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Why Aren’t My Partner and I Planning to Have Children?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Denisa, who asks for guidance with her relationship with her life partner. We’d love to start a family together, but still nothing happens. My life partner keeps talking about wanting to have children with me, but he also mentions that he’d like my financial situation to be similar to his. I’d also like that, but I don’t know what to do to improve my finances. It seems very difficult for me right now. Is my financial situation the reason we don’t try to have children, or is it something else?

The Council says your finances are part of the reason you’re not trying to have children, and it comes from a lifetime you had as brother and sister in a very poor family. There wasn’t enough to eat, there wasn’t enough clothing, and you had no education. You were the older one and took care of your brother. You found the means to feed both of you and move forward in life. You were the one who took care of your brother.

In this life your boyfriend has the subconscious memory of the previous life. He desires you to be in a better financial situation, thinking this will take care of you both going forward in this life. Your boyfriend doesn’t want to have children where there will be an experience of lack. It’s the memory of you taking care of him, and that’s what’s causing this delay with children and with wanting you to have a better financial situation before you go forward.

It’s not that you have to do better financially. It’s that your boyfriend needs to deal with his issue of being able to independently take care of you and a family. That’s what he wanted to learn going forward. In that past life you took care of him. In this life he wanted to take care of you. And yet these memories are within him and so he can insist you do better financially.

This is where the hold-up with having children is coming from. If you both can agree on it we suggest you have children now. Your boyfriend will learn he can fulfill the role of being the breadwinner, being independent, learning how to be a family man, and learning how to take care of himself, you, and your children.

Denisa asks, Have my boyfriend and I agreed in spirit to have children in this lifetime? The Council says yes. You both want this a great deal, but there are the memories and past lives you need to work through. You need to understand where this desire for your financial stability comes from and you both need to let go of this.

Denisa asks, What can I do to improve my financial situation. The Council says that isn’t necessary. That isn’t what you need to do. What is meant now is to have conversations and be in a place where you can express that the financial situation you have, what you make now, is more than enough for now to start a family. Eventually we see you can make more money, but what’s needed is to express that your situation is okay and you believe he has the ability to take care of you, himself, and a family. Give him the confidence to go forward with this. This is what was agreed upon.

Eva says, It seems to me I don’t know which way to go. I’m thinking about writing a book about my childhood, what I’ve been through, and what I’ve learned from it. The Council says writing is very powerful, and writing is energy. We’d say write about your childhood or anything else because you’re putting more energy out and that will bring you more financial success.

Eva asks, What is the main purpose of our relationship? The Council says to be supportive of each other. Support your partner with words that give him confidence. Your partner wanted to teach you to be the supporter, the one who listens to the questions, the one who’s able to talk about what’s worrying both of you. You would bring guidance to your relationship. You’d make things are clearer for him to give him the opportunity to grow. As you listen to him and give him confidence, you are growing also because you’re fulfilling what you both agreed to.


Listen to the entire 5-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Eva and the rest of us and let us know what you think about it. Or you can ask The Council your own question by typing it into the Comment box that appears at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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November 18, 2021 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Guidance, Life Purpose, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Why Did My Boyfriend Stop Communicating With Me?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Momof3, who’s following up on our post, What Can You Tell Me About This Man In My Life? She says thank you so much for your response. I’ve been practicing what you suggested and was taking it slow and following my boyfriend’s lead. The signs I was getting from the universe were positive and I really felt like I was connecting deeply with this person. Was I wrong, because he ghosted me? He basically stopped communicating with me out of the blue and didn’t answer when I asked why. I thought everything was perfect and he just stopped. Do you have any idea why he did that?

The Council says at this time, a relationship with you isn’t what this man wants. Not knowing how to handle this, which is part of the lessons he wishes to go through, he just pulls away. We feel he can go back and forth on this issue until he realizes what he wants in his life. For you, knowing that he’s not ready for a relationship with you at this time, can you let this go? Or do you still want to do the inner work to create this relationship?

Momof3 says, I’m devastated and I feel disappointed and hurt for opening my heart to him. I don’t understand why he did this, especially since I felt we were so spiritually and deeply connected in a positive way. I don’t have any hard feelings towards him. On a soul level I feel he’s a good person and I still want to pursue a relationship with him. The Council says the way to pursue this relationship is to send this man love, wish him well in his life, and not try to bring him back. Wish him the happiness he’s searching for with the understanding that he needs to go through his own private challenges. In doing this the energy becomes lighter and more loving.

