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How Can I Processes My Childhood Abuse?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Denisa, who asks about her childhood trauma. She says, I learned from The Council I chose this experience, but no matter how hard I try, I don’t know how to process it. The Council says, So you’ve learned about the trauma. Learning what you’ve gone through is enough to let the trauma go. Just knowing you created it to feel what it was like to go through it and change it to make it better.

Many people will ask, How do I process this trauma? And every day they think about it over and over in order to process it. Thinking about your trauma over and over only keeps you locked into it. We suggest not thinking about your trauma. You may feel this is strange advice, but when you don’t have those traumatic thoughts and pictures in your mind, it’s easier to go through it. It’s easier to process it by understanding you created this trauma for whatever reason and that’s it – the end. Don’t stay in your trauma thinking there’s some long drawn out purpose to it or process in it. There isn’t.

Instead of thinking about your trauma and how to get rid of it, leave it alone. Let it go. Take your mind and focus on other things, joyful things, things you wish to create in your life because thinking about that, you’ll create it. That’s the way you get through this trauma.

Denisa says, I’ve been working on myself a lot and sometimes I’m grateful for that experience, and sometimes I feel lost and don’t know what to do next. The Council says working on yourself doesn’t mean you go looking for all the things that are wrong with you. We suggest working on yourself by taking a positive attitude. When you have these positive thoughts, and when you can smile and feel good, that’s how you’re creating a better life for yourself.

Denisa says, I’d like to heal the pain I experienced as a child and move on. The Council sees you’ve gotten through this experience. The only pain you still experience is what you cause yourself by thinking about the trauma and remembering it over and over. You’re now creating more pain for yourself, which is keeping you in that painful situation. Change your thoughts. That’s how you let the pain go.

Denisa says, I haven’t spoken to my father in over 10 years because of the way he treated me. I’ve tried to connect with him in the past, but he’s very self-centered and manipulative, so I completely cut off contact with him. Do you think it’s okay that I don’t want to be in touch with him? The Council says of course it’s okay. He’s showing you what you need right now about how he is, and there’s no joy for you in that relationship. It’s what you’ve worked out in spirit. He’d create more uncomfortable feelings so you could walk away and let it go. This is part of him helping you to let go of that part of your life. Being around him wouldn’t make it easier. For what the two of you have worked out, communicating with your father will keep you in the trauma. It’s fine to let your relationship with him go.

Denisa asks if she and her father agreed go through this trauma on a spiritual level and The Council says, Of course. The agreement was to bring this trauma in and create an uncomfortable situation to learn from it and to see if you’re both in a place to heal it, or because of what’s going on in your lives, the healing wasn’t possible by staying together. And so one or both of you would create a situation where you can’t get along, and that’s the way you let go of this trauma, by not being around it. Stop keeping this in your mind and actively thinking about it. This is a gift that you give to each other to move on now.

Denisa asks what lessons did my father and I want to take from this experience? The Council says to learn about abuse, to learn about forgiveness, to learn about boundaries, and to learn creating joy in your life is what your life is all about. You don’t come here to suffer and be miserable. You come here to find a way to experience joy in this lifetime, to create it for yourself, and to help others find the joy they want. Help others in little ways to feel this joy. That’s your purpose.

Denisa asks if she and her father shared any past lives together. The Council sees a past life in Ireland where you were male cousins running an inn, and that was a very good life for both of you. You went through hardships. At one time there wasn’t enough food or enough money. There was a lot of community fighting. You learned to stick together and work through these diffuculties.

In your current life you wanted to understand how you’d handle another difficult situation, which was created by the abuse. Could you work through this? And does working through this abuse mean it’s okay to let it go and experience your life differently and seperately? That’s what’s going on now.

When Denisa finds herself focusing on the abuse that took place in her life, it’s a good idea to find something more pleasant to focus on. She can even think about the past life in Ireland where she had a very good life with the man who was her father in her current lifetime. Completely let go and know you’ve gone through this challenge of abuse. This separation is the way you both spiritually found to handle it. Now stop thinking about it and focus on creating how you want the rest of your life to be.


