Will I Meet My Ex Again, Or Meet Someone New To Share My Life With?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Starfish.
Starfish: I was wondering if my ex and I will ever meet again. It was a very unique connection for me even though it’s been two years since we last talked, and I still think of him dearly. There was so much love there. We never officially dated, despite having feelings for each other. The connection was too triggering for both of us since we mirrored our childhood wounds so deeply. We weren’t ready for a relationship.
Council: So you chose to come together to look at these wounds and help yourself and each other heal them. But as we see what you planned, you didn’t think about staying together. So that purpose was done. You experienced it at whatever level you both could handle in this particular lifetime with what was happening around you.
Starfish: I want to know: Do my ex and I plan to meet again in the future to wrap up this connection?
Council: Well we would think so, but of course, as we said, that’s entirely up to the both of you to make the decision, and then to create it.
Starfish: Or was this connection just a lesson for me to learn to not reactivate the same wounds with my future partner or partners?
Council: It was to look at the same wounds that you had, and to heal them.
Starfish: I really wish to see him again. I miss him as a dear friend, and I wonder if he’s doing all right.
Council: We see he’s alright. And at the moment we see he has gone forward with his life. We don’t see anything at the present moment where you’d connect again.
Bob: I was under the impression you said before that they might connect again, and now you’re saying that…
Council: He has moved forward. You can connect again in another lifetime if that’s wanted, but in this lifetime there was the wanting to come together, but there was nothing that was planned where they would stay together. It was to work on the wounds and then make a choice from there, and that was to go on.
Bob: So in answer to Starfish’s question: Do my ex and I plan to meet again in the future to wrap up this connection? you weren’t referring to their current life?
Council: Not this lifetime.
Starfish: Does he feel the same about me too?
Council: We could say he wishes you well, but again, there’s no thought of reconnecting.
Starfish: A long time ago I asked him to block me so we couldn’t contact each other. He hasn’t unblocked me since then, and now I can’t contact him first.
Council: So at the time you suggested that, was it apparent to you that you no longer wanted this connection by asking him to block you, but now there’s a change of heart? If you want this reconnection, then we would always suggest doing the inner work. Talk to his spirit at night or in the day, and put to him what you’d like. And then do the work – the discipline of seeing it and feeling it however you want. You run into him, he calls you, whatever it is, if that’s your strong desire without any doubt, then we can say, of course you can create that again.
Starfish: Is there anything I can do? I’m willing to open my heart again this time. I regret pushing him away back then.
Council: Have the image in your mind of you and him sitting across from each other inside a pink bubble, and send that image to him. His spirit, of course, will receive it and will know what you’re doing, and then we’ll see where he would be with that. So that’s your part in what you can do.
Starfish: If my ex and I don’t plan to meet again, does The Council see anyone important coming into my life soon?
Council: Of course, if that’s what you want to create. We do see there was a thought of having a permanent relationship. There is someone that you can pull in – a spirit that’s willing to be part of this reality with you. And so, that is there for you if you choose to go in that direction. It’s always good to remember that it’s up to you. Your thoughts, your images, and your feelings will create what you want in your life.
But before you go into this focusing and imagining, you must raise your vibration. And by doing that you must become very happy, very joyful, very playful, and feeling like a child who’s excited about something. When you’re in that state, and you do the work in your mind of seeing it and feeling it, you will create it.
Starfish: What can I do to manifest a new loving romantic connection?
Council: Whatever it is that you want, you raise your vibration, and you do the inner work. It’s focus, focus, focus.
Starfish: Are there still any inner wounds I need to be aware of?
Council: Of course. There are many. And it will come up with what you choose to face in this lifetime.
Starfish: How can I work through these wounds?
Council: As they come up, whatever you find hurtful, look at it. What does it remind you of? How does it make you feel? Why does it make you feel this way? And then ask yourself if there’s forgiveness for all concerned with this, including yourself? And so, trust, we can say, is one of the issues. So learn about trusting.
And so, we send you love, we send you happiness, we send you energy to raise your vibration, and the ability to look inside yourself and around you, and appreciate yourself, and appreciate everything you have around you, and to go forward and look for the fun and the happiness.
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How Do I Rewrite My Soul Contract?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Stephen.
Stephen: How do I rewrite my soul contract? I really want to do this. Thank you.
Council: This can be difficult for many people to understand, but there really is no dead-set soul contract. There are many things you speak of before you planned this reality. Maybe I’ll do this, maybe I’ll do that. And when you talk to other souls and you decide what it is, and you pick your parents and the life you’re going to go through, there’s nothing there that’s written in stone.
Your higher self, which is you (and we underline that), which is you and nobody else, knows specifically what you want to do. And it’s easy for you to want to rewrite this contract, but all you really have to do is take a good look at what you’re doing and how you can just tweak it a little bit, and make it a little bit easier, or make it go in another direction. But the main thing, the real main thing that your soul wants to do this time around, even if you find another way to do it, your higher self will lead you that way.
But we don’t want everyone to hear, “Oh, I made this soul contract and I can’t get out of it.” You can change it because you are the creator. You created what you wanted in this reality. You create the where, the why, the who, and the things you’re going to experience, but there’s nothing you can not make better, that you can make easier, or go off in another direction. It’s very important at this time that everyone knows you are the creator.
So maybe there is a contract, for lack of a better word, and because in your human reality you need that word, contract. So you strike something out. So you put a line through it. It’s important to remember that you are creating your life the way that it’s going. And it’s simple, but not always easy to think of picturing your life the way you want it. And the more you can do that, and pretend you have it already, or it’s going in that direction, that is how you’ll bring it in. But you do it from a place of love and excitement that you are in charge, that you can do this or do that, and change this or change that, and make this life the way you want it.
You came here to have fun and to have some challenges to see how you’d handle them. And if it’s difficult, you can lighten the load, so to speak, but there’s nothing we want you to feel is an ironclad agreement and you are stuck for it this life.
And so for ten minutes a day before you go to bed, think of one little thing that you’d like to have some more joy in order to experience your life in an easier way. And start seeing it and feeling it, and we promise you when you keep doing this, you’ll see people around you, and things around you, change. Even if it’s slowly, there’s the improvement that you want.
And when you see that, be grateful for it and know, “Well look at what I did, because I have created it.” No one else will create in your reality.
Bob: Anything else for Stephen?
Council: We think that’s quite a bit. Do that work. Do that understanding. Most of all, you are the creator, you are spirit. You want to do this, you want to do that. Trust your higher self. It will take you down the path you want, and you will experience what it is that you came to experience. And whatever it is, there are many ways to get there. So play with it in your mind. I’d like to do this. Maybe I could do it this way, this way, or this way. Play with it and you will come up with what works for you.
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Did My Friend, Stephen, And I Pre-Plan To Connect In Our Current Life?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Sophie.
Sophie: I wanted to ask about my friend, Stephen. Our bond seems to be really strong, even when we don’t see or speak to each other for a long time. That makes me think we knew each other in a past life. Or perhaps it’s more accurate to say that we must have planned to connect in our current life. Could you shed some light on that?
Council: Yes, you did know each other in several lives. And yes, you did plan to connect in this life to get together.
Now it’s sort of iffy, but you both agreed that going forward when you would be at an older age, that there would be a marriage. There’s a possibility. But always know that you and your friend have the ability to change whatever you thought. And so you’re still in control, but yes, there is a closeness there.
Sophie: I had a dream that I was standing with an angel looking down at an altar where I could see myself and Stephen getting married in an incredibly bright golden light.
Council: When you look at this scene do you see a wreath of flowers on your head and with a thin veil? You would describe this as the time of Gwenevere or Camalot. And so you were married in this beautiful church, and it was something back then that was also planned in spirit. And you were very much in love and had this beautiful wedding ceremony. And that’s what you were allowed to see in that dream. And so it’s just the memories that are coming through that are trying to show you that, yes, you do have a close bond with each other.
Sophie: Neither of us has any interest in marriage at the moment.
Council: Yes, at the moment.
Sophie: But I was wondering whether this was a message that we were married in a past life?
Bob: And you’re saying it was.
Sophie: Lastly, I find it difficult to cope with the idea of us moving on to separate romantic partners. How can I support myself to do this and also maintain a relationship of mutual respect with Stephen?
Council: By knowing you are the creator and by deciding what you want. You can let your relationship flow and see where it goes, or you can create a marriage again if that’s what you want, or you can just be friends and go with different partners. But even if you do that, what’s important here is the understanding that you’ve been together before. And if you both decide that marriage isn’t in the cards in your current lifetime, you can do it again and be married in another lifetime.
All of this is to show people you’ve had past lives, you’re still living, and you can have future lives. And you can decide who is in them and what direction they are going just by acknowledging that you are spirit, acknowledging that you have a choice, and manifesting by your thoughts and feelings of how it is with what you want. Do you have a picture or a focus of being married? How does that look? What does it feel like? Tap into the feeling. If you want to go separate ways, what does that look like? How does that feel? But always knowing it’s exactly what you both want to create this time, and you will create again.
Sophie: Deep down in my heart I’m just not ready to let go.
Council: That’s fine. Have fun with it and create what’s in your heart.
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Did My Partner Pre-Plan His Prostate Cancer?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lizzy.
Lizzy: My life partner was recently diagnosed with localized Stage 4 prostate cancer, which was a huge shock for both of us because we didn’t expect anything like this. I’ve been interested in topics like pre-birth agreements for some time and I’d like to ask: Is this a disease my partner wanted to experience?
Council: This disease wasn’t specifically called for, but it was some sort of disease, some sort of malady that would bring the both of you together, to work together to find a way to deal with it. And so at this time what was created was the prostate problem.
And so a Stage 4 prostate cancer in your reality is a time where they would suggest surgery, and if you’re comfortable with this, then it’s fine to go in that direction. If you’re not comfortable with it – and the choice is always yours – then you should explore other modalities, other things that can help.
And so you will create this now, step by step, how you want it to go, how you want to experience it. But it was specifically to bring the two of you to work together as you look for a way to heal, a way to show other people that will hear your stories or know what’s going on.
So you’re out there on the leading edge deciding which way to go and then to see it working, without doubt, to see, yes, this will work, this sounds right. This feels good. Follow what feels good. It’s now the time in this reality where everyone is learning how to follow their feelings. And so we would say, explore that.
Lizzy: Is there another reason why my partner has prostate cancer at such a young age?
Council: It’s just that the time was right for both of you to experience some sort of episode where there was a medical problem, and it has gone to prostate cancer.
Lizzy: What message is this disease supposed to be telling my partner?
Council: The message is to explore, to learn more, not to be frightened by a medical diagnosis, but to know in your heart that when you believe, when you research and you find something that feels right, to follow it and know that it will work. And so it’s learning with your feelings, learning from the knowledge you have, and to learn how not to doubt, but to go forward.
Lizzy: We talk about this disease openly because I know he needs it and I try to be supportive.
Council: Wonderful.
Lizzy: I’m reading a lot on the internet about prostate cancer and I’m looking for ways to help him even more. I started helping by cooking him healthier and lighter meals.
Council: How does that make you feel? Is that working?
Lizzy: I’ve read that cauliflower, broccoli, and celery are good for the prostate. Am I on the right track?
Council: If you were to read and believe that drinking soda every day would help it, if you truly believe it, it will work. So the point here is to find what you believe. Ah ha, this will work, this sounds good. When you have that ah-ha moment, follow it.
Lizzy: Are there any other superfoods that could help him to heal?
Council: Well if you continue to read in your reality, what’s been created is tomatoes are wonderful for the prostate. The zinc vitamin is excellent for the prostate. Large amounts of Vitamin C are good for the prostate. And yet if you were to read that and not believe that could work, it won’t. The lesson here is to feel what feels right. Acknowledge what feels right no matter what it is that you want to try. When it feels right and it gives you hope, and you know this can work, you should follow whatever it is.
And so continue to read up on it and maybe there will be more that you will feel will work. But we’d say at this point to do the color breathing, not only of the first chakra but all the chakras, and Bob will send that to you.
Lizzy: In general I try to stay positive because I know it’s important. But the more I think about it, I feel like I’m struggling because I don’t know what to do to help him heal.
Council: Ah ha. Just the word, struggle, brings on doubt and brings on the feeling of being helpless. And so now you should think: I know what to do. I’m searching for it and I will get the answer by reading and feeling what gives me more hope. What’s the thought that gives me more hope? What is it that we should do? And follow that.
Lizzy: Is there anything you would recommend?
Council: Of course, meditation every day. And the part of the body – in your reality there’s an explanation for this – the prostate is moving forward, going forward in your life. So if there’s a fear about the future, it could cause prostate cancer. If there’s a fear of money or career it would also cause this prostate problem. So look at what’s not working, or what’s causing you the most trouble in this life, and work on that.
Lizzy: His Urologist has recommended that my partner have surgery. That would mean we wouldn’t be able to have the children we want so badly. Is there any other option?
Council: Well there’s always the adoption option. But again we’d say research this, and if it’s possible, and you feel the only way to go forward now is to work with the sperm and have it frozen so that you can use it in the future, then by all means do that. You must follow what feels good to the two of you. That’s what’s being taught by all of us spirits that are out there channeling and teaching everyone that’s ready, everyone that’s wanting to grow, that now is the time when you need an answer, follow your feelings.
Lizzy: The only thing we could think of right now is sperm cryopreservation. Is that the path we should take?
Council: It’s not necessary right now while you do the research. If you feel, after trying other things or looking for other methods that feel right, if nothing feels right, then go in the direction of cryopreservation.
Lizzy: My life so far has taught me that every unpleasant situation has a hidden gift.
Council: And this will show the both of you are the creator. How you think about things, what you choose to focus on, you will see coming into your life. So no one can create for you. You will learn how to create by your research, by your thoughts, by your feelings, and you will learn that, yes, we are creating what happens in our lives.
Lizzy: Is there some gift for our relationship hidden in this disease?
Council: Always to bring you closer, always to learn how to rely on the spirit, rely on that you both have chosen this, and to go forward. There’s a great adventure in front of you. As long as you get rid of the fear, go on this adventure. You’ve chosen to do this together, and so you are fulfilling it. And now create the outcome that you want.
Lizzy: Is this disease meant to push us in a different direction in this life?
Council: It’s to help you become more of who you really are.
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Should I Go Into Real Estate Or Information Technology?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Mindful Living.
Mindful: I’ve been looking into starting my own business along with the job I already have. Can you please guide me if being a real estate agent will be a good path for me? The other option is to open a business which is information technology related. I’m not sure which way to go. Any guidance will be greatly appreciated here. Thank you.
Council: We see both paths have very good possibilities to work for you. But before you came into this particular reality you were remembering two other lives you had. One was way back in the city of Pompeii in Italy, and you were a builder. And you created many houses that are architecturally just as good as we have now.
Then again for the opposite side of the coin in the early 1800s, you were a farmer. And as a child, you’d ride to different parts of the area with your father and see different farms and different homes. Some were little and some were big. And you always were attracted to them and wanted to see the insides, which of course you didn’t. But you had the idea in your head, always wondering what they look like? How many rooms? How is it decorated?
So you have that desire in you to work again with houses in a different capacity. And so we’d say if you went in that direction you’d find great happiness because it’s something you’ve worked with before, and wondered with before, and you’d have much fun in this field.
Either real estate or information technology would work. There was a desire in this reality to be successful. And so what you pick, you’d put yourself into it wholeheartedly and make it work.
But what we see, what you thought of before coming into this reality and played with these thoughts was to work with building, working with being inside the house, designing, perhaps guiding people on what to do in their new homes. And so we’d say go and play with this.
Bob: Any chance they could combine the information technology career with the real estate career?
