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Is Monogamy Okay?

This post is inspired by questions from Julia who was married for 12 years and has been divorced for 2 years. She asks why non-monogamous relationships disturb her so much and wants to know if she should be more open to them?

Julia was monogamous in her marriage, but now has questions about open relationships as a single person. Sometimes she thinks she should try it because she gets so obsessed in her romantic relationships, but the thought disturbs her to the core.

The Council suggests Julia find the love for herself she’s looking for in relationships and asks why she wants to experience something she knows will be unpleasant in order to fit in. They also suggest Julia listen to herself and ask why make herself uncomfortable.

The Council advises more self-love, more doing for herself, and being gentle with herself to draw in the right people.

In one lifetime she was one of many wives and wasn’t made to feel special. She was lonely, didn’t receive enough attention, and that began her uncomfortable feeling she carries into this lifetime. Perhaps knowing where this feeling of uncomfortableness with open relationships comes from will make it possible to release this and work on loving herself more.

The Council says it’s fine to be in monogamous or non-monogamous relationships, but encourages Julia to choose what’s comfortable for her and ask why she’d put herself in a relationship where there’s no comfort. Choosing a monogamous relationship with someone who has similar beliefs would be easier for her.

Listen to the entire 9-minute conversation with The Council to hear all of what they had to say.

February 22, 2015 - Posted by | Audio Content, Choice, Decision Making, Emotions, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , ,

2 Comments »

  1. That is helpful to know the root of this dilemma.. Sometimes it just takes having someone else’s view on something that’s been bothering you….Self-love will continue to be what I strive for.
    Thank you for your kindness.

    Comment by julia | February 23, 2015 | Reply

    • The only thing that seems better than striving for love, Julia, is feeling it. Keep up the good work.

      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | February 24, 2015 | Reply


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