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Having More Loving Thoughts About Her Husband

This post is inspired by questions from a reader named, Vacha, who’s asked questions about her relationship with her husband before. She and her young son have moved back to be with her husband (and her son’s father) after a separation due to Vacha feeling abused in their relationship. She says everything is going well so far, but she isn’t feeling happy deep inside and suggests she may be finding it difficult to forget her husband’s past behavior.

The Council asks Vacha if her purpose for moving back with her husband was to be open to trying her marriage again? They say if she focuses on what happened in the past, she’ll never move forward. They ask what Vacha can do to make their relationship better? What would she like to see her husband doing, and talk to him about these things.

Vacha says she’s going to begin meditating on what to do and she asks for guidance to have more loving thoughts and be in a more positive state of mind. The Council says to have more loving thoughts, think about what brought her and her husband together in the beginning of the relationship. When she looks at her husband now, look at him with the understanding that he’s also a spirit in a physical body going through his own lessons. Is he trying to make the relationship work?

The Council says the purpose of this challenge in their relationship is for her to bring love into the situation, change it with her thoughts, and turn the situation around. See her situation the way she desires it to be. Stop focusing on being unhappy. Find the happiness from the memories she has and try to bring this happiness into her life every day.

Listen to our entire 6-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Vacha and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about it.

October 25, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Love, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Help with Her Daughter’s Marriage

This post is inspired by a woman named, Marie, who asks The Council for help with her daughter’s unhappy marriage. The Council says how Marie looks at her daughter’s marriage will create what she sees. If Marie thinks her daughter is in a horrible marriage, this is what she’s creating. The Council asks Marie if she’s able to find some moments where her daughter and daughter’s husband are getting along and to focus on that instead of focusing on them not getting along.

Marie asks if it’s wise to encourage her daughter to leave her husband. And The Council says, not at all. Marie doesn’t consciously know what her daughter’s spirit and her daughter’s husband’s spirit agreed on and what they’re trying to heal in this lifetime. The Council recommends letting the marriage unfold. They point out that love allows everything and by allowing them to work on their marriage without interfering, Marie is loving her daughter.

The Council recommends that with Marie’s thoughts and prayers she picture her daughter and her husband doing what they need to do, whether it was to come together and have the courage to leave each other, or to come together and see things differently and get along better moving forward.

The Council says Marie’s daughter is trying to come together with her husband and find a path where they can understand each other. They’re trying to turn toward the experience of love. They’ve had several other lives together and they enjoy having these lives and helping each other grow and learn.

The Council says it’s possible her daughter and her daughter’s husband get along better than Marie perceives, and The Council asks Marie to change how she looks at the marriage. They say to almost strain herself to find something good in this marriage and as she does this more of this goodness will be created.

The Council recommends that Marie talk to her daughter about nice times her daughter and daughter’s husband shared together. This will help her daughter remember these nicer times. Marie should try to bring some light into the marriage as she talks about it with her daughter. Look for the good in this marriage and talk about it with her daughter, and it will help her daughter on her path.

Listen to our entire 6-minute session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Marie and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

July 23, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Marriage, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , | 1 Comment

Thinking About Reconciling with Her Husband

This post is inspired by two separate comments from a reader named Vacha, who has asked other questions about her relationship with her husband and her son and here she follows up with additional questions.

First Vacha asks about her pre-birth plan with her son. She is separated from her husband who lives in the United States while she and her son have moved back to India where her family lives. The Council asks Vacha if she’s learned to be independent and if she’s making a happy life for herself and her son. This is in regard to advice they gave her in answer to previous questions.

Vacha wants to know if her son came into this life knowing she and her husband would separate and her son would live with her back in India. The Council says Vacha’s son came into this life knowing her separation from his father was a possibility. And The Council says Vacha planned to be there for her son to show him independence and strength and to give him the happy life he wishes to experience, whether his father is present or not.

About a month after Vacha wrote this question about her son, she wrote asking about her relationship with her husband. He recently called Vacha saying he understands the problems she has with their marriage and he’s willing to work on them, but Vacha has questions about her husband’s ability to follow through with this promise.

The Council asks Vacha why she’s questioning her feeling to settle in India rather than return to her husband in the USA as he’s requesting? The Council says settling in India is part of being independent and is part of her growth. The Council advises Vacha to honor what she feels.

The Council asks Vacha if she’s willing to put herself back in the relationship with her husband even though she questions her feelings about doing this. They ask what’s the rush to go back to this relationship and they ask what she has learned?

