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What’s Blocking Me From Attracting A Romantic Partner Into My Life?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Eden, who asks, What is blocking me from attracting a romantic partner into my life? I’ve been single for years now and I’ve done a lot of work on myself during this time in order to welcome in a partner to enhance my life. However, I’m still not attracting in the right person. I feel as though I might have an unconscious block or a limiting belief, which is stopping me from attracting the right person. Could you please shed some light on this?

The Council says in one particular lifetime in the early 1800s you were a wife in a very lovely marriage with children. But your husband died unexpectedly and left you broken-hearted for this whole lifetime. You became a totally different person, sad and obsessed. You always wished your partner was still there.

In your current lifetime, subconsciously the fear is there that if you find the perfect partner, the relationship would end prematurely in your partner transitioning to spirit. That’s the belief that comes into your current lifetime. That’s the belief you wanted to work on and heal.

We ask you to not only visualize what you’ve lost now that you have this information, but think about how wonderful your relationship was. Meditate on this and ask for information about your marriage. How do you think your life would have been with a husband and children? Bring that relationship into your current lifetime. It was beautiful and it ended early, but that was then. Now you can have another beautiful relationship and it will last your entire lifetime.

There’s the belief of worry, and fear of being abandoned again that’s stopping you from pulling in someone who you want to have a relationship with.

We can tell you that in spirit you planned to have a relationship in your current lifetime with the spirit of the husband you lost in the lifetime we mentioned. It’s there for you. We suggest you concentrate on the joy that you’ll have the opportunity to be together again, and have another lifetime together, and create as you both go along.

Stop worrying about not finding the perfect person, what is wrong, and what’s blocking you. You now have the answer to those questions. But you also know now that in spirit you and your husband from a past lifetime have both agreed you’ll come together to have another great relationship, to live out another wonderful life. We wish you well on this. Meditate on it and feel the happiness and excitement that you’ll meet this person again.

Eden closes by asking, Is there a partner out there for me with whom I can create a beautiful and fulfilling relationship, which is really what my heart yearns for? The Council says this relationship is there for you. Now create it.


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January 22, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Channeling, Healing, Other Realities, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , | Leave a comment

Do I Have Many Lifetimes That Emphasize Romance?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Tom, who says, I find myself getting aroused frequently and somewhat easily, and I’m often thinking about making love. I get the feeling I’ve had an abundance of lifetimes that emphasize romance and other physical pleasures, and that my soul is rather fond of the physical. Is this assessment true?

The Council says we see 3 past lives in particular that are affecting your current life for the reasons you wish to learn about. The first life, in Egyptian times, you were one of the priestesses in the Temple of Bast and you weren’t allowed to have relationships of any kind with men. Your life was devoted to the goddess. In that lifetime you saw many young people in relationships and you always wanted that. But you knew if you were to have a relationship you’d be buried alive. And so you had a life of chastity, always wondering what it would be like to be in a romantic relationship.

In another lifetime in the 1100s, you were a knight in the Knights Templar and had to take a vow of poverty and chastity. Even though you traveled around to many different towns and were around beautiful women, you had to live a vow of chastity.

Then coming forward, because of these two lives, you wished to know what it would be like to be in intimate relationships and to be sexual. The next lifetime we see was in the court of Henry VIII where you were one of the handmaidens and you had many sexual relationships.

In your current life you wish to have relationships, but for it to be more pleasant for you. These past three lives weren’t pleasant, even when you were a sort of courtesan in the time of Henry VIII. In your current life you’re looking for more of a permanent relationship. This is why you often have the feeling of being aroused. It’s you looking on that path to find what it is that’s needed and what you wish to experience in this lifetime.

Tom closes by saying, And if my assessment is true, can you tell me about these lifetimes that are romance-heavy? The Council says what we’re trying to help you understand is why you feel this frequent arousal in your current lifetime. Even though you’re looking to hear about romance-heavy lives, that’s not what’s affecting your current life. What’s affecting your current life are the three lives we’ve told you about.

Meditate on these lives. Study these time periods. Imagining what it would have been like will bring you to a point where you’ll understand that was then, but that’s not what you want now. This will also give you the freedom to visualize and fantasize more about what you want in this lifetime. The kind of person and the kind of life you would like. And that’s the background of what’s going on for you in your current life.


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January 20, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

What Can My Family Do To Help My Brother Overcome Drug Addiction?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, PE, who says, I recently found out my younger brother has been abusing drugs. What can my family do to help him overcome this addiction?

The Council says #1, don’t blame him or be angry with him for this addiction. This is something he chose to go through. Be supportive in every way you can. Make suggestions on what he can do, and then leave it up to him to follow them. When your brother gets tired of being in this situation, he’ll change. We see he’s planned in this life to have this drug experience, but also to overcome it.

There are lessons for all concerned. There are lessons for you, your family, and your brother on going through this, how to handle it, and how to have patience, love, and understanding. Stay away from blame and anger. Be supportive and suggest any kind of help you can find. Part of the lesson is finding help and letting go. Your brother must find his way out of this addiction.

While this addiction is going on, constantly ask yourself, How do I feel? What would I do if it was me? How can I understand this? What would I want? When you have these questions answered, you’ll know how to move forward in this situation. Above all, have patience and compassion.

PE asks, Is there a purpose for this drug addiction? The Council says: Yes, there is a purpose. Your brother chose to experience drug addiction to go through it, and to feel what it would be like. He chose it to feel how strong he’d be when he finds a way out of this addiction. He chose it to see how the spirits around him, including you and your family, would respond to him when he’s in his addiction and when he gets better.

There is a purpose. Your brother wants to go through this addiction to learn. Everyone concerned agreed to go through this experience to learn. Search your feelings to see how you’ll respond to him.

When you come into this reality your purpose is to take every situation and change it with love. That’s your answer to your question about the purpose of your brother’s addiction.

The Councils says they send everyone blessings, love, and happiness. And we ask you all to search for joy and find it any way you can, every day.


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January 15, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Helping Others, Life Purpose, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

What’s Causing My Block To Intimacy?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Monica, who says, I’d like to ask The Council about my block in intimacy. I’m ashamed and I feel uncomfortable. My husband is very upset because of this block and I want him to be happy. I’d like to know what causes my block in intimacy and how I can change it.

The Council says there were many past lives where you didn’t have this challenge, but there were two past lives that are connected to this block in intimacy. In one lifetime you were a slave back in Greece and sold from person to person. There was an issue of trust because of the misuse of your body. You had no control and you had to go along with the cruelty you experienced.

In the last part of that particular lifetime you were sold to someone that told the villagers where you lived that your purpose was to be a prostitute. You had sex with many people and at the end of that particular lifetime you were stoned for this reason. It was a sad, cruel life, and it was something you didn’t want to experience as a personality, but you chose to go through this to learn from it.

Because you chose not to deal with this sadness in other lifetimes, you went through a similar experience again as a Negro slave who was taken from Africa and brought to Vermont. You lived a life there of no trust for people and not knowing what would happen to you. You were passed around from man to man and sold many times.

This issue of intimacy is coming up in your current lifetime so that you’d feel it and perhaps look into the reasons for this problem, which you’re doing now, and to overcome this problem.

The man you’re married to now had no part of your mistreatment in both of these past lives. This fear within you was brought into your current life by you to experience it and realize it isn’t your problem in this life because you’re in a secure relationship. Know that this fear comes from past lives, and work on releasing this fear in your current life.

Knowing there were other past lives where you didn’t have this intimacy problem and you were able to experience intimacy and wonderful relationships, you have the power to experience this intimacy again.

In your current lifetime you wanted to experience the fear and the challenge, learn about it, and then change it.

You’re exactly on your path. You’re going along with exactly what you planned in your current lifetime.

The Council closes by suggesting we all search for joy and to find it in any way we can, every day.


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January 11, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

What Can You Tell Me About Loki Energy?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, LadyInLife, who says, Everything in my life is changing. I have a new relationship, I have a new job, my car suddenly died for good, and I’m moving into a new home. It feels a little chaotic and exciting, though there’s a lot of pressure for me to succeed.

The Council asks where this pressure is coming from? You will succeed, and you’ll go at your own speed with your own ability to take what you learn and put it to use. Any pressure to succeed should be totally ignored. You should look at your own doubt about yourself, or if you’ll succeed. Just think lightly of having fun along the way. You’re exactly where you need to be at this point.

LadyInLife says, A palm reader recently told me I’ve got a lot of Loki energy around me. Can you tell me more about Loki, his energy, and how I can best work with this energy and honor it? The Council says in mythology the Norse god, Loki, was known to be a great manipulator of energy and people. He was able to change shapes into whatever he wanted.

Learning about Loki is about learning to increase your energy. But when you learn about this, always have in your mind the correct and fair way to use this energy. Take this powerful energy that’s there for all of us and don’t use it for manipulation. Use it in ways that increase what you can do. Use this energy in ways that increases what can happen for other people and the support you show for these people. It’s a powerful energy, but in your reality’s comic books we see Loki is made out to be the bad or evil guy.

You don’t need to learn too much about Loki, but learn the correct use of energy. Loki grabs your attention, but then take your attention and look beneath it. Remove the person, Loki, from what you’re learning and see what’s there and how you’d use this energy. This will increase your ability to manifest and do things.

LadyInLife says, Interestingly the man I’m seeing is really into Loki and even has two tattoos dedicated to him. The Council says you both had a past life together as children. It was a fun life where you were very close and you played many games. You both came from wealthy families. You had the freedom to not work and had lots of time for play. You both used your imaginations and pretend stories to become other people. You could live on other planets. The imagination you both had together was very helpful and gave you a happy childhood.

In your current lifetime you both created a common interest in Loki to bring you together. But we say again, go beyond the person of Loki and learn about astral travel, changing shapes, and using energy to help people rather than manipulate them. Go forward and learn more about this.

LadyInLife says, I’m also wondering if you can tell me about any past life connections I have with this man I’ve been seeing, and tell me about how Loki is involved with us. The Council says this is coming from your imaginations in the past life we mentioned. Before you came into this lifetime you created this life where you’d learn of something beyond this time and could experience it and learn about it together. You wanted to live with the principles you find in the subject of Loki that the two of you created.

LadyInLife says, This relationship is fairly new, but it feels like it has long-lasting potential and hopefully it will remain a harmonious and beautiful thing. The Council says your relationship was created to be a long-lasting one. You created it to take you both on an interesting journey in this lifetime. Going forward, enjoy every step of the way, see what you learn, and how you can both grow from this.

The Council wishes everyone fun on your path, happiness along the way, challenges you can overcome, and to create the manifestations you want. You can begin to learn it’s easier and easier to direct your life. Stay in joy, stay in love, and follow your path.


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January 8, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Helping Others, Imagination, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Is There a Long-Term Relationship in My Future?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Core, who asks for advice on her romantic relationships. She says, For the past few years I’ve been experiencing brief connections that never lead to anything long-term. While these experiences have taught me a lot, they’ve also been heartbreaking for me. I recently went through another one of these brief relationships and it’s really bringing me down. I’m starting to feel a loss of hope because I don’t understand how I can get out of this pattern. I feel each time this happens, I learn many things and I’m trying my best, but I’d like to experience being in a relationship and building a foundation for something that lasts longer than a month or two.

The Council says in a past life you lived in a farming community. You were alone most of the time working, unable to get away and be with other people. In your current lifetime you wanted to be able to flit around from relationship to relationship, whether it’s an intimate one, a friendly one, or family. You wanted the freedom to experience a lot of these relationships.

Now that you’ve done that and you desire to turn your path to a more permanent relationship, the first step would be to appreciate every relationship you’ve had. Think about this and outline in your mind all the things you liked about each one.

When you’re in a new relationship, instead of worrying if it will last or not, appreciate what you have. Tell yourself you’ll love this relationship and appreciate everything that goes on, no matter how long the relationship lasts. Being in the present and being appreciative will change the energy of worrying if your current relationship will last or not, to: this is wonderful, I love being in this relationship and I appreciate it. Now I’m ready to find a permanent relationship. If you put that energy out there, things will begin to change.

Core asks, Is there a longer-term romantic relationship between me and a partner there for me in the future? The Council says you’ve planned in spirit that there will be one. To bring this relationship in now you should constantly think you’re ready for it, and not be upset about the relationships that didn’t last. Appreciate them. Appreciate that you could experience so many different relationships and now you’re ready and waiting to find a relationship that will work just for you. You’ll bring in the right person to have a relationship with.

Core asks, What can I do to make finding a long-term relationship easier on myself. The Council says to meditate, and keep seeing down to the tiniest detail, what you’d like a permanent relationship to look like. As you keep meditating and visualizing this, you’ll begin to bring in the energy of the right person for you.

Core asks, Can you provide any insights on my situation and why I’ve been experiencing these brief connections. The Council reminds Core how she wanted the different experiences because in a past life that you want to heal differently, you went from having minimal relationships with others to having many relationships in your current lifetime. You’ve now had a balance. You’ve had almost no relationships and you’ve had a lot of them. Now you can steer your life in the direction you want. When you make the connection to a past life that you’re working on now, the connection becomes easier to make, and the change is easier to make.

Core says, There’s a similar pattern around other aspects of my life. Living situations, career, friends, and circumstances come into my life and then leave so fast for me. The Council agrees and says it’s because it’s all energy and it comes in many different forms.

Core says, I know I’m growing and transforming rapidly because of these brief relationships, but I’m beginning to burn out. Any help would be greatly appreciated. The Council advises Core to visualize and feel as if you’re already in the relationship you desire and you’ll create this relationship.

The Council closes by saying to have fun on your path. Always look for the fun. Happiness will bring in everything you wish to create, even if you know what it is now or not. Your higher self knows. When you stay happy, your higher self is able to bring in what you want to create.


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December 29, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Meditation, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Where Is My Love Companion?

This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named, Chris, after we posted, Are There Things We Ask For That We Never Get? In that blog, Chris says The Council mentioned that her issues were fear and success, but I really think it’s about love. The Council says if you believe it’s about love, then that’s where you are in your journey, and that’s the path you want to discover right now.

Chris says since I was 29 years old I’ve wanted to find my lifelong love companion. I’ve stayed open, hopeful, and always kept my eyes and heart open. I’m now 59 and I can say the only ones who showed up were two amazing and lovely men who weren’t available because they were either in unhappy marriages, separated, or asked by their spouse for a divorce when I met them, but neither left their spouse despite their “love” for me.

The Council says it was important for you to be with these men to see what you could learn from them. How were their relationships with their partners? How was your relationship with them? And then to create, from what you knew was false and what you were being told was true, the kind of person you wanted in your life, that you could build a life with and go forward. It was very important you had these relationships.

Going forward we advise you to visualize what you want, in every detail possible, and write it down. Writing makes it powerful so that you can create the person that’s for you. The person you can learn from and has similar desires so you can build the life you want. But we repeat that meeting these people was necessary in your life.

Chris says The Council mentioned there’s the person, Ted, near me who’s one of the two men I mentioned, or someone new in South America. I wish with all my heart Ted is the one with him saying, I see us together, but it will take patience and time. The Council replies that when you look at your situation with Ted, again you’re waiting for someone to tell you it will take time but we’ll be together. It’s a similar vibration to the two that you were with before. They were going to leave their wives but never did. You need to look at this. You’ve created this situation again but in a lesser way.

Are you willing to stay and wait yet again for this man, or do you want to go out and start looking for new people to bring into your life, and find a partner that’s what you want and that’s available? This is important to visualize and think about when you create a new partner in your life.

Chris says, I’m beginning to lose hope after decades of hopes and prayers. Or was it just not the time, until now? The Council says it was about learning lessons with these two relationships. And now with Ted, it’s a learning relationship. It’s for you to ask yourself what you truly want. And to figure out why you wait for the other person to come forward and make the move when you can create something where there’s a new person, and the relationship moves quickly and easily. You’ll both have the same goals and want the same things.

These relationships were necessary so you can know this isn’t what you want. Now create what you do want.


