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How Will My Marriage To My Husband End?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Starfish, about her marriage.

Starfish: I have a question about how my marriage to my husband might end. In a previous post The Council informed me (writing under the name, Starseed_Lightworker rather than Starfish) that after I’ve moved to the new state where my new job has led me, I’ll meet another person who’ll be perfect for me and my son.

Council: We see this, but what you think and what you’re going through has changed from when you asked your question before compared to where you are now. You create on a minute-to-minute basis. The direction the relationship is going now is for it to end. It will end the way you and your husband decide it will end, but with the thinking, feeling, and experiences we see, it’s going in the direction of ending.

Starfish: My husband recently moved with me and my son to our new state in the hope we can stay together, but we’re going through the exact same drama we’ve been living for the last ten years.

Council: It’s wonderful you see this.

Starfish: We’re just not perfect for each other. I’ve also been told I’ll stay friends with my husband, which I prefer considering the co-parenting I’d like to do for my son.

Council: This would be a wonderful thing if that’s the direction you wish to go in. See this, focus on it, and on being friends, and being able to co-parent.

Starfish: I’ve been told my husband will live far from my son and me, and he’ll teach me lessons about independence.

Council: Are you learning independence already? We see it’s there in front of you – the moving away, raising your son by yourself, being able to make good decisions out of a desire to move forward rather than out of fear, and not being so tied into what your husband wants or how he wants it. It’s all about what you want, and how you feel independent in what you’re doing now.

Starfish: I’d like to ask if my husband is planning on moving to India when the marriage is over, or will he stay in the USA.

Council: The direction he’s going in right now is to stay in the USA, but how the relationship is handled and how you treat each other has the ability to change this. We ask you to remember what you think and what you do changes all the time. You can have things work out and have your husband stay in the USA, or you can have him move to India and have things work out, or you can have your husband move to India and have things not work out.

The way you create your life all comes from you., and we stress that you are the creator of your life. Look at this. What do you want? How do you want your life to be? Focus on this and meditate on it. Feel things working out the way you want. At this time it’s very important you do this work. It’s critical right now to take what you want and work with it every single day.

See how it is. Do you wish him to stay in the USA and for you to move on, meet someone else, and have a different life? Do you want your husband to stay in the USA, and still be friends, and co-parent? Do you want him to move to India and still co-parent? What do you want? You are the creator.

Starfish: Can The Council please guide me if the end of my marriage will be an extramarital affair from either side?

Council: We don’t see that. That can be created, but we don’t see that now.

Starfish: My husband threatens that he’ll take his life and my life if I end our marriage. I’d like to know if he can do this for real, or is he just using this threat as blackmail.

Council: He’s using this threat because he is in fear because he doesn’t think he can actually do this. Don’t feed this thought. Don’t walk around thinking all the time that he’ll kill himself, he’ll kill me, and he’ll kill my son. That kind of thinking only focuses more attention on the fear and brings what you don’t want to you. Think about this as a thought your husband had that isn’t working and that you won’t allow in your reality. Focus on the way you see this. It’s very important to let go of fear tactics, to stay in the light, and to think positive thoughts.

Starfish: I feel so alone and I’m trying to find strength and happiness in this situation.

Council: You’re never alone. There are guides, there are angels, and there are masters around you to help you. When you stay in the vibration of fear, you can’t receive the higher vibration information about how to move on in your life. That’s why we say not to focus on the fear tactics. Hear what you’re afraid of, let it go, and move on to the way you want it to be. You’ll lose the feeling of being alone, you’ll feel better about yourself, you’ll feel more in charge, and you’ll feel very happy.

Listen to the entire 7-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Starfish and the rest of us. We apologize for the quality of this recording. You can ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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April 10, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Creation, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , | 3 Comments

Why Don’t I Have A Good Relationship With My Mother?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Ilona, who asks about her relationship with her mother.

Ilona: I experienced difficulties that were a great challenge for me from the time I was young. My mother always perceived me negatively and didn’t show me as much love as my two sisters.

Council: You set this experience up yourself in spirit. From the very beginning you wanted to learn the lesson of independence, the lesson of accepting others for who they are, you wanted to learn about boundaries, and you wanted to learn how to let go of things and move your life in the direction you wanted. As a young child you began to have feelings that perhaps you weren’t good enough, feeling you weren’t accepted, and so your path began.

Ilona: I’d like to know why my mother doesn’t need me in her life? Why is she pushing me away? Did I hurt her in any way?

Council: There’s nothing you’ve done to hurt your mother, but in spirit, before you came into this reality, you and your mother set up the kind of relationship you’re having. What feels to you like your mother is pushing you away was an agreement you made with her so that your life would be difficult and you’d have to be stronger. And in finding your strength you’d feel very proud of yourself.

In 2020 my mother had a stroke, and in the first few months I felt like our relationship was getting better. That was until my youngest sister moved in with her. Since then my relationship with my mother has been tested again.

Council: Go back to this time when your mother had her stroke and you thought your relationship was improving. How did you feel about this? How do you remember this time? This is the feeling you’re looking for again, but you set it up so you’d feel this way whether you had your mother’s approval or not. This was a taste to remind you of what you were looking for, and then it was taken away. This was all your choice on a spiritual level.

Ilona: After my youngest sister moved in, my mother doesn’t respond to my messages, and doesn’t want to talk to me when my sister isn’t there. I suspect my sister doesn’t want me to have a nice relationship with my mother and only wants to keep my mother to herself.

