Does The Council Answer Questions So Others Can Also Benefit?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Amanda.
Amanda: Many times the answers The Council offers one of your readers seems like it’s exactly what I might need to hear.
Council: Of course.
Amanda: Or more likely, it’s the answer to a question I haven’t asked out loud before. Does this make sense?
Council: Yes, because that vibration, that question, and the answer that’s needed will reach you. And so there are many times you can read something and say, “That’s for me. That’s what I was looking for.”
The level of understanding, the level where you are in your vibration to hear the answer, you will hear it, but you will hear it differently than the answer that’s addressed to the person who asked the question. You will hear exactly what you need to hear, and that’s how this works. And so, in your search for an answer, you will find it.
Amanda: Is The Council answering questions in a way that’s also excellent advice and observation for others on here.
Council: Always.
Amanda: It’s just amazing.
Council: It’s very amazing that you are all together in this reality, and on a spirit level you know you’re helping each other with the questions. Even though consciously you don’t know this, it’s an agreement with souls to come in, to support each other, to love each other, and to help by your examples, by what you’ve gone through. It could be similar, or even different from another person, but the answers will help you. And that’s how you plan your reality.
And so we send you love, we send you happiness, we send you energy to raise your vibrations, and the ability to look inside yourself and around you, and appreciate yourself and everything you have around you, and to go forward and look for the fun and the happiness.
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Does The Concept Of A Soul Contract Work Against My Free Will?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Ten.
Ten: Doesn’t the concept of a soul contract work against my free will?
Council: It doesn’t.
Ten: If I have a soul contract with someone to learn something, and then this experience is not what I desire to have in my reality… For example, instead I’d like to create a long-term relationship and have this person be a life partner. Is it possible for the soul contract to be rewritten?
Council: In your reality you are all so hung up on this contract. This contract isn’t written in stone. It’s something you’ve discussed with another soul. You’ve agreed to it, but you’ve also always agreed to the idea that if this way is not working we’ll find another way, but we will have it give us what we need. We’ll find another way to work it out.
So at night when you sleep, and you always leave your bodies and do this astral travel, you can talk this over with the other person, and you can put forth what you want to happen. Then when you’re back in your body in this reality, you start thinking of what it is you want and how you’d like to see it going. There’s nothing that you can’t create.
It takes work to sit. Make the time every day to see it, picture it, and feel it, but not from a place of doubt or a place of, “Oh, it’s not happening. It’s never going to happen, but I’ll try.” But yet you really truly don’t believe it, but you’re going to try, but you don’t believe it, but you’re going to try, but you don’t believe it. And that prevents it from happening. You have to be childlike and see it happen, and feel it, and you don’t have to know how you (which is your higher self) is going to create it. But it’s there. You can have anything you want.
So when you do this focusing every day, forget what’s going on right now and focus everything on the way you want it to be. If you do it with excitement, with joy, with the attitude of looking at what you’re going to create, this is great and things must change for the better.
Ten: Someone told me a person I met recently was just there to open my heart and there’s no possibility of being in a harmonious long-term relationship…
Council: How would someone else know that?
Ten: …with that person because of our soul contract.
Council: Someone else would not know what you’ve agreed to with another soul. They can not tell you how the relationship will be because no one, NO ONE (in capital letters) can create in your reality. It will all happen the way you want it to happen. You must feel it, you must believe it with such joy of knowing how happy you’ll be when it gets here. How happy and excited you are now that you are creating it, and no one else can tell you otherwise. Or I guess they can tell you anything, but they can not create in your life.
Ten: How do I work with my higher self to create the type of relationship I desire with the specific person, and change our agreement?
Council: Sit. Meditate. In your daily coming and going take a little time. If you’re going to a movie, create it in your mind that you are going to the movie with the person you want to go to the movie with. Find little ways to imagine things the way you’d like it with this other person, or the way you’d just like things to be for you. Take the time to imagine it and laugh, know that when you’re imagining, when you’re letting that good feeling in, you will create it.
Ten: If soul contracts restrict the possibilities of what can be created, then aren’t we just puppets of our higher selves? We have no power to actually be creators here in the 3D reality.
Council: So you are a puppet of you. That’s what you are saying. You are a puppet of you. Your higher self is you. And this soul contract, there should have been another way to describe two souls, three souls, four souls agreeing to do things a certain way. But once you put the word, contract, it’s almost like you expect your souls to go to court and have to fight this and get a divorce from this thought.
You are in control. Do it with your thoughts. Do it with your feelings. Know that you can connect.
At night, at any time, speak to the other soul in your mind. You will make things happen.
And so, as always it made us very happy to help. It’s so much fun for us to give answers to help people move forward. That’s our purpose right now.
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How Do I Rewrite My Soul Contract?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Stephen.
Stephen: How do I rewrite my soul contract? I really want to do this. Thank you.
Council: This can be difficult for many people to understand, but there really is no dead-set soul contract. There are many things you speak of before you planned this reality. Maybe I’ll do this, maybe I’ll do that. And when you talk to other souls and you decide what it is, and you pick your parents and the life you’re going to go through, there’s nothing there that’s written in stone.
Your higher self, which is you (and we underline that), which is you and nobody else, knows specifically what you want to do. And it’s easy for you to want to rewrite this contract, but all you really have to do is take a good look at what you’re doing and how you can just tweak it a little bit, and make it a little bit easier, or make it go in another direction. But the main thing, the real main thing that your soul wants to do this time around, even if you find another way to do it, your higher self will lead you that way.
But we don’t want everyone to hear, “Oh, I made this soul contract and I can’t get out of it.” You can change it because you are the creator. You created what you wanted in this reality. You create the where, the why, the who, and the things you’re going to experience, but there’s nothing you can not make better, that you can make easier, or go off in another direction. It’s very important at this time that everyone knows you are the creator.
So maybe there is a contract, for lack of a better word, and because in your human reality you need that word, contract. So you strike something out. So you put a line through it. It’s important to remember that you are creating your life the way that it’s going. And it’s simple, but not always easy to think of picturing your life the way you want it. And the more you can do that, and pretend you have it already, or it’s going in that direction, that is how you’ll bring it in. But you do it from a place of love and excitement that you are in charge, that you can do this or do that, and change this or change that, and make this life the way you want it.
You came here to have fun and to have some challenges to see how you’d handle them. And if it’s difficult, you can lighten the load, so to speak, but there’s nothing we want you to feel is an ironclad agreement and you are stuck for it this life.
And so for ten minutes a day before you go to bed, think of one little thing that you’d like to have some more joy in order to experience your life in an easier way. And start seeing it and feeling it, and we promise you when you keep doing this, you’ll see people around you, and things around you, change. Even if it’s slowly, there’s the improvement that you want.
And when you see that, be grateful for it and know, “Well look at what I did, because I have created it.” No one else will create in your reality.
Bob: Anything else for Stephen?
Council: We think that’s quite a bit. Do that work. Do that understanding. Most of all, you are the creator, you are spirit. You want to do this, you want to do that. Trust your higher self. It will take you down the path you want, and you will experience what it is that you came to experience. And whatever it is, there are many ways to get there. So play with it in your mind. I’d like to do this. Maybe I could do it this way, this way, or this way. Play with it and you will come up with what works for you.
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Did My Partner Pre-Plan His Prostate Cancer?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lizzy.
Lizzy: My life partner was recently diagnosed with localized Stage 4 prostate cancer, which was a huge shock for both of us because we didn’t expect anything like this. I’ve been interested in topics like pre-birth agreements for some time and I’d like to ask: Is this a disease my partner wanted to experience?
Council: This disease wasn’t specifically called for, but it was some sort of disease, some sort of malady that would bring the both of you together, to work together to find a way to deal with it. And so at this time what was created was the prostate problem.
And so a Stage 4 prostate cancer in your reality is a time where they would suggest surgery, and if you’re comfortable with this, then it’s fine to go in that direction. If you’re not comfortable with it – and the choice is always yours – then you should explore other modalities, other things that can help.
And so you will create this now, step by step, how you want it to go, how you want to experience it. But it was specifically to bring the two of you to work together as you look for a way to heal, a way to show other people that will hear your stories or know what’s going on.
So you’re out there on the leading edge deciding which way to go and then to see it working, without doubt, to see, yes, this will work, this sounds right. This feels good. Follow what feels good. It’s now the time in this reality where everyone is learning how to follow their feelings. And so we would say, explore that.
Lizzy: Is there another reason why my partner has prostate cancer at such a young age?
Council: It’s just that the time was right for both of you to experience some sort of episode where there was a medical problem, and it has gone to prostate cancer.
Lizzy: What message is this disease supposed to be telling my partner?
Council: The message is to explore, to learn more, not to be frightened by a medical diagnosis, but to know in your heart that when you believe, when you research and you find something that feels right, to follow it and know that it will work. And so it’s learning with your feelings, learning from the knowledge you have, and to learn how not to doubt, but to go forward.
Lizzy: We talk about this disease openly because I know he needs it and I try to be supportive.
Council: Wonderful.
Lizzy: I’m reading a lot on the internet about prostate cancer and I’m looking for ways to help him even more. I started helping by cooking him healthier and lighter meals.
Council: How does that make you feel? Is that working?
Lizzy: I’ve read that cauliflower, broccoli, and celery are good for the prostate. Am I on the right track?
Council: If you were to read and believe that drinking soda every day would help it, if you truly believe it, it will work. So the point here is to find what you believe. Ah ha, this will work, this sounds good. When you have that ah-ha moment, follow it.
Lizzy: Are there any other superfoods that could help him to heal?
Council: Well if you continue to read in your reality, what’s been created is tomatoes are wonderful for the prostate. The zinc vitamin is excellent for the prostate. Large amounts of Vitamin C are good for the prostate. And yet if you were to read that and not believe that could work, it won’t. The lesson here is to feel what feels right. Acknowledge what feels right no matter what it is that you want to try. When it feels right and it gives you hope, and you know this can work, you should follow whatever it is.
And so continue to read up on it and maybe there will be more that you will feel will work. But we’d say at this point to do the color breathing, not only of the first chakra but all the chakras, and Bob will send that to you.
Lizzy: In general I try to stay positive because I know it’s important. But the more I think about it, I feel like I’m struggling because I don’t know what to do to help him heal.
Council: Ah ha. Just the word, struggle, brings on doubt and brings on the feeling of being helpless. And so now you should think: I know what to do. I’m searching for it and I will get the answer by reading and feeling what gives me more hope. What’s the thought that gives me more hope? What is it that we should do? And follow that.
Lizzy: Is there anything you would recommend?
Council: Of course, meditation every day. And the part of the body – in your reality there’s an explanation for this – the prostate is moving forward, going forward in your life. So if there’s a fear about the future, it could cause prostate cancer. If there’s a fear of money or career it would also cause this prostate problem. So look at what’s not working, or what’s causing you the most trouble in this life, and work on that.
Lizzy: His Urologist has recommended that my partner have surgery. That would mean we wouldn’t be able to have the children we want so badly. Is there any other option?
Council: Well there’s always the adoption option. But again we’d say research this, and if it’s possible, and you feel the only way to go forward now is to work with the sperm and have it frozen so that you can use it in the future, then by all means do that. You must follow what feels good to the two of you. That’s what’s being taught by all of us spirits that are out there channeling and teaching everyone that’s ready, everyone that’s wanting to grow, that now is the time when you need an answer, follow your feelings.
Lizzy: The only thing we could think of right now is sperm cryopreservation. Is that the path we should take?
Council: It’s not necessary right now while you do the research. If you feel, after trying other things or looking for other methods that feel right, if nothing feels right, then go in the direction of cryopreservation.
Lizzy: My life so far has taught me that every unpleasant situation has a hidden gift.
Council: And this will show the both of you are the creator. How you think about things, what you choose to focus on, you will see coming into your life. So no one can create for you. You will learn how to create by your research, by your thoughts, by your feelings, and you will learn that, yes, we are creating what happens in our lives.
Lizzy: Is there some gift for our relationship hidden in this disease?
Council: Always to bring you closer, always to learn how to rely on the spirit, rely on that you both have chosen this, and to go forward. There’s a great adventure in front of you. As long as you get rid of the fear, go on this adventure. You’ve chosen to do this together, and so you are fulfilling it. And now create the outcome that you want.
Lizzy: Is this disease meant to push us in a different direction in this life?
Council: It’s to help you become more of who you really are.
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What Are The Limits To Positive Thinking?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Anonymous Also.
Anonymous Also: I was hoping to follow up on Anonymous’s questions (a different reader from Anonymous Also) in their private phone session with The Council. Thank you again, Anonymous, for sharing your invaluable recording. I’ve been wondering about these questions for a while, and I’d be very grateful for The Council’s feedback. I apologize in advance for the dark nature of the topic. I’d like to know what The Council has to say about what is perceived by some to be the limits of positive thinking.
Council: There are no limits. There’s only the limit you put on yourself by thinking there are limits.
Anonymous Also: And how we can go about understanding the following situations in a new way. I ask not to make others feel invalidated or disrespected for their beliefs, but to try to expand my own understanding.
Council: We’d say here that while we answer your questions, and many may hear this or read it, everyone will get something out of it, so you will not hurt or disallow their feelings. Everyone will hear the words differently, and it will come across the way they need to hear it because of what they’re going through, and where they are at this time. So let’s see what you ask.
Anonymous Also: For example, there are stories of people who believe in vibration, crystal healing, etc., who refused medical treatment and then have gone on to die of cancer. I’m assuming it’s not that they didn’t try hard enough to be positive. Although each person has their own story, why might that happen, and what message is their death supposed to send to us?
Council: Well, there are different reasons. They could have said they believed in this work but had a lot of fear behind what they were trying to picture and believe.
There’s also an agreement, maybe with other souls, that they’d go through this difficulty and it would touch the other souls’ lives. It would make them believe, more or less, or see things differently, and question what’s going on. It will always touch people in a way to make them grow, to make them question their beliefs, and to make them question how they’re living their lives.
And so there are many that could take poison and have a miraculous cure. It’s what you believe and how positive you can stay in that belief. Where many people try, and it’s hard for many people, but the doubt and the fear behind the situation will change the outcome of what one is asking for.
Anonymous Also: Alternatively, there are a number of pastors and other notable individuals in the United States who have said that God will protect them from Covid, only to promptly die of Covid weeks later. Another example that comes to mind is a very religious man whose infant son had brain tumors that kept coming back, and despite lots of prayer and true faith in the ability of the child to get better, the child died anyway.
Council: First we’d like to say here, if it’s the child’s desire, because the child creates his own life, to leave this reality, all the prayers in the world will not change that. If there are enough prayers and the soul decides to change what it wanted, it is possible.
And also, especially when it hits someone in their faith – a pastor saying that God would protect them and then the opposite happens – there’s fear behind there. There’s doubt in the belief.
And it also happens that the souls that come together in this group that hear this have agreed to have their faith tested, and so that’s why it works or it doesn’t work. Many souls want to know: “Oh, okay, I’m going to go into this reality and something will come up and it’s not always planned, but something will come up to test my faith. I want to see how I handle it. How do I turn this situation around? And sometimes it can be done, and sometimes it can’t be done, but it always affects all the people involved. And so, many times it’s to test one’s faith when it’s coming from a religious person.
Many people believe a pastor, a priest, or a rabbi, what they say is law and must happen because they have this great connection to God, but we would say that’s not true. It’s your connection to your higher self, it’s your connection to your belief that makes your reality happen.
Anonymous Also: In these examples, people had faith in their beliefs, although I’m sure they were also afraid and angry, like we humans all can be in adverse circumstances.