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December 16, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Creation, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , | Leave a comment

Should I Stay Married to My Husband?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Starseed_Lightworker, who says, I’m at a crossroads in my life and I’d appreciate your guidance in the decision I want to make. My husband and I have had various issues since the beginning of our marriage and it’s been ten years now. I was in an abusive relationship for a long time, and then I decided to love myself and be self-dependent. I was in such a miserable situation earlier in my life that I felt like committing suicide a couple of times during that phase, but my love for my young child kept me alive. By hard work and the grace of God I’m now in a position to take care of myself and my child. The thing is that my husband seems to have changed during the last three years, but I can’t forget what he and his family did to me earlier.

The Council asks you to remember that your husband is on his own journey, and there are challenges and issues that he wishes to learn about, even though you don’t know what this is. We think it’s wonderful that you’ve begun to see the change in your husband. And it’s wonderful that you’ve gone ahead and become what you planned in spirit to become in this life, which was to be powerful, independent, and to do it all yourself and not need another person to do things for you. You don’t have to suffer through abuse or the fear of abandonment. You’ve changed your path and in your lifetime you’ve created the path you wanted to find.

Starseed says, Going forward my plan is to keep doing better work in the office and study part-time in a university while doing work to support myself and my child. Eventually when my child grows up I plan to retire, travel, and do more spiritual and teaching work. I don’t want to be dependent on anyone for money, happiness, and taking care of me. I want to do it all myself. The Council says they see you’re already on this path.

Starseed says, I’ve begun to find solace in loneliness now. The Council says you’re beginning to find solace with yourself, not with loneliness. There’s quite a difference.

Starseed says, I have a very good job opportunity in a different state. It’s remote work right now, but I can move there if I want, which would be a fresh start for me and my child and a different way of living life. The Council says this was also something you wanted to create. You wanted to create travel, have the ability to move around, and be successful wherever you are. Look at what you’ve done. You’ve already brought this opportunity into your life.

Starseed says, The difficult decision I need to make is, should I continue staying with my husband for the sake of my child having a father. Or should I move on and build a new life for myself and my child? At the current moment I like my husband as a friend since he’s changed from his abusive patterns, but I’ve lost the love.

The Council says, Wouldn’t it be wonderful to be able to remain friends, but not be together as partners? Wouldn’t it be wonderful to have a friend that lives nowhere near you, but you can communicate in whatever way you wish and whatever time you want? We see what you’ve planned and you’ve planned to move on. We see there’s great success in your future if you stay on the path you wanted to create for yourself, and we see you’re doing a wonderful job of this. You’ll have another love in your life if you wish to not stay with your husband.

You’ve done so much and taken yourself so far. Would you hold yourself back now when you have the opportunity to move on? And as you move on, the work you do will change and your career will change. You have the opportunity if you really want this. If you’re afraid to leave right now, you can leave in the future. We see this is there for you. It’s what you’ve created. But we’d ask you, why would you come so far and hold yourself back? There’s no wrong answer. You will move forward. You’ll decide when. You have the power to make this move happen when you’re ready, and this is a beautiful thing.

Starseed says, I don’t know whether I can love my husband again considering the history. At the same time, I’m also not sure if there will be love for me outside of this marriage. Can The Council please guide me and provide some input. The Council says they are so happy for you. It’s hard for some people after they leave the spirit world. They have all these plans and one thing or another gets in the way. Or their plans change, which is fine. But you have created so much of what you wanted, of what you planned when you were in spirit. You’re a powerful soul. You’ll go forward in this life, whether it’s right now or five years from now.

You are right on track. You’re doing exactly what you wanted to do, and that’s a wonderful thing. We here are so happy for you. We’re proud that you’ve stayed on the path. We know it wasn’t easy, but you took your situation and changed it. Love yourself. Hug yourself. Kiss the mirror as you look at yourself. You’ve come a long way and we wish you much happiness and speed on your journey.

Stay friends with your husband, if that’s possible. Know that when you’re ready and when you want it, you’ll bring in another person to love. If you stay on your path, whether you go now or later, there’s another love and a successful future waiting for you. As much as you can, create in your mind how you think your life would be when you move on. Imagine where you want to live, how you want to work, and how you’d like to spend your free time. The more you focus on these things, the more you’ll know when it’s time to do what you want to do. The choice is always yours.

If you’re afraid at this moment, or you choose to stay and six months, a year, two years, three years later, you don’t like that you stayed, there’s no problem. Then you make another decision and change what you do. Go in the direction you want. Whether you go now or later it doesn’t matter. You are the creator. And while you’re trying to decide, imagine in every detail you can, the way you wish your life to be and all your answers will come.

We wish you all happiness, success, and most of all love and joy. Find the fun and joy on your path. If you feel you don’t have it, head towards it, imagine it, and know you are the creator. What you think of, what you say, what you write, what you visualize over and over is how you’re planning your future.


Listen to the entire 10-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Starseed_Lightworker and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it. And you can ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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December 8, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Imagination, Love, Marriage, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Soul, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | | 6 Comments

Is It Time To Separate From My Husband?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Confused and Sad, who says, I’ve been married for close to 30 years. The last few years have had me reflect on how different my husband and I are, and how much we’ve grown apart. It seems our history and our finances are the main reason we’re still together. My husband is a good man, but we have very little, if anything, in common. We rarely agree on anything and this makes me very sad. I feel in my heart we’d both be happier apart, and perhaps have a chance to find a true partner who can make us happy.

The Council says the pre-planning of this marriage in spirit comes from a lifetime where you were both married to other people and you were very mean and selfish with your partners. You felt stuck in these marriages. You didn’t know each other in that life, but there was always the thought to find someone better. You thought you were with people who weren’t pretty, weren’t handsome, weren’t intelligent, people that made you feel closed in, or had nothing in common with you. And both your spirits were willing to work on the same issues so you decided to do it together in your current lifetime.

When you came into your current life it was to come together and learn how to accept who the other person is, whatever their issues were. You wanted to learn how to allow someone to be different. You don’t have to have all these things in common. You wanted to learn how to love yourself and not to look for someone new that would make you happy and feel loved. You must love yourself.

And then you took it a step further and you decided that because you were so selfish and mean in your past life, in your current life when you learned how to accept your spouse for who they were, you were going to try to help them feel good about themself. You were going to take the focus off of you and how miserable you felt, and how this person wasn’t making you happy, and try to do something for this other person,. and give of yourself. And in that you’d feel the change within yourself, and you’d feel better and more love for yourself.

At first we imagine this may be difficult, but when you see you’re focusing on the other person and allowing them to take in this beautiful energy you’re sending by trying to do something for them, or just the energy of letting them be who they are, what you’re looking for in other people you’ll find in yourselves. When you find it in yourselves, you’ll realize both of you created this situation in this marriage. You’re exactly where you need to be to realize: How can I fix this? I love this person, but I don’t, because there’s someone who’d be prettier or handsomer, someone that would give me more attention, someone that would make me feel happier than I am. All of this love comes from within you, not from another person.

When you ask yourself to be nicer, to be understanding, to say to yourself, Today let me do this for this person or with this person, knowing it’s something that person likes, you will be so proud of yourself, and the feeling you want to have in a marriage will return. It will not only return, but it will be better than it was.

Confused says, We’ve both tried to make each other happy for the sake of the children and family, but we’re just two very different people. The Council says, Isn’t that wonderful. Look at what you can learn from being two totally different people.

Confused says, We’re both scared to leave because we’re all each other has known for so many years. The Council says of course the feeling of being scared will come up because you know this isn’t what you wanted. You don’t want to flee your marriage. You didn’t plan to go off and find something else. You both created this situation so you could grow within yourself and for each other.

Confused says, I know we’re both confused and scared because separation or divorce can be just as difficult as staying together. The Council says if you were to do this and move on, the happiness you’re looking for you won’t find somewhere else. It’s within this marriage, it’s within yourselves that you wanted to grow and learn, and you will feel this.

Confused says, I’ve tried to figure out why we would have chosen each other, what lessons we were supposed to learn. Is it finally time to move on and co-create the life we’d both like to live? And perhaps find true love with a partner more suited for each of us that can make us happy?. The Council says this other partner you’re looking for will be no different because you both planned to live your life this way.

Confused says, We do try and communicate and work things out, but our thought processes are just so completely different. The Council says, Isn’t it wonderful?. Do you stop and wonder what your spouse is thinking of? Do you try to understand it? Do you try and see it? And you don’t have to agree with each other. That’s the most wonderful thing. You can still have your beliefs and your ways of thinking, but how interesting it would be to see how your spouse’s mind works. And you can learn much from this. Let go of being rigid and thinking we have different ideas. What can you learn from this? Maybe it would be fun for you to think this way. Or maybe you can learn from thinking this way. It’s all opportunities in front of you.

If you feel you don’t want to stay in this marriage, it’s always your choice. You’ll create it again because the lessons you want to learn are right here. All the opportunities are right here for you.

Confused says, Our thought processes are just so completely different that it never ends well. We just seem to see things completely differently. The Council says, And so you argue and you fight because you don’t agree because you think differently. When you go to school the teacher thinks differently than a student. The student in the back of the room could be thinking differently than a student in the front. You don’t fight over this. You listen and learn from it. But most important, you allow the person to be who they are. And that’s the most wonderful gift you can give anyone.

Confused closes by asking, Have we learned all we can from each other, and is it finally time to move on? The Council says we’ve given you the answer. We wish you so much fun on your journey. Take your focus off your disagreeing, your not having things in common, off the fighting and difficulty communicating. Take your focus and say, This is another spirit who’s agreed with me to come into this reality to create this situation. While we go through it we’re going to learn about each other.  Most importantly we’re going to learn about ourselves. Are we able to accept others if they’re not like us? Because your purpose in this life is to bring love into this reality.


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December 6, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Helping Others, Love, Marriage, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , | Leave a comment

Tell Me About My Daughter’s Star Connections

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, E-Diggity, who says, My daughter has come into a psychic ability and she has guides who I believe are Arcturian. I’d like to know more about her star connections, the nature of my relationship with my daughter, and these other beings beyond this lifetime.

The Council says it’s interesting you say your daughter has become psychic because the main star system she returns to is the Andromeda galaxy. The purpose of these souls, when they visit other star systems, when they visit planets, when they visit other dimensions, is to bring peace and love. They use their psychic ability to see how people are expanding, what they’re learning, and how they’re using their energy to expand their connection to others. In your current lifetime you both are here to bring as much peace and love as you can into your reality.

When you come from Andromeda, it’s not only characterized by psychic ability and spreading peace and love, but being intellectual is also important, studying many different subjects of where you are, what dimension you’re in, and how everything is moving forward. Knowledge, increasing your psychic ability, meditation, reading about channelers, and working with energy in any way possible, even only if it’s for yourself, are all important.

When you’re around people, bring in this energy of peace and love. You do this by increasing the energy in your seventh chakra. You can do this by learning to do the chakra breathing meditation. That’s one of the ways of doing that. Constantly work with the vibration of the purple light that always keeps you connected to your higher purpose.

You and your daughter are here together and you’ve shared other lifetimes together. In your current lifetime you wanted to expand in all directions. If you find you’re with people who are troubled, people who are depressed, people who are angry, you wanted to learn to use the energy of the purple ray to increase your energy, and then when you feel the power increase within you, you wanted to spread it out around these people.

It’s a great job you’ve taken on. In other lifetimes, when spirits from other dimensions that weren’t peaceful came to Earth or other planets, you’d jump in and go there to keep an eye on this and send in the energy of peace and love. And you’d help people with their schooling and learning because as they learn, they’d go more in the direction of peace and expansion.

When you and your daughter were around in the time of Lemuria and Atlantis, you were there helping them learn to use energy, to use intelligence, to use the vibration from stones and the elements in that island. But then you saw that by helping them learn, it wasn’t possible for you to get in the way of learning when these people turned greedy and power-hungry.

You are both advanced in this field of energy work. We advise you to study any subject that brings you pleasure – anything in the sciences, learn about history, and watch the people around you and help them move forward in peace and love. That’s what you both have decided to do in this lifetime, which is a very great task.

You and your daughter have done a lot of traveling. You’ve been to Sirius, the brightest star in the sky, for quite a long time. In the very beginning of your work you were also star seeds. These are souls that travel to different new galaxies, new planets, new stars, and create life there. That was also an experience that this mother and child had. They’ve been around forever popping in and out of galaxies.

It’s nice to know about your past, but you are here on Earth to concentrate on your life here. Study, learn, share information, help other people to learn in any way you can, even if it’s to teach young children to play games and learn. Whatever you do, bring happiness, bring peace, and bring love. This is what you and your daughter pre-planned in spirit.

E-Diggity says, I hope to validate and facilitate my daughter’s expansion into these psychic abilities. I want to invite this connection to these benevolent beings and do what we came here to do. The Council says you’re already connected. There isn’t any more you need to do. If you meditate, if you spend time outside at night when it’s warm and you can just sit somewhere and watch the stars, you’ll feel a great love in your heart. You’ll smile and with a bit of remembering you’ll realize that what you look at in the sky is also your home, not just this planet where you are now.

The Council closes by saying if there’s a place where you can go to study the stars, watch movies about the stars, or go to a planetarium, when you take these steps it sets off a memory. On your own you’ll begin to have a feeling of what to do. Go to museums and places where you can learn about the different galaxies and about what people believed went on there. Learn the sciences, and you’ll feel very much at home.


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December 5, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Chakras, Channeling, Helping Others, Life Purpose, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Psychic Ability, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Requesting Guidance for a Never-Ending Divorce

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Amy. She says it’s a full year since I asked The Council about my divorce and it’s as if time has stood still. My divorce is no further along than it was then. I’ve tried everything to move the divorce forward, but my husband is intent on going to trial, and he has so much to lose. The challenges he’s faced with emotional abuse and substance abuse will now play out publicly in court and it’s possible he might lose custody of our children.

The Council says this is the way your husband wants the divorce to go. How would you like the divorce to go? If you put the thought in your mind that your husband is intent on going in the direction of court, does it bring up fear? Does it bring up frustration? Or are you satisfied with this and think we’ll go to trial, but I know his behavior and abuse will come out and the trial will go in my favor?

Find thoughts that bring you satisfaction and joy. The timing of when your divorce is finalized doesn’t matter. What will make the divorce move forward is if you take your thoughts away from frustration and appreciate your life. Go about your business and do what you want with your children and know that this divorce will eventually happen when you accept the way it’s going and know for sure, without a doubt in your mind, that everything will come out okay for you and your children.

Your husband has his lessons to go through. At this point your lesson is to accept what’s going on. Don’t think of the divorce as a battle and you’re going to war. Your husband is bringing on this challenge. You can accept it with peace in your mind and things will turn out in your favor.

Amy says, Losing custody of our children isn’t what I wanted for my husband, but he watches TV all day long and on TV you don’t see reasonable people gracefully dismantling their lives with their children at the center. I feel I’ve been fair and I’ve tried to settle this divorce fairly and quietly for the sake of our children, but there’s something blocking this divorce. The Council says the block is what you and your husband have come together to do and the lesson to be learned in it. You may not realize that spiritually your husband may have decided he wants to lose his children and learn what that’s about. You don’t have to know the reason, or what your husband is creating. This will show itself to you.

Amy says, We still live together, I still support him, and he refuses to work. The Council asks Amy why her husband should work if she lets him live with her and supports him? This doesn’t seem sensible. If you want to keep him living in your home and supporting him, that’s fine, but know you’re agreeing to this. You’re allowing this to happen. If you want something different you’d handle the situation differently.

Amy says, I can see so clearly what my life looks like with my children when I get to the other side of this divorce. I’ve deepened my relationship with myself over the last year and I’m anxiously awaiting the change and the experience it will bring to my family overall. The Council reminds Amy to do the inner work, keep seeing the pages of a calendar flying by, and the time has passed and your divorce is happening.

Amy says, I’ve been getting ready to get ready, as Abraham-Hicks teaches, and I feel good. It’s surprising to most people that I feel no animosity toward my husband. The Council says this is wonderful because animosity isn’t necessary and that in spirit you both created this situation.