Council: Whether this is what your sister wants or not, how do you feel about your relationship with your mother? It’s up to you to make up your mind and go in the direction of what you want to happen. It’s a lot of work to look at this relationship and decide if this is what you want. Is it too difficult? Or can you look at it and learn your lesson and feel good about yourself, whether you have your mother’s or your sister’s approval or closeness with them.

What can you find about yourself that makes you feel good? Is it somewhere else in a different relationship? Can you accept what your mother and sister do,  send them love, and let go? If you can’t send love, can you just let go? Because what you’re looking for isn’t to be found in this relationship. This relationship is to get you to look more at yourself, to find out about yourself and the kind of person you are, what you’ll allow, and what you won’t allow. It’s about boundaries. The bottom line is you’re supposed to learn about yourself, love yourself, and feel good about what you accept, and what you don’t accept.

We’re not sent to Earth to suffer and feel horrible. We’re sent here to look at these lessons and to find a way of dealing with them, whether letting it go to make you feel good, or whether it’s pushing forward to see what you can do. When you realize you can’t change another person, can you accept them for who they are? See them and speak to them when you feel like it, or completely walk away. These are all decisions you wish to make. You wish to take your life in the direction you find more comfortable and more loving for yourself.

Ilona: Why is my youngest sister so manipulative?

Council: It’s the part she chose to play and that you both set up and agreed to in spirit. So if she’s manipulative, do you want this in your life? Do you wish to fight against this? Or can you accept your sister for who she is and know that she has her own lessons to learn from this kind of behavior? And then not focus on how manipulative she is, but how – now that you see it – that’s something you don’t want around you, and move forward appropriately.

Ilona: What can I do to improve my relationship with my mother?

Council: Always send your mother and your sister the energy of love, whether you understand them or not. And decide to be there for them when they want you to be there, or completely let go. You must make the decision. Remember you can’t change another person. You can accept them for what they’re doing because you don’t know what they’re trying to learn in their reality. Focus on yourself and what you want, and move in that direction.

Ilona: Is there any hope for me?

Council: There’s always hope. On an energetic level you can picture them changing. Picture them calling you. Picture them asking you to meet with them. You must do the work on an energetic level first. You can do this if it’s what you want, but you first have to decide what you want. Work energetically with them and you’ll see the change begin to happen. There’s nothing you can do physically in your reality to get them to change. You can see the change happen when you constantly focus on how you want your life to be.

Ilona: Is there anything I should know right now?

Council: The most important thing is to concentrate on yourself. See how your relationship with your mother and sister is going. Decide what you want. Do you want a relationship? Do you not want it? Then work energetically. Even if you decide it’s not what you want, picture your relationship going in different ways, but happily. Imagine they’re happy without you in their lives and you’re happy without them in your life. Always come from a place of love, letting go, and everyone feeling the happiness and joy that’s intended when you learn lessons.

Listen to the entire 9-minute audio recording (we apologize for the quality of this recording) to hear all The Council’s guidance for Ilona and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it. You can ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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April 7, 2022 Posted by | Acceptance, Agreement, Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Decision Making, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Will I Find A Partner To Love And Who Loves Me?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, In This Lifetime, who read our post, Can Your Desire for Something Create It in Your Life? She says: I learned from this post there could be different experiences going on for myself that I came to this world to have. And she asks: What experiences is it that I’m here to have and learn from?

Council: You very much wanted to be independent. You wanted to be a creative person. You wanted to learn about your spiritual path. You wanted a family with the right person that would be there for you. But most of all you wanted to learn to be independent. You wanted to feel confident in your intelligence, how you tuned into different people, and how you treated people. Then you wanted to recognize how people treated you. It was these characteristics you wanted to learn about in yourself and in other people.

Lifetime: A counselor who can hear spirit led me to believe I came into this world to break free from a controlling and narcissistic husband who I shared many lifetimes where I was unable to break free successfully.

Council: You created these lives and that would be a big part of learning to be independent. If you feel you created this person and wanted to break free, there’s your challenge of independence.

Lifetime: I ended the marriage six years ago, have taken many years to let go, reconsider my beliefs, and relocate across the country.

Council: There you are. You’re on the right path.

Lifetime: Yet am I able to experience a committed partner in this lifetime who I can love as fully as I know I’m capable, and who can and will love me deeply?

Council: You’ve pre-planned this meeting also. Keep focusing on independence, keep focusing on feeling good about yourself, and know that everything you want, you will create.

Lifetime: I carry the herpes virus and although it hasn’t been active for a long time, I feel this is shameful and limits my opportunities for love.

Council: We suggest you let go of this shame and know you also created this.  Even though you’ve had herpes, this touches on your challenge of making you focus on the fact that no matter what’s in your life, you deserve love and you’re a wonderful person. Always make sure you’re kind. You wanted to bring out compassion and kindness in this lifetime.

Lifetime: Many people say my ex-husband didn’t treat me well and I’m worthy of being treated so much better. I haven’t found love with a partner, but I’ve reconnected with things about myself that I lost in my marriage. Will I find happiness in this lifetime?

Council: If you believe you deserve a partner who loves you, you can create this. There’s no question that you can have a good partner and happiness in your life, but you must believe you deserve this.