Council: Of course. And there was questioning, and there was doubt, and there was fear, and that always changes the outcome. But always remember, the person you’re praying for knows if it’s time and they want to leave this reality, or come through a miraculous cure to show the people around them that this is possible. There are lessons. There are plans behind the lessons. And so you can just observe and do what makes you feel good. Pray for the people, don’t pray for the people. That is part of the emotions you wish to experience and perhaps work through, and change it, or just have the experience. It’s all up to you.
Anonymous Also: How are we supposed to understand their stories not going the way they wanted them to go, despite significant spiritual effort?
Council: Because the higher self knows what it wants to plan, and what it wants to go through. And so you may not understand what another person is going through, but it’s your place to allow them to go through it and help them in any way you can because we’re here to support and help each other.
But just allow, and know that if it’s time for them to leave this planet, they’re going back into spirit, which is a wonderful place. No one comes into this reality and wants to stay here. As a spirit, when you’re planning what you want to do, what you want to create, you want to do everything and go back home. So dying, as people say, is not the end. It’s just a returning home. It’s a happiness that you experience. You’re in the energy of love. The vibration is wonderful, and that is part of the understanding. You’re not here for forever, even though some people would like to do that, if possible.
But you want to have your fun, or your challenges, and return home and share what you’ve learned, and help the others that are left behind to go through parts of their journey. And that is what creation is all about. What can you create? How much fun? How much of a challenge? What are you going to do with it? Okay, I’ve been here long enough. Time to go.
Bob: So are you saying that the way we’re supposed to understand people’s stories not going the way they wanted them to go, despite a significant spiritual effort, is that from a human point of view they may have wanted them to go one way, but from a spiritual point of view they wanted their life to go a different way.
Council: Yes. Many people in human form, they aren’t thrilled with the idea of passing on. Your higher self knows much better. And as you meditate, and as your vibration changes, you’ll become more and more familiar with that thought. The understanding about it will come. And that’s why we say to everyone at this time, meditate, even if you just meditate on the fact that you are spirit. Get to that understanding and everything else will begin to change.
Anonymous Also: The most haunting example for me is the toxic optimism that kept Jews in Nazi Germany thinking it would get better, and then being trapped and then killed as things got worse.
Council: How wonderful? And how strong these people were to hang on to their faith and the hope that their situation would change. Did the people around them need to see these people that had such great hope? Was it there to hold other people together as they went through this experience? It’s a wonderful thing. It was done on a large scale to teach all of your reality at this time about how strong people can be, how many have suffered, and how not to allow this kind of behavior anymore. To not hate and have enemies, but to love, and have compassion, and to live together in peace. It’s a huge lesson on a grand scale.
Anonymous Also: I’m sure there are families in Ukraine who are experiencing this same situation now.
Council: Of course.
Anonymous Also: The message there for me seems to be, if things start getting bad, flee. But I’m assuming that’s not the message that was meant to be taken away.
Council: Some people will believe it’s to their benefit to flee and they will. And others will believe, this is my home and I won’t leave. I will stand and fight. I’ll do what I need to do. And this is their choice. This is their belief. Whether you can understand what they choose, admire them for following what they believe and what they want to do.
Anonymous Also: Yet how are we supposed to understand actions that can be perceived as irrational optimism when the results of those actions are catastrophic for the individuals involved?
Council: To the individual involved it isn’t irrational what they believe, what they’re trying to create, or what they’re hoping for. And again, watch these people and learn from them. There may be a time in this life or a future life where what you see now will be an example for you to use in another life. We all learn together from one another.
Anonymous Also: From my human perspective as part of a powerful divine spirit, I certainly don’t consciously want to die a violent death, and I don’t want that for my loved ones.
Council: Of course. And as you said, the main word here is, consciously.
Anonymous Also: Yet sudden deaths and horrific tragedies happen anyway, including to my family. Yes, we made plans in advance for what we agreed to experience, but if we’re also very much one with our higher selves, how can we understand how and why very bad things happen to us?
Council: Do not forget here that what you have planned, you always have the choice to change. And so you meditate. You talk to yourself before you sleep that you’d like to change the direction your life is going in. You have the power to do this. You are not a victim. Whichever way your life is going is because of the choices you’re making and the direction you planned to go, but you do have a choice to change it.
Anonymous Also: How can we understand how and why very bad things happen to us that we, now as humans and supposedly now also on a higher level, don’t want?
Council: On a higher level, if it’s happening, then it’s wanted. So you can’t understand many of the things that happen that you feel you don’t want, but they do happen. On a higher level everything goes forward, everyone here in this reality is playing their part, is having their experience, and then is moving back again into spirit. It’s a wonderful thing. It’s like having a part in a movie or a play and then going back home.
Anonymous Also: In other words, I’m confused about agency and power, and who really has what. It often seems like what the higher self wants: challenges and bringing love into a difficult situation, and what the human extension wants: safety, not suffering, are opposite, but we’re also supposed to be intimately one and the same.
Council: You are one and the same, and yet it’s very difficult at this time for many people to understand that. And so the higher self creates the human body, the person, to go through whatever it is, and directs it in the way it wants it to have the experience. It’s not always understood by the human brain. But when you start to work with your heart chakra, which is beginning to happen for many people, you’ll get an understanding that comes from feeling and doesn’t come from words.
Anonymous Also: To give another example, I learned in an earlier question for The Council that I was tortured and witnessed torture as a child in a past life, which to some extent has colored my current life with fear. When I think about it, I keep coming back to the thought: Who the heck would want that? To see how I handle it? The answer is, I’d handle torture badly. I’m sure I did handle torture badly. Did I and others really need to be tortured just to have an opportunity to extend comfort to others who are suffering, or understand that children shouldn’t be tortured? Why go so extreme?
Council: The extreme sometimes is needed and the experience is wanted. No one likes the idea of torture. And yet we hear many people say: We are saints and we are sinners. So having the thought of torture is horrible, yes, but then there were lives when you experienced the opposite side of the coin and you were the torturer. It’s just an experience. That is all it is. And so we say it’s difficult to understand because no one wants to go through this. And yet many people, when they’re tortured, are halfway out of their bodies and don’t feel it. And it’s a way of them starting to release the body, to end the torture, and to then return into the spirit life.
And so even though it’s not wanted, sometimes it’s needed. It’s needed for the person, the people around them, and it may be needed to be on the news and go out into the world for others to hear these things. And that’s why this happens.
Anonymous Also: Finally, when I shared your website with a family member because I found it so helpful, she said to me, “It feels like this philosophy is blaming the victim. Like if they had only been more positive they would have been okay. This seemed like a fair criticism to me from her perspective and I wanted to know how The Council would respond to it.
Council: Of course, if they were more positive, perhaps they wouldn’t have created what they created. And so, again, the understanding isn’t available when it comes from your brain. It must come from your heart, that whatever it is there that you’ve decided to go through, again, it’s just an experience and not an ending.
And there are no victims. Of course, many would like to blame others, but there are no victims. Where you can come into this reality and say, “Well, I want to experience abandonment.” You may not specifically say, “I want my parents to abandon me. Or I’ll get married and have children and my husband will abandon me.” You may just put out there, “I want to experience abandonment.” And then, as you go through life, you’ll pull in from the people around you, this abandonment. Some people say, “I want to experience shame.” So they’ll create getting AIDS or another sexual disease so that they’ll feel shameful.
It’s what you create to go through, what it is you want to experience. And it’s not always step-by-step how it’s going to be, and sometimes it is. Again, you have the choice to make your life happen the way you want it.
Anonymous Also: I believe I understand the idea that there are no victims and no perpetrators, and that we switch roles out of love for one another.
Council: Constantly.
Anonymous Also: But in the situation where someone wants something desperately and wants to change their plan, and visualizing it changing it still doesn’t happen…
Council: It doesn’t happen because of the word you use. They want something desperately. When you’re asking for something desperately, the feeling that comes from the word, desperate, is not of a high vibration. When you ask for something in a way: “I’m so excited because this is what I want and this is coming. I’m ready to receive that.” The feel of those words and the vibration is very different. So we’d inform you and guide you, do not ask for something being desperate.
Anonymous Also: This also reminds me of your post, Are There Things We Ask For That We’ll Never Get? which asks similar questions, but for me it didn’t have a graspable enough conclusion about these issues.
Council: Sometimes you ask for things because you think it would make you happy, or it’s something that you really, really want, but your higher self knows you don’t need it, or that’s not the direction you want to go in. So you don’t get it. And yet if you focus, you will bring it into your reality. It may not last or it may last. You are the creator, and so always remember that. Your tools are your choices and your thoughts. Because the words that you sound in your head and the thoughts that you have bring on emotion and bring on feeling.
The feeling is what goes out into the Universe and brings you what you want. What you want must match how you feel. And so, if you feel desperate, what you want will not come. If you are in the state of a vibration where you’re excited and you’re feeling love, and you’re waiting for this, you’ll be able to bring it in.
Anonymous Also: I’m sorry for this long downer topic, but I’d very much appreciate your insight, as always, to make grappling with these big questions a little easier. Gaining some clarity will allow me to finally lay aside some fears and hopefully get to a place of higher vibration, and perhaps there are other readers who struggle with the same questions who may also be helped. I hope so.
Council: So the information we’ve given will touch different people in different ways. But even for yourself, it will give you a different perspective, a different way to think of things, a different way to try to create, and a different way to handle what’s going on in your life. It will change things for you.
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Is Humanity Ready For The Information I Plan To Offer In My Workshop?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Just Me Again.
Just Me Again: I never went to Cambodia.
Bob: Apparently Just Me Again asked The Council about going to Cambodia in a previous question.
Just Me Again: Not only because of not wanting to leave my cat behind, but also because life happened and I had to learn some more. I got retrenched and moved to a small town in the countryside. My brother took his own life in the early stages of Covid, and I brought my mother to stay with me in this small town, as we were both struggling with my brother’s death.
Council: It was pre-arranged that you and your mother would always be there for one another. So whether she was there for you as a child and it’s your turn now to be there for her, it’s an agreement and commitment you made, and it’s still your choice whether you would follow through on it.
Just Me Again: I’m working on a project to create a center where we offer a 10-day residential retreat for women, not only to empower them, but also for them to return home with knowledge to also empower their families and communities. It’s a holistic program to help these women understand how to deal with the baggage they carry, learn about self-love and forgiveness, discover their gifts and abilities, etc., and focus on working with high-vibration tools like flower essences, crystals and gemstones, and consciously consuming high vibration food, etc.
Council: And we’d say at this point, the best teachers are the ones that haven’t learned about crystals and essences from books, but have used it in their life so that you can give an example of what happens. Right now, people are very interested in knowing how it works. How do you know it works? So we’d say look into this program that you wish to develop, and how you’ll develop it.
But we’d say at this point going forward in your reality it’s very important to teach about vibrations, how to get into a higher vibration, how to stay there, and how to use your mind to create with your feelings, and with your images. We’d say this is very important for you to add to your program and to teach this, and then it will be very successful.
And have stories about yourself, and about others you know who have used the tools you’re going to give these women, and how it affected them. How did they make the change? People get hope when they hear success stories. And that is part of your path.
Just Me Again: There will also be workshops following the 10 days to teach creating your own high-vibration medicine.
Council: Wonderful.
Just Me Again: I resonated with your previous advice about having a past life in Atlantis and it feels like memories are coming back, and much of the center is based on guidance downloads that I’m receiving.
Council: So ask your higher self to give you memories of your past life in Atlantis, or any other life where you were in a healing capacity. And keep asking, because at this point in your reality, what we see is many, many people now will start to depend on their higher self, even though some people don’t realize the higher self and your human self are one entity. Even if they separate it, asking your higher self for information, it will always come, and it will come in your feelings.
And so it’s important that you teach people how to feel, how to ask a question and feel. That’s how the answers will come going forward in your reality. And this way you’re pointing others in the right direction. Develop the vibration and learn how to stay in it. Talk to your higher self and sit and wait for the feeling. You will get your answers.
Just Me Again: It is a process of downloading this information I am receiving. I feel there’s still more to come.
Council: There is much more to come.
Just Me Again: I’d like to ask a few questions. Although I’m not giving the long version of the program here, does The Council feel that humanity is ready to receive the straightforward basic knowledge of what I have to offer at this time?
Council: Definitely. We say to go forward with this plan. When you think of it, does it make you excited? Do you feel joy? There’s your feeling. Do it.
Just Me Again: Will the program be as effective as I believe it will be?
Council: Yes, if you gather enough information and experiences, it will be very successful.
Just Me Again: And is there any guidance from The Council?
Council: We feel we’ve given it to you (laughs).
Just Me Again: If funds for this project are approved, I’ll take my mother with me to the center, as I’ve committed to taking care of her.
Council: Yes, you have.
Just Me Again: She’s very open to all this new information, loves reading, going through my books on these topics, and she’s 80 years old. Will it be the right thing to take her with me? The funding will allow me to get special care for her on the premises, and allow me to follow my calling at the same time.
Council: Talk to her about your plans and what you’re going to teach, because she’ll be aware of this stuff and she’ll use it in her own way. So make your mother part of the discoveries.
Just Me Again: Are there perhaps any messages from my father and/or brother who are both on the other side? Or any other messages from anyone that I need to receive right now?
Council: Of course we’d say the only message that they give is feeling proud of supporting you on your path, and of sending love so that you can create what you thought you’d like to do in spirit. And so they are on their path, and they are learning in the spirit. They are planning new lives, and they are helping others. And so when you ask if they have messages, the one big message is they always send you love, because they want you to get through this reality by having accomplished what you planned in spirit.
Just Me Again: Are there perhaps any other lifetimes with knowledge of high-vibration healing and tools that The Council wants to make me aware of that may assist me in establishing this program?
Council: We’d say read everything you can on Atlantis. Read everything you can on Lemuria. In the early parts of Egypt, they used a lot of teachings from Atlantis, and then we’d say they added their spin to it. Study early healings from Egypt. Learn what they did in the temples. And as you begin to remember this, your knowledge will grow. You’ll get new ideas that you don’t have now to put into your programs, and this is a wonderful adventure.
Bob: So are you saying that Just Me Again had past lives in Lemuria, Atlantis, and Egypt, all three.
Council: Yes
And so we send you all blessings. And remember to have fun on this journey that you’ve created for yourself, and to have fun with the spirits around you that you’ve welcomed into your life. And always, always show kindness, and love, and compassion.
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What Is The Source Of My Mood Swings, Anger, And Rage?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Elizabeth.
Elizabeth: I continue to go through a major shift in perception. I feel as though I’m learning so much about life, self-healing work, etc. However, while trying to heal, I’ve yet to understand my mood swings and the source of my anger and rage.
Council: This happens now at a time in your reality where many people are dealing with emotions: anger, happiness, depression, and feeling very uplifted. It’s the time with a mass agreement for people to go through this because it will take your planet, your reality, to a higher level.
And so it’s important right now to pay attention to your feelings. Do not fear them. Let your feelings come up and then always try to focus the energy of love on every emotion. You’ll begin to feel different. It’s a way you’ll learn to control your emotions. Accept them when they come, acknowledge them, and then always put the stamp of love on each emotion.
And so follow the ups and downs that your higher self is showing you and you’ll move forward and you’ll learn much more about your life and purpose here. You’ll have more confidence and we can guarantee you’ll move forward.
Elizabeth: I want to learn to control my anger and rage, and how to release it in a healthy way.
Council: Not so much to control it, but to let it come and then say to yourself, “Anger is here again. Anger is paying me a visit. What does it remind me of? What could it be that causes this anger? Is it here just for me to change it?” And many times that’s the reason. It just comes up and you need to do the work where you don’t say, “Go away.” You say, “Hello, anger. You’re part of this life, but now we’re going to make you feel better.”
