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Forgiveness Is Your Issue, Not Abandonment

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Eleanor, whose questions follow-up on our post, Is My Current Relationship With My Soul-Contracted Life Partner? which we published in response to her earlier question. Eleanor says, I’d specifically like to know more about abandonment, as I don’t feel I’ve really moved forward with this issue.

Ever since I received your guidance in that earlier post, I’ve seen just how many abandonments I’ve experienced, both in my love life and at work. I’ve had everything from colleagues taking my ideas and becoming rich and famous, to more recently a colleague in a project I run ghosting me and the work. They’re the fourth person to leave this project. Love-wise it’s been similar, from infidelity and abuse, to lovers putting deposits on homes with me and then disappearing. I’d like to know why this abandonment has been a running theme in my life.

The Council says, You may not believe this, but your issue was not only abandonment. Your issue is abuse, feeling hurt, feeling heartbroken, and feeling alone. These are some of the feelings you brought up, because what you wanted to learn about was forgiveness.

A good thing for you to do is to go back and think of everything that made you feel abandoned, heartbroken, and abused. Ask yourself how you feel about these people who were involved. Can you do the work that’s needed now of forgiving these people? Read Pat Rodegast’s book, Emmanuel, which has a section on forgiveness. That may help you.

But the real work is not to just concentrate on abandonment. Focus on all these things that make you feel alone. When you learn to forgive, and this is a big chunk that you wanted to work on in this lifetime, take each issue and ask yourself how you feel about the people involved? What do I think they did to me? How did they make me feel? Can I get to a place of love and release this hurt? Can I forgive them, because when they treated me this way, they were going through their own challenges? And all these people agreed with me in spirit to work out this issue of abandonment with me.

Forgiveness is a big subject. It can go back to your parents, your grandparents, your siblings, schoolmates, work colleagues, friends, family, and lovers, to name a few. There’s a lot you wanted to cover because your main issue was that you wanted to learn how to forgive. And then learn how to forgive yourself for feeling the way you did about each person, being angry with them, or surprised and shocked. And the grief and anger you store in your body, can you let go of it?

Know that you’ve planned to work through this issue of forgiveness in spirit and everyone involved has agreed to this with you. You’re exactly where you want to be. Forgiveness is a big challenge. It’s always easier to start looking at someone else and how they treated you. When you can learn to forgive them, then the harder part is learning to look at yourself.

How do you forgive yourself? How did you allow this to happen? Why didn’t you speak up for yourself? Why didn’t you leave a relationship earlier? Why did you allow people to treat you like that? When you did allow this, you didn’t love yourself. We’re all here to take every challenge we have and bring love into it. You can do this. It will take a lot of work and really wanting to look at the issue of forgiving yourself. Know you set this up when you were in spirit.

Eleanor asks, Does this have something to do with past lives I’ve had, and my abusive and neglectful upbringing? The Council says it’s not just about past lives. There were lots of past lives where you were hurt and went through abandonment or love issues. But there were also many good lives. It’s not so much about what life this desire for forgiveness came from? It’s more like you asked in spirit what challenge you wanted to work on in this lifetime, and you came up with forgiveness.

As far as your abusive and neglectful upbringing is concerned, that was also planned in spirit. The feelings of not feeling good about yourself, being abused, and not being treated right started very early. This is what you set up in spirit.

Eleanor says, Is this something I chose to change in this lifetime. The Council says, Of course. You didn’t want to just go through this lifetime and experience this need for forgiveness and feel horrible without changing it and without learning to love yourself and others. We’re all here to help each other. Of course you wanted to change this.

Eleanor says, I’d also like to know what I need to do to heal this pattern, as I’ve always wanted to have a permanent life partner and the same colleagues to go forward with work-wise. The Council says if you do this work as we explained it, there’s definitely a partner out there for you, but you must start this work.

Eleanor says, I’m also wondering if I do this work, will I be able to reattract this colleague who’s just left, and also my ex-boyfriend. Or is it that in healing this pattern I grow beyond this particular colleague and ex, and attract a new (what I hope is) permanent colleague and boyfriend?

The Council says you’ll understand the answer to this question after you do some of this inner work. You can decide if you want to bring these people back into your life. And of course you can if you want to. But then you might get to a point and decide you want more. You want something new and you’ll create that. You are the creator of your life and you can have it go in any direction you want. But you must do the work because you wanted to do this so badly this lifetime. To work on forgiveness for one issue is a lot, but to pick so many issues is even bigger. If you can get to forgiving one or two people, you’ll know how to do it and the rest will come easily.

The Council closes by sending everyone love, light, energy, and happiness. We wish you all feel that we’re here to help all of you, whether we speak with you, or we’re just here sending you light. That’s what we’re all about. We’re about supporting each other and helping each other understand what you’ve picked in this lifetime, and how to give you some guidance to keep you on your path, and show you how to experience it and change the way it is, because that’s what you planned.

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February 1, 2022 - Posted by Cynthia & Bob | Agreement, Audio Content, Career, Challenges, Channeling, Feelings, Forgiveness, Healing, Helping Others, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Spirit | Abandonment, Creator, Emmanuel by Pat Rodegast, Forgiveness, Inner Work, Love Life