Amy says, Our life is far more peaceful than it ever was before, living without the emotion and intensity our marriage held. We’re co-parents living in the same house and it feels a little like a dress rehearsal. The Council says without saying too much about your husband, some of what he’s created is to go through life easily and have things done for him. What he’s creating and will continue to create is to have people come into his life and make it easier.

Amy says, I’ve recently come to the point where I stopped trying to control the outcome and I’ve even given up on the timeline for the divorce. Right now I get to be with my children every day while the divorce works itself out and I’m grateful for every minute with them in the same house. Having said that, it’s time for me to move on. I feel a strong pull towards something else and I have no idea what that is. This is exciting – nervous excitement. There’s not another love interest or even a thought of one, or a friend or a family member pulling me along so I know this is a different calling.

The Council says it’s wonderful that you’ve stopped trying to control the outcome. This is the way to make the divorce happen. Stay in that feeling of excitement. Stay in the feeling of being pulled toward something new and wonderful. Even if you don’t know what you’re excited about, stay in that excited, happy feeling.

Amy says the universe takes care of my husband. Life just happens for him. He just seems to walk through life carelessly without consequences. No matter how badly he treats people or screws up, someone picks up the slack. It’s as if you can see him being carried. I know we all have a higher power watching over us. It’s just easy to see with my husband that he’s always taken care of no matter how bad his behavior is or how much he alienates friends and family. The Council says this isn’t any part of what you need to experience. He’ll go through all the emotions and all the experience he needs on his path.

Amy says, I can’t be the person I’ve been for my husband anymore. I need to move on, but I feel a block and I can’t seem to clear it. The Council says there isn’t any block. Think of the divorce moving forward. You’re on the correct path. All that you wish, if you continue to focus on it, will come to you. Let go of the time factor. It’s not necessary. Stay in a vibration of happiness and love and you’ll see your divorce come quickly.

The Council says you’re all so much more than you think you are. You’re all on this wonderful path of growth, and understanding, and realizing there are many lives you’ve experienced and many more you’ll create when you’re ready. Focus on being the creator. Focus on bringing joy and laughter into your life and everything will come to you. When you’re happy, you’ll see the connections that are being made. There will be more understanding. Stay in that feeling of joy.


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December 1, 2021 Posted by | Abraham-Hicks, Acceptance, Audio Content, Channeling, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

How Can I Help This Man With His Commitment Issues?

This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named, Unicorn, to our post, Why Has This Man In My Life Become So Distant? Unicorn says, I’d love to know how I can help this man with commitment issues, but I have no idea how to. His behavior has turned 360° and I think he’s met someone else and hasn’t been honest with me.

The Council says there are several relationships this man goes in and out of. But you’re helping him with his commitment issues by understanding them, then letting them go, and allowing this man to be who he needs to be. Forcing him to face these commitment issues doesn’t help this situation. Now that you know there are these commitment issues, you can’t force this. You can only accept the situation, wish this man well, and see how he moves along his path.

The Council says it’s always Unicorn’s choice to know she’s unable to heal what this man is going through regarding commitment. You can only be in this man’s life if you wish to be in his life, but you can’t heal his life. This man has to understand why these issues are going on in his life and he has to decide for himself if he wants to make a change. You see the situation as his commitment issue. It’s upsetting and you want to heal this. This man can be very happy not being committed to one person.

You don’t know the path this man is on. All you can know is, do you wish to be in this man’s life? Do you wish to be his friend? Can you handle this? If you’re only in this man’s life hoping you’ll be able to push him into understanding his commitment issues and he’d have an “ah ha” moment, this isn’t how things works. The choice is yours to be in some sort of relationship or out of it.

Send love into this relationship and watch it grow. Create with your thoughts the way you’d like this relationship to be. Create with your thoughts that whatever this man’s commitment issue is, why it’s there, and where it comes from, you can send light to this man to help him on his path.

Unicorn says, He always called me Unicorn because he never met someone like me before. Then overnight he pretty much became a magician when it comes to communication. He hardly ever communicates with me, but he agrees to see me without being intimate or affectionate when we’d become close in this way months ago. The Council says at this point it’s up to you. Can you deal with this kind of relationship? Is this what you want? Are you comfortable with this? See where the relationship goes and use your thoughts and your feelings to create more. The choice is always yours.

Unicorn says, I’m still confused why this man is happy to see me, but not communicate with me. The Council says he can be happy to see you now and then, when he’s in the mood, and he has nothing else going on. You don’t need to know the reasons why. If there’s happiness when you get together, be in that moment and enjoy it.

Unicorn says, I feel this man pushed his way into my life to cause grief and chaos. The Council says there was no pushing. Your coming together was planned in spirit. You let this man into your life to discover what you need to discover about you, and about how you let this relationship affect you. Moving forward, take your attention off this man and put it on yourself. Why are you in this relationship? Why does it bother you? Why do you stay in this relationship? How does it make you feel? How can you bring joy into this relationship when you’re together? Your purpose is to accept what this relationship is, to bring joy into it, and to appreciate what’s there.

Unicorn says, To be honest, I’m deeply hurt. I’m lost in what to do and need guidance. All I want is the truth to the situation. But if my soul has planned to be in his life to help him heal the issue of commitment, then I’d love to know how I can help. The Council says again, You can accept this person the way they are.

The Council says you’re all so much more than you think you are. You’re all on this wonderful path of growth, understanding, realizing there are many lives that you’ve experienced, and many more that you’ll create when you’re ready. Focus on being the creator. Focus on bringing joy and laughter into your life and everything will come to you. Everything will be shown. When you’re happy you’ll see the connections that are being made in your life. There will be more understanding. And stay in that feeling of joy.


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November 30, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Creation, Life Purpose, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Why Aren’t My Partner and I Planning to Have Children?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Denisa, who asks for guidance with her relationship with her life partner. We’d love to start a family together, but still nothing happens. My life partner keeps talking about wanting to have children with me, but he also mentions that he’d like my financial situation to be similar to his. I’d also like that, but I don’t know what to do to improve my finances. It seems very difficult for me right now. Is my financial situation the reason we don’t try to have children, or is it something else?

The Council says your finances are part of the reason you’re not trying to have children, and it comes from a lifetime you had as brother and sister in a very poor family. There wasn’t enough to eat, there wasn’t enough clothing, and you had no education. You were the older one and took care of your brother. You found the means to feed both of you and move forward in life. You were the one who took care of your brother.

In this life your boyfriend has the subconscious memory of the previous life. He desires you to be in a better financial situation, thinking this will take care of you both going forward in this life. Your boyfriend doesn’t want to have children where there will be an experience of lack. It’s the memory of you taking care of him, and that’s what’s causing this delay with children and with wanting you to have a better financial situation before you go forward.

It’s not that you have to do better financially. It’s that your boyfriend needs to deal with his issue of being able to independently take care of you and a family. That’s what he wanted to learn going forward. In that past life you took care of him. In this life he wanted to take care of you. And yet these memories are within him and so he can insist you do better financially.

This is where the hold-up with having children is coming from. If you both can agree on it we suggest you have children now. Your boyfriend will learn he can fulfill the role of being the breadwinner, being independent, learning how to be a family man, and learning how to take care of himself, you, and your children.

Denisa asks, Have my boyfriend and I agreed in spirit to have children in this lifetime? The Council says yes. You both want this a great deal, but there are the memories and past lives you need to work through. You need to understand where this desire for your financial stability comes from and you both need to let go of this.

Denisa asks, What can I do to improve my financial situation. The Council says that isn’t necessary. That isn’t what you need to do. What is meant now is to have conversations and be in a place where you can express that the financial situation you have, what you make now, is more than enough for now to start a family. Eventually we see you can make more money, but what’s needed is to express that your situation is okay and you believe he has the ability to take care of you, himself, and a family. Give him the confidence to go forward with this. This is what was agreed upon.

Eva says, It seems to me I don’t know which way to go. I’m thinking about writing a book about my childhood, what I’ve been through, and what I’ve learned from it. The Council says writing is very powerful, and writing is energy. We’d say write about your childhood or anything else because you’re putting more energy out and that will bring you more financial success.

Eva asks, What is the main purpose of our relationship? The Council says to be supportive of each other. Support your partner with words that give him confidence. Your partner wanted to teach you to be the supporter, the one who listens to the questions, the one who’s able to talk about what’s worrying both of you. You would bring guidance to your relationship. You’d make things are clearer for him to give him the opportunity to grow. As you listen to him and give him confidence, you are growing also because you’re fulfilling what you both agreed to.


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November 18, 2021 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Guidance, Life Purpose, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Should I Give This Man Who’s Come Back In My Life A Second Chance?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Eva. She says, After one year without any contact, this man who The Council told me (in a previous session) was my son in a previous life, has come back into my current life. He’s a father now, but he claims he can’t be with his wife and he’s asked me for a second chance. My common sense is stopping me from getting involved with him again. I’m not really happy in my marriage, but I haven’t made a decision to get a divorce.

The Council says if you’re thinking this person would be the answer to finding happiness, we would say this isn’t the way to find it. This man won’t bring you a deeper and truer relationship than what you have with your husband. Find ways to feel good about yourself.

If there’s no rush for a divorce from your husband, there’s a reason for this. Pay attention to this and look for the goodness you can find in your marriage. Be grateful. As you look for this gratitude, more will appear in your life. You’ll still be able to make the choice in the future whether to leave the marriage or not. Being with the other man isn’t the answer to what you’re trying to achieve.

Eva says, I’m always trying to do the right thing for everyone. The Council says it’s time to do the right thing for yourself. Eva asks if The Council has any advice on how she should move on. The Council advises meditation. If you can’t meditate, just sit quietly for ten minutes and see what thoughts come to you and what direction it takes you in. It’s the quieting down of your mind that will give you a stronger direction and answers to your questions.

Now is the time to focus on what you’d like your life to look like. The more you can focus on this while being grateful for what you already have, the universe will deliver more loving and happy situations to you. Meditate. Do chakra breathing to align yourself and you’ll see your life get more clarity. Ideas will come to you through your intuition, which you’ll immediately know are the right directions for you.

Eva says, I’d really like to help this man with his little girl. I’d really love to be part of his life, but at the same time I don’t want to hurt anybody. The Council asks Eva, Can you seriously think about being in this man’s life and helping him with his daughter, and not being pulled into trying to make that relationship what’s missing in the relationship you have with your husband?

If you truly want a relationship with this man, we say take your time about it and focus on the way you want this relationship to be. But there’s a lot you need to look at now in your life with your husband. Look at it, learn from it, find the gratefulness, find the love, and then create with your mind what you want your life to be like. Your marriage was something that was preplanned in spirit and you need to focus on this first.


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November 16, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Gratitude, Questions & Answers, Relationships, You Create Your Reality | , , , , | Leave a comment

What’s Going On with My Troublesome Brother?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Peace5, who wants to know about their brother. Peace5 says, He’s almost 23 years old and has been very troublesome lately. I don’t know what’s gotten into him. Even though he has an incurable disease, he stopped taking his medicine, he stopped taking care of himself, and he’s very nasty with me and our whole family, even my 6-year-old son.

The Council suggests trying to find compassion for your brother. Imagine how you’d feel knowing you have an incurable disease. Some people can find a way to work with an incurable disease and have positive thoughts. Others, like your brother, become depressed. Being nasty and stopping his medication is a sign he can’t find hope. He can’t love himself. He’s going through this depression because he’s closed himself off to loving himself and accepting love from others.

We hope your family will be able to find some sort of therapy for your brother that will help with his depression. Once he’s able to have a few positive thoughts, once he’s able to change his lower vibration, hope will come to him and he can have thoughts of helping himself. He can’t cure himself when he’s in the vibration he’s in now. That vibration must be changed.

If it’s at all possible we recommend doing the chakra breathing meditation we recommend in another post. You can do this with him and so can the rest of your family. This meditation will help align his chakras so he can feel better.

Get your brother the first Emmanuel book, by Pat Rodegast and leave it in his room where he can find it, but don’t tell him to read it. Once he’s able to connect with this book and begins to read about depression, illness, dying, and changing his life, it’ll start to put him on the right path.

Peace5 says, My brother takes medical marijuana for his disease, but I believe it’s harming him more than helping him. He’s not interested in anything at all, including looking for a job. All he does is lay around all day long, sleep, and shower four times a day even though he doesn’t go anywhere. He fights with us, curses at us for no apparent reason, and doesn’t speak with us. What’s going on with him and do you think he’ll ever change for the better?

Again The Council asks if you can find it in your heart to feel some compassion for your brother? Try to understand he’s in a difficult place. Can you accept where he is now? Offer him love. Speak with him. Talk with him like he’s a regular person. Don’t tiptoe around him or not say things in front of him. Get excited and share your life with him. Tell him stories. This will be the beginning of your brother feeling cared for.

Don’t force your attention on him, but when you’re around him try to be joyful. If you can be in a joyful vibration it increases the likelihood of your brother becoming joyful. It’s important you’re whole family is very accepting of you’re brother’s situation and condition and forget he has this incurable disease. Forget he’s laying around. Forget he’s doing nothing. Just be nice to your brother and accept who he is.

The Council asks Peace5 to remember you can’t make your brother better. You can be in the right vibration around him. You can speak to him joyfully. Have your brother feel that no matter how he behaves, he’s accepted. Show him by your conversation that you care about him.

At first he probably won’t accept your positive intentions, but we ask you to continue with them anyway. When your brother sees no one is fighting with him, that you accept him, that you allow him to lay around if he wants to, that you don’t preach to him about doing nothing, he’ll eventually get tired of doing these things and begin to raise his vibration and begin to try and find a better way. In doing this and sending him love and light with your thoughts to help him through his difficulties, things will change.

There are many reasons why your brother may have chosen the life he’s currently living. He wants to understand his situation. In the spirit world, where we’ve either experienced a similar life situation in another incarnation, or we’ve seen others go through what we’re going through, we wonder if we can also do that. Can I bring love into that situation? Can I turn that situation around? Do I want to teach things to other people about how to handle this situation and how we all need to reach for love and show love in that situation?

That’s why we choose situations like the one your brother is in. There are many reasons, but the many reasons are unimportant. The main reason is: Am I bringing love into this situation? Am I bringing love and support and positive thoughts to the person who’s going through this difficulty? That’s what’s needed. In spirit we’re all confident we’ll be able to do this. In reality it’s much more difficult. The reason why we came here is to have fun. We came here to face every situation with love. And when you bring love into any situation, it must change.

Bob closes by asking if there’s a possibility of curing this incurable disease. The Council says there’s always this possibility and this, of course, is up to your brother.


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November 10, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Chakras, Channeling, Life Purpose, Love, Meditation, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, Vibration | , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Does a Past Life Explain Why I Can’t Make Friends?

This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who’s 22 years old and says, Since I was small I never seemed to have any solid friends or long-term friendships. They always seem to end in either dramatic ways or simply letting each other go one day and never speaking again.

The Council says they see a particular past life where a similar situation was experienced because Anonymous never behaved how you truly felt. You behaved as if you were being of service. There was no true friendship. You tried to make and keep friends by serving and doing everything for these people. You changed your personality and were the way you thought these people expected you to be.

In your current life it’s quite different. What you’re doing in this life isn’t serving as much as being of service to these other people. What you’re experiencing and what you planned to do was to be in communication and in a relationship with these different people, but to be in a way that would annoy them and have them find fault with you and pull away.

What you volunteered to do was to teach these people how to respond to others who aren’t exactly the way they want these people to be. In your current life you offered to help others, to be of service again, but just by being yourself and to have traits that these other people weren’t interested in.

What you set up was, at a very early age to somehow feel that you weren’t worthy to have friends. You set this up at an early age so that as you grew, you created relationships where you didn’t feel wanted and you experienced this by family and other people pulling away.

As you move forward, what needs to be done for you to change this pattern is to be who you truly are, but take the focus off yourself and show true interest in other people. Ask other people about themselves. Listen to what they have to say. When you show interest in others, that energy will come back to you and you’ll find others who now want to be with you and be interested in who you are.

This was a big challenge you set up. All these people that dropped out of your life,  how they handle it and how they learn from it is a lesson for them. It’s not your concern how they learn from this situation. You did your part by trying to teach these people to be different, to accept how they were, and to see you for who you really are. It was you helping many souls.