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October 13, 2021 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Helping Others, Life Purpose, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Why Do I Attract Abusive Behavior Into My Life?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Waimarama13, who asks: Why do I keep attracting abusive behavior into my life no matter how hard I try to keep myself safe? When I think I’ve closed the door on abuse, it finds me again in unexpected places and ways. The Council says with all the work you’ve gone through, the part of abuse you haven’t focused on is your fear of it. As you go forward and meditate, go into the fear. What does it feel like? What thoughts does it bring up? It touches on the part of you that feels alone, that feels a victim, that feels helpless. In your meditations, ask to see the source of what this fear is bringing up. It’s not necessary to go back into past lives about this.

How do you handle this fear? Do you ask for help when you’re abused? There’s no need to be alone in this abuse. There’s no need to feel frightened and confused. The part of you that’s strong and connected to spirit wants to handle this fear in a very adult and calm way. Have you reached out to get help for this abuse? What are the steps you take? We’re not talking about the boundaries you create to help yourself.

Waimarama says, I’ve been through three abusive relationships in my life and I ended the last and worst one in 2017. I’ve never had a healthy relationship with a kind and respectful man, and all I want in my life is to settle down with someone nice. After the last relationship ended I did so much work on myself to gain knowledge, strength, confidence, and self-worth to ensure I never got into another relationship like that again. I also did spiritual work. To this The Council repeats that Waimarama hasn’t dealt with the fear.

Waimarama says, I vowed my home would be a safe zone free from abusive behavior. For two years I’ve been with a nice man who treated me well, but now even this relationship is on the verge of ending because he can’t cope with how my youngest daughter behaves, and I can’t cope with it either. I’m so confused about why this is happening. The Council says it’s happening because you’ve all pre-planned it.

Waimarama says, This time it’s my eight-year-old daughter who’s abusing me. She’s an extremely lovely girl, but she’s mildly autistic, which means she has a lot of trouble with her emotions, especially anger. Her dad was my last abuser and I feel she’s learned his abusive behavior, but when she’s angry she’s actually treating me worse than he did.

2021 has been the worst and hardest year of my life. Early this year my daughter told me her dad and new stepmother were abusing her. I took over her full custody, went through court to fight for her safety, and eventually won. The Council says while you were doing all this with the thought of protecting your daughter and taking full custody, what have you done to prepare to take care of her? What are all the ways for you to get help for your daughter? Pulling her out of an abusive relationship is a wonderful thing, but your work doesn’t stop there. Your daughter has her lessons, which coincide with your lessons. Even though this is pre-planned, it’s up to you to make the environment what you want. Are you calm and strong when you see your daughter is becoming emotionally upset? When you see there are touches of violence coming from her, what do you do in the beginning?

It would be wise for you to teach your daughter about spirits. Teach her how she can reach out to spirits that are there to help her. Play games with her about energy. There are many wonderful books you can find and read with her about energy. Teach her to feel it. Teach her to know spirits are around her, loving her, and helping her through everything she’s going through. It would be nice to sit and speak of happy thoughts. Plan happy adventures, and start redirecting your direction and her direction. Instead we see you in fear, whether you feel it consciously or not, waiting to experience her next outbreak of violence. With the fear and your waiting for it, you’re pulling it in.

Waimarama says, While we were going through court my daughter broke down emotionally and her behavior, which was already very bad, turned insanely bad. She viciously attacked me many times, was very destructive, and could barely sleep at all due to long night terrors that lasted hours every night. She was also extremely violent during these night terrors.

The Council asks what are you doing when this is going on? Do you realize your daughter is helping you deal with your lessons of fear, lessons of being a victim, and lessons of being alone and helpless? And you’re helping her with becoming more than she is, and to have a greater understanding of what’s going on. These lessons that you’re bouncing off each other are right there in front of you. It’s important your daughter sees you’re getting her help. There are many places that will help you deal with the violence and abuse and how to physically stop it.

Teach your daughter about spirits when she’s angry. Start with the color red and see the number seven, as a game. Next can you see the number six? Six is orange. What else do you see with the number six? Let’s move on to the number five. Five is all yellow, almost like a daisy. What does that five feel like? Now let’s go to four. Four is all green, like a Christmas tree. Then we go to the number three. Three is all blue like the sky. Can you see clouds with the number three? Then we go to number two. Two is a beautiful dark blue. Are there stars in the blue? When we get to one we’ll feel wonderful. It’s purple. Can you see the purple around the number one?

