Will I Find A Partner To Love And Who Loves Me?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, In This Lifetime, who read our post, Can Your Desire for Something Create It in Your Life? She says: I learned from this post there could be different experiences going on for myself that I came to this world to have. And she asks: What experiences is it that I’m here to have and learn from?
Council: You very much wanted to be independent. You wanted to be a creative person. You wanted to learn about your spiritual path. You wanted a family with the right person that would be there for you. But most of all you wanted to learn to be independent. You wanted to feel confident in your intelligence, how you tuned into different people, and how you treated people. Then you wanted to recognize how people treated you. It was these characteristics you wanted to learn about in yourself and in other people.
Lifetime: A counselor who can hear spirit led me to believe I came into this world to break free from a controlling and narcissistic husband who I shared many lifetimes where I was unable to break free successfully.
Council: You created these lives and that would be a big part of learning to be independent. If you feel you created this person and wanted to break free, there’s your challenge of independence.
Lifetime: I ended the marriage six years ago, have taken many years to let go, reconsider my beliefs, and relocate across the country.
Council: There you are. You’re on the right path.
Lifetime: Yet am I able to experience a committed partner in this lifetime who I can love as fully as I know I’m capable, and who can and will love me deeply?
Council: You’ve pre-planned this meeting also. Keep focusing on independence, keep focusing on feeling good about yourself, and know that everything you want, you will create.
Lifetime: I carry the herpes virus and although it hasn’t been active for a long time, I feel this is shameful and limits my opportunities for love.
Council: We suggest you let go of this shame and know you also created this. Even though you’ve had herpes, this touches on your challenge of making you focus on the fact that no matter what’s in your life, you deserve love and you’re a wonderful person. Always make sure you’re kind. You wanted to bring out compassion and kindness in this lifetime.
Lifetime: Many people say my ex-husband didn’t treat me well and I’m worthy of being treated so much better. I haven’t found love with a partner, but I’ve reconnected with things about myself that I lost in my marriage. Will I find happiness in this lifetime?
Council: If you believe you deserve a partner who loves you, you can create this. There’s no question that you can have a good partner and happiness in your life, but you must believe you deserve this.
Lifetime: Or is this a lifetime of independence and finding love in myself, but not the pleasures of a shared life with a partner, as I had hoped would eventually happen after leaving my abusive marriage?
Council: You’ll find this person when you believe you deserve this relationship, when you love yourself, and are proud of yourself and what you’ve accomplished. Then you’ll bring in the right person for you.
Lifetime: Please let me know what my intention was for my current lifetime.
Council: Your intentions were independence, feeling good about yourself, creating what you want, and learning more on your spiritual path.
If you don’t meditate now, learn how to meditate. Stay with good thoughts. You wanted to be kind to others as well as yourself. When you do all these things you’ll be on the right path for you, for what you wanted to experience in this lifetime. Work on loving yourself first and you’ll attract the partner you’re looking for.
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What Is My Family’s Purpose In This Lifetime?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Sarah, who asked The Council a few years ago about an abortion she was thinking of having and if the soul of the unborn fetus would return to her in a future pregnancy. She had her daughter in October 2020 and she thinks it’s the same soul and The Council agrees with her.
The Council says this birth will produce a very interesting life. If you’re not practicing the arts yet, you will. Your daughter needs to be taught music, dancing, and art from an early age. You, your husband, and your daughter should all find interest in the arts because you’ve done this in other lifetimes.
Eventually you’ll find a way to heal with music. You’ve all had separate lives as well as lives together where you filled the need to feel loved and feel important through the arts. In your current lifetime you’ve come together to develop all of this and share it with each other. Your daughter should be exposed to the arts and you and your husband should do this also.
The Council says while practicing the arts it’s a good idea to discuss with each other how you feel and how you got the idea to create what you are creating. This will open you to more creativity within each of you.
Sarah says she’s no longer finding purpose in her current profession and she’s feeling the pull of something much larger and far-reaching. The Council says the pull is to get started on an artistic path. When you find fulfillment in this, your current job won’t have such a negative feeling because you’ll allow this new path to be accepted and come in.
Sarah feels she and her husband have lived many lives together and he and I are supposed to do whatever this big thing is together. The Council agrees with Sarah about her past lives with her husband. This big purpose all three of you are supposed to do together was agreed upon in spirit before you were born and this is where your focus should be right now.
Sarah says she’s experienced severe arthritis for the last two years and I’m hoping this experience has run its course and taught me what it needed to. I’m curious if it has anything to do with what’s ahead.