Council: There’s a possibility, but we’d say more now, in the beginning, to go with the real estate.
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Did I Set Up A Difficult Time As A Test Of Faith?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Anonymous Number 3.
Anon 3: Your posts lately have been incredible. Thank you so much. To keep the conversation going I have a question that ties in with your post, Coming From Your Heart, Connecting To Your Higher Self, And Feeling Good, and your post, What Are The Limits To Positive Thinking?
Council: Oh, there are no limits to positive thinking.
Anon 3: I had a huge leap in my spiritual awareness around 2013 when I found Abraham’s Law of Attraction.
Council: Oh, wonderful. Yes, it’s so helpful, and it’s leading many people to see things differently.
Anon 3: I had this incredible experience of seemingly pulling things out of thin air. It was exhilarating. Some years later disaster struck and my entire life crashed around me. Within a couple months I found myself homeless, unwell, and without my beloved partner.
Council: Look how you created the other side of the coin. And so you created it to learn from it, experience it, and change whatever you wish to change.
Anon 3: The Abraham System didn’t work for me then. I don’t think I’ve understood why that happened yet. I usually learned the lesson from an experience, but this one has consistently evaded me, and I think I’m still scarred by it even though it was six years ago.
Council: You’ve created this experience, (we’ll use Abraham’s words) you’ve created this contrast in your life to see how it was wonderful, and now experiencing the other side of the coin. And it’s your wish at this point to change it back. And you feel the Abraham material isn’t working for you because now what your higher self is showing you is you must find another way. Abraham took you so far, you see it works, and if you stop doubting it would work again.
But now you seem to be looking for something else. And many of the souls right now, what they’re looking for is a way to connect with their higher selves and to get the answer themselves. And what we’ve all agreed on before coming into this reality is that at a certain stage of your life, you’d get your answers by the way you feel, and that’s by connecting with the Heart Chakra.
So whatever it is that you want – success, more money, a new lover – go into your heart chakra and see the beautiful green or pink light, and picture what you want. And then sit and ask your higher self, how do I get there? You’ll be surprised how you will get ideas and how things will automatically come to you because every day you’ll say: “I want to come from my heart. I want to connect with my higher self. I want that guidance in my life.” And so when you do that, you’ll begin to see how in control you are to put yourself on the path you want, and have a life of joy, which we all planned for when we came into this life.
And so we experience the opposites and then we find a way to change it. And we bring in the good, and sometimes we go back into what Abraham describes as contrast, and then we change it again. Life goes up and down, up and down. And that’s what we all want because we figure: Coming here, this will be a lot of fun. Let’s see what I create. Let’s see who comes in to help me in this life. And so that is where you are right now.
You are to rely on yourself by taking the time every day to tell your higher self you want to connect with it because you are your higher self. But you want to find a way to create things beautifully and easily in your life. So when you have to make a decision, ask your higher self, and sit and wait. And don’t wait for the words. Think of which way you want it to go. Then how do you feel? How does it feel in your chest? in your stomach? How does your body feel? And that is what we all, at this time, are learning. How to make decisions and create a better life by what we feel. Not logically, not with words, but by what we feel. That’s what we mean to get across: How we feel. And that’s why you are now on a new way of learning.
Anon 3: Since my life fell apart six years ago I’ve felt it almost impossible to align to my highest timeline or do the Abraham work because when I do, I remember what happened to me and I think there’s no point.
Council: And so, right there, that belief, that thought, will never make it work.
Anon 3: Did I set this catastrophic time up as a test of faith?
Council: Of course. You set it up for a lot of reasons, but mostly so that you would grow, and you will learn how to guide yourself.
Anon 3: Around then I started asking my higher self for guidance, but I’m not sure whether I can trust it.
Council: Of course you can trust it, but you must learn to work with the feelings. Go into the heart chakra, picture what you want in there and ask the question. Ask your higher self: Show me, and then forget about the doubt. And of course, when you do doubt, just acknowledge it and say: “No, No. I will wait. I am my higher self. I am connecting to me. I am connecting to what I have planned and what I want to go through in this life.” And you will see the difference.
Anon 3: At the time, I asked for and thought I saw signs that my partner was returning, but they never did. Since then I’ve asked for guidance about several other things and it was spot on.
Most recently I have finally, after all these years, felt ready to be in another relationship and really want to be married.
Council: And if that is what you really want, and you work with your higher self, and you work with being in joy and happiness, and aligning with that higher vibration, you will bring that in.
Anon 3: I’ve asked my higher self if this new person in my life is the one, and it’s continually and consistently sent me signs saying: Yes, yes, yes.
Council: Okay, so then when you sit down and you meditate, thank your higher self and ask to be shown more signs that this person is for you. It’s that simple. The doubts are what changes the outcome. And so with faith in your intuition, in your higher self, ask for the signs and wait until you see them.
Anon 3: But because I thought I saw these same signs about my ex-partner, I’m doubting them.
Council: Of course, but now you have another way to do it. Now you have another way to ask. And you have another way to find the answers, and that is with your feelings.
Anon 3: I also did this thing where for a long time I followed angel numbers and synchronicities thinking they must be my path.
Council: Oh, it helps many, many people. And then again after a while that doesn’t seem to work because you want more. Your higher self wants you to learn you can do it easily. You can do it from your own knowledge, and the answers will come from you.
Anon 3: But most of the time I just landed in hot water by following the angel numbers and synchronicities…
Council: Ah, there’s a sign.
Anon 3: …where they were indicative that something bad was going to happen, which adds to the mistrust I now feel of the signs I receive. I’d love to know what happened there.
Council: You don’t need the angel numbers and synchronicities anymore. That’s why you created it not to work the way it did before. It’s only your way of finding a way to get guidance for yourself, a way to grow and learn how powerful it is when you can ask your higher self and get the answer from your higher self, not from anywhere else.
Anon 3: How do I know if and when I can trust the signs I’m being sent by my higher self?
Council: Because your higher self will only send you positive answers, and it will always feel good. And the outcome – whatever it’s showing you to do, or say, or the direction to go in – will always bring you experiences that are positive, that make you feel good, and help you grow more in a positive direction.
And so we send you all blessings, and thoughts of happiness, and thoughts of love and joy. And seeing the energy around you growing and becoming more beautiful. And you feel lighter than you have ever felt before because you are light. Let it shine.
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Will My Baby Be Healthy And My Partner Stop Smoking Marijuana?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Zumza.
Zumza: I wrote to you previously about the termination of a pregnancy because my partner was financially unstable. I also wrote because the fetus in that pregnancy that I had a connection with showed up in a dream. And also I experienced unconditional love I felt during the time I was pregnant that I never felt before.
Now I feel I might be pregnant again, but I didn’t plan this pregnancy. The situation of my partner’s finances hasn’t changed. He even turned out to have a marijuana addiction, which I don’t support, and we started arguing about it.
Council: First we’d like to say here that although you say the pregnancy is unplanned, you planned this pregnancy in spirit. You wouldn’t have brought this pregnancy into your life experience if you didn’t want it. So you created this pregnancy. Now why have you created it?
And then you turn and look at your partner, which we see is having a problem with marijuana. Why have you created that in your lifetime? Is it a way to sever ties with this person? Is it a way to realize, “Well I want to be with this person, but perhaps it’s better for us not to have a relationship where we have children?” Always question yourself, because there’s no one that will create anything in your life but you.
Zumza: I want a baby, but I’m scared that my partner’s marijuana addiction will affect the health and development of the baby.
Council: Yes, of course it can affect the baby’s health. And so that’s something that’s making you question: Should you have a baby? Should you have a baby with your current partner? So look at your situation from that point of view. Your situation is all about you and learning what you want. It’s not about trying to cure someone of marijuana or helping them with better financial ways to bring in money. It’s not about you going out and getting another job to fix the financial situation.
What is it that you want? Look at whether this person has a problem with finances, if this person has a problem with marijuana, yet tells you he wants children, but yet smokes the marijuana knowing it can have a defect on the child. What is that showing you? So allow yourself to see the whole picture and then take yourself out of it and realize, what is it that you want?
Zumza: He started smoking marijuana again recently and before that he was smoking during the summer. I live a clean life and if his addiction continues I just want to end this relationship.
Council: So it sounds here like you’re not only saying it, but feeling that you want to end this relationship. And so, what else do you need to see to end it?
Zumza: Do you see if I continue the pregnancy, I will have a healthy baby?
Council: We can’t say to you, “Yes, you will have a healthy baby,” or, “no you won’t have a healthy baby; this isn’t a good idea,” because you will create the outcome. We feel the direction you’re going in – and you can always change your direction and the choice will always be yours – the direction that you’re going in is to scare yourself out of this relationship. If you have a baby and you’re not comfortable going forward because of your partner’s marijuana addiction, you will create a problem with the child that is born because of this addiction.
And so before you go into this, feel what it is. Are you uncomfortable taking the chance of having this child with this person? Are you uncomfortable about maybe having a child that will have some sort of defect because of your partner’s marijuana addiction? You are creating this so that you can open your eyes to what you want, what you will settle for, or what beautiful happiness you are looking for and will find, but perhaps it will be with someone else.
You can’t change your partner. If he stops smoking marijuana right now, what’s to say he won’t do it again? If there’s a problem with finances, who’s to say there won’t be problems again? It’s in your belief at the moment, from what we see, that you are creating a way for you to look at your situation, to look at the truth of what you’re saying, what you are bringing forth, and to make a decision from that. No one can make this decision for you.
Zumza: Will my partner quit smoking marijuana, and why is he smoking it?
Council: He’s smoking it for many of the needs that he feels he has. That doesn’t matter. Will he quit? Maybe, maybe not. It’s his choice. Right now, with the energy around him, we don’t see him quitting. If he does quit, he will return to smoking marijuana. This is what is seen now because that’s what is being created now. Can he change? Yes he can, when he’s willing to create for himself how he wants to live.
And so is it something that you want? Again, look at it. Question yourself. It’s about you. What do you want in your life? A partner that you have to worry about, or maybe someone brand new where it feels perfect, there’s happiness, there’s no problem, and a child will come from another relationship. And so, again, it’s your beliefs, it’s what you choose to focus on now. That will show you the direction your life is going in.
Zumza: Why did I get pregnant at the least favorable time?
Council: This is you. This is what you’re creating. You have a desire for a child, but perhaps you’re creating your situation with the least favorable experiences because you need to see what your partner is like. Do you want to keep him in your life? Do you want to take a chance and raise this child alone?
And so, again, look at your choices. You are creating this so that you will open your eyes and see what it is that you have created so far. And do you want to keep creating on that path, or do you want a new path?
Zumza: I promised myself I wouldn’t terminate a pregnancy ever again.
Council: If it’s a promise that feels good to you, then we’d say, go for it. Is it a promise that you’ve made to yourself, but in the background is the worry that this child can be born with a defect? We’d say, look at it again. If you wish to have this child, then you must do the inner work and see this child being perfect, happy, and see yourself raising this child with joy and fun. That work must begin now.
And so we send you all blessings, and thoughts of happiness, and thoughts of love and joy, and seeing the energy around you growing and becoming more beautiful. And you feel lighter than you’ve ever felt before because you are light. Let it shine.
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What Are The Limits To Positive Thinking?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Anonymous Also.
Anonymous Also: I was hoping to follow up on Anonymous’s questions (a different reader from Anonymous Also) in their private phone session with The Council. Thank you again, Anonymous, for sharing your invaluable recording. I’ve been wondering about these questions for a while, and I’d be very grateful for The Council’s feedback. I apologize in advance for the dark nature of the topic. I’d like to know what The Council has to say about what is perceived by some to be the limits of positive thinking.
Council: There are no limits. There’s only the limit you put on yourself by thinking there are limits.
Anonymous Also: And how we can go about understanding the following situations in a new way. I ask not to make others feel invalidated or disrespected for their beliefs, but to try to expand my own understanding.
Council: We’d say here that while we answer your questions, and many may hear this or read it, everyone will get something out of it, so you will not hurt or disallow their feelings. Everyone will hear the words differently, and it will come across the way they need to hear it because of what they’re going through, and where they are at this time. So let’s see what you ask.
Anonymous Also: For example, there are stories of people who believe in vibration, crystal healing, etc., who refused medical treatment and then have gone on to die of cancer. I’m assuming it’s not that they didn’t try hard enough to be positive. Although each person has their own story, why might that happen, and what message is their death supposed to send to us?
Council: Well, there are different reasons. They could have said they believed in this work but had a lot of fear behind what they were trying to picture and believe.
There’s also an agreement, maybe with other souls, that they’d go through this difficulty and it would touch the other souls’ lives. It would make them believe, more or less, or see things differently, and question what’s going on. It will always touch people in a way to make them grow, to make them question their beliefs, and to make them question how they’re living their lives.
And so there are many that could take poison and have a miraculous cure. It’s what you believe and how positive you can stay in that belief. Where many people try, and it’s hard for many people, but the doubt and the fear behind the situation will change the outcome of what one is asking for.
Anonymous Also: Alternatively, there are a number of pastors and other notable individuals in the United States who have said that God will protect them from Covid, only to promptly die of Covid weeks later. Another example that comes to mind is a very religious man whose infant son had brain tumors that kept coming back, and despite lots of prayer and true faith in the ability of the child to get better, the child died anyway.
Council: First we’d like to say here, if it’s the child’s desire, because the child creates his own life, to leave this reality, all the prayers in the world will not change that. If there are enough prayers and the soul decides to change what it wanted, it is possible.
And also, especially when it hits someone in their faith – a pastor saying that God would protect them and then the opposite happens – there’s fear behind there. There’s doubt in the belief.
And it also happens that the souls that come together in this group that hear this have agreed to have their faith tested, and so that’s why it works or it doesn’t work. Many souls want to know: “Oh, okay, I’m going to go into this reality and something will come up and it’s not always planned, but something will come up to test my faith. I want to see how I handle it. How do I turn this situation around? And sometimes it can be done, and sometimes it can’t be done, but it always affects all the people involved. And so, many times it’s to test one’s faith when it’s coming from a religious person.
Many people believe a pastor, a priest, or a rabbi, what they say is law and must happen because they have this great connection to God, but we would say that’s not true. It’s your connection to your higher self, it’s your connection to your belief that makes your reality happen.
Anonymous Also: In these examples, people had faith in their beliefs, although I’m sure they were also afraid and angry, like we humans all can be in adverse circumstances.
Council: Of course. And there was questioning, and there was doubt, and there was fear, and that always changes the outcome. But always remember, the person you’re praying for knows if it’s time and they want to leave this reality, or come through a miraculous cure to show the people around them that this is possible. There are lessons. There are plans behind the lessons. And so you can just observe and do what makes you feel good. Pray for the people, don’t pray for the people. That is part of the emotions you wish to experience and perhaps work through, and change it, or just have the experience. It’s all up to you.
Anonymous Also: How are we supposed to understand their stories not going the way they wanted them to go, despite significant spiritual effort?
Council: Because the higher self knows what it wants to plan, and what it wants to go through. And so you may not understand what another person is going through, but it’s your place to allow them to go through it and help them in any way you can because we’re here to support and help each other.
But just allow, and know that if it’s time for them to leave this planet, they’re going back into spirit, which is a wonderful place. No one comes into this reality and wants to stay here. As a spirit, when you’re planning what you want to do, what you want to create, you want to do everything and go back home. So dying, as people say, is not the end. It’s just a returning home. It’s a happiness that you experience. You’re in the energy of love. The vibration is wonderful, and that is part of the understanding. You’re not here for forever, even though some people would like to do that, if possible.
