This post is inspired by a question from a reader named T. who asks The Council the purpose of a beautiful soul in her life who happens to be a co-worker and married to another woman.
T. says she’s never felt so free and content just knowing he exists and feels unconditional love for him. She’s unable to see any unhappiness in his marriage, and while she knows he feels something for her, T. has no idea what this is. She asks for signs of his feelings, but finds them confusing.
T. wonders if she shouldn’t give energy to the idea of being with him one day, or sit back and wait for the right time to be with him. She asks The Council why they have come together, if they’ve lived past lives together, and what is his purpose in her life?
The Council asks T. why she would want to give up this unconditionally loving relationship and they add this is the reason we have come to this physical reality. She has created this relationship in her life and she needs it.
The Council asks if T. must have more, or if she’s able to appreciate the relationship she’s having right now? Does she want to come between this man and his wife?
The Council feels confident T. will create whatever she wants. Perhaps she’ll create an affair with this man – whether it ends well or not will depend on how she creates it.
The Council says T. is able to create a situation where this man leaves his wife. Or is T. able to enjoy this relationship, taking what she finds there, and create her very own partner without separating this married couple? The Council says there isn’t any judgement of her whichever she chooses. What feels better to her?
The Council says T. and the co-worker have lived past lives together and he’s in her life now to help her get in touch with loving feelings that will help her create what she desires. Will T. take the love she’s created in this relationship and create a new relationship where she’s able to share these feelings with someone else, and still remain friends with this co-worker? Or does T. want to create what she desires with this man she works with?
The Council says it’s very important for T. to focus on the feelings and emotions that are uplifting for her and then choose whether she’d like to share this love with her co-worker, or create someone new in her life to share this love with.
This is a choice The Council says wants to be made (presumably in spirit). As they see it, this choice was discussed before coming into this physical reality when T. was in spirit, and it was her wish to see how she could create loving feelings wherever she goes, whether it be in an intimate relationship or with family, friends, co-workers, etc.
The Council says this situation is not about creating the right partner for T. It’s about creating loving feelings in all her relationships.
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This post is inspired by a question from Jackie, who’s looking for guidance from The Council about whether or not to have a forth child she’s now pregnant with. Jackie says her forth pregnancy was a planned one, but now that she’s pregnant she’s having second thoughts about it.
The Council advises Jackie to examine her thoughts and her life to see what’s contributing to this change from when she planned this child. Is it the people she’s speaking with, is it old fears coming up, is she not sure about her relationship with the father, or something else that’s troubling her.
Jackie says she’s afraid a decision to have this child will end many close relationships in her life, and The Council advises her to think about what she wants for herself. Is the idea of having another child something that makes Jackie feel good? What kind of pressure does Jackie feel from the people around her that makes her feel like she would loose these relationships?
The Council advises whatever decision Jackie makes, there are agreements with the souls involved to be part of this decision. If she has this child and looses these close relationships, this was agreed upon and it’s okay with everyone involved. If Jackie terminates the pregnancy, this was also agreed upon by the soul of this child, and these close relationships would stay in Jackie’s life. The Council says the answer to this decision is in these thoughts. How did she get from wanting the child to being afraid of having this child?
The Council asks Jackie if she decides to have this child, whether she’ll have the assistance she needs to raise it peacefully. Or is she not likely to have this assistance, in which case she might decide not to have it. Which decision does Jackie feel more comfortable with?
The Council reminds Jackie she isn’t here in this physical reality to drive herself crazy or suffer great hardships. If there isn’t great love and anticipation for this child, The Council says Jackie should look at that. Does the idea of terminating the pregnancy feel like a relief to her. Now is the time for Jackie to look at her thoughts and the feelings that go with them.
The Council advises Jackie that in our physical reality there will always be fears and there isn’t any right or wrong decision. She should feel how she is with the thought of having this child, and feel how she is with the thought of ending this pregnancy. The Council says either choice is fine because they were planned for in spirit. It’s just the road Jackie desires to take.
The Council feels if Jackie thinks about what they’ve suggested, she will have an ah-ha moment. And even if she can hold onto this moment for a few minutes, she will know what feels most comfortable and can make her decision. They say it’s normal to waffle back and forth after this ah-ha moment, but The Council says Jackie will get a strong feeling about what to do and she should follow that decision.
The Council feels Jackie is a lot stronger than she believed when she wrote her comment. They say a small part of the anxiety she felt in the previous year is making this decision a little difficult, but they think Jackie will learn how strong she can be if this is her choice. As she begins to look at what she has learned and come through in her life, she will take care of herself differently and her life will change for the better, regardless of whether she chooses to have this child or terminate this pregnancy.
