Will My Brother And I Heal Our Relationship?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Diana.
Diana: Thank you for your amazing work. My question is: Will my brother and I ever have healing in this lifetime? He denies the emotional abuse I experienced from our narcissistic parents, and he’s been pushing me away my whole life.
Council: Did it ever cross your thoughts that he denies this because it’s very painful for him to realize what you’ve gone through? And perhaps he’s gone through some things that he’s not ready to deal with? It’s not about wanting to push you away or not believing you, but about the uncomfortable feelings that it stirs within him.
Diana: On some level he does care though and wants to have some contact, but only if I never mention my experience or pain.
Council: We’d like to ask you at this point, are you constantly bringing this abuse up with him? It’s like he has a wound in his heart and you keep sticking your finger in it. He’s heard what you have to say and it makes him very uncomfortable. Yes, he’d like to have a relationship with you, but are you basing it on that you must talk about your abuse many times? Why aren’t you letting go of it?
If it’s you that wants this relationship, then it’s good for you to get to a place where you can realize it’s best, for now, not to speak of abuse, and to build your relationship without that part coming forth. And we say that this is for right now. If you can begin a relationship slowly and have it grow, then your brother doesn’t have to be afraid all the time that you’re going to bring up the abuse. When he’s ready he will bring it up, but he has to get to a place where he is ready. Can you allow your brother to grow at his own pace? Can you show compassion? Can you show love and have a relationship with him?
Diana: This doesn’t feel authentic to me so I’ve slightly distanced myself and I’m grieving a lot because I love him so much.
Council: Why do you think it’s not authentic to stay away from a painful subject right now? Why must it be authentic only if you can talk about this abuse? There’s pain involved in this, pain that you went through, and pain that he goes through.
And again we say it’s very important for you to look at yourself. Why must you bring up this abuse? You are keeping yourself in a painful situation. You are creating the distance because you need to talk about it and your brother doesn’t. You are ready, but he is not. So can you come together and start to build a relationship without talking about the abuse? You are keeping yourself in that relationship, in that situation that you went through, that was painful.
And this is all for your own growth to realize, what is your part in this? Why is it so important to speak about the abuse to someone who’s not ready? Perhaps you can find someone that will help you and talk with you about this, but if you truly want this relationship with your brother, you can leave out the abuse. And you can both come together and heal, and feel loving feelings for each other in time. The choice is always yours.
Diana: Will he ever understand, accept, and acknowledge my truth?
Council: Yes, eventually this can happen, but for now, can you let go of the subject of abuse?
Diana: Or will I also have to detach from him like I’ve detached from my parents? This leaves me completely alone.
Council: Detaching at this point will keep you alone and keep you feeling hurt. So why must you detach? It’s just a simple choice of, right now we will not talk about this abuse. Right now we’ll build a loving, caring relationship with each other by talking about other things and experiencing other things, and finding happy things to share. If this is what you want, then go in the direction of love. Go in the direction of joy. Go in the direction of compassion for yourself and your brother. When you choose this you’ll have the relationship you want.
We send you all blessings, and thoughts of happiness, and thoughts of love, and joy, and seeing the energy around you growing and becoming more beautiful, and you feel lighter than you’ve ever felt before because you are light. Let it shine.
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Why Don’t I Have A Good Relationship With My Mother?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Ilona, who asks about her relationship with her mother.
Ilona: I experienced difficulties that were a great challenge for me from the time I was young. My mother always perceived me negatively and didn’t show me as much love as my two sisters.
Council: You set this experience up yourself in spirit. From the very beginning you wanted to learn the lesson of independence, the lesson of accepting others for who they are, you wanted to learn about boundaries, and you wanted to learn how to let go of things and move your life in the direction you wanted. As a young child you began to have feelings that perhaps you weren’t good enough, feeling you weren’t accepted, and so your path began.
Ilona: I’d like to know why my mother doesn’t need me in her life? Why is she pushing me away? Did I hurt her in any way?
Council: There’s nothing you’ve done to hurt your mother, but in spirit, before you came into this reality, you and your mother set up the kind of relationship you’re having. What feels to you like your mother is pushing you away was an agreement you made with her so that your life would be difficult and you’d have to be stronger. And in finding your strength you’d feel very proud of yourself.