The Council says in a past life in the early 1800s you had a form of arthritis where your fingers were crooked and you were unable to do much with your hands. In that life you always wished to find a way to heal this condition and experience it in a way that wasn’t so difficult.
In your current life, you’ve created a short span of time to experience this problem, but not on such a deep level. On your new path with music and the arts, that will ease your arthritis considerably and you’ll be able to move on. If your arthritis doesn’t totally disappear, and this is entirely up to you, it will be much better than it was.
The Council closes by thanking us for being able to take this information and have so many people be open to it, and get understanding from it, and experience relief from what another spirit has gone through.
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Struggling with Financial Prosperity, and Son’s Fear of Darkness
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Sarah, who’s been struggling a long time trying to achieve financial prosperity, but without success. Most of my adult life it seems I’ve had difficulty getting to a place where I’m not struggling to pay my bills on time. This may be from a mindset I adopted as a child where thriftiness was valued. Both my parents, particularly my Mom, grew up in poor families and I think I learned life would be financially difficult.
I’ve enjoyed being creative and making things with my hands in the past. I thought maybe I could supplement my income by selling some type of handmade item, but lately my creativity seems blocked. And I don’t want to be so busy trying to make things to sell that I’m unable to spend time with my children.
The Council suggests it’s good to get creative and use more of your time to make things with your hands to sell. What gets in your way is a deep belief that things will be difficult and money will be scarce.
Find an hour or two each day to create things with your hands. As you create, think the thought that you are making something with love. Prosperity is love. What I create will bring joy to others. As you work it’s very important to have positive thoughts like these.
In the beginning you can give away some of what you’re creating, but do you go around to different retailers and show what you’ve done and see if there’s an interest? These steps must be taken.
There’s a lot of worry about lack of finances that get in your way. Meditate or pray that things will turn around. Focus on the good you’ve created. When you concentrate on love and positive thoughts you’ll allow more of what you want to come into your reality. Everything is currently coming from your belief that finances are difficult right now and this belief is holding up your prosperity.
Learning to meditate is a good idea. The easiest way would be for you to sit for 5-10 minutes a day and focus on your heart chakra. Just see the color green in the center of your chest and that green becoming larger and larger, spreading across and beyond your body several inches. This will change your energy and vibration and open up more doors to increasing your finances.
Picture in great detail what your life would be like if you had all the money you desired. Feel what it will be like to be creative and have the things you create bring in financial abundance. Imagine things the way you’d like them to be every day.
On a different subject Sarah says her teenage son doesn’t like being separated from our family when he goes to bed at night. Since he was young he doesn’t like his bedroom door closed and he prefers to have someone in his room as he goes to sleep. Sarah asks if there’s a reason for this and how can she help him deal with this situation?
The Council sees a past life back in the Fourth Dynasty in Egypt where your son was a young man training to be a high priest. There were several initiations that he needed to go through. One of these initiations was to be enclosed in a sarcophagus overnight. Unfortunately your son wasn’t able to handle the energy he experienced when he was in this sarcophagus and he died inside it.
That fear of the dark has come with him in his current lifetime. By having someone in the room with him he realizes he’s not alone and he believes he’s able to be rescued if something goes wrong like it did in that life in ancient Egypt. When you feel he’s able to understand you can tell your son a story about high priest training in Ancient Egypt and ask him to imagine what it would be like to spend the night in a sarcophagus, but there is someone to let him out if necessary. This feeling of safety will help him heal this fear in his current lifetime.
The Council also suggests asking your son about you leaving his room for around two minutes when he’s going to sleep and then coming back in. After a couple days you can begin to increase the time to three minutes and so on until the feeling of safety comes back to him and he can go to sleep on his own.
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What Is My Main Purpose in This Lifetime?
This post is inspired by a reader named Darla who is asking The Council for some career advice. She’s been a stay at home mother for 14 years and loves her children very much, but now she’s ready to re-enter the workforce and she has huge insecurities about what type of job she’d be suited for. She feels lost and like she’s not traveling down the right road to genuine fulfillment, and she asks The Council her main purpose in this lifetime.
The Council begins with a statement that everyone’s main purpose in all lifetimes is to bring the feeling of love into whatever you create. And they suggest Darla begin slowly and perhaps jump around a bit until she finds what gives her the most joy.
The Council says Darla intended to be of service, make a difference, and teach the people she meets how to speak their truth using pictures and stories. If she still feels joy around being with children they suggest she start out by volunteering with them, or possibly young adults or older people.
