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Exploring Parenting Choices in Your Spiritual Journey

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Anony_Reader_N.

Anony: Hi, Cynthia, Bob, and The Council. Can you share any insights about my life path regarding biological children or other parenting roles in this lifetime?

Council: You have been busy in past lives, having children and enjoying it. And then having many children and not wanting it. Not wanting it because it was hard, because you were poor, because sometimes you had places to live, and other times you didn’t.

Then you had lives with no children, wishing you had them, but you didn’t. And other lifetimes where, without them, you traveled. You were with different groups of people. And one of these groups was what we would consider a gypsy in Hungary, and you danced, and you partied, and there was nothing holding you back. You had many lovers. You enjoyed this life.

And so the feelings that you had at the end of these lives were confusing because when you had the children, when you ended your lives, you were sad because some of those lives were hard and you didn’t want them. And then there were lives where you had them, and the children grew, and you missed them after they grew and left, but you were glad to be without them, finally having your freedom. There were the lives where you didn’t have them, and you were lonely and wished you could have them. You didn’t have them, and you had more freedom to travel, to live in different places.

So at the end of these lives, for some reason you left those lives with these things, these thoughts in your mind. “Did I want it? Did I not want it? Was it right? Could it have been better? A different way? And so in this lifetime you want to heal it, to experience it, and heal these feelings.

And so, we would say for you in your current lifetime, there is no set decision. You wanted to be aware, to not have children and think of what your future would be like without them. To really imagine it. And does that feel good? Is that what you want this time? And then to think what it would be like to have children. Whether it’s one or three, it doesn’t matter. How do you see your life developing? How do you want it? How does that feel?

So in this lifetime, instead of living randomly, whatever happens you get to decide. You get to decide this lifetime how you spend it. And that’s a wonderful thing, that you can become aware of it and decide the path you want to take.

So it is a journey where you imagine each way, and then go with your feeling. You will know which of these decisions feels better. You can even stay without children, but work with children. You can help foster children. You can teach children, so you would have them, but have the freedom of not having them biologically.

And so we ask you to think of this, to do the work. Your spirit wanted to be in charge in this lifetime. And so we would say, it’s important. Do the work.

Bob: Very interesting.

Anony: If there are different possibilities depending on my choices, I would appreciate understanding the broader themes, soul intentions, or lessons connected to this area, and whether there are particular circumstances or periods in my life when this path may be more aligned.

Council: You are in the place right now of having control, of having the idea of playing with life in both directions. You have the gift of being able to ask yourself these questions, to imagine how each life would be. You have the ability to create. But you have what we say… the most important gift you have when you came into this life, in any life, is choice. You have the choice. It’s not like you will wake up one day and say, “Oh, why did I do this?” You have the ability right now to take your life and put it in every direction that you want, and that is a wonderful thing. It is a creation that you brought in with you. Lives… thinking how it would be if it was wonderful with children… if it wasn’t wonderful. If it was great having freedom… if it wasn’t great. You have the ability with your mind to play with this and then decide.

And we would say, people are always afraid of making a mistake. If you were to pick one of these lives and not like it, you can change it. You can change it by how you handle it. And also with the thought, “I can create another life in another time and do it the opposite. And I will know to do it the opposite because I will take this memory with me.” Do you understand you can take what you need in your lives to help you create what you want?

So for you, you are at a crossroad, a wonderful, wonderful place. And if you go with what you feel when you picture these two different directions, you will find which one your higher self wants you to have this lifetime.

Anony: I have received some previous information that my current incarnation focuses on standing up for myself and my interests, and that in the past I may have perceived family life as weighing me down. However, I don’t really feel that way now. So I’m curious how that perspective might relate to my path in this lifetime, particularly regarding the possibility of biological children. Thanks so much.

Council: It is what we have told you. You thought maybe this is not what you want. And then you think, maybe it would be different. It is the same thing. Your higher self is pushing you in a direction of seeing this. You no longer feel that maybe family would weigh you down. Wonderful. Picture it, feel it. Feeling will give you the answer that you want.

So there is nowhere else you have to go, nothing you have to do. But understand you’ve had many lives with children, and without children. Imagine what it’s like. And not so much what it was then, but the way and the person you are now. How does it feel? You will get your answer.

And we send you all love, and light, and happy thoughts, and fun on your way to creating and expanding your life.

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May 30, 2026 - Posted by Cynthia & Bob | Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Feelings, Healing, You Create Your Reality | Children, Feelings, Higher Self