Anonymous says, I always wracked my brain why I can’t make friends because most of the time, especially since I was around 16 years old, I’ve tried my hardest to be a good friend and fit in. The Council says don’t try to fit in. Be yourself and focus attention on truly learning and being interested in other people.

Anonymous says, In high school I thought once I got to college where I could be with a new group of people and have space away from my parents, I’d surely be able to make tons of friends. But the same cycle continued and now I’m about to graduate. Currently I feel I have two true friends, my fiancé and my mother. I’ve also always butted heads with family members and in certain periods of my life I didn’t speak to one or both of my parents. I’m aware that when I was little my parents would sometimes say tell me I was unlikeable, but my current situation seems bigger than just a self-fulfilling prophecy. It feels like this is something I’m meant to overcome as part of my life purpose, but for a reason I don’t understand. Do I have a past life that could help explain why I feel, at the root of my soul, like an unlikeable outcast?

The Council asks you to connect the past life they mentioned earlier in the session to now. Decide you’ve done enough from that past life and you wish to have a new path in your current life where you truly appreciate yourself, don’t try to fit in, and be your true self. When you do, you’ll bring into your life the kind of people that are also able to appreciate you. Fitting in is what you did in this past life.

When you act one way because a person likes you that way, and another person likes you another way so you behave in that way, you are not being yourself. You’re being who you think these other people want you to be. Be yourself. Be kind. Be compassionate. Focus on positive thoughts. Be interested in what people are doing. Share your stories and you’ll see a difference.


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October 29, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Feelings, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , , | 2 Comments

Why Did My Boyfriend Stop Communicating With Me?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Momof3, who’s following up on our post, What Can You Tell Me About This Man In My Life? She says thank you so much for your response. I’ve been practicing what you suggested and was taking it slow and following my boyfriend’s lead. The signs I was getting from the universe were positive and I really felt like I was connecting deeply with this person. Was I wrong, because he ghosted me? He basically stopped communicating with me out of the blue and didn’t answer when I asked why. I thought everything was perfect and he just stopped. Do you have any idea why he did that?

The Council says at this time, a relationship with you isn’t what this man wants. Not knowing how to handle this, which is part of the lessons he wishes to go through, he just pulls away. We feel he can go back and forth on this issue until he realizes what he wants in his life. For you, knowing that he’s not ready for a relationship with you at this time, can you let this go? Or do you still want to do the inner work to create this relationship?

Momof3 says, I’m devastated and I feel disappointed and hurt for opening my heart to him. I don’t understand why he did this, especially since I felt we were so spiritually and deeply connected in a positive way. I don’t have any hard feelings towards him. On a soul level I feel he’s a good person and I still want to pursue a relationship with him. The Council says the way to pursue this relationship is to send this man love, wish him well in his life, and not try to bring him back. Wish him the happiness he’s searching for with the understanding that he needs to go through his own private challenges. In doing this the energy becomes lighter and more loving.

If this man is afraid to be trapped in something, this energy you’re sending him will change this feeling of fear. If he’s afraid you want more than he’s able to give you, this energy you’re sending him will also change this feeling. This is the way you move forward in this particular part of your life. If you still want a relationship, send him loving energy, wish him happiness, and always be thinking about how you wish the two of you can be together. If that’s now what you need at this time, send him love, light, and happiness. And hold in your heart the image of how you’d like this relationship to be. Make sure there’s no pressure. This is the message you give going back and forth while this situation continues.

Momof3 says, I know he has his free will whether he wants to pursue a relationship with me or not. And I guess he doesn’t want one even though I did want a relationship and I tried to manifest it. I’m wondering what I did wrong, or what I need to change so this doesn’t happen to me again. The Council says you didn’t do anything wrong. There’s the experiences you had together, and this man is learning from them, and hopefully you’ll learn from them. What do you want? Do you wish to go through this experience again? Do you wish to change this experience? Do you wish to let this experience go and create a relationship with someone new? The choice is always yours.

Momof3 says, I don’t want to go through repeat situations if it’s my lesson or if I need to change. Can you shed any light on this? The Council says you need to decide what you want and work with this energetically. There’s the challenge of you look at your behavior in the relationship. Decide what you think was positive and what you think was negative. What would you change to look at the relationship and see and hear clearly what this man put out to you in his words and behavior? Learn from this, then move on with your life and see which way you want to go with this relationship.

Momof3 asks if there was a miscommunication or does he just not want me? I followed my heart and my intuition. I thought we were awesome together, that we wanted the same thing, and that we could actually even complement each other. I was wrong. Now I’m doubting my own intuition and my spiritual guides, which upsets me because I can’t trust any feeling I have now. I felt like I listened to my intuition and was confident in the signs that I trusted were from the universe and my spirit guides regarding the relationship and moving forward with it, but it turned out to be wrong.

The Council asks what you learned from this? What are these signs you’ve seen, and how does that help you move forward? Look at the signs. Did you read them correctly? Everything is there when you go back into the relationship and, step by step, look and see what went on for both of you. What went on for you? What did you think? What are the words and actions this man used with you? As you learn from this you won’t have to repeat this experience.

Momof3 says, I don’t know how to let go of this situation. Can you give me any help? The Council says you let go by wishing this man love and light, and then with your imagination create a new relationship and the way you want it to be.


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October 27, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , , , | 2 Comments

How Can I Processes My Childhood Abuse?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Denisa, who asks about her childhood trauma. She says, I learned from The Council I chose this experience, but no matter how hard I try, I don’t know how to process it. The Council says, So you’ve learned about the trauma. Learning what you’ve gone through is enough to let the trauma go. Just knowing you created it to feel what it was like to go through it and change it to make it better.

Many people will ask, How do I process this trauma? And every day they think about it over and over in order to process it. Thinking about your trauma over and over only keeps you locked into it. We suggest not thinking about your trauma. You may feel this is strange advice, but when you don’t have those traumatic thoughts and pictures in your mind, it’s easier to go through it. It’s easier to process it by understanding you created this trauma for whatever reason and that’s it – the end. Don’t stay in your trauma thinking there’s some long drawn out purpose to it or process in it. There isn’t.

Instead of thinking about your trauma and how to get rid of it, leave it alone. Let it go. Take your mind and focus on other things, joyful things, things you wish to create in your life because thinking about that, you’ll create it. That’s the way you get through this trauma.

Denisa says, I’ve been working on myself a lot and sometimes I’m grateful for that experience, and sometimes I feel lost and don’t know what to do next. The Council says working on yourself doesn’t mean you go looking for all the things that are wrong with you. We suggest working on yourself by taking a positive attitude. When you have these positive thoughts, and when you can smile and feel good, that’s how you’re creating a better life for yourself.

Denisa says, I’d like to heal the pain I experienced as a child and move on. The Council sees you’ve gotten through this experience. The only pain you still experience is what you cause yourself by thinking about the trauma and remembering it over and over. You’re now creating more pain for yourself, which is keeping you in that painful situation. Change your thoughts. That’s how you let the pain go.

Denisa says, I haven’t spoken to my father in over 10 years because of the way he treated me. I’ve tried to connect with him in the past, but he’s very self-centered and manipulative, so I completely cut off contact with him. Do you think it’s okay that I don’t want to be in touch with him? The Council says of course it’s okay. He’s showing you what you need right now about how he is, and there’s no joy for you in that relationship. It’s what you’ve worked out in spirit. He’d create more uncomfortable feelings so you could walk away and let it go. This is part of him helping you to let go of that part of your life. Being around him wouldn’t make it easier. For what the two of you have worked out, communicating with your father will keep you in the trauma. It’s fine to let your relationship with him go.

Denisa asks if she and her father agreed go through this trauma on a spiritual level and The Council says, Of course. The agreement was to bring this trauma in and create an uncomfortable situation to learn from it and to see if you’re both in a place to heal it, or because of what’s going on in your lives, the healing wasn’t possible by staying together. And so one or both of you would create a situation where you can’t get along, and that’s the way you let go of this trauma, by not being around it. Stop keeping this in your mind and actively thinking about it. This is a gift that you give to each other to move on now.

Denisa asks what lessons did my father and I want to take from this experience? The Council says to learn about abuse, to learn about forgiveness, to learn about boundaries, and to learn creating joy in your life is what your life is all about. You don’t come here to suffer and be miserable. You come here to find a way to experience joy in this lifetime, to create it for yourself, and to help others find the joy they want. Help others in little ways to feel this joy. That’s your purpose.

Denisa asks if she and her father shared any past lives together. The Council sees a past life in Ireland where you were male cousins running an inn, and that was a very good life for both of you. You went through hardships. At one time there wasn’t enough food or enough money. There was a lot of community fighting. You learned to stick together and work through these diffuculties.

In your current life you wanted to understand how you’d handle another difficult situation, which was created by the abuse. Could you work through this? And does working through this abuse mean it’s okay to let it go and experience your life differently and seperately? That’s what’s going on now.

When Denisa finds herself focusing on the abuse that took place in her life, it’s a good idea to find something more pleasant to focus on. She can even think about the past life in Ireland where she had a very good life with the man who was her father in her current lifetime. Completely let go and know you’ve gone through this challenge of abuse. This separation is the way you both spiritually found to handle it. Now stop thinking about it and focus on creating how you want the rest of your life to be.


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October 13, 2021 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Helping Others, Life Purpose, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Why Do I Attract Abusive Behavior Into My Life?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Waimarama13, who asks: Why do I keep attracting abusive behavior into my life no matter how hard I try to keep myself safe? When I think I’ve closed the door on abuse, it finds me again in unexpected places and ways. The Council says with all the work you’ve gone through, the part of abuse you haven’t focused on is your fear of it. As you go forward and meditate, go into the fear. What does it feel like? What thoughts does it bring up? It touches on the part of you that feels alone, that feels a victim, that feels helpless. In your meditations, ask to see the source of what this fear is bringing up. It’s not necessary to go back into past lives about this.

How do you handle this fear? Do you ask for help when you’re abused? There’s no need to be alone in this abuse. There’s no need to feel frightened and confused. The part of you that’s strong and connected to spirit wants to handle this fear in a very adult and calm way. Have you reached out to get help for this abuse? What are the steps you take? We’re not talking about the boundaries you create to help yourself.

Waimarama says, I’ve been through three abusive relationships in my life and I ended the last and worst one in 2017. I’ve never had a healthy relationship with a kind and respectful man, and all I want in my life is to settle down with someone nice. After the last relationship ended I did so much work on myself to gain knowledge, strength, confidence, and self-worth to ensure I never got into another relationship like that again. I also did spiritual work. To this The Council repeats that Waimarama hasn’t dealt with the fear.

Waimarama says, I vowed my home would be a safe zone free from abusive behavior. For two years I’ve been with a nice man who treated me well, but now even this relationship is on the verge of ending because he can’t cope with how my youngest daughter behaves, and I can’t cope with it either. I’m so confused about why this is happening. The Council says it’s happening because you’ve all pre-planned it.

Waimarama says, This time it’s my eight-year-old daughter who’s abusing me. She’s an extremely lovely girl, but she’s mildly autistic, which means she has a lot of trouble with her emotions, especially anger. Her dad was my last abuser and I feel she’s learned his abusive behavior, but when she’s angry she’s actually treating me worse than he did.

2021 has been the worst and hardest year of my life. Early this year my daughter told me her dad and new stepmother were abusing her. I took over her full custody, went through court to fight for her safety, and eventually won. The Council says while you were doing all this with the thought of protecting your daughter and taking full custody, what have you done to prepare to take care of her? What are all the ways for you to get help for your daughter? Pulling her out of an abusive relationship is a wonderful thing, but your work doesn’t stop there. Your daughter has her lessons, which coincide with your lessons. Even though this is pre-planned, it’s up to you to make the environment what you want. Are you calm and strong when you see your daughter is becoming emotionally upset? When you see there are touches of violence coming from her, what do you do in the beginning?

It would be wise for you to teach your daughter about spirits. Teach her how she can reach out to spirits that are there to help her. Play games with her about energy. There are many wonderful books you can find and read with her about energy. Teach her to feel it. Teach her to know spirits are around her, loving her, and helping her through everything she’s going through. It would be nice to sit and speak of happy thoughts. Plan happy adventures, and start redirecting your direction and her direction. Instead we see you in fear, whether you feel it consciously or not, waiting to experience her next outbreak of violence. With the fear and your waiting for it, you’re pulling it in.

Waimarama says, While we were going through court my daughter broke down emotionally and her behavior, which was already very bad, turned insanely bad. She viciously attacked me many times, was very destructive, and could barely sleep at all due to long night terrors that lasted hours every night. She was also extremely violent during these night terrors.

The Council asks what are you doing when this is going on? Do you realize your daughter is helping you deal with your lessons of fear, lessons of being a victim, and lessons of being alone and helpless? And you’re helping her with becoming more than she is, and to have a greater understanding of what’s going on. These lessons that you’re bouncing off each other are right there in front of you. It’s important your daughter sees you’re getting her help. There are many places that will help you deal with the violence and abuse and how to physically stop it.

Teach your daughter about spirits when she’s angry. Start with the color red and see the number seven, as a game. Next can you see the number six? Six is orange. What else do you see with the number six? Let’s move on to the number five. Five is all yellow, almost like a daisy. What does that five feel like? Now let’s go to four. Four is all green, like a Christmas tree. Then we go to the number three. Three is all blue like the sky. Can you see clouds with the number three? Then we go to number two. Two is a beautiful dark blue. Are there stars in the blue? When we get to one we’ll feel wonderful. It’s purple. Can you see the purple around the number one?

You can do this as many times as it needs to be done. It will bring your daughter’s emotions down and will have a calming effect. Start slowly. As she does this, do it with her and tell her what you see. As you explain it to each other the emotions are blending, and with your intention you’re helping each other. Bob asks if associating the number and the color with locations in the body is a good idea and The Council says it’s too much at this time.

Waimarama says, I thought I was going to lose my mind and that I might have to give my daughter over to foster care to look after her. I also called the police quite a few times. Luckily in the last two months she’s been pretty good, calmed down a lot, stopped being violent, and isn’t so aggressive. I’ve spoken to her about how this is a peaceful home where we don’t attack each other. She says she understands, but she also says she can’t control herself when she gets angry. The Council says this is the feeling of being uncontrollable, which is one of your daughter’s issues. The colors and numbers will help.

Waimarama says, Unfortunately in the last week she started getting aggressive and angry again. Last night she kicked me in the face so hard she injured my neck. I feel so dejected, disappointed, confused, and let down by life. The Council says this is understandable, but what physical actions are you taking to help yourself deal with this, learn other methods to give your daughter the help she needs, and learn how she can understand what’s going on and help herself? It’s all about her learning about herself, what she needs, and asking for it. And it’s also about you asking for help as you go through this. You’re both helping each other with the challenges you wish to experience in this lifetime.

Waimarama says, I’ve done everything I can to keep myself safe and to ensure I only have respectful and safe relationships in my life. The Council says you can see everything you’ve done, and everything you think you can do isn’t working. There’s always more.

Waimarama says, Now it’s my own child who’s abusing me, and because I’m the only one who can protect her from her father’s abuse, I’m trapped with her, protecting her while she abuses me. This is so unfair. The Council says you’re protecting your daughter from her father’s abuse, but who’s protecting you? Why aren’t you taking further steps? Everything must be done on an energy level first. Work with the colors and the numbers. Take as much time as you can to see your daughter getting better. See the calmness come over her. Direct your thoughts to help you have the relationships and the calmness you want in your life in the future.

Waimarama says, I just can’t understand why abuse keeps following me like a bad smell. I realize there must be some kind of lesson to learn, but I thought I’d learned it by strengthening myself and my boundaries. When my child starts abusing me I wonder what the lesson must be. I haven’t willingly invited this abuser into my life. She’s my child and no one chooses to have an abusive child, or a child with neurological and emotional problems. The Council says, As a spirit you’ve willingly invited your daughter’s abuse into your life. Many people have also chosen to have a child with these problems, and you have chosen this also. As your daughter’s spirit came along to work with you, she chose to be this kind of person to help you.