The Council sees Darla wanted to work specifically with pictures and recommends finding opportunities to teach children to make pictures of what kindness looks like. They say there was also a desire to work with older people who have memory problems and they suggest working with colors to stimulate them.
The Council says Darla has the ability to feel what others are feeling and this is a great gift. They recommend feeling what is needed in each situation, learning more about it, and coming up with ideas to bring out the comfort and joy in each person she works with by talking about feelings that need to be spoken and released or drawing pictures of these emotions. They say this will take time. And they add that of all the things Darla wants to create in this lifetime, trust, love, and safety figure prominently.
The Council says if Darla goes in this direction she’ll open a door within her and find the gifts she needs to bring out the creative side in people. They say this is a big job and it will lead her on a wonderful path, and there will be lots of growth and change within her as she finds ways to do this.
The Council says Darla wants to find a way to teach kindness to the people she meets. And they say as she goes from place to place she’ll see what’s needed and create her own way to bring this kindness out in others.
The Council says if Darla begins in the workforce, even if she finds herself working in a restaurant or a retail store or an office if that’s what’s needed at this point in her life, they say to go with this. But everywhere she goes, without judgement she will see how people treat each other and ask herself how she can show kindness and teach it creatively. The Council says this will take time, but there will be many rewards as Darla moves forward this.
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Spirit Knows Exactly What You Want
It is the spirit’s job
to create the perfect life
you want to live
and to provide you with
all the challenges and joy
you want to experience.
Spirit knows exactly what you want.
—The Council
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July 28, 2011 Thought for the Day
We Expand With You
Your life was meant to be fun.
It is your playground.
And as we see you create and expand,
We expand with you.
It is [a] great joy
When we see how you plunge into this physical world
And experience difficulties, challenges,
And turn it around,
And create desire after desire.
—The Council
Excerpted from The Council’s opening comments to participants of a Manifesting Your Desires meeting on Tuesday, July 19, 2011 in New York City.
(The Council’s opening comments lasted about five minutes and with the exception of a brief greeting, each statement seems to stand on its own as a thought for the day. Beginning July 25, 2011 we are publishing The Council’s opening comments during this session as eight individual thoughts for the day. This post is the fourth of the series.)
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April 6, 2011 Daily Thought
There is a growing awareness
That your dreams
Are part of your reality,
And they have the potential
To be magnificent creations.
—The Council
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2010-12-25
You have unlimited minutes on your creative abilities.
No contract needed. 🙂
—The Council
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What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire?
This post is in response to a question from Diana about the idea that everyone creates whatever they desire. She’s read a lot on this subject and asks about the practical application of this idea for creating a relationship she desires. Diana particularly wants to know how this idea works if she focuses all her attention on being with a specific person, but this person is focusing all their attention in opposition to that and doesn’t want to be with her. She asks the logical question: How is it possible for both people to get what they desire if their desires are exact opposites?
What We Desire, We Create First in a Non-Physical Reality
The Council’s answer to Diana’s question provided Cynthia and me with some new insight and understanding into the process of getting what we desire. This understanding begins with the idea that when we have a desire for something, whatever we desire is immediately created in a non-physical, vibrational reality. In Diana’s example, The Council says her desire to be with this person (since a name or gender aren’t specified we’ll refer to this person with the letter A) instantly creates in a non-physical reality the experience that she is with A in every way she desires.
Given a choice, most of us probably prefer to experience our desired creations in our physical reality, not just a vibrational one. So the question is: how do we get our desired creation from a non-physical reality into our physical reality.
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Since the blog is currently a project we do in our spare time it can take a while for us to do a session with The Council on a question and then publish a post on the session. Depending on the question and the session it can sometimes take weeks after a question is asked to publish a post with The Council’s answer. Please be patient.
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Cynthia is able to communicate with a group of five non-physical spirit guides in a manner similar to the way Esther Hicks communicates with and speaks for the spirit guides, Abraham, and Jane Roberts communicated and spoke for the spirit guide, Seth. I (Bob) basically interview The Council as they speak through Cynthia during what we refer to as a session. Sessions generally last 5-15 minutes and are usually audio recorded. During the session Cynthia is aware of what The Council is saying and she also receives visual impressions and other types of telepathic communication from them.
The Council’s Basic Guidance
Since we began these sessions with The Council around 2009 they consistently emphasize a few basic ideas that we attempt to summarize here:
1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
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