Ask The Council

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Should I Stay In My Marriage or Leave with My Child?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name SoulPeace, who says she needs to choose between staying in a marriage that isn’t working out well and trying to make it better, or walk out of the marriage with their child.

The Council asks SoulPeace what part they’re playing in this marriage? Is she adding to the difficulties that are coming up? When you step back and look at this relationship the major question is, why isn’t the marriage working? What do you need from this marriage and what are you bringing to it? Do you feel the love you felt in the beginning of this relationship?

The choice is always yours whether to leave the marriage or stay with it, but the work must begin within you first. Look at what you have without blame, then try to decide what you’d like your marriage to look like. If you can focus on the marriage working and be open to the positive changes, then you can make this marriage work. As you begin to change how you treat your husband, how you speak to him, and how you appreciate the little things he might do, The Council says you can stay in this marriage lovingly.

SoulPeace says she’s always been scared of living on her own and taking on all the responsibilities of caring for their child. She doesn’t feel the love for her husband the last few years. The Council asks if she’s able to partner with him in bringing up their child? Are they able to get together and have fun with this child so it has a more loving life? When you’re able to come together and take the focus off what the other person is doing wrong and you’re in the vibration of love and joy even though the focus is your child, you have the ability to make the marriage better.

SoulPeace says she feels like she’s with her husband because it’s the more traditional option and she’s scared to live on her own. She finds it difficult to forget the things that happened in the past. The Council reminds SoulPeace that it’s a choice to take the focus off the past. When do you let go of this? When do you begin looking forward instead of backward? Have you learned from the mistakes you’ve made? What have you done to prevent these mistakes from continuing? If you decide to stay in this marriage, but continue with blaming your husband and stay in the vibration of anger and hurt, you won’t be able to change your future so you have a happy life.

If you decide you want to save your marriage, try thinking the reason you’ve gone through the dissatisfaction in your marriage is that you and your husband agreed to come to this point and then ask yourself if you can turn your marriage around. If you decide to leave, what are the steps you’d take to support your child and live on your own just the two of you? See this how you want it to be rather than out of fear. Visualize how leaving could work for you.

SoulPeace says she feels like she’s coming back to the same point in the relationship over and over. She’d like closure to this and to move ahead in any direction which is best for her and her child. The Council asks SoulPeace if she’s truly looking for closure or does she want to fix the marriage?

To start closure The Council suggests SoulPeace imagine where she and her child would go and how you’d live. If you want to change your marriage for the better The Council suggests letting go of the past. Maybe your husband doesn’t know how to undo what was done or fix the marriage, but perhaps you can discuss moving forward. Can you leave the past in the past?

Discuss how you’d like your marriage to be. What does your husband want the marriage to be like going forward? When memories come of what your husband did or didn’t do in your marriage that hurt you, acknowledge the hurt and then say goodbye to those thoughts. After a while those thoughts won’t come as frequently. Yes these things happened, but now you have an opportunity to create the future differently. You have the power to refocus on a happier thought and create the life you desire.

The Council closes by saying SoulPeace has a lot of work to do and a wonderful journey in whichever direction she chooses.

Listen to the entire 10-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for SoulPeace and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about it.

April 8, 2018 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Choosing Childhood Abuse

This post answers questions from a reader named, Marie, who’s had an abusive childhood. She asks The Council if a soul can choose a life of pain and suffering, because she can’t believe she’s chosen this for herself. Marie also asks about a strained relationship with her brother in response to our post, What’s is the Purpose of a Decade’s-long Strained Relationship with a Twin Brother.

The Council says when you (in spirit) choose a particularly challenging life experience, you don’t think it will be horrible. In spirit you think you’ll be experiencing this difficulty because you’re not feeling your connection to who you truly are as a spiritual being.

When you’re living a painful physical reality it’s because you’re not fulfilling your purpose in this lifetime, which is to experience this difficulty and then turn it around. You have called in this difficult experience for one reason: to change it.

The purpose of this difficulty is to think how much more you are than a human being in a physical body. It’s to turn your thoughts toward love, no matter what you’re experiencing. Love has the ability to change everything. We are all here for the single purpose of bringing love into our lives.

As you meditate on your situation and begin to understand it, you’re realize this difficulty isn’t a punishment you’ve created for yourself or that others are putting you through. You’ve chosen this experience to change it.