But you want to have your fun, or your challenges, and return home and share what you’ve learned, and help the others that are left behind to go through parts of their journey. And that is what creation is all about. What can you create? How much fun? How much of a challenge? What are you going to do with it? Okay, I’ve been here long enough. Time to go.
Bob: So are you saying that the way we’re supposed to understand people’s stories not going the way they wanted them to go, despite a significant spiritual effort, is that from a human point of view they may have wanted them to go one way, but from a spiritual point of view they wanted their life to go a different way.
Council: Yes. Many people in human form, they aren’t thrilled with the idea of passing on. Your higher self knows much better. And as you meditate, and as your vibration changes, you’ll become more and more familiar with that thought. The understanding about it will come. And that’s why we say to everyone at this time, meditate, even if you just meditate on the fact that you are spirit. Get to that understanding and everything else will begin to change.
Anonymous Also: The most haunting example for me is the toxic optimism that kept Jews in Nazi Germany thinking it would get better, and then being trapped and then killed as things got worse.
Council: How wonderful? And how strong these people were to hang on to their faith and the hope that their situation would change. Did the people around them need to see these people that had such great hope? Was it there to hold other people together as they went through this experience? It’s a wonderful thing. It was done on a large scale to teach all of your reality at this time about how strong people can be, how many have suffered, and how not to allow this kind of behavior anymore. To not hate and have enemies, but to love, and have compassion, and to live together in peace. It’s a huge lesson on a grand scale.
Anonymous Also: I’m sure there are families in Ukraine who are experiencing this same situation now.
Council: Of course.
Anonymous Also: The message there for me seems to be, if things start getting bad, flee. But I’m assuming that’s not the message that was meant to be taken away.
Council: Some people will believe it’s to their benefit to flee and they will. And others will believe, this is my home and I won’t leave. I will stand and fight. I’ll do what I need to do. And this is their choice. This is their belief. Whether you can understand what they choose, admire them for following what they believe and what they want to do.
Anonymous Also: Yet how are we supposed to understand actions that can be perceived as irrational optimism when the results of those actions are catastrophic for the individuals involved?
Council: To the individual involved it isn’t irrational what they believe, what they’re trying to create, or what they’re hoping for. And again, watch these people and learn from them. There may be a time in this life or a future life where what you see now will be an example for you to use in another life. We all learn together from one another.
Anonymous Also: From my human perspective as part of a powerful divine spirit, I certainly don’t consciously want to die a violent death, and I don’t want that for my loved ones.
Council: Of course. And as you said, the main word here is, consciously.
Anonymous Also: Yet sudden deaths and horrific tragedies happen anyway, including to my family. Yes, we made plans in advance for what we agreed to experience, but if we’re also very much one with our higher selves, how can we understand how and why very bad things happen to us?
Council: Do not forget here that what you have planned, you always have the choice to change. And so you meditate. You talk to yourself before you sleep that you’d like to change the direction your life is going in. You have the power to do this. You are not a victim. Whichever way your life is going is because of the choices you’re making and the direction you planned to go, but you do have a choice to change it.
Anonymous Also: How can we understand how and why very bad things happen to us that we, now as humans and supposedly now also on a higher level, don’t want?
Council: On a higher level, if it’s happening, then it’s wanted. So you can’t understand many of the things that happen that you feel you don’t want, but they do happen. On a higher level everything goes forward, everyone here in this reality is playing their part, is having their experience, and then is moving back again into spirit. It’s a wonderful thing. It’s like having a part in a movie or a play and then going back home.
Anonymous Also: In other words, I’m confused about agency and power, and who really has what. It often seems like what the higher self wants: challenges and bringing love into a difficult situation, and what the human extension wants: safety, not suffering, are opposite, but we’re also supposed to be intimately one and the same.
Council: You are one and the same, and yet it’s very difficult at this time for many people to understand that. And so the higher self creates the human body, the person, to go through whatever it is, and directs it in the way it wants it to have the experience. It’s not always understood by the human brain. But when you start to work with your heart chakra, which is beginning to happen for many people, you’ll get an understanding that comes from feeling and doesn’t come from words.
Anonymous Also: To give another example, I learned in an earlier question for The Council that I was tortured and witnessed torture as a child in a past life, which to some extent has colored my current life with fear. When I think about it, I keep coming back to the thought: Who the heck would want that? To see how I handle it? The answer is, I’d handle torture badly. I’m sure I did handle torture badly. Did I and others really need to be tortured just to have an opportunity to extend comfort to others who are suffering, or understand that children shouldn’t be tortured? Why go so extreme?
Council: The extreme sometimes is needed and the experience is wanted. No one likes the idea of torture. And yet we hear many people say: We are saints and we are sinners. So having the thought of torture is horrible, yes, but then there were lives when you experienced the opposite side of the coin and you were the torturer. It’s just an experience. That is all it is. And so we say it’s difficult to understand because no one wants to go through this. And yet many people, when they’re tortured, are halfway out of their bodies and don’t feel it. And it’s a way of them starting to release the body, to end the torture, and to then return into the spirit life.
And so even though it’s not wanted, sometimes it’s needed. It’s needed for the person, the people around them, and it may be needed to be on the news and go out into the world for others to hear these things. And that’s why this happens.
Anonymous Also: Finally, when I shared your website with a family member because I found it so helpful, she said to me, “It feels like this philosophy is blaming the victim. Like if they had only been more positive they would have been okay. This seemed like a fair criticism to me from her perspective and I wanted to know how The Council would respond to it.
Council: Of course, if they were more positive, perhaps they wouldn’t have created what they created. And so, again, the understanding isn’t available when it comes from your brain. It must come from your heart, that whatever it is there that you’ve decided to go through, again, it’s just an experience and not an ending.
And there are no victims. Of course, many would like to blame others, but there are no victims. Where you can come into this reality and say, “Well, I want to experience abandonment.” You may not specifically say, “I want my parents to abandon me. Or I’ll get married and have children and my husband will abandon me.” You may just put out there, “I want to experience abandonment.” And then, as you go through life, you’ll pull in from the people around you, this abandonment. Some people say, “I want to experience shame.” So they’ll create getting AIDS or another sexual disease so that they’ll feel shameful.
It’s what you create to go through, what it is you want to experience. And it’s not always step-by-step how it’s going to be, and sometimes it is. Again, you have the choice to make your life happen the way you want it.
Anonymous Also: I believe I understand the idea that there are no victims and no perpetrators, and that we switch roles out of love for one another.
Council: Constantly.
Anonymous Also: But in the situation where someone wants something desperately and wants to change their plan, and visualizing it changing it still doesn’t happen…
Council: It doesn’t happen because of the word you use. They want something desperately. When you’re asking for something desperately, the feeling that comes from the word, desperate, is not of a high vibration. When you ask for something in a way: “I’m so excited because this is what I want and this is coming. I’m ready to receive that.” The feel of those words and the vibration is very different. So we’d inform you and guide you, do not ask for something being desperate.
Anonymous Also: This also reminds me of your post, Are There Things We Ask For That We’ll Never Get? which asks similar questions, but for me it didn’t have a graspable enough conclusion about these issues.
Council: Sometimes you ask for things because you think it would make you happy, or it’s something that you really, really want, but your higher self knows you don’t need it, or that’s not the direction you want to go in. So you don’t get it. And yet if you focus, you will bring it into your reality. It may not last or it may last. You are the creator, and so always remember that. Your tools are your choices and your thoughts. Because the words that you sound in your head and the thoughts that you have bring on emotion and bring on feeling.
The feeling is what goes out into the Universe and brings you what you want. What you want must match how you feel. And so, if you feel desperate, what you want will not come. If you are in the state of a vibration where you’re excited and you’re feeling love, and you’re waiting for this, you’ll be able to bring it in.
Anonymous Also: I’m sorry for this long downer topic, but I’d very much appreciate your insight, as always, to make grappling with these big questions a little easier. Gaining some clarity will allow me to finally lay aside some fears and hopefully get to a place of higher vibration, and perhaps there are other readers who struggle with the same questions who may also be helped. I hope so.
Council: So the information we’ve given will touch different people in different ways. But even for yourself, it will give you a different perspective, a different way to think of things, a different way to try to create, and a different way to handle what’s going on in your life. It will change things for you.
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Is Humanity Ready For The Information I Plan To Offer In My Workshop?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Just Me Again.
Just Me Again: I never went to Cambodia.
Bob: Apparently Just Me Again asked The Council about going to Cambodia in a previous question.
Just Me Again: Not only because of not wanting to leave my cat behind, but also because life happened and I had to learn some more. I got retrenched and moved to a small town in the countryside. My brother took his own life in the early stages of Covid, and I brought my mother to stay with me in this small town, as we were both struggling with my brother’s death.
Council: It was pre-arranged that you and your mother would always be there for one another. So whether she was there for you as a child and it’s your turn now to be there for her, it’s an agreement and commitment you made, and it’s still your choice whether you would follow through on it.
Just Me Again: I’m working on a project to create a center where we offer a 10-day residential retreat for women, not only to empower them, but also for them to return home with knowledge to also empower their families and communities. It’s a holistic program to help these women understand how to deal with the baggage they carry, learn about self-love and forgiveness, discover their gifts and abilities, etc., and focus on working with high-vibration tools like flower essences, crystals and gemstones, and consciously consuming high vibration food, etc.
Council: And we’d say at this point, the best teachers are the ones that haven’t learned about crystals and essences from books, but have used it in their life so that you can give an example of what happens. Right now, people are very interested in knowing how it works. How do you know it works? So we’d say look into this program that you wish to develop, and how you’ll develop it.
But we’d say at this point going forward in your reality it’s very important to teach about vibrations, how to get into a higher vibration, how to stay there, and how to use your mind to create with your feelings, and with your images. We’d say this is very important for you to add to your program and to teach this, and then it will be very successful.
And have stories about yourself, and about others you know who have used the tools you’re going to give these women, and how it affected them. How did they make the change? People get hope when they hear success stories. And that is part of your path.
Just Me Again: There will also be workshops following the 10 days to teach creating your own high-vibration medicine.
Council: Wonderful.
Just Me Again: I resonated with your previous advice about having a past life in Atlantis and it feels like memories are coming back, and much of the center is based on guidance downloads that I’m receiving.
Council: So ask your higher self to give you memories of your past life in Atlantis, or any other life where you were in a healing capacity. And keep asking, because at this point in your reality, what we see is many, many people now will start to depend on their higher self, even though some people don’t realize the higher self and your human self are one entity. Even if they separate it, asking your higher self for information, it will always come, and it will come in your feelings.
And so it’s important that you teach people how to feel, how to ask a question and feel. That’s how the answers will come going forward in your reality. And this way you’re pointing others in the right direction. Develop the vibration and learn how to stay in it. Talk to your higher self and sit and wait for the feeling. You will get your answers.
Just Me Again: It is a process of downloading this information I am receiving. I feel there’s still more to come.
Council: There is much more to come.
Just Me Again: I’d like to ask a few questions. Although I’m not giving the long version of the program here, does The Council feel that humanity is ready to receive the straightforward basic knowledge of what I have to offer at this time?
Council: Definitely. We say to go forward with this plan. When you think of it, does it make you excited? Do you feel joy? There’s your feeling. Do it.
Just Me Again: Will the program be as effective as I believe it will be?
Council: Yes, if you gather enough information and experiences, it will be very successful.
Just Me Again: And is there any guidance from The Council?
Council: We feel we’ve given it to you (laughs).
Just Me Again: If funds for this project are approved, I’ll take my mother with me to the center, as I’ve committed to taking care of her.
Council: Yes, you have.
Just Me Again: She’s very open to all this new information, loves reading, going through my books on these topics, and she’s 80 years old. Will it be the right thing to take her with me? The funding will allow me to get special care for her on the premises, and allow me to follow my calling at the same time.
Council: Talk to her about your plans and what you’re going to teach, because she’ll be aware of this stuff and she’ll use it in her own way. So make your mother part of the discoveries.
Just Me Again: Are there perhaps any messages from my father and/or brother who are both on the other side? Or any other messages from anyone that I need to receive right now?
Council: Of course we’d say the only message that they give is feeling proud of supporting you on your path, and of sending love so that you can create what you thought you’d like to do in spirit. And so they are on their path, and they are learning in the spirit. They are planning new lives, and they are helping others. And so when you ask if they have messages, the one big message is they always send you love, because they want you to get through this reality by having accomplished what you planned in spirit.
Just Me Again: Are there perhaps any other lifetimes with knowledge of high-vibration healing and tools that The Council wants to make me aware of that may assist me in establishing this program?
Council: We’d say read everything you can on Atlantis. Read everything you can on Lemuria. In the early parts of Egypt, they used a lot of teachings from Atlantis, and then we’d say they added their spin to it. Study early healings from Egypt. Learn what they did in the temples. And as you begin to remember this, your knowledge will grow. You’ll get new ideas that you don’t have now to put into your programs, and this is a wonderful adventure.
Bob: So are you saying that Just Me Again had past lives in Lemuria, Atlantis, and Egypt, all three.
Council: Yes
And so we send you all blessings. And remember to have fun on this journey that you’ve created for yourself, and to have fun with the spirits around you that you’ve welcomed into your life. And always, always show kindness, and love, and compassion.
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Did I Plan To Get Married And Have Children In This Lifetime?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Anonymous N.
Anon N: My primary question is: What is my purpose or goal in this lifetime?
Council: Just to be, to jump in here and create a life and create one with love, create one that’s fun, to create things where you can help others and help yourself. It’s all to learn now, in this time of your life, to work with your mind and find a happy, loving space.
Anon N: In recent years I’ve struggled with understanding if marriage and children are planned or supported for me in this life.
Council: How does it make you feel? Question yourself. When you have the imagery in your mind of being married and having children, how does it feel? Your feelings will not lie. You’re here to learn how to work with your feelings, which is your higher self giving you the direction of which way to go.
If you love the feeling of being married, having children, and you can see a happy home, then yes. If the idea of getting married brings you doubt and not wanting to be married, not that you have to be married, but you always have a choice. Does it feel uncomfortable? If it doesn’t bring you joy, then we would say for now, marriage isn’t something you wish to create.
Anon N: But I”ve also felt that I’m not sure how much of an interest I’ve had in marriage and children and what I should focus on otherwise. At the same time, I feel I’ve cultivated a solitary life out of convenience and comfort.
Council: And if you’ve created this life, which of course you have, are you happy? Does this feeling of what you do on a daily basis bring you joy? Do you need to add something to it? Your feelings will answer you, but ask the questions.
Anon N: But I’m not sure if it makes sense for me to remain in this solitary life.
Council: You may want a solitary life for a while and then be married. Or you may love the solitary life with the freedom it will give you and you don’t want to be married. There’s no right or wrong answer. There’s no: I’m supposed to do this. You’re supposed to do what you create, what makes you feel good?
Anon N: What do I need to know or hear right now for any kind of direction?
Council: Sit and imagine each scenario. Imagine them over and over again and then always see how you feel. It will lead you in the right direction.
Look at the people around you. Are they happily married? Are they not happily married? Do you look at the people around you and say, Oh, I’d like that. I’d like to have a life like that. Or do you look at the people around you and say, No way. I don’t want to be in a steady relationship, in a marriage to one person forever. That’s not what I want. I feel I want the freedom. And follow these feelings.
See what goes on around you. There will be clues. Your higher self will bring the right people to you to show you, to give you examples, and then you’ll know what to do. It’s your job to pay attention.
Happiness and blessings to everyone. Enjoy yourself. Find your power. Every day create happiness, even if it’s for the littlest thing. Because when you’re in the vibration of happiness you’ll be able to bring into your life at any time what will give you happiness on a longer-term basis. So have fun with it.
