How Can My Positivity Outweigh Other People’s Negativity?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader, and it’s a little different from our usual posts because the day after we did the session to answer Anonymous’s questions, The Council told Cynthia they had a few things they wanted to add. So we did a follow-up session the next day and added its transcription after the transcription of Anonymous’s session, which starts immediately below.
Anonymous: There’s a lot of chaos in our world right now which I understand from you is a series of challenges that we chose in order to turn it around.
Council: And we’ve all decided to be here on Earth in this chaos. In spirit we knew this chaos had a great possibility of happening according to how people think and what they created. As a group, this is what we’ve created.
Anonymous: But a lot of people are convinced that humans are fundamentally flawed, greedy, prejudiced, etc., and basically that we and our Earth are doomed.
Council: You, the people here, and the Earth aren’t doomed. The Earth has a long, long life ahead of it. Not everybody is greedy. Not everybody is negative. This negativity is here for us to see it, and then to look at what you’re learning from this. Do I want to be like this? Watch how other people react and how they talk, but then go back into yourself. How do you want to act? Are you being judgemental? Or are you allowing these people to be who they are? And are you allowing the part of yourself that you want to come forward to come forward?
Anonymous: The scorching temperatures around the world are only making people feel more negative. I understand everyone has their own path and timeline for understanding we are powerful spirits who can manifest what we desire.
Council: You can manifest absolutely anything you want. There’s no question of that.
Anonymous: Sometimes I wonder if my positivity is enough, though, when so many others are feeling so negatively.
Council: Do you know that one little candle can erase so much darkness? One positive thought can undo hundreds of negative thoughts.
The people that are here and seeing this negativity but are being positive, there’s a reason you’re here. You’ve come here to try and change this. If you see the negativity and you judge it, or you hate people for being like that, then you’re becoming part of that negativity. It’s your place to see the negativity and continue to have positive thoughts.
There are always people that are negative, and there are always people that are positive. But at this time the positive people in your reality have a lot of work to do. Unfortunately there are many, many more positive people than we hear about. And those thoughts and those desires of how you wish it could be, and how you saw how it was before, and can we go back to being happy and simple? The answer is yes. And you are here to keep thinking about this, to keep feeling it, and to keep being positive, no matter what is going on around you. That is your purpose. Together all of us will change that.
And we here in spirit help you every day to find that positive thought, to find that positive feeling. If you allow it in, you’ll begin to see a change in yourself. And then you’ll see a change in the people around you because as you change, your energy will touch the people around you. And then you’ll see it reach out into the world. You’ll start hearing more positive things on the news. It’s so important at this time to stay with that positivity. It’s more powerful than you can even imagine.
Anonymous: Can the positivity of one person override or outweigh the negativity of many in one’s own reality?
Council: Yes, it can.
Anonymous: It feels a bit scary to ask this question because it feels like asking, Is the weight of all the world’s problems really on me to solve?
Council: The weight of everyone’s problems, or the world’s problems, are not for you to solve. Your job is to shine. Shine that light, those positive thoughts, because the people that are around you, you will not change them. They will see how you are, they will be in your energy, and all of a sudden, on their own, they’ll start looking at things differently. They will have a little bit better outlook, and then that will grow.
And so as you’re around people, it’s good to remember you can’t control or change anyone. You can only be yourself, as bright and shining a light as you can be, and as positive as you can be. And as these other people get ready, they’ll see it. They’ll want to be part of what you represent. They’ll start thinking to themselves: How come you’re feeling good and you’re so positive? I want some of that. And they’ll watch you. And all of a sudden little changes will become real inside of them.
That’s why we say it’s so important to be yourself. Don’t fall into that negativity. It’s your job to be loving, to be the spirit that you are that’s shining and holding the light for this reality, to stay in that. That’s your job. That’s the only job you have, to bring more happiness, more calmness, more stability, into this world. Be that light.
Anonymous: But I’d like to clarify how effective being positive, meditating, and manifesting is when we live in a world with other people with different beliefs and desires.
Council: It’s your job to let these people have their beliefs and their desires until they get to a place where they realize they want something different.
Anonymous: Sometimes oppositional beliefs and desires all clamoring for attention.
Council: This is where you stay positive. Let people talk the negative talk, or worry, or complain, or be angry. You stay in the light. You show compassion, show some understanding, and you don’t try to change anyone. Know that it’s your place to allow everyone to be. And as you stay positive, guess what? You’re helping these people grow. You’re putting your positivity out there, and then it’s up to them to take that change and to let it in. Your job is to send it out, and let it be their job to accept it.
Anonymous: This also relates to politics, which shapes our world in big ways. If I want a law passed that I think is just, humane, and will bring happiness to more people, but there are other people who are against it, how does my positive thinking counter their negative thinking? Can it overcome their repression?
Council: Yes, it can, but stay in that positivity.
Anonymous: It’s hard to not get stuck in the place of anger and even hatred when it comes to politics.
