How Can I Move Forward From a Past Romantic Relationship?
This post answers a question for The Council from a reader named, Eden, who’s having difficulty moving on from a past romantic relationship. I was with my ex-partner for a year when he ended our relationship suddenly even though it was going so well. Since then I’ve been unable to move forward and he’s still constantly on my mind.
The Council advises thinking about why your relationship ended if it was going so well. There are certain lessons your ex needs to learn from this relationship and certain lessons you need to learn. You need to review the entire relationship and get to a point where you see things about it that weren’t working. That’s part of your lesson.
The Council says to take the focus off your relationship with your ex. You can occasionally go back to it to take a look at it and learn what was missing from it, but you can’t do this all the time. Don’t let that relationship take all of your focus. Stop thinking about why it didn’t work. Stop telling yourself or anybody else you’re unable to get over this relationship, because it only feeds the energy of loss.
The way you move forward is to think about what else you’d want in a relationship. How would you want your new relationship to be? Begin creating with your mind a new relationship and stop focusing on why the last one didn’t work. A part of you understands why it didn’t work.
Listen to the entire 3-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Eden and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask your own question.
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Hi, Eden. Thanks for your appreciation. We’re glad you got a lot from The Council. We like the idea of your mantra. It was our pleasure.
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Thank you so much for answering my question Bob and Cynthia, I really appreciate it as this is something I have really needed guidance with. I got a lot out of The Coucil’s answer and I particularly liked when they said ‘move forward not backward with your thoughts’. I’m going to write this down as a mantra and keep it where I can see! Thank you again xoxox
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Resonates with me as well — A beautiful reminder for us all! Thank you!
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