If this man is afraid to be trapped in something, this energy you’re sending him will change this feeling of fear. If he’s afraid you want more than he’s able to give you, this energy you’re sending him will also change this feeling. This is the way you move forward in this particular part of your life. If you still want a relationship, send him loving energy, wish him happiness, and always be thinking about how you wish the two of you can be together. If that’s now what you need at this time, send him love, light, and happiness. And hold in your heart the image of how you’d like this relationship to be. Make sure there’s no pressure. This is the message you give going back and forth while this situation continues.

Momof3 says, I know he has his free will whether he wants to pursue a relationship with me or not. And I guess he doesn’t want one even though I did want a relationship and I tried to manifest it. I’m wondering what I did wrong, or what I need to change so this doesn’t happen to me again. The Council says you didn’t do anything wrong. There’s the experiences you had together, and this man is learning from them, and hopefully you’ll learn from them. What do you want? Do you wish to go through this experience again? Do you wish to change this experience? Do you wish to let this experience go and create a relationship with someone new? The choice is always yours.

Momof3 says, I don’t want to go through repeat situations if it’s my lesson or if I need to change. Can you shed any light on this? The Council says you need to decide what you want and work with this energetically. There’s the challenge of you look at your behavior in the relationship. Decide what you think was positive and what you think was negative. What would you change to look at the relationship and see and hear clearly what this man put out to you in his words and behavior? Learn from this, then move on with your life and see which way you want to go with this relationship.

Momof3 asks if there was a miscommunication or does he just not want me? I followed my heart and my intuition. I thought we were awesome together, that we wanted the same thing, and that we could actually even complement each other. I was wrong. Now I’m doubting my own intuition and my spiritual guides, which upsets me because I can’t trust any feeling I have now. I felt like I listened to my intuition and was confident in the signs that I trusted were from the universe and my spirit guides regarding the relationship and moving forward with it, but it turned out to be wrong.

The Council asks what you learned from this? What are these signs you’ve seen, and how does that help you move forward? Look at the signs. Did you read them correctly? Everything is there when you go back into the relationship and, step by step, look and see what went on for both of you. What went on for you? What did you think? What are the words and actions this man used with you? As you learn from this you won’t have to repeat this experience.

Momof3 says, I don’t know how to let go of this situation. Can you give me any help? The Council says you let go by wishing this man love and light, and then with your imagination create a new relationship and the way you want it to be.


Listen to the entire 7-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Momof3 and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it. Or you can ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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October 27, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Do I Still Have a Relationship with My Boyfriend Who’s Passed?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Special K, whose boyfriend passed away. We were on again off again for the past 20 years – more on than off for the last five years. I began seeing signs of him around me almost immediately. Does my boyfriend approve of our transdimensional relationship or is it all my imagination?

The Council says people will think it’s imagination because it’s easier to think that than to realize there’s so much more going on. And of course your boyfriend approves because he’s reaching out to you. He’s part of teaching you there’s no ending. He’s in a different form, but he’s still here. The awareness this person is still around is a wonderful gift. And there’s lots of joy for the spirit of your boyfriend when the one that’s left behind in physical reality can still feel him. This is what we’re all here for.

Special K asks if she and her boyfriend will be reunited in the afterlife and exist eternally alongside each other even though near the very end of his life we were separated? The Council says of course you’ll be reunited. When you ask if you’ll be eternally reunited, yes you’ll be eternally reunited if you mean coming back to spirit and sharing experiences and lessons you’ve learned, either from lifetimes together or separate. You’ll always be connected. You can create more lives together if you and your boyfriend choose. If there are lessons you can help each other with, then you’ll go through eternity in and out of each other’s lives.

Special K says she loves her boyfriend and wants to spend her afterlife with him and I pray he feels the same way and wishes to continue our love as a couple. Inside my heart it feels like he does, but doubt can sometimes creep in. The Council says there shouldn’t be any doubt because you will, if you both choose, be together again. Whether you’re a couple, whether your boyfriend is your mother in another life, or you are his father, or you’re siblings, you’ll experience lifetimes together. And if you choose to be a couple again, that will also come. But from your human reality and how you focus and what you think now, you’re just focused on being together as a couple. Should that come together, whether as a couple again, or friends, or cousins, or mother and father, you’ll still be happy to be together.