Waimarama says, I’m concerned for my daughter’s future. If she behaves like this when she’s eight years old and unable to control her extreme rage, what will she be like as a teenager and an adult? Will she get herself into trouble abusing and attacking others? The Council says of course she will, unless you do the work and you work with her.

Waimarama says, I’m such a peace-loving person. I don’t know how to deal with my daughter’s problem and help her to change for the better. Obviously my peaceful ways haven’t had any positive influence on her over the years. I wonder where this is coming from within her, as I’d like to be able to help her. Has she learned this behavior or inherited it from her father, or is it her autism, or both, or something else? The Council says the autism was created and pre-planned by the two of you. That’s a part of the problem. What she’s learned from her father has also been part of the problem. Seeing you unhappy, in victim mode and not knowing what to do about it instead of being in your strength, which is the place you want to get to, is also a contributing factor. As you help yourself and you help your daughter, the situation will all come together.

Waimarama says, Will I ever be able to keep a nice man and have a healthy relationship? I’m forty-five years old now and because I’m having this huge difficulty with my daughter, I feel like there’s not much hope left. My lovely man says it’s too much for him to deal with and that he doesn’t want these problems in his life. Just when I need my partner the most, he leaves me to deal with this situation on my own and distances himself from us, which hurts so much and breaks my heart.

The Council says, These problems aren’t part of what this man wants to create in his life moving forward. We understand you’d like a partner, but before this can happen you must get to a place of strength, independence, and knowing how to handle what’s going on in your life. Your focus should be on your daughter, how to help her feel better, and have tools to make herself better. When you have this up and running, the right man for you will come into your life. Before that happens and before you start putting all your energy into finding a man, work on yourself, and see yourself happy in the future. You don’t need to know how this is going to happen. Just imagine yourself and your daughter are happy and everything will begin to fall into place.


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September 30, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Emotions, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Soul | , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

What Can You Tell Me About This Man In My Life?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Momof3, who’s curious about a man that has recently come into her life. She says, I feel very comfortable and safe with him, as if I’ve known him for years, but we just recently met. This Council says this was something that was needed at this time.

Momof says, I find myself wanting more in this relationship, but I’m not sure he feels the same way and this is unnerving for me. I’m surprised by my feelings because my husband passed away last year and I didn’t think I could feel anything for anyone else. The Council says it’s wonderful that you do feel for this man. You’re at a point in your life where you can create a relationship again. You’re not supposed to stay morning forever someone who’s passed away. If you meditate and talk to the spirit of your husband, you’ll feel him around you in another dimension or in energy. Going forward in your current life you want comfort and companionship. You’d like that feeling of love again and there’s nothing wrong with that.

Momof asks if this relationship was pre-planned or did I have previous lives with this person? The Council says this relationship was pre-planned. In one of your wonderfully happy lives you were a married couple in Hawaii. You had a life close to nature and believed in several gods and goddesses. You brought joy into this life and had many celebrations together. There’s a comfort in this person coming into your life right now, and you needed some comfort.

Momof asks if this relationship is just a passing thing because I’m grieving my husband’s passing and I’m vulnerable? The Council says at this point you can make this relationship what you wish it to be. There was a plan to make it something more than just passing by each other. With your thoughts and how you think about what you want you will create this relationship or not create it. If you want more, but you’re constantly afraid it’s your imagination and the relationship won’t happen, then that is what you’re creating. If you can meditate and picture the relationship the way you’d like it to be, picture it growing, but don’t rush it, then you’ll have that manifest in your life. It’s up to you. You both planned to come into this reality and create your relationship as you came together, and you’d decide at that point what direction you want to go in.

Momof asks if the relationship can actually be based on true feelings that we build on and find love again? The Council says this is a wonderful way to do this, so do the inner work. There are feelings on this man’s part, but how it moves forward is up to what you create and what you want. You’ll experience this relationship the way you create it.


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September 22, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Feelings, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Can You Provide Some Validation About a Dream I Had

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Conner, who says: I’ve been thinking about other lifetimes and I had a dream where I saw a woman named, Rachel, doing what appeared to be a slow dance or some sort of exercise. A voice during the dream told me that Rachel is the mother of my soul in another lifetime that will overlap with my current lifetime. Can you provide some validation about this dream and some impressions I’ve had?

The Council begins by telling Conner he already had other lifetimes with Rachel. In your current life, you and your higher self are already subconsciously creating two to three more lifetimes in your future. You’re already starting to create these lives by what you’re going through now, by who you want to have in those lives, and some of the things you want to experience.

Rachel is a soul you’ve known before from other lives and you’re planning for her to also be in the three lives you’re trying to create in your future. These lives aren’t perfected yet. All the souls involved haven’t agreed to be in these lives because you’re still creating what you want in these lives. It’s not fully ready in your mind how you want to be, the sex you want to be, what you want to look like, the length of your life, the lessons you want to learn, and the spirits you want to be with. All of this hasn’t been decided yet.

What has been decided is you have had other lives with Rachel and it seems the two of you like working together. She will appear in your future lives, but it hasn’t been decided in what form, but you are the creator. If you like to think of this dream you had and you want to get close to the feeling of Rachel, you can experience more of what you want to put together in the future.

When asked if The Council could comment on Conner’s impression that one or more of these three future lives he’s planning will overlap with his current life, The Council says, yes. What Conner is experiencing in his current life, he’ll bring into future lifetimes. He’ll bring in things he wants to experience again, things he doesn’t like how he handled them, or very funny and very happy experiences. There will be an overlap because Conner will take some things from this life and bring them into the future.

Bob asks The Council if what they mean by overlapping lives is that either of these three future lifetimes will take place at the same time as Conner’s current life. The Council says these future lives are already taking place in another dimension because Conner is creating them, but they’re not fully created.

Just a thought is a lifetime. A dream is another lifetime in another dimension. By seeing Rachel in a dream you’re calling her and she’s responding. The Council can’t tell you where these lives are going, who you’re going to be, how you’re going to be, or what your life is going to be because you’re the creator. We, in spirit, will learn with you as you create and as you move forward.

Conner says, I was also told this life I was dreaming about would have many variations in various realities with different individuals and different settings which would allow me to explore many places and perspectives. The Council says you can create this if this is what you want.

Conner asks if his interpretations of his dream are correct, and The Council answers, Yes, we feel you’re on the right track.

Conner wraps up his questions by asking, Is there anything else I should know about this dream and my impressions? The Council advises Conner to know what a powerful creator you are. While you’re living your current life there are already other parts of you that are being created in other lifetimes. There are parts of you you’ve already sent out to one, two, and three lifetimes beyond your current life. It’s an incredible thing that you can do. That’s why we always wish you to get in touch with the thought that you are the creator.

You are this powerful spirit living in your physical body because in your current reality you need a physical body to get around. But your physical body isn’t all of what you are. Tap into being the spirit. Tap into knowing how powerful you are that you’ve allowed and Rachel’s spirit has allowed the two of you to connect again, and to try and get you to understand you are planning future lives. It’s a wonderful, wonderful thing. You are so much more than your physical body.


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July 25, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Other Realities, Questions & Answers, Reincarnation, Relationships, Soul, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , | Leave a comment

Please Help Me Heal My Trust Issues with Women

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Clare, who is asking for help with her trust issues with women. Clare says, As far as I can remember I’ve never felt full trust in women. It’s as if I know they’ll betray me or hurt me. I had some close friends, but the relationships always ended without an explanation. What happened that I can’t have closer and beautiful relationships with women?

The Council says there’s one lifetime where you had a twin sister who received all your parents’ attention. She was a bright and beautiful child and you were in her shadow. In that life you always felt less than everyone else. There were many other lives where you chose to have lessons about trust, about being your own individual, and about believing in yourself.

There was also a life where a very good friend that you’d trusted, died from a disease. With that woman taken from you, there was always the fear of other friendships and close people in your family, particularly women, would be taken from you.

There were two other lives where you wanted to experience the other end of the coin and you became very competitive. You enjoyed taking men away from the women they were with, which made you feel powerful. There were times where you had other people get in trouble for things you did. This isn’t anything for you to feel guilty about. It was just the experience you needed. In your current life you’re trying to bring in a lot of women to heal all those lifetimes where there were trust issues, where there was hurt that came from family and friends, and where there were abandonment issues.

Clare asks, Is there something I can learn from this? The Council says to first acknowledge that this is something you’re trying to heal in your current lifetime. It started from one particular experience with parents, but it continues in one form or another in other lives where you didn’t understand because you felt hurt when women were taken away from you. And then you decided to be what you’d consider the evil person and cause trouble for others. That was just the experience that you, in spirit, wanted. In your current life it’s good for you to connect and realize it’s just a healing that you’re looking for with women.

You created a space in your life where this doesn’t happen for a time, there are trust issues with women, and relationships with women don’t work out. In going through this you learn how other people in your past lives felt when you betrayed them, when you caused trouble for them, or when you took a loved one away from them. Just by understanding these things and realizing that was then, this is now, you’re ready to heal this.

Work on one relationship at a time. Don’t feel desperate. Don’t doubt it will work. Don’t go into fear. Just let the relationship flow. Concentrate on how you want each and every relationship to be. Go into detail about what you want. Think about how you’d like each relationship to develop. With the ease and the love inside of you and the pride you get from trying to heal this, things can begin to change.

Clare says, I’m asking for advice because I want good friendships. The Council says that’s very possible in your current lifetime. Remember that you are the creator. When you connect all those lifetimes, and you realize why you’re going through all this now, and that this is a healing process, this will make things much easier.

The Council says don’t wait for your situation to explode. Just flow with it. Meditation would be a great help. Even if it’s sitting in a chair for five minutes, just resting, thinking loving thoughts, thinking about anything that would make you happy, thinking about future goals, and thinking about things you’d like in your life and bring you joy.


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July 19, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Healing, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, You Create Your Reality | , , , | Leave a comment

Help Me Heal My Relationship with My Dead Mother

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, PE, who’s asking for guidance about their relationship with their mother. I’ve asked for guidance on this website before and The Council strongly indicated our relationship was marked by a difficult past life. My mother passed away last year, but I continue to have troubling dreams about her.

The Council says you have the information about sharing a difficult past life and it’s now time to let that go. You can’t change what happened in your past life and how it affected you. Now your job is to deal with what’s going on for you in the present.

PE says, I feel guilty for not speaking to my mother the last few months of her life and for not always being compassionate with her. The Council says there’s no purpose for this guilt. The life you had with your mother was pre-planned in spirit. It was a life you both wanted. You wanted to learn from this life. You wanted to see how you’d handle it. And you wanted to see how you could turn this life around.

There are many times when this is difficult and you run out of time because one of the personalities decides to return to spirit. There’s the guilt you carry because you didn’t fulfill what you were trying to when you planned this life in spirit. Now your purpose is for you to understand your guilt isn’t necessary. You both played your parts in what was needed and you didn’t find the time or the feeling that was needed to speak with her before your mother’s passing.

What you need to understand is that you are both spirits. Where your mother is presently there’s no more anger and there’s no more bad feeling. Your mother is pure spirit and only sends you love. We hope you’re in a place where you can take this love in. There’s no part of your mother that wishes you to suffer. The dreams and the feelings you may be having are all from the guilt you hold within you and there’s no need for that.

PE says, Just when I think I’m making progress with healing my relationship with my mother, even after her death it feels like I’m taking a step backward or I feel stuck. The Council says this is because you go into your old thoughts which bring on old feelings and you begin to go into old patterns and slide backward. You need the discipline to constantly remind yourself you’re both spirits, you both planned this life in spirit, we accomplished what we could, and your mother was ready to move on. Now you’re left with how you want to bring closure for yourself with this relationship.

Of course meditate, but sit quietly and try to see your mother not as she was when she was in this reality in human form, but as a spirit in a beautiful and loving place who’s sending you loving energy to help you through this process. Once you can see her and you can feel you’re both spirits, you can begin to talk to her and tell her how it was for you and how it’s still bothering you. Perhaps you’d like a sign from your mother that all is well. Tell her you’ll accept the loving energy that she’s sending you to get you through your current difficulty.

We ask you if you’re really ready to accept loving energy from a woman who made your life difficult, even though this was planned, and it’ll help you let go of the guilt and move forward. Are you ready to move forward? Are you ready to make peace with your mother? Are you ready to accept the love your mother is sending you? That’s what needs to be worked on at this time.

As everyone grows and develops and learns to create, just take information from your past and don’t stay stuck in those lives. Take all this information and use it to further yourself in the life you’re creating at this time.

We in spirit, as we watch you and see how you grow, we learn from this and also grow. We are all gifts to each other.


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July 17, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | Leave a comment

What’s the Purpose of My Meeting This Man Online?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Puzzled Aquarius, who met a guy online 11 years ago, had online contact on and off over the 11 years, but they’ve never met in person. The Council says it wasn’t planned in spirit for this reality that the two of you would get together permanently.

The Council says the first past life we’d like to share with you that’s affecting your current relationship takes place in England. You were in a religious order living in a convent. In this life he was a gardener and handyman. You’d speak to each other even though you were cloistered and really shouldn’t have been conversing with this man. There was flirtation going on, and yet you both knew the relationship could go no further.

In that life you built a bond and shared a closeness that you experienced a lot of guilt over this because it was against your religious order. The gardener knew he couldn’t push you in any way to create any sort of a relationship. It was a strong friendship and that’s how it remained in that life.

After that particular life you both planned that you’d like to come back and be close and see where you could take this next life. But what happened was you created a life where you were brothers who were close, but there was also great competition. One was always trying to win over the other, trying to be better, trying to have more than the other. This was to learn how to try and be together without the rules, without anyone saying you can’t do this like they did in England. You picked being brothers and you tried to build a closeness then.

In your current life you thought you’d give a relationship another chance. There were no plans made in spirit to see where this relationship would go. You didn’t know when you’d meet, if you’d meet, or what would happen. In your current reality it was arranged that you’d see day by day what would happen.

There may be a closeness that’s felt, that you want the same things, but we also see in this lifetime there’s part of a subconscious memory of your life in England that keeps this man from taking your relationship further. He likes the connection. He likes when the two of you talk. He likes knowing where you are, but there was no close relationship planned. You agreed to see what happens. You’re going into this relationship again, but is it what you want?

If it’s not what you want, can you let go of it? Like your relationship in England, can you have conversations and meetings every now and then and be satisfied with that? That’s the best you and this man are likely to achieve in this lifetime. That’s what’s going on. Of course you can always try with your thoughts and feelings to make this relationship more if that’s what you want. You can create anything, but you didn’t plan in spirit that it would be more.

Puzzled Aquarius says, I don’t understand why, after so long, we get connected and disconnected and we never seem to meet. What’s the purpose of this. The Council says the purpose is for the both of you to see what you could create. What you’re experiencing is the best of what you’ve created in your current lifetime. That’s all that was wanted. Let’s see what we can do. Now that you’re aware of this, is it enough? Would you like to hang onto this, or would you like to look elsewhere for a permanent relationship?

Puzzled Aquarius says we’re both still single, no children, never married, but we both want these things and we have a deep connection when we chat. The Council says this deep connection is something you also had in the relationship in your lifetime in England.

We’ve video-talked also. It’s like we’ve known each other from so many lifetimes. Did we have a recent past life and is that the reason why we’ve found each other? What were we to each other if we did, and what was the point of this? The Council says these two lives we’ve described to you are what are affecting your present life. The point was to try and get together again and see if you could create more closeness and to see how far you could take a relationship with the freedom to do whatever. Coming and going is part of this freedom. With the understanding of why this relationship is happening, is it wonderful? Would you like to keep this creation, and perhaps create it again in the future?

This man would have difficulty committing to a permanent relationship in this lifetime because he’s not consciously aware the lifetime in England is affecting him, but it is. It’s not only how he acts with you. The subconscious memories from his life in England have him acting the way he does with many other people. He doesn’t have a desire to get closer. There’s a desire to keep his distance, being a friend, but not committing.

