How Can I Help My Daughter Feel More Confident?
This post answers question for The Council from a reader named, Mel, who asks the best way to help her daughter feel more confident and boost her self-esteem. Mel wonders if her daughter’s past lives are preventing her from seeing the wonderful, smart, amazing woman she is?
The Council says Mel’s daughter needs to feel accepted. Do you compliment her often? Do you point out all the wonderful things she does? Right now your daughter’s confidence comes from you. When she gets enough of this and she believes it and accepts it, she’ll have more and more confidence in herself and won’t need the acceptance from outside herself. She wanted to learn appreciation for herself in her current life.
In your daughter’s last lifetime she worked as a servant and did what needed to be done. There wasn’t any excitement for her in that life and she didn’t have any goals. In her current life your daughter wanted the experience of feeling confident, and when she feels this way she’d allow herself to experience desires of different things she wants. We ask you to allow your daughter to be who she is, but also to fan the flame of her feeling good about herself.
Mel says maybe the interactions my daughter and I had in our past lives have prevented her in some way from healing her lack of confidence in her current life. The Council reminds Mel that the confidence your daughter is working on in her current reality comes from her last lifetime where there wasn’t any confidence, no dream, and no hope.
Mel asks if her daughter’s being overweight is a result of past lifetimes. The Council says the desire to lose weight isn’t a problem from past lives. This is something your daughter created to accept, and once it’s accepted and your daughter feels good about herself, the extra weight will disappear when the time is right and when your daughter learns what she wanted to experience.
The Council says if there’s a problem with being overweight, is it in your eyes or your daughter’s? Does something come up if you talk about this? Is this more negative than positive? If it is The Council advises talking more positively about weight loss. The fact it’s part of who your daughter is now doesn’t mean she’ll always be this way. Being overweight is one more thing your daughter created to keep in front of her while she was trying to build up her confidence.
The Council reminds Mel that everything she and her daughter talk about should be positive on all subjects. When your daughter learns to be more positive and look at things more positively, her life will change for the better.
Listen to the entire 4-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Mel and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own question.
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How Does the Black Lives Matter Movement Relate to Me?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Amy, who’s asking for guidance on how to navigate living in America now, especially relative to the Black Lives Matter movement. I don’t feel called to protest in the streets or post about it on social media, and The Council says this is wonderful. My inclination is to hold space and live lovingly knowing that can change the world.
The Council says many spirits in our reality right now have specifically planned to come in and hold the light and loving thoughts. When there’s negativity, acknowledge it to yourself and don’t get into discussions where there are likely to be disagreements or one person tries to convince the other.
Be quiet, send loving thoughts and energy, and meditate on peace. There isn’t any need to make your beliefs public. What’s necessary right now is for everyone to think peaceful thoughts and move within your heart and hold onto the light and good thoughts.
It’s not necessary to move forward with disruptive action. What’s necessary is to work with positive energy. Everything is created in an energetic field first and then it’s brought into your reality. Have good thoughts. See the world as you’d like it to be.
When you’re aware of negativity going on, it’s okay to acknowledge this negativity, but then rethink it in a more positive way. These people who are causing upheaval and negativity at this time, that are angry because of what’s going on – that isn’t how we bring peace and love into this world.
Allow negative people to have their thoughts and to do what they’re doing until they realize that violence only brings more violence. To get to a place of great change, your thinking must change. There must be more loving thoughts. Put beautiful white and pink energy around people, around situations, and around your world. That’s how you help with the changes that are needed in your world right now.
We applaud you for not being one of these people who try to convince others they’re wrong. When people talk to you about their beliefs, tell them you don’t wish to talk about these situations at this time. If you feel you must listen when someone expresses what feels like a negative opinion, at the end you can say that you hear what they believe and see it’s important to them. Acknowledge the other person, but don’t get into a discussion about who believes what and why, and they are trying to get you to change your belief.
Amy says this sometimes feels passive and she’s concerned she’s not doing enough. The Council replies that she is doing more than enough if you maintain a peaceful attitude and work with the energy. This is exactly what’s needed at this time.
Amy says she could use some advice on how to handle people who express their racist beliefs to her. I feel I’m too inclined to keep the peace and maybe this isn’t the right option now. The Council says keeping peace is the perfect option right now. You’re already on the right path and intuitively doing what needs to be done.
