my marriage will be an extramarital affair from either side?
Council: We don’t see that. That can be created, but we don’t see that now.
Starfish: My husband threatens that he’ll take his life and my life if I end our marriage. I’d like to know if he can do this for real, or is he just using this threat as blackmail.
Council: He’s using this threat because he is in fear because he doesn’t think he can actually do this. Don’t feed this thought. Don’t walk around thinking all the time that he’ll kill himself, he’ll kill me, and he’ll kill my son. That kind of thinking only focuses more attention on the fear and brings what you don’t want to you. Think about this as a thought your husband had that isn’t working and that you won’t allow in your reality. Focus on the way you see this. It’s very important to let go of fear tactics, to stay in the light, and to think positive thoughts.
Starfish: I feel so alone and I’m trying to find strength and happiness in this situation.
Council: You’re never alone. There are guides, there are angels, and there are masters around you to help you. When you stay in the vibration of fear, you can’t receive the higher vibration information about how to move on in your life. That’s why we say not to focus on the fear tactics. Hear what you’re afraid of, let it go, and move on to the way you want it to be. You’ll lose the feeling of being alone, you’ll feel better about yourself, you’ll feel more in charge, and you’ll feel very happy.
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Should I Continue My Relationship With My Current Partner?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lee, who has a follow up question on our post, Why Do I Feel So Drawn To This Man? that we published last month in response to Lee’s earlier questions.
Lee: I feel drawn to a man I recently started dating. The relationship is moving very fast and we’re even talking about marriage.
Council: Is this what you want? It’s all up to you. You can take the relationship and have it move slowly or quickly, but you have to decide if you’re comfortable with it moving quickly.
Lee: I feel very connected and comfortable with this man. It’s as if I’ve known him forever.
Council: How wonderful. You recognize the spirit within this person that you’ve known in other lifetimes. You both agreed in spirit that this person would come into your life. What is it that you want? Where do you see this relationship going?
Lee: I feel very connected to him spiritually, physically, and emotionally, but he comes with a lot of failed relationships and baggage. I’m afraid I may be ignoring red flags and making a mistake.
Council: It’s good to recognize there are red flags. There’s always a problem when you’re getting signs, but you ignore them. By taking your time with this relationship you can see more and more what this person is truly like. There’s no reason to rush. If this relationship is something you both want, you’ll both feel the trust and the love in it to make the relationship happen.
Lee: I’m a recent widow and I feel guilty. I wonder if I’m just vulnerable and lonely, and the relationship isn’t real.
Council: Of course you’re vulnerable and lonely. That’s part of the human condition when we love someone and lose them. There’s no reason to feel guilty. It’s perfectly fine to move on and have another relationship if that’s what you want. But again we tell you, it would be wise to slow this relationship down. If it’s real and something you both want, time won’t change it. You can work towards it.
Lee: I’m also worried about my son’s reaction to the relationship.
Council: This is another reason to take your time. Because this relationship is new, it’s up to you to take a good look at it, see how you feel, check out the red flags, and take time to see what this person is really like before you involve your son. We feel you know that rushing into this relationship isn’t wise. If you do rush into it, you’ll be faced with challenges more quickly than if you take your time.
You might not know the direction to go if you rush. You’ll get exactly where you need to be. Be in the relationship. Experience the good and the bad, and see what it is that you want.
Lee: Should I continue with this relationship or is it infatuation?
Council: Of course it’s infatuation. Should you continue with this relationship? It’s totally up to you. And that’s why we say: Be in it. See what this relationship is. Don’t rush it. Experience this person and see what baggage he has. Why were there failed relationships? All of this will give you clues about what you want to do.
Bob: You say that it’s infatuation, but it sounds like you may not be ascribing a negative connotation to the word.
Council: In infatutuation, people are taken with someone else. They feel so in love and so happy, and that could be the feeling now. But in time you’ll learn about this other person. You’ll learn about yourself and how you handle another person if you see a lot of characteristics you don’t like. It’s good to give the relationship time. It’s something you want to learn from, and that’s why the relationship was created the way it was.
Bob: Earlier in the session you said Lee and her partner have relationships from past lives.
Council: Yes, there were a few connections. We see the coming together now is something they planned in spirit because they worked together in other lifetimes. But there’s no particular lifetime that’s tied into their current life where they need to learn something, complete something, or heal something. It’s just two spirits that like working together.
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Why Don’t I Have A Good Relationship With My Mother?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Ilona, who asks about her relationship with her mother.