Some souls choose to experience difficult emotions in this lifetime. They call in other souls that have agreed to abuse them, and they have agreed to do this only out of love so you can have this experience and get on with your purpose, which is to change your experience to something better.

Sometimes we pick difficult challenges to teach people around us to see it and perhaps change, or for people to see what we’re going through and have compassion for us. You are awakening in other spirits the vibration of love and compassion because you’ve experienced this.

Marie says her mother was able to show love to her brother and concludes her mother must have agreed with her to show her rejection as part of her life experience. And The Council asks Marie what she’s learned from this? Has she learned not to reject other people and realize she deserves more? Move forward on your path, show love, and do good deeds for yourself and others. Stop the hurting and always look forward to doing good.

Marie says she can’t understand how violence to a child can raise consciousness and lead to an experience of love. And The Council says as she looks at what she’s gone through hasn’t she expanded, even a little bit, and learned how to move forward. The violence has served it’s purpose. You have expanded, even if you don’t think so right now.

On a different subject Marie says she’s tried for a long time to make a better relationship with her brother, but he remains distant. The Council says contact with Marie can bring up difficult memories of the past for her brother. He’s choosing to shield himself from these heavy memories for now.

The Council says changing the way Marie sees her relationship with her brother can make it less painful. He’s not in the same place as Marie and isn’t looking to question his past so much. To get past this, send him the pink vibration of love. As he allows himself to take this in, your relationship will change.

The Council asks Marie if she’s ready to let go of the abuse she’s gone through? Now look forward. What kind of life do you want to create? As long as you focus on the abuse, you won’t move forward and create a new life with caring and love.

Learn from what you’ve come through. Change the way you see your life experience. Think about how this has enlightened you and taught the people who went through this with you what they needed to learn. Create the life you desire. Go into the vibration of love, joy, and happiness and think about this more and more.

You are a brave soul and have come through a lot. Now you are the creator of the rest of your life experience. Meditate on this information repeatedly. Eventually a little light bulb will go off and the understanding will occur on a very deep level and the healing will happen.

Marie needs to know that she’s gone through what she (in spirit) wanted to experience. It’s not her job to think about how everyone else handled it. The abuse didn’t happen because there was something lacking in her. It was set up in spirit for her to experience in her physical reality and now it’s over. Now it’s Marie’s turn to create the rest of her life.

Listen to our entire 18-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Marie and the rest of us on this important subject of why we choose in spirit to experience abuse in our physical life, and let us know your feelings on the subject.

October 31, 2017 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Expansion, Life Purpose, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

Finding Love in a Relationship with an Ex-Boyfriend

This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Mary, who asks about a relationship with a man she was with and who she loved, even if he never loved her back. Mary says she still loves him and wants a life with him, but only if he loves her.

The Council asks Mary why she wants to go back to this relationship if she feels this man never loved her? They see this as a pattern that feels familiar and she’s afraid to let go of this relationship and move forward.

Mary asks if the feelings she still has for this man are the reason she feels stuck in all areas of her life. And she asks how she can stop feeling in love with him because he doesn’t love her and probably never did.

The Council says you let go of these thoughts by choosing other thoughts and by using your imagination to bring into your life whatever you want. They say it’s Mary’s choice if she wants to hang on to the feelings she has for this man, and they ask if she does hang on, what is she learning? What lessons does she think she needs to learn? And they say the answer is the simple lesson of dreaming big.

The Council says life changes only by your thoughts and beliefs. If Mary believes her ex-boyfriend never loved her, this is what she’ll create. If Mary believes her ex-boyfriend can recognize her as a spirit in a physical body and that she’s in his life to offer love as well as receive it, and hold onto these thoughts, The Council says it must happen.

The Council adds that it’s work to hold onto these thoughts and change what you see. If this is something Mary truly wants, she should focus on what she appreciates in this relationship. Why does she want to be in it? See the good moments in her mind and expand on them.

Mary needs to love and appreciate herself first and then she’ll get the guidance she desires about this relationship. There was an agreement made in spirit for Mary and her ex-boyfriend to come together and go through these difficult times. The Council advises Mary to find the love in this relationship. If she was able to find it once, The Council says she can find it again.

Listen to our entire 5-minute session on Mary’s question for The Council to hear all their guidance for her and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

June 18, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Challenges, Channeling, Love, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

   

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