Lifetime: Or is this a lifetime of independence and finding love in myself, but not the pleasures of a shared life with a partner, as I had hoped would eventually happen after leaving my abusive marriage?

Council: You’ll find this person when you believe you deserve this relationship, when you love yourself, and are proud of yourself and what you’ve accomplished. Then you’ll bring in the right person for you.

Lifetime: Please let me know what my intention was for my current lifetime.

Council: Your intentions were independence, feeling good about yourself, creating what you want, and learning more on your spiritual path.

If you don’t meditate now, learn how to meditate. Stay with good thoughts. You wanted to be kind to others as well as yourself. When you do all these things you’ll be on the right path for you, for what you wanted to experience in this lifetime. Work on loving yourself first and you’ll attract the partner you’re looking for.

Listen to the entire 6-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for In This Lifetime and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it. You can also ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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March 11, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Challenges, Channeling, Creation, Life Purpose, Love, Meditation, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Please Guide Me in My Relationship with a Friend

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Maria, who has questions about her best friend, Carla, who’s been very magnetic and radiant lately and she’s also in a committed relationship. I’m deeply grateful for my relationship with Carla, but sometimes I feel tired or scared.

The Council says the reason you’re tired is your higher self is trying to show you what you’ve planned in your current life, and it’s not to be in a committed relationship with Carla. The strong feelings you have come from many of the other lifetimes the two of you have shared.

You planned in spirit for there to be some question about whether you’d meet up with Carla in your current life. You both wanted to see where you were at and if you could meet each other and have a different relationship where you were friendly, but not very close. You wanted to be independent, to experience a friendly relationship, but not a committed relationship. You planned to have a relationship for a while and then the two of you would move in different directions.

From what The Council sees, you’re stuck in feelings from past lifetimes where there was magnetism and a committed relationship between you and Carla and where there was great love. But this isn’t what you planned for your current life.

Maria says Carla’s magnetism has been pulling me recently, like there’s too much energy. The Council says the magnetism you’re talking about isn’t coming from Carla. It’s you being pulled toward Carla because of the energy around you that you’ve brought in from past lives. It was your desire not to be drawn into this energy. These feelings are all coming from within you.

It’ll take lots of meditation, or prayer, or focus, and the understanding that what you feel is what you brought into your current life. It’s your desire to go on another path to meet other people and have a different life away from Carla.

The Council says during the COVID-19 pandemic it’s a time for you and everyone else in this reality to go into oneself, to examine oneself, and move forward in the direction that brings happiness and joy.

The Council says you don’t need to dwell on what you’ve had in your past with Carla. You need to acknowledge that you’ve planned this path to meet and then go your separate ways. You need to learn from each other in a short period of time to have that familiar feeling of love and caring and then find this feeling within yourself. And you need to move independently to find a path that will take you in this different direction.

When you fight the willingness to go your own way, or you don’t have the quiet time to listen to your spirit, it will drain your energy. As your energy is drained your higher self sends you more of the feelings from the past lives to try and wake you up to what you originally wanted. You wanted the strength to get close to Carla and then move away.

Relax and begin to focus on a career you’d enjoy, living where you enjoy the environment, and begin to look for things that make you feel better. Read about spirits and about past lives. The simplest are the Emmanuel books by Pat Rodegast. These will give you a sense of connection and then you’ll be guided from there.

Maybe have a past life reading. Meditate for 10 minutes a day. Tell yourself that you understand where these uncomfortable feelings are coming from. You’ve created much more for yourself. Move forward in the direction of what you’ve created. This will begin to help.

Listen to the entire 8-minute audio recording of our session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Maria and the rest of us, or ask your own question.

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August 23, 2020 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Connecting With Spirit, Feelings, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Concerns About a Loving Relationship

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Frances, who says she recently entered into a relationship with someone I’m falling in love with. He’s a lot of what I’ve prayed for and I feel this is a deep soul connection. To be honest, a part of me is terrified. I’m used to being independent and his presence in my life is throwing me off kilter. What if I lose myself?

What if you don’t lose yourself, says The Council. What if you learn to grow? What if you make room in your life to have this man come in – which was planned – and you grow together? Isn’t it better to think about your situation this way?

Frances says she has life goals that she’s afraid will get derailed. Also, he’s very Christian and I’m very spiritual and not Christian. The Council says wouldn’t it be wonderful if this man shared your life goals and you taught him about what you’re interested in while he taught you about what he’s interested in?

The purpose of coming together is to let another person into your life and share it. This wonderful relationship that’s come into your life because you’ve attracted it has you worried. You can stay in your box, follow your goals, be independent, and find other different paths to learn from, but you’ve pulled in a wonderful partner to share your life with and grow from this.

Frances says she and this man come from different cultures and his values are more conservative than hers, but she loves him. The Council asks if she loves him enough to show him true love by allowing him to be who he is? To see his life and welcome him into yours? Can you love him enough to allow him to be him and you to still be you? Why must you get lost in this? This relationship is something to be shared. Allowing this man into your life without trying to fix him, change him, or have certain rules he must follow. That is the truest sense of love.

Frances asks how she can overcome her fear of getting lost in this person and their relationship? The Council asks if she’s done the work of being grateful this relationship has come into her life? Do you imagine this relationship the way you want it to be? Do you concentrate on his wonderful traits that you’ve described? Are you concentrating on what you bring to this relationship? If she does these things it will help her overcome her fears.