Council: Yes, exactly, but when you do get stuck, when you realize you hate this person or that person, you hate what they believe, you now have come down to their level. Their negativity has reached you instead of your positivity reaching them. And so when you feel negative, all you have to do is say, “Oh, I recognize what I’m doing. I’m falling into negativity.” And change your thoughts. Don’t beat yourself up. Don’t get mad. You say, “Aah, I recognize this. This negativity is so strong that it’s getting through to me. Well I’ll just shine my light. I will come from my heart. I know I have a job to do, and it’s to be positive. And you’ll see things change.
Anonymous: When it comes to politics, and I don’t just mean the United States, I mean globally. Having a new way to think about my own power and agency would be very helpful and would allow me to escape that trap.
Council: So sit and meditate, and go into your heart, and let a green light shine from your heart, and watch it get bigger and bigger and fill up the room. Then see it fill up your street, your neighborhood, your state, your country. Put it around the whole globe, and fill that green with love. That’s your job.
Additional Council material recorded the following day
Council: And so we wanted to add this little bit of information because there are many questions about being positive, staying in the light, and showing compassion. And we’d like to say here that in many of the questions, when we answer, we give the same answer. We give it differently, we say it differently, but it all means the same thing. Different people understand our answers in different ways because we’re not all the same and our thinking isn’t the same.
And so we’d like to say here that all of the answers to why we’re here and what we need to do are simple. The answers are simple and they will always be the same. This doesn’t mean that it’s easy to do, but if you’ll reflect on past readings and information, you will say it is simple. There’s no message that has many difficult things you have to do. It is simple.
And it’s simple because you are the one, and the only one, that’s in charge of your life. You create your own world. You create it with your thoughts. We all volunteered to be here, or we wouldn’t be here. And we know there will be times of peace and there will be times of chaos, but we are here for one reason only. And that is to take the love that we experience in spirit and bring it forward into the reality that we are creating.
How do you do this? You don’t need a lot of money. You don’t need to travel. You do it with your thoughts. And why is that? Because at this time in the history of what you’re creating, we want to take a step forward. We want to know that we are in charge of our lives, and what you say in your thoughts is the most important thing. Your thoughts are such wonderful tools – your choice, whether to be negative or whether to be positive. And so the whole world that you create wants to step forward. You’ve all chosen to do this with your mind and with your thoughts.
And so we say, be positive. At all times try to think positive. The negative will come in, that is true. And there’s no reason to beat yourself up, but to recognize it and say, “No. Alright, there it is again. I’m being negative. I’m falling into the negative energy. But now I’ll change my thoughts. I’ll replace it with something better.”
When you’re angry with someone you think a better thought. You find a way to accept who they are and go on being positive, sending love. And if all you can do is stand in the middle of a circle of light and send it out, then that’s good. That’s a beginning. Stay in the light. Stay positive.
Remember, we’ve all agreed to this life. We all agreed to take this humankind and let it advance, not with hard work, not with struggle, but with thoughts. How simple that is. Is it easy? It’s up to you, but it is simple. Stay in the light. Stay positive. Send good thoughts out everywhere in your reality. You will see the change. This is the reason you’ve come to the Earth path and we thought it would be helpful to just add this on and clarify it a little bit.
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Why Don’t I Have A Good Relationship With My Mother?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Ilona, who asks about her relationship with her mother.
Ilona: I experienced difficulties that were a great challenge for me from the time I was young. My mother always perceived me negatively and didn’t show me as much love as my two sisters.
Council: You set this experience up yourself in spirit. From the very beginning you wanted to learn the lesson of independence, the lesson of accepting others for who they are, you wanted to learn about boundaries, and you wanted to learn how to let go of things and move your life in the direction you wanted. As a young child you began to have feelings that perhaps you weren’t good enough, feeling you weren’t accepted, and so your path began.
Ilona: I’d like to know why my mother doesn’t need me in her life? Why is she pushing me away? Did I hurt her in any way?
Council: There’s nothing you’ve done to hurt your mother, but in spirit, before you came into this reality, you and your mother set up the kind of relationship you’re having. What feels to you like your mother is pushing you away was an agreement you made with her so that your life would be difficult and you’d have to be stronger. And in finding your strength you’d feel very proud of yourself.
In 2020 my mother had a stroke, and in the first few months I felt like our relationship was getting better. That was until my youngest sister moved in with her. Since then my relationship with my mother has been tested again.
Council: Go back to this time when your mother had her stroke and you thought your relationship was improving. How did you feel about this? How do you remember this time? This is the feeling you’re looking for again, but you set it up so you’d feel this way whether you had your mother’s approval or not. This was a taste to remind you of what you were looking for, and then it was taken away. This was all your choice on a spiritual level.