In 2020 my mother had a stroke, and in the first few months I felt like our relationship was getting better. That was until my youngest sister moved in with her. Since then my relationship with my mother has been tested again.
Council: Go back to this time when your mother had her stroke and you thought your relationship was improving. How did you feel about this? How do you remember this time? This is the feeling you’re looking for again, but you set it up so you’d feel this way whether you had your mother’s approval or not. This was a taste to remind you of what you were looking for, and then it was taken away. This was all your choice on a spiritual level.
Ilona: After my youngest sister moved in, my mother doesn’t respond to my messages, and doesn’t want to talk to me when my sister isn’t there. I suspect my sister doesn’t want me to have a nice relationship with my mother and only wants to keep my mother to herself.
Council: Whether this is what your sister wants or not, how do you feel about your relationship with your mother? It’s up to you to make up your mind and go in the direction of what you want to happen. It’s a lot of work to look at this relationship and decide if this is what you want. Is it too difficult? Or can you look at it and learn your lesson and feel good about yourself, whether you have your mother’s or your sister’s approval or closeness with them.
What can you find about yourself that makes you feel good? Is it somewhere else in a different relationship? Can you accept what your mother and sister do, send them love, and let go? If you can’t send love, can you just let go? Because what you’re looking for isn’t to be found in this relationship. This relationship is to get you to look more at yourself, to find out about yourself and the kind of person you are, what you’ll allow, and what you won’t allow. It’s about boundaries. The bottom line is you’re supposed to learn about yourself, love yourself, and feel good about what you accept, and what you don’t accept.
We’re not sent to Earth to suffer and feel horrible. We’re sent here to look at these lessons and to find a way of dealing with them, whether letting it go to make you feel good, or whether it’s pushing forward to see what you can do. When you realize you can’t change another person, can you accept them for who they are? See them and speak to them when you feel like it, or completely walk away. These are all decisions you wish to make. You wish to take your life in the direction you find more comfortable and more loving for yourself.
Ilona: Why is my youngest sister so manipulative?
Council: It’s the part she chose to play and that you both set up and agreed to in spirit. So if she’s manipulative, do you want this in your life? Do you wish to fight against this? Or can you accept your sister for who she is and know that she has her own lessons to learn from this kind of behavior? And then not focus on how manipulative she is, but how – now that you see it – that’s something you don’t want around you, and move forward appropriately.
Ilona: What can I do to improve my relationship with my mother?
Council: Always send your mother and your sister the energy of love, whether you understand them or not. And decide to be there for them when they want you to be there, or completely let go. You must make the decision. Remember you can’t change another person. You can accept them for what they’re doing because you don’t know what they’re trying to learn in their reality. Focus on yourself and what you want, and move in that direction.
Ilona: Is there any hope for me?
Council: There’s always hope. On an energetic level you can picture them changing. Picture them calling you. Picture them asking you to meet with them. You must do the work on an energetic level first. You can do this if it’s what you want, but you first have to decide what you want. Work energetically with them and you’ll see the change begin to happen. There’s nothing you can do physically in your reality to get them to change. You can see the change happen when you constantly focus on how you want your life to be.
Ilona: Is there anything I should know right now?
Council: The most important thing is to concentrate on yourself. See how your relationship with your mother and sister is going. Decide what you want. Do you want a relationship? Do you not want it? Then work energetically. Even if you decide it’s not what you want, picture your relationship going in different ways, but happily. Imagine they’re happy without you in their lives and you’re happy without them in your life. Always come from a place of love, letting go, and everyone feeling the happiness and joy that’s intended when you learn lessons.
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What Can My Family Do To Help My Brother Overcome Drug Addiction?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, PE, who says, I recently found out my younger brother has been abusing drugs. What can my family do to help him overcome this addiction?
The Council says #1, don’t blame him or be angry with him for this addiction. This is something he chose to go through. Be supportive in every way you can. Make suggestions on what he can do, and then leave it up to him to follow them. When your brother gets tired of being in this situation, he’ll change. We see he’s planned in this life to have this drug experience, but also to overcome it.