Listen to the entire 16-minute session below to get the benefit of all The Council’s guidance for Jackie and let us know what you think.
This session is inspired by a reader named Sam and her questions about a relatively recent pregnancy she terminated. She says there are a lot of loose ends around the termination, and The Council begins by saying these loose ends Sam is talking about are all part of the learning and moving forward.
Sam says ever since she learned she was pregnant she’s been feeling a sense of wholeness and love for herself and she asks if this love is coming from the soul of her child. The Council says while the child’s soul is constantly sending her love, the love Sam is talking about is Sam loving herself because she has followed her pre-birth spiritual plan exactly the way she intended.This love is part of who Sam truly is as a spiritual being. The Council says Sam stepped forward to help this soul, who desired to briefly experience what it was like to be in a human body, and then leave Sam’s body quickly.
Sam says the father of this child wasn’t really there during this pregnancy and isn’t currently in her life. She asks if there’s any meaning to why he was never part of the pregnancy and termination. The Council says the father also agreed in spirit to help this soul experience a brief physical life, but it was never agreed he would stay with her and be a family. Sam says sometimes she thinks about the father and wishes she could tell him all she’s learned from terminating this pregnancy. She says part of her doesn’t think he deserves to know and part of her thinks she should tell him, and Sam asks The Council what she should do.
The Council says in Sam’s spiritual pre-plan, this soul would play the part of the child’s father and then leave Sam’s life. If she chooses to involve him at this point, they say she’d be drifting from what she originally pre-planned, but they add this is okay. This is part of the choice she has in her current lifetime and they advise Sam to think about this choice. She is able to communicate with the father non-verbally and she should know on some level this communication is received. When this information is needed by him, he will have the benefit of whatever she has spoken to him about.
Sam says she’s learned not to look at this experience as a mistake, but part of her feels sad and she wonders if this is from loosing the child or from what she describes as poor decisions she’s made in her life. The Council says if Sam feels she’s made poor decisions, has she learned from them. If she had the opportunity to make these decisions again, would she decide differently based on what she now knows. And they add that this is what life is about – learning and moving on. They also tell Sam it’s important to look at the choices she’s made that have worked out for her and that she feels good about.
When Sam says she feels like she’s running away from her true self, The Council replies there’s nothing wrong with the way she’s handling her situation and they advise her to be open, accepting, and move forward. She will learn from this experience. They advise Sam to feel good about herself, look forward to having more understanding, and feel that it’s safe to let her energy expand rather than holding it close to her physical body.
Sam asks if she shouldn’t feel ashamed for hiding this pregnancy from her parents, and The Council says she is here to experience the love of spirit and there is no purpose to feeling ashamed. There is nothing wrong with the choice she made to terminate this pregnancy.
At the end of this session The Council makes the point that they answered Sam’s questions long before she wrote them on our blog. But was she able to let the answers in? Was she able to sit quietly and understand that her thoughts and feelings or the things she suddenly understood, is spirit reaching out to her with the answers to her questions?
The Council points out that when you have a question, spirit provides you with answers instantaneously, but are you receptive to them? In Sam’s case she had these answers, but she needed them to come in a different way. So she created the answers through this blog. The Council explains we have yet to fully develop to the point where we trust our intuition, and our thoughts, and our feelings. And they add that this is why we are here in this physical reality.
The Council asks Sam to let go of any shame, any regret, or any thinking of wrong doing on this situation she is coming through. It was pre-planned by her in spirit and she executed it beautifully in her physical reality. And they remind Sam to hold on to the feeling of self love.
This session offers much guidance on many aspects of terminating a pregnancy. Listen to the entire 16-minute recording below to hear all of The Council’s advice for Sam and anyone interested in this subject.
This post is about a question from a reader named Tanya who asks The Council if she had a life lesson in self-forgiveness to learn from an abortion.
The Council says there’s a life lesson in just about everything we experience as challenging or where there’s a difficult decision to make. They agree Tanya’s abortion was a life lesson, and while abortion is often about learning self-forgiveness, in Tanya’s case it was more about learning to let go of a situation when the timing isn’t right, being okay with her decision, and learning that whatever she chooses is the right choice.
The Council asks Tanya if, rather than just focusing on forgiveness, if her abortions (The Council feels there were two) have taught her something about facing challenges after the abortion. And their advise is to see where she is in the moment and go with the decision that feels best to her.
The Council says post traumatic stress comes when you don’t quite know how to be okay with the decisions you’ve made. The more Tanya learns how to let let go and move on with her life, the more she’ll learn to accept herself and have more confidence in her choices. The Council also says as Tanya learns she’s a spirit in her physical body, she’ll become more okay with her decisions.