You can do this as many times as it needs to be done. It will bring your daughter’s emotions down and will have a calming effect. Start slowly. As she does this, do it with her and tell her what you see. As you explain it to each other the emotions are blending, and with your intention you’re helping each other. Bob asks if associating the number and the color with locations in the body is a good idea and The Council says it’s too much at this time.

Waimarama says, I thought I was going to lose my mind and that I might have to give my daughter over to foster care to look after her. I also called the police quite a few times. Luckily in the last two months she’s been pretty good, calmed down a lot, stopped being violent, and isn’t so aggressive. I’ve spoken to her about how this is a peaceful home where we don’t attack each other. She says she understands, but she also says she can’t control herself when she gets angry. The Council says this is the feeling of being uncontrollable, which is one of your daughter’s issues. The colors and numbers will help.

Waimarama says, Unfortunately in the last week she started getting aggressive and angry again. Last night she kicked me in the face so hard she injured my neck. I feel so dejected, disappointed, confused, and let down by life. The Council says this is understandable, but what physical actions are you taking to help yourself deal with this, learn other methods to give your daughter the help she needs, and learn how she can understand what’s going on and help herself? It’s all about her learning about herself, what she needs, and asking for it. And it’s also about you asking for help as you go through this. You’re both helping each other with the challenges you wish to experience in this lifetime.

Waimarama says, I’ve done everything I can to keep myself safe and to ensure I only have respectful and safe relationships in my life. The Council says you can see everything you’ve done, and everything you think you can do isn’t working. There’s always more.

Waimarama says, Now it’s my own child who’s abusing me, and because I’m the only one who can protect her from her father’s abuse, I’m trapped with her, protecting her while she abuses me. This is so unfair. The Council says you’re protecting your daughter from her father’s abuse, but who’s protecting you? Why aren’t you taking further steps? Everything must be done on an energy level first. Work with the colors and the numbers. Take as much time as you can to see your daughter getting better. See the calmness come over her. Direct your thoughts to help you have the relationships and the calmness you want in your life in the future.

Waimarama says, I just can’t understand why abuse keeps following me like a bad smell. I realize there must be some kind of lesson to learn, but I thought I’d learned it by strengthening myself and my boundaries. When my child starts abusing me I wonder what the lesson must be. I haven’t willingly invited this abuser into my life. She’s my child and no one chooses to have an abusive child, or a child with neurological and emotional problems. The Council says, As a spirit you’ve willingly invited your daughter’s abuse into your life. Many people have also chosen to have a child with these problems, and you have chosen this also. As your daughter’s spirit came along to work with you, she chose to be this kind of person to help you.

Waimarama says, I’m concerned for my daughter’s future. If she behaves like this when she’s eight years old and unable to control her extreme rage, what will she be like as a teenager and an adult? Will she get herself into trouble abusing and attacking others? The Council says of course she will, unless you do the work and you work with her.

Waimarama says, I’m such a peace-loving person. I don’t know how to deal with my daughter’s problem and help her to change for the better. Obviously my peaceful ways haven’t had any positive influence on her over the years. I wonder where this is coming from within her, as I’d like to be able to help her. Has she learned this behavior or inherited it from her father, or is it her autism, or both, or something else? The Council says the autism was created and pre-planned by the two of you. That’s a part of the problem. What she’s learned from her father has also been part of the problem. Seeing you unhappy, in victim mode and not knowing what to do about it instead of being in your strength, which is the place you want to get to, is also a contributing factor. As you help yourself and you help your daughter, the situation will all come together.

Waimarama says, Will I ever be able to keep a nice man and have a healthy relationship? I’m forty-five years old now and because I’m having this huge difficulty with my daughter, I feel like there’s not much hope left. My lovely man says it’s too much for him to deal with and that he doesn’t want these problems in his life. Just when I need my partner the most, he leaves me to deal with this situation on my own and distances himself from us, which hurts so much and breaks my heart.