There are lessons for all concerned. There are lessons for you, your family, and your brother on going through this, how to handle it, and how to have patience, love, and understanding. Stay away from blame and anger. Be supportive and suggest any kind of help you can find. Part of the lesson is finding help and letting go. Your brother must find his way out of this addiction.
While this addiction is going on, constantly ask yourself, How do I feel? What would I do if it was me? How can I understand this? What would I want? When you have these questions answered, you’ll know how to move forward in this situation. Above all, have patience and compassion.
PE asks, Is there a purpose for this drug addiction? The Council says: Yes, there is a purpose. Your brother chose to experience drug addiction to go through it, and to feel what it would be like. He chose it to feel how strong he’d be when he finds a way out of this addiction. He chose it to see how the spirits around him, including you and your family, would respond to him when he’s in his addiction and when he gets better.
There is a purpose. Your brother wants to go through this addiction to learn. Everyone concerned agreed to go through this experience to learn. Search your feelings to see how you’ll respond to him.
When you come into this reality your purpose is to take every situation and change it with love. That’s your answer to your question about the purpose of your brother’s addiction.
The Councils says they send everyone blessings, love, and happiness. And we ask you all to search for joy and find it any way you can, every day.
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How Can I Processes My Childhood Abuse?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Denisa, who asks about her childhood trauma. She says, I learned from The Council I chose this experience, but no matter how hard I try, I don’t know how to process it. The Council says, So you’ve learned about the trauma. Learning what you’ve gone through is enough to let the trauma go. Just knowing you created it to feel what it was like to go through it and change it to make it better.
Many people will ask, How do I process this trauma? And every day they think about it over and over in order to process it. Thinking about your trauma over and over only keeps you locked into it. We suggest not thinking about your trauma. You may feel this is strange advice, but when you don’t have those traumatic thoughts and pictures in your mind, it’s easier to go through it. It’s easier to process it by understanding you created this trauma for whatever reason and that’s it – the end. Don’t stay in your trauma thinking there’s some long drawn out purpose to it or process in it. There isn’t.
Instead of thinking about your trauma and how to get rid of it, leave it alone. Let it go. Take your mind and focus on other things, joyful things, things you wish to create in your life because thinking about that, you’ll create it. That’s the way you get through this trauma.
Denisa says, I’ve been working on myself a lot and sometimes I’m grateful for that experience, and sometimes I feel lost and don’t know what to do next. The Council says working on yourself doesn’t mean you go looking for all the things that are wrong with you. We suggest working on yourself by taking a positive attitude. When you have these positive thoughts, and when you can smile and feel good, that’s how you’re creating a better life for yourself.
Denisa says, I’d like to heal the pain I experienced as a child and move on. The Council sees you’ve gotten through this experience. The only pain you still experience is what you cause yourself by thinking about the trauma and remembering it over and over. You’re now creating more pain for yourself, which is keeping you in that painful situation. Change your thoughts. That’s how you let the pain go.
Denisa says, I haven’t spoken to my father in over 10 years because of the way he treated me. I’ve tried to connect with him in the past, but he’s very self-centered and manipulative, so I completely cut off contact with him. Do you think it’s okay that I don’t want to be in touch with him? The Council says of course it’s okay. He’s showing you what you need right now about how he is, and there’s no joy for you in that relationship. It’s what you’ve worked out in spirit. He’d create more uncomfortable feelings so you could walk away and let it go. This is part of him helping you to let go of that part of your life. Being around him wouldn’t make it easier. For what the two of you have worked out, communicating with your father will keep you in the trauma. It’s fine to let your relationship with him go.
Denisa asks if she and her father agreed go through this trauma on a spiritual level and The Council says, Of course. The agreement was to bring this trauma in and create an uncomfortable situation to learn from it and to see if you’re both in a place to heal it, or because of what’s going on in your lives, the healing wasn’t possible by staying together. And so one or both of you would create a situation where you can’t get along, and that’s the way you let go of this trauma, by not being around it. Stop keeping this in your mind and actively thinking about it. This is a gift that you give to each other to move on now.
Denisa asks what lessons did my father and I want to take from this experience? The Council says to learn about abuse, to learn about forgiveness, to learn about boundaries, and to learn creating joy in your life is what your life is all about. You don’t come here to suffer and be miserable. You come here to find a way to experience joy in this lifetime, to create it for yourself, and to help others find the joy they want. Help others in little ways to feel this joy. That’s your purpose.