Listen to the entire 4-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Special K and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own question.

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December 10, 2020 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Doubt, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , | Leave a comment

Do I Have Past Life Baggage With My Boyfriend?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Sarah, who says she’s been with her boyfriend a few months now and she’s curious about some things she’s noticed in the relationship that she’s a little uneasy about. Sarah says the relationship has been a little more difficult than she expected and wants to understand it better so she can move forward in the most loving way possible. With this in mind Sarah asks The Council if she and her boyfriend are holding on to anything from one or more past lives that they plan on working through in this lifetime?

Around the time Sarah and her boyfriend began dating she also developed arthritis and a few other autoimmune diseases she’d experienced previously, but her lifestyle the past few years enabled her to experience remission of these diseases. Their reappearance seems to have upset Sarah’s life, and she suspects it has something to do with moving her in the direction of her soul’s purpose.

The Council says what would help Sarah physically at this point is to focus on being more flexible and be more open to accepting ideas that she disagrees with. Ask yourself, “Where am I too stiff in my beliefs? What am I not flexible about? Do I see the other side of the coin? Do I allow others to be who they are and not to follow how I wish it should be?”

When you find yourself with immune system problems, the body is telling you that emotionally there’s a battle going on. With your boyfriend, if things don’t go the way you want, is there enough in this relationship to bring the love in? Can you look at your boyfriend and know there are experiences that are needed here? You may not know what these experiences are and you may not understand them. But allow your boyfriend not to be perfect and love him anyway, and love yourself also for accepting your boyfriend’s imperfections.

We are always here to bring love into every situation. When you are more accepting, and not in the way where you accept your situation and are depressed because your relationship isn’t what you originally thought, you can focus on moving forward. Accept and applaud the soul of your boyfriend for what he’s trying to accomplish.

Fuel your body so the joints and organs have what’s needed to work correctly and the body knows you’re honoring it. You need to drink lots of water and green tea. Beans and all kinds of vegetables in any way possible are needed. Low fats are needed as well as some carbohydrates. When you bring love into every situation and love and take care of yourself, the vibration begins to focus on healing and you’ll see a change in your body and in your relationship.

The Council sees a past life in London where she and her boyfriend were siblings with a lot of anger toward each other and competition that didn’t allow closeness and understanding. They didn’t bring love for each other into this life as siblings, and so the two of you thought you’d work on bringing the love into your current lifetime.

When there’s anger, look at it. Here conversation is needed, which can bring about many laughs and new ideas. This current relationship is important to both of you. It will affect all parts of your life. The Council advises you to stay in this relationship and learn from it. It will change for the better.

Sarah says she feels like she’s supposed to help the world heal and she’d like to know if her intuition is true. The Council says she’s partly on the right track. She’s here to help herself heal, see how you do it, and then speak to others about what you’ve learned. You’ll give others help as you go through healing yourself.

Sarah asks The Council about a career change she senses and The Council says at this time Sarah needs to focus on well being and acceptance.

Listen to the entire 10-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Sarah and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

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October 10, 2018 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Healing, Helping Others, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Confused About Relationship with Her Boyfriend

This post is inspired by questions from a reader who goes by the name, Ivygreat, about her confusing relationship with her boyfriend. When she tries to tell her boyfriend he’s done something to offend her and they need to talk about it, he twists her words and she ends up feeling worse.

The Council says one of the great lessons Ivygreat would like to learn in this lifetime is independence, living on her own, and being able to take care of herself.

Being with her boyfriend will show Ivygreat that perhaps it’s better to leave this relationship and become more independent, or does she wish to stay in this relationship and experience the unhappiness.

The Council feels if Ivygreat was to become more independent, be able to support herself, and not be afraid to go out on her own, this relationship will change.

Ivygreat is in a place where her boyfriend knows he is needed and she is sort of under his thumb. The relationship will remain this way until she finds a way to change it by doing what she can for herself.

The Council says Ivygreat’s boyfriend isn’t able to hear and understand what upsets her about his behavior. He imagines he’s being attacked when she tries to talk to him about these things. For the time being The Council advises holding back this criticism and not trying to explain what’s wrong. Instead The Council advises Ivygreat to let what she doesn’t like about her boyfriend to challenge her to grow.