The Council says, These problems aren’t part of what this man wants to create in his life moving forward. We understand you’d like a partner, but before this can happen you must get to a place of strength, independence, and knowing how to handle what’s going on in your life. Your focus should be on your daughter, how to help her feel better, and have tools to make herself better. When you have this up and running, the right man for you will come into your life. Before that happens and before you start putting all your energy into finding a man, work on yourself, and see yourself happy in the future. You don’t need to know how this is going to happen. Just imagine yourself and your daughter are happy and everything will begin to fall into place.


Listen to the entire 18-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Waimarama13 and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it. Or you can ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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September 30, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Emotions, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Soul | , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Is My Current Relationship with My Soul-Contracted Life Partner?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Eleanor, who grew up in an abusive home and began the long process of recovery as soon as she left. It’s been a journey of estrangement,  homelessness, fragile mental health, and difficulty finding work, but I’ve come a long way. This journey has included steep learning curves in relationships and despite 26 years of failed relationships, my heart always told me I have a soul-contracted life partner or husband in my future.

The Council says many people get hung up on the concept of a soul contract. What you do in spirit is, as you’re choosing what you’d like to create in your current lifetime there are many souls that come forward and volunteer to be in this lifetime with you. You have a mother that volunteers, a father, friends, people that stay in your life for a short time, and people that stay in your life for a long time,

There’s never just one particular soul you make a contract with. You have a soul that comes forward and says I will come into your life and we’ll have a relationship for a time and then we’ll go our separate ways. You’ll learn from this relationship and I’ll learn from it. You pick the lessons you’d like to work on, then you’d go to another relationship and learn something different.

It’s not that you’ve failed because you’re unable to find this one particular relationship that you have a soul contract with. You’ve agreed with other souls to experience part of this life together. When you feel you’ve learned what you wanted to, then there’ll be someone that will come into your life and we’ll do the rest of our life together and learn other lessons together. You’re on the right track, but don’t always focus on where your single, contracted soulmate is, There was a contract with everyone you’ve had a relationship with.

Focus on each relationship you’ve gone through. What have you learned? What would you do differently? When you understand this and can act differently in a new relationship, taking what you’ve learned and not repeating it if it was negative, or bringing more love into a new relationship, you’ll create the relationship with the person who said, in spirit, they’d come into your life when you’re both ready.

Eleanor says 3½ years ago my partner at that time abandoned me when I had cancer. I vowed I’d work on myself so hard that my next relationship would be with my soul contracted life partner. The Council says each person you’ve been in a relationship with was a soul contract you made to be with that particular person for that particular time.

Eleanor says this summer a friend of a friend came into my life. To my surprise our lives mirrored. We had a lot in common and the union was surrounded by synchronicity. Again The Council asks what have you learned? What does it mean to have something in common with this person? Was this person a mirror image for you? What have you learned from this person’s experience that’s similar to your own?

Eleanor says this person has a pattern of leaving me and then coming back, which takes a huge toll on me. We’re currently separated and I’m taking stock. Is this my soul contracted life partner? The Council says he is a soul contracted partner and how you move forward to make this a permanent relationship or not is by reviewing all your relationships and what you’re learning from them. Is this relationship something you’ve created before and are creating again? Or are you in a more positive place and can you focus on what you can bring into this relationship? It’s how you look at this relationship and what you’ve learned that will guide your next step.

You’ve talked about relationships that didn’t last. In your most recent relationship this person has come to you as a mirror. It’s wonderful to have so much in common with this soul, but the lesson of abandonment is still there for you. You can take what you love from this relationship and move forward because you don’t want to keep experiencing this lesson of abandonment with this person or anyone new.

Take what you’ve learned with this person and put it in your focus going forward that you’d like these traits and these experiences with a person that could be permanent in your life. When you think of your situation this way you can decide whether to stay in this relationship and just change your focus and try to get this person to behave differently. Or you can decide this relationship was fun and I learned enough, but I want someone new to go forward with. You are the creator.

Eleanor finishes by asking at what point in my life can I expect my life partner to appear? The Council says when you do the inner work that lets this person appear. We can’t give you a time. We don’t know ahead of time what you’ll create. We can see the path you’re on and where it’s going, but you’re the creator and you’ll learn from your lessons.