And you’ll put love and pink light all over yourself and all over the thought of anger. Try to picture what it looks like. What shape does it have? Put pink light on it and you’ll see and learn many things. Just accept it.
Elizabeth: I realize anger is disguised sadness. It seems so ingrained in me and comes at times I don’t even understand. Is it a loss of control?
Council: Of course it’s loss of control, but it comes from other lifetimes which aren’t important to delve into. Just know: Okay, I’m carrying this, I created this in spirit to be happening so I could learn how to change it.
Elizabeth: If it is loss of control, where did I learn the need to want it, and the fear of losing it?
Council: In other lifetimes when there was loss of control, when there was too strenuous a life for you, when there was no ifs or buts, you wanted things a certain way and they wouldn’t happen. And so you bounced around each side of the coin. What does it feel like to have control? What does it feel like not to have control? It doesn’t matter when this happened. Only that you look at it now and you think: Okay, these feelings, they may be coming from other times, they may be coming now only because I’ve asked it to come forward so I could heal it.
Elizabeth: If the anger and sadness are from childhood trauma, what’s the event I need to look at to understand and allow myself peace and grace?
Council: There’s nothing in your current particular life you need to look at. What you called forth is feelings from other lives. You called forth the lesson to learn how to change these feelings. And many, many in your reality want to learn how to work with their mind on a great scale to change things. And that’s why the feelings are so powerful. It’s now on a great scale all over your reality, people trying to learn how to work with their mind because that’s how you create.
Elizabeth: I know love is the answer…
Council: Yes it is.
Elizabeth: …yet sometimes the rage consumes me. Can you help?
Council: Feel your rage, say hello to it, get ahold of your thoughts, your mind, and say, “I’ve created this because I want to learn how to become more of the spiritual person I am, and I’m now going to infuse this thought and this feeling with love. And I’ll do it with my mind.
Happiness and blessings to everyone. Enjoy yourself. Find your power. Every day create happiness, even if it’s for the littlest thing because when you’re in that vibration, you’ll be able to bring into your life at any time what will give you happiness on a longer basis. So have fun with it.
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How Can I Stop My Adopted Cat’s Itchiness?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Kristine.
Kristine: I adopted a beautiful cat last year and she’s been itching on the sides of her head and behind her ears and neck the whole time I’ve had her, which would have started prior to the adoption. The vet thought she had a food allergy and put her on a hypoallergenic diet.
Council: It’s a sound vibration. The cat is feeling a tingle or a vibration from a sound. Apparently, we see this cat, as a kitten, fell and there was some movement. We would put this as easily as possible for you to understand. There was some movement in the ears, so this cat is sensitive to sound and hears and feels some sounds.
This cat needs a lot of loving care and a lot of attention. It should always have a quiet atmosphere. You can do some healing on this cat. You don’t have to know anything special. You can just put your hands on the cat and send love from your heart We see, in time, if you keep doing this, the sound will become less and less, and there’s a possibility of it fading.
There’s no medicine that’s needed. Massage is needed for the cat’s neck, under the ears, and around the body to make it feel comfortable. That’s what we see and what we recommend for this wonderful kitty.
Bob: If a human was having this problem might you recommend craniosacral therapy?
Council: That’s also wonderful if you can find a craniosacral therapist that works on animals, and they are out there. But no loud music, no loud noise, and no yelling. This cat must be in a calm atmosphere.
And of course, the spirit of the cat, just like a human, has choices. When it begins to feel safe and it no longer wants to hear this noise, when it’s used to being in the quiet, it will choose not to hear this noise anymore.
Kristine: The vet thought she had a food allergy and put her on a hypoallergenic diet, which she was on for at least five months, and she continued to itch and bleed.
Council: We don’t see that’s the problem.
Kristine: Friends suggested the cat might have fleas, but the treatment for fleas didn’t work. I kept her inside and stopped using any fragrances and perfumes and that hasn’t worked.
Council: The cat is feeling the vibration of this sound in her head.
Kristine: I’ve taken her to the vet four times and they want her on medication for the rest of her life, even though they have no idea what the cause is, and I won’t do that to her. I’m so horribly stressed and feel awful for her, but I don’t know what else to do.
Council: It’s important for you to meditate and not add to the cat’s stress. The cat will feel your vibration. And so, you have to come with love to this cat, with confidence, with the feeling that the cat is well, and telling the cat it’s well. And that all your love, together with the cat, will help it feel better. Come from your heart. Put your hands on the cat, and send love daily, at least for 10 minutes.
Kristine: Council, please, what can you see? Why is she itching all the time? I want her to have the best life with me. I adore her and I just want her to be happy. She’s all I have.
Besides the scratching, is she happy I adopted her?
Council: Oh yes. There’s great happiness there, so bond closely and just tell her that together you’ll help her feel better.
Kristine: Is there anything else I can do to make her feel loved and happy?
Council: It’s the massage every day. It’s the quietness. No loud surroundings and no tension. The tension also adds to the vibration she hears and feels. Calmness, which will help both of you, we see you both need it. So you’ve come together to both learn to be calm.
Bob: And as far as the hypoallergenic food is concerned, she can feed the cat whatever she wants?
Council: Exactly. If the cat likes the hypoallergenic food, then, yes, continue it.
Kristine: Your love and guidance is beyond appreciated. Love and appreciation, Kristine.
Council: Love to you and your cat on your journey.
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Do We Have To Unite With Our Twin Flame To Spiritually Ascend, Or With Our Multidimensional Self?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Bluestar Child.
Bluestar Child: In general, is it necessary to unite with your twin flame to spiritually ascend from the third dimension here on Earth, or is it an attachment of the ego that we need to let go of and actually have to unite with our own multi-dimensional selves?
Council: Exactly, let go of the ego. You don’t need anything or anyone else to move up the ladder and go from one dimension to another, which you’ve already done.
And so it’s the beliefs that you must have a twin soul, you have to have a soulmate. No. You need to create what you want with your thoughts. You need, in your prayers, in your meditations, to always want to connect with that higher part of you that knows what it wants to do, that knows what you wanted to experience in this lifetime. That’s all that’s needed. No one else is needed.
BS: Is there a true twin flame?
Council: When you create a twin flame, you take a part of your spirit and send it out there and create the kind of person you want this twin flame to be in your life. So it’s you (as a spirit) taking on the persona of another person: a man, a woman, an animal, whatever it is. But it is you, and you can create this as many times as you want and in as many realities as you want. The twin flame is you.
It’s like you looking in a mirror and saying, “Let me put on this Halloween costume and let me see what I find with this person that I’m creating. What is it about me that I want to learn? Why do I want to create this twin flame so I can feel comfortable? Why do I want to create this twin flame so that I can have a lot in common, so that I can grow at a pace that feels comfortable, that I’m supported by someone (and that someone is you) to go through this reality and [go through] what I want to experience.”
Bob: Do you differentiate between the terms twin flame and soulmate?
Council: The soulmate is someone that you create because you think this soulmate will be the great love of your life. And it’s another spirit that’s agreed to come into your life and play that part.
But when you create this twin flame, it’s the mirror of you. And so there’s not another spirit that’s involved in that.
Bob: So on the subject of twin flames, if it’s another person, how is there not another spirit involved in that?
Council: A twin flame is you. It’s a part of you that you’ve sent out to come in the form of a person, or an animal, or whatever it is that you need.
A soulmate is another soul that perhaps you’ve been in other lifetimes with, or it can be someone new, but it’s a different soul, a different spirit that said, “Yes, I will come in and be whatever we decide we need to be in this lifetime.”
The twin flame is you creating with you.
Bob: I think I understand. It sounds like you’re saying that in spirit you send a part of yourself and create another person, but it’s your actual spirit in the form of another person.
Council: Exactly.
Bob: And you’re calling them a twin flame.
Council: Yes.
Bob: It doesn’t involve the spirit or soul of another.
Council: Excellent, Bob. Yes, you’ve got it.
Bob: But the soulmate…
Council: …is another spirit.
Bob: Thank you very much for that clarification. I appreciate that.
Council: Good question.
Bob: Now we have a point of clarification that we’d like to ask about in our post where we answered Bluestar Child’s first four out of five questions. It was a post entitled, Do I Have A Twin Flame, Not A Soulmate?
Early in that post Bluestar Child said, “I would like to ask The Council if I have a twin flame, and I don’t mean a soulmate.” And you said, You’re going to try to answer them. This can be difficult to understand.” And we appreciate that you just provided some of that clarification.
Council: Yes, we’ve just given you the simplest explanation.
Bob: Now in that previous post, just after that statement, you said, “We were all created at the same time. There are no new souls.” And then you said, “There are souls that are new by creating your current reality.” And we’d like some clarification on those three statements.
Council: There are no new souls, but we’ll say there are millions, or a nice word that Cynthia likes, cazillions of souls everywhere, in every reality, in every dimension. And so there’s not a new soul being born. What happens is, in your reality when you bring a person in, it’s someone that’s agreeing to be here. It’s not a brand new soul. When you give birth, it’s not a brand new soul. The soul could be thousands of years old. We are all here. We are all doing many, many, many things.
So there’s no need to create a new soul. When you feel you want to create something, there’s nothing brand new. You’ll send out a part of yourself for whatever reason so that to your human mind it seems like a new soul, but it isn’t. There’s no need for anything new. We’re all here forever.
Bob: That’s interesting. So it sounds like you’re saying that on a spiritual level, all souls were created at the same time.
Council: Always was, always will be. And there are no words in your language to explain this. It’s just that we’re vibration and we are energy that goes on forever. There is a change in form perhaps, but we are always there.
Bob: And the change in form doesn’t involve any new souls?
Council: Exactly. And believe this or not, we all know each other, all cazillion trillion millions. We’re all connected. How wonderful is that? That will blow your mind.
Bob: So when you say there are souls that are new by creating your current reality, you’re saying that an old soul can seem new by bringing them into our current reality and experiencing them for the first time.
Council: Exactly. It could be a soul that you’ve never been with before so they would feel new.
Bob: But this soul and all souls were originally created all at the same time.
Council: Exactly.
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Why Did I Choose This Life And My Husband?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Elizabeth.
Elizabeth: I have severe childhood trauma. I’ve never felt so lost in life. I’m 37 years old. Growing up I had a very turbulent environment with no therapy. I’m not sure if I can trust my thoughts. I feel crazy and lonely. When I was 26, my son was diagnosed with cancer. When I was 32 I lost my sister to heroin. My parents are still drunks and I feel like I’m their parent.
What’s worse, I’m not sure if I’ve settled in my marriage. I’m unfulfilled internally and I’m not sure what I should do. Fear is definitely there. Can you tell me why I chose this life, and why I chose my husband?
Council: You chose this life with all these experiences you mention to find yourself and to learn about yourself. How do you handle deaths in your family? How do you handle being in a relationship that you think you’ve settled for? How have you gotten through and handled your childhood traumas? It’s all about looking at yourself.
And so here, until now, you’ve had a difficult reality. So we say, Where’s your hope? Where’s your focus now?
You can feel lonely. And of course if you meditate you’ll eventually learn that you’re not alone. There are guides, there are angels, and there are ancestors that are around you to help you. But you need to sit down in quiet time and ask for this help. Go through every issue one at a time. Tell yourself: I need to understand this. How do I change my feelings about this? And know, absolutely without any doubt, that you will get the answers to your questions. You are not alone.
It’s the reality you created to go through these experiences, feel the loneliness, and then say, I must change this. I feel horrible. I don’t understand this. And you know what? I don’t want to go through this anymore. So let’s see what I can do.
And so you find joy. If you have to watch a movie, if you need to read a book, if you need to put on music, or do anything that will immediately uplift you. And when you’re in this beautiful, uplifting vibration, start thinking about what you want. What is something new you can bring in? And then follow that desire. Follow that idea in your head. Don’t give up on it.
Your purpose for coming into this life was to experience things from past lifetimes that you needed to repeat here – the losses and the sadness – but this time around you wanted to not just experience it, but to change it.
Bob: Can you give Elizabeth any clues about why she chose her husband?
Council: Because she’s been with this person in other lifetimes – and we see here there were a few good relationships – when this other soul was planning this path they agreed to come again and be supportive, or not be supportive and make things more difficult so that she’d learn on her own that she could change it. And so it was from being in spirit and deciding to come in and be whatever was needed for you to realize you can change things.
So you haven’t settled. You have agreed in spirit to this marriage. This person is here. Do you wish for your marriage to work out? Then you focus on that. Do you wish to move on and create something else? Then you focus on that. But you’re not settling. You’re going through all the things you wanted to go through to learn that you are the creator.
And many, many people at this time are going through their lives and realizing, I’m in charge here. My God, I can make this happier. What have I been doing being miserable? I can really change this job, this relationship, this sickness, this loneliness, this sadness. I can change all of it.
And so there’s a great shift taking place in your reality at this time. Everyone is heading toward feeling better about themselves and they are starting to create exactly what it is that they want.
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Pregnant With An Unplanned Third Child At 40 That My Husband Doesn’t Want?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, L.
L: I’d love to ask The Council’s advice. I’ve recently determined I’m pregnant with our third child. It was unplanned, and I’m 40 years old. I’m struggling to find clarity in my heart about what to do. We’re in a big transition, seeking a new home and work. And physically I feel how challenging another child would be on my body and my energy. And my husband doesn’t want another child.
Council: You already know your husband doesn’t want this child. It sounds like you have a problem with knowing how you’d handle this new child and that it will be stressful.
And so we’ll say here, where we can never make the decision for you, it’s so wonderful that no matter what you decide, we see here that this spirit, and you, and your husband have agreed to either way, having the baby or not having the baby. It was thought that spirit would come in at a certain time and you would then all decide, were you ready?
And so if it’s something that makes you uncomfortable, that you don’t feel in your heart it is a good decision, it’s okay not to bring forth this child into this reality. You’ve all agreed to this. And so there’s no wrongdoing. There’s nothing to feel guilty about. The child will go on and, if it wishes, be born to another couple. It may stay in the spirit world for a while, or a long time. Nobody will suffer from this.
And so the decision is yours, and it should be made with love. You and your husband send each other love and send this spirit love. This spirit already is sending you love.
And so everything, no matter which way you decide, will be perfect.
L: And yet I also feel it’s a divine blessing to conceive without trying, and there’s immense grief considering how to end the pregnancy.
Council: It’s a divine blessing because you are divine, the child is divine, your husband is divine, and you’d agreed to have this child if it was at a good time and if it would be good for all three of you. So the three of you brought this pregnancy forward and brought it through with the knowledge that if it wasn’t a good time to have this child, you could end the pregnancy and release the child.
L: It’s very early, but I wouldn’t wish to wait very long if we take this path of stopping the pregnancy.
Council: This is understandable so all of you can go on. The spirit can go on, you can go on, and your husband can go on.
L: Can you shed any light on spirit and moving forward with love for our entire family?
Council: There’s all love for you in spirit. All of you have it within you. All of your higher selves know what’s planned. And any decision, and we say it again, any decision that you make is perfect.
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Is There An Evil Spirit Around Me And/Or My Children?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Sonaliv27.
Sonaliv: Is there a spirit or something around me and/or my children?
Council: There are always spirits around you, and there’s nothing to fear with this. It’s just that you’re one of many who wish to come into this reality and learn to experience more than what’s usual.
You want to experience connections with spirits from other realms, and the spirits there have come to you to help you connect with this. If at any time you feel this is too much for you, or you don’t want this connection, then you can easily ignore this and you won’t create it. There’s no reason for concern that these are what you’d call bad spirits. They’re just here because you wanted this from a spiritual perspective.