Bob asks if Tanya’s asking for forgiveness from the soul of the unborn child was for Tanya or the unborn child. And The Council says if she felt forgiven by this spirit it would help Tanya feel better and she could move on with her life.
When Bob commented it was his understanding from previous sessions that the soul of the unborn child was already forgiving, The Council agrees. But they add that Tanya wasn’t aware of this at that time. So she asked for and received this forgiveness.
Listen to the entire 8-minute session with The Council (below) to benefit from all their guidance is this session.
(This session was one of two we did so the recording seem to end abruptly.)
This post is about questions from a reader named S. who’s learned she’s pregnant. She loves children, always wanted them, and has been determined not to have her children suffer through poverty and unhappy circumstances the way she and her siblings did.
She left the father of the fetus the day before she learned she was pregnant because the relationship was an abusive one. S. says she’s currently in school and unemployed. Recently she was told by her doctor she has endometriosis and will have difficulty getting pregnant.
S. says she’s confused. She’s aware other spiritualists say it’s bad to abort a fetus unless it’s with a loving intention. She’d like her child to have a healthy mother and father, she knows this isn’t possible right now, and feels the need for a stable career.
Just days before she learned she was pregnant S. felt great comfort in her decision to leave her ex-boyfriend, and for the first time in her life was looking forward to loving herself and creating a whole person for a future partner and family.
S. wants to know why she’s pregnant now and if aborting this fetus has been the plan all along. She’s concerned about the karmic implications of abortion, and she’d prefer this soul return to her at a time when she can offer it a beautiful life with a beautiful father.
The Council begins by telling S. that leaving an abusive relationship is a giant step for her that shows self love. Having lived through a difficult time growing up, S. made the choice with love and wisdom not to repeat similar difficulties for her future children.
The Council is clear it’s not a bad choice to abort this pregnancy if that is S.’s choice; there’s no right or wrong. It was agreed before coming to this reality that this soul would come to her as a fetus and at that time S. would decide whether or not to have the child. The soul may choose to come back at a future time, but if it decides to move on there will always be another soul ready to come forward to help S. become a mother and go through the experiences she wishes to have.
If finishing school is the thought that makes S. feel best right now, The Council says this is the direction she should go in. If the thought of having this child now and somehow having a wonderful connection with this soul even if she’s on her own feels better, The Council advises to go with that. They remind her there isn’t any right or wrong and to pay attention to the way she feels when she thinks each thought. Follow the feeling of happiness, of love, of relief, and know that she’ll have lessons either way she chooses.
The Council advises S. there is much joy ahead whatever she chooses and by looking for this joy she’ll bring it into her reality. The key is to follow the better feeling thought.
Before S. chooses she should remind herself of the choice she’s already made to leave a bad relationship. The Council reminds her this is a wonderful decision she’s made. Somehow going through different experiences growing up helped S. make this choice. When she decides whether or not to have this child, all the knowledge and the feelings she’s experienced in her life up to this point will help her choose.
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This post is inspired by questions from Julia who was married for 12 years and has been divorced for 2 years. She asks why non-monogamous relationships disturb her so much and wants to know if she should be more open to them?
Julia was monogamous in her marriage, but now has questions about open relationships as a single person. Sometimes she thinks she should try it because she gets so obsessed in her romantic relationships, but the thought disturbs her to the core.
The Council suggests Julia find the love for herself she’s looking for in relationships and asks why she wants to experience something she knows will be unpleasant in order to fit in. They also suggest Julia listen to herself and ask why make herself uncomfortable.
The Council advises more self-love, more doing for herself, and being gentle with herself to draw in the right people.
In one lifetime she was one of many wives and wasn’t made to feel special. She was lonely, didn’t receive enough attention, and that began her uncomfortable feeling she carries into this lifetime. Perhaps knowing where this feeling of uncomfortableness with open relationships comes from will make it possible to release this and work on loving herself more.
The Council says it’s fine to be in monogamous or non-monogamous relationships, but encourages Julia to choose what’s comfortable for her and ask why she’d put herself in a relationship where there’s no comfort. Choosing a monogamous relationship with someone who has similar beliefs would be easier for her.
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This post is inspired by comments and a question from a woman named A. who says she became pregnant after quitting her job to go back to school. She decided to terminate the pregnancy so she could continue her education and provide a better life for her family, but feels concerned she took something away from her son. She asks The Counsel if this aborted soul will come back to her the next time she gets pregnant.