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December 15, 2020 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Soul, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Is My Life Purpose to Save My Husband from Himself?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Amy, after she read a post we wrote called, “Help Leaving an Abusive Husband“. Amy says she wishes she read that post four years ago, but I probably wouldn’t have understood it then. I shared every emotion and felt every pain of the abusive relationship this woman spoke of about the struggle of leaving. I spent ten years of my life trying to live with this inner hell or fix it for the sake of my children, my career, my house, fear I’d be less happy alone than in an abusive relationship, and on and on. I placed one obstacle in front of another giving myself a reason to stay. I lived in fear and obsessed about the emotional abuse and my husband’s substance abuse I was allowing myself and my children to be subjected to day in and day out.

The Council says it’s wonderful you can look back and see what you allowed to happen. Now you can see how your marriage affected you and your children.

Amy says she spoke of nothing else to my friends and my therapist. For a long time I thought I was being punished and this was my fate. The Council says they hope you realize there was no one punishing you. It was an experience you needed to have and to work through, to see it and go forward with your life from where you are.

Amy says thank God I found teachers like you, Abraham, and several others. Over the last 18 months I feel I have come so far. I’m in the process of divorce, at peace with it, and I can’t wait to see how the next chapter of my life unfolds. What used to feel hopeless now feels limitless. I’m okay with not knowing, surrendering, and having big dreams. I don’t feel the abuse like I used to. It feels far away from me now and I’m starting to see the lessons my husband taught me. If only I made these changes ten years ago perhaps I’d have been able to save my marriage.

The Council says you couldn’t save this marriage on your own. These were experiences you wanted to have. Now that you’ve gone through it and experienced the challenges and the hardship you wanted, now you’re able to change your life.

Amy says through meditation I’m trying to see my husband and I feel sorry for what I see because I don’t think he loves himself. The Council says the emotion of feeling sorry for your husband doesn’t do either of you any good. You need to send your husband love and light even if you don’t agree with what he’s going through or how he handles it. These are his lessons.

Amy asks The Council if her life purpose is to help her husband and save him from himself. The Council says no, it’s not. One of the things you agreed to before coming into this lifetime was to help your husband with his challenges, watch him, see what he’s going through, and learn from these experiences. You didn’t agree to save him. What you’re supposed to do is send light and love. You can’t get your husband to change. This is something he has to come to in his own time. Helping and understanding doesn’t mean staying in an abusive relationship. Send him the energy that’ll help push him through his challenges if and when he’s ready. That’s your purpose.

Amy says I feel like I failed my husband and our children on some level because I’ve been down this road with him before. The Council says you haven’t failed your husband or your children. Remember, in spirit before you came into this lifetime, you, your husband, and your children agreed to experience what you’ve been going through. They’re all lessons you wanted to experience. Know you’re on the right path. How you handle what you experience will make it change for you. It will help you to see it in a different way and help you move through it.

Amy says my Mom fell ill and passed away and my husband made this time very difficult. That was the catalyst for me. The pain brought me to a spiritual awakening and I’m now so thankful. The Council says we’d like you to pay attention to what you’ve said, which is the pain that brought you to a spiritual awakening. The pain did what it was supposed to do.

Amy says that was two years ago and asks The Council if this is guilt. The Council says of course this is guilt. It’s part of the human condition, but it’s not necessary. Remember that you, your children, and your husband are spirit and you’ve all agreed to create the drama that’s been going on. How you look at this and change it, and how you look forward with thoughts of happiness that you can create whatever you need to create is what’s important right now. Always send each other light and help them, but accept them as they are.

If your husband doesn’t behave the way you’d like him to behave, it’s because he’s still working on his challenges. Your husband isn’t in your life to meet what you expect from him. Wish him well, send him love, and hopefully when he’s ready, he’ll move through his challenges.


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November 27, 2020 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Love, Marriage, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | 6 Comments

What Past Lives Have I Shared with My Abusive Brother?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Susan, who says I’m always fascinated to learn when something going on in a person’s life is impacted by a past life. I’ve been told I have a past life relationship with my older brother who bullied and abused me growing up. Can The Council tell me about this past life relationship and what led to this abuse?

Susan adds that she recently experienced a healing shift that felt like my brother’s and my relationship is complete – like I reached a goal my soul set up for me. Unfortunately letting my brother go was more difficult than I expected and in the process my sister-in-law showed her true colors and I let her go also.