Denisa asks if she and her father shared any past lives together. The Council sees a past life in Ireland where you were male cousins running an inn, and that was a very good life for both of you. You went through hardships. At one time there wasn’t enough food or enough money. There was a lot of community fighting. You learned to stick together and work through these diffuculties.
In your current life you wanted to understand how you’d handle another difficult situation, which was created by the abuse. Could you work through this? And does working through this abuse mean it’s okay to let it go and experience your life differently and seperately? That’s what’s going on now.
When Denisa finds herself focusing on the abuse that took place in her life, it’s a good idea to find something more pleasant to focus on. She can even think about the past life in Ireland where she had a very good life with the man who was her father in her current lifetime. Completely let go and know you’ve gone through this challenge of abuse. This separation is the way you both spiritually found to handle it. Now stop thinking about it and focus on creating how you want the rest of your life to be.
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What Do I Need to Know and Unblock from My Past Lives?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lisa, who has a recurring dream that takes place in Atlantis. I’m in a tower and hear a bell go off as red-skinned people are charging down a hill to attack us.
The Council says this dream is of a past life that takes place in Lemuria where the Atlanteans would attack villages in Lemuria. The people of Atlantis were more aggressive than the people of Lemuria and wanted to be in charge and take over new villages. That is what you’re remembering in this dream.
Lisa says the dream I had tonight was of a reincarnation pool and it was tied into my mother who I don’t get along with. The Council says this was in Atlantis. Before you created your next life, while you were still in your physical body, you could lay in this pool and research what you wanted to do and where you wanted to go. Just entering this water you could connect with the minds of others and see what they have learned and where they’ve been. This would give you ideas for what you wanted to create for your next life.
Lisa says, I’ve also had dreams of being a woman Pharaoh or empress in Egypt and I was burned in these dreams. The Council doesn’t see the part about being a Pharaoh or empress, but they see several lives where you were burned. Once in the 1600s as you prepared potions for people. You were known as a village doctor, but this wasn’t accepted at that time. You were also burned in a building fire in Germany.
Burning is something you’ve gone through and it’s coming up in your current life so you can let it go. Somewhere subconsciously you have a fear of fire and burning again. Take your focus and put it only on your current life and that you’re safe. Focus on everything you do in your current life is moving you forward and leaving these past lives behind.
Lisa says, I feel like my soul is always trying to teach me something, but I’m not fully awake. Who am I and what do I need to know and unblock from my past lives. The Council says you need to know you are a spirit that has come into physical reality many times. You planned to have a more peaceful reality in your current life because there were many ups and downs that you’ve experienced in other lifetimes. You’re here this time to enjoy yourself. You have no particular lesson you must learn. You’ll learn as you create your life day by day. Your purpose was to have a much easier life.
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How Can I Release Feelings of Anger and Disrespect?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Cartico, who had a difficult relationship with his father. When my father died five years ago I had been avoiding contact for quite a while. I’m aware he did his best to be a good father and his absence earlier in my life and our conflicts are the result of what he experienced in his life. The Council says it’s wonderful you understand this and it will go a long way toward healing your relationship.
Cartico says he has a lot of understanding for his father, but he also feels angry. He has similar feelings about his ex-girlfriend and this seems like a theme in his life. I feel stuck between love and understanding on one side and anger and feeling disrespected on the other side.
The Council says Cartico has a right to feel angry. It’s an emotion you shouldn’t feel afraid to have. If you feel disrespected or hurt, or someone has done something unfair to you, have these angry emotions. Look at them. Stay in that anger. You won’t be punished for this. Think of what’s happened over and over until you see that as you do this more and more, it will bother you less and less. These emotions are what you in spirit wanted to experience and to pass through in your current lifetime.
While you understand certain things and were able to make boundaries, what’s coming through with these people in your life who agreed in spirit to push your buttons, let you feel disrespected, let you feel angry, and let you feel hurt, is the lesson to stay in these feelings. When you look at these feelings instead of running away from them or burying them, they will disappear. These are just emotions that you chose for this life to feel and then let go.