Ilona: After my youngest sister moved in, my mother doesn’t respond to my messages, and doesn’t want to talk to me when my sister isn’t there. I suspect my sister doesn’t want me to have a nice relationship with my mother and only wants to keep my mother to herself.
Council: Whether this is what your sister wants or not, how do you feel about your relationship with your mother? It’s up to you to make up your mind and go in the direction of what you want to happen. It’s a lot of work to look at this relationship and decide if this is what you want. Is it too difficult? Or can you look at it and learn your lesson and feel good about yourself, whether you have your mother’s or your sister’s approval or closeness with them.
What can you find about yourself that makes you feel good? Is it somewhere else in a different relationship? Can you accept what your mother and sister do, send them love, and let go? If you can’t send love, can you just let go? Because what you’re looking for isn’t to be found in this relationship. This relationship is to get you to look more at yourself, to find out about yourself and the kind of person you are, what you’ll allow, and what you won’t allow. It’s about boundaries. The bottom line is you’re supposed to learn about yourself, love yourself, and feel good about what you accept, and what you don’t accept.
We’re not sent to Earth to suffer and feel horrible. We’re sent here to look at these lessons and to find a way of dealing with them, whether letting it go to make you feel good, or whether it’s pushing forward to see what you can do. When you realize you can’t change another person, can you accept them for who they are? See them and speak to them when you feel like it, or completely walk away. These are all decisions you wish to make. You wish to take your life in the direction you find more comfortable and more loving for yourself.
Ilona: Why is my youngest sister so manipulative?
Council: It’s the part she chose to play and that you both set up and agreed to in spirit. So if she’s manipulative, do you want this in your life? Do you wish to fight against this? Or can you accept your sister for who she is and know that she has her own lessons to learn from this kind of behavior? And then not focus on how manipulative she is, but how – now that you see it – that’s something you don’t want around you, and move forward appropriately.
Ilona: What can I do to improve my relationship with my mother?
Council: Always send your mother and your sister the energy of love, whether you understand them or not. And decide to be there for them when they want you to be there, or completely let go. You must make the decision. Remember you can’t change another person. You can accept them for what they’re doing because you don’t know what they’re trying to learn in their reality. Focus on yourself and what you want, and move in that direction.
Ilona: Is there any hope for me?
Council: There’s always hope. On an energetic level you can picture them changing. Picture them calling you. Picture them asking you to meet with them. You must do the work on an energetic level first. You can do this if it’s what you want, but you first have to decide what you want. Work energetically with them and you’ll see the change begin to happen. There’s nothing you can do physically in your reality to get them to change. You can see the change happen when you constantly focus on how you want your life to be.
Ilona: Is there anything I should know right now?
Council: The most important thing is to concentrate on yourself. See how your relationship with your mother and sister is going. Decide what you want. Do you want a relationship? Do you not want it? Then work energetically. Even if you decide it’s not what you want, picture your relationship going in different ways, but happily. Imagine they’re happy without you in their lives and you’re happy without them in your life. Always come from a place of love, letting go, and everyone feeling the happiness and joy that’s intended when you learn lessons.
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How Can I Help This Man With His Commitment Issues?
This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named, Unicorn, to our post, Why Has This Man In My Life Become So Distant? Unicorn says, I’d love to know how I can help this man with commitment issues, but I have no idea how to. His behavior has turned 360° and I think he’s met someone else and hasn’t been honest with me.
The Council says there are several relationships this man goes in and out of. But you’re helping him with his commitment issues by understanding them, then letting them go, and allowing this man to be who he needs to be. Forcing him to face these commitment issues doesn’t help this situation. Now that you know there are these commitment issues, you can’t force this. You can only accept the situation, wish this man well, and see how he moves along his path.
The Council says it’s always Unicorn’s choice to know she’s unable to heal what this man is going through regarding commitment. You can only be in this man’s life if you wish to be in his life, but you can’t heal his life. This man has to understand why these issues are going on in his life and he has to decide for himself if he wants to make a change. You see the situation as his commitment issue. It’s upsetting and you want to heal this. This man can be very happy not being committed to one person.
You don’t know the path this man is on. All you can know is, do you wish to be in this man’s life? Do you wish to be his friend? Can you handle this? If you’re only in this man’s life hoping you’ll be able to push him into understanding his commitment issues and he’d have an “ah ha” moment, this isn’t how things works. The choice is yours to be in some sort of relationship or out of it.
Send love into this relationship and watch it grow. Create with your thoughts the way you’d like this relationship to be. Create with your thoughts that whatever this man’s commitment issue is, why it’s there, and where it comes from, you can send light to this man to help him on his path.
Unicorn says, He always called me Unicorn because he never met someone like me before. Then overnight he pretty much became a magician when it comes to communication. He hardly ever communicates with me, but he agrees to see me without being intimate or affectionate when we’d become close in this way months ago. The Council says at this point it’s up to you. Can you deal with this kind of relationship? Is this what you want? Are you comfortable with this? See where the relationship goes and use your thoughts and your feelings to create more. The choice is always yours.