When you were in spirit and you were planning your current lifetime, you wanted to come in and then to grow, to experience more, and to be open to new experiences that would help you realize who you are. You wanted to help realize that you’re also a spirit, and you’re so much more than your physical body that you travel around in. That’s why you may feel these spirits around you, but we’d say there’s no reason to be concerned. You’re always in control.
Sonaliv: Is this spirit evil?
Council: This spirit is not evil. There are many spirits that are coming in because they’re part of the agreement to help the ones in the physical to realize there’s so much more. It’s a teacher. It’s here to give you a different experience. You can always go with it, learn from it, and experience it, or take it out of your consciousness. Don’t give it any focus and it will leave.
Sonaliv: How do I make this spirit leave?
Council: Make sure that you truly want this spirit to leave, because you are the creator and you did create having this spirit come into your life for the purpose of learning.
And so we send you all blessings, and all the wonderful thoughts that will help you, the positive thoughts and the feelings that come with them, and the love that’s within you that you can experience at any time you focus on your heart and ask for signs of who you really are. When you do this you’ll experience more joy and more love in your life.
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Will My Children Ever Feel Good In School?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Kati.
Kati: Dear Council, please help. Will my children ever feel good at school? My 10-year-old struggles academically due to attention issues, but does great socially, though the environment is lively and distracting, which doesn’t help his attention issues.
Council: First we’ll like to say this child is an Indigo child, and the attention problem the school would see is because he’s very curious and will get bored easily. Subconsciously the Indigo children know they have great things to do and to change when they are here. That’s what’s going on with that child right now.
This is nothing to worry about. Don’t fall into the system’s way of thinking there’s something wrong with him. Indigo children learn at their own pace. They make friends when they’re ready. They’ll search for the right kind of people, they’ll search for the right kind of information, and they don’t want to waste their time. This is part of what an Indigo child goes through.
There’s no need to worry here. You’ll see by watching this child what motivates him, what his interests are, and how he works through his problems.
Kati: My 8-year-old struggles socially, hasn’t made a good friend in school in three years, hates going to school, but does great academically.
Council: Do you see the opposites with these two souls? They’ve agreed to come in and they know each other from one or more previous lives. They’d be examples to each other so that one would learn from the other, and learn how to balance themselves out. It’s a wonderful path they’ve chosen to come on.
There’s a learning process for you, but they’re here to definitely help each other to be examples. As they get older they’ll figure out what they want. There could be a time when one is jealous of the other, but that’s fine. The relationship will evolve. They’re here to be examples and to help each other in their current reality.
Kati: We are considering switching schools to a small private religious school, though we’re not of that faith, or homeschooling, but those are upheavals as well. Is it worth the financial strain to send them to private school?
Council: No, not at all. They’ll still have their issues to face. And why disturb what they’re going through now, where they’d have to start again with the feelings, and being bored, or not having friends. It’s to your children’s benefit that you do not change their schooling habits and where they learn.
Kati: Would my children be happy doing homeschooling?
Council: That wouldn’t help either.
Kati: In addition to feeling like we’re constantly struggling with their individual school issues…
Council: And that’s understood, but just sit back and watch, and encourage them in any way you can.
Most of all it’s important that your children feel accepted no matter how they are, and to feel loved by you. Show your children love. Show your children acceptance. These are tools that will help them grow.
Kati: Mass shootings in the news make me fear that school is no longer a safe place for kids.
Council: And at this point it isn’t safe. But in your current reality, all of this is happening because a great change is wanted. All the souls here have allowed this to come in to learn from it and take their power. And parents, as well as all adults, have a lot of power that they’re looking to find right now, and to change the circumstances into the kind of world that’s wanted.
Every single soul that’s in this reality at this time came in to find out whatever the problem is, and to face these problems in large groups, or individually, and to change these problems and bring love into every situation.
But we do understand your fear. Meditate on things being wonderful. Meditate on how you’d like things to be. See that in your mind. Focus on that.
You’ll find that thoughts are very powerful. Stay in the positive.
Kati: The whole topic of school feels so intense and it’s been a struggle for four years. Do you have any insights as to why we’ve struggled so much, and if there’s a better option for our family? I don’t want to live in fear anymore, and I don’t want to be weary of the subject of school anymore.
Council: As crazy as this may sound, you did choose to experience fear, and so did everyone else in your current reality. Either you fall victim to this fear, or you use your mind and your energy to not accept this fear.
Now focus on what you want. When you focus, the vibration changes, and then everything around you changes. That’s how your current reality works.
Do the work. Go inward. Focus. Visualize, and you’ll see the change begin.
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Was My Recent Abortion A Soul Agreement Between Me And My Child?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, ACuriousSpirit.
ACuriousSpirit: I had an abortion recently and it’s not something I really wanted to do, and I’m still deeply sad about it. I’d like to ask The Council if this abortion was a soul agreement between me and the child.
Council: Of course it was. There’s no reason to feel sad, or regret what was done, or feel guilty. It was your wish to experience this abortion and afterward to feel love for yourself because this was something you did.
It’s important for you to understand that the child’s soul also wanted to experience the abortion for its own reasons. You both helped each other out. There’s great love there. As you understand that and feel love for yourself, this love will grow. At another time you’ll have children if you want to.
ACS: Will I be reunited again with the soul of this child?
Council: At this time this particular soul doesn’t feel it needs to come back to you. It feels like it will move on. You have other souls in line, so to speak, that are willing to come to you when you’re ready for children. You’ll be reunited when you’re both back in spirit, but not in your current life.
ACS: How can I best deal with the sadness and move on with my life.
Council: Forget the sadness and know that you may not understand in your current reality why you chose to experience this abortion. How wonderful that the loving soul of this child said, “I will be this child. I will come to you and you’ll get pregnant, and then when the time is right, you’ll abort me.”
That soul had such great love for you that it did what you needed because you wanted to experience this abortion. Learn from this experience. Learn all about love. You can still be connected to the spirit of this child, and send love to this spirit, and thank it for helping you experience this abortion. And you allowed this spirit to learn what it needed by having the abortion and letting that spirit learn the lesson it wanted from that experience.
There’s only love here, only a great love that brought you two together to experience this abortion. There’s no sadness, there’s no guilt. You fulfilled a contract, so to speak. You fulfilled an agreement. You came together out of love to help each other. When you’re back in spirit, and perhaps when you plan another life, you can be together again. There’s only love here.
ACS: I’d also like to know why the father of this child rejected us and if this was also a soul agreement between me and him.
Council: Of course this was another soul agreement between you and the father. You would have to learn about abandonment, you’d have to learn to feel great love for yourself, and not feel unimportant or that there’s something wrong with you because this man left you.
The soul of this man will learn how it feels to leave someone. Perhaps that soul wants to learn about regret. Perhaps it wants to learn about how wonderful and free it feels not to be tied to a family. This person will learn what he needs to learn by leaving you, but it’s all done out of love. You decided to have this experience with the father so that he could learn from it and you could learn from it.
Concentrate on yourself. Find the loving things within yourself. Focus on that. And when you meditate, or you sit quietly, thank these souls for playing their part in your abortion experience. And jokingly say, “Maybe we’ll do this again and we’ll have a different ending, or a different lesson.”
That’s all that’s meant at this time.
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Are Some Events Pre-Planned In Spirit More Likely To Happen Than Others?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Mari.
Mari: I’ve read in some books on the afterlife and reincarnation that certain important events in life are pre-planned, with a high probability of happening. For example, marrying a particular person, going to a particular school, having a child, or having certain disabilities. And no matter which way you go, that event will most likely occur. Other events are supposedly pre-planned only as possibilities.
Council: Your higher self always knows what you pre-plan and what you want to experience. There are many times when you’re setting up a new life that you pick souls you worked with and learned with before. You’d choose one as a husband, a wife, a brother, or a mother. There are times you want them in your life for a while, and you’ll set that up, learn what’s needed, and then move on.
There are times when you may make an agreement with a soul where you say, Let’s see how our life goes. Let’s see what I create and what you create, and is it a meeting where we’ll become friends and experience more, or is it just a quick meeting and you move on? By doing it this way you don’t know what you’re going to create, and so you have the ability to go into this relationship with this spirit, or turn and go on another path. There are some relationships where it’s very positive, we know each other before, and let’s do it again. What is it that you want to learn? What is it that I want to learn? We’ll support each other in this. And there are other relationships where you just see how it goes.
The freedom is always yours. Even if you decide to recreate something you set up, your higher self knows if you’re learning what you want to learn, if you’re having a good time, and if you’re achieving what you wanted to achieve. You’ll always be able to pick the direction you go in, even if you don’t consciously know that the choice was yours to do this or to do that and to have this experience.
Bob: So it sounds like you’re agreeing with Mari when she says you can pre-plan an event that has a high probability of happening.
Council: Yes
Bob: And you’re saying even though it does have a high probability of happening, you have the free will to change that.
Council: You always have free will. Every day of your life you can connect with the other spirit, with their higher self and your higher self, and you’ll know this is the way we want it to go. Or let’s not go this way. Let’s change this and change that. You’re always in connection with these other spirits.
Bob: And it sounds like you’re also saying that you can pre-plan possibilities that aren’t necessarily likely or unlikely to happen, and you determine at the time you’re living what you pre-planned in that life whether you want to follow that path or not.
Council: Exactly. The choice is always yours.
Mari: You’ve indicated in many places that you have to believe in something for it to occur.
Bob: Can you comment on that?
Council: You can’t believe in something you don’t remember that you’re creating in spirit. You don’t have to believe it because your higher self and the other person’s higher self will work to make this happen. But if it’s something you want in your life, like a new job or a new partner, it always helps to believe you want it and it’s coming to you. There are many things you won’t remember that you have planned, but your higher self will take you there. When it’s something you consciously want, it always works much better if you believe you can have it.
Bob: You’re also saying that even if you don’t consciously believe in something, it can still occur.
Council: Yes, it can. Believe in the power of your higher self because it’s you. You’re the only one who’s creating in your reality.
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What Can You Tell Me About The Tension In My Husband’s And Son’s Relationship?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Kristi, after she read our post, Why Don’t I Have A Good Relationship With My Mother?
Kristi: Great post on family dynamics. This raises a couple questions of my own that I’d like to ask The Council.
My husband and I have a great relationship and we’ve been married 20 years this November. My husband treats me like any woman would ever want to be treated, and I have almost no complaints in this department. I’m so very thankful for him.
We have one child together, a son who’s 18 years old. My husband’s and my son’s relationship is a strained one, unfortunately. My husband sets extremely high standards for our son, which are often unattainable. And even if they were attainable, my husband wouldn’t be happy then either. I feel like my son could wrangle the moon and my husband wouldn’t care.
When standards aren’t met, a child often feels like they’re not good enough and I see this playing out before me. My son is a sweet guy, very smart, and stays out of trouble, but he has low self-esteem.
My husband makes no attempt to foster a close relationship with our son. We all live together in the same house, but my husband and son can go without talking to each other for weeks at a time. And when they do talk to each other, it’s usually my husband telling my son what he hasn’t done properly.
Council: This is so wonderful. We have such advice for you. We see it so clearly.
Your husband and son were husband and son in a previous lifetime. In that lifetime they were wonderful together. Whatever your son did, your husband praised him. Everything was okay and everything went along beautifully.
At the end of that life, your son said to his dying father, “I wish I could have done more. I wish you would have pushed me more so that I could have given you more, and so that I could have become more in this lifetime.”
And so, in the wonderful past life they experienced together, both wished they had done more. Your son wished he’d become more. Your husband wished he didn’t settle for what your son was in that past life, and he wished he did push your son more.
So going back into spirit they asked each other if they wanted to try this again, but this time the son wanted the father to push him. The son wanted to become so much more in the new life they create. Whatever way the father can find to push the son, to get him to do more, to not settle, the son wants the father to do that with him.
That will be our lesson, to become more as a father and be even more proud of his son than he was. And the son wants to be important. He wants to feel that. He doesn’t want to feel there’s so much more he could have done. He wants to know there’s a strong father behind him that won’t let him settle.
And so your husband creates a family where there weren’t good role models for him to follow. He becomes a stern father who, out of love, whether he can admit that or not, isn’t going to settle for what your son does, no matter how good it is. He’ll ignore your son and not give him any confidence or any hurrahs for what he does. And this is your husband’s way of pushing your son to want his father’s attention, and to want more, and more, and more.
The most wonderful little book for you to read is, The Littlest Soul and the Sun, by Neale Donald Walsch, about two angels. One angel asks the other angel to come back into a new life, and if the first angel does something mean to the second angel, can the second angel still remember the first angel is a soul and forgive him. We suggest you read that book. That’s exactly what’s going on with your husband and your son.
They’re being tough with each other, but underneath they want so much more for each other. Your husband wants to leave this life thinking he was a wonderful father, and he pushed his son so much that, look what his son accomplished. And your son wants to think at the end of this life, my father never complimented me enough, he pushed me and pushed me, but I see it now, it was out of love because look at what I’ve become.
Bob: Is it a good idea for the son or the father to read, The Littlest Soul and the Sun, as well?
Council: They may not be open to it, but I’d leave the book around and see who gets drawn to it first and who reads it. It’s perfect for what’s going on, and it’s the wife’s job not to judge or step in because she can’t fix this. This is between your husband and your son. They’ll find a way. Their lessons and challenges in this reality is to find a way to come back to love. That’s the reason we’re all here, to come back to the state of love.
Bob: Was the father in this life the father in the past life, and the son in this life the son in the past life?
Council: Yes. And so they brought that role into their current life to work it through.
Kristi: I try to step in and talk to my husband about how difficult he’s being, but he doesn’t seem to understand where I’m coming from.
Council: Yes, he doesn’t understand, not at this time.
Kristi: He’s not abusive at all, but he doesn’t offer the love and acceptance a parent should provide.
Council: You provide love and acceptance to your husband and your son for the way they are. Always send them light so they can find a way to work out this challenge they wanted to go through in this lifetime, and they’ll find the path that will bring them to the state of love.
Kristi: My husband’s father was absent most of my husband’s life, so my husband didn’t have the best role model for parenting. Whereas I had the best father in the world and I only want the same thing for my son. I’d love for them to have a better relationship, but I understand this isn’t my battle. I’d love more insight into their dynamic, whether or not this was planned in spirit before coming to this Earthly plane, and why?
Council: It was definitely planned. And their higher selves know why they created this situation, what they’re trying to do, and will take them along their path until they understand and find a way to bring more love into their lives.
Kristi: Do you see my husband’s and son’s relationship getting better with time?
Council: It can always get better, but they are the creators. The best thing you can do is to accept what they create. They can create a change in a year if they want, or it could take 20 years. You must let them go through whatever it is they need to see, understand, and feel, and they’ll find a way.
Kristi: What can I do to help this situation?
Council: Send love, and have fun watching your husband’s and your son’s journey.
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Should I Continue My Relationship With My Current Partner?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lee, who has a follow up question on our post, Why Do I Feel So Drawn To This Man? that we published last month in response to Lee’s earlier questions.
Lee: I feel drawn to a man I recently started dating. The relationship is moving very fast and we’re even talking about marriage.
Council: Is this what you want? It’s all up to you. You can take the relationship and have it move slowly or quickly, but you have to decide if you’re comfortable with it moving quickly.
Lee: I feel very connected and comfortable with this man. It’s as if I’ve known him forever.
Council: How wonderful. You recognize the spirit within this person that you’ve known in other lifetimes. You both agreed in spirit that this person would come into your life. What is it that you want? Where do you see this relationship going?
Lee: I feel very connected to him spiritually, physically, and emotionally, but he comes with a lot of failed relationships and baggage. I’m afraid I may be ignoring red flags and making a mistake.