The Council says as Ivygreat experiences how good it feels to be independent, this feeling good and the ability to meet the challenge and create what she wants will change the relationship for the better.

Listen to our entire 6-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Ivygreat and the rest of us, and let us know your feelings.

October 9, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , | 2 Comments

Relationship Advice

This post is inspired by questions from a reader named, Kelly, who’s looking for guidance on how to create a loving, supportive relationship with her current boyfriend, or whether she should let the relationship go. And she asks about her soul agreement with this boyfriend and about any past lives they share.

The Council says if Kelly was in a tortured relationship they would never advise her to stay in it. If this was the case they would advise preparing herself by growing until she was ready to leave. But if there’s the smallest hope this relationship will work, The Council says it’s Kelly’s job to hold onto that hope and not to focus on this relationship’s problems and what’s going wrong. They advise her to do the work to make herself happy and more understanding so she can grow.

The Council advises Kelly to learn from this relationship. And more than anything else they suggest focusing on her happiness, not focusing on her boyfriend changing. Find anything in the relationship she can feel grateful for. As she focuses on the littlest things to be grateful for she’ll begin to see more and more of this happening in the relationship. This isn’t because her boyfriend is changing, but because Kelly is bringing in the vibration of gratitude for what’s in her life.

The Council says if Kelly lets the fact that people around her don’t understand her boyfriend or don’t understand why she’s in this relationship, she’ll have difficulty changing her thoughts about the relationship. These people aren’t living with Kelly and perhaps they don’t see the things she can find to be grateful for.

As Kelly finds love, patience, and happiness in this relationship, that’s how these things begins to grow. Don’t focus on changing her boyfriend and what he must learn or how he has to be. Allow him to be how he is. That’s how Kelly stays in this relationship and gets it to be the way she wants.

The Council says Kelly and her boyfriend have shared other lives together where they’ve played different roles and some were good lifetimes and some weren’t. In their current lifetime Kelly and her boyfriend thought it would be wonderful to come together and have their relationship work out, but The Council doesn’t see this happening yet because Kelly hasn’t created this yet. The Council says Kelly is capable of creating the relationship she desires by focusing on: what she appreciates, her gratitude, her love, and every happy thing that happens. The Council says it’s not necessary to let this relationship go.

Listen to our entire 15-minute session with The Council (below)to hear all their guidance for Kelly and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about this.

September 19, 2017 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , | 4 Comments

Boyfriend Talking in His Sleep About Other Realities

This is an interesting post inspired by a reader named Audrey who has some questions for The Council about her boyfriend Joe’s talking in his sleep. Audrey says she started a conversation with Joe as he slept one night and asked what he was talking about. He replied, Dog Star, and said it’s where all dogs are, and people go there to get their dogs. The Council says it’s wonderful that Joe has created this Dog Star in his reality and that part of Joe’s spirit was willing to share this with Audrey.

Audrey then asks Joe who she’s talking to and he replied, Joe, not Joe-person. Audrey asks what’s the difference between the two and The Council replied, there is Joe the personality in the reality Joe and Audrey share; there are Joes with personalities from other realities because there are many realities being lived by different parts of Joe at the same time; and there is a part of Joe connecting to his spiritual higher self.

The Council comments that it was very loving of Joe that he was willing to share this experience with Audrey, even if it wasn’t conscious. They advise Audrey to hold onto this memory, talk to Joe about it, and see what she’s able to learn about different realities and about creating them. And they recommend reading books by Jerry and Esther Hicks on what their spirit guide, Abraham, says about how we create.

The Council says many people believe if you are alive now in your current reality, that’s all there is. But they say you are living in many, many realities. You send different pieces of yourself into realities you wish to create.

We like Audrey’s question because we’re not often asked about our ability in spirit to create other realities at the same time we are experiencing our reality here on Earth. We think there’s much to be learned about this.

Listen to our entire 5-minute session with The Council (below) to hear everything they have to say about our ability to create other realities, and let us know what you think.

December 18, 2016 Posted by | Abraham-Hicks, Audio Content, Channeling, Connecting With Spirit, Creation, Other Realities, Questions & Answers | , , | Leave a comment

   

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