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Is My Current Relationship with My Soul-Contracted Life Partner?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Eleanor, who grew up in an abusive home and began the long process of recovery as soon as she left. It’s been a journey of estrangement,  homelessness, fragile mental health, and difficulty finding work, but I’ve come a long way. This journey has included steep learning curves in relationships and despite 26 years of failed relationships, my heart always told me I have a soul-contracted life partner or husband in my future.

The Council says many people get hung up on the concept of a soul contract. What you do in spirit is, as you’re choosing what you’d like to create in your current lifetime there are many souls that come forward and volunteer to be in this lifetime with you. You have a mother that volunteers, a father, friends, people that stay in your life for a short time, and people that stay in your life for a long time,

There’s never just one particular soul you make a contract with. You have a soul that comes forward and says I will come into your life and we’ll have a relationship for a time and then we’ll go our separate ways. You’ll learn from this relationship and I’ll learn from it. You pick the lessons you’d like to work on, then you’d go to another relationship and learn something different.

It’s not that you’ve failed because you’re unable to find this one particular relationship that you have a soul contract with. You’ve agreed with other souls to experience part of this life together. When you feel you’ve learned what you wanted to, then there’ll be someone that will come into your life and we’ll do the rest of our life together and learn other lessons together. You’re on the right track, but don’t always focus on where your single, contracted soulmate is, There was a contract with everyone you’ve had a relationship with.

Focus on each relationship you’ve gone through. What have you learned? What would you do differently? When you understand this and can act differently in a new relationship, taking what you’ve learned and not repeating it if it was negative, or bringing more love into a new relationship, you’ll create the relationship with the person who said, in spirit, they’d come into your life when you’re both ready.

Eleanor says 3½ years ago my partner at that time abandoned me when I had cancer. I vowed I’d work on myself so hard that my next relationship would be with my soul contracted life partner. The Council says each person you’ve been in a relationship with was a soul contract you made to be with that particular person for that particular time.

Eleanor says this summer a friend of a friend came into my life. To my surprise our lives mirrored. We had a lot in common and the union was surrounded by synchronicity. Again The Council asks what have you learned? What does it mean to have something in common with this person? Was this person a mirror image for you? What have you learned from this person’s experience that’s similar to your own?

Eleanor says this person has a pattern of leaving me and then coming back, which takes a huge toll on me. We’re currently separated and I’m taking stock. Is this my soul contracted life partner? The Council says he is a soul contracted partner and how you move forward to make this a permanent relationship or not is by reviewing all your relationships and what you’re learning from them. Is this relationship something you’ve created before and are creating again? Or are you in a more positive place and can you focus on what you can bring into this relationship? It’s how you look at this relationship and what you’ve learned that will guide your next step.

You’ve talked about relationships that didn’t last. In your most recent relationship this person has come to you as a mirror. It’s wonderful to have so much in common with this soul, but the lesson of abandonment is still there for you. You can take what you love from this relationship and move forward because you don’t want to keep experiencing this lesson of abandonment with this person or anyone new.

Take what you’ve learned with this person and put it in your focus going forward that you’d like these traits and these experiences with a person that could be permanent in your life. When you think of your situation this way you can decide whether to stay in this relationship and just change your focus and try to get this person to behave differently. Or you can decide this relationship was fun and I learned enough, but I want someone new to go forward with. You are the creator.

Eleanor finishes by asking at what point in my life can I expect my life partner to appear? The Council says when you do the inner work that lets this person appear. We can’t give you a time. We don’t know ahead of time what you’ll create. We can see the path you’re on and where it’s going, but you’re the creator and you’ll learn from your lessons.


Listen to the entire 8-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Eleanor and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own question.

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December 15, 2020 - Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Soul, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , ,

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