Ilona: I experienced difficulties that were a great challenge for me from the time I was young. My mother always perceived me negatively and didn’t show me as much love as my two sisters.
Council: You set this experience up yourself in spirit. From the very beginning you wanted to learn the lesson of independence, the lesson of accepting others for who they are, you wanted to learn about boundaries, and you wanted to learn how to let go of things and move your life in the direction you wanted. As a young child you began to have feelings that perhaps you weren’t good enough, feeling you weren’t accepted, and so your path began.
Ilona: I’d like to know why my mother doesn’t need me in her life? Why is she pushing me away? Did I hurt her in any way?
Council: There’s nothing you’ve done to hurt your mother, but in spirit, before you came into this reality, you and your mother set up the kind of relationship you’re having. What feels to you like your mother is pushing you away was an agreement you made with her so that your life would be difficult and you’d have to be stronger. And in finding your strength you’d feel very proud of yourself.
In 2020 my mother had a stroke, and in the first few months I felt like our relationship was getting better. That was until my youngest sister moved in with her. Since then my relationship with my mother has been tested again.
Council: Go back to this time when your mother had her stroke and you thought your relationship was improving. How did you feel about this? How do you remember this time? This is the feeling you’re looking for again, but you set it up so you’d feel this way whether you had your mother’s approval or not. This was a taste to remind you of what you were looking for, and then it was taken away. This was all your choice on a spiritual level.
Ilona: After my youngest sister moved in, my mother doesn’t respond to my messages, and doesn’t want to talk to me when my sister isn’t there. I suspect my sister doesn’t want me to have a nice relationship with my mother and only wants to keep my mother to herself.
Council: Whether this is what your sister wants or not, how do you feel about your relationship with your mother? It’s up to you to make up your mind and go in the direction of what you want to happen. It’s a lot of work to look at this relationship and decide if this is what you want. Is it too difficult? Or can you look at it and learn your lesson and feel good about yourself, whether you have your mother’s or your sister’s approval or closeness with them.
What can you find about yourself that makes you feel good? Is it somewhere else in a different relationship? Can you accept what your mother and sister do, send them love, and let go? If you can’t send love, can you just let go? Because what you’re looking for isn’t to be found in this relationship. This relationship is to get you to look more at yourself, to find out about yourself and the kind of person you are, what you’ll allow, and what you won’t allow. It’s about boundaries. The bottom line is you’re supposed to learn about yourself, love yourself, and feel good about what you accept, and what you don’t accept.
We’re not sent to Earth to suffer and feel horrible. We’re sent here to look at these lessons and to find a way of dealing with them, whether letting it go to make you feel good, or whether it’s pushing forward to see what you can do. When you realize you can’t change another person, can you accept them for who they are? See them and speak to them when you feel like it, or completely walk away. These are all decisions you wish to make. You wish to take your life in the direction you find more comfortable and more loving for yourself.
Ilona: Why is my youngest sister so manipulative?
Council: It’s the part she chose to play and that you both set up and agreed to in spirit. So if she’s manipulative, do you want this in your life? Do you wish to fight against this? Or can you accept your sister for who she is and know that she has her own lessons to learn from this kind of behavior? And then not focus on how manipulative she is, but how – now that you see it – that’s something you don’t want around you, and move forward appropriately.
Ilona: What can I do to improve my relationship with my mother?
Council: Always send your mother and your sister the energy of love, whether you understand them or not. And decide to be there for them when they want you to be there, or completely let go. You must make the decision. Remember you can’t change another person. You can accept them for what they’re doing because you don’t know what they’re trying to learn in their reality. Focus on yourself and what you want, and move in that direction.
Ilona: Is there any hope for me?
Council: There’s always hope. On an energetic level you can picture them changing. Picture them calling you. Picture them asking you to meet with them. You must do the work on an energetic level first. You can do this if it’s what you want, but you first have to decide what you want. Work energetically with them and you’ll see the change begin to happen. There’s nothing you can do physically in your reality to get them to change. You can see the change happen when you constantly focus on how you want your life to be.
Ilona: Is there anything I should know right now?
Council: The most important thing is to concentrate on yourself. See how your relationship with your mother and sister is going. Decide what you want. Do you want a relationship? Do you not want it? Then work energetically. Even if you decide it’s not what you want, picture your relationship going in different ways, but happily. Imagine they’re happy without you in their lives and you’re happy without them in your life. Always come from a place of love, letting go, and everyone feeling the happiness and joy that’s intended when you learn lessons.
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