Cartico says I feel sort of guilty and sorry, and I have difficulty letting go of times that have passed. Does The Council have guidance on how I can embrace the peaceful aspects of this situation and let go of the emotions in these relationships that get me stuck in the past?
The Council says to visualize yourself sitting in a chair across from the person you feel has upset you and imagine yourself being surrounded by beautiful pink energy. And constantly say to this person that you hurt me or you made me feel this way, but thank them for doing it because on a higher level I know I asked for this and you agreed to behave this way for me out of your love for me to help me grow from this. Stay in the beautiful bubble of pink light and keep doing this over and over and your feelings toward this person will change.
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Please Guide Me in Healing My Shortness of Breath
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Peace Peace-Peace, who’s recently started having shortness of breath that seems related to lung issues. Can The Council please guide me with any particular meditation or medicines that can be helpful?
First The Council recommends doing the heart chakra meditation they mention in another one of our blogs (links at the end of this post). They see your sixth and third chakra also need more energy and they suggest you do the other six chakra exercises to bring more energy into your body to help you with healing.
The Council says you had a past life as a young man in Russia where it was very cold and you died of pneumonia. You brought the lung problem with you in your current lifetime to learn how to heal this problem.
Follow up with doctors and get the tests they recommend.
Work on letting go of your lung problem by remembering you died from pneumonia in a past life. Picture in your mind how you think your situation was in that life and let go of this. Realize that your experience with pneumonia was so strong in that previous life that in your current life it’s contributing to your lung problems.
To ease the difficulties in your lungs The Council suggests you rub eucalyptus oil on your chest and put this oil in a diffuser to breathe it in. They also suggest taking nettle pills or drinking nettle tea will help you breathe better.
The Council recommends dealing with any issues you find in your life where you feel people aren’t willing to recognize who you are, stifling your growth, or knock down your plans and dreams by the way they think about you, which would be suffocating and would affect your lungs.
Do deep breathing every day. Breathe in to the count of eight, hold your breath to the count of six, and then release your breath on a count of seven. This will help expand your lungs and we feel it will help you.
Read as much as you can about past lives so you can understand how they can affect your current reality and why you would bring in a situation in order to heal it. Robert Schwartz‘s books (Your Soul’s Plan and Your Soul’s Gift) are a good place to start because he gives you the story of what a person is going through, why they’re going through this, and what the lesson is.
Here are links to our other posts that contain a basic and an advanced chakra breathing exercise that The Council recommends for Peace Peace-Peace.
Basic Chakra Breathing Exercise
Advanced Chakra Breathing Exercise
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Should I Stay In My Marriage or Leave with My Child?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name SoulPeace, who says she needs to choose between staying in a marriage that isn’t working out well and trying to make it better, or walk out of the marriage with their child.
The Council asks SoulPeace what part they’re playing in this marriage? Is she adding to the difficulties that are coming up? When you step back and look at this relationship the major question is, why isn’t the marriage working? What do you need from this marriage and what are you bringing to it? Do you feel the love you felt in the beginning of this relationship?
The choice is always yours whether to leave the marriage or stay with it, but the work must begin within you first. Look at what you have without blame, then try to decide what you’d like your marriage to look like. If you can focus on the marriage working and be open to the positive changes, then you can make this marriage work. As you begin to change how you treat your husband, how you speak to him, and how you appreciate the little things he might do, The Council says you can stay in this marriage lovingly.
SoulPeace says she’s always been scared of living on her own and taking on all the responsibilities of caring for their child. She doesn’t feel the love for her husband the last few years. The Council asks if she’s able to partner with him in bringing up their child? Are they able to get together and have fun with this child so it has a more loving life? When you’re able to come together and take the focus off what the other person is doing wrong and you’re in the vibration of love and joy even though the focus is your child, you have the ability to make the marriage better.
SoulPeace says she feels like she’s with her husband because it’s the more traditional option and she’s scared to live on her own. She finds it difficult to forget the things that happened in the past. The Council reminds SoulPeace that it’s a choice to take the focus off the past. When do you let go of this? When do you begin looking forward instead of backward? Have you learned from the mistakes you’ve made? What have you done to prevent these mistakes from continuing? If you decide to stay in this marriage, but continue with blaming your husband and stay in the vibration of anger and hurt, you won’t be able to change your future so you have a happy life.