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Are The Cause And Cure For Mental Illness The Same As Physical Illness?
This post answers a question from a long-time reader named, Jan.
Jan: The Council’s answer to Linsay’s question about health and sickness is wonderful and empowering. I’d be very interested to know, though, whether the same applies to what we commonly refer to as mental illness.
Council: Mental illness is created by the spirit that’s coming into this reality. Sometimes the spirit wants to experience mental illness because they’ve seen others in other lifetimes go through it and they want more understanding. Sometimes they’ve been with mental illness in another lifetime and didn’t like the way they handled it and they didn’t like the way they went through that reality.
But mostly, people with mental illness are coming into their current reality to help others get more understanding of their condition, to not be afraid of it, and to learn how to communicate and live with someone with mental illness. It’s a wonderful thing, as spirits, that we do that. But mental illness is a choice.
And so we’d say to you, Jan, if you know someone with a mental illness, it’s a gift to you. Look at it that way and send this person love and support in every way you can because you were chosen to be in this person’s life. And so we wish you well on your journey and your learning.
We send you blessings, and joy, and love, and the ability to have wonderful memories, to laugh, to hope, to stretch out your hand and help each other, and enjoy this life that you’ve created.
Remember, no one creates for you. It’s all up to you.
The people around you that you have chosen to be in your life have agreed to come and help you. They’ve agreed to learn from you. There are things they need from this experience of mental illness.
And so you’re all there and everything is planned with love. And when you go back into spirit you’ll go, “Wow, what a trip.” So enjoy and have fun.
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Questions About How We Manifest Our Own Realities
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Firefly.
Firefly: I have some questions regarding manifesting our own realities. Are things like cigarettes and alcohol only bad for my health if I believe they are?
Council: Yes.
Firefly: I hear people warned that these things will lower one’s vibration.
Council: If you believe it will lower your vibration, it will. If you believe it will hurt your body, it will. You must be very sure of your thoughts around this because you’ll create it. And sometimes wondering if it’s bad for you, because you have that thought, it will be bad for you. So we’d suggest if you want to do this, you create yourself having a wonderful life, having a healthy life, and feeling great.
Firefly: Is there a good reason to be thinking about whether one’s vibration is lower or higher?
Council: You will know immediately by how you feel. When you’re depressed or when you’re angry, you know your vibration is low. And so you question: Why are you depressed? Why are you angry? Why are you sad? What’s going on? When you’re laughing, when you’re thinking of memories that have made you happy, when you’re planning the future things that will make you happy, your vibration automatically lifts. So you’re very much in control, and you’ll feel it.
Bob: So you’re saying there is a good reason to think about whether your vibration is lower or higher?
Council: We’d say you don’t have to focus on whether your vibration is high or low. Just focus on how you feel in the moment. What’s going on? And then the way you feel, or what thoughts made you feel that way? And you’ll know exactly how to lower or raise your vibration. It’s that simple.
Firefly: Does it really matter if we think about whether our vibration is lower or higher?
Council: What matters is that you have thoughts that make you feel good. And the more you can do that, you’re automatically in a raised vibration. You are automatically living a good life. And so stay in joy. We say this all the time. The answer to everything is: find the joy and you’ll feel the happiness. Find the love and you’ll feel the happiness. You’ll feel that lift in your vibration and that is the answer. Everything you look at, love it. Show compassion and happiness, and think thoughts that bring you joy, even if it’s something from when you were five years old, if it makes you laugh or if it makes you smile.
We can even say when you meditate or just sit in a chair for five minutes, smile. Sit there and smile. Don’t think of a thing, just smile. You’ll find that you feel better.
Firefly: Do people like me ever decide to indulge in alcohol and cigarettes before coming into this life just for the purpose of having fun?
Council: Yes, of course. And then you can perhaps experience having fun and not needing these things. Or having a life with drugs and alcohol and loving every part of it. It’s how you think about it. You are in control.
Firefly: If I feel like I’d like a better income and more money very quickly, what’s the best way to align with these resources?
Council: Play games, walk into stores, look at expensive stuff, see yourself buying it, see yourself winning the lottery, see yourself with a large bank account, look at your checkbook and write numbers in it that give you much more money than you have. Play the game and experience it. You can buy whatever it is. If you want a house, picture the house. What does it look like? Picture every detail of it and that it’s yours. And the more you practice having the things you want that are expensive, the universe will bring that to you. Actually it’s you that’s putting out into the universe, “This is what I want.” And when you realize this is what you want, and you have fun with it, it must come to you.
Firefly: I’m in a loving relationship with a man who’s a good friend. By imagining how I’d like the relationship to expand and go in beautiful directions, am I creating this relationship?
Council: Of course. You create with your thoughts
Firefly: Is he creating a completely different reality or relationship, or are we creating one together?
Council: What he’s creating can be different, but if you do come together, then that part of you that’s creating it, you’ll both create it and come together. And there are so many different parts of you that part can go off and create something very different, but you won’t experience it because the part of you that’s in your current reality wanting this, because you want it, and you focus, and you create it, you will have it.
Firefly: Does this creation stretch over many of our lifetimes?
Council: Anything you can create, you can create in any lifetime, over and over again if that’s what you wish.
Bob: Do you see Firefly and the man she’s in a relationship with have shared previous lifetimes?
Council: Most of the lifetimes were as siblings, and so that has no bearing on what’s created in your current lifetime. Focus on what you want now.
Firefly: I sometimes want another child with this man who I love. I have three children from a previous relationship. Is it outlandish to want to manifest a baby that’s ours, but have the pregnancy be delightful and non-damaging to my body at age 43?
Council: Why is that outlandish? Just that thought will keep you from creating it. You can create anything you want. If this is what you want at this time of your life, of course you can create it, but the doubts will get in the way. And so it doesn’t matter. There are women that are older that have created pregnancies. Think of what you want and why you want it. Does it bring you happiness? Then go off and create it. See it and feel it like it’s already yours.
Firefly: By doing my best to visualize getting pregnant, can we really create an outcome that defies what we believe we’ve learned from scientific observation?
Council: You can create a future that has nothing to do with scientific information. You can create something that’s way off the charts. There’s no limit. If 100 people say you can not create this because of reasons A, B, C, etc., it doesn’t matter. What matters is what you believe. And so take the limits off and create whatever it is.
Firefly: My child is worrying me and I want this child to be safe and well. How can I help them best?
Council: See it. Connect with the spirit that has agreed to come into your life. If it’s something you both want, if you agreed upon it in spirit and the spirit said, Well, let’s look at your life at the time I want to come in. Is it something I want to experience? Is it something I want to share with you? Everything is possible. Connect to the spirit, offer it a home, offer it safety, offer it help, offer it happiness, and most of all offer it love.
Firefly: How much power do I have to create change for others?
Council: You can not create change for others. Everyone is their own creator. You can help them. You can create what you know they want and see it for them to give them more support, more energy, and strength to stay with the thought of what they want, but you can not create it.
Firefly: Is it possible, in imagining all that one wishes to manifest, to be asking too much or employing greed?
Council: There’s no greed. There’s no limitation on what you can ask for. Everybody can have everything they want. There’s no limit to anything. And so if you want 100 different things, you are not taking them away from another person. There’s enough for everyone. Use your power of manifestation.
And so we send you blessings, and joy, and love, and the ability to have wonderful memories, to laugh, and to hope, and to stretch out your hand and help each other, and enjoy this life that you’ve created. Remember, no one creates for you. It’s all up to you. The people around you that you’ve chosen to be in your life have agreed to come and help you. They’ve agreed to learn from you. There are things that they need from this.
And so you’re all there, everything is planned with love, and when you go back into spirit you’ll go, “Wow, what a trip.” So enjoy and have fun.
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Why Am I Plagued With Injuries That Prevent Me From Running?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader about their running injuries.
Anon: I’ve been plagued by running issues lately. Running is critical to my mental and physical health. It’s also time spent connecting with friends.
Council: A belief that you have is that running is critical for you. When your spirit is ready to change that belief, which we see is coming up, you will change the thought that it is critical. It is not critical. It is a belief. Slowing you down by not having you run is your higher self telling you there’s more to learn, there’s more to do. And so when you don’t slow down and look at your life and at options, it’s common to have something happen that will slow you down.
And so we’d say meditate and examine the thought: Why do you think running is critical to your health? Believing this will make it critical, but there’s nothing critical to your health. What is critical is what you believe. And so when you believe you are spirit, you are in control. And it’s possible it’s time to let up on the running, maybe just for a while, and learn something else.
Anon: Why do I keep injuring myself while running?
Council: To give you more time to explore.
Anon: My knee, my foot, it’s driving me crazy. I don’t have time or money for physical therapy and I don’t understand why it’s necessary.
Council: It’s necessary because you need the time to discover more about yourself, to discover more interests, to perhaps change your path and increase what it is in your life, and to practice manifesting what it is in your life. And so that is why this is happening.
Anon: Aren’t our bodies meant to be in motion?
Council: Some bodies are and some aren’t.
Anon: I feel like my vibration is highest when I run often, so I’m trying to understand where these barriers are coming from.
Council: Ahh, so you’ll find a way to feel a high vibration without having to run. Very interesting.
Anon: I’ll take it easy, but then can I meditate myself back to a near-daily run?
Council: You can, but your higher self knows what you’ve planned before coming into this reality. And so trust your higher self. Meditate. Instead of meditating on running again, meditate to see how to expand. What’s out there that your higher self, which is you, has planned for you in this lifetime? What a wonderful adventure that is.
When you meditate, connect with your higher self and say, “Show me the way. What is it that we planned?” And let go and relax, and don’t be consumed about having to run. You’ll find your world expanding and you’ll learn more about yourself. And so we say relax and meditate.
Look how smart your higher self is when you’ve planned something and you aren’t heading in that direction. So something is created, which is the knee, ankle, and leg problems, to have you go and find the time and go in the direction of the things you wanted to learn. It’s a wonderful gift.
And so we send you blessings, and joy, and love, and the ability to have wonderful memories, to laugh, and hope, and stretch out your hand and help each other, and enjoy this life that you’ve created. Remember, no one creates for you. It’s all up to you. The people around you that you’ve chosen to be in your life have agreed to come and help you. They’ve agreed to learn from you. There are things that they need from your experience. And so you are all there, everything is planned with love, and when you go back into spirit you’ll go: “Wow, what a trip.” So enjoy and have fun.
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Was My Mother’s Death A Natural One?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Vibrationally Aware.
Vibrationally Aware: I just found out my mother was found dead in a hotel room today. I’m sad and I want to know two things. Was it a natural death? And does she have a message for me and my siblings?
Council: Was it a natural death? Each death – even though there is no such thing as death – each transition is planned. The way out of this reality, the ending of this reality, is planned by the spirit. And so, yes, it was a natural transition. Was it expected? No. There were health problems, we see here, but from what we see, all has gone exactly as was planned.
We understand you’re sad, but we’d like you to focus more on: She completed a life, she’s in spirit now, she’s learning from this experience, sharing with the other spirits what it was like, what was felt, what was learned, and leaves lessons for you and the family.
And so we’d advise you to ask yourself, besides the sadness, what have you learned from your mother’s life? What did she teach you by her actions? How did she respond to problems? And how did she move forward in her life?
Your mother’s passing was set up to teach the family, and we see there’s a lot of chaos that’s gone on there. And now each person, because of this shock, must learn to deal with a mother transitioning, understanding this is how she planned to end this reality and what your mother was all about. Each person is to learn about themselves through this transitioning, and that is the most important thing. We here know she’s among us and she is fine and she is happy, and when she’s ready she’ll create another reality and move on.
And so your lesson and the family’s lesson in all of this is, what did you experience? How is this experience helping you to move forward in your life? And to come to a place where you can focus on the thought that she’s very happy. And where she is, she can see you, she can see how you develop, and how you move on. And even from that, she will learn. And perhaps in her next incarnation, she’ll use what she’s learned from seeing you do what she’d want, to create in her next life. And so it’s all about creation. it’s all about what was experienced, and how to move on.
Bob: Vibrationally Aware asks if her mother has a message for her and her siblings, in addition to what you’ve already mentioned?
Council: The message always is that they send you love. The message is: Try not to separate within the family, and be together when it’s possible. It was important for her to know that her presence could somehow hold this family together. And from where she is, she’d like to see how you move forward. And so when you can, stay together. Show each other love. Try to understand each other, and that would make her feel happier, from where she came from to where she is now.
And the answer to all questions about how to improve your life and your reality is to be grateful for everything, have positive thoughts, and send yourself and others love.
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What Past Lives Did I Chose To Work On In This Life, And Why?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Maureen.
Maureen: I’d like to know the main scenarios of the past lives that I chose to continue to work on in my current lifetime, and why.
Council: There’s never one thing you want to accomplish in each life, but what we see here is the main thing that’s happened in other lives that you’d like to work on in this life is self-esteem and teaching.
Look at the life you’ve created now. Are you proud of your creations? Are you satisfied and feel happy about what you’re doing? Is there more you want to do and don’t feel capable of?
To work on that you must look at yourself, see what you desire, and then find a way – and we always say the quickest way is meditation – to meditate and see it, and then see yourself accomplishing it, whatever it is. It could be the tiniest thing or winning a million dollars. But it’s very important for you to see your accomplishments in your current lifetime, and then to help others that are in a place with low self-esteem. You’ve experienced that in other lives.
First find a way to look at yourself, see your accomplishments, be grateful for them, then see what else you want to accomplish, and then share these desires, even if it’s just with friends. Share what you want, and as you share it, just that little bit plants a seed in others, and they will learn from you, and they will go on and accomplish more.
Those are the main topics that you want to be done at this time. There’s plenty of work to be done there. And so we’d say, now it the time to work on this.
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Do We Have To Unite With Our Twin Flame To Spiritually Ascend, Or With Our Multidimensional Self?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Bluestar Child.
Bluestar Child: In general, is it necessary to unite with your twin flame to spiritually ascend from the third dimension here on Earth, or is it an attachment of the ego that we need to let go of and actually have to unite with our own multi-dimensional selves?
Council: Exactly, let go of the ego. You don’t need anything or anyone else to move up the ladder and go from one dimension to another, which you’ve already done.
And so it’s the beliefs that you must have a twin soul, you have to have a soulmate. No. You need to create what you want with your thoughts. You need, in your prayers, in your meditations, to always want to connect with that higher part of you that knows what it wants to do, that knows what you wanted to experience in this lifetime. That’s all that’s needed. No one else is needed.
BS: Is there a true twin flame?
Council: When you create a twin flame, you take a part of your spirit and send it out there and create the kind of person you want this twin flame to be in your life. So it’s you (as a spirit) taking on the persona of another person: a man, a woman, an animal, whatever it is. But it is you, and you can create this as many times as you want and in as many realities as you want. The twin flame is you.
It’s like you looking in a mirror and saying, “Let me put on this Halloween costume and let me see what I find with this person that I’m creating. What is it about me that I want to learn? Why do I want to create this twin flame so I can feel comfortable? Why do I want to create this twin flame so that I can have a lot in common, so that I can grow at a pace that feels comfortable, that I’m supported by someone (and that someone is you) to go through this reality and [go through] what I want to experience.”
Bob: Do you differentiate between the terms twin flame and soulmate?
Council: The soulmate is someone that you create because you think this soulmate will be the great love of your life. And it’s another spirit that’s agreed to come into your life and play that part.
But when you create this twin flame, it’s the mirror of you. And so there’s not another spirit that’s involved in that.
Bob: So on the subject of twin flames, if it’s another person, how is there not another spirit involved in that?
Council: A twin flame is you. It’s a part of you that you’ve sent out to come in the form of a person, or an animal, or whatever it is that you need.