Vacha says she thinks about her son and feels if things work out with her husband it would be good for her son and for her. The Council says they want to make it very clear to Vacha that the father isn’t needed in her relationship with her son. The relationship with the father may get better and it may not. The Council asks if Vacha is creating the independence they advised. What is she doing to make her son feel safe and happy in their relationship between the two of them.

Vacha asks if she thinks about her relationship with her husband positively and possibly reconciles with him, is this a good time to do that. And she asks The Council what changes she should see in her husband and herself in order for the relationship to work out.

The Council answers that they have spoken about the answer to this question in past posts and if Vacha reviews them she’ll see their answers. The Council feels Vacha wants them to tell her what to do next, whether to be in a relationship with her husband or not. But The Council says they’re not the creator of Vacha’s life. They can show her what’s needed, her planning for her path, and how to create with her thoughts, but in the end the decision is hers.

How Vacha wishes her path to unfold is her choice. Focus on the life with her son. Focus on being independent. Focus on bringing happiness into her life with her son, and The Council says all the rest will fall into place.

Vacha is in a challenging situation. She has left her husband in the USA and returned to India with her son. She’s tempted by the thought of returning to her husband, as many women are tempted to return to relationships where they have been abused. The Council advises Vacha to learn to be independent, but in the end the decision is hers.

Listen to our entire 8-minute session on Vacha’s questions to hear all The Council’s guidance for her and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

June 21, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Feelings, Marriage, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , | 1 Comment

Finding a Loving and Financially Secure Husband

This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Diana, who says she’d love to meet her soulmate husband soon and she asks if The Council has any insights on this and if there’s anything she can do to speed up the process.

The Council asks Diana what she’s thinking about to create this marriage in her life. They encourage her to think more about what she will bring to the relationship and not so much about what her husband will bring. As she begins to focus on herself and what makes her happy, she’ll begin to attract that in another person.

Diana asks if The Council is able to see her future husband and The Council says it’s her beliefs and what she focuses on that will pick the husband that she calls in with her thoughts and feelings. They say there are perhaps 10 different men that can come into Diana’s life, and as she focuses on what she wants and what she brings to the relationship, she will draw the most appropriate husband to her.

Diana says she struggles with issues of lack and poverty and she’d like to meet someone who doesn’t have these struggles. The Council says as she struggles with these issues she’ll bring in someone she’s attracted to, but he’ll have similar issues. That is why it’s very important to work on herself and her thoughts first.

If Diana’s thoughts are on lack and poverty it is unlikely she’ll be able to attract someone who’s wealthy. She can change her thoughts to: her abundance is growing  and she’s ready to receive more in her life. She is a spirit in a physical body. There is abundance all around her, she just has to claim it with her thoughts.

Listen to our 7-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all The Council’s guidance for Diana and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

May 6, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Challenges, Channeling, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Should I Give My Marriage a Second Chance?

This post is inspired by follow-up questions from Vacha, who terminated a pregnancy, returned to India with her son, and separated from her abusive husband in America. Now she’s asking if her marriage is finally over or can it still work out if she gives it good thoughts and positive energy?

The Council says the end result of Vacha’s marriage is entirely up to her. They ask her what she sees in her life right now. Is she getting along better with her husband, and have circumstances changed that made their life together so miserable for her?

The Council says Vacha will create with her beliefs what happens in her marriage. If she believes her husband won’t change and thinks she’ll be wasting her time trying to have good thoughts and a happy marriage, The Council says she is already in a negative vibration. They add it’s possible to create happiness with anyone, but she must believe in this happiness. If she believes she’s tried time after time to make her marriage work and doesn’t see a change, then there’s a belief her marriage will not change.

The Council says Vacha pre-birth planned in spirit to learn independence in this lifetime, and they suggest once she experiences this independence then it may be possible to change her relationship with her husband for the better.

Vacha also asks about her mother and father and says her mother is dealing with bad treatment from her own father (Vacha’s grandfather). The Council asks Vacha how she feels about this and does she see her future becoming like her mother’s.

Vacha says her mother and father don’t have a good relationship, and The Council asks her to look at this. Is this what she wants for herself? In order for Vacha’s parents to feel better they would have to begin seeing each other differently. They will need to talk about things they like about each other and appreciate the years they have been together. They will need to change their thinking and focus on positive aspects of their relationship.

In their closing The Council asks us to remember the promise we made in spirit to bring love into this lifetime in everything we do, and they suggest this is what we should meditate on.