Unicorn says, I’m still confused why this man is happy to see me, but not communicate with me. The Council says he can be happy to see you now and then, when he’s in the mood, and he has nothing else going on. You don’t need to know the reasons why. If there’s happiness when you get together, be in that moment and enjoy it.
Unicorn says, I feel this man pushed his way into my life to cause grief and chaos. The Council says there was no pushing. Your coming together was planned in spirit. You let this man into your life to discover what you need to discover about you, and about how you let this relationship affect you. Moving forward, take your attention off this man and put it on yourself. Why are you in this relationship? Why does it bother you? Why do you stay in this relationship? How does it make you feel? How can you bring joy into this relationship when you’re together? Your purpose is to accept what this relationship is, to bring joy into it, and to appreciate what’s there.
Unicorn says, To be honest, I’m deeply hurt. I’m lost in what to do and need guidance. All I want is the truth to the situation. But if my soul has planned to be in his life to help him heal the issue of commitment, then I’d love to know how I can help. The Council says again, You can accept this person the way they are.
The Council says you’re all so much more than you think you are. You’re all on this wonderful path of growth, understanding, realizing there are many lives that you’ve experienced, and many more that you’ll create when you’re ready. Focus on being the creator. Focus on bringing joy and laughter into your life and everything will come to you. Everything will be shown. When you’re happy you’ll see the connections that are being made in your life. There will be more understanding. And stay in that feeling of joy.
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How Can We Help My Aunt with Her Depression?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Looking For Advice, who says: For the last few years my aunt has slipped into a depression. She was a happy and lively woman before, but ever since she became depressed she’s lost the essence of herself.
The Council says the depression is something she’s gone into because she’s focusing on a lot of loss she’s gone through, she’s feeling alone, and she’s close to the end of her life. There is a withdrawing going on and you should allow this withdrawing to happen.
In spirit your aunt prepared to have many disappointing experiences and losses and then to go into this depression to look at each of these experiences. While in her depression your aunt wanted to be surrounded by caring people and experiencing love. Even though she’s withdrawn her spirit can feel this love.
The way to help your aunt is not to treat her as a depressed person, but to speak energetically with her. Talk about daily events, news, and things on television. Keep your aunt in the present moment and get her interested in what’s going on around her. If she’s feeling cared for and allows these feelings from her family and friends to come into her energy field, she’ll slowly come out of this depression.
You have to give your aunt time to experience her feelings and thoughts of loss and think about what she’d like to do with the rest of her life. She’s in a time of withdrawal and during this she’s creating her future.
Looking For Advice says: My aunt’s family has tried all sorts of doctors and praying to different gods, but she’s not even close to the way she was. She’s even undergone thyroid surgeries to make it a little better, but nothing seems to be helping. The Council says the thyroid surgeries aren’t the answer.
The Council says when you experience a lot of loss or a lot of hurt from the people around you, while it’s going on you can ignore it and put it in the back of your mind in order to live your day to day life. When you get older and things quiet down, these memories start to come back into your awareness and make the havoc you weren’t willing to face when you originally experienced them. You must allow your aunt to go through this.
You can ask her if she wants to talk about anything from her past. You can bring up good memories to give her positive thoughts, but the main thing is to show love. By allowing her to be who she is she can work her way through this depression.
The Council closes by saying instead of trying to get your aunt to be her old self, love her by allowing her to be in this challenge that she’s set up for herself. Her higher self wants to go through this depression and find it’s way out.
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Do People Pre-Plan in Spirit to Experience Addiction?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Kristi, who asks if people pre-plan in spirit to experience addiction in their life, and why would they do that?
The Council says right now so many people are interested in addiction and they choose to experience it for many reasons. There’s something they want to learn. There’s something they want to relearn from a past life. There can be something they’re doing to help another spirit grow. Each person has their own path to follow in this choice of experiencing addiction in their life.
Kristi asks how God and spirit view addiction. The Council says God and spirit are the same thing; we are all God and spirit inside ourselves. Each one of us views addiction differently. Some people have no understanding of addiction, become very angry, want no part of this in their lives and pull away. They block out the addition and go into denial.
Others see addiction as someone needing help. Reaching out to this person is part of their journey just to help this spirit get through it. These people have supportive and loving energy and the courage to try and deal with these people.
Each one of us are God and spirit and views addiction differently. It’s all according to what you believe. How you view it is part of your plan for what you want to learn in your lifetime.
When you see someone dealing with addiction, try to understand their path. But more importantly, understand how you feel about this addiction. Is it wise for you to pull away? Is it wise for you to help? Are you there to learn boundaries around this addiction?
Some people want to learn about addiction. If you’re choosing to be an addict, will you agree to come into my life to teach me and help me learn about it? The spiritual point of view is what sets up what the human will go through.
