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Please Guide Me in My Relationship with a Friend

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Maria, who has questions about her best friend, Carla, who’s been very magnetic and radiant lately and she’s also in a committed relationship. I’m deeply grateful for my relationship with Carla, but sometimes I feel tired or scared.

The Council says the reason you’re tired is your higher self is trying to show you what you’ve planned in your current life, and it’s not to be in a committed relationship with Carla. The strong feelings you have come from many of the other lifetimes the two of you have shared.

You planned in spirit for there to be some question about whether you’d meet up with Carla in your current life. You both wanted to see where you were at and if you could meet each other and have a different relationship where you were friendly, but not very close. You wanted to be independent, to experience a friendly relationship, but not a committed relationship. You planned to have a relationship for a while and then the two of you would move in different directions.

From what The Council sees, you’re stuck in feelings from past lifetimes where there was magnetism and a committed relationship between you and Carla and where there was great love. But this isn’t what you planned for your current life.

Maria says Carla’s magnetism has been pulling me recently, like there’s too much energy. The Council says the magnetism you’re talking about isn’t coming from Carla. It’s you being pulled toward Carla because of the energy around you that you’ve brought in from past lives. It was your desire not to be drawn into this energy. These feelings are all coming from within you.

It’ll take lots of meditation, or prayer, or focus, and the understanding that what you feel is what you brought into your current life. It’s your desire to go on another path to meet other people and have a different life away from Carla.

The Council says during the COVID-19 pandemic it’s a time for you and everyone else in this reality to go into oneself, to examine oneself, and move forward in the direction that brings happiness and joy.

The Council says you don’t need to dwell on what you’ve had in your past with Carla. You need to acknowledge that you’ve planned this path to meet and then go your separate ways. You need to learn from each other in a short period of time to have that familiar feeling of love and caring and then find this feeling within yourself. And you need to move independently to find a path that will take you in this different direction.

When you fight the willingness to go your own way, or you don’t have the quiet time to listen to your spirit, it will drain your energy. As your energy is drained your higher self sends you more of the feelings from the past lives to try and wake you up to what you originally wanted. You wanted the strength to get close to Carla and then move away.

Relax and begin to focus on a career you’d enjoy, living where you enjoy the environment, and begin to look for things that make you feel better. Read about spirits and about past lives. The simplest are the Emmanuel books by Pat Rodegast. These will give you a sense of connection and then you’ll be guided from there.

Maybe have a past life reading. Meditate for 10 minutes a day. Tell yourself that you understand where these uncomfortable feelings are coming from. You’ve created much more for yourself. Move forward in the direction of what you’ve created. This will begin to help.

Listen to the entire 8-minute audio recording of our session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Maria and the rest of us, or ask your own question.

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August 23, 2020 - Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Connecting With Spirit, Feelings, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , ,


  1. Hi, JERL. We’ll be happy to ask The Council your questions about contacting your father through a medium when we have time and we’ll post an audio recording of their response as soon as it’s ready. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia


    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | September 6, 2020

  2. Lately in my spiritual journey, upon which I feel I am just embarking, I’ve been drawn to the painful past and to memories of my early childhood when I was neglected and looked over by my father and step-mothers and was put last. I am trying to sit with the sadness, but I keep feeling drawn to potentially meet with a medium and talk with the spirit of my father, who I was happily estranged from for ten years before he killed himself last year or so. He was a very negative person (and an actively negative one) in my life. Part of me is afraid that even in Spirit, he will be someone who will cause me more painful memories if I speak to him. On he other hand, I would like to understand what his life goals were and come to a place of forgiveness so I can pray for his wellbeing every day. I understand I chose him as my father to learn my lessons, and that we were friends, and enemies, in former lives. In this life, putting a boundary between him and me has been very important and healthy for me, so I’m wary and a little scared of these thoughts telling me it’s time to reconcile with him. Should I trust these urges and meet with him in Spirit through a medium? Thank you for your time and consideration, and those of the Council’s.

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    Comment by JERL | September 5, 2020

  3. Hi, SG. We’re pretty sure The Council will say you can create your next lifetime the way you desire when you’re in heaven, but to be sure we’ll ask them when we have time and we’ll post an audio recording of their response as soon as it’s ready. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia


    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | August 27, 2020

  4. I have had a spiritual awakening in this lifetime. I have learned about soul contracts, reincarnation, how amazing heaven is and that the soul never dies. In this incarnation I was a very gentle soul finding myself in the midst of extremely difficult people which included my family members . I had a chance to reunite with the love of my life who had a severe addiction . I tried to help all around me that I could but learned they are on their own journey and I must allow them to learn their own lessons. I know exactly the life I would want in my next incarnation.Am I able to create it so it becomes my reality when I am in Heaven planning my next lifetime?

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    Comment by S.G. | August 24, 2020

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