Listen to our entire 11-minute session with The Council on Vacha’s questions to hear all their guidance for her and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

April 9, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Channeling, Marriage, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Choosing Two Abusive Marriages to Learn What You Want

This post is inspired by follow-up questions from Vacha who has been in an abusive marriage and has moved back to India with her parents. This is Vacha’s second marriage and both husbands were physically abusive.

The Council asks Vacha if there’s any question in her mind that she did the right thing when she left her husband. They imagine if you’re in an abusive situation, you’d feel comfortable that you had the power and the knowledge how to get out of this relationship.

Vacha asks The Council if she has any karmic accounts with her two husbands, and The Council says this in not the case.

The Council asks Vacha if she sees a pattern in why she chose these two abusive marriages. These have been lessons about awareness. The signs of abuse were there before each marriage. What has Vacha learned from these relationships? The Council says if Vacha doesn’t start asking herself this question, she will bring another abusive relationship. She has created this situation so she would learn about awareness, self-worth, courage, and how to create what you want.

Vacha asks if The Council sees her in a good relationship in the future. And The Council says she must do the work they describe if she wants a good relationship. Let go of the fear of what she’s experienced and let go of the question if there’s someone better for her. Focus on herself and find within the strength to believe she deserves better. Visualize a better life. Think of the abusiveness as a learning lesson and then let it go.

Vacha asks if there’s a chance she planned to have these abusive relationships before coming into this world, and The Council says definitely.

The Council says Vacha needed to fail in these two marriages in order to see what she wanted to learn. And she’s right on track; there’s nothing wrong here.

Listen to our entire 7-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Vacha and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

February 25, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Karma, Marriage, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , , | 1 Comment

An Abusive Marriage and a Way Out

This post is inspired by follow-up questions from a reader named Vacha, who’s having difficulties with her abusive second husband and she wonders if her spirit pre-birth planned for her to end up in abusive marriages.

The Council begins by advising Vacha to change her thought that she ends up in abusive relationships because as she holds onto this thought and feeling she will continue to create this in her life. Now she knows this is something she doesn’t want and she is able to recreate her life going forward by beginning to picture what she wishes to create now.

Vacha regrets not ending up with a loving companion and feels suicidal sometimes, but then she thinks of her son and that keeps her going. The Council says she’s got much to learn with her child and asks why she’d think of cutting this lifetime short when there’s so much goodness that can be experienced as she creates it moving forward.

Vacha asks if The Council can see happiness for her in a marriage and a career if she move back to India. The Council says it’s up to her, but they see her having a much different and happy life. They see many options opening up for her as she changes her thoughts, focus, and beliefs.

There is much joy that can come to her. She doesn’t need to worry how this will happen. The energy she creates will bring these opportunities to her when she understands why she needed to experience these difficulties which aren’t needed any longer. She is able to move forward and experience the joy she’s looking for.

The Council says to find a way for Vacha to look for and create love in her thoughts. Find the light within herself that’s her higher self and imagine love pouring out to every part of her and around her. And as this love goes out it will attract similar energies of love.

Listen to the recording of our 8-minute session with The Council (below) to hear their guidance for Vacha’s and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

Vacha has posted two previous questions. You can read her first question here and our answer to it, and her second question here and our answer to that question. In addition, Vacha has posted another question after we did our current session with The Council, but before we posted their response. In her last questions she says she left her husband and moved back to India. You can read her last question here.

February 10, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Channeling, Love, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , | 2 Comments

Help Leaving An Abusive Husband

This post is inspired by a follow-up question from a reader named Jolanda who wrote to us a few months ago about whether she should leave her abusive husband, and The Council advised her that she should leave because her husband wouldn’t change. They also said she should leave for the sake of her children. Jolanda says she’s spent these months trying to find a solution other than leaving, but she now sees her situation isn’t likely to get any better.

The Council says staying with her husband isn’t the direction she wanted to go in and they ask Jolanda not to give up hope on what she can create for herself. They ask if she believes she deserves better, and they say if she’s unable to live with this difficulty there’s another path to happiness. They suggest she look for the courage to pursue this happiness, and they add there’s no rush. Jolanda will get where she wants when she’s more comfortable within herself and researched how she’ll make her life work without being with her husband. She’s still in the beginning stage.

Jolanda says she thought she’d be married for the rest of her life and can barely imagine living without her husband. And The Council asks how she expects to change this situation when she’s unable to imagine the change.

The Council reminds Jolanda that to create a better situation she needs to continually focus on what she desires. If she goes through this situation day after day and doesn’t focus on what she desires because it’s difficult to see a better way, her situation will remain unchanged.