There are many, many lessons to learn from addiction. There’s abandonment, when your family no longer has patience for you. There’s sickness, overdosing, and early death. It’s the experience the soul wants to have. Some people want to go through addiction and have that devastation and then find a way out of it so they know what it feels like. They can then go on and teach others, if not in this reality, then in a future reality.
Some people judge addiction harshly and they need to experience it the way they do. And along their path they may have something happen where their experience will change what they believe. Others may become very bitter and angry from being exposed to addiction and not understand it. These people may choose to become addicted in their next life. And some people choose addiction because they want to learn about shame, abandonment, hurt, death, or love when they come out of their addiction.
Coming into this world the most important thing you agreed to do is to take the love you experience in spirit and bring it into your physical reality so you can change it and make it better. The way you can do this is to allow everyone to be who they are. You cannot change someone else and you shouldn’t change them because they are planning to experience this addiction and they want to learn from it.
Send the addicted person love and allow them to go through whatever they’ve planned to experience. Hopefully they’ve also planned to come out of their addiction. If not, understand with your heart if they succumb to addiction, it was what they wanted to experience. And they’ll use this experience in a future life to help themselves, get more understanding, and help others.
The best thing you can do for an addicted person is to send them love. If you can’t send them love, then another great part of love is allowing the addicted person to learn their lessons so that they grow. And we all grow from their experience.
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What Can I Do About My Financial Difficulties?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Miya, who says she’s in a repeated cycle of financial difficulties. She doesn’t like being around negative energies, but most of jobs that would accept her are with the public where she has to deal with different types of people and by the end of the day she feels drained.
The Council says they see a lot of negative thoughts on Miya’s part which are bringing in negative experiences, affecting her finances, affecting where she works, and affecting the people she surrounds herself with. You think you’re being positive, but there’s just as many negative thoughts and they’re counterbalancing each other.
The Council feels Miya senses negative energy from many people and they ask why she focuses on this? Do you look at people you feel have negative energy and realize these people are spiritual beings? Do you realize they’re here trying to learn their lessons and go through obstacles, joys, and experiences? Can you send these people positive energy? Can you understand what they’re going through?
The Council says Miya needs to be around people and truly focus on the good in them. You need to tell yourself to reach out to their spirit. This will make you change how you see people. This will raise your vibration. When this is done the right kind of work will come to you. People that you like to be around will appear in your life. It’s about your thoughts and your beliefs and how they will give you a better perspective on what’s going on.
Miya says she lives with relatives who don’t believe as much in spirituality as she does. The Council says you came into this lifetime to bring love. Love is allowing everyone to be who they are. Allow your family to be who they are. They don’t have to have the same energy as you. They don’t have to have the same beliefs as you. Your lesson is to send these people love the way you see them.
Miya says she’s in her late 20s with a bachelor’s degree in audio and still lives with her parents. The Council asks if you’re looking for the kind of work that your degree will help you get. If you feel you have to work at something you don’t like, volunteer somewhere you can use your audio skills. This should give you joy and begin to change your energy. You have to bring in some joy.
Miya says my family is barely getting by. We’re all crowded in a small home in a disturbing neighborhood. I still find ways to be happy, but happiness doesn’t pay the bills. The Council says what will help pay the bills is to look for things about your family that you like and be grateful you have it. This begins to change your vibration and bring in different situations. Your main purpose in this lifetime was to go into negative situations and look for the good in them. As you find the good these things will begin to change.
Miya says she prays for a financial change and tries to manifest a miracle. This job that’s coming into my life is going to be okay, but my patience for having money in my hands is disturbing me. The Council says the miracle she’s asking for is a change in her beliefs. Be grateful this job is coming to you. Be grateful it will pay you money you need. As you’re grateful for these things, whether you like the job or not, the perfect situation will come along.
The Council closes by saying Miya wanted to experience negativity in this lifetime and she’s created it all around her. Now go back and look at for the good in each of these situations. Improve your thoughts. Know that each person is a spirit, whether you like them or not, and bless them. You have no idea what these people are going through and what their challenges are. Begin to think of other people with compassion and send them love. Be grateful you have a job whether you like it or not. Be grateful for the amount of money you’re making whether you like it or not. Be grateful for your environment. You’re not alone. If you can do this, things will change for you.
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Will My Upcoming Abortion Affect My 1-Year Old Son?
This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Tracy who’s about 2 months pregnant and scheduled to have an abortion the week after she posted her comment. After reading our post on Beth’s abortion she felt at ease, but has difficulty believing that karma won’t get her or her 1-year old son and asks about that. This will be Tracy’s third abortion and she asks if these souls have come back into her life. And she asks for advice on her spirituality, which she struggles with.
The Council starts by saying Tracy’s abortion won’t have a negative impact on her son. They say karma is what you believe and wish to create in your many lifetimes. They say there isn’t any monster karma that will make life miserable for her or her son, and ask Tracy to let go of the fear something in the future will affect them.
