Is My Life Purpose to Save My Husband from Himself?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Amy, after she read a post we wrote called, “Help Leaving an Abusive Husband“. Amy says she wishes she read that post four years ago, but I probably wouldn’t have understood it then. I shared every emotion and felt every pain of the abusive relationship this woman spoke of about the struggle of leaving. I spent ten years of my life trying to live with this inner hell or fix it for the sake of my children, my career, my house, fear I’d be less happy alone than in an abusive relationship, and on and on. I placed one obstacle in front of another giving myself a reason to stay. I lived in fear and obsessed about the emotional abuse and my husband’s substance abuse I was allowing myself and my children to be subjected to day in and day out.
The Council says it’s wonderful you can look back and see what you allowed to happen. Now you can see how your marriage affected you and your children.
Amy says she spoke of nothing else to my friends and my therapist. For a long time I thought I was being punished and this was my fate. The Council says they hope you realize there was no one punishing you. It was an experience you needed to have and to work through, to see it and go forward with your life from where you are.
Amy says thank God I found teachers like you, Abraham, and several others. Over the last 18 months I feel I have come so far. I’m in the process of divorce, at peace with it, and I can’t wait to see how the next chapter of my life unfolds. What used to feel hopeless now feels limitless. I’m okay with not knowing, surrendering, and having big dreams. I don’t feel the abuse like I used to. It feels far away from me now and I’m starting to see the lessons my husband taught me. If only I made these changes ten years ago perhaps I’d have been able to save my marriage.
The Council says you couldn’t save this marriage on your own. These were experiences you wanted to have. Now that you’ve gone through it and experienced the challenges and the hardship you wanted, now you’re able to change your life.
Amy says through meditation I’m trying to see my husband and I feel sorry for what I see because I don’t think he loves himself. The Council says the emotion of feeling sorry for your husband doesn’t do either of you any good. You need to send your husband love and light even if you don’t agree with what he’s going through or how he handles it. These are his lessons.
Amy asks The Council if her life purpose is to help her husband and save him from himself. The Council says no, it’s not. One of the things you agreed to before coming into this lifetime was to help your husband with his challenges, watch him, see what he’s going through, and learn from these experiences. You didn’t agree to save him. What you’re supposed to do is send light and love. You can’t get your husband to change. This is something he has to come to in his own time. Helping and understanding doesn’t mean staying in an abusive relationship. Send him the energy that’ll help push him through his challenges if and when he’s ready. That’s your purpose.
Amy says I feel like I failed my husband and our children on some level because I’ve been down this road with him before. The Council says you haven’t failed your husband or your children. Remember, in spirit before you came into this lifetime, you, your husband, and your children agreed to experience what you’ve been going through. They’re all lessons you wanted to experience. Know you’re on the right path. How you handle what you experience will make it change for you. It will help you to see it in a different way and help you move through it.
Amy says my Mom fell ill and passed away and my husband made this time very difficult. That was the catalyst for me. The pain brought me to a spiritual awakening and I’m now so thankful. The Council says we’d like you to pay attention to what you’ve said, which is the pain that brought you to a spiritual awakening. The pain did what it was supposed to do.
Amy says that was two years ago and asks The Council if this is guilt. The Council says of course this is guilt. It’s part of the human condition, but it’s not necessary. Remember that you, your children, and your husband are spirit and you’ve all agreed to create the drama that’s been going on. How you look at this and change it, and how you look forward with thoughts of happiness that you can create whatever you need to create is what’s important right now. Always send each other light and help them, but accept them as they are.
If your husband doesn’t behave the way you’d like him to behave, it’s because he’s still working on his challenges. Your husband isn’t in your life to meet what you expect from him. Wish him well, send him love, and hopefully when he’s ready, he’ll move through his challenges.
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Question About Past Lives, Mental Issues, and a Future Life
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Jaden, who asks for insight into his past lives, how they’re affecting his current life, and why he chose his current life?
The Council says Jaden agreed to live his current life for the fun of it, to take different lessons and change them for the better, to help the people around him, and to find a way to bring the love from spirit into his current life. Your current life isn’t about past lives. It’s about working with souls you know from other lifetimes to see where you are in relationship to them and to be aware of what you want that they’ve accomplished. They’d be like a teacher to you and open your eyes to things you can create in your life. There are others that will come into your life and you’ll see things you don’t want, and then it’s your choice to pull away from that.