Frances asks how she’s meant to grow from this relationship? The Council says by not being independent. By being willing to share the good times and the burdens. By being willing to go down a path that may not seem like what you have planned even though it is what you planned. Do you trust yourself enough to know what you want and go on this path and create this relationship as you go? Doing this work will help you see this relationship go the way you want.

Of course there will be bumps in the road, but those bumps are there to help you both learn to grow. Instead of looking at this relationship in fear, think of it as jumping up the ladder of spiritual growth. Take this chance. This spirit agreed with you to try this out and help each other grow.

Frances asks if it’s possible to create a life and a family with this man without losing sight of what she wants to accomplish in this lifetime? The Council says this is up to Frances. It depends on whether she allows herself to lose sight of these things, but there’s no reason this is necessary. You will have what you want, and more, because this other spirit will bring more to the relationship.

Frances asks why she fell for someone so different from her. The Council reminds her of the saying that sometimes differences are attracted to each other. The differences will bring more into the relationship. It will cement it and help it’s growth. But The Council says in reality you are both spirits who want to learn there aren’t any differences.

Both Frances and the man she loves planned to be independent in this lifetime, but not alone. You have both gone on your different paths and have different ideas about how you want your lives to be. It was agreed you’ll both be so sure of everything, happy and successful, then you’ll meet and bring all your ideas into each other’s lives and see how you handle it.

This will take you further than either of you would go on your own. What you’d imagined will change because you’ll both come from different points of view. You both wanted to have experiences before you got together and then have more experiences after you get together. The learning path widens and continues in a new direction.

The Council says the two of you met in a past life on the English ocean liner, The Lusitania, where you had a fun but short relationship. And from this relationship you both wished to come together in your current lifetime to see how you would expand the vibration of love.

You are on your path and will find your way by being excited you’re in this lifetime. And no matter what you created – whether it’s something to be grateful for or something that’s challenging – you wanted to experience all of it. Help will be there for you, you’ll find your way through it, and you’ll grow.

Listen to the entire 10-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Frances and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it, or ask your own question.

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July 19, 2019 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , | Leave a comment

Questions About an Abusive Separated Husband

This post answers questions from a reader named, Jolanda, who says 18 months ago she ended an 8 year relationship with her verbally and emotionally abusive husband, but because they have a child together they communicate almost daily, which gives him opportunities to manipulate her emotions.

The Council doesn’t think it’s necessary to have contact with your husband almost daily. It’s something you need, but your husband doesn’t. Is this because you don’t want to let go of your husband? If this relationship is hurtful, why would you want to stay in it? You can co-parent a child without having daily communication with your spouse.

One of the lessons you’ve created for yourself in this lifetime is protecting yourself and learning how to make boundaries. The Council says they don’t see this boundary-making happening. There’s no need to punish yourself. If you can begin setting these boundaries you’ll feel a little more powerful and you’ll allow the relief and healing to come into your life.

The Council says they don’t see a reconciliation with the husband occurring at this time. Recognize him as a spirit on his own path and learning his own lessons. You feel the love for him because you recognize him as a spirit. Wherever he is on his path, you can love him and let him go, and make the boundary to protect yourself, and change your life to a more powerful and peaceful one.

Jolanda says she and her husband agreed a few weeks ago they weren’t getting back together and she feels betrayed that he’s apparently moved on with a new girlfriend. The Council asks Jolanda to find the energy to understand this agreement between the two of them. And if he changes his mind and says he wants to be with her again, can she make the boundary and say, “No. Enough. I can’t be in this type of relationship.” Instead of waiting to see where your husband is in this relationship, make your own boundaries. Think about how you’ll move forward and how you can get free from this relationship and find the happiness you wish for?

Jolanda says she’s pining for the love she had with her husband and wishing for someone else to love, but feels like she’ll never love anyone but her husband. The Council says the love she and her husband had isn’t there right now because there are lessons Jolanda needs to learn. Wishing for someone else to love is a wonderful direction to go in. Focus on this. What kind of person do you want in your life, down to every detail you can think of? And be ready to let this relationship in? When you can focus more on the new person you want in your life, things will change in this direction.

Jolanda says she feels her marriage was a divine bond and that she and her husband are deeply connected at a soul level. The Council says of course there’s a soul connection. This relationship was all agreed to in spirit so you could discover the role of independence, the role of boundaries in your life, the role of speaking up for yourself, and the role of learning how to protect yourself.

The Council closes by telling Jolanda: When you begin to love yourself enough to protect yourself; when your begin to believe there’s another way, and there’s more for you, and the soul who is your husband needs to go on with his lessons; when you begin to focus in a whole new direction on what you truly want in your life; The Council promises Jolanda her life will begin to change for the better.

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October 7, 2018 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Marriage, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

Why Am I Still Single?

This post answers questions from a reader named, Melissa, who asks what’s the purpose for her being single and not having a relationship in this lifetime?

The Council asks Melissa when she thinks of a partner, does she think about how a partner is missing from her life? They say if her focus on the absence of what she desires, she’ll never bring a partner in.

There was a desire to learn a lot about independence while being alone. In another lifetime this wasn’t possible and you had a desire to come into this lifetime and be in charge and be strong.

When you get to a place of being independent and you’re loving this independence, it’s from this place of happiness that you can begin to think of what you want in a partner. Would you like to keep the independence you’ve achieved while in a relationship? What kind of relationship will you have? How would you maintain a sense of equality? How would you form a relationship where you both can grow?