The Counsel says that A. didn’t take anything away from her son by having this abortion and that the spirit of the son participated in the decision. They go on to say the aborted soul will return the next time A. gets pregnant and it will be a very strong connection.
Listen to the entire 6-minute session to hear all the details.
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In this post Gail talks about identifying with the spiritual warrior and asks The Council what this means to them. The Council responds by saying they don’t see Gail as a warrior. They ask her to look at her life and see that what she wants is a change in the way she’s manifesting. The warrior is one way to give Gail the strength she needs to make these changes, but The Council adds there are other ways.
The Council adds that Gail can go in the vibration of the peaceful warrior, in the vibration of joy. And yet if she feels things are difficult and she needs to fight her way through to change what is not wanted, then the spiritual warrior is available to her. Both ways will take her to her goal.
As The Council has said many times, the bottom line is what she believes. If modeling herself after a warrior gives Gail comfort and that is her belief, then use this. But if if she can become the peaceful warrior, going within and finding the joy she truly is, there is nothing she cannot accomplish.
The choice is Gail’s, but The Council asks why go into battle when when she can go into love.
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This post is part of a series of 4 questions that were answered by The Council on January 4, 2015. Stay tuned for posts on the other 3 questions, which are all on the subject of abortion. Copyright ℗ 2014 Bob & Cynthia Dukes
How often do you make a decision and wonder if it was a good decision, or the right decision? Natalie writes that she recently made a life altering decision and she’d like The Council’s opinion on whether it will lead to a better, brighter future for her and her children. This post looks at The Council’s guidance for Natalie, which seems like good advice for anyone wondering if a decision is the ‘right’ decision.
“We feel there were many tiny little decisions made… and a life altering decision. Many believe that would be some huge decision that was made, but the tiniest decision you make can be life altering.
“But we would like to say here that she should relax, and enjoy, and live in the moment of her new decisions. We would like to stress that. “And so we believe that for a while this will be a very good move.
“Now we would also like to say (so that Natalie is not frightened when we say ‘for a while’) when you reach your goal or your dream, or have what you believe you wanted, and when you experience what you believe you wanted to experience… life would be very boring if that was it.
“There will always be a new desire, a new decision to make, a new path to travel on. And so while we see that her decisions were perfect for right now, she will have many experiences and then there will be more decisions.
“And so to try to say, ‘this is it…’ we would never say that. There is always more, and always more, and always more. And she will always have the guidance; if she pays attention and listens to the little voice, or the little gut instinct and the little bits of intuition she gets, she will constantly move forward.
“Movement on her part that was made right now, we see it as something she will enjoy.”
Little Decisions Can Be Life Altering
Aside from The Council’s reassuring opinion that Natalie’s decision is a good one right now for her and her children, they make a few interesting points here that feel like good advice for almost anyone, starting with the idea that a little decision can be as life altering as a great big decision. If you want to change your life, it seems common to believe that really big decisions need to be made.
But The Council reminds you this isn’t the only way to change your life. It’s also possible tiny little decisions like following inspired hunches, instincts, and intuitions, can alter your life just as much as decisions that feels like really big ones.
Enjoy Living in the Moment of Your Decisions
The idea that it’s good to live in the moment has been around for a long time. Eckhart Tolle’s bestselling book, The Power of Now, has done a lot to popularize this idea in recent years. And an internet search for ‘live in the moment’ turns up lots of quotes from respected thinkers like Buddha, Ralph Waldo Emerson, Henry David Thorough, Walt Whitman, Emily Dickinson, Benjamin Franklin, and Albert Einstein. But it wasn’t immediately obvious what The Council meant by their suggestion that Natalie live in the moment of her new decisions.
You Will Always Have Guidance
When The Council says Natalie will always have guidance, we believe this is a good reminder for all of us. When you’re open to the idea there’s a spiritual part of you that’s always available to offer you helpful guidance when you pay attention to that little voice, or gut instinct, or intuitions that come to you; this guidance will help you with all your decisions.
There Will Always Be More
When there’s uncertainty about a decision, particularly one that feels like it will alter your life in a significant way, once the decision is made it can be tempting to hold on to the decision rather than face the uncertainty of letting it go and making a new decision. But The Council reminds Natalie and the rest of us to be open to new life experiences that inspire new desires, new decisions, and new paths in your life. And by paying attention to the guidance available from the larger spiritual part of you, you can relax and enjoy the forward movement that comes from your new decisions.
You are the Creator of Your Experience
After reflecting on The Council’s comments for Natalie, it feels like their suggestion to live in the moment of her new decisions combines the general idea of living in the moment, with the idea there will always be more to experience and more to decide. And when you live in the moment of these new experiences and decisions, this is where your spiritual guidance is most accessible to the human part of you.