The Council sees several lifetimes ago you were together as brother and sister and you had a wonderful loving relationship. When that life ended for both of you and you crossed over into spirit, you decided to plan at least two more lives together where you thought it would be fun to be rival siblings, because in the spirit world nothing is too hard for you to do and nothing is serious.

You agreed to have lives where one time you would abuse your brother so your brother would have the opportunity to forgive you. Then you’d create another lifetime where you switch roles and your brother would be the abuser and you would try to learn forgiveness. After you both experienced this abuse, could you have closure on this lesson? In your current life can you forgive your brother for how he treated you? This was a spiritual contract and your brother fulfilled his end of the agreement by being abusive to you.

Have you learned how to forgive? In forgiving you have the choice of letting your brother go peacefully, or somehow building the relationship again. How will you choose to have closure in your current life so you don’t have to create another abusive life?

You say your sister-in-law has stepped in. When there are family arguments the wife sides with her husband or steps in to give her opinion, which can upset the situation further. Don’t let what your sister-in-law says or does interfere with the lesson you’ve learned and the forgiveness you and your brother have both worked for in these lifetimes.

Intuitively you know this abusive cycle is complete. This is your third lifetime together to learn this lesson of abuse – a wonderful life, one where he’s the abuser, and one where you were the abuser. What have you learned? Can you have closure with this abuse by forgiving your brother without him having to change and becoming a better person? Can you forgive him for his abuse, send him love, and let go of the trauma, if that’s what you want? Your brother finished a lifetime learning to forgive you. Can you end your current life where it was your hope to be able to forgive your brother?

It’s your turn to learn to forgive your brother and rebuild that relationship if that’s what you want. If you try to rebuild this relationship now it will be different if you close it with forgiveness and understanding.


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August 17, 2020 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Forgiveness, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , | 2 Comments

Getting Over Attracting an Abusive Relationship

This post answers questions from a reader named, Kristina, who recently broke up with her abusive ex-partner of two years, but she still maintains contact with him because she felt he was the love of her life.

The Council says it’s wonderful to leave an abusive relationship because it hurts you physically and/or emotionally. And The Council asks why you would keep in contact with this abusive person. You say it’s because you feel there was a great love there, but The Council emphasized that love is not abusive.

At this point The Council feels having something to do with this person is an excuse because you think there’s love there. You’re in a place where the relationship is familiar and you believe it will change. And yet the part of your spirit that doesn’t need to experience abusiveness is telling you it’s time to end this relationship.

What have you learned from being abused? There isn’t any love in abuse. Love is supportive. Love is compassionate. Love is understanding. The choice is yours, but why would you want to connect with someone abusive? If you think about it, the part of you that wants to experience something better has already left this relationship.

Kristina says this man walked away leaving her heartbroken and her pain and anxiety is through the roof. The Council says anxiety will come from being abused. This relationship took away your power. You were smart to get out.

Kristina says she can’t understand how she attracted this abusive man into her life when she was never in an abusive relationship before. The Council says this abuse is a lesson you wanted in spirit to experience; to feel it, to grow from it, and know this isn’t the kind of energy you’re here to bring in.

When you put a stop to this abuse and you give yourself time to recover, you can think of the kind of relationship you want. With these thoughts you can bring a loving relationship into this reality. And as more and more people bring love into this reality it affects everyone on the planet. This is your purpose. There is no reason to stay with the hurt of this abuse. Think about what you’ve learned from this relationship and what you’ll create? And The Council says stay with positive thoughts.

Kristina asks how she can get over the deep pain she’s experiencing. And The Council says by knowing this abusive relationship was pre-planned in spirit between your soul and the soul of your abuser. On a soul level this man is wonderful. He’s come into this reality and played “the bad guy” so you can learn from this experience. Now you can let go of this abuse. Change your vibration with your thoughts and find the power within you. Abuse takes away your dignity and your good thoughts about yourself. Many who are abused blame themselves instead of the abuser.

Read past life books by Robert Schwartz and you’ll learn about abuse and why you asked for it in your life. Know that you broke off this abusive vibration and are no longer in it. You don’t need an excuse to remain in this vibration. Go with positive thoughts. Thank the spirit of this abusive man for playing his part. Think about what happened and how you can help others who experience abuse who come into your life. Work on the issue of deserving better. Meditate and pray on this.