A soulmate is another soul that perhaps you’ve been in other lifetimes with, or it can be someone new, but it’s a different soul, a different spirit that said, “Yes, I will come in and be whatever we decide we need to be in this lifetime.”
The twin flame is you creating with you.
Bob: I think I understand. It sounds like you’re saying that in spirit you send a part of yourself and create another person, but it’s your actual spirit in the form of another person.
Council: Exactly.
Bob: And you’re calling them a twin flame.
Council: Yes.
Bob: It doesn’t involve the spirit or soul of another.
Council: Excellent, Bob. Yes, you’ve got it.
Bob: But the soulmate…
Council: …is another spirit.
Bob: Thank you very much for that clarification. I appreciate that.
Council: Good question.
Bob: Now we have a point of clarification that we’d like to ask about in our post where we answered Bluestar Child’s first four out of five questions. It was a post entitled, Do I Have A Twin Flame, Not A Soulmate?
Early in that post Bluestar Child said, “I would like to ask The Council if I have a twin flame, and I don’t mean a soulmate.” And you said, You’re going to try to answer them. This can be difficult to understand.” And we appreciate that you just provided some of that clarification.
Council: Yes, we’ve just given you the simplest explanation.
Bob: Now in that previous post, just after that statement, you said, “We were all created at the same time. There are no new souls.” And then you said, “There are souls that are new by creating your current reality.” And we’d like some clarification on those three statements.
Council: There are no new souls, but we’ll say there are millions, or a nice word that Cynthia likes, cazillions of souls everywhere, in every reality, in every dimension. And so there’s not a new soul being born. What happens is, in your reality when you bring a person in, it’s someone that’s agreeing to be here. It’s not a brand new soul. When you give birth, it’s not a brand new soul. The soul could be thousands of years old. We are all here. We are all doing many, many, many things.
So there’s no need to create a new soul. When you feel you want to create something, there’s nothing brand new. You’ll send out a part of yourself for whatever reason so that to your human mind it seems like a new soul, but it isn’t. There’s no need for anything new. We’re all here forever.
Bob: That’s interesting. So it sounds like you’re saying that on a spiritual level, all souls were created at the same time.
Council: Always was, always will be. And there are no words in your language to explain this. It’s just that we’re vibration and we are energy that goes on forever. There is a change in form perhaps, but we are always there.
Bob: And the change in form doesn’t involve any new souls?
Council: Exactly. And believe this or not, we all know each other, all cazillion trillion millions. We’re all connected. How wonderful is that? That will blow your mind.
Bob: So when you say there are souls that are new by creating your current reality, you’re saying that an old soul can seem new by bringing them into our current reality and experiencing them for the first time.
Council: Exactly. It could be a soul that you’ve never been with before so they would feel new.
Bob: But this soul and all souls were originally created all at the same time.
Council: Exactly.
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Why Did I Choose This Life And My Husband?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Elizabeth.
Elizabeth: I have severe childhood trauma. I’ve never felt so lost in life. I’m 37 years old. Growing up I had a very turbulent environment with no therapy. I’m not sure if I can trust my thoughts. I feel crazy and lonely. When I was 26, my son was diagnosed with cancer. When I was 32 I lost my sister to heroin. My parents are still drunks and I feel like I’m their parent.
What’s worse, I’m not sure if I’ve settled in my marriage. I’m unfulfilled internally and I’m not sure what I should do. Fear is definitely there. Can you tell me why I chose this life, and why I chose my husband?
Council: You chose this life with all these experiences you mention to find yourself and to learn about yourself. How do you handle deaths in your family? How do you handle being in a relationship that you think you’ve settled for? How have you gotten through and handled your childhood traumas? It’s all about looking at yourself.
And so here, until now, you’ve had a difficult reality. So we say, Where’s your hope? Where’s your focus now?
You can feel lonely. And of course if you meditate you’ll eventually learn that you’re not alone. There are guides, there are angels, and there are ancestors that are around you to help you. But you need to sit down in quiet time and ask for this help. Go through every issue one at a time. Tell yourself: I need to understand this. How do I change my feelings about this? And know, absolutely without any doubt, that you will get the answers to your questions. You are not alone.
It’s the reality you created to go through these experiences, feel the loneliness, and then say, I must change this. I feel horrible. I don’t understand this. And you know what? I don’t want to go through this anymore. So let’s see what I can do.
And so you find joy. If you have to watch a movie, if you need to read a book, if you need to put on music, or do anything that will immediately uplift you. And when you’re in this beautiful, uplifting vibration, start thinking about what you want. What is something new you can bring in? And then follow that desire. Follow that idea in your head. Don’t give up on it.
Your purpose for coming into this life was to experience things from past lifetimes that you needed to repeat here – the losses and the sadness – but this time around you wanted to not just experience it, but to change it.
Bob: Can you give Elizabeth any clues about why she chose her husband?
Council: Because she’s been with this person in other lifetimes – and we see here there were a few good relationships – when this other soul was planning this path they agreed to come again and be supportive, or not be supportive and make things more difficult so that she’d learn on her own that she could change it. And so it was from being in spirit and deciding to come in and be whatever was needed for you to realize you can change things.
So you haven’t settled. You have agreed in spirit to this marriage. This person is here. Do you wish for your marriage to work out? Then you focus on that. Do you wish to move on and create something else? Then you focus on that. But you’re not settling. You’re going through all the things you wanted to go through to learn that you are the creator.
And many, many people at this time are going through their lives and realizing, I’m in charge here. My God, I can make this happier. What have I been doing being miserable? I can really change this job, this relationship, this sickness, this loneliness, this sadness. I can change all of it.
And so there’s a great shift taking place in your reality at this time. Everyone is heading toward feeling better about themselves and they are starting to create exactly what it is that they want.
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Do I Have A Twin Flame, Not A Soulmate?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Bluestar Child.
BSC: I would like to ask The Council if I have a twin flame, and I don’t mean a soulmate?
Council: Ahh, here we go again. In your reality so many have decided to bring in this twin flame or this soulmate. This can be difficult for you to understand, but we’ll put it out there in as gentle and simple a way as we can.
We were all created at the same time. There are no new souls. There are souls that are new by creating your current reality*. And so this twin soul that you’re looking for…
Bob: Twin flame?
Council: The twin flame that you’re looking for is you. You are the twin flame, the twin soul. When you meet this person you say, “Is this my twin flame because I look at this person and I feel so connected? We like so many of the same things. We say the same words. We understand the same things.”
It’s because this person is you in another form. This person is a mirror that’s reflecting part of yourself back to you. Isn’t that interesting?
BSC: What spiritual contract did I have with George, a boy I studied with at university? Was he my twin flame, or was he just another soulmate in my life?
Council: He was just another soulmate. You had a connection way back in Lemuria where you worked together, working with energy, working with crystals, working with the environment, and working with plants. And we see here in that particular life there was a great friendship between the two of you. And so you’ve come back together in your current life to meet, to recognize each other on a higher level, and to have a greater understanding of some particular things in this reality. And so there should be comfort in that relationship, but it’s another soul.
BSC: If I have a twin flame, but it’s not this boy, George, is my twin flame incarnated on another planet (for example, in the Plieades, where I come from, or another dimension), or is he in my current incarnation?
Council: This twin flame, as we’ve said, is you. And so when you meet someone, and you can meet many people in this reality and think, this is my twin flame, because each part of you will be reflected back to you in different ways, but you’ll feel the connection. You are connecting to another part of you that wishes to give you comfort and show you another way to handle things. It’s you teaching you how to be. And it’s wonderful because you’re just relying on you.
BSC: If he is incarnated now, have I met him? Or do I have to meet him in this life?
Council: There will be a meeting. What we see, what is planned, quite soon you’ll meet this part of you.
Bob: So Bluestar Child will meet a man who she’ll consider a twin flame?
Council: In her current reality there’s a spirit that will appear in her current life that will be considered, because of the connection which will be felt, would be considered a twin flame. It hasn’t happened yet.
*Note: It’s not clear to Cynthia and me what The Council means when they say, “We’re all created at the same time. There are no new souls. There are souls that are new by creating your current reality.” We intend to ask The Council for clarification on these points and either publish them soon in a new post, or we’ll update the current post to make their ideas more clear. Thanks for your patience.
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How Can We Advance Humankind And Help The Universe Evolve?
This post answers two very important questions for The Council from a reader named, Richard.
Richard: Will you summarize the general guidelines for what each person can do to positively contribute to the advancement of humankind and the evolution of the universe?
Council: For everyone who’s reincarnated, it was always your decision to come here to have fun, to find different ways to do things, and to have new experiences. So how do you evolve? What makes things better?
What makes things better is if you can go day to day, no matter what goes on in your life, and feel love. That’s what makes things better. Show kindness to yourself and others. Say kind words, be uplifting, and help out. Know and feel when you do these good things and tune into yourself. How do you feel? Because doing good for others will always make you feel good.
Bring white light into this reality. And when you focus on bringing the white light in for your whole planet, that helps to bring more positive thoughts not only to yourself, but everyone. This white light and acts of love and kindness will change the reality you’ve created. And that is how you advance. You stand strong in the reality of: you are spirit and you are love. You’ve come in here to spread this love everywhere. And when you can connect with that love and share it on a daily basis, you evolve. And it’s wonderful because you bring everyone in your reality with you. It affects everyone when you are kind.
Bob: So it sounds like you’re saying the advancement of humankind and the evolution of the Universe depends on the advancement of the individual and the evolution of the individual.
Council: Every individual has a position in this reality of bringing forth love. You knew this and planned it, and jumped in here with the attitude that: I will bring forth love no matter what. When you do this, understand it’s the energy you’re putting out there. It’s not just for you. And the more you love, it grows and grows to the people around you, to where you live, to the whole planet.
And many don’t realize this, but the energy you put out and the thoughts you put out affect everyone. You are releasing these thoughts, these vibrations, and these feelings. Would you like to be part of changing your world into something positive, or something negative?
It’s so simple. You don’t have to go and fight a war. You don’t have to try to do this and try to do that. You just have to love, and show it every day.
Bob: So to restate what I said before, by showing love on a personal level you’re advancing humankind and the evolution of the Universe?
Council: Yes.
And also we watch you every day. We see how you handle things. We see how you’re living your life. And when you’re in this love and you’re spreading it, it doesn’t stop there. It affects us in spirit. We grow from this. We are in a place of great love, and when you’re negative, we are still positive, but when you show love and you put more love out there, we grow also.
Richard: What can individuals do to discover their soul’s purpose for incarnating?
Council: Everyone has a different purpose. The main purpose is what we’ve said about love. Maybe in this lifetime you want to be a teacher, maybe this lifetime you want to travel a lot, maybe this time you want a family. And that is secondary because no matter what you pick, the traveling, the family, the teacher, the actor, everything you do, the main point of you being here is to spread love in what you choose this lifetime.
Many people in your reality think, what did I choose to do? Am I doing the right thing? When you’re in spirit there are many that don’t choose anything. There are many that say: Let me just jump in and wherever I see I’m needed, if it feels good I’m going to do it. If I can help others I’m going to do it. I’m going to meditate. I’m going to help people through their hard times. I’m going to send beautiful thoughts out. They say this because their higher self knows this is true.
The #1 reason to be here isn’t should I do this? Should I open a store? Should I open a gym? The #1 reason you’re here is to be of service and to show love. And as you show it to others you will feel it. You’ll also grow. You will also bring peace to this world.
And as we’ve said before, when the time comes there will be so much love, there will be so much peace, and there will be many diseases where all of a sudden cures are found. There will be many diseases that no longer exist. They’ll be wiped out. And that’s from the work you do by showing love.
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Pregnant With An Unplanned Third Child At 40 That My Husband Doesn’t Want?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, L.
L: I’d love to ask The Council’s advice. I’ve recently determined I’m pregnant with our third child. It was unplanned, and I’m 40 years old. I’m struggling to find clarity in my heart about what to do. We’re in a big transition, seeking a new home and work. And physically I feel how challenging another child would be on my body and my energy. And my husband doesn’t want another child.
Council: You already know your husband doesn’t want this child. It sounds like you have a problem with knowing how you’d handle this new child and that it will be stressful.
And so we’ll say here, where we can never make the decision for you, it’s so wonderful that no matter what you decide, we see here that this spirit, and you, and your husband have agreed to either way, having the baby or not having the baby. It was thought that spirit would come in at a certain time and you would then all decide, were you ready?
And so if it’s something that makes you uncomfortable, that you don’t feel in your heart it is a good decision, it’s okay not to bring forth this child into this reality. You’ve all agreed to this. And so there’s no wrongdoing. There’s nothing to feel guilty about. The child will go on and, if it wishes, be born to another couple. It may stay in the spirit world for a while, or a long time. Nobody will suffer from this.
And so the decision is yours, and it should be made with love. You and your husband send each other love and send this spirit love. This spirit already is sending you love.
And so everything, no matter which way you decide, will be perfect.
L: And yet I also feel it’s a divine blessing to conceive without trying, and there’s immense grief considering how to end the pregnancy.
Council: It’s a divine blessing because you are divine, the child is divine, your husband is divine, and you’d agreed to have this child if it was at a good time and if it would be good for all three of you. So the three of you brought this pregnancy forward and brought it through with the knowledge that if it wasn’t a good time to have this child, you could end the pregnancy and release the child.
L: It’s very early, but I wouldn’t wish to wait very long if we take this path of stopping the pregnancy.
Council: This is understandable so all of you can go on. The spirit can go on, you can go on, and your husband can go on.
L: Can you shed any light on spirit and moving forward with love for our entire family?
Council: There’s all love for you in spirit. All of you have it within you. All of your higher selves know what’s planned. And any decision, and we say it again, any decision that you make is perfect.
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Where Should I Relocate To?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader.
Anon: I no longer feel like I’m living in the correct place. I’m drawn to relocate to either a new province, or overseas where my husband grew up.
Council: We see here already that this was your desire in pre-planning this incarnation, so we suggest you follow through on that. And also, when you do relocate, there will be beneficial ways to travel, and to see other places, and to meet other people. That was all that was wanted also in this incarnation.
Anon: Moving overseas feels more freeing to me…
Council: Yes
Anon: … but I’m concerned because the country appears to be politically unstable.
Council: At this time in your incarnation there are a lot of places that feel unstable. And yet it’s your choice to be there to learn how to experience it, how to deal with it, and to turn it around and make it favorable for you and your family.
Bob: So it sounds like the pre-planning was to move overseas to the country where her husband grew up.
Council: Yes.
Anon: I feel the urge to move quite quickly and I’m not sure where this is coming from. I was wondering if The Council could provide some guidance for me. Thank you very much. I really enjoy reading all the questions and responses.
Council: The feeling of moving more quickly is because you want to get on your path and experience what you wished to do in pre-planning this. There’s nothing negative about that feeling, but it’s just your higher self telling you, “Okay, let’s do it.” And it will be a wonderful experience for you.
Bob: Getting back to what you mentioned earlier about in their travels, there was something about other places.
Council: Yes, and it could be just day trips or week trips or just to move around, but it all will be beneficial and for things that are wanted.
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Please Help Me With Some Career Guidance
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Linda.
Linda: I would like to ask The Council if they could guide me regarding my career calling.
When I was a teenager I thought I knew exactly what university to go to and what to study. Unfortunately my plans were disrupted by physical and emotional abuse from my father and stepmother, and my plans to study stopped making sense. I started to feel lost in my life and many things stopped giving me joy.
Council: That feeling of being lost, when you remember that feeling, that was one of the things you wanted to do when you came here. It was to help people that also had problems of feeling lost, whatever their reasons were. That’s part of why you pre-planned this experience of being lost.