The Council says each of Tracy’s three abortions was pre-planned by her in spirit before she was born. They were created so she could learn about the gift of life and how wonderful it is to allow souls to come into this life and create the reality that soul chooses. And they ask Tracy what she has learned from each of these abortions.
The Council says these aborted souls have not returned to Tracy’s life, but have helped her understand her part in creating her son’s life. And they say she wants to understand the spirituality of becoming a parent and to be supportive of what her son creates rather than being a controlling mother.
The Council asks Tracy to meditate on the gift she and her son have given each other. And when she realizes she is a spirit helping another spirit move forward on his path she’ll experience great joy and love, not only for her son, but also for the souls she aborted.
The Council finishes by counseling Tracy to bring love into every situation and ask herself how she feels with each experience she creates. And they say to always ask for more understanding, more acceptance, and more allowing.
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Purpose of Sharing This Lifetime
This post is inspired by questions and comments from a reader who identifies herself as D. She says many years ago she fell in love with someone who didn’t love her back and the relationship went from friends, to enemies, to friends, and on and on for years. The Council asks D. how she see’s this happening when she looks back on this, and to focus on the aspect of what was able to bring them back to friendship again.
D. says she felt a strange connection to this man from the first moment she saw him. She’s never been able to let go of that connection and often feels stuck and depressed about it. Recently he married someone else and D. describes feeling more loss and pain. She has moved and stopped talking to him, but the thought of this man is with her no matter where she goes or what she does. She asks why her soul can’t let go and find happiness elsewhere.
The Council says D’s soul is very willing to let go, but her human part holds onto what her future could have been with this man. This leads to feelings of depression and loss because D. feels she’s just this human body rather than a spirit in her body.
The Council explains that truly loving someone is allowing them to be however they want to be, and they ask D. if she can allow this man the happiness he’s found with his wife. And can she now find this same happiness with other people who’ve agreed to come into her life for this purpose.
D. wonders if she and this man have shared past lives together and that’s why she keeps feeling connected to him. The Council says they have shared many lifetimes, but ask D. if she wants to focus on what was, or where she is now, and create her future.
The Council says this man’s role was to teach D. to let go and find love wherever she can. And they ask if she’s ready to let go and find the love she’s looking for within herself. Can she feel the love with every person who comes into her life? As she feels love for herself she will attract love from other people.
D. says she’s always known that love is eternal, and The Council says it’s at these moments that she’s remembering who she truly is as a spiritual being. They say we are all love and we want to bring this feeling into this reality.
D. seems to associate her connection to this man with feeling loss and pain rather than appreciating the time they’ve spent together that’s been good for her. The Council says D. needs to change her thoughts about this man and realize he’s a spirit in a physical body. That is what will give her relief. And then ask herself what else she wanted to experience in this lifetime. And tell herself she’s ready to experience the next part of this journey, to experience love, joy, and happiness. Can she do that?
D. asks why she feels connected to a soul who doesn’t feel connected to her at all and she asks if this connection is one-sided. The Council says the connection isn’t one-sided, it’s just that she chooses to be more aware and learn from this connection.
D. finishes by asking what she can do to stop this feeling of connection and what is the purpose of sharing this lifetime with this man. The Council says there are many purposes and at any moment she and this man were able to choose the path they wish to take.
The Council recommends what she perceives as loss, she now perceive as the love she is that she’s looking for elsewhere. Appreciate the positive aspects of this relationship when she thought it was good. Ask herself what she’s learned that is good from this relationship and how she can move forward by bringing new relationships into her life.
This session appears to have some unusually good advice for D. and the rest of us. Listen to the entire 20-minute session with The Council to get all the detail.
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Is the Soul of My Aborted Brother One of My Children?
This post is inspired by a question from Laurel, who wants to know if the soul of a child her mother aborted has come to her as one of her children. She says she still thinks about this abortion 30 years later.
The Council says the soul of Laurel’s aborted half-brother is not the same soul as one of her four children in this lifetime. What The Council does see is a lifetime in ancient Egypt where Laurel raised and taught many of Pharaoh’s children. And each time a child died or was aborted there was a hurt she is trying to heal in her current lifetime. Her children in the current life made an agreement with her to come in and help her experience the joy of having them around.
The mother’s abortion brought up Laurel’s disappointment so it would, as she says, “haunt” her.” But her children in the current lifetime are there to stir Laurel’s memories of past lives and to help heal that hurt. She is at the point where she’s ready to explore this and slowly share it with her children so their minds and belief systems can open and they can become aware of other realities.
The Council realizes Laurel is bothered by her mother’s abortion, but they advise appreciating the children in her life right now, how they’ve helped her get to this point, and how they encourage her to heal this disappointment.
In the same way she was unable to prevent the Pharaoh’s wives from aborting their children, she was unable to stop her mother from aborting her brother. The Council points out Laurel’s disappointment with her mother for this, but says it is so she can heal it now and get to the point, with love, where she can understand what happened. She can allow her mother to be who she is. This is the law of allowing.