Council: It’s good to recognize there are red flags. There’s always a problem when you’re getting signs, but you ignore them. By taking your time with this relationship you can see more and more what this person is truly like. There’s no reason to rush. If this relationship is something you both want, you’ll both feel the trust and the love in it to make the relationship happen.
Lee: I’m a recent widow and I feel guilty. I wonder if I’m just vulnerable and lonely, and the relationship isn’t real.
Council: Of course you’re vulnerable and lonely. That’s part of the human condition when we love someone and lose them. There’s no reason to feel guilty. It’s perfectly fine to move on and have another relationship if that’s what you want. But again we tell you, it would be wise to slow this relationship down. If it’s real and something you both want, time won’t change it. You can work towards it.
Lee: I’m also worried about my son’s reaction to the relationship.
Council: This is another reason to take your time. Because this relationship is new, it’s up to you to take a good look at it, see how you feel, check out the red flags, and take time to see what this person is really like before you involve your son. We feel you know that rushing into this relationship isn’t wise. If you do rush into it, you’ll be faced with challenges more quickly than if you take your time.
You might not know the direction to go if you rush. You’ll get exactly where you need to be. Be in the relationship. Experience the good and the bad, and see what it is that you want.
Lee: Should I continue with this relationship or is it infatuation?
Council: Of course it’s infatuation. Should you continue with this relationship? It’s totally up to you. And that’s why we say: Be in it. See what this relationship is. Don’t rush it. Experience this person and see what baggage he has. Why were there failed relationships? All of this will give you clues about what you want to do.
Bob: You say that it’s infatuation, but it sounds like you may not be ascribing a negative connotation to the word.
Council: In infatutuation, people are taken with someone else. They feel so in love and so happy, and that could be the feeling now. But in time you’ll learn about this other person. You’ll learn about yourself and how you handle another person if you see a lot of characteristics you don’t like. It’s good to give the relationship time. It’s something you want to learn from, and that’s why the relationship was created the way it was.
Bob: Earlier in the session you said Lee and her partner have relationships from past lives.
Council: Yes, there were a few connections. We see the coming together now is something they planned in spirit because they worked together in other lifetimes. But there’s no particular lifetime that’s tied into their current life where they need to learn something, complete something, or heal something. It’s just two spirits that like working together.
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Why Don’t I Have A Good Relationship With My Mother?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Ilona, who asks about her relationship with her mother.
Ilona: I experienced difficulties that were a great challenge for me from the time I was young. My mother always perceived me negatively and didn’t show me as much love as my two sisters.
Council: You set this experience up yourself in spirit. From the very beginning you wanted to learn the lesson of independence, the lesson of accepting others for who they are, you wanted to learn about boundaries, and you wanted to learn how to let go of things and move your life in the direction you wanted. As a young child you began to have feelings that perhaps you weren’t good enough, feeling you weren’t accepted, and so your path began.
Ilona: I’d like to know why my mother doesn’t need me in her life? Why is she pushing me away? Did I hurt her in any way?
Council: There’s nothing you’ve done to hurt your mother, but in spirit, before you came into this reality, you and your mother set up the kind of relationship you’re having. What feels to you like your mother is pushing you away was an agreement you made with her so that your life would be difficult and you’d have to be stronger. And in finding your strength you’d feel very proud of yourself.
In 2020 my mother had a stroke, and in the first few months I felt like our relationship was getting better. That was until my youngest sister moved in with her. Since then my relationship with my mother has been tested again.
Council: Go back to this time when your mother had her stroke and you thought your relationship was improving. How did you feel about this? How do you remember this time? This is the feeling you’re looking for again, but you set it up so you’d feel this way whether you had your mother’s approval or not. This was a taste to remind you of what you were looking for, and then it was taken away. This was all your choice on a spiritual level.
Ilona: After my youngest sister moved in, my mother doesn’t respond to my messages, and doesn’t want to talk to me when my sister isn’t there. I suspect my sister doesn’t want me to have a nice relationship with my mother and only wants to keep my mother to herself.
Council: Whether this is what your sister wants or not, how do you feel about your relationship with your mother? It’s up to you to make up your mind and go in the direction of what you want to happen. It’s a lot of work to look at this relationship and decide if this is what you want. Is it too difficult? Or can you look at it and learn your lesson and feel good about yourself, whether you have your mother’s or your sister’s approval or closeness with them.
What can you find about yourself that makes you feel good? Is it somewhere else in a different relationship? Can you accept what your mother and sister do, send them love, and let go? If you can’t send love, can you just let go? Because what you’re looking for isn’t to be found in this relationship. This relationship is to get you to look more at yourself, to find out about yourself and the kind of person you are, what you’ll allow, and what you won’t allow. It’s about boundaries. The bottom line is you’re supposed to learn about yourself, love yourself, and feel good about what you accept, and what you don’t accept.
We’re not sent to Earth to suffer and feel horrible. We’re sent here to look at these lessons and to find a way of dealing with them, whether letting it go to make you feel good, or whether it’s pushing forward to see what you can do. When you realize you can’t change another person, can you accept them for who they are? See them and speak to them when you feel like it, or completely walk away. These are all decisions you wish to make. You wish to take your life in the direction you find more comfortable and more loving for yourself.
Ilona: Why is my youngest sister so manipulative?
Council: It’s the part she chose to play and that you both set up and agreed to in spirit. So if she’s manipulative, do you want this in your life? Do you wish to fight against this? Or can you accept your sister for who she is and know that she has her own lessons to learn from this kind of behavior? And then not focus on how manipulative she is, but how – now that you see it – that’s something you don’t want around you, and move forward appropriately.
Ilona: What can I do to improve my relationship with my mother?
Council: Always send your mother and your sister the energy of love, whether you understand them or not. And decide to be there for them when they want you to be there, or completely let go. You must make the decision. Remember you can’t change another person. You can accept them for what they’re doing because you don’t know what they’re trying to learn in their reality. Focus on yourself and what you want, and move in that direction.
Ilona: Is there any hope for me?
Council: There’s always hope. On an energetic level you can picture them changing. Picture them calling you. Picture them asking you to meet with them. You must do the work on an energetic level first. You can do this if it’s what you want, but you first have to decide what you want. Work energetically with them and you’ll see the change begin to happen. There’s nothing you can do physically in your reality to get them to change. You can see the change happen when you constantly focus on how you want your life to be.
Ilona: Is there anything I should know right now?
Council: The most important thing is to concentrate on yourself. See how your relationship with your mother and sister is going. Decide what you want. Do you want a relationship? Do you not want it? Then work energetically. Even if you decide it’s not what you want, picture your relationship going in different ways, but happily. Imagine they’re happy without you in their lives and you’re happy without them in your life. Always come from a place of love, letting go, and everyone feeling the happiness and joy that’s intended when you learn lessons.
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Forgiveness Is Your Issue, Not Abandonment
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Eleanor, whose questions follow-up on our post, Is My Current Relationship With My Soul-Contracted Life Partner? which we published in response to her earlier question. Eleanor says, I’d specifically like to know more about abandonment, as I don’t feel I’ve really moved forward with this issue.
Ever since I received your guidance in that earlier post, I’ve seen just how many abandonments I’ve experienced, both in my love life and at work. I’ve had everything from colleagues taking my ideas and becoming rich and famous, to more recently a colleague in a project I run ghosting me and the work. They’re the fourth person to leave this project. Love-wise it’s been similar, from infidelity and abuse, to lovers putting deposits on homes with me and then disappearing. I’d like to know why this abandonment has been a running theme in my life.
The Council says, You may not believe this, but your issue was not only abandonment. Your issue is abuse, feeling hurt, feeling heartbroken, and feeling alone. These are some of the feelings you brought up, because what you wanted to learn about was forgiveness.
A good thing for you to do is to go back and think of everything that made you feel abandoned, heartbroken, and abused. Ask yourself how you feel about these people who were involved. Can you do the work that’s needed now of forgiving these people? Read Pat Rodegast’s book, Emmanuel, which has a section on forgiveness. That may help you.
But the real work is not to just concentrate on abandonment. Focus on all these things that make you feel alone. When you learn to forgive, and this is a big chunk that you wanted to work on in this lifetime, take each issue and ask yourself how you feel about the people involved? What do I think they did to me? How did they make me feel? Can I get to a place of love and release this hurt? Can I forgive them, because when they treated me this way, they were going through their own challenges? And all these people agreed with me in spirit to work out this issue of abandonment with me.
Forgiveness is a big subject. It can go back to your parents, your grandparents, your siblings, schoolmates, work colleagues, friends, family, and lovers, to name a few. There’s a lot you wanted to cover because your main issue was that you wanted to learn how to forgive. And then learn how to forgive yourself for feeling the way you did about each person, being angry with them, or surprised and shocked. And the grief and anger you store in your body, can you let go of it?
Know that you’ve planned to work through this issue of forgiveness in spirit and everyone involved has agreed to this with you. You’re exactly where you want to be. Forgiveness is a big challenge. It’s always easier to start looking at someone else and how they treated you. When you can learn to forgive them, then the harder part is learning to look at yourself.
How do you forgive yourself? How did you allow this to happen? Why didn’t you speak up for yourself? Why didn’t you leave a relationship earlier? Why did you allow people to treat you like that? When you did allow this, you didn’t love yourself. We’re all here to take every challenge we have and bring love into it. You can do this. It will take a lot of work and really wanting to look at the issue of forgiving yourself. Know you set this up when you were in spirit.
Eleanor asks, Does this have something to do with past lives I’ve had, and my abusive and neglectful upbringing? The Council says it’s not just about past lives. There were lots of past lives where you were hurt and went through abandonment or love issues. But there were also many good lives. It’s not so much about what life this desire for forgiveness came from? It’s more like you asked in spirit what challenge you wanted to work on in this lifetime, and you came up with forgiveness.
As far as your abusive and neglectful upbringing is concerned, that was also planned in spirit. The feelings of not feeling good about yourself, being abused, and not being treated right started very early. This is what you set up in spirit.
Eleanor says, Is this something I chose to change in this lifetime. The Council says, Of course. You didn’t want to just go through this lifetime and experience this need for forgiveness and feel horrible without changing it and without learning to love yourself and others. We’re all here to help each other. Of course you wanted to change this.
Eleanor says, I’d also like to know what I need to do to heal this pattern, as I’ve always wanted to have a permanent life partner and the same colleagues to go forward with work-wise. The Council says if you do this work as we explained it, there’s definitely a partner out there for you, but you must start this work.
Eleanor says, I’m also wondering if I do this work, will I be able to reattract this colleague who’s just left, and also my ex-boyfriend. Or is it that in healing this pattern I grow beyond this particular colleague and ex, and attract a new (what I hope is) permanent colleague and boyfriend?
The Council says you’ll understand the answer to this question after you do some of this inner work. You can decide if you want to bring these people back into your life. And of course you can if you want to. But then you might get to a point and decide you want more. You want something new and you’ll create that. You are the creator of your life and you can have it go in any direction you want. But you must do the work because you wanted to do this so badly this lifetime. To work on forgiveness for one issue is a lot, but to pick so many issues is even bigger. If you can get to forgiving one or two people, you’ll know how to do it and the rest will come easily.
The Council closes by sending everyone love, light, energy, and happiness. We wish you all feel that we’re here to help all of you, whether we speak with you, or we’re just here sending you light. That’s what we’re all about. We’re about supporting each other and helping each other understand what you’ve picked in this lifetime, and how to give you some guidance to keep you on your path, and show you how to experience it and change the way it is, because that’s what you planned.
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Is It Time To Separate From My Husband?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Confused and Sad, who says, I’ve been married for close to 30 years. The last few years have had me reflect on how different my husband and I are, and how much we’ve grown apart. It seems our history and our finances are the main reason we’re still together. My husband is a good man, but we have very little, if anything, in common. We rarely agree on anything and this makes me very sad. I feel in my heart we’d both be happier apart, and perhaps have a chance to find a true partner who can make us happy.
The Council says the pre-planning of this marriage in spirit comes from a lifetime where you were both married to other people and you were very mean and selfish with your partners. You felt stuck in these marriages. You didn’t know each other in that life, but there was always the thought to find someone better. You thought you were with people who weren’t pretty, weren’t handsome, weren’t intelligent, people that made you feel closed in, or had nothing in common with you. And both your spirits were willing to work on the same issues so you decided to do it together in your current lifetime.
When you came into your current life it was to come together and learn how to accept who the other person is, whatever their issues were. You wanted to learn how to allow someone to be different. You don’t have to have all these things in common. You wanted to learn how to love yourself and not to look for someone new that would make you happy and feel loved. You must love yourself.
And then you took it a step further and you decided that because you were so selfish and mean in your past life, in your current life when you learned how to accept your spouse for who they were, you were going to try to help them feel good about themself. You were going to take the focus off of you and how miserable you felt, and how this person wasn’t making you happy, and try to do something for this other person,. and give of yourself. And in that you’d feel the change within yourself, and you’d feel better and more love for yourself.
At first we imagine this may be difficult, but when you see you’re focusing on the other person and allowing them to take in this beautiful energy you’re sending by trying to do something for them, or just the energy of letting them be who they are, what you’re looking for in other people you’ll find in yourselves. When you find it in yourselves, you’ll realize both of you created this situation in this marriage. You’re exactly where you need to be to realize: How can I fix this? I love this person, but I don’t, because there’s someone who’d be prettier or handsomer, someone that would give me more attention, someone that would make me feel happier than I am. All of this love comes from within you, not from another person.
When you ask yourself to be nicer, to be understanding, to say to yourself, Today let me do this for this person or with this person, knowing it’s something that person likes, you will be so proud of yourself, and the feeling you want to have in a marriage will return. It will not only return, but it will be better than it was.
Confused says, We’ve both tried to make each other happy for the sake of the children and family, but we’re just two very different people. The Council says, Isn’t that wonderful. Look at what you can learn from being two totally different people.
Confused says, We’re both scared to leave because we’re all each other has known for so many years. The Council says of course the feeling of being scared will come up because you know this isn’t what you wanted. You don’t want to flee your marriage. You didn’t plan to go off and find something else. You both created this situation so you could grow within yourself and for each other.
Confused says, I know we’re both confused and scared because separation or divorce can be just as difficult as staying together. The Council says if you were to do this and move on, the happiness you’re looking for you won’t find somewhere else. It’s within this marriage, it’s within yourselves that you wanted to grow and learn, and you will feel this.
Confused says, I’ve tried to figure out why we would have chosen each other, what lessons we were supposed to learn. Is it finally time to move on and co-create the life we’d both like to live? And perhaps find true love with a partner more suited for each of us that can make us happy?. The Council says this other partner you’re looking for will be no different because you both planned to live your life this way.
Confused says, We do try and communicate and work things out, but our thought processes are just so completely different. The Council says, Isn’t it wonderful?. Do you stop and wonder what your spouse is thinking of? Do you try to understand it? Do you try and see it? And you don’t have to agree with each other. That’s the most wonderful thing. You can still have your beliefs and your ways of thinking, but how interesting it would be to see how your spouse’s mind works. And you can learn much from this. Let go of being rigid and thinking we have different ideas. What can you learn from this? Maybe it would be fun for you to think this way. Or maybe you can learn from thinking this way. It’s all opportunities in front of you.
If you feel you don’t want to stay in this marriage, it’s always your choice. You’ll create it again because the lessons you want to learn are right here. All the opportunities are right here for you.
Confused says, Our thought processes are just so completely different that it never ends well. We just seem to see things completely differently. The Council says, And so you argue and you fight because you don’t agree because you think differently. When you go to school the teacher thinks differently than a student. The student in the back of the room could be thinking differently than a student in the front. You don’t fight over this. You listen and learn from it. But most important, you allow the person to be who they are. And that’s the most wonderful gift you can give anyone.