In this lifetime you’re spirit wanted to be strong, capable, and independent because of your experience in your other lifetime. In order to accomplish this you took the time to be alone. But if you hang on to the feeling and the thought that you can’t attract a suitable partner, more of what you’re feeling and thinking will be created in your life.

You’re stalled without a relationship because you’re waiting for it to come along, but you’re not thinking enough about how you want this relationship to be. How can you keep your independence, stay strong, continue to grow, and take care of yourself? You need to focus on the type of partner that will match your desires and also worked hard to become who they are. Enjoy the freedom of who you are and now attract to yourself the partner who will enable you to go even further.

A partner has already been planned for you in spirit. You wanted to attract a partner when you were strong enough to call in the specific ingredients that will put this relationship together. Focus on the relationship specifics you desire instead of the lack of them and you’ll attract this relationship to you.  You’ve followed what you’ve planned. You’ve worked on yourself a lot. That’s exactly what you wanted to do. Now you’re in a place where you can begin to attract this partner.

The Council informs Melissa that it’s not her plan to remain single in her current lifetime. She’s worked out in spirit who will come along and how the relationship will progress.

Melissa closes by saying she’s discouraged by her situation and can’t understand the lesson she’s supposed to learn in what’s going on right now. She feels powerless.

The Council says Melissa has followed her spiritual plans perfectly. It takes a powerful person to go forward and become who they wanted to be, because when you’re on the Earth path you don’t remember what you planned in spirit. You’ve accomplished what you spiritually intended because spirit speaks to you and has brought you on your path. You’ve done the first part of what you wanted, and there’s no reason you can’t attract a suitable partner now.

Know that you have choices. You’re a powerful spirit and now you’re ready to attract the right partner. Be in the vibration of happiness and excitement and know that as you’ve specifically created what you wanted in your life so far, you can also create the partner and relationship you desire in your life. And The Council closes by saying if the work is done without doubt, the relationship won’t take too long for Melissa to draw it into her life.

Listen to the entire 10-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Melissa and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

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September 1, 2018 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | 1 Comment

What if My Interest in Spirit as a Distraction from “Reality”

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Malia, who says her navel chakra feels weak, my will feels blocked, and I’m overly enmeshed with my family.

The Council says the reason for Malia’s blocked third or navel chakra is in many prior lives she had to do what she was told in her families. She had no say in what direction her life went. In her current lifetime it’s Malia’s intention to heal this situation. She wants to feel independent and make her own decisions.

The Council says Malia has created a situation where she’s enmeshed with her family and now she needs to figure out what’s going on in her day to day life rather than focusing so much on her navel chakra. Is there a way she’s able to handle her circumstances differently? Is she able to make protective boundaries so she doesn’t feel herself getting pulled into everyone’s world? The Council says the reason Malia’s having this experience right now is so she can learn from it and change it.

The Council says the reason Malia’s enmeshed with her family is her day to day choices. Her greatest power in the current lifetime she’s creating is her minute to minute decisions. Why does she allow herself to be pulled in to her family’s drama? Why does she create these experiences? By looking at her circumstances she’ll be able to find new ways to deal with them. She’s created these situations to learn independence, to speak for herself, make decisions, and make boundaries. Boundaries is a big lesson for her in this lifetime.

Malia says she feels insecure about her capacity to be independent. The Council says she has the capacity, the power, and the strength to be independent. That is what she’s chosen to learn in this lifetime. She’s created situations where she does’t feel independent so she can learn to overcome them.

Malia says she’s afraid she’s using her interest in spirit as a scapegoat rather than working on the reality she’s manifesting. The Council says spirit isn’t Malia’s scapegoat. As she meditates or intuitively pays attention to feelings and ideas that come to her, that is her higher self helping handle her challenges. This isn’t using spirit as a scapegoat. This is learning from her higher self.

Bob suggests Malia may mean she’s using her interest in spirit to keep from focusing on day to day choices The Council asked her to focus on. The Council says when you realize who you truly are as a spirit in a physical body, that is the most important thing. Your day to day choices becomes clearer when you understand this.

Bob asks The Council if they can think of a reason why Malia might be having this fear of working on her reality and having spirit as a scapegoat? The Council says the desire to stand up to people, be independent, face confrontation, and learn to say no are with Malia from other lifetimes. Rather than face these situations on a day to day basis she can believe that concentrating on spirit doesn’t allow her to change the experiences she’s having.

Intuitively Malia knows she has to face these challenges because this is what she’s created them for. The part of her that’s afraid to face these challenges will concentrate on what she thinks of as spirit and takes her away from what she has to do to have a different experience.

The Council recommends daily meditation, even if it’s only five minutes, and coming up with affirmations that remind her who she truly is as a spirit in a physical body. Read about spirit and the reason we’re here on Earth. As she feels more in tune with who she is, she’ll be able to handle her day to day experiences. Family and other relationships will become clearer.

Listen to our entire 11-minute audio session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Malia and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about it.

April 18, 2018 Posted by | Audio Content, Chakras, Challenges, Channeling, Choice, Decision Making, Intuition, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Son’s Anger Issues – Employment – Past Lives – and a Move

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name LearningSoulSite, about her son’s anger issues, her job, past lives, and a move for her family.

