Ask The Council

What will you ask Spirit?

Should I Stay In My Marriage or Leave with My Child?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name SoulPeace, who says she needs to choose between staying in a marriage that isn’t working out well and trying to make it better, or walk out of the marriage with their child.

The Council asks SoulPeace what part they’re playing in this marriage? Is she adding to the difficulties that are coming up? When you step back and look at this relationship the major question is, why isn’t the marriage working? What do you need from this marriage and what are you bringing to it? Do you feel the love you felt in the beginning of this relationship?

The choice is always yours whether to leave the marriage or stay with it, but the work must begin within you first. Look at what you have without blame, then try to decide what you’d like your marriage to look like. If you can focus on the marriage working and be open to the positive changes, then you can make this marriage work. As you begin to change how you treat your husband, how you speak to him, and how you appreciate the little things he might do, The Council says you can stay in this marriage lovingly.

SoulPeace says she’s always been scared of living on her own and taking on all the responsibilities of caring for their child. She doesn’t feel the love for her husband the last few years. The Council asks if she’s able to partner with him in bringing up their child? Are they able to get together and have fun with this child so it has a more loving life? When you’re able to come together and take the focus off what the other person is doing wrong and you’re in the vibration of love and joy even though the focus is your child, you have the ability to make the marriage better.

SoulPeace says she feels like she’s with her husband because it’s the more traditional option and she’s scared to live on her own. She finds it difficult to forget the things that happened in the past. The Council reminds SoulPeace that it’s a choice to take the focus off the past. When do you let go of this? When do you begin looking forward instead of backward? Have you learned from the mistakes you’ve made? What have you done to prevent these mistakes from continuing? If you decide to stay in this marriage, but continue with blaming your husband and stay in the vibration of anger and hurt, you won’t be able to change your future so you have a happy life.

If you decide you want to save your marriage, try thinking the reason you’ve gone through the dissatisfaction in your marriage is that you and your husband agreed to come to this point and then ask yourself if you can turn your marriage around. If you decide to leave, what are the steps you’d take to support your child and live on your own just the two of you? See this how you want it to be rather than out of fear. Visualize how leaving could work for you.

SoulPeace says she feels like she’s coming back to the same point in the relationship over and over. She’d like closure to this and to move ahead in any direction which is best for her and her child. The Council asks SoulPeace if she’s truly looking for closure or does she want to fix the marriage?

To start closure The Council suggests SoulPeace imagine where she and her child would go and how you’d live. If you want to change your marriage for the better The Council suggests letting go of the past. Maybe your husband doesn’t know how to undo what was done or fix the marriage, but perhaps you can discuss moving forward. Can you leave the past in the past?

Discuss how you’d like your marriage to be. What does your husband want the marriage to be like going forward? When memories come of what your husband did or didn’t do in your marriage that hurt you, acknowledge the hurt and then say goodbye to those thoughts. After a while those thoughts won’t come as frequently. Yes these things happened, but now you have an opportunity to create the future differently. You have the power to refocus on a happier thought and create the life you desire.

The Council closes by saying SoulPeace has a lot of work to do and a wonderful journey in whichever direction she chooses.

Listen to the entire 10-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for SoulPeace and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about it.

April 8, 2018 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Finding Love in a Relationship with an Ex-Boyfriend

This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Mary, who asks about a relationship with a man she was with and who she loved, even if he never loved her back. Mary says she still loves him and wants a life with him, but only if he loves her.

The Council asks Mary why she wants to go back to this relationship if she feels this man never loved her? They see this as a pattern that feels familiar and she’s afraid to let go of this relationship and move forward.

Mary asks if the feelings she still has for this man are the reason she feels stuck in all areas of her life. And she asks how she can stop feeling in love with him because he doesn’t love her and probably never did.

The Council says you let go of these thoughts by choosing other thoughts and by using your imagination to bring into your life whatever you want. They say it’s Mary’s choice if she wants to hang on to the feelings she has for this man, and they ask if she does hang on, what is she learning? What lessons does she think she needs to learn? And they say the answer is the simple lesson of dreaming big.

The Council says life changes only by your thoughts and beliefs. If Mary believes her ex-boyfriend never loved her, this is what she’ll create. If Mary believes her ex-boyfriend can recognize her as a spirit in a physical body and that she’s in his life to offer love as well as receive it, and hold onto these thoughts, The Council says it must happen.

The Council adds that it’s work to hold onto these thoughts and change what you see. If this is something Mary truly wants, she should focus on what she appreciates in this relationship. Why does she want to be in it? See the good moments in her mind and expand on them.

Mary needs to love and appreciate herself first and then she’ll get the guidance she desires about this relationship. There was an agreement made in spirit for Mary and her ex-boyfriend to come together and go through these difficult times. The Council advises Mary to find the love in this relationship. If she was able to find it once, The Council says she can find it again.