Puzzled Aquarius says, I want to meet him, but can you see if this will eventually happen? The Council says where you’d want this, we don’t see him wanting this at this time. And yet he’s the creator and can change at any moment.

This man likes the idea of speaking or writing to people and finding out they also want the same things he wants. This is a closeness he craves, but there’s no intention of going beyond this. He’s interested in finding people who agree with him and what he wants that these other people also want.

We don’t see your relationship with this man going in a permanent direction, but as the creators, as you develop, as you experience and live this life, you can change what you want. A romantic connection is there on some level, but not at the level you’re looking for.

Puzzled Aquarius may be able to find a permanent relationship if she chooses to look somewhere else.

The Council closes by advising us to take information from our past, but don’t stay stuck in those lives. Take all that information and use it to further yourself in the life you’re creating at this time. We in spirit, as we watch you and see how you grow, learn from you and we grow also. We’re all gifts to each other.


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July 16, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , | 2 Comments

How Do I Deal with Feelings of Ill Will Towards My Mother?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Ph, who wants to ask about their relationship with their mother. They say, I don’t like her and I guess I fear her because she was abusive and manipulative during my childhood and also later. The Council says when you were in spirit you both agreed on how she would treat you.

Ph says, I feel angry for having to interact with her and I’d prefer to never see her again. At the same time I feel guilty about this and I feel like I should be able to forgive her and have a normal relationship with her. The Council says there’s no purpose in feeling guilty. Your mother’s behavior is something that was planned in spirit and you both played your parts.

Ask yourself, what has this experience done to your thoughts and your feelings? If you cut off communication with your mother and if you choose to never see her again, will you feel that there’s no closure and no understanding? The part we’d like you to understand is that you planned this in spirit because it was an experience you wanted to go through to see how you’d handle this situation. Would you be able to turn your mother’s behavior around and have understanding why she behaved this way towards you? What did you learn from this? Did it make you fearful? Did it make you know your mother was someone you didn’t want to be like?

Going forward can understand forgiveness isn’t really necessary because no one forced this situation upon the both of you. You both agreed to have this experience. Can you look at your mother without hate and not wanting to be together with her again, and realize you are a powerful spirit? You can be with your mother and you can be in control of how you act with each other. You have the power if you allow this relationship into your life, but you decide to live it differently.

It’s important for you to constantly know you are a powerful spirit. You can get control of what direction this relationship goes in. And if you feel this relationship is something you don’t wish to go further within this lifetime, you can cut it off. We’re sure the two of you will come together again in another life to finish this lesson.

Ph says, I feel sad, angry, and confused because I want to care for myself and not deal with my mother. At the same time I feel I need to have compassion. The Council says as hard as this is to believe, you both agreed to experience this difficulty. You planned this in spirit step by step because this was something you wanted to experience.

Your mother came into your life to help you with what you wanted to learn and grow from. You went through the experience of growing up with her. That part is finished. Now ask yourself what you’ve learned. Do you want to put an end to it now, or do you bring love into it instead of blaming her for the way you were treated? How brave of you to go through this experience with her and have her teach you to hate her until you learn this is what you both wanted.

You both wanted to find compassion. If you understand who you are as a spiritual being and who your mother truly is, and if you choose to go the route of showing compassion, you will see a change in your relationship.

Ph wraps it up by asking what’s there for me to learn and do. The Council repeats, compassion and love, but first understand who you are. First understand you both agreed to experience the relationship the way you did. Now that this part is finished, where do you go with this? How do you want to take this relationship the rest of the way? That’s what you need to focus on.


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July 13, 2021 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , | Leave a comment

Twin Flames, Soul Mates, and Future Lives Together

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Rose, who asks The Council about soul mates and twin flames. She says, I was in a relationship with a woman for about 5 years, but we clashed a lot. So I left for one year and was in a relationship with someone else.

My grandmother passed away and I traveled alone to the funeral. Something told me to contact my previous love. When I returned home I decided I would leave the woman I was with for a year who was my fiance and pursue a relationship with my previous love. Two days after getting home and bringing my original love back into my life, my mother passed away. This shattered me, but my original girlfriend kept me afloat through it.

The Council says this is a role that you and your original girlfriend have played together many times. You’ve been a support of any kind that’s needed in each reality that the two of you have created.

Rose says, The love I have for my original girlfriend is something I didn’t think was possible and it’s grown stronger since we were together the first time. Once as she was leaving my house she looked at me funny and said, It’s like another part of me is staring back at me, like an extension of my soul. The Council says this is because we’re all one, and sometimes what you see in the other person is a part of who you are. When you see great love and recognition in another person, you’re seeing the love you have within you and the spiritual part of yourself.

Rose says, While I have no doubt that this woman being in my life was planned in spirit, I’m not sure what her role is. Is it possible that she’s my twin flame? The Council says she is not a twin flame, but you are part of the same soul group that has chosen to come together many, many times. There’s great comfort in this relationship in each reality, whether you’re being a mother, father, siblings, or friends. It’s something you’re very used to.

Many people believe being a twin flame means you are created at the same time and you go through many lifetimes meeting each other. There’s great recognition as soon as one meets the other, and you have this great feeling that this person you’re with is part of yourself.

Bob asks if twin flames have anything to do with one soul being born into two bodies and The Council answers that twin flames can come in many different ways. It comes when you’re in spirit and there’s a blending with another spirit so the two of you feel as if you’re one, but this feeling isn’t felt in every lifetime.

When you feel this connection it’s you, in your current lifetime, connecting to all the lifetimes you’ve been with this other soul where you’ve changed roles. As time passes there’s a recognition that begins to get stronger and stronger, but it’s started in spirit where you both begin.

There’s a blending of spirits and you always want to learn the same lessons, and you have a desire to be of support. That’s why you have such a connection. It’s such a feeling of great love because you’re recognizing this other spirit subconsciously and you’re feeling the love, but because there’s such a connection you begin to feel and understand the love you have for yourself.

Rose asks if it’s possible for this woman to be her partner again in another lifetime. The Council says it all depends on what you both decide in spirit. If this is something you both want when the two of you are planning another reality, you can make this happen.

Rose says, I can’t imagine spending a lifetime with a different soul. I understand I have lessons to learn that other souls may need to teach me, but is it possible our souls will decide to pair again romantically? The Council says in your relationship you have a desire to share what you learn from other souls in your current reality. What you each learn you share with each other, and this will continue into the other realities you create if this is what you want. You are the creator.


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July 8, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Soul, Spirit | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Are There Things We Ask For That We’ll Never Get?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Chris, who wants to find the meaning in giving up three years of her life to help her brother who was ill and eventually died. Then his son took his own life two days later in despair.

The Council says it was a wonderful thing that you were able to support your brother for three years. Instead of looking at your situation as giving up your life, you wanted to do this to learn to be there for others. You created exactly what you wanted.

Chris says she was beyond devastated while trying to pick up the pieces of her own life following this massive tragedy. The Council says it will help you to pick up the pieces if you look at how difficult the situation was for your brother, and your being there, whether you felt it at the time or not, was a great help to him. This help was something your brother wanted to feel. He didn’t want to feel alone. He wanted to feel support and you fulfilled that wish as well as your own wish to be there for someone else. This was three years of doing exactly what you pre-planned in spirit.

Chris says, My brother’s wife had sheltered her husband and their son from help and guidance from me and my sisters prior to their passing so there wasn’t any way for us to help them. After a year I was recovering and ready to get my life back. I was still hoping to develop a loving relationship of my own. Through my work in his office I attracted a wonderful man who was in a dead marriage. He was the most incredible man I ever met. It surprised me that I’d meet someone in my later years. We developed a close, non-physical deep friendship.

The Council says this was a time for you to realize what you loved about this relationship so that when you create something more permanent, you’d know exactly what you want. Your experience was to be in this relationship and feel the happiness as something different from the losses you experienced. What is it that you like? What is it that you feel was so important that helped you? Make a note that you’d like to experience these things when you create a new relationship.

Chris says, I thought finally this man was worth the wait, but this relationship seems like it’s going nowhere. I was hoping God was finally giving me a gift, but now it appears he’s not. The Council says you’re giving yourself the gift. You are the God in your life. If you want a permanent relationship, you should start now creating it with your mind. Feel what it would be like to be in a permanent relationship and have the kindness and interest you wish to experience. You are the creator.

Chris says she feels hopeless to ever have someone of her own, and The Council replies, This kind of thinking won’t get you what you want. Chris continues, After decades of looking and being open to love, I wonder if I’m meant to be alone? The Council asks Chris, Do you believe you can create the relationship you want? Do you believe you deserve it? Do you believe that you’re the one that will bring this relationship to you? If you can honestly answer yes to these questions, then this is what you’ll have. There’s no reason to wonder, Will I get this relationship? Will God bring it to me? Just by wanting this relationship, it’s there for you. Know that after everything you’ve come through, it’s your turn to experience happiness now, to experience the relationship you want, and move forward with your life.

Chris says, I’ve given everything in love and service and I feel completely empty. Thanks for your direction. Basically, are there things we ask for that we’ll never get?

The Council says if you don’t believe you can have what you want, and you don’t know that you are the creator of your life, of course there will be things you ask for that you don’t get. If you use visualization and the feeling of what it is you want, anything you ask for you’ll get. The only reason you wouldn’t get what you ask for is if you’re not working to create it.

Create in vibration first. See what you want in the dimension of vibration and then it must come to you.


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June 28, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Creation, Feelings, Helping Others, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , | Leave a comment

How Can I Help This Man Who’s Dealing With Loss?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Curious. She says, A family friend who I haven’t heard from in years, maybe decades, reached out to me recently because he’s dealing with loss and he’s having a difficult time with it. He thought that since I was also grieving he’d get in touch and maybe we can be a listening ear to each other. I’m trying to help him, but I’m struggling with my own grief. I’m very moody and sometimes I’m sharp with him. I talk about my own problems instead of helping him, so I’m not sure I can be of help.

The Council says the two of you pre-planned in spirit for this man to reach out to you, be supportive, and for you to help each other get through the grieving process. When you speak about your own problems, that’s a way of sharing and helping the other person, even if you don’t see it that way. You can talk about feelings and things you think about. When you share these it helps the other person. Don’t be so hard on yourself and know that this was planned in spirit. Your way of helping is by sharing. And pay attention to what this other person shares. It’ll make an impact on your life.

Curious was told she should try to be of service to others, so she’s trying. The Council asks if Curious knows when she’s of service to others she’s also bringing healing energy to herself. It’s never a one-way issue.

Curious asks, How can I be of service to him and others? The Council says by doing exactly what you’re doing. Go through your moods and feelings and share them. How the two of you share your experience with each other is how you help each other in this situation. When helping others, always be a good listener. Be compassionate and find comforting words that you feel. As long as you feel and believe it will help this person, share that.

Curious says, I’m curious if we’ve had past lives together and I’m supposed to help him during this time. The Council repeats that this was pre-planned and mentions that you’ve shared a few other lives together. Because of these other lives there’s comfort with each other, a lot of learning together, and a lot of joy together. In this lifetime, because you’re both dealing with grief, there’s the desire to come together and deal with this grief together.

Curious says, I don’t know his intentions and I don’t want to be rude and directly ask him what they are because he’s very fragile, grieving, and needing support. The Council says his intention is to support you and not feel alone in his grief.

Curious says, I don’t want to assume someone always wants something, but I wonder why he’s contacting me now. The Council says it’s not that he wants something from you. He’s contacting you so you can share your experience.

Curious asks if this relationship will be for a short time and once he’s moved on from his grief, things will be back to how they were and we’re just crossing paths for only this moment? The Council says they feel the creations you’re both working on right now is to keep this friendship and not disappear from each other’s lives. If the both of you continue to have these thoughts of a longer-term relationship, you’ll create this. We can’t predict ahead of time what you’ll create with your thoughts and your feelings, but you planned to stay in touch.

Curious says, This experience has shown me that I’d love to be of service to others and help them. I’m even thinking of trying to learn Reiki or something like that. Is this something I should pursue, or just stick to concentrating all my energy on my sons? The Council says they always advise pursuing healing modalities. By learning Reiki you’ll learn more about energy and vibration and how to work with it. This is a very good thing. By learning Reiki you’ll learn how to heal yourself, you’ll learn how to heal others, and you’ll be of service, which is what you wanted.


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June 15, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Healing, Helping Others, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

What’s Going On with This Relationship with My Co-Worker?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Gabby, who asks about a situation she has with a co-worker that’s become serious. She says, I remember when I first met her I felt something about our connection that I interpreted as romantic interest. The Council says that’s because a romantic interest is something you want to create in your life. On meeting this person you hoped a romantic interest was present.

Gabby says the feeling between us is intense, but after interacting with her for the past year or so, not only doesn’t it seem like we’ll have a romantic relationship, but the relationship has become very toxic and full of drama.

The Council says the relationship will go in the direction of drama if your vibration is wanting something and the other person isn’t wanting what you want. It’s like a little battle that goes on that begins to cause separation because right now you’re hanging on to something the other person doesn’t want.

Gabby says, I gave her so much love, but it’s like she has a wall and can’t accept any of it. The Council says it’s not that she can’t accept your love. She isn’t interested in that kind of relationship with you. When you give and give and give, at first it’s nice, but then the other person will begin to see you have feelings that they don’t want from you. This is when you have the drama and the basis of the relationship changes.

Gabby says, When I stopped giving so much I noticed that there’s nothing there, which makes me very confused. How can you have all this connection with someone and at the same time there’s absolutely nothing? The Council says you can have a wonderful and strong connection with someone because of the past lives you’ve had together, but that doesn’t mean that in this particular life there would be a romantic connection.

Gabby says, I don’t think this has ever happened before in my life and I don’t know how to interpret it. What’s the purpose of us meeting in this lifetime if our intense connection simply disconnects? The Council says the purpose that you set up in spirit before you came into this lifetime was to be supportive of each other. In spirit you didn’t create this relationship to be a romantic one.

Looking at this relationship what have you learned? Have you learned not to push to have something happen that you see the other person doesn’t want? It’s a simple lesson of being aware of what’s going on around you and in your life and knowing it’s okay not to have this particular relationship grow the way you want it to. It’s safe to let go of this idea of romance with this person and look for it somewhere else.

Gabby asks, What do this other person and I need to learn? The Council says you need to learn to be friends if that’s what you both want to create. You need to learn how to create distance between each other and how to live your own life and your own path and still be friendly.

Because of past lifetimes when there was a stronger connection, it was a fun thought for both of you to see if you could just come into each other’s lives and be friendly and help each other out. This is what you intended to experience. You just wanted to get together and make a friendship happen and share other parts of your life.

Gabby says, I’m at the end of my rope here. The Council suggests you let go of the rope and look around. When you start putting out the vibration of wanting to find someone who can come into your life and you can have that romantic relationship, it will come. Let go of the idea of a romantic relationship with your co-worker and wish this person well. Wish yourself well and go into detail about the kind of relationship you’d like. What kind of person? How would you like the relationship to be? See this and focus on it every day and it will come.


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May 25, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , | Leave a comment

Why Don’t I Have a Best Friend or a Partner?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Diana, who says she’s struggled with deep loneliness most of her life. I have good friends, but I’ve always craved a best friend who’s always there and I can trust 100% for support. I’m 46 years old and single, and I’d also love to have a partner or a husband. Is there something I’m doing wrong?

The Council suggests instead of focusing on not having a best friend, look at your situation differently. If you have many friends, they can all be a best friend. There’s always something in each person that will make you feel close to them. You’re lucky to have many friends. If you had one best friend and they moved away, you’d have nothing.

Be grateful you have these best friends. The more you can focus on being grateful you have them, one of them will become the way you want a best friend to be. Or you’ll meet someone new and you’ll bring this person in and they’ll act the way you want a best friend to be. Be more grateful for the friends you have. The more grateful you feel, the more you’ll be able to bring your life closer to the way you want it to be. By focusing on not having a best friend you’re attracting more of not having a best friend into your life.

