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Should I Contact My Dead Father Through a Medium?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, JERL, who says lately in my spiritual journey I’ve been drawn to my painful past and memories of my early childhood when I was neglected by my father and step-mothers. The Council says this is wonderful because you pre-planned in spirit to do this and it means you’re ready now. You’re ready to look at these memories, to go over what’s happened, change how you think about it, change how you understand it, change how you feel about it, and how to figure out how to let it go.

JERL says, I’m trying to sit with the sadness, but I keep feeling drawn to meeting with a medium to talk with spirit about my father who I was happily estranged from for ten years before he killed himself last year. The Council says there’s light and joy on the other side of the sadness. Just sit with it. The more you can sit with your sadness you’ll see it won’t kill you or hurt you. You’re remembering an emotion and you’re remembering it in order to go through it and heal it.

JERL says his father was very negative and part of JERL is afraid that even in spirit he’ll cause me painful memories if I speak with him. The Council says if you truly connect with your father’s spirit, and you don’t need someone else to help you do this, there won’t be a single negative thought, or negative word, or anything that would be said that can hurt you.

Unfortunately, in your reality people feel they have to go to someone else in order to speak with someone who’s passed into spirit. Meditate. Talk to your father in your mind and this other person won’t be necessary. Many of these mediums and psychics are very good, but what isn’t commonly understood is that they often don’t connect with the spirit of the person you want to connect with. These mediums are connecting with these people’s essence of who they were when they were alive.

When a medium gives you negativity or tells you something horrible that this spirit says to you, it isn’t who the spirit truly is. The medium is just connecting with who the person was when they were alive. When you connect with spirit it will be beautiful. If you feel you need someone to connect you with your father, keep searching until you find the right medium. All good mediums that give you messages from spirit will be helpful, they’ll make you laugh, there will be talk of love, and there will be great understanding.

JERL continues, on the other hand I’d like to understand what my father’s life goals were and be able to forgive him so I can pray for his well-being every day. The Council wants you to know that you chose your father to play this role in your life. You both got together in spirit and planned how your life would be and how you could learn from it. How your father behaved was part of the act he put on. It was like being on stage. He played a part. He lost track of who he truly was as a spiritual being. He was hurt as a child and this negativity and hurt carried through to his adult life. Unfortunately it affected you.

Know there are reasons your father was the way he was. It wasn’t your fault. This was something you both agreed in spirit to experience. When you think of your father, what did he teach you? What kind of person did it make you? When you understand that in reality he had his problems and they caused him to be the way he was. There were lessons your father wanted to learn.

When you think of your father, can you think of him having his own challenges? Think of how he was hurt and suffering inside. How you were treated doesn’t make it right. It was part of the deal you made with your father in spirit. When you think of him being negative and suffering, what did this teach you? What did you learn? When you can repeatedly look at your father’s negativity, no matter how many times it takes, and not feel sadness, even if you go numb, if you no longer hurt from it, you’re starting on the path of forgiveness. Know you’ve come through what you’ve experienced. What have you learned? The purpose of experiencing this neglect is to understand what you’ve learned.

JERL continues, I understand I chose my father in order to learn my lessons and that we were friends and enemies in other lives. In my current life, putting a boundary between him and me has been healthy for me. The Council says it’s wonderful you knew exactly what you had to do to make your life better. There’s no guilt in that.

JERL says he’s wary and a little scared of his thoughts that it’s time to reconcile with his father. The Council says if you truly want to reconcile, this will happen when you begin to understand your father had his challenges. He played the part he was supposed to in your life, and he did this to help you grow and learn because that’s what you wanted. All this thinking about your past will help you move forward. Then you’ll be ready to forgive. It’s not that someone is telling you it’s time to forgive. You’ll know it’s time because you’ll have more understanding.

JERL asks if he should trust his urges and meet with his father in spirit through a medium? The Council says if you go to a medium who gives you scary or angry messages, or any message that makes you feel bad, don’t go back to this person. Find someone else and you’ll see the difference in the messages that come through.