Son’s Anger

LearningSoulSite says particularly when her son is at home he gets angry and he’s difficult to control. The Council suggests looking at where her son is learning this anger from, and who else in her family reacts with anger.

LearningSoulSite asks The Council what her son’s lessons are in this lifetime and how she can help him. She has a feeling it’s got something to do with her husband’s lessons because she often notices similarities between the two of them. The Council begins by saying there’s a lot her son has seen but doesn’t understand, that is contributing to his disappointment. The Council says there’s a lot to understand here because this anger isn’t just about her son, but also about herself and her husband.

The Council says LearningSoulSite’s biggest challenge in this lifetime was to become independent. They feel her interactions with her husband don’t show this independence and she doesn’t always say what she’s feeling. Her son picks up on this tension of holding back her feelings. The Council advises LearningSoulSite to talk about what she truly feels. Don’t back down on her beliefs and how she desires things to be.

The Council says LearningSoulSite’s husband has chosen in spirit to be disagreeable and have a bad temper, but he makes this choice out of love for LearningSoulSite. When he’s being disagreeable, LearningSoulSite has the choice of going along with her husband or having the self-love to create what she desires, to be stronger, to be independent, and teach her son to speak what he believes and not back down out of fear.

A New Job

LearningSoulSite says due to visa-related issues she may loose her current job in the near future and asks The Council if she should stay in Engineering or take up writing or something else. The Council sees the necessity of finding another job and they say it will be easier if she stays in her current field. If she has a love for writing, practice it before she tries to earn her living from it. Do it for personal enjoyment right now and as her writing skill grows she can consider changing her field.

Past Lives

LearningSoulSite asks what kinds of previous lives her family has shared. The Council says in one of the lives that’s affecting her now, LearningSoulSite was a slave and had to go along with what was asked of her. Her current son was around her in this other lifetime, but not related to her. He has seen her pattern of ignoring her feelings and has chosen to come into her current lifetime to see her spirit grow by making decisions and learning the challenge of independence.

A Move for Family

LearningSoulSite says if she wants to continue working, her family needs to move to another country and asks The Council about the timing for this. The Council says it’s good for her to change her environment and learn to grow from these changes. It’s also good to teach her son it’s okay to move many times, that she can always succeed no matter where she is, and that it’s wonderful to meet new people. Her son will benefit from this move in the future if he decides to go down the road he’s planned for himself. If there’s an opportunity to move to another country, take it.

Listen to the entire 9-minute recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for LearningSoulSite and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about it.

February 27, 2018 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Beliefs, Career, Channeling, Choice, Creation, Feelings, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , | Leave a comment

Looking for a Meaningful Relationship

This post is about questions for The Council from a reader named, Sarah, who says she’d really like a long-term, profoundly deep relationship. She also asks about a former male best friend who currently refuses to communicate with her, and she wants to know if they’re working through any past life experiences.

Sarah says she’s been trying to deny her desire for a relationship because she feels the best way to develop a healthy love is to go into a situation with someone without the expectation of falling in love.

The Council suggests that Sarah first think of the love she’s felt from other people and appreciate that. Then they suggest she write in great detail about the relationship she desires. The more detailed she can be will make it more likely she’ll attract this relationship to her. Focus on being ready for a relationship and that it’s okay to want it. Think about what she’s willing to bring to this relationship and what is her partner bringing? The Council says if Sarah is denying the relationship she desires, she’ll have difficulty manifesting it.

Sarah wonders if her desire to be an independent person is going against her desire to have a partner.  The Council feels Sarah has achieved independence and they don’t see her loosing herself in a relationship.

Sarah also asks about a male best friend who’s been in her life on and off for a long time. He’s been in love with her and multiple times she’s tried to be with him, but ended up running away. He currently refuses to have anything to do with her and this makes her very sad. This sadness and the longing seems out of proportion for the relationship they’ve had, even though she says she hasn’t been in love with him. Sarah’s curious if there’s something in their past lives that they’re working through.

The Council says we are all here to show love and compassion, and you learn about compassion by allowing yourself to feel what another person is feeling. Can Sarah understand how this man can feel abandoned, not good enough, taken advantage of, and foolish? Think about how this might feel for him. As Sarah understands these feelings, she can try to build a friendship with this man by speaking about her new understanding. The Council doesn’t feel it’s necessary to go into any past lives they’ve shared together.

Sarah asks if she should release this man permanently so he can have a life without the pain of her being in it (but not as his partner). The Council says when Sarah can speak with kindness about her new understanding of this man and how that makes her feel, she can try to speak with him about it. The heavy energy of not feeling wanted can lift and she can start a new kind of relationship with him. She doesn’t have to release this person from her life. They can be in each other’s lives, but differently than before.

Sarah asks what The Council sees for this relationship in the future. And The Council says that’s up to the two of them and what they wish to create. She should do the inner work of imagining how he feels when he realizes she doesn’t love him the way he loves her. As she understands this and continues to send love to herself and to him, things can begin to change.

Listen to our entire session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Sarah and the rest of us regarding relationships, and let us know what you’re feeling.

November 16, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Desire, Feelings, Imagination, Love, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , | Leave a comment

Confused About Relationship with Her Boyfriend

This post is inspired by questions from a reader who goes by the name, Ivygreat, about her confusing relationship with her boyfriend. When she tries to tell her boyfriend he’s done something to offend her and they need to talk about it, he twists her words and she ends up feeling worse.