Confused closes by asking, Have we learned all we can from each other, and is it finally time to move on? The Council says we’ve given you the answer. We wish you so much fun on your journey. Take your focus off your disagreeing, your not having things in common, off the fighting and difficulty communicating. Take your focus and say, This is another spirit who’s agreed with me to come into this reality to create this situation. While we go through it we’re going to learn about each other. Most importantly we’re going to learn about ourselves. Are we able to accept others if they’re not like us? Because your purpose in this life is to bring love into this reality.
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Why Aren’t My Partner and I Planning to Have Children?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Denisa, who asks for guidance with her relationship with her life partner. We’d love to start a family together, but still nothing happens. My life partner keeps talking about wanting to have children with me, but he also mentions that he’d like my financial situation to be similar to his. I’d also like that, but I don’t know what to do to improve my finances. It seems very difficult for me right now. Is my financial situation the reason we don’t try to have children, or is it something else?
The Council says your finances are part of the reason you’re not trying to have children, and it comes from a lifetime you had as brother and sister in a very poor family. There wasn’t enough to eat, there wasn’t enough clothing, and you had no education. You were the older one and took care of your brother. You found the means to feed both of you and move forward in life. You were the one who took care of your brother.
In this life your boyfriend has the subconscious memory of the previous life. He desires you to be in a better financial situation, thinking this will take care of you both going forward in this life. Your boyfriend doesn’t want to have children where there will be an experience of lack. It’s the memory of you taking care of him, and that’s what’s causing this delay with children and with wanting you to have a better financial situation before you go forward.
It’s not that you have to do better financially. It’s that your boyfriend needs to deal with his issue of being able to independently take care of you and a family. That’s what he wanted to learn going forward. In that past life you took care of him. In this life he wanted to take care of you. And yet these memories are within him and so he can insist you do better financially.
This is where the hold-up with having children is coming from. If you both can agree on it we suggest you have children now. Your boyfriend will learn he can fulfill the role of being the breadwinner, being independent, learning how to be a family man, and learning how to take care of himself, you, and your children.
Denisa asks, Have my boyfriend and I agreed in spirit to have children in this lifetime? The Council says yes. You both want this a great deal, but there are the memories and past lives you need to work through. You need to understand where this desire for your financial stability comes from and you both need to let go of this.
Denisa asks, What can I do to improve my financial situation. The Council says that isn’t necessary. That isn’t what you need to do. What is meant now is to have conversations and be in a place where you can express that the financial situation you have, what you make now, is more than enough for now to start a family. Eventually we see you can make more money, but what’s needed is to express that your situation is okay and you believe he has the ability to take care of you, himself, and a family. Give him the confidence to go forward with this. This is what was agreed upon.
Eva says, It seems to me I don’t know which way to go. I’m thinking about writing a book about my childhood, what I’ve been through, and what I’ve learned from it. The Council says writing is very powerful, and writing is energy. We’d say write about your childhood or anything else because you’re putting more energy out and that will bring you more financial success.
Eva asks, What is the main purpose of our relationship? The Council says to be supportive of each other. Support your partner with words that give him confidence. Your partner wanted to teach you to be the supporter, the one who listens to the questions, the one who’s able to talk about what’s worrying both of you. You would bring guidance to your relationship. You’d make things are clearer for him to give him the opportunity to grow. As you listen to him and give him confidence, you are growing also because you’re fulfilling what you both agreed to.
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How Can I Processes My Childhood Abuse?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Denisa, who asks about her childhood trauma. She says, I learned from The Council I chose this experience, but no matter how hard I try, I don’t know how to process it. The Council says, So you’ve learned about the trauma. Learning what you’ve gone through is enough to let the trauma go. Just knowing you created it to feel what it was like to go through it and change it to make it better.
Many people will ask, How do I process this trauma? And every day they think about it over and over in order to process it. Thinking about your trauma over and over only keeps you locked into it. We suggest not thinking about your trauma. You may feel this is strange advice, but when you don’t have those traumatic thoughts and pictures in your mind, it’s easier to go through it. It’s easier to process it by understanding you created this trauma for whatever reason and that’s it – the end. Don’t stay in your trauma thinking there’s some long drawn out purpose to it or process in it. There isn’t.
Instead of thinking about your trauma and how to get rid of it, leave it alone. Let it go. Take your mind and focus on other things, joyful things, things you wish to create in your life because thinking about that, you’ll create it. That’s the way you get through this trauma.
Denisa says, I’ve been working on myself a lot and sometimes I’m grateful for that experience, and sometimes I feel lost and don’t know what to do next. The Council says working on yourself doesn’t mean you go looking for all the things that are wrong with you. We suggest working on yourself by taking a positive attitude. When you have these positive thoughts, and when you can smile and feel good, that’s how you’re creating a better life for yourself.
Denisa says, I’d like to heal the pain I experienced as a child and move on. The Council sees you’ve gotten through this experience. The only pain you still experience is what you cause yourself by thinking about the trauma and remembering it over and over. You’re now creating more pain for yourself, which is keeping you in that painful situation. Change your thoughts. That’s how you let the pain go.
Denisa says, I haven’t spoken to my father in over 10 years because of the way he treated me. I’ve tried to connect with him in the past, but he’s very self-centered and manipulative, so I completely cut off contact with him. Do you think it’s okay that I don’t want to be in touch with him? The Council says of course it’s okay. He’s showing you what you need right now about how he is, and there’s no joy for you in that relationship. It’s what you’ve worked out in spirit. He’d create more uncomfortable feelings so you could walk away and let it go. This is part of him helping you to let go of that part of your life. Being around him wouldn’t make it easier. For what the two of you have worked out, communicating with your father will keep you in the trauma. It’s fine to let your relationship with him go.
Denisa asks if she and her father agreed go through this trauma on a spiritual level and The Council says, Of course. The agreement was to bring this trauma in and create an uncomfortable situation to learn from it and to see if you’re both in a place to heal it, or because of what’s going on in your lives, the healing wasn’t possible by staying together. And so one or both of you would create a situation where you can’t get along, and that’s the way you let go of this trauma, by not being around it. Stop keeping this in your mind and actively thinking about it. This is a gift that you give to each other to move on now.
Denisa asks what lessons did my father and I want to take from this experience? The Council says to learn about abuse, to learn about forgiveness, to learn about boundaries, and to learn creating joy in your life is what your life is all about. You don’t come here to suffer and be miserable. You come here to find a way to experience joy in this lifetime, to create it for yourself, and to help others find the joy they want. Help others in little ways to feel this joy. That’s your purpose.
Denisa asks if she and her father shared any past lives together. The Council sees a past life in Ireland where you were male cousins running an inn, and that was a very good life for both of you. You went through hardships. At one time there wasn’t enough food or enough money. There was a lot of community fighting. You learned to stick together and work through these diffuculties.
In your current life you wanted to understand how you’d handle another difficult situation, which was created by the abuse. Could you work through this? And does working through this abuse mean it’s okay to let it go and experience your life differently and seperately? That’s what’s going on now.
When Denisa finds herself focusing on the abuse that took place in her life, it’s a good idea to find something more pleasant to focus on. She can even think about the past life in Ireland where she had a very good life with the man who was her father in her current lifetime. Completely let go and know you’ve gone through this challenge of abuse. This separation is the way you both spiritually found to handle it. Now stop thinking about it and focus on creating how you want the rest of your life to be.
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What Can I Do About My 20-Year-Old Son’s Behavior
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Christine, who’s concerned about her 20-year-old son. He’s finished high school and has done very little with his life since then. He spends most of his days smoking marijuana from early in the morning until late at night. He also believes he has an alcohol addiction. When he was younger he was very outgoing and appeared happy and enthusiastic about life. Now he’s often very aggressive and his reaction to a situation often appears way out of proportion, and he can be very nasty and domineering.
The Council says your son’s behavior appears pre-planned so he can experience not moving forward in his life right now. His escaping with alcohol and marijuana was also pre-planned. His violence and frustration come from being in this place and pre-planning to change it.
Because your son isn’t moving forward to change his behavior, his higher self is trying to drag him in the direction of changing it, whether in the direction of seeking professional help, or going into a group for help, and reading about how he feels – anything taking him in the direction of wanting to change his behavior. He appears to be stuck in his situation and he’s not able yet to take those steps forward to change it. Your son has no understanding of how you’re trying to help or how you might try to speak about these things to him.
The only job you have right now is to let your son be who he is. We realize this could be frustrating and painful for you, but these are experiences and lessons he wanted to have and then to change. When he’s ready he’ll take these steps. You’re there to give your son love and support.
If he complains to you about being an alcoholic or being lazy and not being able to move forward, all you have to do is say, “Okay, what are you going to do about it?” He needs to realize it won’t magically happen. He has to do something about his situation, even if he was to start imagining he felt better or imagining he’s out there traveling the world. Have him imagine whatever it takes to make him behave differently. You can suggest that and then leave his situation alone.
Your job was to bring this soul forward into this life so it could go through whatever it picks to go through and to accept him and love him the way he is.
Christine says when he’s nasty and domineering it’s impossible to speak rationally with him and we’re left feeling totally depleted. He can also be very lazy. Because he’s my son, I feel like I’m responsible in some way. The Council says you’re playing the part that’s needed and he wished for you to play to get him to this point in his current situation.
When you feel frustrated it will help you if you think he’s really into living what he pre-planned. This is wonderful. Let’s let him do what he has to do and we’ll watch as he finds his way out of this situation and how he learns to change it. You aren’t responsible for his behavior. You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be. You did whatever you were supposed to do to get your son to this point and it’s all up to him now to change it.
Christine says, I felt we were very loving and attentive parents, but I know we weren’t perfect. My other son is very different. I’d appreciate some insight into my son’s behavior and our relationship. The Council says you have two sons. Make sure you offer them both love and support. Be there for both of them, not fine with one and disappointed with the other.
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How Do I Deal with Feelings of Ill Will Towards My Mother?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Ph, who wants to ask about their relationship with their mother. They say, I don’t like her and I guess I fear her because she was abusive and manipulative during my childhood and also later. The Council says when you were in spirit you both agreed on how she would treat you.
Ph says, I feel angry for having to interact with her and I’d prefer to never see her again. At the same time I feel guilty about this and I feel like I should be able to forgive her and have a normal relationship with her. The Council says there’s no purpose in feeling guilty. Your mother’s behavior is something that was planned in spirit and you both played your parts.
Ask yourself, what has this experience done to your thoughts and your feelings? If you cut off communication with your mother and if you choose to never see her again, will you feel that there’s no closure and no understanding? The part we’d like you to understand is that you planned this in spirit because it was an experience you wanted to go through to see how you’d handle this situation. Would you be able to turn your mother’s behavior around and have understanding why she behaved this way towards you? What did you learn from this? Did it make you fearful? Did it make you know your mother was someone you didn’t want to be like?
Going forward can understand forgiveness isn’t really necessary because no one forced this situation upon the both of you. You both agreed to have this experience. Can you look at your mother without hate and not wanting to be together with her again, and realize you are a powerful spirit? You can be with your mother and you can be in control of how you act with each other. You have the power if you allow this relationship into your life, but you decide to live it differently.
It’s important for you to constantly know you are a powerful spirit. You can get control of what direction this relationship goes in. And if you feel this relationship is something you don’t wish to go further within this lifetime, you can cut it off. We’re sure the two of you will come together again in another life to finish this lesson.
Ph says, I feel sad, angry, and confused because I want to care for myself and not deal with my mother. At the same time I feel I need to have compassion. The Council says as hard as this is to believe, you both agreed to experience this difficulty. You planned this in spirit step by step because this was something you wanted to experience.
Your mother came into your life to help you with what you wanted to learn and grow from. You went through the experience of growing up with her. That part is finished. Now ask yourself what you’ve learned. Do you want to put an end to it now, or do you bring love into it instead of blaming her for the way you were treated? How brave of you to go through this experience with her and have her teach you to hate her until you learn this is what you both wanted.
You both wanted to find compassion. If you understand who you are as a spiritual being and who your mother truly is, and if you choose to go the route of showing compassion, you will see a change in your relationship.
Ph wraps it up by asking what’s there for me to learn and do. The Council repeats, compassion and love, but first understand who you are. First understand you both agreed to experience the relationship the way you did. Now that this part is finished, where do you go with this? How do you want to take this relationship the rest of the way? That’s what you need to focus on.
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What Can You Tell Me About the Baby I Lost?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, CocoMakerDesigns, who’s asking about the baby she lost. Why did he come to me and why did he have to go?
The Council says your pregnancy was an agreement between the two of you. The spirit who was your child wanted to just experience the very beginning of life. Because you’ve had other lifetimes with this spirit, you decided to be the person that would help him come into this world to feel what it was like to be an embryo in the uterus. You volunteered in spirit to do this.
From what we can see, the spirit of your son has already gone into another reality and is living a life differently than it would have with you.
If you feel you’d like to know if you’ll see this spirit again, we can say, yes, you’ll have other realities together if this is something you both want.
Now you’re in a place where, if you still want to have children, you can go forward with this and create other spirits that are waiting to come to you and have agreed to part of your life. Whatever you wish to create and experience and they wish to create and experience, it links up together. These other spirits are on standby if you wish to have more children.
Coco wraps up her questions by asking, Should I stop trying to have more kids? The Council says if this is something you want, then go for it. It’s already in your plans and you have the power to go forward with what you’ve planned with other spirits.
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What are These Shadows I See from the Corners of My Eyes?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Live_Breathe, who’s curious about seeing shadows from the corner of their eyes. For many years I’ve been seeing these shadows. I’ve not faced any negative consequences from it, but I’m curious to know what it is.
The Council says some of these shadows are human spirits passing through. Your higher self planned for you to be able to see spirits in this lifetime. Your Third Eye chakra wants to see more of what’s going on around you. When you see shadows you’re seeing spirits, and this is a wonderful thing.
We suggest that you meditate. Sit quietly, even if it’s for 10 minutes a day, and meditate on the Third Eye chakra. Do the chakra breathing technique that we’ve recommended in other readings. As you begin to meditate and your Third Eye begins to open, you can begin to experience clairvoyance. You’ll see more clearly and begin to hear things.
This is a wonderful thing because it’s time for everyone in your reality to want to know more about who they are as spiritual beings. There are other spirits you’ve known that have passed on, but they’re still around. This is a wonderful way to communicate and let them know you’re seeing them. When you see a shadow you can begin to ask them why they are there or if they need something from you. See where this takes you.
Live_Breathe says, At times I almost feel as if a shadow has walked into the room only to realize later there’s no one there. Does seeing these shadows mean I’m unconsciously developing my clairvoyance? The Council says, yes.
Live_Breathe closes by asking, Do I need any protection from these shadows? The Council says there’s no protection needed unless you believe there’s something fearful there, but there isn’t anything to be afraid of. If for any reason in your thoughts you feel something isn’t right, then you can surround yourself with white light and you’ll be fine. There’s nothing there to be afraid of.
The Council says so many souls that came into this lifetime, lived a very calm life, and then all of a sudden they are opening up, for one reason or another, to energy and spirit. It’s time for this communication to take place.
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When Will COVID Conditions Improve in India?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader whose name is, Lightworker, who asks about current Covid conditions in India. They say conditions are getting worse every day and millions of people are dying. We’ve lost close family members due to Covid and almost every day we hear of someone passing away from the coronavirus.