Now that you know you pre-planned this, in order to move forward it’s good to review your pre-plan, to go through the memories of feeling lost, what you felt like, and if you wished you had someone help you, what would that look like? This will give you a clue about what you have to learn to move forward in your career.
Linda: My family was always important to me, and losing them caused me great pain and grief.
Council: And so you’ll meet others that lose parts of their family, whether from abuse, or death, or sickness, or moving far away. You’ll find people who are suffering the loss of family.
Linda: Instead of focusing on my career choice, I was looking for answers to my questions. I wanted to know why I went through so much hardship as a child in so many ways.
Council: You went through this to learn from it, to recognize it, and to have such compassion and such understanding when others come to you with that problem.
Linda: Now I know that this experience was a pre-birth agreement I made…
Council: Exactly.
Linda: …and that the purpose in my life is to help people.
Council: Exactly.
Linda: But I still don’t know how to help. Can you please help me and guide me on this?
Council: You can help people by being a friend and listening to what they need to share. And sometimes listening is just having an ear so they feel someone is there for them and you don’t have to jump in with how to fix it. Sometimes helping people is taking classes and getting licenses to run your own business the way you want to help people. And sometimes you can volunteer for abused children or orphans. You can volunteer for the elderly, who will feel very lost because their families have no time for them.
There are many, many ways you can reach out and help. But we’d say, at first, listen to your friends, listen to the people you know, or people you work with. What are they talking about? And without making a big deal about it, say something that will help. Show some compassion. That’s how you begin to help. And you’ll see more and more people will be drawn to you because they’ll feel your energy of wanting to be there for them. And so start slowly and start simply.
Linda: Thinking back on what I really love, I found that I enjoyed finding answers to my challenges. I also enjoy helping children because I feel I can connect well with them. Is the right path for me to become a Child Psychologist?
Council: That’s a wonderful path for you. When you think about it, how do you feel? Does it give you joy? Are you excited to go into this? Are you excited to take on studying and to learn and share it? If you get joy, then this is exactly what’s meant for you.
Linda: And start studying psychology?
Council: Yes.
Linda: If not, is there a profession that’s right for me that I’d find fulfilling and be able to help those who’ve been through something similar to me?
Council: Anything with children, anything with the elderly, whether you went into nursing, whether you went into being a caregiver for many people, or you just took care of one person on an ongoing basis. You need to find places where you’re needed, where people need you.
And when you look around and have it in your mind that you want to help people, all of a sudden doors will open because you’re in line with your intention. Just by thinking, “I want to help, where do I go?” you’re putting that out there and you’ll always be shown the way.
Bob: It sounds like you’re saying that studying Psychology is good for Linda, but it may not be necessary.
Council: Anything that makes you feel good, going back to school and learning Psychology and having a career in this, if it feels good, it’s for you. If you’d rather not go through all that schooling and just work in a nursing home, in a hospital, or in an orphanage, then that’s the way to go.
When you think of each thing to try, stop and see how you feel. Okay, I’m going to study Psychology. How does that feel? Okay, I’m going to work in a nursing home. How does that feel? Okay, I’m going to go volunteer with children in an after-school program. How does that feel? Everything that occurs to you to do, stop, sit with it, how does it feel? See yourself doing these things. How does it feel? And your answer will be right in front of you.
Linda: When I look at the people around me, I feel like they all know what they’re supposed to do in life.
Council: Everyone thinks everyone else knows what to do. Everyone knows what path to be on. Everyone knows how wonderful life is. And of course, everyone is going through their own challenges and their own personal growth. Many people have no idea what they’re supposed to do in life. They take a jump, a leap of faith, and try something. We think this is wonderful, but when you take that jump, before you jump, before you lift your feet off the ground, how does it feel?
Linda: And I’m ashamed that I still don’t know what to do.
Council: It’s wonderful that you don’t know what to do. Because by putting it out there – I don’t know, I need signs, I need a direction – you’ll create many different possibilities. You’re not just honed to one thing. Think about what you’re doing as an adventure. I don’t know what to do, but it’s coming to me. I’ll be shown the way. And of course, you will be.
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What Profession Am I Supposed To Pursue?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Bluestar Child.
BC: I’m feeling like I’m in a tunnel and I don’t see the light at the end. I studied to work with immigrants, but there isn’t much work in this field and they don’t pay much for it. So I decided to change my course and study Veterinary Nursing, but after several years I’m stuck and I can’t finish it. I feel disappointed and very tired, and I don’t know whether to leave this path or not. I’d like to know if the real reason for this situation is because this job isn’t truly aligned with my life mission.
Council: So many people in your reality think there’s a mission, or there’s something they have to do, and that’s not true. If you don’t plan in spirit something that you want to do, or express, or learn about, you just come here to be, to have fun, to bump into other spirits that you’ll know. You’ll find things to do that just bring you interest and you learn about. There’s no mission that you must accomplish. You’re just here to be.
And sometimes you’ll try different things and nothing gives you joy. You’d never stay in a career that doesn’t give you joy. If it was pre-planned in spirit and you went to work at whatever it is, you’d find joy in it. If you don’t find joy in it, it wasn’t pre-planned. You don’t come to the Earth path to be miserable. You come here to find wonderful things to do, to recognize each other, to love each other, and spread the love around. That’s why you’re here.
BC: I feel lost. I don’t know if I’ve been wrong about everything. I’d like to know what would be the profession or activities I’m supposed to do, or for which I have more qualities in this incarnation.
Council: Okay, so as we’ve said, there’s no suppose, but because you’ve done it before, you wanted the freedom to have a lot of fun in this life. So you thought, perhaps it would be fun to work with very young children and teach them about life through games, and teach them to be creative.
And so you can study, if you like, how to work with children. You can become a teacher. You can become what we’d call a caretaker and just work for one family, and care for children and teach them. You can learn how to be an assistant in a daycare center. And so the thing was you wanted to teach through joy.
Bob: Do you have any comments on Bluestar Child pursuing the Veterinary Nursing career?
Council: Only pursue that if it gives you joy. You worked with animals in other lifetimes and loved it. Well maybe you don’t love it this time. And so we’d say, what you thought would be fun was to be an adult, but still able to be a child.
BC: I’d also like to know if I could earn enough money in Veterinary Nursing to emancipate myself from my family.
Council: Yes, of course. If you go into this seriously and find joy in it … make sure you find joy in it. When you feel the joy, you’ll get offers of where to work or what to do, and you’ll find a way to create the financial abundance that you want. It will come from loving what you do.
BC: I’m trying to manifest my future work using the Law of Attraction, but I no longer have a clear image of what I want to do, so it’s more difficult for me to do.
Council: And so you can always ask for signs. Let me see something walking down the street, let me see something in a movie, let me hear something. Show me something that would be of interest.
You can even work in a library among books and be the librarian that sits and reads stories to children once a day or twice a week. Anything with children, which is what you wanted, would be fun.
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Who Is This Older Man I Experienced A Strong Connection With?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Cretu.
Cretu: Long ago I experienced a very strong connection with a man 29 years older than me. Nothing happened between us. It was a silent knowing, just by looking into each other’s eyes and smiling at each other – a very pure form of bonding.
Council: It was a recognition with someone you’ve been with in other lifetimes.
Cretu: People around us became immediately aware of this energy and my life started to slowly get intoxicated by cruelty and jealousy to the point that years later I became a recluse. One girl went to a fortune teller and asked them to do something bad to me. I never believed in these things, but my life truly went downhill a few years later.
Council: Apparently you do believe that other people can create something bad in your life because no one can do anything bad to you. Many people say they don’t believe in curses or bad things being sent to them, but on a deeper level they do believe it. And so because of this belief, they start seeing things going downhill in their life.
It’s very important for you to know that you’re in charge of your life. If anything is going downhill, if you’re experiencing many challenges and much unhappiness, you are creating this from your thoughts.
The number one thing would be to meditate that you’re in spirit. You come here to the Earth path and you know that you’re in complete control of your life. Anything you’re experiencing, you’re creating it. When your life is uncomfortable, you’re creating it to see, know, and believe you can change it.
Bob: So when Cretu says that she became intoxicated by cruelty and jealousy, she chose to experience the cruelty and jealousy?
Council: Exactly. It was there and it was Cretu’s choice to let it in, but it was your choice on how you’d let this cruelty and jealousy affect you. Could you laugh at it? Can you let it go? Or will it overwhelm you, bring you sadness, and make you nervous? This cruelty and jealousy were experienced by you so you could see how you chose to experience it.
Bob: Any comments on what Cretu says about years later becoming a recluse?
Council: This was all her choice. This was out of fear and out of believing everything is going wrong.
Cretu: When I was in this man’s presence, I used to vibrate with such joy and love that I never felt anywhere else in the world. Just the thought of him would connect me with the source and my higher self. It was magical, and I could tell that it was reciprocated, even though we never told each other it was magical.
Council: This man came into your life to help you to connect with the source. And when you were connected and you knew that feeling was so wonderful, when this person is no longer in your life, it was your experience that would make you try to connect with source and your higher self without this person, and of course you can do that.
Cretu: I’d like to know who and what this person is to me, and who and what I am to him.
Council: You are spirits that have come together before, you have experienced lifetimes together, you learned well together, and you decided to take another crack at this process this time around.
Cretu: I’ve always wondered if there was a past life connection between us.
Council: You’ve come together in past lives as siblings, mothers, and fathers. You’ve switched roles. You’ve been partners before. For many lifetimes you wished to learn the same things, and so you jump in together in different lifetimes to create what you wanted to experience. It’s a wonderful partnership that comes together every now and then, and you’ve chosen this partnership in your current life.
Bob: Any comments on the 29-year age difference between Cretu and this man?
Council: Not at all. This connection was wanted and it was pre-planned that there would be such an age difference. It would just be when their meeting occurred, a recognition, a comfortable feeling, and being elated in the feeling of love because that’s who we truly are. And working together in past lives it was easy to connect to that emotion of who we really are as love and light when we’d be with that person, or even think of that person. It’s still possible.
Cretu: In two different periods of my life I experienced flashbacks from past lives and there’s one scene that’s haunted me forever – the silhouette of a man with a hat and cloak walking at night, and the same man lying with me on the ground in the street as one of us was dying, and promising to each other that our love would have been stronger than death.
It’s not easy to describe what happens to me when I connect with different times. It literally takes me away from the present, and all my soul and mind. I hope I can find answers through The Council.
Council: It’s very important when you had these images to see them and feel them. You can try and find out more about it, like what happened right before that scene in the street, or what happened after it. That’s an experience to connect with the past.
But we tell you that you are here now to focus on the now. It’s important not to keep going back to that past, or to any past. Take a look here and there, but live your life in your present. That’s what you intended to do – create in this lifetime.
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Is There An Evil Spirit Around Me And/Or My Children?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Sonaliv27.
Sonaliv: Is there a spirit or something around me and/or my children?
Council: There are always spirits around you, and there’s nothing to fear with this. It’s just that you’re one of many who wish to come into this reality and learn to experience more than what’s usual.
You want to experience connections with spirits from other realms, and the spirits there have come to you to help you connect with this. If at any time you feel this is too much for you, or you don’t want this connection, then you can easily ignore this and you won’t create it. There’s no reason for concern that these are what you’d call bad spirits. They’re just here because you wanted this from a spiritual perspective.
When you were in spirit and you were planning your current lifetime, you wanted to come in and then to grow, to experience more, and to be open to new experiences that would help you realize who you are. You wanted to help realize that you’re also a spirit, and you’re so much more than your physical body that you travel around in. That’s why you may feel these spirits around you, but we’d say there’s no reason to be concerned. You’re always in control.
Sonaliv: Is this spirit evil?
Council: This spirit is not evil. There are many spirits that are coming in because they’re part of the agreement to help the ones in the physical to realize there’s so much more. It’s a teacher. It’s here to give you a different experience. You can always go with it, learn from it, and experience it, or take it out of your consciousness. Don’t give it any focus and it will leave.
Sonaliv: How do I make this spirit leave?
Council: Make sure that you truly want this spirit to leave, because you are the creator and you did create having this spirit come into your life for the purpose of learning.
And so we send you all blessings, and all the wonderful thoughts that will help you, the positive thoughts and the feelings that come with them, and the love that’s within you that you can experience at any time you focus on your heart and ask for signs of who you really are. When you do this you’ll experience more joy and more love in your life.
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What Was My Past Life In Lemuria Like?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, A Lemurian.
Lemurian: I was told in a past life reading that I was a healer from Lemuria, and I’m a Pleiadian. I was also told I had a twin flame relationship with someone in the Pleiades who lives on Alcyone (a star in the Pleiades). I’d like to find out more about this and what my life was like in Lemuria.
Council: In Lemuria the teachings were about healing, oneness, honoring each other, and meditation. You learned how to use your mind to exist and to create what you needed. There was a peaceful atmosphere and there were always positive thoughts. There were times when you’d get together in groups and meditate in temples. And you taught little children about energy and thoughts.
The healing you performed wasn’t so much physical, but with your mind. When you experienced things that were upsetting or things that caused you to be anxious, you knew in that life how to change this, what to meditate on, and what part of the body to focus on. That’s the healing you did in Lemuria.
Lemurian: What was my family like in Lemuria?
Council: Everyone was family in Lemuria. That’s how they existed. Everyone worked together. Everyone learned from each other and cared for each other. There was the experience of unity and oneness. Have you created that here with your family? With your friends? In Lemuria that brought you great joy.
Coming in at this time in your current lifetime, because of what’s going on, in spirit you chose to come here now and to learn again how to focus, how to be positive, and how to be one with your family and friends.
We suggest that in your meditations or quiet time, you go with the elements of nature. That would feel familiar to you. Go within your heart and find that peaceful feeling that you had in Lemuria. It’s there. When you find it and you experience that oneness, that feeling of love for everyone that you’ve created in your life, you wanted to share that feeling and show it, not so much in what you say, but in how you treat yourself and others.
Lemurian: Can I meet my twin flame in my next lifetime, and what was he like?
Council: Your twin flame can be met in your next lifetime if that’s what you want. And because you’re in the midst of creating it, you’ll pick the way you meet, how important that person is in your life, if that person stays with you, or if that person comes into your life only for a while. Will this person turn out to be a parent or a teacher, or a friend? You’ll create that.
You can begin now by thinking about how you’ll want the relationship to be. With your thoughts, see how your meeting will be and live it now. Go into those thoughts and experience them and feel them as if you’re living them now, and you’ll draw them to you.
But wanting to meet this twin soul will come about if, when you create that life, you want that to be. You may want that now instead of in the next life. It’s all up to you.
Lemurian: Can The Council give me any information regarding this twin flame?
Council: Take that feeling of being positive, and no matter what you face and what you experience, when you focus on these feelings, you’ll bring them to you now and your life will improve. The feelings within you will exist with more happiness with what you create. Take all of that and use it in this lifetime. And when others see your attitude becoming gentle and having an acceptance of everything that happens, that’s how you’ll teach others in your current lifetime.
We send you all blessings, and all the wonderful thoughts that would help you, and the positive thoughts and the feelings that come with them. We send you the love that’s within you that you can experience at any time when you focus on your heart and ask for signs of who you really are. And when you do this, you’ll experience more joy and more love in your life.
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Will My Children Ever Feel Good In School?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Kati.
Kati: Dear Council, please help. Will my children ever feel good at school? My 10-year-old struggles academically due to attention issues, but does great socially, though the environment is lively and distracting, which doesn’t help his attention issues.