The Council says one of the great lessons Ivygreat would like to learn in this lifetime is independence, living on her own, and being able to take care of herself.

Being with her boyfriend will show Ivygreat that perhaps it’s better to leave this relationship and become more independent, or does she wish to stay in this relationship and experience the unhappiness.

The Council feels if Ivygreat was to become more independent, be able to support herself, and not be afraid to go out on her own, this relationship will change.

Ivygreat is in a place where her boyfriend knows he is needed and she is sort of under his thumb. The relationship will remain this way until she finds a way to change it by doing what she can for herself.

The Council says Ivygreat’s boyfriend isn’t able to hear and understand what upsets her about his behavior. He imagines he’s being attacked when she tries to talk to him about these things. For the time being The Council advises holding back this criticism and not trying to explain what’s wrong. Instead The Council advises Ivygreat to let what she doesn’t like about her boyfriend to challenge her to grow.

The Council says as Ivygreat experiences how good it feels to be independent, this feeling good and the ability to meet the challenge and create what she wants will change the relationship for the better.

Listen to our entire 6-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Ivygreat and the rest of us, and let us know your feelings.

October 9, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , | 2 Comments

Are There Spirit Realms?

This post is inspired by questions from an appreciative reader named Vacha, who’s been reading about spirit realms and asks The Council’s opinion about these realms. Vacha also asks what she intended, as spirit, to learn in this lifetime.

The Council says they don’t see the existence of the spiritual realms Vacha is speaking of. Instead they see expanding and learning from each incarnation and growing from challenges, happiness, what you learn from the people around you, and how you handle situations and treat people. You keep creating until you feel you no longer need to experience these Earthly realities.

In between these Earthly realities The Council doesn’t perceive any realms. But there are different ways you can help your spirit expand. You can be a guide or helper to people who are experiencing Earthly realities. You can be in spirit and help other spirits create their new Earthly realities. There are many things you can do in the spirit world, but The Council says it’s not like climbing a ladder. The main purpose of everyone’s life is to take the love from spirit and bring it into whatever reality  you are focusing on.

On Vacha’s question about what she intended to learn in this lifetime, The Council says one of her lessons is to be very independent and on her own, but also to expand her learning about many different subjects in addition to the spirit world. She wanted to acquire more intelligence and understanding, and The Council feels she is doing this.

Based on her reading, Vacha expresses the idea we can either expand or come down in a realm. The Council repeats there are no realms and says if you think you either expand or get demoted, they say you can never move backwards.

Vacha asks how we can expand the learning experiences in this lifetime and The Council says the way we learn is by repeating the challenges and lessons we pick for ourselves until we understand them.

Listen to our entire 7-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Vacha and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

May 10, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Expansion, Life Purpose, Love, Questions & Answers | , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Should I Give My Marriage a Second Chance?

This post is inspired by follow-up questions from Vacha, who terminated a pregnancy, returned to India with her son, and separated from her abusive husband in America. Now she’s asking if her marriage is finally over or can it still work out if she gives it good thoughts and positive energy?

The Council says the end result of Vacha’s marriage is entirely up to her. They ask her what she sees in her life right now. Is she getting along better with her husband, and have circumstances changed that made their life together so miserable for her?

The Council says Vacha will create with her beliefs what happens in her marriage. If she believes her husband won’t change and thinks she’ll be wasting her time trying to have good thoughts and a happy marriage, The Council says she is already in a negative vibration. They add it’s possible to create happiness with anyone, but she must believe in this happiness. If she believes she’s tried time after time to make her marriage work and doesn’t see a change, then there’s a belief her marriage will not change.

The Council says Vacha pre-birth planned in spirit to learn independence in this lifetime, and they suggest once she experiences this independence then it may be possible to change her relationship with her husband for the better.

Vacha also asks about her mother and father and says her mother is dealing with bad treatment from her own father (Vacha’s grandfather). The Council asks Vacha how she feels about this and does she see her future becoming like her mother’s.

Vacha says her mother and father don’t have a good relationship, and The Council asks her to look at this. Is this what she wants for herself? In order for Vacha’s parents to feel better they would have to begin seeing each other differently. They will need to talk about things they like about each other and appreciate the years they have been together. They will need to change their thinking and focus on positive aspects of their relationship.

In their closing The Council asks us to remember the promise we made in spirit to bring love into this lifetime in everything we do, and they suggest this is what we should meditate on.

Listen to our entire 11-minute session with The Council on Vacha’s questions to hear all their guidance for her and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

April 9, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Channeling, Marriage, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , | 1 Comment

How Can I Develop a Long-Term Romantic Relationship?

This post is inspired by a reader named Frankie who’s been in several relationships with men who haven’t been willing to make the commitment she desires. The Council asks if Frankie understands her partner doesn’t want a commitment, does she choose to stay in these relationships anyway? They feel there’s a part of Frankie that holds onto these relationships, even when she knows they’re not going in the direction she’d like.

Frankie is currently friends with a fellow she fell in love with several years ago, but the romantic part of the relationship didn’t work out. This fellow is currently in a relationship with a woman he intends to marry, and Frankie’s hurt by this because her friend is showing a commitment to his girlfriend that he never showed her.

The Council says coming into this lifetime Frankie wanted to know what was going on around her, and going forward in her relationships they recommend being aware if they’re what she wants. In this lifetime Frankie wants independence, awareness, and strength to be on her own. And this is one reason she hasn’t experienced a long-term commitment.