The Council says if Jolanda is unable to find it in her heart to leave her husband, the lesson here is still finding courage. While she is still in this relationship she doesn’t have to take abuse, which she has created, from her husband. Put herself and her children first. Learn to be protected.

The Council sees Jolanda has a lot of work to get to the point where she can focus on how she’d like to live her life. The lesson can be learned, but instead of feeling hopeless she needs to change her thinking. However long this takes, she’ll find a way to do this.

What can she do to find happiness for herself and her children while she remains in this situation? When she goes into a vibration of happiness, the abusive vibration will not match her happiness and won’t continue to bother her. Eventually it will stop.

The Council says Jolanda needs to take her focus off how horrible her situation is and change her thoughts. It’s her spiritual job right now to find a way to bring the love and happiness into her home.

The Council finishes with a reminder there’s nothing more powerful than your higher self. Think of yourself as a great spirit and warrior that has picked a tremendous challenge to go through, and you knew you could do this. There isn’t anything more powerful than your higher self. Pay attention to this part of you. Use the tools you’ve been given and keep focusing on the life you desire.

Listen to our entire 16-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all of their guidance for Jolanda and the rest of us. And let us know what you think.

November 11, 2016 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Desire, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , | 4 Comments

Can The Council See Any Blocks To My Getting Married?

This post is inspired by a question from a reader who calls herself Dealer99 who says her life has been blessed with a few amazing love relationships, but she’s been patiently waiting a long time for a marriage relationship. And she asks The Council if they see any blocks to her getting married.

The Council asks Dealer99 if a marriage is what she really wants because they see another lifetime in the 1600s where she was forced into an arranged marriage and she was very unhappy. And they say in this lifetime she wanted to be free and to experience love everywhere she went.

Now The Council sees there is a desire for a long-term relationship in Dealer99’s life and they say she is able to change her life by feeling grateful for each of the relationships she’s had and imagining all the reasons she’d like to be married. They say there is nothing in her way and there are no blocks to stop her from getting married.

The Council encourages Dealer99 to focus on the benefits of being with one person rather than being excited by new relationships. They say the only thing that would stop her from experiencing a marriage is a belief that there’s a block that’s in the way, and that she doesn’t have the spiritual ability to create what she now desires.

The Council says even though Dealer99 planned to experience this lifetime without getting married, it is always within her power to change this. And they see a marriage has a great possibility of happening if she uses her imagination to change her beliefs and sees what she wishes to create.

The Council recommends several things Dealer99 can do in her physical reality to help her create this marriage. They say she can put empty hangers in a closet with the intention of them belonging to her partner. She can make an empty drawer available for her partner when he comes into her life. She can set her table for two and have an extra bathrobe available for her future partner. The Council encourages Dealer99 to have fun with her imagination to create this new relationship. And they say as the creation comes from within her, it will appear in her life.

Listen to the entire 7-minute session with The Council below to receive their full guidance for Dealer99 and the rest of us on how to create what we desire.

August 30, 2016 Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Channeling, Choice, Creation, Desire, Imagination, Love, Marriage, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | | 1 Comment

Feeling Good About Ex-Husband’s Passing

This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Lunar Teddy about the death of her ex-husband and the pain and mourning she’s experiencing as a result.

The Council says the pain and suffering Lunar Teddy is experiencing come from searching for the validation she wanted from her ex-husband rather than finding it within herself. They recommend instead that she focus on any happiness she can remember when she was with her ex, and to know that he has completed his task in this reality and is in a joyous, loving place.

The Council says feeling grief and loss or that she and her ex never connected will take her thoughts into creating sadness and depression. They ask Lunar Teddy to speak to her ex in her mind before she goes to sleep and tell him all the things she would like to have done when he was here. The Council assures Lunar Teddy her ex will hear these things and will send her love. And the peace she’s looking for will come.

The Council encourages Lunar Teddy to release any unpleasant thoughts about her ex-husband’s family. They say it was what he needed to experience and she can be glad he completed it and is in a much better place. And they repeat that her ex is sending her much love, and she can focus on this when she feels separation from him.

Listen to the entire 6-minute recording of our session with The Council to answer Lunar Teddy’s question to receive the full benefit of their guidance.

June 29, 2016 Posted by | Audio Content, Choice, Love, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , | Leave a comment

Will I Have a Child, and Will It Be the Soul I Aborted?