The Council advises Laurel to meditate on these things and begin to look at them differently. She hasn’t lost her aborted brother or Pharaoh’s aborted children because we are all connected in spirit. When Laurel understands The Council’s teaching that she is spirit in a physical body, she’ll experience many healings from her lifetime in Egypt, and The Council will be with her as she goes through this.
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How Do I Release My Connection to This Soul?
This post is inspired by an anonymous reader who says she’s suffered over a contract with her soul mate that he’s repeatedly broken. But The Counsel says there’s no contract to break, just an agreement, and it’s time to change it, to end it, or redesign it.
She seeks a release from the suffering she’s experienced, has no interest in men she meets even though they’re interesting, says she wants out of the relationship with her soul mate, and doubts she’ll feel love again although she’d like to. The Counsel asks how she can never feel love again when that is what she truly is. It is her essence even though she chooses out of fear, frustration, and anger not to experience it.
The Counsel says the man she calls her soul mate isn’t involved with other women out of weakness, but because he’s searching for love and that’s all good. They suggest she move forward in a loving spirit and understand this is just a plan that’s taken a turn. Nothing is wrong. There’s just a different way to experience the love she thought she’d have with this man.
The Council says the most important thing to remember is that these two people agreed they would try to bring love into this reality. But there are difficult times and the question is, can you stay in the love? The Counsel believes she doesn’t feel this love for herself so they say to step away from this relationship and find it. When she finds it things will change for her. It’s possible it will be a magnet that will bring him back or she will bring in new people that are the same loving vibration.
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Nadine’s House 11-5-2014
This post is the first since Bob’s mini-stroke so we’ll keep it short. Usually we just include the recordings of The Council only, but you’ll notice we’ve included four additional recordings after the closing. We thought they were sufficiently interesting to be included along with The Council material. We hope you enjoy them.
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Understanding Your Spiritual Intentions for Your Human Experiences
This post is inspired by a question from Susan, who wants to know why some people (particularly a man she knows) experience childhood abuse or other types of trauma and end up with addictions, unemployed, and homeless; and other people (particularly Susan) move past their childhood trauma and take advantage of opportunities to improve their life.
What humans and spirit consider improvement can be very different
“But what you do not understand here is that your idea of what he needs to improve his life, and what his spirit needs to improve his life, is totally different. Is that understood?”
–The Council
(Text formatted like above throughout the post represents quotations from the session)
This was intriguing and we spent most of the session getting a better understanding of what The Council meant by this. The result was some impressive insights into the relationship between who you are a human being and who you are as a spiritual being. As an added bonus The Council offered some fascinating insights into the subject of multiple realities.
Audio recording
The audio player below (if your browser supports it) contains a recording of the session with The Council to answer Susan’s question. The session is divided into multiple audio tracks listed below the audio player bar. To listen to the entire session select Track #1. The rest of the tracks will automatically play in order. Text above the play bar indicates the track that’s playing (or ready to play if the recording is paused). Copyright ℗ 2014 Bob & Cynthia Dukes
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You have no idea what spirit wishes
The Council continued from their previous comment above:
“So if you [Susan] feel that he has had several opportunities to change his life or perhaps somehow deal differently with his abuse, yes that would make sense to many. But you have no idea what his spirit wishes.
“And what we see here is that it is his wish to be in this lifetime and to experience this addiction, to experience the abuse from what you would consider an unhealthy attitude toward what he has come through.
“What you do not know is that he has experienced this before (or as we would say, now [but] in another reality) and he has experienced it where he is dealing differently with his abuse and (perhaps) handling it in (what you would consider) a much better way [in his current reality]. Is that understood?”
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Every Question is Important
This is the first of several posts describing a 1-hour session with The Council on Saturday, March 30, 2013 to answer recent questions from Jose, Michelle, and D.
Jose’s Question #4
We began the session with Michelle’s question about whether to move to Barnstaple, Devon or Glastonbury (both in England), and when I (Bob) was about to ask The Council D’s question about what she describes as a broken soul contract, The Council interrupted:
“There is a number 4 that we keep seeing; what is that, Bob?”
—The Council
(This formatting throughout the post represents The Council’s comments during our session. Text [in brackets] in these quotations has been added to improve readability and clarity when this seems useful.)
I explained that we have four very interesting questions from Jose and that we answered his first 3 questions based on our understanding of The Council’s teachings because they seemed related to guidance we’ve written about in other posts. It was our intention to ask The Council about Jose’s fourth question in this session and when they asked about a number 4, I assumed they were referring to the Jose’s fourth question. I asked if they’d like me to read Jose’s fourth question to them and they said, “Yes.”
Jose’s Question #4: “If we come to this incarnation to have fun and remember who we really are, why do most people, if not all, fail at this attempt?”