Love this soul that helped you learn about abuse and thank him for what went on. Understand this was an experience and it wasn’t supposed to permanently take love away from your life. Your wanted to go through this to find the strength to look at the abuse, learn from it, and then become the strong soul that you are. Find the love within you. The abuse was only to take you to a place where you find your power. You find your knowledge that you have choices and you can create what you want with these choices.

Listen to the audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Kristina and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel.

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June 20, 2019 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Life Purpose, Love, Other Realities, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Soul, Spirit | , , , , | 2 Comments

Why Did I Have an Accident that Severely Hurt a Family Member?

This post answers a question for The Council from a reader named, Laura, who asks why she had an accident where a family member was severely injured? Laura still feels very guilty about the accident and it’s affected her whole life.

The Council begins by reminding Laura that in every lifetime you create there are lessons you wish to learn and experiences you wish to have and work through. Laura’s current lifetime comes from other lifetimes she’s gone through were she didn’t allow herself to understand the abuse other people went through.

In your current life you created this accident to experience it’s feelings so you could learn from them. In the other lifetimes you’ve experienced where there was abuse, murder, suicide, and deaths in families and in relationships, the one thing you didn’t learn was forgiveness.

In other lifetimes you weren’t able to forgive the people around you who committed accidents. You didn’t understand why these people weren’t punished, or if they were punished, you thought it was never enough. The Council asks Laura if she’s punishing herself in her current life. They see she’s still not understanding the reason she created this accident.

This accident was agreed upon in spirit by everyone involved in it. Can the person who was injured live a good life with their disability? Can the family of the person that was hurt understand what happened? They all agreed to go through this experience and most of them are also working on forgiveness.

Read about past lives, how people learned from their other lives, and how they affect your present lifetime. When you realize what the lesson is from this accident, can you begin to forgive yourself and focus on how all the souls involved also had many lessons to learn from it? Instead of punishing yourself or holding onto grief and not forgiving yourself, can you imagine how you played your part? You really wanted to experience this accident because in so many other lifetimes you weren’t able to forgive others. Now you’ve brought this accident into your life so you can learn forgiveness.

The Council recommends Laura read, Your Soul’s Plan, by Robert Schwartz, or any book by Brian Weiss on past lives. When you read these books and see how people have created misfortunes, diseases, and loneliness, you can begin to see what was created and what people were trying to experience and learn from, and you’ll understand more about why you’ve created this accident.

No one has created this accident but you and you can begin to see the purpose for it. Take the focus off the idea that this accident has tortured you your whole life and you can’t forgive yourself. The Council says of course you can forgive yourself.

It’s a big deal for Laura to learn this lesson of forgiveness in this lifetime. It’s a difficult lesson because it’s been in so many of her lifetimes, and she’s never understood and properly learned from it the way her soul wants to learn it.

Don’t be surprised when you get to the place of forgiving yourself. It will be a great relief. When you see how you’ve all come together to experience this accident and the forgiveness, you’ll begin to find love, first for others and then for yourself.

Listen to the entire 9-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Laura and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

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September 9, 2018 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Forgiveness, Guidance, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

Having More Loving Thoughts About Her Husband

This post is inspired by questions from a reader named, Vacha, who’s asked questions about her relationship with her husband before. She and her young son have moved back to be with her husband (and her son’s father) after a separation due to Vacha feeling abused in their relationship. She says everything is going well so far, but she isn’t feeling happy deep inside and suggests she may be finding it difficult to forget her husband’s past behavior.

The Council asks Vacha if her purpose for moving back with her husband was to be open to trying her marriage again? They say if she focuses on what happened in the past, she’ll never move forward. They ask what Vacha can do to make their relationship better? What would she like to see her husband doing, and talk to him about these things.

Vacha says she’s going to begin meditating on what to do and she asks for guidance to have more loving thoughts and be in a more positive state of mind. The Council says to have more loving thoughts, think about what brought her and her husband together in the beginning of the relationship. When she looks at her husband now, look at him with the understanding that he’s also a spirit in a physical body going through his own lessons. Is he trying to make the relationship work?

The Council says the purpose of this challenge in their relationship is for her to bring love into the situation, change it with her thoughts, and turn the situation around. See her situation the way she desires it to be. Stop focusing on being unhappy. Find the happiness from the memories she has and try to bring this happiness into her life every day.