You planned to meet people that would show you a better way to live your life. You wanted to choose spirits, learn where they’re at, and then claim what you wanted for yourself. This whole lifetime you’ll hopefully be meeting people, looking at how they are, what they’ve accomplished, where they are spiritually, determining if their thoughts are positive or negative, and taking what is positive from each person and add it to your life.
In your current life you have a free pass to choose your direction as you move forward. This is a ‘choose as you go’ life. There wasn’t some specific lesson you wanted to learn, change, or heal from a past life. You wanted to move forward and work with spirits that show up. Will you help them? Will they help you? Will they give you ideas about what you want and don’t want?
Jaden asks for suggestions about mental issues he’s going through. The Council says unclear thinking and trust are some mental issues you’re going through. There are emotions that set you off and can bring up a manic or a depressing response. This is from thoughts of lack or abundance you see around you. Find daily things to have gratitude for, even when things don’t go your way, and your mental issues will calm down and you’ll feel better.
The Council says your throat, third eye, and crown chakra need work and they ask Bob to provide their meditation techniques for healing them, which is done in the next post. Healing your throat will help you express yourself better and find creative things that make you happy. Healing your third eye will bring you clarity and help you see and hear things differently. Healing your crown chakra will open you to the energy of your higher self, of your guides, and get you more in touch with your purpose in this lifetime.
Jaden asks The Council for insight into his next life and The Council says that is entirely up to you. At the end of your current life you’ll decide what you want to build into your next life, the spirits you want with you, and the lessons you want to go through. The Council says it’s perfectly proper to think about what you’d like your next lifetime to be like. Nothing is written in stone. You create as you go.
The Council suggests Jaden be in the present, learn from the people around him, and he’ll begin to see things differently. If you stay on the path you’re on, things in your life will begin to change. And you’ll also change the future lives you create for yourself.
Jaden asks The Council where his next life will be because there’s a particular country he has in mind. The Council says at the end of this life when you go back to spirit and you’re ready to create another life, who you are in your current life goes with you back into spirit. All the knowledge, wisdom, and experiences are there and from this knowledge you choose when to go on, how to go on, where to go on, and who to go on with.
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What Is My Main Purpose in This Lifetime?
This post is inspired by a reader named Darla who is asking The Council for some career advice. She’s been a stay at home mother for 14 years and loves her children very much, but now she’s ready to re-enter the workforce and she has huge insecurities about what type of job she’d be suited for. She feels lost and like she’s not traveling down the right road to genuine fulfillment, and she asks The Council her main purpose in this lifetime.
The Council begins with a statement that everyone’s main purpose in all lifetimes is to bring the feeling of love into whatever you create. And they suggest Darla begin slowly and perhaps jump around a bit until she finds what gives her the most joy.
The Council says Darla intended to be of service, make a difference, and teach the people she meets how to speak their truth using pictures and stories. If she still feels joy around being with children they suggest she start out by volunteering with them, or possibly young adults or older people.
The Council sees Darla wanted to work specifically with pictures and recommends finding opportunities to teach children to make pictures of what kindness looks like. They say there was also a desire to work with older people who have memory problems and they suggest working with colors to stimulate them.
The Council says Darla has the ability to feel what others are feeling and this is a great gift. They recommend feeling what is needed in each situation, learning more about it, and coming up with ideas to bring out the comfort and joy in each person she works with by talking about feelings that need to be spoken and released or drawing pictures of these emotions. They say this will take time. And they add that of all the things Darla wants to create in this lifetime, trust, love, and safety figure prominently.
The Council says if Darla goes in this direction she’ll open a door within her and find the gifts she needs to bring out the creative side in people. They say this is a big job and it will lead her on a wonderful path, and there will be lots of growth and change within her as she finds ways to do this.
The Council says Darla wants to find a way to teach kindness to the people she meets. And they say as she goes from place to place she’ll see what’s needed and create her own way to bring this kindness out in others.
