Why Did My Boyfriend Stop Communicating With Me?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Momof3, who’s following up on our post, What Can You Tell Me About This Man In My Life? She says thank you so much for your response. I’ve been practicing what you suggested and was taking it slow and following my boyfriend’s lead. The signs I was getting from the universe were positive and I really felt like I was connecting deeply with this person. Was I wrong, because he ghosted me? He basically stopped communicating with me out of the blue and didn’t answer when I asked why. I thought everything was perfect and he just stopped. Do you have any idea why he did that?
The Council says at this time, a relationship with you isn’t what this man wants. Not knowing how to handle this, which is part of the lessons he wishes to go through, he just pulls away. We feel he can go back and forth on this issue until he realizes what he wants in his life. For you, knowing that he’s not ready for a relationship with you at this time, can you let this go? Or do you still want to do the inner work to create this relationship?
Momof3 says, I’m devastated and I feel disappointed and hurt for opening my heart to him. I don’t understand why he did this, especially since I felt we were so spiritually and deeply connected in a positive way. I don’t have any hard feelings towards him. On a soul level I feel he’s a good person and I still want to pursue a relationship with him. The Council says the way to pursue this relationship is to send this man love, wish him well in his life, and not try to bring him back. Wish him the happiness he’s searching for with the understanding that he needs to go through his own private challenges. In doing this the energy becomes lighter and more loving.
If this man is afraid to be trapped in something, this energy you’re sending him will change this feeling of fear. If he’s afraid you want more than he’s able to give you, this energy you’re sending him will also change this feeling. This is the way you move forward in this particular part of your life. If you still want a relationship, send him loving energy, wish him happiness, and always be thinking about how you wish the two of you can be together. If that’s now what you need at this time, send him love, light, and happiness. And hold in your heart the image of how you’d like this relationship to be. Make sure there’s no pressure. This is the message you give going back and forth while this situation continues.
Momof3 says, I know he has his free will whether he wants to pursue a relationship with me or not. And I guess he doesn’t want one even though I did want a relationship and I tried to manifest it. I’m wondering what I did wrong, or what I need to change so this doesn’t happen to me again. The Council says you didn’t do anything wrong. There’s the experiences you had together, and this man is learning from them, and hopefully you’ll learn from them. What do you want? Do you wish to go through this experience again? Do you wish to change this experience? Do you wish to let this experience go and create a relationship with someone new? The choice is always yours.
Momof3 says, I don’t want to go through repeat situations if it’s my lesson or if I need to change. Can you shed any light on this? The Council says you need to decide what you want and work with this energetically. There’s the challenge of you look at your behavior in the relationship. Decide what you think was positive and what you think was negative. What would you change to look at the relationship and see and hear clearly what this man put out to you in his words and behavior? Learn from this, then move on with your life and see which way you want to go with this relationship.
Momof3 asks if there was a miscommunication or does he just not want me? I followed my heart and my intuition. I thought we were awesome together, that we wanted the same thing, and that we could actually even complement each other. I was wrong. Now I’m doubting my own intuition and my spiritual guides, which upsets me because I can’t trust any feeling I have now. I felt like I listened to my intuition and was confident in the signs that I trusted were from the universe and my spirit guides regarding the relationship and moving forward with it, but it turned out to be wrong.
The Council asks what you learned from this? What are these signs you’ve seen, and how does that help you move forward? Look at the signs. Did you read them correctly? Everything is there when you go back into the relationship and, step by step, look and see what went on for both of you. What went on for you? What did you think? What are the words and actions this man used with you? As you learn from this you won’t have to repeat this experience.
Momof3 says, I don’t know how to let go of this situation. Can you give me any help? The Council says you let go by wishing this man love and light, and then with your imagination create a new relationship and the way you want it to be.
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Hi, Hannah. We’ll be happy to ask The Council about the people currently in your life when we have time and we’ll post an audio recording of their response as soon as it’s ready. Thanks for your question. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia
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Hi, I was wondering if anyone could shed any light on the situation I have going on right now with the people who currently in my life? In particular two male friends. The situation is forever changing and no one seems to be able to read whats actually going on or outcomes. And why am I so deeply connected with them? Thanks.
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