Your father has reviewed his life and knows he did his part. He’s sending you light to help you get to a place of forgiveness. When you’re ready, you’ll let this light in.

Learn to meditate. Sit quietly in a chair, even if it’s for five minutes a day, and picture your father’s face. This may be difficult in the beginning. Then begin to speak to your father. You can tell him how you feel and what your experience with him has done to you. Ask your father to let you know it was all part of your spiritual plan. Ask for information and your father and your spirit guides will help you get it. Somehow you’ll just know the answers to your questions. It’s not like you’ll hear a word for word explanation. It will come all at once in a block of feeling. Everything will lift and you’ll realize you’re surrounded by guides, angels, and beautiful light energy.

Since you’ve gone through this painful history it’s now helping you move past it. Before you go to bed you can ask for information or ask to feel forgiveness. When you feel this forgiveness you’ll be able to connect with your father, because the negativity between you and spirit will prevent this from happening. If you do the work and take the time, you’ll find the answers you seek. No one else is needed.


Listen to the entire 12-minute audio recording of our session with The Council to hear all their guidance for JERL and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask your own question.

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September 12, 2020 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Connecting With Spirit, Forgiveness, Healing, Meditation, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

Having More Loving Thoughts About Her Husband

This post is inspired by questions from a reader named, Vacha, who’s asked questions about her relationship with her husband before. She and her young son have moved back to be with her husband (and her son’s father) after a separation due to Vacha feeling abused in their relationship. She says everything is going well so far, but she isn’t feeling happy deep inside and suggests she may be finding it difficult to forget her husband’s past behavior.

The Council asks Vacha if her purpose for moving back with her husband was to be open to trying her marriage again? They say if she focuses on what happened in the past, she’ll never move forward. They ask what Vacha can do to make their relationship better? What would she like to see her husband doing, and talk to him about these things.

Vacha says she’s going to begin meditating on what to do and she asks for guidance to have more loving thoughts and be in a more positive state of mind. The Council says to have more loving thoughts, think about what brought her and her husband together in the beginning of the relationship. When she looks at her husband now, look at him with the understanding that he’s also a spirit in a physical body going through his own lessons. Is he trying to make the relationship work?

The Council says the purpose of this challenge in their relationship is for her to bring love into the situation, change it with her thoughts, and turn the situation around. See her situation the way she desires it to be. Stop focusing on being unhappy. Find the happiness from the memories she has and try to bring this happiness into her life every day.

Listen to our entire 6-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Vacha and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about it.

October 25, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Love, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Fear of Vomiting

This post is inspired by a reader who goes by the name of Anon, who has a fear of vomiting that has gotten worse since she’s given birth to a new child.

The Council says people who are afraid of vomiting usually need to feel more in control in their lives because they feel so out of control when they’re afraid of vomiting. The Council asks Anon to take a look at her life and see if she has a need to control everything going on around her. They say the fear of vomiting is the fear of not being in control, being powerless, and dying.

The Council says Anon’s fear of vomiting in her current lifetime is connected to her memories of sickness, disease, suffering, and death from other lifetimes. They say the reason she’s experiencing this now is because she has a desire to heal these memories. Once she’s able to understand this fear is from other lives it should be easier to let them go of them. It’s only here for her to heal it.

The Council says hypnotherapy would bring much understanding of this fear to Anon and will have excellent outcomes. Anon should begin to read about other lifetimes and how they affect this particular lifetime. They also suggest meditating to try and get a sense of what it’s experience in these other lifetimes, and they close by recommending Dr. Brian Weiss’s books on past lives and hypnotherapy.

Listen to our entire session with The Council (below) to receive all the guidance for Anon and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

May 11, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Healing, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers | , , , , , , | 3 Comments

A Mother-Daughter Relationship – Past and Present Lives

This post is inspired by a question from a reader named Merry, who says she’s always had a tumultuous relationship with her mother and asks The Council to shed light on the relationships they’ve shared in other lifetimes. 