But more than that, from the point of view of The Council’s #2 teaching (which is that you are the creator of the reality you experience), when you live in the moment of your new decisions, every moment becomes an opportunity to create a new decision to focus your attention in ways that adds to your well-being. We believe that makes this very practical advice for all of us.
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This post describes a session with The Council in response to the comment and questions below from Beth on the subject of abortion. The session is full of thought-provoking ideas on lots of different subjects of interest to many people in addition to Beth. Particularly interesting to us is light that The Council sheds on how our spirit’s intentions often manifest in surprising and unexpected ways in our human experience.
Ordinarily we like to offer a sort of running commentary in these posts if we feel it can add some clarity to something The Council says during a session, but it seemed to make this post too long and wordy. It also seemed to place more emphasis on understanding what The Council is saying rather than on appreciating the feeling of the energy offered by The Council and spirit in response to Beth’s questions. More and more we are learning from The Council that what’s important about spiritual understanding is that it’s a focus of attention that allows you to feel in your physical experience more of the love you are as a spiritual being.
As you read through the post, see if you can feel the energy of this session resonating with your spirit. If a clear understanding doesn’t come right away, be patient with yourself and let your connection to who you are as a spiritual being shed light on the material presented here. Give yourself some time. You are always welcome to use the Comment section following the post to ask a question about this material and we’ll do our best to reply.
Beth’s Comment and Questions
“I have a question about abortions as it relates to the Soul and the Soul’s agreement…the Soul of the child, specifically.
“You see I have unfortunately had to make the decision (twice) in my life to terminate what I perceived as ‘untimely’ pregnancies.
“I have a lot of guilt around these decisions, not because of any religious reasons, but more because I am not sure what I did was the right decision for my life’s path.
“Also, I often feel sad wondering how those two Souls (or maybe it was the same Soul) feel/felt that I chose to terminate their little lives.
“I fully believe that those Souls made some type of agreement with me, but I’m wondering if you could shed light on what those agreements may have been.
“Did those little Souls know that they would play this role?
“Is it the same Soul trying to come back in?
“Would I be able to find out more about them, and who they might have become had I chosen differently?
“If we come back in similar Soul groups, could this Soul have been one that I also lost in a previous life (I believe I was pregnant when drowned)?
“I realize that these are many questions, not one, but I am grateful for your input.”
You Can Not Stop Life
Reading Beth’s comment and questions to The Council at the beginning of the session, they were quick to comment at the end of her first sentence.
“We really want to laugh here… the word abortion… what does it mean?
“Abort… Stop… Stop life?
“You can not stop life.
“It is all in choosing, and agreements, and experiences.
“And so we just wanted to add that in there.
“Beth did not stop a life… did not cut a life short… everything went as planned.”
Indecision is the fear of making the wrong choice.
There is no wrong choice.
Spirit is never afraid to experience life.
Indecision is about forgetting
who you really are.
Jaqueline’s Questions – Part 2
This is the second of two posts to answer questions from a reader named Jaqueline. In the first post, Trusting You are Spirit in a Physical Body, The Council answers her question about how to connect with inner guidance and find inner peace “even when things seems to be so messed up.”
Jaqueline describes herself as being 23 years old and concerned she hasn’t decided about a career yet. She says, “I know I worry too much and think way too much, but I could really use some clue about what I’m supposed to do in this special lifetime, if I’m going in “the right direction”.
This post describes the portion of our July 24, 2012 conversation with The Council (non-physical spiritual guides) that addresses career and life-direction issues. We found this information personally very helpful and we believe it can also be helpful to others.
At the very end of this post we introduce some new guidance from The Council on the law of beliefs that came at the end of our session on Jaqueline’s questions.
Choice is your greatest power.
Not consciously choosing
Is also a choice.
Feeling a Need for Change, but Uncertain about a Career Move to the Arts
In this post The Council offers guidance on decision making. The post is a response to Sandy’s request for guidance about a career decision. He’s between jobs and wonders if he should stick to a career path he’s familiar with or try something completely outside of the box. He likes the idea of being involved in the Arts, but he tends to think of himself as a math and science person.
What Do I Do With My Life
The Council observes that many of us stress over making decisions, and this stress can make it difficult to achieve the outcomes we desire. They suggest when it comes to making decisions about the path to take in our life, the more relaxed we can be about the process, the more satisfying the outcome will be. For Sandy, The Council suggests making an effort to enjoy this time between jobs and to consider his desires.
“What brings you happiness? Which thought? Which imaginary situation brings you joy…a smile to your face? There are many things you can choose from.”
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