This post is inspired by questions from an Anonymous reader who recently had an abortion and wants to know if she’ll ever have children. The Council says yes, this is planned for. And when she asks if the aborted soul will return to her as her child, The Council says there’s a great bond between these two souls from sharing many lifetimes and they see an agreement between the two of them for this soul to return to her.

When this soul returns The Council says it will be male, and sees them learning much from each other. But mostly this child will come to help Anonymous on her path, and guide her to be different from how she’s been.

Anonymous says she thought she’d find love and get married, and wants to know why her positive affirmations about this aren’t working for her. The Council points out that even though she is using positive affirmations, she doesn’t believe this will happen. They say until she has more positive beliefs, her negative beliefs will continue to create what she doesn’t want.

When I (Bob) ask The Council for advice on how to change her beliefs, they say her affirmations are good, but they advise her to meditate, read spiritual books, and start practicing the manifestation of small things at first. When she can create these small things by thinking of them, and feels grateful when they happen, she will know that’s how she also creates the bigger things she wants in her life.

The Council advises her to appreciate herself and feel a happy vibration as often as she can. And they say meditation will help with this. They advise her to never give up her dream of being married to a man she loves. And they remind her that by feeling this won’t happen, she’s defeating herself.

The Council asks her to focus on the kind of man she’d like in her life, and by feeling this, that kind of man will be drawn to her. They advise her to ask the question in her mind as men walk by, are you the one? And thinking, I’m ready. If she can play this game, this will help her attract the man of her dreams.

And she’s also asking how she can bring positivity and change to her health and her career. The Council says with her meditations, her being more focused on happiness and the kind of partner she wants, and knowing a child is waiting to come to her, there is a new beginning and staying in these happy thoughts will change her health.

The Council asks what she wants to be, and looking for what she is interested in she’ll find it. By putting it out there that she wants a new, interesting career and being ready for this, she can draw this in.

The Council says the changing of her vibration will quickly fix her situation, and they advise her to have fun reading spiritual books, have fun meditating and looking for a new career, and most of all have fun playing the game of are you the one? By believing she’s ready for abundance and happiness, and that she’s ready for a child, all of this is there for her.

Listen to the entire 10-minute session with The Council below for all the details.

May 1, 2015 Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Career, Marriage, Meditation, Questions & Answers, Vibration | , , , , , | 4 Comments

A Better Feeling Thought about a “Failed” Marriage

When any of us isn’t feeling as good as we’d like, the spirit guides known as Abraham frequently recommend looking for a better-feeling thought and they remind us that what we focus our attention on determines to a large extent how we feel.

Sometimes it can be a challenge to find a better-feeling thought. At a recent weekly Meetup.com meeting that we organize on the law of attraction and manifesting the life you desire, someone expressed the belief that their marriage had failed. This person is currently separated from their spouse and in the process of getting a divorce.

Later in the meeting Cynthia agreed to channel The Council, and the person getting a divorce had an opportunity to ask The Council questions. At one point I (Bob) asked The Council if they were aware of any previous lifetimes this couple shared, and how those experiences may have influenced the time they spent together in their current lifetime.

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July 19, 2011 Posted by | Marriage, Reincarnation, Relationships | , , , , | 2 Comments

Marriage Council-ing

K’s Request for Guidance

This post is a response to K’s request for guidance from The Council on how she can tune into who she really is as a spiritual being so she can experience the purpose of her 22-year relationship with her husband, find her way beyond the pain of their ten years of marriage, and re-connect with the joy of their first eleven years together. Here’s a slightly edited version of K’s request:

“I need some guidance. Let’s see if I can express it a way that makes sense.

“I am in the first stages of getting divorced from a friend of 22 years (10 years married and the father of my son) who I quiet firmly believe came to my life (and I in his) because we had lessons to learn, debts to pay, other unfinished business…something like that.

“Somehow as I try desperately to move on, I often get the feeling that the lessons had to be learned and the challenges were/are there for growth and divorce need not be the solution, at least not after a lot has been cleared out recently.

“Is there a way I can tune in more to my real self, my soul, and remember what the purpose of this marriage was, and what my path ahead is beyond the pain? We both care for each other, but somehow…something that seemed flawless for 11 years before, never worked from the minute we got married. It almost got jinxed and we took turns in not being able to get out of negative thinking to face problems head on.

“Any thoughts on the mystery our life has been and some hints of where it needs to go for the two individual souls? Tall order…huh? Thanks a lot.”

—K

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May 16, 2011 Posted by | Marriage, Questions & Answers, Relationships, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

   

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