The Council begins by saying Merry and her mother had very good relationships in other lifetimes and they remind her when the lifetime we share with a person is challenging, it’s not always considered a bad lifetime.

The Council says Merry and her mother were mother and daughter in a lifetime around the 1400s and were very close. At that time there were witch hunts and because her mother was good at making medicines for people someone accused her of being a witch. When this happened her mother tried to hide her daughter, but she was found and was drowned as the child of a witch, and her mother was locked in a cell for the rest of her life.

Merry and her mother agreed in spirit to return in their present lifetime, but her mother brought the memories of this previous lifetime with her. Instead of working with Merry to have a wonderful life, she turned off her emotions because she was afraid Merry would be taken away again. The reason Merry feels coldness from her mother is that her mother was afraid of being connected to her.

When Bob asked if there was a way to break down these barriers Merry feels with her mother, The Council said it would be difficult, but she should try to show her mother love and help her with everyday challenges. Love conquers everything. Show her mother signs of love in the littlest thing she does and the barrier Merry feels will begin to change. The purpose of this lifetime is to figure out ways to get close.

Merry says her mother is kind of her best friend, but her role as Merry’s mother ended when her brother was born. The Council says if Merry feels her connection with her mother now is one of being friends, can she learn to appreciate this? Can Merry see how her mother needs her as a friend? As Merry begins to appreciate this friendship the relationship will be able to develop further.

The Council says because both Merry and her mother were trying to make this lifetime work, they brought in a lot of fears that they are trying to overcome. Merry can meditate on what she’s gone through. She is strong. By asking about these challenges Merry knows there is more to what she’s experiencing in this lifetime. This shows she’s on the right path because a part of her that’s questioning knows there’s more and wants the answer. This is Merry’s connection to her higher self and is her spirit trying to get her to understand what The Council is talking about. Now, going forward, how does she handle things?

The Counsel closes by saying that through understanding what her mother has gone through and through meditation Merry can show her mother more compassion and more love, and when she can do this her situation must change.

Listen to our entire 17-minute session on Merry’s question about her relationship with her mother to hear all The Council’s guidance for her and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

 

April 23, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | 3 Comments

Time Travel and Creating Your Future

We have been asked,
“Can we travel back in time?”

Every day
you travel back in time
with your memories.

It is possible to see it
and experience it
as strongly as the first time.

The ability to focus
on these memories
helps you live it again
and it is just as real.

This same ability
to focus your attention
will also help you create
the life you want to live
in your future.

—The Council

March 3, 2013 Posted by | Thought for the Day, You Create Your Reality | , , | Leave a comment

August 1, 2011 Thought for the Day

Feeling Your Desire

To raise your vibration
We ask you to have a thought,
Something that makes you happy.
See it in your future.

And if you can’t do that
We ask you to go back to a memory from your past:
Something that made you laugh;
Something that brought you joy.

As you stay in that memory
Your vibration increases.

The frequency of this vibration becomes faster,
And as you are in this state of joy
We then ask you to go into the thought,
Into the imagination of picturing what you want,
But then feel it.

After you have gotten to a state of happiness,
Then begin to feel what your desire is like.
What would it feel like to have it?

And that is what will help you manifest.

—The Council

Excerpted from The Council’s opening comments to participants of a Manifesting Your Desires meeting on Tuesday, July 19, 2011 in New York City.

(The Council’s opening comments lasted about five minutes and with the exception of a brief greeting, each statement seems to stand on its own as a thought for the day. Beginning July 25, 2011 we are publishing The Council’s opening comments during this session as eight individual thoughts for the day. This post is the last of the series.)

August 1, 2011 Posted by | Thought for the Day, Vibration, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

2010-12-12

With every happy thought or memory,

With every feeling of joy,

Your vibration lifts and expansion occurs.
—The Council

December 12, 2010 Posted by | Thought for the Day | , , , , | 2 Comments

   

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