Diana says, I’ve been attracting the wrong people. What can I do to change this? The Council says to appreciate your friends. They’re not the wrong people. They are spirits that have come into your life to teach you to learn about each one of them, and to teach you to be grateful and feel happiness they’re in your life. When you do that it forces you to grow. It allows you to bring people in your life or new people to a point where you can allow closeness. This is with friends,  people at work, and with a relationship.

If you can’t be grateful for the friends you have, you’ll never bring in the right partner because you’re searching. You’re searching for a best friend. You’re searching for closeness. And this searching prevents closeness from coming. When you’re satisfied and grateful for what you have, your friends become closer and the partner you want will appear. It’s all from your gratitude.

Diana asks, Will I find my tribe and husband one day. The Council says it’s all there for you. Change your thinking and it will happen. She asks, Should I move locations and start a new life,  or is that just escaping my issues? The Council says your issues will follow you wherever you go. If there’s somewhere you’d genuinely like to move to and have a new start, that would be fine. But if your thinking doesn’t change, if you’re not grateful for what you have, what you want won’t come to you because you’re resisting it with your thoughts and you’ll stay searching.

Diana closes by saying the loneliness is really affecting my mental health and I’d be grateful for your advice. The Council says don’t focus on your loneliness even though you’re feeling lonely. Begin changing your thoughts. Get excited about new friendships and a new partner in your life. Imagine how it will be in every way you can and in every detail. Keep thinking these thoughts and everything will change.


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May 17, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Gratitude, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Something Missing from My 10-Year Relationship with Boyfriend

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Loving Star, who’s had a loving boyfriend for the past 10 years, but she feels like something’s missing in this relationship.

The Council advises Loving Star to search within herself and asks what she thinks is missing and what she’s bringing to the relationship? How would you use what you find is missing to heal this relationship and bring more love and understanding into it? When something feels like it’s missing it’s always easier to blame the other person. They aren’t acting a certain way or they aren’t doing a certain thing. What’s missing within you? When you’re connected to your higher self there’s nothing missing.

The Council suggests you meditate. When you’re connected to your higher self you’ll feel the love with everything around you – with your partner, with yourself, and with your environment. Right now it’s important for you to search for what you feel is missing within yourself to find the answer you’re looking for. You’ll find this answer as you reconnect with your higher self.

Loving Star asks The Council, What was our pre-birth plan? Did we agree in spirit we’d stay together? The Council says you planned to be together. And when you planned this from a spiritual vibration, you thought you’ll stay together, you’ll have fun, you’ll do this and that and help each other grow. What’s happening to you now and what you’re feeling in your relationship is part of what was planned. You would notice the emptiness or something missing and you planned to find it, but within yourself.

Out of boredom or not wanting to do the inner work you’ll look for others and bring that into your life. When you constantly think there’s something missing, you’re looking for another answer. You’ll attract another person to you. Not necessarily the right person, but another person. Now you’re faced with the old boyfriend and the new boyfriend.

Loving Star says, I ask this quesstion because I fell in love with another man who, as you mentioned in a previous reading for me, was my father in another lifetime. The Council  says wouldn’t it be wonderful for you to find that love within you and for you? Love yourself.

Loving Star says, I talk to angels a lot and they told me this new man also likes me very much and he’s waiting for me to show him my love. I currently keep all my feelings for him inside me because I don’t want to hurt my boyfriend. On the other hand, I’d like to show this new man that I feel the same way he does.

The Council says if you do this, what do you expect will happen? Will you ride off into the sunset and be happy forever? That’s not why this new man is in your life. Ask yourself, if you share these feelings do you share them just to have the ability to share them and not expect anything else to happen? Or if you share your feelings what’s the intent behind this? What do you think will happen? Search these feelings within yourself.

Loving Star asks The Council if it’s okay for her to have these feelings for another man. I feel very bad about having them. The Council says of course it’s okay. You’re in a physical reality and with that comes a physical life with emotions, and thoughts, and lessons, and fun, and hardships. This is all part of being in a physical reality. It’s not necessary to feel bad about having these feelings. No purpose is served for you to feel bad about this. It’s just emotions.

Loving Star asks The Council, What happens when I show my love to this man? I feel very confused about it because I feel very drawn to him. I’d like to know your views, insights, and guidance on this situation.

The Council advised Loving Star to find out your intentions for sharing your feelings with this man. Is it just to share it to find out whether this person also has loving feelings toward you? Or is it to change your life? Is it to leave your boyfriend because this other person has feelings for you? There isn’t any right or wrong answer, but what do you expect and what do you want to happen? Do you just want to say, I feel very drawn to you and I just wanted you to know that? And then hear this person say these words back to you? Is that enough?

The Council says, We feel you’re looking for an escape. We feel you’re looking to fill a hole within you. This person has played this role to get you to this point where you have to decide what you need. Why do you need another person to make you feel good? Why can’t I feel good and love towards myself and just be happy with the people around me? Why can’t I choose out of happiness where I want the next part of my life to go?

The Council agrees what’s missing from Loving Star’s relationship with her boyfriend is really something that’s missing within herself. These two men are playing roles they said, in spirit, they would play so you’d come to a point of confusion and have to figure out your situation. Figure it out not just from your head, but from your heart. Connect with your higher self and see how it views the situation. What do you want? What are you trying to do? The answers will come to you if you try this.

The Council closes by saying that only love is real. When you go into spirit you take this love with you. When you’re in spirit and then you come onto physical reality you take this love with you. That’s what we’re all about.


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May 8, 2021 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Feelings, Healing, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | 5 Comments

My On/Off Relationship with My Sister-In-Law and Our Past Lives

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, SillyGoose, who’s asking about her relationship with her sister-in-law. She says, I feel like I have a strong connection with her and her husband from past lives. She can sometimes be very kind and sometimes she becomes very rude. I want to stay away from her, but then she manages to pull me back into her life again.

The Council says in a past life you were your sister-in-law’s mother. You were strict and trying to teach her, but she was a rebel in that life. When you handed out punishment you’d then feel guilty. She’d then pull you back in, make you love her, think she’d behave, and then she’d act out again. In your current life, part of her remembers how to pull you in. But there’s true love there between the two of you and your sister-in-law will get clearer on this as time moves on.

Understand this dynamic that’s going on now. If you can laugh at the idea that at one time your sister-in-law was your naughty little child that knew how to manipulate you, this is what’s going on in your current life. Understand you can let go of what she does and see yourself and her as spirits.

SillyGoose says, I’m confused if my sister-in-law really cares for me or is she just pretending to? The Council says your sister-in-law’s love is real.

When your sister-in-law is being rude, try to remember this comes from a time where she’d do that to annoy you as her mother. When your sister-in-law is frustrated she can turn to that being rude, but then afterward she’ll try and pull you back in her life again because she doesn’t want to loose you. Yes, there’s love there. Yes, you’re going through things. Yes, she’s going through things. But now you’re the one who has this information and can look at the situation differently. Just watch as your sister-in-law zig-zags back and forth. Perhaps you can find it somewhere within you to laugh about this because it’s a past life trait and it will change when you can accept it and be more humorous about it. Then you’ll be able to see the true love she has for you come through more and more.

Be humorous and patient with your sister-in-law. Watch how she acts as if you’re watching a movie, and your situation with her will make more sense as you begin to realize and understand her behavior is coming from a past life. Your purpose in this life is to love her again. This is what you wanted. Teach your sister-in-law that you accept her the way she is. Her purpose in this life was to know you’ll always be there for her and not leave her because she’s not a good person or doesn’t behave a certain way. You’re both learning from this dynamic that’s going on in your life and you brought these traits into your current life to help each of you learn from it.

SillyGoose asks, am I supposed to stay connected to my sister-in-law or is it better to stay away? The Council asks, with what you know now, what feels good to you when you ask yourself that question. The answer is within you. You know what it is. There’s no need for us to tell you. Ask yourself and do the work.

SillyGoose asks what lessons she has to learn from her sister-in-law, and The Council says, acceptance.


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May 5, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Channeling, Life Purpose, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , | Leave a comment

A Challenging Ex-Husband and Dependence on Her Mother

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Amorist, who says, in my life I feel I’ve been coping with relationships with many overbearing individuals. I assume there’s a purpose, but my ex-husband has been such a challenging person who I think fits the description of a narcissist. Empathy doesn’t come easily to him and he has very toxic ways of dealing with others.

The Council tells Amorist, you’re someone who’s trying to learn that you are a spirit in a physical body and everyone on Earth is also a spirit. Take a look at how you’re seeing these other people as overbearing and your ex-husband as being narcissistic. Instead of seeing these people as spirits that are pressing your buttons, see them as people who are pressing your buttons to see if you can look at them differently.

You may find these people overbearing and annoying, but can you get yourself to a point where you realize you don’t know what goes on in their lives. You don’t know what they’re going through. Can you see these people as spirits that are here with their own problems and experiences that they wish to go through and turn around? You’ve all agreed to be in this life together and to press each other’s buttons.

We love you as a spirit and we love you for everything you go through. But you’re in a place where you look at people negatively, which is fine because this is there to help you turn it around. Look at these people in your life that are annoying or overbearing and begin to see them as going through their stuff and trying to learn from it.

And in their own way when they get to a certain point they’ll see they are their higher self. You may not know it consciously, but your higher self is here because you want to turn your thinking around. We want to accept everyone for who they are and wish them well on their way.

Amorist asks about her history with her ex-husband beyond their current lifetime. The Council says because of what you wished to learn, knowing about your history is not important. What’s important is focusing on your present. You didn’t plan in spirit to focus on the past. You need to focus on what’s happening now and that’s what you wanted to do.

Amorist asks what her children are learning from her ex-husband. The Council says your children are learning from you how you respond to your husband. Do you speak negatively about him or about others? Your children will learn how you speak. How you handle these situations and how you speak will help your children on their path. Look at people differently, and have patience with them. Understand something is bothering these other spirits. You may not know what, but you can begin to understand we’re all here to have the fun of changing your thoughts and your life for the better. When you do this you’ll see how your world will change.

Amorist says, as a result of my ex-husband’s influence I’m concerned for the well-being of my children. The Council asks you to be loving and positive around your children. Amorist says things were so difficult for a long time. It was heart-breaking. Perhaps there’s something you can tell me about this situation that will ease my anxiety or help with my outlook.

You’re still focusing on what you’ve gone through with your ex-husband and your children. It was a difficult situation, but how are things right now? Is it still difficult? Do you still find the people around you to be obnoxious and difficult to get along with? Are you picking up on people’s bad traits? Are you judging them because they aren’t the way you believe they should be? It’s not so much about the other people, but about you, the way you are thinking, and how you handle these situations.

Amorist says, my mother is someone who is a very emotionally reactive and controlling individual who I feel seeks out disappointment and problems. The Council asks Amorist if she hears her judgemental words. This is what you see within your mother. Take another look. Look at her differently and understand your mother has her problems and difficulties, but there must be something positive you can see in her. Even if it’s the littlest thing we ask you to please focus on that.

Amorist says we’re living with my mother now and I’m really struggling with this situation. I want my own home so badly, but I don’t see the path forward toward that goal. The Council says when you become more accepting of everything, when you become grateful that you have a place to live with your overbearing mother, and when you can see good things in others your life will change. You’ll be able to move forward and have a better life, a home, and everything else you need, but you have to change your thoughts.

Amorist asks, how will I make ends meet and find a safe space for me and my children? The Council says safe space begins with love and positive thoughts. Do you play with your children? Do you talk about beautiful things? Do you point out what’s good or how other people are trying? Do you show this to your children? When you do these things you’re teaching them to look for the good in others.

Amorist asks, why am I dependent on my mother? The Council says it’s because you’ve decided to be in this place to learn from it. Amorist says, I love my mother but I feel sort of trapped, as though I don’t have space or privacy. I just want everyone to be happy and okay. The Council tells Amorist you must be happy and okay within yourself and then you’ll be able to see it in others. If you feel trapped in a jail cell, you’re the one with the key. We can promise you if you work hard to look at the good in others, if you can find the love you feel for people, if you can be grateful for what you have and teach that to others around you, when you do these things you’ll get what you need.

Amorist closes by asking, who am I in all of this? The Council answers you are a spirit who’s created this situation to learn from it, to grow from it, to bring love into this reality, to help others around you, and we’ll all grow together.


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April 29, 2021 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Life Purpose, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , | 6 Comments

What is My Life Purpose?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lisa, after she read our post, Feeling Like I Want to Go Home Even When I Am Home. Lisa says she’s also had a strong longing to go home recently. She’s a strong empath and sometimes the emotion and struggle that people feel during this Covid pandemic leave her blindsided.

Lisa says she had a near-death experience when she was 17 years old, but I decided to fight to come back into her physical body. Since then I’ve always felt everything in my life is temporary. I find it difficult to commit to relationships or jobs. The Council says it wasn’t so much of a fight as a decision to come back. They add that everything in everyone’s life is really temporary and this is fear you’re picking up from other places.

When you’re an empath and you don’t meditate and work within the light to protect yourself, you’ll pick up so many feelings that aren’t your own. As a result you cut yourself off from connections to others, jobs, family, and there’s a feeling of being lost. It’s very important for empaths to meditate, to walk in nature and go barefoot when possible, to sit under trees, to have a garden or have plants in your home. Plants will ground you and make you more capable of handling what goes on around you.

Empaths are so wide open that you can go into a room and feel very uncomfortable. You might think there’s something wrong with you and that you’re not very sociable. There’s an uncomfortable feeling you’re not aware of that you’re picking up from people in that room. If someone is angry or not feeling well, you’ll pick up all these emotions. If there are ten people in a room, you’ll pick up ten different feelings. You won’t realize it consciously, but there’s a feeling of not being yourself and wanting to withdraw. Many empaths need a lot of time for themselves and to be by themselves.

When you get out of bed each morning try imagining there’s beautiful white light coming from spirit and wrap it around you like you’re in a cocoon of white light. This will protect you from picking up all these unwanted feelings from other people. You can walk down the street and be fine and then all of a sudden you’re feeling angry or in a bad mood because you’ve passed by someone on the street and you’ve picked up their feelings. If you’re sitting and talking to someone you need to learn how to say to yourself that you’re going to consciously check out where their emotions are at. Do they really mean what they’re saying? Are they in a good place or not? What is their intention? You can do this when you want to tune in to other people’s feelings, but you need to learn how to protect yourself in order to work with these feelings.

Lisa says she’s 44 years old and worried she’ll never fulfill the reason she came back into her body from the NDE all those years ago. The Council says you came back to learn how to be in this reality, to learn about other people and how they feel. When you know how people really feel you can talk to them and help them get to a better place without their necessarily realizing this is what you’re doing. This is one of the things you wanted to do in this lifetime, to help people feel better, but you have to put yourself in a better place before you can do this.

Lisa says a friend has reassured her that she’s a loving and warm person that makes a difference to people in her life and this might be all she’s here to do. The Council says that by saying this is all you’re here to do, you’ve got no idea the job you’ve signed up for. This is a wonderful path you’ve chosen. If you just go around in your lifetime and help people feel better, you’ve accomplished more than you can imagine. And when you return to spirit we’ll show you what you accomplished.


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April 13, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Emotions, Feelings, Helping Others, Life Purpose, Meditation, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , | Leave a comment

What’s My Life Purpose Now That My Husband Has Passed?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Grieving Widow, after she read our post, Why Did My Partner Crossover Sooner Than Expected?  She says I also have similar questions. My husband passed suddenly in a car accident and I’m unable to accept it. I’m constantly trying to connect with him and continue our relationship.

The Council asks Grieving Widow what she’d need to accept her husband’s death. You know he’s no longer in your physical reality, but he’s here in spirit. There are ways you can connect with him through meditation or asking for a connection in your dreams. You can ask for little signs he’s around that would give you the comfort he’s really gone nowhere. He’s still part of your life, being around you, seeing what you do. He left because it was his wish and his time to finish this lifetime. It was to give you a chance to explore more of who you are and what you want moving forward.

Grieving Widow says she doesn’t want to be here without her husband and asks The Council what is her purpose here without him? The Council says to find out who you are. What would make you happy? What ideas did you have while your husband was still here about things you wanted to do, but never had the chance? Now is the time to move forward and do these things.