The Council says if Darla begins in the workforce, even if she finds herself working in a restaurant or a retail store or an office if that’s what’s needed at this point in her life, they say to go with this. But everywhere she goes, without judgement she will see how people treat each other and ask herself how she can show kindness and teach it creatively. The Council says this will take time, but there will be many rewards as Darla moves forward this.
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You’re Here to Experience Everything With Love
This post is inspired by a question from Ali who asks if you have a natural talent for something are you obliged to use this talent.
The Council says there’s no obligation. You come with gifts and you chose whether to use them or not. There is no should. You have a talent you brought forth in this lifetime if it brings you pleasure to use it. They ask what is the purpose of practicing art, even if you are talented, if it doesn’t bring you joy. You are suppose to enjoy what you do; find fun in it; love it. These are the things you want to do in this lifetime.
The Council says they are here to hopefully give people clarity and help them feel better. They remind us we are here to bring love into every situation and know you have the choice of what you want to experience and how you want to experience it. And they remind us it’s our purpose to bring love from our spiritual reality into our human reality.
Look at every part of your life and ask if you are bringing love into it. Can you make your life more fun? Find a better way to experience your life. There’s no need for guilt or fear. When you experience these emotion it’s because you’ve forgotten you are pure love and light. That’s the true you.
You’re so much more than your body and the person you are in this reality. You’ve had many other lifetimes and many talents. Great beauty and great love is within you. You’re here with many spirits to experience anything you want to experience, and your intention is to experience everything with love.
The Council’s closing thoughts go beyond Ali’s questions to answer larger questions you may have about your life. Listen to the entire 6-minute recording to benefit from what The Council is saying.
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What is Karma and How Does it Work?
This post is inspired by a question from Oksana who was confused about the subject of karma and wanted to know what The Council has to say about it.
Council Comments on the Meaning of Karma
“We like this question very much – the subject of karma… how one’s thinking creates their own reality. For many centuries this idea of karma has been elusive. In the beginning it was thought that the deeds you do in this life, you would pay for in the afterlife, such as heaven if you did many good deeds, and hell if you did many bad, hurtful, horrible things – you would pay for it in the afterlife.
“And then it evolved that if you were truly bad enough in many of your lifetimes, you not only had to wait until you went back to non-physical, but you would begin to pay for it in the physical body.
“So again, you would experience many challenging situations in your life. And many people who, not understanding where this came from, would begin to think: This is my karma. I know I’m not a bad person now. I must be paying for it from another lifetime.
“And we can only tell you that you create your own reality. And by believing there is a judgmental God that will cast these horrible situations onto you – we are here to tell you this is not how it works.”
—The Council
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Welcome to Ask The Council, a blog where you can ask a group of loving and wise spirit guides a question and get an answer, for free. You can also contact us for a paid private phone session with The Council, and you can read the questions other readers have asked and the answers they’ve received. Other posts contain quotations from The Council that we hope you find inspiring, uplifting, and educational.
Ask The Council a Question
If there’s a question you’ve been thinking about and you’re curious how The Council might answer it, we encourage you to either use the blog’s Comments feature to ask your question, or contact us for a private phone session. You can click here to go to the ‘Let us know what you think about this post, or ask The Council a question’ section of this Welcome post and type your question there or you can type your question in the same section at the bottom of any post that inspires you to ask a question or leave a comment.
Since the blog is currently a project we do in our spare time it can take a while for us to do a session with The Council on a question and then publish a post on the session. Depending on the question and the session it can sometimes take weeks after a question is asked to publish a post with The Council’s answer. Please be patient.
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Cynthia is able to communicate with a group of five non-physical spirit guides in a manner similar to the way Esther Hicks communicates with and speaks for the spirit guides, Abraham, and Jane Roberts communicated and spoke for the spirit guide, Seth. I (Bob) basically interview The Council as they speak through Cynthia during what we refer to as a session. Sessions generally last 5-15 minutes and are usually audio recorded. During the session Cynthia is aware of what The Council is saying and she also receives visual impressions and other types of telepathic communication from them.
The Council’s Basic Guidance
Since we began these sessions with The Council around 2009 they consistently emphasize a few basic ideas that we attempt to summarize here:
1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
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