The Council says instead of going into fear, what are the thoughts you have around this? Be grateful your parents and others you know haven’t gotten the coronavirus. Know that everyone in this reality agreed to go through this pandemic. How does it make you want to change? Do you want to bring closeness with family and friends? Do you want to learn to take better care of yourself? There are many reasons this virus was created.
From time to time the coronavirus will calm down in one place and pop up in another. This will go on for a while until enough people have learned the appreciation for life no matter what you face. As this goes on it will change. There will be different strains that present themselves, but there will always be cures that will be identified to help. This is pushing medicine in the direction it’s meant to go.
Eventually all the cures that will be needed will be created from the vibration of light and energy. This is why the coronavirus is being created. To push for different and better ways to find a cure. As sad and frightening as this situation is right now, it’s pushing your reality into a better place.
Lightworker says, As an empath this situation affects me deeply. The Council agrees and says you should learn to meditate every day.
Lightworker asks, Can The Council please give me insight about when they see this situation improving? The Council says they can’t give you a date, but they see the situation will improve. It’s up to everyone in our reality how long it will take.
Lightworker says, I’m very scared for my aged parents in India who are presently alone. If possible, can you give me guidance about how I can remain positive and stay protected from this virus?
The Council says always envision your parents as being well. Don’t dwell on the fear and talk to them about it. Send your parents light and love with your thoughts and it will help them get through the coronavirus. You don’t have to know how your parents will stay well. Just see them as well. As we’ve said in other readings, everything starts in your thoughts, feelings, and visualizations. The energy from all of that will help you create what you need to keep your parents safe.
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Something Missing from My 10-Year Relationship with Boyfriend
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Loving Star, who’s had a loving boyfriend for the past 10 years, but she feels like something’s missing in this relationship.
The Council advises Loving Star to search within herself and asks what she thinks is missing and what she’s bringing to the relationship? How would you use what you find is missing to heal this relationship and bring more love and understanding into it? When something feels like it’s missing it’s always easier to blame the other person. They aren’t acting a certain way or they aren’t doing a certain thing. What’s missing within you? When you’re connected to your higher self there’s nothing missing.
The Council suggests you meditate. When you’re connected to your higher self you’ll feel the love with everything around you – with your partner, with yourself, and with your environment. Right now it’s important for you to search for what you feel is missing within yourself to find the answer you’re looking for. You’ll find this answer as you reconnect with your higher self.
Loving Star asks The Council, What was our pre-birth plan? Did we agree in spirit we’d stay together? The Council says you planned to be together. And when you planned this from a spiritual vibration, you thought you’ll stay together, you’ll have fun, you’ll do this and that and help each other grow. What’s happening to you now and what you’re feeling in your relationship is part of what was planned. You would notice the emptiness or something missing and you planned to find it, but within yourself.
Out of boredom or not wanting to do the inner work you’ll look for others and bring that into your life. When you constantly think there’s something missing, you’re looking for another answer. You’ll attract another person to you. Not necessarily the right person, but another person. Now you’re faced with the old boyfriend and the new boyfriend.
Loving Star says, I ask this quesstion because I fell in love with another man who, as you mentioned in a previous reading for me, was my father in another lifetime. The Council says wouldn’t it be wonderful for you to find that love within you and for you? Love yourself.
Loving Star says, I talk to angels a lot and they told me this new man also likes me very much and he’s waiting for me to show him my love. I currently keep all my feelings for him inside me because I don’t want to hurt my boyfriend. On the other hand, I’d like to show this new man that I feel the same way he does.
The Council says if you do this, what do you expect will happen? Will you ride off into the sunset and be happy forever? That’s not why this new man is in your life. Ask yourself, if you share these feelings do you share them just to have the ability to share them and not expect anything else to happen? Or if you share your feelings what’s the intent behind this? What do you think will happen? Search these feelings within yourself.
Loving Star asks The Council if it’s okay for her to have these feelings for another man. I feel very bad about having them. The Council says of course it’s okay. You’re in a physical reality and with that comes a physical life with emotions, and thoughts, and lessons, and fun, and hardships. This is all part of being in a physical reality. It’s not necessary to feel bad about having these feelings. No purpose is served for you to feel bad about this. It’s just emotions.
Loving Star asks The Council, What happens when I show my love to this man? I feel very confused about it because I feel very drawn to him. I’d like to know your views, insights, and guidance on this situation.
The Council advised Loving Star to find out your intentions for sharing your feelings with this man. Is it just to share it to find out whether this person also has loving feelings toward you? Or is it to change your life? Is it to leave your boyfriend because this other person has feelings for you? There isn’t any right or wrong answer, but what do you expect and what do you want to happen? Do you just want to say, I feel very drawn to you and I just wanted you to know that? And then hear this person say these words back to you? Is that enough?
The Council says, We feel you’re looking for an escape. We feel you’re looking to fill a hole within you. This person has played this role to get you to this point where you have to decide what you need. Why do you need another person to make you feel good? Why can’t I feel good and love towards myself and just be happy with the people around me? Why can’t I choose out of happiness where I want the next part of my life to go?
The Council agrees what’s missing from Loving Star’s relationship with her boyfriend is really something that’s missing within herself. These two men are playing roles they said, in spirit, they would play so you’d come to a point of confusion and have to figure out your situation. Figure it out not just from your head, but from your heart. Connect with your higher self and see how it views the situation. What do you want? What are you trying to do? The answers will come to you if you try this.
The Council closes by saying that only love is real. When you go into spirit you take this love with you. When you’re in spirit and then you come onto physical reality you take this love with you. That’s what we’re all about.
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A Challenging Ex-Husband and Dependence on Her Mother
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Amorist, who says, in my life I feel I’ve been coping with relationships with many overbearing individuals. I assume there’s a purpose, but my ex-husband has been such a challenging person who I think fits the description of a narcissist. Empathy doesn’t come easily to him and he has very toxic ways of dealing with others.
The Council tells Amorist, you’re someone who’s trying to learn that you are a spirit in a physical body and everyone on Earth is also a spirit. Take a look at how you’re seeing these other people as overbearing and your ex-husband as being narcissistic. Instead of seeing these people as spirits that are pressing your buttons, see them as people who are pressing your buttons to see if you can look at them differently.
You may find these people overbearing and annoying, but can you get yourself to a point where you realize you don’t know what goes on in their lives. You don’t know what they’re going through. Can you see these people as spirits that are here with their own problems and experiences that they wish to go through and turn around? You’ve all agreed to be in this life together and to press each other’s buttons.
We love you as a spirit and we love you for everything you go through. But you’re in a place where you look at people negatively, which is fine because this is there to help you turn it around. Look at these people in your life that are annoying or overbearing and begin to see them as going through their stuff and trying to learn from it.
And in their own way when they get to a certain point they’ll see they are their higher self. You may not know it consciously, but your higher self is here because you want to turn your thinking around. We want to accept everyone for who they are and wish them well on their way.
Amorist asks about her history with her ex-husband beyond their current lifetime. The Council says because of what you wished to learn, knowing about your history is not important. What’s important is focusing on your present. You didn’t plan in spirit to focus on the past. You need to focus on what’s happening now and that’s what you wanted to do.
Amorist asks what her children are learning from her ex-husband. The Council says your children are learning from you how you respond to your husband. Do you speak negatively about him or about others? Your children will learn how you speak. How you handle these situations and how you speak will help your children on their path. Look at people differently, and have patience with them. Understand something is bothering these other spirits. You may not know what, but you can begin to understand we’re all here to have the fun of changing your thoughts and your life for the better. When you do this you’ll see how your world will change.
Amorist says, as a result of my ex-husband’s influence I’m concerned for the well-being of my children. The Council asks you to be loving and positive around your children. Amorist says things were so difficult for a long time. It was heart-breaking. Perhaps there’s something you can tell me about this situation that will ease my anxiety or help with my outlook.
You’re still focusing on what you’ve gone through with your ex-husband and your children. It was a difficult situation, but how are things right now? Is it still difficult? Do you still find the people around you to be obnoxious and difficult to get along with? Are you picking up on people’s bad traits? Are you judging them because they aren’t the way you believe they should be? It’s not so much about the other people, but about you, the way you are thinking, and how you handle these situations.
Amorist says, my mother is someone who is a very emotionally reactive and controlling individual who I feel seeks out disappointment and problems. The Council asks Amorist if she hears her judgemental words. This is what you see within your mother. Take another look. Look at her differently and understand your mother has her problems and difficulties, but there must be something positive you can see in her. Even if it’s the littlest thing we ask you to please focus on that.
Amorist says we’re living with my mother now and I’m really struggling with this situation. I want my own home so badly, but I don’t see the path forward toward that goal. The Council says when you become more accepting of everything, when you become grateful that you have a place to live with your overbearing mother, and when you can see good things in others your life will change. You’ll be able to move forward and have a better life, a home, and everything else you need, but you have to change your thoughts.
Amorist asks, how will I make ends meet and find a safe space for me and my children? The Council says safe space begins with love and positive thoughts. Do you play with your children? Do you talk about beautiful things? Do you point out what’s good or how other people are trying? Do you show this to your children? When you do these things you’re teaching them to look for the good in others.
Amorist asks, why am I dependent on my mother? The Council says it’s because you’ve decided to be in this place to learn from it. Amorist says, I love my mother but I feel sort of trapped, as though I don’t have space or privacy. I just want everyone to be happy and okay. The Council tells Amorist you must be happy and okay within yourself and then you’ll be able to see it in others. If you feel trapped in a jail cell, you’re the one with the key. We can promise you if you work hard to look at the good in others, if you can find the love you feel for people, if you can be grateful for what you have and teach that to others around you, when you do these things you’ll get what you need.
Amorist closes by asking, who am I in all of this? The Council answers you are a spirit who’s created this situation to learn from it, to grow from it, to bring love into this reality, to help others around you, and we’ll all grow together.
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How Do I Find My Way Home in My Recurring Dreams?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Juan, who’s disturbed by The Council’s reference to evil persons acting a role and us being responsible for our misfortunes as learning paths.
The Council asks Juan who he believes should be blamed for his misfortunes. There is no one else who creates in your reality. When you create misfortunes it’s what you’re allowing yourself to focus on. It’s what you’ve allowed to be around you in this reality so you can change it, so you can see it, and bring peace, which is very much in need right now in your reality.
Evil people have agreed to come in to play the part of evil, difficult, and angry people that stir up others if the others allow this to happen. These people that you consider evil are still spirits. They aren’t what you think of as horrible. They’re playing a role that everyone concerned has agreed to.
There’s no reason to be disturbed about wars or evil because it doesn’t really exist in spirit. It’s just something that’s created in the moment to see how you want to handle it. It was created to see if you can remember who you are as spirit. Your role in coming forward was always to bring understanding and love, and change the direction of this evil into something better.
When you’re disturbed about evil people, you’re only being upset about what you’ve decided to learn about, even if you’re not one of these so-called evil people. If you know people you consider evil, or people who want war, or cause discord among each other, when you see this how do you handle it? Are you pulled into this discord? Do you stand your ground and speak only of love and ways to calm others down?
There are many people in your reality that can be brought into a terrible place of forgetting who they are and they look to harm each other. When this goes on, what do you learn from it? Can you send light and love to these groups or individuals that aren’t remembering that all is peaceful? They aren’t bad. They’re just playing the part you’ve all agreed to.
Juan says for a long time he’s had lots of dreams of being absolutely lost. I see myself in strange places trying to find my way home. I walk, drive, go over bridges, ride buses, talk to people, and never get anywhere. I don’t know where I am. My firm desire is to find my way home, but I don’t know where my home is. These dreams last for some time while I search and end when I wake up feeling dissatisfied.
The Council says these dreams of being lost are you astral projecting in the sleeping state to other places you’ve been to before, or perhaps meeting up with people you’ve known in other lifetimes. You want to go home, but the home you’re looking for is the home of spirit. Many people are going through the same process at this time. You want to go back into spirit where you remember there’s only love. You want that feeling again. You want to feel the strength, the love, the support of when you’re in spirit, and to know that everything is truly all right no matter what. You’re feeling frustrated is because you want to go home to spirit, but you’ve got things to do in this lifetime and it’s not your time to go home.
You can meditate on what life in spirit would be like, what would it look like, what would it feel like? What would it feel like being in a place where there’s only love and happiness. The joy is overwhelming. In your meditations we ask you to try and reach for that. When you meditate and you connect to your higher self, you will have the feeling of absolute love of being in spirit.
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Why Was I Chosen to Have My Four Beautiful Children?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Sandra, who has two sons and two daughters. In the past three weeks she’s met two beautiful people that came into her life unexpectedly. Both are from different walks of life and don’t know each other. They’ve both told me my children are on this Earth for a reason. The Council responds that we’re all here for a reason, and the main reason is just to have fun, experience what we wish to experience, and bring love into this reality.
Sandra says these two people have told her that her children are Star Seeds and will be part of the up-and-coming war. The Council says there’s a great fascination right now in our reality and many beings want to know where they’re from, what planet, what star, and are they Star Seeds. In reality, The Council emphasizes, we’re all Star Seeds. We’ve had experiences on other planes of existence. We’ve gone from one reality to another and one planet to another.
Sandra says she’d love to know where her children come from and why I was chosen to carry these beautiful souls? The Council says you agreed to bring in these beautiful souls rather than being chosen, to have the experience of being with them, loving them, teaching them to love, and seeing the directions they want to go in.
You agreed before coming into this reality that the lessons and experiences you all wanted agree with one another. You were allowed to do this because this is what you asked for and the souls of your children agreed. The souls of your children liked the ideas you have and what you want to learn we want to learn. We’ll go through our stuff, you’ll go through your stuff and we’ll see what happens.
You and your children have been in the Pleiades, you’ve been Arcturians, and you did a lot of work on Orion. The majority of your work was to go from place to place passing on the information these other realities are experiencing, both positive and negative. You taught many people. You were on councils to help each place come up with laws to live by, always bringing peace. Among what’s known as the Grey People there was lots of aggression, and you were on councils to protect that reality and work with others to keep that reality peaceful.
Your children will eventually have a lot of people around them and a lot of friends. They’ll be very happy and peace-loving.
The Council doesn’t see any up-and-coming war that’s planned. As you bring your thoughts and focus into every reality, you’ll create peace and you’ll create war. War is never wanted and The Council doesn’t see it for the reality you are currently in.
The choices you make, the thoughts you think, your intentions, and how you treat each other will determine the reality your experience. On a day-to-day basis always look for the love. Always put out kindness. Always look to help others that need help. These are some of the best things you can do in your current reality.
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How Can We Send Part of Our Spiritual Self into a Life We’ve Already Created and Create a New Person in That Life?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Tildy, who read our post, How Can We Create a New Lifetime in the Past? and is looking for clarification about what The Council means when they say, you can send another part of your spiritual self into a life you’ve already created and create another person.
The Council asks Tildy to imagine you’re a big ball of light. This is you in spirit, and with all the rays that come out of this ball you create individual lifetimes. You send a ray out to be in this particular life. You send another ray out to be in a lifetime in the 1800s. You send a ray out to be in a lifetime in Roman times. And you send another ray out to be in a lifetime in China. It’s small parts of you that want to create another lifetime, but who you are is still that big ball of light.
You’re mainly this big ball of light and you allow little parts of who you are to come into a reality and create. This is what we all do. This is what we want. Let’s create. Let’s see what we can do. Let’s have some fun. This is how you’re in many different lifetimes at the same time, but you’re still that ball of light and you only send the little parts of you out to play with.
Bob asks The Council why we can’t see all the lives we’re creating at the same time. The Council says it would be too much for your mind to see and remember all these lifetimes and to keep track of what’s going on in each lifetime. You can read about past life regression. You can have a past life regression and maybe find out about one or two lives, but our purpose here isn’t to be aware of all of them. Our purpose is to function and focus on our present life. But the whole part of you, your higher self, that ball of light, knows everything that’s going on in each lifetime.