If you decide you want to save your marriage, try thinking the reason you’ve gone through the dissatisfaction in your marriage is that you and your husband agreed to come to this point and then ask yourself if you can turn your marriage around. If you decide to leave, what are the steps you’d take to support your child and live on your own just the two of you? See this how you want it to be rather than out of fear. Visualize how leaving could work for you.
SoulPeace says she feels like she’s coming back to the same point in the relationship over and over. She’d like closure to this and to move ahead in any direction which is best for her and her child. The Council asks SoulPeace if she’s truly looking for closure or does she want to fix the marriage?
To start closure The Council suggests SoulPeace imagine where she and her child would go and how you’d live. If you want to change your marriage for the better The Council suggests letting go of the past. Maybe your husband doesn’t know how to undo what was done or fix the marriage, but perhaps you can discuss moving forward. Can you leave the past in the past?
Discuss how you’d like your marriage to be. What does your husband want the marriage to be like going forward? When memories come of what your husband did or didn’t do in your marriage that hurt you, acknowledge the hurt and then say goodbye to those thoughts. After a while those thoughts won’t come as frequently. Yes these things happened, but now you have an opportunity to create the future differently. You have the power to refocus on a happier thought and create the life you desire.
The Council closes by saying SoulPeace has a lot of work to do and a wonderful journey in whichever direction she chooses.
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Finding Love in a Relationship with an Ex-Boyfriend
This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Mary, who asks about a relationship with a man she was with and who she loved, even if he never loved her back. Mary says she still loves him and wants a life with him, but only if he loves her.
The Council asks Mary why she wants to go back to this relationship if she feels this man never loved her? They see this as a pattern that feels familiar and she’s afraid to let go of this relationship and move forward.
Mary asks if the feelings she still has for this man are the reason she feels stuck in all areas of her life. And she asks how she can stop feeling in love with him because he doesn’t love her and probably never did.
The Council says you let go of these thoughts by choosing other thoughts and by using your imagination to bring into your life whatever you want. They say it’s Mary’s choice if she wants to hang on to the feelings she has for this man, and they ask if she does hang on, what is she learning? What lessons does she think she needs to learn? And they say the answer is the simple lesson of dreaming big.
The Council says life changes only by your thoughts and beliefs. If Mary believes her ex-boyfriend never loved her, this is what she’ll create. If Mary believes her ex-boyfriend can recognize her as a spirit in a physical body and that she’s in his life to offer love as well as receive it, and hold onto these thoughts, The Council says it must happen.
The Council adds that it’s work to hold onto these thoughts and change what you see. If this is something Mary truly wants, she should focus on what she appreciates in this relationship. Why does she want to be in it? See the good moments in her mind and expand on them.
Mary needs to love and appreciate herself first and then she’ll get the guidance she desires about this relationship. There was an agreement made in spirit for Mary and her ex-boyfriend to come together and go through these difficult times. The Council advises Mary to find the love in this relationship. If she was able to find it once, The Council says she can find it again.
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A Lesson in Forgiveness
This post is about a question from a reader named Tanya who asks The Council if she had a life lesson in self-forgiveness to learn from an abortion.
The Council says there’s a life lesson in just about everything we experience as challenging or where there’s a difficult decision to make. They agree Tanya’s abortion was a life lesson, and while abortion is often about learning self-forgiveness, in Tanya’s case it was more about learning to let go of a situation when the timing isn’t right, being okay with her decision, and learning that whatever she chooses is the right choice.
The Council asks Tanya if, rather than just focusing on forgiveness, if her abortions (The Council feels there were two) have taught her something about facing challenges after the abortion. And their advise is to see where she is in the moment and go with the decision that feels best to her.
The Council says post traumatic stress comes when you don’t quite know how to be okay with the decisions you’ve made. The more Tanya learns how to let let go and move on with her life, the more she’ll learn to accept herself and have more confidence in her choices. The Council also says as Tanya learns she’s a spirit in her physical body, she’ll become more okay with her decisions.
