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Getting Over Attracting an Abusive Relationship

This post answers questions from a reader named, Kristina, who recently broke up with her abusive ex-partner of two years, but she still maintains contact with him because she felt he was the love of her life.

The Council says it’s wonderful to leave an abusive relationship because it hurts you physically and/or emotionally. And The Council asks why you would keep in contact with this abusive person. You say it’s because you feel there was a great love there, but The Council emphasized that love is not abusive.

At this point The Council feels having something to do with this person is an excuse because you think there’s love there. You’re in a place where the relationship is familiar and you believe it will change. And yet the part of your spirit that doesn’t need to experience abusiveness is telling you it’s time to end this relationship.

What have you learned from being abused? There isn’t any love in abuse. Love is supportive. Love is compassionate. Love is understanding. The choice is yours, but why would you want to connect with someone abusive? If you think about it, the part of you that wants to experience something better has already left this relationship.

Kristina says this man walked away leaving her heartbroken and her pain and anxiety is through the roof. The Council says anxiety will come from being abused. This relationship took away your power. You were smart to get out.

Kristina says she can’t understand how she attracted this abusive man into her life when she was never in an abusive relationship before. The Council says this abuse is a lesson you wanted in spirit to experience; to feel it, to grow from it, and know this isn’t the kind of energy you’re here to bring in.

When you put a stop to this abuse and you give yourself time to recover, you can think of the kind of relationship you want. With these thoughts you can bring a loving relationship into this reality. And as more and more people bring love into this reality it affects everyone on the planet. This is your purpose. There is no reason to stay with the hurt of this abuse. Think about what you’ve learned from this relationship and what you’ll create? And The Council says stay with positive thoughts.

Kristina asks how she can get over the deep pain she’s experiencing. And The Council says by knowing this abusive relationship was pre-planned in spirit between your soul and the soul of your abuser. On a soul level this man is wonderful. He’s come into this reality and played “the bad guy” so you can learn from this experience. Now you can let go of this abuse. Change your vibration with your thoughts and find the power within you. Abuse takes away your dignity and your good thoughts about yourself. Many who are abused blame themselves instead of the abuser.

Read past life books by Robert Schwartz and you’ll learn about abuse and why you asked for it in your life. Know that you broke off this abusive vibration and are no longer in it. You don’t need an excuse to remain in this vibration. Go with positive thoughts. Thank the spirit of this abusive man for playing his part. Think about what happened and how you can help others who experience abuse who come into your life. Work on the issue of deserving better. Meditate and pray on this.

Love this soul that helped you learn about abuse and thank him for what went on. Understand this was an experience and it wasn’t supposed to permanently take love away from your life. Your wanted to go through this to find the strength to look at the abuse, learn from it, and then become the strong soul that you are. Find the love within you. The abuse was only to take you to a place where you find your power. You find your knowledge that you have choices and you can create what you want with these choices.

Listen to the audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Kristina and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel.

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June 20, 2019 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Life Purpose, Love, Other Realities, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Soul, Spirit | , , , , | 2 Comments

Why Did I Have an Accident that Severely Hurt a Family Member?

This post answers a question for The Council from a reader named, Laura, who asks why she had an accident where a family member was severely injured? Laura still feels very guilty about the accident and it’s affected her whole life.

The Council begins by reminding Laura that in every lifetime you create there are lessons you wish to learn and experiences you wish to have and work through. Laura’s current lifetime comes from other lifetimes she’s gone through were she didn’t allow herself to understand the abuse other people went through.

In your current life you created this accident to experience it’s feelings so you could learn from them. In the other lifetimes you’ve experienced where there was abuse, murder, suicide, and deaths in families and in relationships, the one thing you didn’t learn was forgiveness.

In other lifetimes you weren’t able to forgive the people around you who committed accidents. You didn’t understand why these people weren’t punished, or if they were punished, you thought it was never enough. The Council asks Laura if she’s punishing herself in her current life. They see she’s still not understanding the reason she created this accident.

This accident was agreed upon in spirit by everyone involved in it. Can the person who was injured live a good life with their disability? Can the family of the person that was hurt understand what happened? They all agreed to go through this experience and most of them are also working on forgiveness.

Read about past lives, how people learned from their other lives, and how they affect your present lifetime. When you realize what the lesson is from this accident, can you begin to forgive yourself and focus on how all the souls involved also had many lessons to learn from it? Instead of punishing yourself or holding onto grief and not forgiving yourself, can you imagine how you played your part? You really wanted to experience this accident because in so many other lifetimes you weren’t able to forgive others. Now you’ve brought this accident into your life so you can learn forgiveness.

The Council recommends Laura read, Your Soul’s Plan, by Robert Schwartz, or any book by Brian Weiss on past lives. When you read these books and see how people have created misfortunes, diseases, and loneliness, you can begin to see what was created and what people were trying to experience and learn from, and you’ll understand more about why you’ve created this accident.

No one has created this accident but you and you can begin to see the purpose for it. Take the focus off the idea that this accident has tortured you your whole life and you can’t forgive yourself. The Council says of course you can forgive yourself.

It’s a big deal for Laura to learn this lesson of forgiveness in this lifetime. It’s a difficult lesson because it’s been in so many of her lifetimes, and she’s never understood and properly learned from it the way her soul wants to learn it.

Don’t be surprised when you get to the place of forgiving yourself. It will be a great relief. When you see how you’ve all come together to experience this accident and the forgiveness, you’ll begin to find love, first for others and then for yourself.