Listen to our entire 5-minute session on Mary’s question for The Council to hear all their guidance for her and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

June 18, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Challenges, Channeling, Love, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

A Lesson in Forgiveness

This post is about a question from a reader named Tanya who asks The Council if she had a life lesson in self-forgiveness to learn from an abortion.

The Council says there’s a life lesson in just about everything we experience as challenging or where there’s a difficult decision to make. They agree Tanya’s abortion was a life lesson, and while abortion is often about learning self-forgiveness, in Tanya’s case it was more about learning to let go of a situation when the timing isn’t right, being okay with her decision, and learning that whatever she chooses is the right choice.

The Council asks Tanya if, rather than just focusing on forgiveness, if her abortions (The Council feels there were two) have taught her something about facing challenges after the abortion. And their advise is to see where she is in the moment and go with the decision that feels best to her.

The Council says post traumatic stress comes when you don’t quite know how to be okay with the decisions you’ve made. The more Tanya learns how to let let go and move on with her life, the more she’ll learn to accept herself and have more confidence in her choices. The Council also says as Tanya learns she’s a spirit in her physical body,  she’ll become more okay with her decisions.

Bob asks if Tanya’s asking for forgiveness from the soul of the unborn child was for Tanya or the unborn child. And The Council says if she felt forgiven by this spirit it would help Tanya feel better and she could move on with her life.

When Bob commented it was his understanding from previous sessions that the soul of the unborn child was already forgiving, The Council agrees. But they add that Tanya wasn’t aware of this at that time. So she asked for and received this forgiveness.

Listen to the entire 8-minute session with The Council (below) to benefit from all their guidance is this session.

(This session was one of two we did so the recording seem to end abruptly.)

November 25, 2015 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Choice, Decision Making, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , | 4 Comments

Purpose of Sharing This Lifetime

This post is inspired by questions and comments from a reader who identifies herself as D. She says many years ago she fell in love with someone who didn’t love her back and the relationship went from friends, to enemies, to friends, and on and on for years. The Council asks D. how she see’s this happening when she looks back on this, and to focus on the aspect of what was able to bring them back to friendship again.

D. says she felt a strange connection to this man from the first moment she saw him. She’s never been able to let go of that connection and often feels stuck and depressed about it. Recently he married someone else and D. describes feeling more loss and pain. She has moved and stopped talking to him, but the thought of this man is with her no matter where she goes or what she does. She asks why her soul can’t let go and find happiness elsewhere.

The Council says D’s soul is very willing to let go, but her human part holds onto what her future could have been with this man. This leads to feelings of depression and loss because D. feels she’s just this human body rather than a spirit in her body.

The Council explains that truly loving someone is allowing them to be however they want to be, and they ask D. if she can allow this man the happiness he’s found with his wife. And can she now find this same happiness with other people who’ve agreed to come into her life for this purpose.

D. wonders if she and this man have shared past lives together and that’s why she keeps feeling connected to him. The Council says they have shared many lifetimes, but ask D. if she wants to focus on what was, or where she is now, and create her future.

The Council says this man’s role was to teach D. to let go and find love wherever she can. And they ask if she’s ready to let go and find the love she’s looking for within herself. Can she feel the love with every person who comes into her life? As she feels love for herself she will attract love from other people.

D. says she’s always known that love is eternal, and The Council says it’s at these moments that she’s remembering who she truly is as a spiritual being. They say we are all love and we want to bring this feeling into this reality.

D. seems to associate her connection to this man with feeling loss and pain rather than appreciating the time they’ve spent together that’s been good for her. The Council says D. needs to change her thoughts about this man and realize he’s a spirit in a physical body. That is what will give her relief. And then ask herself what else she wanted to experience in this lifetime. And tell herself she’s ready to experience the next part of this journey, to experience love, joy, and happiness. Can she do that?

D. asks why she feels connected to a soul who doesn’t feel connected to her at all and she asks if this connection is one-sided. The Council says the connection isn’t one-sided, it’s just that she chooses to be more aware and learn from this connection.

D. finishes by asking what she can do to stop this feeling of connection and what is the purpose of sharing this lifetime with this man. The Council says there are many purposes and at any moment she and this man were able to choose the path they wish to take.

The Council recommends what she perceives as loss, she now perceive as the love she is that she’s looking for elsewhere. Appreciate the positive aspects of this relationship when she thought it was good. Ask herself what she’s learned that is good from this relationship and how she can move forward by bringing new relationships into her life.

This session appears to have some unusually good advice for D. and the rest of us. Listen to the entire 20-minute session with The Council to get all the detail.

May 23, 2015 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Challenges, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

   

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