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Why Would Spirit Choose to Be a Human Being Who Experiences Pain?
If you’ve read our Welcome post in the right-hand column of these blog pages, you may remember The Council’s #1 teaching: all human beings are spiritual beings in a physical body. In the 4-5 years The Council’s been speaking to us through Cynthia, this is the idea they have most consistently emphasized.
We mention this in connection to a recent question for The Council from Tanya, who says she’s having the most painful experience of her life because she believes a close personal friend has broken a soul agreement he made with her in spirit.
“Do you realize you have what you believe is a soul contract — we call an agreement, not a contract — with everyone that enters your life?”
I (Bob) mentioned to The Council that Tanya seems particularly interested in a specific soul agreement with one special man who’s been in her life, and how she feels he has broken this soul agreement.
“There is no broken contract or agreement. It is something that was decided between the two of you before you even entered into these bodies. And so when you go through something that is difficult, you believe, ‘uh-oh, something went wrong, this contract is broken.’
“It is exactly the way you wanted it to be, on [the part of] both partners.”
—The Council
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The Influence Our Thoughts & Feelings Have on Other People’s Experience
This post is a response to a question from a reader named Bari who wants to believe her better-feeling thoughts about her boyfriend will create better-feeling experiences of the two of them together, as taught by the spirit guides Abraham. But when her boyfriend repeats behaviors that contrast her better-feeling thoughts, Bari wonders how much of an impact her thoughts and feelings are really able to have on the experience of her boyfriend, or anyone else, and she asks The Council’s opinion on this.
This post is the third in a series based on comments from The Council during a single session on Sunday, April 15, 2012 to answer three thought-provoking questions from Bari and Rachael. Reincarnation and past lives were the subjects of the first post, and the second post, in this series.
Helping Others with Our Thoughts
Part way through reading Bari’s second question, The Council offered the following initial comments:
“In the non-physical it is sometimes planned: ‘At some point in my life I will meet you on Earth in the physical. And if I am going through something difficult and I can’t remember who I really am, will you remind me by your thoughts? By your thoughts I will feel that energetic change. I will feel the positive vibration that you are thinking.’ And then, of course, it is up to the [other] person to tune into it and expand with it.
“And so your thoughts go out, whether positive or negative. And the soul you are working with or you are in partnership with feels that vibration.
“And so if they are depressed or they are not accomplishing what they want to accomplish, your positive thought vibration is there and it sort of kick-starts them, but you can not control what they do.
“It’s [as if] you hold the light; you hold the remembrance of who they really are for them. And then, if they allow it, they will feel that and they will move forward.
“But when you have positive thoughts or negative [thoughts] about someone, in your experience that’s how you will experience them. Is that clear?”
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2011-01-08
Love allows everything you desire.
It even allows you to create your challenges or things you consider negative.
Nothing is off limits.
—The Council
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2010-12-28
You are not here to control, manage, or fix another person’s life,
But to allow them to grow at their own pace.
The practice of allowing creates freedom, acceptance, and love.
—The Council
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2010-12-26
In every area of your life
You will only experience what is not resisted.
Focus on the possibilities for only a moment,
Allowing manifestation to occur.
—The Council
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Welcome
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Welcome to Ask The Council, a blog where you can ask a group of loving and wise spirit guides a question and get an answer, for free. You can also contact us for a paid private phone session with The Council, and you can read the questions other readers have asked and the answers they’ve received. Other posts contain quotations from The Council that we hope you find inspiring, uplifting, and educational.
Ask The Council a Question
If there’s a question you’ve been thinking about and you’re curious how The Council might answer it, we encourage you to either use the blog’s Comments feature to ask your question, or contact us for a private phone session. You can click here to go to the ‘Let us know what you think about this post, or ask The Council a question’ section of this Welcome post and type your question there or you can type your question in the same section at the bottom of any post that inspires you to ask a question or leave a comment.
Since the blog is currently a project we do in our spare time it can take a while for us to do a session with The Council on a question and then publish a post on the session. Depending on the question and the session it can sometimes take weeks after a question is asked to publish a post with The Council’s answer. Please be patient.
The Council
Cynthia is able to communicate with a group of five non-physical spirit guides in a manner similar to the way Esther Hicks communicates with and speaks for the spirit guides, Abraham, and Jane Roberts communicated and spoke for the spirit guide, Seth. I (Bob) basically interview The Council as they speak through Cynthia during what we refer to as a session. Sessions generally last 5-15 minutes and are usually audio recorded. During the session Cynthia is aware of what The Council is saying and she also receives visual impressions and other types of telepathic communication from them.
The Council’s Basic Guidance
Since we began these sessions with The Council around 2009 they consistently emphasize a few basic ideas that we attempt to summarize here:
1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
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Welcome: A link that displays this Welcome message in the left column (and the right column). At the bottom of the Welcome message is a Comment box where you can post a general comment about the blog or ask The Council a question.
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