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What Can I Do About My Financial Difficulties?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Miya, who says she’s in a repeated cycle of financial difficulties. She doesn’t like being around negative energies, but most of jobs that would accept her are with the public where she has to deal with different types of people and by the end of the day she feels drained.
The Council says they see a lot of negative thoughts on Miya’s part which are bringing in negative experiences, affecting her finances, affecting where she works, and affecting the people she surrounds herself with. You think you’re being positive, but there’s just as many negative thoughts and they’re counterbalancing each other.
The Council feels Miya senses negative energy from many people and they ask why she focuses on this? Do you look at people you feel have negative energy and realize these people are spiritual beings? Do you realize they’re here trying to learn their lessons and go through obstacles, joys, and experiences? Can you send these people positive energy? Can you understand what they’re going through?
The Council says Miya needs to be around people and truly focus on the good in them. You need to tell yourself to reach out to their spirit. This will make you change how you see people. This will raise your vibration. When this is done the right kind of work will come to you. People that you like to be around will appear in your life. It’s about your thoughts and your beliefs and how they will give you a better perspective on what’s going on.
Miya says she lives with relatives who don’t believe as much in spirituality as she does. The Council says you came into this lifetime to bring love. Love is allowing everyone to be who they are. Allow your family to be who they are. They don’t have to have the same energy as you. They don’t have to have the same beliefs as you. Your lesson is to send these people love the way you see them.
Miya says she’s in her late 20s with a bachelor’s degree in audio and still lives with her parents. The Council asks if you’re looking for the kind of work that your degree will help you get. If you feel you have to work at something you don’t like, volunteer somewhere you can use your audio skills. This should give you joy and begin to change your energy. You have to bring in some joy.
Miya says my family is barely getting by. We’re all crowded in a small home in a disturbing neighborhood. I still find ways to be happy, but happiness doesn’t pay the bills. The Council says what will help pay the bills is to look for things about your family that you like and be grateful you have it. This begins to change your vibration and bring in different situations. Your main purpose in this lifetime was to go into negative situations and look for the good in them. As you find the good these things will begin to change.
Miya says she prays for a financial change and tries to manifest a miracle. This job that’s coming into my life is going to be okay, but my patience for having money in my hands is disturbing me. The Council says the miracle she’s asking for is a change in her beliefs. Be grateful this job is coming to you. Be grateful it will pay you money you need. As you’re grateful for these things, whether you like the job or not, the perfect situation will come along.
The Council closes by saying Miya wanted to experience negativity in this lifetime and she’s created it all around her. Now go back and look at for the good in each of these situations. Improve your thoughts. Know that each person is a spirit, whether you like them or not, and bless them. You have no idea what these people are going through and what their challenges are. Begin to think of other people with compassion and send them love. Be grateful you have a job whether you like it or not. Be grateful for the amount of money you’re making whether you like it or not. Be grateful for your environment. You’re not alone. If you can do this, things will change for you.
Listen to the 15-minute audio recording of our session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Miya and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask your own question.
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Bringing Love Into Negativity
This post answers several questions from an anonymous reader named D, who says it’s been a while since she last spoke to us, but feels she’s moved mountains since then and is finally learning to heal from within. D continues that once she opened her heart and started asking questions, she discovered a new world that taught her about life and her purpose on Earth.
D’s has worked in New York for 16 years and says she never realized how negative an environment it was until she became a more positive person. The Council says D speaks of negativity as if it’s something unwanted, but there are many many people who can’t get to a positive place until they experience negativity. And when they become positive there’s great appreciation for what the negative has taught them.
D finds it’s easier to connect with her higher self when she’s in her comfort zone. And The Council says it’s in this quiet time you can hear your guides, stay connected to source, and get help with what you experience as negativity. They go on to say that you create this negativity to see how you can bring the love you are in spirit into these situations. They advise sitting for 5-10 minutes a day in this quiet and she will hear what she needs to hear, feel what she needs to feel, and connect to who she truly is.
The Council says many people don’t understand what most people call negativity is really something we as spirit have brought into our reality. What we consider annoying people or situations are really wonderful souls who choose to be part of our negativity and allow us to see these situations differently, bring love into them, and grow.
D asks if prayer, meditation, and guidance are the best ways to communicate with spirit guides when we need advice, and The Council says yes. When I asked the difference between the three The Council said prayer is asking and talking, meditation is listening to your higher self, and intuition is the voice of your higher self.