Bob asks if Tanya’s asking for forgiveness from the soul of the unborn child was for Tanya or the unborn child. And The Council says if she felt forgiven by this spirit it would help Tanya feel better and she could move on with her life.
When Bob commented it was his understanding from previous sessions that the soul of the unborn child was already forgiving, The Council agrees. But they add that Tanya wasn’t aware of this at that time. So she asked for and received this forgiveness.
Listen to the entire 8-minute session with The Council (below) to benefit from all their guidance is this session.
(This session was one of two we did so the recording seem to end abruptly.)
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Purpose of Sharing This Lifetime
This post is inspired by questions and comments from a reader who identifies herself as D. She says many years ago she fell in love with someone who didn’t love her back and the relationship went from friends, to enemies, to friends, and on and on for years. The Council asks D. how she see’s this happening when she looks back on this, and to focus on the aspect of what was able to bring them back to friendship again.
D. says she felt a strange connection to this man from the first moment she saw him. She’s never been able to let go of that connection and often feels stuck and depressed about it. Recently he married someone else and D. describes feeling more loss and pain. She has moved and stopped talking to him, but the thought of this man is with her no matter where she goes or what she does. She asks why her soul can’t let go and find happiness elsewhere.
The Council says D’s soul is very willing to let go, but her human part holds onto what her future could have been with this man. This leads to feelings of depression and loss because D. feels she’s just this human body rather than a spirit in her body.
The Council explains that truly loving someone is allowing them to be however they want to be, and they ask D. if she can allow this man the happiness he’s found with his wife. And can she now find this same happiness with other people who’ve agreed to come into her life for this purpose.
D. wonders if she and this man have shared past lives together and that’s why she keeps feeling connected to him. The Council says they have shared many lifetimes, but ask D. if she wants to focus on what was, or where she is now, and create her future.
The Council says this man’s role was to teach D. to let go and find love wherever she can. And they ask if she’s ready to let go and find the love she’s looking for within herself. Can she feel the love with every person who comes into her life? As she feels love for herself she will attract love from other people.
D. says she’s always known that love is eternal, and The Council says it’s at these moments that she’s remembering who she truly is as a spiritual being. They say we are all love and we want to bring this feeling into this reality.
D. seems to associate her connection to this man with feeling loss and pain rather than appreciating the time they’ve spent together that’s been good for her. The Council says D. needs to change her thoughts about this man and realize he’s a spirit in a physical body. That is what will give her relief. And then ask herself what else she wanted to experience in this lifetime. And tell herself she’s ready to experience the next part of this journey, to experience love, joy, and happiness. Can she do that?
D. asks why she feels connected to a soul who doesn’t feel connected to her at all and she asks if this connection is one-sided. The Council says the connection isn’t one-sided, it’s just that she chooses to be more aware and learn from this connection.
D. finishes by asking what she can do to stop this feeling of connection and what is the purpose of sharing this lifetime with this man. The Council says there are many purposes and at any moment she and this man were able to choose the path they wish to take.
The Council recommends what she perceives as loss, she now perceive as the love she is that she’s looking for elsewhere. Appreciate the positive aspects of this relationship when she thought it was good. Ask herself what she’s learned that is good from this relationship and how she can move forward by bringing new relationships into her life.
This session appears to have some unusually good advice for D. and the rest of us. Listen to the entire 20-minute session with The Council to get all the detail.
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Since the blog is currently a project we do in our spare time it can take a while for us to do a session with The Council on a question and then publish a post on the session. Depending on the question and the session it can sometimes take weeks after a question is asked to publish a post with The Council’s answer. Please be patient.
The Council
Cynthia is able to communicate with a group of five non-physical spirit guides in a manner similar to the way Esther Hicks communicates with and speaks for the spirit guides, Abraham, and Jane Roberts communicated and spoke for the spirit guide, Seth. I (Bob) basically interview The Council as they speak through Cynthia during what we refer to as a session. Sessions generally last 5-15 minutes and are usually audio recorded. During the session Cynthia is aware of what The Council is saying and she also receives visual impressions and other types of telepathic communication from them.
The Council’s Basic Guidance
Since we began these sessions with The Council around 2009 they consistently emphasize a few basic ideas that we attempt to summarize here:
1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
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