Listen to the entire 9-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Laura and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

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September 9, 2018 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Forgiveness, Guidance, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

Having More Loving Thoughts About Her Husband

This post is inspired by questions from a reader named, Vacha, who’s asked questions about her relationship with her husband before. She and her young son have moved back to be with her husband (and her son’s father) after a separation due to Vacha feeling abused in their relationship. She says everything is going well so far, but she isn’t feeling happy deep inside and suggests she may be finding it difficult to forget her husband’s past behavior.

The Council asks Vacha if her purpose for moving back with her husband was to be open to trying her marriage again? They say if she focuses on what happened in the past, she’ll never move forward. They ask what Vacha can do to make their relationship better? What would she like to see her husband doing, and talk to him about these things.

Vacha says she’s going to begin meditating on what to do and she asks for guidance to have more loving thoughts and be in a more positive state of mind. The Council says to have more loving thoughts, think about what brought her and her husband together in the beginning of the relationship. When she looks at her husband now, look at him with the understanding that he’s also a spirit in a physical body going through his own lessons. Is he trying to make the relationship work?

The Council says the purpose of this challenge in their relationship is for her to bring love into the situation, change it with her thoughts, and turn the situation around. See her situation the way she desires it to be. Stop focusing on being unhappy. Find the happiness from the memories she has and try to bring this happiness into her life every day.

Listen to our entire 6-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Vacha and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about it.

October 25, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Love, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Help Leaving An Abusive Husband

This post is inspired by a follow-up question from a reader named Jolanda who wrote to us a few months ago about whether she should leave her abusive husband, and The Council advised her that she should leave because her husband wouldn’t change. They also said she should leave for the sake of her children. Jolanda says she’s spent these months trying to find a solution other than leaving, but she now sees her situation isn’t likely to get any better.

The Council says staying with her husband isn’t the direction she wanted to go in and they ask Jolanda not to give up hope on what she can create for herself. They ask if she believes she deserves better, and they say if she’s unable to live with this difficulty there’s another path to happiness. They suggest she look for the courage to pursue this happiness, and they add there’s no rush. Jolanda will get where she wants when she’s more comfortable within herself and researched how she’ll make her life work without being with her husband. She’s still in the beginning stage.

Jolanda says she thought she’d be married for the rest of her life and can barely imagine living without her husband. And The Council asks how she expects to change this situation when she’s unable to imagine the change.

The Council reminds Jolanda that to create a better situation she needs to continually focus on what she desires. If she goes through this situation day after day and doesn’t focus on what she desires because it’s difficult to see a better way, her situation will remain unchanged.

The Council says if Jolanda is unable to find it in her heart to leave her husband, the lesson here is still finding courage. While she is still in this relationship she doesn’t have to take abuse, which she has created, from her husband. Put herself and her children first. Learn to be protected.

The Council sees Jolanda has a lot of work to get to the point where she can focus on how she’d like to live her life. The lesson can be learned, but instead of feeling hopeless she needs to change her thinking. However long this takes, she’ll find a way to do this.

What can she do to find happiness for herself and her children while she remains in this situation? When she goes into a vibration of happiness, the abusive vibration will not match her happiness and won’t continue to bother her. Eventually it will stop.

The Council says Jolanda needs to take her focus off how horrible her situation is and change her thoughts. It’s her spiritual job right now to find a way to bring the love and happiness into her home.

The Council finishes with a reminder there’s nothing more powerful than your higher self. Think of yourself as a great spirit and warrior that has picked a tremendous challenge to go through, and you knew you could do this. There isn’t anything more powerful than your higher self. Pay attention to this part of you. Use the tools you’ve been given and keep focusing on the life you desire.

Listen to our entire 16-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all of their guidance for Jolanda and the rest of us. And let us know what you think.

November 11, 2016 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Desire, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , | 4 Comments

Whether to Leave an Abusive Relationship

This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Jolanda who says it’s taken her a long time to realize her husband (who is the father and step-father of their children) is verbally and emotionally abusive to her and their stepchildren.

Jolanda asks if she’s right to stay with her husband and The Council says there was a pre-birth agreement they would come together in this lifetime. They see previous lifetimes where Jolanda had experienced a lack of courage and in this lifetime she desires to learn to be a protector of herself and her children. The Council adds that her children are part of this agreement and it’s their purpose to push Jolanda to become the protector she wants to be.

The Council asks if Jolanda feels it’s safe for her children to be around her husband, or is it time to move on to protect them. The Council says these questions are there to push her in the direction she wants to go. And they add Jolanda doesn’t need to grow any more to realize the relationship with her husband is an abusive one.

The Council says Jolanda’s spirit wants to experience the other side of the coin – the kind of partner she’d feel unconditional love with and feel her children are safe, growing, and happy. They say it’s her choice and the lesson to protect herself and her children is right in front of her.

Jolanda says it’s difficult to be yelled at, blamed, ignored, and devalued by someone who means the world to her. And The Council asks if she believes by staying in this relationship she’ll acquire the strength she needs and the love she wants.

The Council advises Jolanda to love herself and her children and put herself on a path where she experiences this, and to picture herself as strong and happy, having a loving partner and happy children.

The Council says if Jolanda stays in this relationship it will stay the way it is. This is the way she created this relationship – to stay this way until she finds the strength to change it.

Listen to the entire 11-minute session (below) to hear all The Council’s guidance for Jolanda.

May 22, 2016 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Choice, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , , | 2 Comments

   

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