D asks how she can teach others when they’re so close-minded. The Council says people aren’t close-minded; they are searching and growing at their own pace. Teaching is more than words, and some people aren’t ready to hear what you say. You teach by your actions and by example. When you show love, when you show how you’ve grown and how you handle things differently, that teaches more than words.
D says her heart keeps pointing her to Ireland, a place she’s never been and knows nothing about, and asks if there’s a reason her spirit keeps pointing her in that direction. The Council says if she feels this in her heart, this is her intuition and why wouldn’t she go.
The Council suggests D move forward with the main reason she came into physical reality: to bring the love she is in spirit into it. Her negativity is there to teach her to turn it around and help her grow. It may be hard for her to believe that when she looses patience or is angry with someone, it is another part of her in this other person, coming forward to give her more understanding. We are all connected.
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How is It Possible There is No Separation Between Spirit and Human?
Jose’s Comments and Questions
Several months ago after reading one of our blog posts about how every human being – as a spiritual being in a human body – creates every aspect of their human experience (pleasant and unpleasant, wanted and unwanted), a thoughtful reader named Jose asked The Council whether humans have the free will and power to create a better-feeling human reality when we feel spirit is creating a reality we’d rather not experience. Jose also asked some additional questions about the nature of spiritual reality and it’s relationship to our human experience.
In response to his questions we did a session with The Council and published 5 separate posts describing The Council’s information and guidance for Jose and other readers interested in this information (links to these sessions at the end of this post). Recently Jose posted a comment expressing appreciation for the information in those 5 posts and how they opened his mind to some new questions. This post is the first in a series that describes two new sessions with The Council on Jose’s recent questions. This post was originally published on July 5, 2013 and has been revised several times as our understanding of these sessions evolved.
Feeling Separate From Spirit
Jose says The Council’s teaching that spirit sometimes creates challenging or difficult human experiences leaves him feeling like a slave or a pet; and spirit seems like an uncaring master who creates negative human experiences (like pain, loneliness, fear, lack, desperation, etc) to satisfy a selfish desire for spiritual expansion. Jose compares spirit to a matador who enters the bullfighting ring for the adrenalin rush, but has no compassion for the bull (which he equates with his body/mind/ego) that is physically hurt, humiliated, and is ultimately killed in the process. Jose concludes, “the mind/body has no choice but to follow blindly and painfully without knowing what the lesson or purpose was, is, or will be” in physical reality.
Jose also asks 3 questions related to these comments: one about why spirit would chose to be born as a child without limbs, one about why a buffer of time is needed between our human desire and our manifestation of what is wanted, and a question about whether it’s possible for spirit and its mind/body/ego to both simultaneously have free will to do what is wanted. Jose politely ends his comment with an apology if his questions sound too harsh, “but would love to know The Council’s opinion on the matter.”
Overview
The two sessions on Jose’s questions generated a lot of thought-provoking information and guidance from The Council – too much to comfortably include in one post. In this first post of the series, we focus on The Council’s advice regarding Jose’s feelings that spirit doesn’t care about the difficulties humans experience, and we address aspects of his question about a child born without arms and without legs.
We plan to follow this post with additional posts on Jose’s questions, and in each post we’ll focus on how you and Jose can feel more connected to spirit’s unconditional love when you feel like spirit, or something else out there, is giving you a hard time.
Praise for Jose’s Questions
Although Jose’s question may seem harsh, The Council offered the following praise for Jose:
“And we applaud him for his thinking, and how he is trying to explore different ideas. And so we hope, as he comes to the reading of this material, that he will begin to let [in] the feelings that will come with the words.”
Mind/Body/Ego is One with Spirit
If you’re looking for some uplifting spiritual reading and you’re not particularly sympathetic to Jose’s point of view, you may be wondering if you made a wrong turn with this post. But The Council says that from the point of view of who you are as an eternal spiritual being, there are no wrong turns in your human experience, only opportunities to use your free will and power of choice to find better-feeling ways of focusing your attention, and allowing more of the feeling of love you are in spirit into your human experience. And that’s a big part of what this post is about.
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2011-02-18
Negativity always gives you the opportunity
To focus your attention on something unwanted
Or something you desire more instead.
—The Council
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2011-02-17
Many are asking about negativity.