Bob says it confusing how we can create a lifetime that we experience as current and simultaneously we can create a lifetime that’s taking place in ancient Rome, for example. The Council says this is another part of you that you send out to create another lifetime.
You can create a lifetime where you’re married to someone and you have children and friends, and then the higher part of you can decide that you can create that lifetime differently. In your new life you’re not married to the same person. Instead you’re married to the spirit that’s one of your children in you your current life and you’d like to experience that. How would that be?
You are the creator of all your lives. When you do this, little parts of the other person also agree to it. They agree to be your husband, or your wife, or your child. All spirits are these wonderful balls of light that send out little parts of themselves to be in whatever you want to create.
Bob asks where in physical space do these other lifetimes exist? The Council says it’s not in physical space. It’s vibrationally out there and the part of you that experiences an individual lifetime experiences it as if you are physical, but it’s your energy, your light that you’ve sent out. It’s not like this life is in America and another life is in Africa. You create what you want it to be, but it’s out there vibrationally.
Tildy asks if this means we now relive this past life with an additional person involved? The Council answers, yes. Tildy goes on to ask if this is the case, what are the ways this new person is created? The Council says this new person is created the way you create them. This is your reality. Someone in your reality isn’t creating for you. They’re not creating how you live this life. You create it. The other spirit will agree to whatever you create. You are the creator.
Tildy says it sounds like a lot of new agreements have to be made with existing people who would be that person’s family and acquaintances. The Council says it wouldn’t be existing people. It would be another part of that person. The original life doesn’t go anywhere. You’re still experiencing that life with the spirits who’ve agreed to go through that life with you. When you create another life it doesn’t take away from the first life. It’s a whole new life with new people, or maybe even the same people. It’s whatever is agreed upon by all spirits involved. All these lives are going on at the same time.
Tildy asks if you have to find a way to insert new people to be that person’s parents? The Council says this is something that needs to be agreed upon. What you want and what other spirits come in and agree to. So if you want a certain person to have different parents, you’ll create that and other spirits will agree to play that role.
Tildy says this can get really complicated. The Council says it sounds that way in your current understanding of how your reality works, but it’s very easy to create.
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What’s My Life Purpose Now That My Husband Has Passed?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Grieving Widow, after she read our post, Why Did My Partner Crossover Sooner Than Expected? She says I also have similar questions. My husband passed suddenly in a car accident and I’m unable to accept it. I’m constantly trying to connect with him and continue our relationship.
The Council asks Grieving Widow what she’d need to accept her husband’s death. You know he’s no longer in your physical reality, but he’s here in spirit. There are ways you can connect with him through meditation or asking for a connection in your dreams. You can ask for little signs he’s around that would give you the comfort he’s really gone nowhere. He’s still part of your life, being around you, seeing what you do. He left because it was his wish and his time to finish this lifetime. It was to give you a chance to explore more of who you are and what you want moving forward.
Grieving Widow says she doesn’t want to be here without her husband and asks The Council what is her purpose here without him? The Council says to find out who you are. What would make you happy? What ideas did you have while your husband was still here about things you wanted to do, but never had the chance? Now is the time to move forward and do these things.
Grieving Widow says we have three sons and my relationship with my oldest isn’t good. How can I help him with his life lessons and be the best mother to all my sons when I can’t even find joy in anything anymore?
The Council asks Grieving Widow if she’s saying she doesn’t find joy with her children? Do you focus at all on how to be with them, be part of their lives, and invite them into your life to give you some sort of comfort? Communication is needed here. There’s a coming together to bring you closer together.
What you need to remember is that your children will see how you’re carrying on now that your husband has passed on into spirit. How do you handle this? Do you show them that you’re aware your husband is now in the spirit world, and that you know at some point you’ll all go back into spirit, and that your husband is helping all of you from spirit? Do you talk to your children and uplift them in this moment?
The loss of a husband is traumatic, but your children have lost their father. Do you focus on that? This is a way for you to learn to be of service to others, and at this point it’s your children that need you. How will you be of service? The Council reiterates that much more communication is needed.
Grieving Widow says, I don’t believe I chose to be without my husband and I’m struggling to find a purpose to stay in this life. Do I have a purpose to remain here? The Council assures Grieving Widow that you did plan in spirit with your husband that he would pass. Your purpose, as we mentioned before, is to find out more about yourself and what you would like. What are your interests? Hold your children together. Bring your family closer. Be of service to others.
The Council understands in the human form this is a very difficult time for you. Give yourself more love by accepting you are sad at this moment, accepting this is a grieving time, accept all of that, but somewhere within that make time to help others through what they’re going through.
Grieving Widow says, I feel my sons will learn their life lessons better if I’m not here because I feel I hinder them. The Council reminds Grieving Widow that she is part of her children’s life lessons and they are very aware of how you speak and how you act. Remember that the way you do this, you are adding to their lessons and showing your children how to be and how not to be. They need you in their lives for many more reasons. Be aware of your behavior and your communication. This is part of what they agreed to learn and you have all agreed to this.
The Council understands Grieving Widow’s feeling that she’s hindering her children, but because you’ve all agreed to your husband’s passing, you don’t hinder them. And if you feel you hinder them now, how do you change that? If you can learn how to meditate and how to find things to be grateful for it will change your vibration and help you through this time.
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Why Do I Feel This Connection to a Man I Work With?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Loving Star, who was introduced to a man 10 years ago and from the moment I met him I felt a connection on a deeper level. Even though I feel his affection for me, I didn’t show my own affection because I was surprised by the connection itself. Why do I feel this connection?
The Council says this connection is from a lifetime where this man was your father. During most of that life he was caring for you and you had your father up on a pedestal. When you were ready to marry and leave your father it was difficult for him to let you go. In your current lifetime there was a pre-birth spiritual agreement to come back and care for each other again like you did in that former life.
In your current life do you notice the way this man cares? Do you notice if he’s there to guide you in different ways? Does he help you when there’s a problem? Does he help you get ahead? It’s that fatherly feeling that’s coming through in your current life, even though this time around the two of you aren’t father and daughter.
Loving Star says, the reason I’m asking is I started working in his law firm and I feel our connection is much stronger than before. I feel like we’re on a similar wave, but can’t explain why. I feel like this connection is mutual. Why did we meet and what did we agree on as spirits when we entered this life?
You worked for your father in this past life. He ran a bar and you served drinks and food and cleaned up. You brought this aspect of your past life into your current reality where you work for this man again. You’re on the same path as before. Working with this man should make you feel very comfortable.
Loving Star says, I see this man cares about me and helps guide me in my career. Is that why we met? The Council says, yes. Loving Star asks, what other gifts can we pass on to each other? The Council says even though the two of you don’t share a romantic pre-birth plan, there was a plan to be in each other’s lives, to be comfortable with each other, and to help each other. That closeness was wanted. You both wanted to be together again and not leave each other like you did in the past life when you were his daughter and got married. What was spoken about in spirit before the two of you came into this life was that you’d always sort of know where the other person was, and that was enough. That was the comfort that was needed.
Loving Star asks if there’s anything important I should know about us. For example, did we agree that a romantic relationship will develop between us? The Council tells Loving Star you didn’t plan for a romantic relationship, but life always comes along and gets in the way and gives you additional experiences. If a romantic relationship is something you both feel you want and you both think about this constantly, you’ll create this, and that’s fine. A romantic relationship wasn’t something you planned for, but you can create it.
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How Can I Help My Children?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, StrugglingMom, after she read our post, Is My Life Purpose to Save My Husband from Himself? StrugglingMom says, this post sparked a question about whether my purpose is to help my children, especially my oldest son, and to ask how I can do that.
The Council says your life purpose is all about you, not about saving other people. When you agreed to have these spirits come into this world through you, you agreed to allow them to come in to create the kind of reality they want. They already have in mind the lessons they want to learn, the challenges they want to work through, and if they want to be of help to other people. This is all set up within that spirit. Your purpose is to allow these spirits to come in and then let go and watch what they’re creating.
If there’s a way you can guide them to make their way a little easier, this is helpful, but your purpose isn’t to save your children from whatever they go through or to change whatever you think they’re going through. Your purpose is to give your children love and support in the gentlest way you know.
StrugglingMom asks, do my children and I share any past lives or lessons to learn because we have a difficult relationship and I’m struggling to be the mother my children need. The Council says one of the lessons here is about abandonment, which is what you and your oldest son experienced in another lifetime. In your current life you agreed to be together and work with each other through the difficult times you’re experiencing and not to abandon each other.
Look at what your oldest son is going through and find a way to have discussions with him. Give him guidance on how you think there might be an easier way to go through what he’s experiencing. Discuss what you think and the challenges you’ve gone through and how you worked through these challenges. It’s by your example and by teaching your son what you did to get through your experiences that give him a basis for how to work through his own stuff.
A lot of these children that are difficult and don’t follow rules are very advanced and want to grow up and make their own rules and change things. And they want to do this quickly. Sometimes these children are called Indigo Children because they know they have lots to do in their future, but they’re confused right now with the challenge of growing up under their parent’s rules.
You don’t need to let your son do whatever he wants if you believe it’s unsafe or mean. You can explain another way he can accomplish what he wants. The more discussion you have with your son, the better it will be. Discussion can help things turn around quickly. And by discussion we mean talking about each other and to each other, but not in a way your son is likely to experience as nagging.
Your purpose with your son is to listen to him, be supportive, and not get to the point where you’re so upset you do nothing and conversation stops. This is a form of abandonment. Your son wanted to learn how to be himself, whatever he chose to be in this life. No matter how he chose to be, you would be allowing and accepting, guiding him gently another way, not through punishment or abandonment, but through listening and relating back and forth.
The Council says StrugglingMom and her oldest son shared a past life together as brothers who had no family and they both felt abandoned. In his current lifetime your son wants to work through his abandonment issues and he wanted to have parents that were there to guide him.
StrugglingMom says, I don’t know whether to push him or just let him fail when he refuses to go to school or do schoolwork. Do I punish him and force control? Or do I just let him be, which makes me feel guilty because I feel like I’m taking the easy way out and not being his mother?
The Council says StrugglingMom’s guilt serves no purpose. As a parent you realize there are school requirements that need to be met. As your son moves through school even though he’s not interested in it, discuss with him why it must be done. When he goes to school or does his schoolwork you should praise him and this will give him more motivation to continue.
If your son’s path is difficult because this is what he’s creating, and if he fails and you know in good conscience that you’ve tried to put him on a path you feel has advantages, then his wanting to fail is part of what his spirit wants to experience. Your role is to do what you can as a parent to explain how your son’s education is something he needs to do to improve himself for when he grows up. If you can do this then you’re not abandoning him. If you throw your hands up and say I give up, and your son fails, your son will experience abandonment again. What your son hopes for, no matter what, is you don’t abandon him.
You can help your son heal his abandonment issues through patience and communication, and talking about yourself and what you’ve gone through. Talk about how it’s difficult to see your son not trying. And talking about how you’ll be there no matter what road he picks, whether he tries or whether he fails This will help.
Once your son understands you’re there for him no matter whether he succeeds or fails, instead of having to continue going through the lesson of abandonment, that lesson will be changed because you’re letting your son be the way he needs to be. In accepting and allowing your son, you also allow his lessons to change and allow him to heal.
By StrugglingMom agreeing to be part of these abandonment issues, if her son fails, how will this affect her? What does that bring up for her? There are also abandonment issues StugglingMom wants to learn about. StrugglingMom and her oldest son are handling abandonment in different ways. It’s like different ends of the same stick. The son at one end doesn’t want to be abandoned even though it’s a difficult situation. He wants to see what his mother will do.
On the other side of the stick is StrugglingMom. She doesn’t want to throw her hands up and give up, but at times she feels like it’s no use. Does she give up? Does she abandon her son? Both are facing issues of abandonment and they’re trying to help each other through these issues.
The Council says one of the hardest parts of being a parent is to allow these spirits to come in and then feel responsible for how their child creates its life. You are supposed to bring the child in and then allow it to be whatever it needs to be, and to be there for your child as they go through whatever issues they’re trying to work through.
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Feeling Guilty Over My Mother’s Recent Passing
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Darla, whose mother recently transitioned to spirit with Alzheimer’s Disease. Darla cared for her mother at home up until the last two weeks of her life when she was moved to an assisted living facility. She says the disease left my mother unable to eat or drink, but her memory was intact and she was able to talk to me almost until the very end.
The Council asks Darla if she’s able to appreciate what she’s gone through and that you offered to care for your mother during a time that was so difficult for you?
Darla knows her mother is at peace now, but she suffered tremendously the last few months, often lying on the floor crying in pain. I felt helpless as far as helping my mother get better and it was torture seeing her suffer.
The Council says many people come into this reality to learn about suffering, or to teach someone else about it. Sometimes as they go through this suffering they might tell you that they know you can help them, but you’re not doing it. This is just to bring the lesson of suffering further into your reality so you can feel the guilt, and learn there’s no purpose for it except to help you grow in another direction.
Seeing your mother suffer and knowing it was difficult for you, what did you experience from this? Instead of feeling guilty that maybe you haven’t done enough, focus on what you did do. This is very important for you.
Darla still feels the heavy weight of guilt in her heart as she chose to honor her mother’s wishes to die without any artificial means of sustaining her life. And The Council asks, why would you feel guilty when you’re doing exactly what your mother wanted?
Sometimes that feeling of not doing enough or trying to stop another person’s suffering is because you don’t understand the full experience of what’s going on here with soul growth and soul experiences. So you learn from the suffering.
Before you came into this reality from spirit you both agreed to experience your mother’s difficult passing. You did exactly what was supposed to be done by having your mother go through her life and ending her life the way she wanted. This was to push you forward so you can learn to experience the love you showed her rather than the guilt.
We’re all here to bring love into every situation. The love you showed by being able to stay and be a part of her passing, and help where you were able, and let your mother have her way and make her transition the way she wanted, shows you are a brave soul for going through what you’ve chosen to do.
This is what you wanted to learn. This was your mother’s way of teaching you to realize who you really are. You are both spirits who agreed to go through this difficult passing, and this would give you the opportunity to bring love into this reality. Take your thoughts and change what you focus on and look at all you’ve done.
By learning to let go of the guilt, your mother, who’s in spirit now, will be overjoyed to know that what you had planned had worked. You wanted to bring love into yourself and feel good about yourself. Realize you helped your mother, who wanted to experience this difficult passing and she wanted to see how the people around her would handle this situation. Your mother wanted to teach you to go through this challenge and when it’s over to realize what a great human being you are to go through this so beautifully.
The Council says they feel the last two days of your mother’s life she was more back in spirit than in physical reality. A lot of what you saw your mother going through during this time wasn’t fully experienced by her because she was already with us.
Darla asks if her mother forgives her for not being able to help her. The Council says this is where you’re wrong. There is nothing you need forgiveness for. Your mother loves you so much and she’s so proud you’ve fulfilled what you both wanted. Your mother has a wonderful feeling in spirit that you were both able to pull off her passing the way she wanted it.
Darla asks if her relationship issues with her mother from past lives are resolved. The Council says there’s more to come. This particular challenge is something that both of you wanted to experience to help each other grow in your current lifetime. There will be future lifetimes you’ll share with your mother and work through additional relationship issues.
The Council applauds Darla for what she’s gone through and how she’s handled it and followed what you both planned to the tee.
The Council closes by thanking Cynthia and Bob for having the ability to take their information and have so many people be open to it, and get understanding from it, and get relief from what another spirit has gone through.
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