When Frankie is able to be on her own and love herself, she’ll have the relationship she’s looking for. It’s good for her to continue with relationships, but it’s good for her to be aware if they’re going in the direction she desires. And instead of hoping a relationship will work out, she wants to become aware of what’s going on and not settle for a relationship that isn’t exactly what she wants. She wants to be okay with moving on from a relationship she doesn’t want and being by herself for a while. And as she becomes more okay with herself, and loving herself, and knowing there’s more out there, she’ll pull in the relationship she desires.

Listen to the entire 10-minute session with The Council (below) to hear The Council’s answer to what Frankie wants to know about love, why she still feels a connection to her friend, and how she can break this pattern of getting involved with men that don’t want a long-term romantic relationship. And let us know what you think.

December 27, 2016 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , | Leave a comment

How to Navigate Through a Period of Standstill

This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Sarah who feels like after being drawn to experiences like lucid dreaming, meditation, and connection with her spiritual self, her life has come to a standstill recently and she asks The Council how to navigate through this period of feeling stuck.

The Council says what Sarah is experiencing is what some people call the void. She will feel stuck and cut off, but while she’s in what she calls this stuck place she should review what she’s learned, go deeper into it, and use it in her everyday life.

While Sarah is in this stuck place her spirit is very busy planning the next phase of her life. She is figuring out on a deeper level her path and the direction she wants to go, who she wants to pull into her life, where she wants to live, and what she wants to experience. The Council says Sarah is in a very good place and recommends she have more understanding with people she brings into her life.

Sarah asks how she can connect more deeply with herself and manifest more quickly. And The Council recommends sitting in a quiet place and figuring out how she can know her spirit loves her personality self, but without using any words, just feeling this love in her heart. This will eventually help her feel more connected.

Sarah asks what lessons she’s here to learn. And The Council says her lessons now are to be independent, be loving to herself, and push forward on her path of spiritual growth. And they say on this path she will bring in the right people to help her along her way. Do not look for approval from others. Approve of yourself and you will see yourself move forward.

Sarah asks what she’s struggled with in past lives. And The Council says the past life that’s affecting this life is one of slavery where she suffered without having the freedom to go and choose what she wanted, and feeling very oppressed. In her current lifetime she wants to spread her wings, learn more, be independent, and not need approval from others.

Listen to our entire 7-minute session with The Council (below) on Sarah’s questions to gain a deeper appreciate for The Council’s guidance for Sarah and the rest of us when we feel stuck in the void.

December 11, 2016 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Exercise, Feelings, Love, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , , | 5 Comments

Overcoming Childhood Difficulties and Moving On

This post is inspired by questions and comments from a reader named Guadalupe, who wants to know if her spirit guides know how much she’s achieved in this lifetime; if there’s anyone in spirit who’s proud of her; and how can she get more stable so she can help others (among other questions).

Guadalupe’s story is one of a very difficult childhood and then happiness because she overcame her problems. But she doesn’t understand why life was so difficult for her, and she says it hurts her that other people have such stable lives and loving families.

The Council says Guadalupe created this difficult childhood in spirit so she could learn to become more independent as a human being. She wished to have a family that wasn’t supportive and would turn their backs on her so she would have to be strong.

The Council says because of what she experienced it’s normal to resent other people’s good fortune, but they advise Guadalupe to appreciate how she created this experience in spirit and then changed it on her own in her human experience. That was the way she planned it. Her plan was to get through these difficulties and become a stronger person and to show others this can be done.

The Council says focus on where she is now rather than on the difficulties she’s come through. Learn to love and appreciate herself and that she has changed her life. The more Guadalupe is able to love and appreciate herself, the easier it will be to let go of resentment and appreciate people who have stable and loving families.

When Guadalupe asks if anyone in spirit is proud of her for what she’s accomplished, The Council says she can’t imagine how proud spirit is of what she’s come through. They advise her to know it doesn’t have to be difficult anymore. She has the ability to change her life. She has accomplished what she wanted. There is such great love and appreciation in spirit for what Guadalupe has gone through, what she has learned and will continue to learn, and what she will teach to others.

Guadalupe says she resents her family for abandoning her as a child and teenager, but The Council reminds her this was all part of her spiritual plan to become a strong and independent human being. The Council asks Guadalupe to see that her family were spirits who stepped up and said they would make it difficult for her because that is what she asked for in spirit. It was her intention to experience these difficulties, work her way through them, and make her life better. The more Guadalupe realizes her family played the part she requested, the less resentment she’ll have for them and the easier it will be to love them.

Guadalupe says she knows she’s come to help others and she wants to achieve her purpose here, but she doesn’t know how any more. The Council reminds her she is doing this. Now she just needs to go forward in her life, be open to new possibilities, and to experience what she’s created for her future.

Guadalupe says she feels emotionally unstable because of the traumas she’s experienced and asks how she can get more stable so she can help others. The Council says to appreciate herself and send herself love. Learn to meditate if she can. Continuously focus on all she’s accomplished. Let go of what she’s gone through that was painful. These are things that were needed to bring her to the place she is now. Love yourself and march forward.

Listen to the audio recording of the entire 19-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Guadalupe and anyone else who’s experiencing challenges in their lives.

March 12, 2016 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Creation, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , | 1 Comment

   

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