Council: First we’ll like to say this child is an Indigo child, and the attention problem the school would see is because he’s very curious and will get bored easily. Subconsciously the Indigo children know they have great things to do and to change when they are here. That’s what’s going on with that child right now.
This is nothing to worry about. Don’t fall into the system’s way of thinking there’s something wrong with him. Indigo children learn at their own pace. They make friends when they’re ready. They’ll search for the right kind of people, they’ll search for the right kind of information, and they don’t want to waste their time. This is part of what an Indigo child goes through.
There’s no need to worry here. You’ll see by watching this child what motivates him, what his interests are, and how he works through his problems.
Kati: My 8-year-old struggles socially, hasn’t made a good friend in school in three years, hates going to school, but does great academically.
Council: Do you see the opposites with these two souls? They’ve agreed to come in and they know each other from one or more previous lives. They’d be examples to each other so that one would learn from the other, and learn how to balance themselves out. It’s a wonderful path they’ve chosen to come on.
There’s a learning process for you, but they’re here to definitely help each other to be examples. As they get older they’ll figure out what they want. There could be a time when one is jealous of the other, but that’s fine. The relationship will evolve. They’re here to be examples and to help each other in their current reality.
Kati: We are considering switching schools to a small private religious school, though we’re not of that faith, or homeschooling, but those are upheavals as well. Is it worth the financial strain to send them to private school?
Council: No, not at all. They’ll still have their issues to face. And why disturb what they’re going through now, where they’d have to start again with the feelings, and being bored, or not having friends. It’s to your children’s benefit that you do not change their schooling habits and where they learn.
Kati: Would my children be happy doing homeschooling?
Council: That wouldn’t help either.
Kati: In addition to feeling like we’re constantly struggling with their individual school issues…
Council: And that’s understood, but just sit back and watch, and encourage them in any way you can.
Most of all it’s important that your children feel accepted no matter how they are, and to feel loved by you. Show your children love. Show your children acceptance. These are tools that will help them grow.
Kati: Mass shootings in the news make me fear that school is no longer a safe place for kids.
Council: And at this point it isn’t safe. But in your current reality, all of this is happening because a great change is wanted. All the souls here have allowed this to come in to learn from it and take their power. And parents, as well as all adults, have a lot of power that they’re looking to find right now, and to change the circumstances into the kind of world that’s wanted.
Every single soul that’s in this reality at this time came in to find out whatever the problem is, and to face these problems in large groups, or individually, and to change these problems and bring love into every situation.
But we do understand your fear. Meditate on things being wonderful. Meditate on how you’d like things to be. See that in your mind. Focus on that.
You’ll find that thoughts are very powerful. Stay in the positive.
Kati: The whole topic of school feels so intense and it’s been a struggle for four years. Do you have any insights as to why we’ve struggled so much, and if there’s a better option for our family? I don’t want to live in fear anymore, and I don’t want to be weary of the subject of school anymore.
Council: As crazy as this may sound, you did choose to experience fear, and so did everyone else in your current reality. Either you fall victim to this fear, or you use your mind and your energy to not accept this fear.
Now focus on what you want. When you focus, the vibration changes, and then everything around you changes. That’s how your current reality works.
Do the work. Go inward. Focus. Visualize, and you’ll see the change begin.
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Was My Recent Abortion A Soul Agreement Between Me And My Child?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, ACuriousSpirit.
ACuriousSpirit: I had an abortion recently and it’s not something I really wanted to do, and I’m still deeply sad about it. I’d like to ask The Council if this abortion was a soul agreement between me and the child.
Council: Of course it was. There’s no reason to feel sad, or regret what was done, or feel guilty. It was your wish to experience this abortion and afterward to feel love for yourself because this was something you did.
It’s important for you to understand that the child’s soul also wanted to experience the abortion for its own reasons. You both helped each other out. There’s great love there. As you understand that and feel love for yourself, this love will grow. At another time you’ll have children if you want to.
ACS: Will I be reunited again with the soul of this child?
Council: At this time this particular soul doesn’t feel it needs to come back to you. It feels like it will move on. You have other souls in line, so to speak, that are willing to come to you when you’re ready for children. You’ll be reunited when you’re both back in spirit, but not in your current life.
ACS: How can I best deal with the sadness and move on with my life.
Council: Forget the sadness and know that you may not understand in your current reality why you chose to experience this abortion. How wonderful that the loving soul of this child said, “I will be this child. I will come to you and you’ll get pregnant, and then when the time is right, you’ll abort me.”
That soul had such great love for you that it did what you needed because you wanted to experience this abortion. Learn from this experience. Learn all about love. You can still be connected to the spirit of this child, and send love to this spirit, and thank it for helping you experience this abortion. And you allowed this spirit to learn what it needed by having the abortion and letting that spirit learn the lesson it wanted from that experience.
There’s only love here, only a great love that brought you two together to experience this abortion. There’s no sadness, there’s no guilt. You fulfilled a contract, so to speak. You fulfilled an agreement. You came together out of love to help each other. When you’re back in spirit, and perhaps when you plan another life, you can be together again. There’s only love here.
ACS: I’d also like to know why the father of this child rejected us and if this was also a soul agreement between me and him.
Council: Of course this was another soul agreement between you and the father. You would have to learn about abandonment, you’d have to learn to feel great love for yourself, and not feel unimportant or that there’s something wrong with you because this man left you.
The soul of this man will learn how it feels to leave someone. Perhaps that soul wants to learn about regret. Perhaps it wants to learn about how wonderful and free it feels not to be tied to a family. This person will learn what he needs to learn by leaving you, but it’s all done out of love. You decided to have this experience with the father so that he could learn from it and you could learn from it.
Concentrate on yourself. Find the loving things within yourself. Focus on that. And when you meditate, or you sit quietly, thank these souls for playing their part in your abortion experience. And jokingly say, “Maybe we’ll do this again and we’ll have a different ending, or a different lesson.”
That’s all that’s meant at this time.
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How Can I Support Myself And Find An Inexpensive Apartment?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who’s looking for their advice.
Anon: The past two decades have been difficult. I found it difficult to get work and somewhere to live. I originally wanted to be a musician, and I’ve been trying to teach and write to create a secure foundation from which I could make music my main source of income. But the foundation and the music career never came.
Council: Your interest in music comes from another lifetime. It was something you enjoyed, but you didn’t plan in this lifetime to make music your source of income. It was supposed to be a hobby and something you did on the side that you enjoyed. But somehow, unconsciously, the memories are there of how much you enjoyed it before, and so liking that feeling you stayed with it. This particular lifetime we think music isn’t the path you’re ready to go on at this moment.
Anon: The way my work is done changed after the 2008 financial crisis and I find myself doing an awful lot of unpaid work, applying for jobs, funding, gigs, practicing, self-promoting, and doing the mandatory unpaid work that comes with self-employment.
Council: That’s fine if you enjoy doing unpaid work. If not, what else have you done to provide for yourself? What sort of work have you come up with to support your style of living, to be comfortable with where you are and who you’re with, and a way to enjoy what you’re doing? Have you looked in these other areas?
Anon: Renting has been unstable and I’ve lived in 13 places over the last 20 years. At one point I got ill, was made homeless, and ended up in subsidized housing. I have no family or partner, This has been the most security and stability I’ve ever had and I’ve been so grateful.
Council: Abandonment is part of your lesson. And again we ask you, what are you doing to provide for yourself now, moving around so much and seeing how the music work isn’t supporting you? What are you looking towards?
Anon: It’s been wonderful living here. Sadly the building is being demolished and I’ll get notice to move out soon.
Council: Do you realize you are the creator. Look how you’re creating your life differently from what you desire. Instead of creating going into music, you’re creating that you’re losing places where you live and you’re doing unpaid work. You’re creating it this way to get you to turn towards anything else because it will feed into your having confidence in yourself no matter what you do. This is also part of what you’re trying to learn.
Try anything. You’ll find you enjoy learning something new. You’re creating a way where the music isn’t working for you right now. You must learn to go in another direction. What is it that you love? What is it that would be easy for you to do to support yourself? We ask you to ask yourself these questions.
Anon: I’ve tried to increase my job search to earn enough money to rent an apartment locally like the one I currently live in, but I had to leave one job because I was physically attacked, and I was bullied out of another job.
Council: Again, look at what you’re creating.
Anon: I should be putting in as many job applications as I can to insure my security, but I’m drained and I can’t face doing anymore unpaid work.
Council: Again, look at what you’re creating. You know you should be increasing your job research, but you’re drained. And you’ll stay getting drained until you look in another direction. All the signs are there for you. You’re on Earth to have fun, to create different parts of your life, but you’re holding so tightly onto the subconscious memories you had from a time before where you were able to live by your music.
You wanted to come in and experience joy with your music, but also to learn so much more about yourself. Trust yourself. Try something different. And when you become confident in yourself, more and more things will change for you. Things will become easier for you. And this may lead you back to your music, but first you must find the confidence and let go of the fear of trying to support yourself another way.
Anon: Rents have skyrocketed and I’m scared I’ll have to move away from my treasured local support network I spent my adult life cultivating, and the musicians, music, and culture of the city I’ve grown up in and love so much. These are my lifeline.
Council: Once again, that’s why you’re creating your life in a way where you have to let go of this lifeline to see what else is in store for you and to see what you can create, like new friends, a new career, a new place to live. These are beautiful things that await you if you do the mental work first. What else would you like to do?
See yourself doing it, feeling good, feeling relaxed, and increasing the way you live. Let go of the fear. Let go of what’s old. We see you’re making things end because you want to have a new beginning. How exciting this is.
Anon: I love my home so much and I’m already grieving its loss. I’m scared I won’t find something this wonderful, secure, and affordable in this location where I can live on my own.
Council: Did it ever occur to you that you may not have to be in your current location, and that you’re creating your life in such a way that you’ll find a new location?
Anon: I’d love to hear your advice.
Council: Meditate. See what you want. Visualize it. Forget creating with the music for now. You’ll have it later on. See what else you’re capable of doing.
Anon: How can I break out of this cycle?
Council: Meditate. Visualize. Pretend. Find joy in doing anything else. Be like a young child that has dreams of becoming a cowboy, or a bull fighter, or anything else. Play with it and you’ll bring something new into your life.
Anon: Can spirit show me what’s next for me in terms of where I’ll be living?
Council: We can’t show you what you’re going to create. It’s all up to you. We’ll see it when you see it.
Anon: How do I find something as wonderful as where I am? How can I stay in my home town without sharing a flat? I’m in my forties now and I don’t think I can do that anymore.
Council: Look for other employment. Start there.
Anon: With the persistent employment and income insecurity taking its toll, I’ve also lost my love of practicing and writing music.
Council: There you go. You’re creating it and you’re seeing it. It’s wonderful that you’re seeing that you lost your love for music. You’re exactly on the path you wish to be on. There’s nothing to be upset about.
What you need to do is flow with your situation. There’s something else. What is it? Call it to yourself. Pretend. Visualize you can do this and you’ll create more joy in your life. You’ll create a career. You’ll create a partner. You’ll create somewhere wonderful to live. See it. See all these things and you’ll find yourself moving closer and closer to that path.
Anon: And I’d love to know how I can get the music back.
Council: Find yourself first. Try something different. Try many different things and your love of music will return. But don’t be afraid to go in different directions.
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Are Some Events Pre-Planned In Spirit More Likely To Happen Than Others?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Mari.
Mari: I’ve read in some books on the afterlife and reincarnation that certain important events in life are pre-planned, with a high probability of happening. For example, marrying a particular person, going to a particular school, having a child, or having certain disabilities. And no matter which way you go, that event will most likely occur. Other events are supposedly pre-planned only as possibilities.
Council: Your higher self always knows what you pre-plan and what you want to experience. There are many times when you’re setting up a new life that you pick souls you worked with and learned with before. You’d choose one as a husband, a wife, a brother, or a mother. There are times you want them in your life for a while, and you’ll set that up, learn what’s needed, and then move on.
There are times when you may make an agreement with a soul where you say, Let’s see how our life goes. Let’s see what I create and what you create, and is it a meeting where we’ll become friends and experience more, or is it just a quick meeting and you move on? By doing it this way you don’t know what you’re going to create, and so you have the ability to go into this relationship with this spirit, or turn and go on another path. There are some relationships where it’s very positive, we know each other before, and let’s do it again. What is it that you want to learn? What is it that I want to learn? We’ll support each other in this. And there are other relationships where you just see how it goes.
The freedom is always yours. Even if you decide to recreate something you set up, your higher self knows if you’re learning what you want to learn, if you’re having a good time, and if you’re achieving what you wanted to achieve. You’ll always be able to pick the direction you go in, even if you don’t consciously know that the choice was yours to do this or to do that and to have this experience.
Bob: So it sounds like you’re agreeing with Mari when she says you can pre-plan an event that has a high probability of happening.
Council: Yes
Bob: And you’re saying even though it does have a high probability of happening, you have the free will to change that.
Council: You always have free will. Every day of your life you can connect with the other spirit, with their higher self and your higher self, and you’ll know this is the way we want it to go. Or let’s not go this way. Let’s change this and change that. You’re always in connection with these other spirits.
Bob: And it sounds like you’re also saying that you can pre-plan possibilities that aren’t necessarily likely or unlikely to happen, and you determine at the time you’re living what you pre-planned in that life whether you want to follow that path or not.
Council: Exactly. The choice is always yours.
Mari: You’ve indicated in many places that you have to believe in something for it to occur.
Bob: Can you comment on that?
Council: You can’t believe in something you don’t remember that you’re creating in spirit. You don’t have to believe it because your higher self and the other person’s higher self will work to make this happen. But if it’s something you want in your life, like a new job or a new partner, it always helps to believe you want it and it’s coming to you. There are many things you won’t remember that you have planned, but your higher self will take you there. When it’s something you consciously want, it always works much better if you believe you can have it.
Bob: You’re also saying that even if you don’t consciously believe in something, it can still occur.
Council: Yes, it can. Believe in the power of your higher self because it’s you. You’re the only one who’s creating in your reality.
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What Can You Tell Me About The Tension In My Husband’s And Son’s Relationship?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Kristi, after she read our post, Why Don’t I Have A Good Relationship With My Mother?
Kristi: Great post on family dynamics. This raises a couple questions of my own that I’d like to ask The Council.
My husband and I have a great relationship and we’ve been married 20 years this November. My husband treats me like any woman would ever want to be treated, and I have almost no complaints in this department. I’m so very thankful for him.
We have one child together, a son who’s 18 years old. My husband’s and my son’s relationship is a strained one, unfortunately. My husband sets extremely high standards for our son, which are often unattainable. And even if they were attainable, my husband wouldn’t be happy then either. I feel like my son could wrangle the moon and my husband wouldn’t care.
When standards aren’t met, a child often feels like they’re not good enough and I see this playing out before me. My son is a sweet guy, very smart, and stays out of trouble, but he has low self-esteem.
My husband makes no attempt to foster a close relationship with our son. We all live together in the same house, but my husband and son can go without talking to each other for weeks at a time. And when they do talk to each other, it’s usually my husband telling my son what he hasn’t done properly.
Council: This is so wonderful. We have such advice for you. We see it so clearly.
Your husband and son were husband and son in a previous lifetime. In that lifetime they were wonderful together. Whatever your son did, your husband praised him. Everything was okay and everything went along beautifully.
At the end of that life, your son said to his dying father, “I wish I could have done more. I wish you would have pushed me more so that I could have given you more, and so that I could have become more in this lifetime.”
And so, in the wonderful past life they experienced together, both wished they had done more. Your son wished he’d become more. Your husband wished he didn’t settle for what your son was in that past life, and he wished he did push your son more.