Listen to our entire 6-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Vacha and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about it.

October 25, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Love, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Help Leaving An Abusive Husband

This post is inspired by a follow-up question from a reader named Jolanda who wrote to us a few months ago about whether she should leave her abusive husband, and The Council advised her that she should leave because her husband wouldn’t change. They also said she should leave for the sake of her children. Jolanda says she’s spent these months trying to find a solution other than leaving, but she now sees her situation isn’t likely to get any better.

The Council says staying with her husband isn’t the direction she wanted to go in and they ask Jolanda not to give up hope on what she can create for herself. They ask if she believes she deserves better, and they say if she’s unable to live with this difficulty there’s another path to happiness. They suggest she look for the courage to pursue this happiness, and they add there’s no rush. Jolanda will get where she wants when she’s more comfortable within herself and researched how she’ll make her life work without being with her husband. She’s still in the beginning stage.

Jolanda says she thought she’d be married for the rest of her life and can barely imagine living without her husband. And The Council asks how she expects to change this situation when she’s unable to imagine the change.

The Council reminds Jolanda that to create a better situation she needs to continually focus on what she desires. If she goes through this situation day after day and doesn’t focus on what she desires because it’s difficult to see a better way, her situation will remain unchanged.

The Council says if Jolanda is unable to find it in her heart to leave her husband, the lesson here is still finding courage. While she is still in this relationship she doesn’t have to take abuse, which she has created, from her husband. Put herself and her children first. Learn to be protected.

The Council sees Jolanda has a lot of work to get to the point where she can focus on how she’d like to live her life. The lesson can be learned, but instead of feeling hopeless she needs to change her thinking. However long this takes, she’ll find a way to do this.

What can she do to find happiness for herself and her children while she remains in this situation? When she goes into a vibration of happiness, the abusive vibration will not match her happiness and won’t continue to bother her. Eventually it will stop.

The Council says Jolanda needs to take her focus off how horrible her situation is and change her thoughts. It’s her spiritual job right now to find a way to bring the love and happiness into her home.

The Council finishes with a reminder there’s nothing more powerful than your higher self. Think of yourself as a great spirit and warrior that has picked a tremendous challenge to go through, and you knew you could do this. There isn’t anything more powerful than your higher self. Pay attention to this part of you. Use the tools you’ve been given and keep focusing on the life you desire.

Listen to our entire 16-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all of their guidance for Jolanda and the rest of us. And let us know what you think.

November 11, 2016 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Desire, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , | 7 Comments

Whether to Leave an Abusive Relationship

This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Jolanda who says it’s taken her a long time to realize her husband (who is the father and step-father of their children) is verbally and emotionally abusive to her and their stepchildren.

Jolanda asks if she’s right to stay with her husband and The Council says there was a pre-birth agreement they would come together in this lifetime. They see previous lifetimes where Jolanda had experienced a lack of courage and in this lifetime she desires to learn to be a protector of herself and her children. The Council adds that her children are part of this agreement and it’s their purpose to push Jolanda to become the protector she wants to be.

The Council asks if Jolanda feels it’s safe for her children to be around her husband, or is it time to move on to protect them. The Council says these questions are there to push her in the direction she wants to go. And they add Jolanda doesn’t need to grow any more to realize the relationship with her husband is an abusive one.

The Council says Jolanda’s spirit wants to experience the other side of the coin – the kind of partner she’d feel unconditional love with and feel her children are safe, growing, and happy. They say it’s her choice and the lesson to protect herself and her children is right in front of her.

Jolanda says it’s difficult to be yelled at, blamed, ignored, and devalued by someone who means the world to her. And The Council asks if she believes by staying in this relationship she’ll acquire the strength she needs and the love she wants.

The Council advises Jolanda to love herself and her children and put herself on a path where she experiences this, and to picture herself as strong and happy, having a loving partner and happy children.

The Council says if Jolanda stays in this relationship it will stay the way it is. This is the way she created this relationship – to stay this way until she finds the strength to change it.

Listen to the entire 11-minute session (below) to hear all The Council’s guidance for Jolanda.

May 22, 2016 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Choice, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , , | 2 Comments

   

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