The only negativity that exists
Is what you create
So you can transform it.
—The Council
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2011-01-08
Love allows everything you desire.
It even allows you to create your challenges or things you consider negative.
Nothing is off limits.
—The Council
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Welcome
Bob & Cynthia
Welcome to Ask The Council, a blog where you can ask a group of loving and wise spirit guides a question and get an answer, for free. You can also contact us for a paid private phone session with The Council, and you can read the questions other readers have asked and the answers they’ve received. Other posts contain quotations from The Council that we hope you find inspiring, uplifting, and educational.
Ask The Council a Question
If there’s a question you’ve been thinking about and you’re curious how The Council might answer it, we encourage you to either use the blog’s Comments feature to ask your question, or contact us for a private phone session. You can click here to go to the ‘Let us know what you think about this post, or ask The Council a question’ section of this Welcome post and type your question there or you can type your question in the same section at the bottom of any post that inspires you to ask a question or leave a comment.
Since the blog is currently a project we do in our spare time it can take a while for us to do a session with The Council on a question and then publish a post on the session. Depending on the question and the session it can sometimes take weeks after a question is asked to publish a post with The Council’s answer. Please be patient.
The Council
Cynthia is able to communicate with a group of five non-physical spirit guides in a manner similar to the way Esther Hicks communicates with and speaks for the spirit guides, Abraham, and Jane Roberts communicated and spoke for the spirit guide, Seth. I (Bob) basically interview The Council as they speak through Cynthia during what we refer to as a session. Sessions generally last 5-15 minutes and are usually audio recorded. During the session Cynthia is aware of what The Council is saying and she also receives visual impressions and other types of telepathic communication from them.
The Council’s Basic Guidance
Since we began these sessions with The Council around 2009 they consistently emphasize a few basic ideas that we attempt to summarize here:
1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
Finding Your Way Around the Blog
Home Page
The left-hand column on the Home page contain a long chronological series of posts with the most recent on top. Each post begins with a title. Clicking on a post title will take you to a blog page dedicated to that particular post. Following each post is a Like button where you can indicate to us and other readers if you like the post.
The footer section of each post identifies the date the post was published, the Categories the post has been assigned to, the keyword/keyphrase Tags assigned to the post, and a Comment link. If readers comments on a post, the Comments link will indicate the number of comments. If a post has no comments yet, the Comment link text appears as “Leave a Comment”.
Clicking on the Comments link takes you to a Comment text box on a post page dedicated to that post. Here you can type a comment in the text box and click the Post Comment button to have your comment displayed just below the text box. If you are replying to someone else’s comment, your comment will appear indented underneath the comment you are replying to.
At the bottom of the left column on the Home page is a ‘Previous Entries’ link that will take you to a page with a list of earlier posts.
Blog Features
The right-hand column of most blog pages contains this Welcome message. Below the Welcome message in the right-hand column are some useful features:
Email Subscription: Use this to subscribe to blog posts. You will receive an email notification with a link back to the blog each time a new post is published.
Search: Type a keyword or phrase and click the Search button to get a list of posts in the left column that contain the keyword or phrase.
Archives: The Archives list indicates the number of posts for each month listed. Clicking on the link for a month will display in the left column of the page a list of the posts published that month.
Categories: This is a list of keywords used to categorize posts. Posts can be included in more than one category, if applicable. Clicking on a category link will display in the left column a list of posts assigned to the category you selected.
Navigation Bar
The Navigation Bar at the top of each page contains a link to the blog Home page and links to the following additional pages:
Welcome: A link that displays this Welcome message in the left column (and the right column). At the bottom of the Welcome message is a Comment box where you can post a general comment about the blog or ask The Council a question.
Questions & Answers: Use this link to display a list of introductions to our longer posts, most of which are responses to reader questions. This is an easy way to check out these more in-depth posts. They are listed in chronological order with the most recent post on top. Clicking on the post title will take you to the page where you can read the complete post.
Contact Us: The Contact Us page contains a contact form similar to the Comment form mentioned above. The difference between the Contact Us form and the Comment forms is that the Contact Us form is a private message to us (Cynthia and Bob). It is not posted on the blog. Comments appear on the post page where the comment is posted. The Contact Us form can be used for communicating with us about private sessions or other private matters you think aren’t appropriate for posting in a public Comment.
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