So going back into spirit they asked each other if they wanted to try this again, but this time the son wanted the father to push him. The son wanted to become so much more in the new life they create. Whatever way the father can find to push the son, to get him to do more, to not settle, the son wants the father to do that with him.
That will be our lesson, to become more as a father and be even more proud of his son than he was. And the son wants to be important. He wants to feel that. He doesn’t want to feel there’s so much more he could have done. He wants to know there’s a strong father behind him that won’t let him settle.
And so your husband creates a family where there weren’t good role models for him to follow. He becomes a stern father who, out of love, whether he can admit that or not, isn’t going to settle for what your son does, no matter how good it is. He’ll ignore your son and not give him any confidence or any hurrahs for what he does. And this is your husband’s way of pushing your son to want his father’s attention, and to want more, and more, and more.
The most wonderful little book for you to read is, The Littlest Soul and the Sun, by Neale Donald Walsch, about two angels. One angel asks the other angel to come back into a new life, and if the first angel does something mean to the second angel, can the second angel still remember the first angel is a soul and forgive him. We suggest you read that book. That’s exactly what’s going on with your husband and your son.
They’re being tough with each other, but underneath they want so much more for each other. Your husband wants to leave this life thinking he was a wonderful father, and he pushed his son so much that, look what his son accomplished. And your son wants to think at the end of this life, my father never complimented me enough, he pushed me and pushed me, but I see it now, it was out of love because look at what I’ve become.
Bob: Is it a good idea for the son or the father to read, The Littlest Soul and the Sun, as well?
Council: They may not be open to it, but I’d leave the book around and see who gets drawn to it first and who reads it. It’s perfect for what’s going on, and it’s the wife’s job not to judge or step in because she can’t fix this. This is between your husband and your son. They’ll find a way. Their lessons and challenges in this reality is to find a way to come back to love. That’s the reason we’re all here, to come back to the state of love.
Bob: Was the father in this life the father in the past life, and the son in this life the son in the past life?
Council: Yes. And so they brought that role into their current life to work it through.
Kristi: I try to step in and talk to my husband about how difficult he’s being, but he doesn’t seem to understand where I’m coming from.
Council: Yes, he doesn’t understand, not at this time.
Kristi: He’s not abusive at all, but he doesn’t offer the love and acceptance a parent should provide.
Council: You provide love and acceptance to your husband and your son for the way they are. Always send them light so they can find a way to work out this challenge they wanted to go through in this lifetime, and they’ll find the path that will bring them to the state of love.
Kristi: My husband’s father was absent most of my husband’s life, so my husband didn’t have the best role model for parenting. Whereas I had the best father in the world and I only want the same thing for my son. I’d love for them to have a better relationship, but I understand this isn’t my battle. I’d love more insight into their dynamic, whether or not this was planned in spirit before coming to this Earthly plane, and why?
Council: It was definitely planned. And their higher selves know why they created this situation, what they’re trying to do, and will take them along their path until they understand and find a way to bring more love into their lives.
Kristi: Do you see my husband’s and son’s relationship getting better with time?
Council: It can always get better, but they are the creators. The best thing you can do is to accept what they create. They can create a change in a year if they want, or it could take 20 years. You must let them go through whatever it is they need to see, understand, and feel, and they’ll find a way.
Kristi: What can I do to help this situation?
Council: Send love, and have fun watching your husband’s and your son’s journey.
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Should I Continue My Relationship With My Current Partner?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lee, who has a follow up question on our post, Why Do I Feel So Drawn To This Man? that we published last month in response to Lee’s earlier questions.
Lee: I feel drawn to a man I recently started dating. The relationship is moving very fast and we’re even talking about marriage.
Council: Is this what you want? It’s all up to you. You can take the relationship and have it move slowly or quickly, but you have to decide if you’re comfortable with it moving quickly.
Lee: I feel very connected and comfortable with this man. It’s as if I’ve known him forever.
Council: How wonderful. You recognize the spirit within this person that you’ve known in other lifetimes. You both agreed in spirit that this person would come into your life. What is it that you want? Where do you see this relationship going?
Lee: I feel very connected to him spiritually, physically, and emotionally, but he comes with a lot of failed relationships and baggage. I’m afraid I may be ignoring red flags and making a mistake.
Council: It’s good to recognize there are red flags. There’s always a problem when you’re getting signs, but you ignore them. By taking your time with this relationship you can see more and more what this person is truly like. There’s no reason to rush. If this relationship is something you both want, you’ll both feel the trust and the love in it to make the relationship happen.
Lee: I’m a recent widow and I feel guilty. I wonder if I’m just vulnerable and lonely, and the relationship isn’t real.
Council: Of course you’re vulnerable and lonely. That’s part of the human condition when we love someone and lose them. There’s no reason to feel guilty. It’s perfectly fine to move on and have another relationship if that’s what you want. But again we tell you, it would be wise to slow this relationship down. If it’s real and something you both want, time won’t change it. You can work towards it.
Lee: I’m also worried about my son’s reaction to the relationship.
Council: This is another reason to take your time. Because this relationship is new, it’s up to you to take a good look at it, see how you feel, check out the red flags, and take time to see what this person is really like before you involve your son. We feel you know that rushing into this relationship isn’t wise. If you do rush into it, you’ll be faced with challenges more quickly than if you take your time.
You might not know the direction to go if you rush. You’ll get exactly where you need to be. Be in the relationship. Experience the good and the bad, and see what it is that you want.
Lee: Should I continue with this relationship or is it infatuation?
Council: Of course it’s infatuation. Should you continue with this relationship? It’s totally up to you. And that’s why we say: Be in it. See what this relationship is. Don’t rush it. Experience this person and see what baggage he has. Why were there failed relationships? All of this will give you clues about what you want to do.
Bob: You say that it’s infatuation, but it sounds like you may not be ascribing a negative connotation to the word.
Council: In infatutuation, people are taken with someone else. They feel so in love and so happy, and that could be the feeling now. But in time you’ll learn about this other person. You’ll learn about yourself and how you handle another person if you see a lot of characteristics you don’t like. It’s good to give the relationship time. It’s something you want to learn from, and that’s why the relationship was created the way it was.
Bob: Earlier in the session you said Lee and her partner have relationships from past lives.
Council: Yes, there were a few connections. We see the coming together now is something they planned in spirit because they worked together in other lifetimes. But there’s no particular lifetime that’s tied into their current life where they need to learn something, complete something, or heal something. It’s just two spirits that like working together.
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Why Don’t I Have A Good Relationship With My Mother?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Ilona, who asks about her relationship with her mother.
Ilona: I experienced difficulties that were a great challenge for me from the time I was young. My mother always perceived me negatively and didn’t show me as much love as my two sisters.
Council: You set this experience up yourself in spirit. From the very beginning you wanted to learn the lesson of independence, the lesson of accepting others for who they are, you wanted to learn about boundaries, and you wanted to learn how to let go of things and move your life in the direction you wanted. As a young child you began to have feelings that perhaps you weren’t good enough, feeling you weren’t accepted, and so your path began.
Ilona: I’d like to know why my mother doesn’t need me in her life? Why is she pushing me away? Did I hurt her in any way?
Council: There’s nothing you’ve done to hurt your mother, but in spirit, before you came into this reality, you and your mother set up the kind of relationship you’re having. What feels to you like your mother is pushing you away was an agreement you made with her so that your life would be difficult and you’d have to be stronger. And in finding your strength you’d feel very proud of yourself.
In 2020 my mother had a stroke, and in the first few months I felt like our relationship was getting better. That was until my youngest sister moved in with her. Since then my relationship with my mother has been tested again.
Council: Go back to this time when your mother had her stroke and you thought your relationship was improving. How did you feel about this? How do you remember this time? This is the feeling you’re looking for again, but you set it up so you’d feel this way whether you had your mother’s approval or not. This was a taste to remind you of what you were looking for, and then it was taken away. This was all your choice on a spiritual level.
Ilona: After my youngest sister moved in, my mother doesn’t respond to my messages, and doesn’t want to talk to me when my sister isn’t there. I suspect my sister doesn’t want me to have a nice relationship with my mother and only wants to keep my mother to herself.
Council: Whether this is what your sister wants or not, how do you feel about your relationship with your mother? It’s up to you to make up your mind and go in the direction of what you want to happen. It’s a lot of work to look at this relationship and decide if this is what you want. Is it too difficult? Or can you look at it and learn your lesson and feel good about yourself, whether you have your mother’s or your sister’s approval or closeness with them.
What can you find about yourself that makes you feel good? Is it somewhere else in a different relationship? Can you accept what your mother and sister do, send them love, and let go? If you can’t send love, can you just let go? Because what you’re looking for isn’t to be found in this relationship. This relationship is to get you to look more at yourself, to find out about yourself and the kind of person you are, what you’ll allow, and what you won’t allow. It’s about boundaries. The bottom line is you’re supposed to learn about yourself, love yourself, and feel good about what you accept, and what you don’t accept.
We’re not sent to Earth to suffer and feel horrible. We’re sent here to look at these lessons and to find a way of dealing with them, whether letting it go to make you feel good, or whether it’s pushing forward to see what you can do. When you realize you can’t change another person, can you accept them for who they are? See them and speak to them when you feel like it, or completely walk away. These are all decisions you wish to make. You wish to take your life in the direction you find more comfortable and more loving for yourself.
Ilona: Why is my youngest sister so manipulative?
Council: It’s the part she chose to play and that you both set up and agreed to in spirit. So if she’s manipulative, do you want this in your life? Do you wish to fight against this? Or can you accept your sister for who she is and know that she has her own lessons to learn from this kind of behavior? And then not focus on how manipulative she is, but how – now that you see it – that’s something you don’t want around you, and move forward appropriately.
Ilona: What can I do to improve my relationship with my mother?
Council: Always send your mother and your sister the energy of love, whether you understand them or not. And decide to be there for them when they want you to be there, or completely let go. You must make the decision. Remember you can’t change another person. You can accept them for what they’re doing because you don’t know what they’re trying to learn in their reality. Focus on yourself and what you want, and move in that direction.
Ilona: Is there any hope for me?
Council: There’s always hope. On an energetic level you can picture them changing. Picture them calling you. Picture them asking you to meet with them. You must do the work on an energetic level first. You can do this if it’s what you want, but you first have to decide what you want. Work energetically with them and you’ll see the change begin to happen. There’s nothing you can do physically in your reality to get them to change. You can see the change happen when you constantly focus on how you want your life to be.
Ilona: Is there anything I should know right now?
Council: The most important thing is to concentrate on yourself. See how your relationship with your mother and sister is going. Decide what you want. Do you want a relationship? Do you not want it? Then work energetically. Even if you decide it’s not what you want, picture your relationship going in different ways, but happily. Imagine they’re happy without you in their lives and you’re happy without them in your life. Always come from a place of love, letting go, and everyone feeling the happiness and joy that’s intended when you learn lessons.
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I Feel My Marriage Won’t Let Me Move Forward With What I Want
This post answers some follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named, Angie. Angie previously asked The Council some questions which we answered in our post, Why Do I Feel So Drawn To This Man?
Angie: I do have another part to what I’d like to ask regarding my husband, Chris. First, I felt that I needed to get clarification on my connection to Brent (a co-worker – see previous post) as that has been weighing heavily on my mind. Is Brent aware of the kind of connection we share from other lifetimes and that we both pre-planned to come together in our current life to support each other? If not, how can I help him understand?
Council: He’s not aware of anything more than a friendship. If you want him to open up to more than that and question what you both have in this relationship, you’d have to visualize that, but allow him to be who he is. At this time we don’t advise you to push for Brent to be more than a friend. Be a good friend and companion to him. You can talk about things you have in common. You can make that apparent, but his growth and desire to learn more about you must come from him.
Angie: Although my husband and I have remained married for almost 24 years, I haven’t felt we were always aligned with each other. We’ve had our ups and downs, but something was missing between us. I don’t think we ever connected on the level I was looking for in a marriage.
Council: In this connection you’re looking for did you look at your husband from your heart? Did you look for loving things about him even when things are difficult? Do you connect by realizing your husband is also a spirit, and he has his challenges and feelings he needs to work through? Did you connect by appreciating your husband and looking for all the good things in your marriage? When you look for these things, you’ll find them.
Angie: In between our down times, Chris and I had many good years.
Council: That’s wonderful, and it’s good to think about and remember that.
Angie: But when I decided to go back to school, it was the most challenging time. It was challenging because I had to balance taking care of our two sons, focus on my studies, and try to have Chris understand that completing my degree was important to me and will bring success to our family.
Council: Do you know that you created all this and you both agreed to experience this challenge? Did you know you wanted to create this challenge to see if you could handle it so that you’d feel good about yourself? Did your husband agree to this challenge to learn to see you differently, or handle jealousy? There are different reasons this challenge was created, but because you both went through this, it’s something you both want to learn from.
Angie: The extra challenge was how Chris seemed upset with me for what I felt was being focused on my education. After all my hard work during a semester and taking my final exam one weekend, Chris accused me of being with someone else. It was the most hurtful thing to hear him say. There were other moments where I had to tell him I would continue to reach for my goals with or without him.
After I graduated and had a full-time job lined up, things smoothed out. Chris was happier and I thought I’d be happier along side him. I was happy for the next couple years. By this time both our sons were attending college and I was paying their tuition and room and board.
Council: We’d ask you to review what was going on that you were happy for a couple years. Take a good look at that and see what you created and what you went through. What was Chris going through?
Angie: I was able to provide my sons with financial support mostly because we didn’t have a mortgage. Things were going well for us. Chris and I decided to look into buying a new house, but it didn’t work out. I felt is wasn’t the right time. He kept pushing for us to buy a house. I still felt it wasn’t the right time and I explained to him, I’m paying quite a bit in tuition for our boys, including my own expenses and tuition loans. I wasn’t going to take on extra expenses that would come with buying a home. Instead of receiving his understanding, he reacted with a threat of divorce.
Council: In that do you realize you learned to make a boundary, and what you wanted to experience, and what you didn’t want to experience. Look at how you’ve grown, and how you were clear with what you wanted, and you were able to voice it.
Angie: Chris threatened divorce one other time. This was the turning point for me to focus on myself even more. I’m left wondering if our coming together was to have our children and provide for them up to the time they’d begin to create their own lives.
Council: That was part of what your lives are about.
Angie: I know I’ve had a lot of personal growth and I’ve noticed my husband seems to be stuck in the same place and not moving towards his goals as much. This has made it feel like we’re growing apart. Has our marriage run it’s course?
Council: It’s only run it’s course if you decide that’s what you want. If It’s what you want, you’ll create it to go in that direction. It’s really all up to you. That’s one of the great understandings we all need to learn when we create a reality. It’s all up to you.
Angie: I feel the urge to move forward with what I want and I don’t think I’ll be able to fully do this while I’m married to Chris. I do love and care for him very much, but I want to go toward what’s fulfilling and brings happiness.
Council: Meditate on this. Picture yourself going forward with your husband and picture your life without him. What feels better? You’ll always know by how it feels. Do you wish to stay in this marriage and work out the problems? Is this something you wish to create and grow from? Or is it time that you wish to be on your own?
There isn’t any wrong answer. You’ll experience what you need to experience. Your higher self, which is you, is in control and well aware of what you want to create in this life. The best thing is to remain calm, meditate, and visualize what you want.
And so we wish you all love, and light, and happiness, and gratitude on your path. Be supportive of one another and love yourself, as well as others in your life. And remember every single day, you’re all spirits in a physical body, and you’ll create whatever you focus on. Even if you focus on something negative, you’ll create that. We urge you to have positive thoughts, laugh as much as you can, have fun, remember the wonderful and happy memories, and stay in the positive.
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