Grieving Widow says we have three sons and my relationship with my oldest isn’t good. How can I help him with his life lessons and be the best mother to all my sons when I can’t even find joy in anything anymore?

The Council asks Grieving Widow if she’s saying she doesn’t find joy with her children? Do you focus at all on how to be with them, be part of their lives, and invite them into your life to give you some sort of comfort? Communication is needed here. There’s a coming together to bring you closer together.

What you need to remember is that your children will see how you’re carrying on now that your husband has passed on into spirit. How do you handle this? Do you show them that you’re aware your husband is now in the spirit world, and that you know at some point you’ll all go back into spirit, and that your husband is helping all of you from spirit? Do you talk to your children and uplift them in this moment?

The loss of a husband is traumatic, but your children have lost their father. Do you focus on that? This is a way for you to learn to be of service to others, and at this point it’s your children that need you. How will you be of service? The Council reiterates that much more communication is needed.

Grieving Widow says, I don’t believe I chose to be without my husband and I’m struggling to find a purpose to stay in this life. Do I have a purpose to remain here? The Council assures Grieving Widow that you did plan in spirit with your husband that he would pass. Your purpose, as we mentioned before, is to find out more about yourself and what you would like. What are your interests? Hold your children together. Bring your family closer. Be of service to others.

The Council understands in the human form this is a very difficult time for you. Give yourself more love by accepting you are sad at this moment, accepting this is a grieving time, accept all of that, but somewhere within that make time to help others through what they’re going through.

Grieving Widow says, I feel my sons will learn their life lessons better if I’m not here because I feel I hinder them. The Council reminds Grieving Widow that she is part of her children’s life lessons and they are very aware of how you speak and how you act. Remember that the way you do this, you are adding to their lessons and showing your children how to be and how not to be. They need you in their lives for many more reasons. Be aware of your behavior and your communication. This is part of what they agreed to learn and you have all agreed to this.

The Council understands Grieving Widow’s feeling that she’s hindering her children, but because you’ve all agreed to your husband’s passing, you don’t hinder them. And if you feel you hinder them now, how do you change that? If you can learn how to meditate and how to find things to be grateful for it will change your vibration and help you through this time.


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March 7, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Death, Gratitude, Helping Others, Life Purpose, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , , | 9 Comments

How Can I Help This Man With His Commitment Issues?

This post answers a question for The Council from a reader named, Aquarius, who has a follow-up question to the ones we answered in our post, Why Has the Man in My Life Become So Distant? She says thank you for providing me with some clarity on this situation. Can you tell me how I can help this man with his commitment issues?

The Council says because this man is afraid to commit to an intimate relationship at this time, giving him room right now is the best thing you can do. If you try getting closer to this man at this time and push the relationship, this will go in the opposite way of what he needs. Be more of a friend right now and make the relationship as free as you can. Let this man come and go. When he does come, be there and enjoy the relationship for the way it is.

When there’s no pressure to take the relationship further and there’s just a lovely time getting together, in time this will help his commitment issue between the two of you disappear. Right now the best thing to do is to be friendly and give this man the freedom that no one is pushing him into a corner. Without going too deeply into what’s coming up for this man, these commitment issues are something he’s gone through in another lifetime.

Don’t force this relationship. Be loving. Be fun. Be open. When this man feels the want, not the need, to be around you, the relationship can begin to change.

If Aquarius has a desire to explore other relationships while she’s waiting for this man to work through his commitment issues, it’s up to her. Isn’t it wonderful that the choice is hers to decide how she wants to handle this situation? Do you want to see other people while you’re working on this relationship with this man? Or do you want to just concentrate on this man? This is why you’re the creator and you have the freedom and the choice, moment to moment, to make any choice you want. And if you don’t like the choice you make, you can make another choice.


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February 26, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , | 1 Comment

Why Do I Feel This Connection to a Man I Work With?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Loving Star, who was introduced to a man 10 years ago and from the moment I met him I felt a connection on a deeper level. Even though I feel his affection for me, I didn’t show my own affection because I was surprised by the connection itself. Why do I feel this connection?

The Council says this connection is from a lifetime where this man was your father. During most of that life he was caring for you and you had your father up on a pedestal. When you were ready to marry and leave your father it was difficult for him to let you go. In your current lifetime there was a pre-birth spiritual agreement to come back and care for each other again like you did in that former life.

In your current life do you notice the way this man cares? Do you notice if he’s there to guide you in different ways? Does he help you when there’s a problem? Does he help you get ahead? It’s that fatherly feeling that’s coming through in your current life, even though this time around the two of you aren’t father and daughter.

Loving Star says, the reason I’m asking is I started working in his law firm and I feel our connection is much stronger than before. I feel like we’re on a similar wave, but can’t explain why. I feel like this connection is mutual. Why did we meet and what did we agree on as spirits when we entered this life?

You worked for your father in this past life. He ran a bar and you served drinks and food and cleaned up. You brought this aspect of your past life into your current reality where you work for this man again. You’re on the same path as before. Working with this man should make you feel very comfortable.

Loving Star says, I see this man cares about me and helps guide me in my career. Is that why we met? The Council says, yes. Loving Star asks, what other gifts can we pass on to each other? The Council says even though the two of you don’t share a romantic pre-birth plan, there was a plan to be in each other’s lives, to be comfortable with each other, and to help each other. That closeness was wanted. You both wanted to be together again and not leave each other like you did in the past life when you were his daughter and got married. What was spoken about in spirit before the two of you came into this life was that you’d always sort of know where the other person was, and that was enough. That was the comfort that was needed.

Loving Star asks if there’s anything important I should know about us. For example, did we agree that a romantic relationship will develop between us? The Council tells Loving Star you didn’t plan for a romantic relationship, but life always comes along and gets in the way and gives you additional experiences.  If a romantic relationship is something you both feel you want and you both think about this constantly, you’ll create this, and that’s fine. A romantic relationship wasn’t something you planned for, but you can create it.


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February 25, 2021 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Other Realities, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | 2 Comments

How Can I Help My Children?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, StrugglingMom, after she read our post, Is My Life Purpose to Save My Husband from Himself? StrugglingMom says, this post sparked a question about whether my purpose is to help my children, especially my oldest son, and to ask how I can do that.

The Council says your life purpose is all about you, not about saving other people. When you agreed to have these spirits come into this world through you, you agreed to allow them to come in to create the kind of reality they want. They already have in mind the lessons they want to learn, the challenges they want to work through, and if they want to be of help to other people. This is all set up within that spirit. Your purpose is to allow these spirits to come in and then let go and watch what they’re creating.

If there’s a way you can guide them to make their way a little easier, this is helpful, but your purpose isn’t to save your children from whatever they go through or to change whatever you think they’re going through. Your purpose is to give your children love and support in the gentlest way you know.

StrugglingMom asks, do my children and I share any past lives or lessons to learn because we have a difficult relationship and I’m struggling to be the mother my children need. The Council says one of the lessons here is about abandonment, which is what you and your oldest son experienced in another lifetime. In your current life you agreed to be together and work with each other through the difficult times you’re experiencing and not to abandon each other.

Look at what your oldest son is going through and find a way to have discussions with him. Give him guidance on how you think there might be an easier way to go through what he’s experiencing. Discuss what you think and the challenges you’ve gone through and how you worked through these challenges. It’s by your example and by teaching your son what you did to get through your experiences that give him a basis for how to work through his own stuff.

A lot of these children that are difficult and don’t follow rules are very advanced and want to grow up and make their own rules and change things. And they want to do this quickly. Sometimes these children are called Indigo Children because they know they have lots to do in their future, but they’re confused right now with the challenge of growing up under their parent’s rules.

You don’t need to let your son do whatever he wants if you believe it’s unsafe or mean. You can explain another way he can accomplish what he wants. The more discussion you have with your son, the better it will be. Discussion can help things turn around quickly. And by discussion we mean talking about each other and to each other, but not in a way your son is likely to experience as nagging.

Your purpose with your son is to listen to him, be supportive, and not get to the point where you’re so upset you do nothing and conversation stops. This is a form of abandonment. Your son wanted to learn how to be himself, whatever he chose to be in this life. No matter how he chose to be, you would be allowing and accepting, guiding him gently another way, not through punishment or abandonment, but through listening and relating back and forth.

The Council says StrugglingMom and her oldest son shared a past life together as brothers who had no family and they both felt abandoned. In his current lifetime your son wants to work through his abandonment issues and he wanted to have parents that were there to guide him.

StrugglingMom says, I don’t know whether to push him or just let him fail when he refuses to go to school or do schoolwork. Do I punish him and force control? Or do I just let him be, which makes me feel guilty because I feel like I’m taking the easy way out and not being his mother?

The Council says StrugglingMom’s guilt serves no purpose. As a parent you realize there are school requirements that need to be met. As your son moves through school even though he’s not interested in it, discuss with him why it must be done. When he goes to school or does his schoolwork you should praise him and this will give him more motivation to continue.

If your son’s path is difficult because this is what he’s creating, and if he fails and you know in good conscience that you’ve tried to put him on a path you feel has advantages, then his wanting to fail is part of what his spirit wants to experience. Your role is to do what you can as a parent to explain how your son’s education is something he needs to do to improve himself for when he grows up. If you can do this then you’re not abandoning him. If you throw your hands up and say I give up, and your son fails, your son will experience abandonment again. What your son hopes for, no matter what, is you don’t abandon him.

You can help your son heal his abandonment issues through patience and communication, and talking about yourself and what you’ve gone through. Talk about how it’s difficult to see your son not trying. And talking about how you’ll be there no matter what road he picks, whether he tries or whether he fails This will help.

Once your son understands you’re there for him no matter whether he succeeds or fails, instead of having to continue going through the lesson of abandonment, that lesson will be changed because you’re letting your son be the way he needs to be. In accepting and allowing your son, you also allow his lessons to change and allow him to heal.

By StrugglingMom agreeing to be part of these abandonment issues, if her son fails, how will this affect her? What does that bring up for her? There are also abandonment issues StugglingMom wants to learn about. StrugglingMom and her oldest son are handling abandonment in different ways. It’s like different ends of the same stick. The son at one end doesn’t want to be abandoned even though it’s a difficult situation. He wants to see what his mother will do.

On the other side of the stick is StrugglingMom. She doesn’t want to throw her hands up and give up, but at times she feels like it’s no use. Does she give up? Does she abandon her son? Both are facing issues of abandonment and they’re trying to help each other through these issues.

The Council says one of the hardest parts of being a parent is to allow these spirits to come in and then feel responsible for how their child creates its life. You are supposed to bring the child in and then allow it to be whatever it needs to be, and to be there for your child as they go through whatever issues they’re trying to work through.


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February 21, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Agreement, Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Guidance, Helping Others, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Feeling Guilty Over My Mother’s Recent Passing

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Darla, whose mother recently transitioned to spirit with Alzheimer’s Disease. Darla cared for her mother at home up until the last two weeks of her life when she was moved to an assisted living facility. She says the disease left my mother unable to eat or drink, but her memory was intact and she was able to talk to me almost until the very end.

The Council asks Darla if she’s able to appreciate what she’s gone through and that you offered to care for your mother during a time that was so difficult for you?

Darla knows her mother is at peace now, but she suffered tremendously the last few months, often lying on the floor crying in pain. I felt helpless as far as helping my mother get better and it was torture seeing her suffer.

The Council says many people come into this reality to learn about suffering, or to teach someone else about it. Sometimes as they go through this suffering they might tell you that they know you can help them, but you’re not doing it. This is just to bring the lesson of suffering further into your reality so you can feel the guilt, and learn there’s no purpose for it except to help you grow in another direction.

Seeing your mother suffer and knowing it was difficult for you, what did you experience from this? Instead of feeling guilty that maybe you haven’t done enough, focus on what you did do. This is very important for you.

Darla still feels the heavy weight of guilt in her heart as she chose to honor her mother’s wishes to die without any artificial means of sustaining her life. And The Council asks, why would you feel guilty when you’re doing exactly what your mother wanted?

Sometimes that feeling of not doing enough or trying to stop another person’s suffering is because you don’t understand the full experience of what’s going on here with soul growth and soul experiences. So you learn from the suffering.

Before you came into this reality from spirit you both agreed to experience your mother’s difficult passing. You did exactly what was supposed to be done by having your mother go through her life and ending her life the way she wanted. This was to push you forward so you can learn to experience the love you showed her rather than the guilt.

We’re all here to bring love into every situation. The love you showed by being able to stay and be a part of her passing, and help where you were able, and let your mother have her way and make her transition the way she wanted, shows you are a brave soul for going through what you’ve chosen to do.

This is what you wanted to learn. This was your mother’s way of teaching you to realize who you really are. You are both spirits who agreed to go through this difficult passing, and this would give you the opportunity to bring love into this reality. Take your thoughts and change what you focus on and look at all you’ve done.

By learning to let go of the guilt, your mother, who’s in spirit now, will be overjoyed to know that what you had planned had worked. You wanted to bring love into yourself and feel good about yourself. Realize you helped your mother, who wanted to experience this difficult passing and she wanted to see how the people around her would handle this situation. Your mother wanted to teach you to go through this challenge and when it’s over to realize what a great human being you are to go through this so beautifully.

The Council says they feel the last two days of your mother’s life she was more back in spirit than in physical reality. A lot of what you saw your mother going through during this time wasn’t fully experienced by her because she was already with us.

Darla asks if her mother forgives her for not being able to help her. The Council says this is where you’re wrong. There is nothing you need forgiveness for. Your mother loves you so much and she’s so proud you’ve fulfilled what you both wanted. Your mother has a wonderful feeling in spirit that you were both able to pull off her passing the way she wanted it.

Darla asks if her relationship issues with her mother from past lives are resolved. The Council says there’s more to come. This particular challenge is something that both of you wanted to experience to help each other grow in your current lifetime. There will be future lifetimes you’ll share with your mother and work through additional relationship issues.

The Council applauds Darla for what she’s gone through and how she’s handled it and followed what you both planned to the tee.

The Council closes by thanking Cynthia and Bob for having the ability to take their information and have so many people be open to it, and get understanding from it, and get relief from what another spirit has gone through.


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February 17, 2021 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Helping Others, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Why Has the Man in My Life Become So Distant?

This post answers questions from a reader named, Confused Aquarius, who says the man in her life has become distant and he’s not the same man anymore.

The Council says it’s not this man’s intention to hurt you. There are other issues he needs to go through. One of the issues affecting him from past lives that he’s trying to work out is the issue of commitment. There’s a fear of commitment because of what he’s experienced in other lifetimes. He wants closeness and finds it, but fear enters into it and there’s a pulling away. His pulling away isn’t about you or something you’ve done to cause this. You volunteered in spirit to come into this lifetime and help this man learn about his fear of commitment.

Confused Aquarius says this man has gone from one extreme to another and he’s left me so confused. The Council advises Confused Aquarius to forget the confusion. You’ve entered into a relationship with this man to help him grow and to figure out what you’ve learned. What was the relationship like? What parts of it do you want to continue? What parts of this relationship do you not want to create again? You are both helping each other to grow.

Confused Aquarius says, just when my walls came down, he’s changed. He says he has a lot going on, but I can’t help but feel shut out of his life. He’s very intuitive and I feel he was drawn to me because we shared a past life. The Council says he was drawn to you because of a very strong agreement that you made in spirit. He wanted to face this challenge, learn from it, and not have to experience it again. And this makes the attraction between the two of you possible.

Confused Aquarius asks if there’s anything The Council can tell her about the past lives she’s shared with this man so she can better understand their meeting in the current life. She’s very confused why he entered her life in the first place. The Council says the challenges this man is facing, including the big one about commitment, weren’t created in another lifetime that you shared, but it’s something he’s experienced in many lifetimes. Because you know of each other from past lives, you agreed to help him, and you also agreed you would learn from this relationship.

The Council says it was planned that Confused Aquarius and this man would ultimately overcome these commitment challenges, but everyday life gets in the way. They say we’ll see what they create and where they take this relationship.


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February 16, 2021 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Helping Others, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit |