Will My Brother And I Heal Our Relationship?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Diana.
Diana: Thank you for your amazing work. My question is: Will my brother and I ever have healing in this lifetime? He denies the emotional abuse I experienced from our narcissistic parents, and he’s been pushing me away my whole life.
Council: Did it ever cross your thoughts that he denies this because it’s very painful for him to realize what you’ve gone through? And perhaps he’s gone through some things that he’s not ready to deal with? It’s not about wanting to push you away or not believing you, but about the uncomfortable feelings that it stirs within him.
Diana: On some level he does care though and wants to have some contact, but only if I never mention my experience or pain.
Council: We’d like to ask you at this point, are you constantly bringing this abuse up with him? It’s like he has a wound in his heart and you keep sticking your finger in it. He’s heard what you have to say and it makes him very uncomfortable. Yes, he’d like to have a relationship with you, but are you basing it on that you must talk about your abuse many times? Why aren’t you letting go of it?
If it’s you that wants this relationship, then it’s good for you to get to a place where you can realize it’s best, for now, not to speak of abuse, and to build your relationship without that part coming forth. And we say that this is for right now. If you can begin a relationship slowly and have it grow, then your brother doesn’t have to be afraid all the time that you’re going to bring up the abuse. When he’s ready he will bring it up, but he has to get to a place where he is ready. Can you allow your brother to grow at his own pace? Can you show compassion? Can you show love and have a relationship with him?
Diana: This doesn’t feel authentic to me so I’ve slightly distanced myself and I’m grieving a lot because I love him so much.
Council: Why do you think it’s not authentic to stay away from a painful subject right now? Why must it be authentic only if you can talk about this abuse? There’s pain involved in this, pain that you went through, and pain that he goes through.
And again we say it’s very important for you to look at yourself. Why must you bring up this abuse? You are keeping yourself in a painful situation. You are creating the distance because you need to talk about it and your brother doesn’t. You are ready, but he is not. So can you come together and start to build a relationship without talking about the abuse? You are keeping yourself in that relationship, in that situation that you went through, that was painful.
And this is all for your own growth to realize, what is your part in this? Why is it so important to speak about the abuse to someone who’s not ready? Perhaps you can find someone that will help you and talk with you about this, but if you truly want this relationship with your brother, you can leave out the abuse. And you can both come together and heal, and feel loving feelings for each other in time. The choice is always yours.
Diana: Will he ever understand, accept, and acknowledge my truth?
Council: Yes, eventually this can happen, but for now, can you let go of the subject of abuse?
Diana: Or will I also have to detach from him like I’ve detached from my parents? This leaves me completely alone.
Council: Detaching at this point will keep you alone and keep you feeling hurt. So why must you detach? It’s just a simple choice of, right now we will not talk about this abuse. Right now we’ll build a loving, caring relationship with each other by talking about other things and experiencing other things, and finding happy things to share. If this is what you want, then go in the direction of love. Go in the direction of joy. Go in the direction of compassion for yourself and your brother. When you choose this you’ll have the relationship you want.
We send you all blessings, and thoughts of happiness, and thoughts of love, and joy, and seeing the energy around you growing and becoming more beautiful, and you feel lighter than you’ve ever felt before because you are light. Let it shine.
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What Can I Do About My Problems With A Work Colleague?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, A Frustrated Worker.
Frustrated: I have a question about a work scenario. I’ve had a special and intricate working relationship with a colleague for nearly a decade. While they have an anxious disposition, they were always supportive and followed through when it counted. But for the last few years they’ve really let me down. There have been delays after delays, they’ve continuously moved deadlines, put other peoples’ work before mine, told little white lies, dismissed my feelings about the work being delayed, and this sort of thing.
Council: Why have you stayed in that situation for a couple of years? It’s a situation that’s presenting itself to you. When you look at it, it makes you turn and look at yourself for the growth to see why you stay in that situation when everything is showing you that it’s not working and there is a problem here.
Frustrated: It’s left me in a very tricky situation. I recently had to confront them. They took offense and it looks as though our working relationship may be over.
Council: Taking this step and confronting them is good. When they take offense you have to realize either it’s something they’re going through or it’s something to do with their thinking. When it goes that far it’s very plain for you to follow your feeling. It can’t be comfortable being in this. Your feelings, which is your higher self’s way of talking to you, is saying, “It was good, but now it’s time for a change. And the change comes because you are ready for growth.
Frustrated: Separating the work we’ve done together and the work I have planned for us will be like undressing a salad. And because the work they do is very excellent and idiosyncratic, I can’t see who I’d replace them with.
Council: It’s time, when you make the salad and you make the same dressing for many years, that you tire of it, or your taste buds want something new. So now it’s time to dress your salad with something new.
Frustrated: Can this relationship be saved, or am I supposed to let this go?
Council: There’s nothing to save. It was wonderful. Hopefully all involved have learned from it and now have different paths to travel, and this includes yourself. There’s nothing to save. You’re supposed to follow your feeling and get excited about something new that you can bring into your life. And you do this by writing it down, thinking over and over about the new people that could come into your life, and the way you want it to be. So you start that inner work and you begin to bring in the new people.
Get yourself in a happy mood and excited mood where you’re thrilled to be going forward. When you do that you must bring in these new people. Make up your mind instead of thinking, should I try and fix it, should I hold on? If you make up your mind to move forward, there’s a new path, there are new things to learn, and there are new people to bring into your life. Once you start imagining that, making that your intention, these people will definitely come along.
Bob: Just to be clear, to answer the question, “Am I supposed to let this person go?” The answer is, yes?
Council: That’s what’s happening around you. It’s pointing to that. Is your higher self showing you this? And you feel the loss of the relationship. You feel it’s not working. You know they’re putting you off and putting others before you. The answer is so simple. You can hang on to this relationship, but it won’t get better. You can try to create it, but why would you want to create this where your feelings are pushing you to move in another direction?
Frustrated: What would I have to do to save this relationship, or how do I find their replacement?
Council: If you want to save this, then you would see these people understanding what you’re saying, you’d see them wanting to work with you and put your work first, and coming through for you. You can see that. You can create this.
And yet we must say here that even if you create this for a while, what you’ve created in spirit is that now it’s time to move on.
Frustrated: Are there other souls who are lined up to take the place of this person if they decide with their free will to leave?
Council: Definitely, but it’s your work to call it in, to imagine it, to see it, to be open and excited about this wonderful new part of your journey.
Frustrated: Why did this happen? Is there a higher purpose for why this has occurred?
Council: Of course there’s a higher purpose. It’s your higher self that wants to go forward, that you’ve planned in spirit other things you want to do. So of course there’s a higher purpose, and guess who created it? You did. You created it in spirit. Remember that you are a spirit, that you create everything that happens, and move towards what you want.
Bob: It sounds like you’re saying that the higher self of A Frustrated Worker has created one direction and the higher self of the colleague maybe created another direction.
Council: Everyone has created their own direction. What’s important here is the direction you want to go in. How does it feel in the situation you are in? Is it satisfactory to you? Does it bring you joy? If not, follow your feelings. There’s something new, there’s something different. These other people have created what they want and they’ll go in their direction. And so it’s just for you to accept and let flow what’s being presented to you.
Frustrated: I’d really appreciate your insight, as I feel I’m in complete limbo at the moment.
Council: Imagine what you wish for. Start creating with your mind. It’s a wonderful time to do this.
Happiness and blessings to everyone. Enjoy yourself. Find your power. Create happiness every day, even if it’s the littlest bit, because when you’re in the vibration of happiness, you’ll be able to bring into your life at any time what will give you happiness on a longer basis. So have fun with this.
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How Can We Advance Humankind And Help The Universe Evolve?
This post answers two very important questions for The Council from a reader named, Richard.
Richard: Will you summarize the general guidelines for what each person can do to positively contribute to the advancement of humankind and the evolution of the universe?
Council: For everyone who’s reincarnated, it was always your decision to come here to have fun, to find different ways to do things, and to have new experiences. So how do you evolve? What makes things better?
What makes things better is if you can go day to day, no matter what goes on in your life, and feel love. That’s what makes things better. Show kindness to yourself and others. Say kind words, be uplifting, and help out. Know and feel when you do these good things and tune into yourself. How do you feel? Because doing good for others will always make you feel good.
Bring white light into this reality. And when you focus on bringing the white light in for your whole planet, that helps to bring more positive thoughts not only to yourself, but everyone. This white light and acts of love and kindness will change the reality you’ve created. And that is how you advance. You stand strong in the reality of: you are spirit and you are love. You’ve come in here to spread this love everywhere. And when you can connect with that love and share it on a daily basis, you evolve. And it’s wonderful because you bring everyone in your reality with you. It affects everyone when you are kind.
Bob: So it sounds like you’re saying the advancement of humankind and the evolution of the Universe depends on the advancement of the individual and the evolution of the individual.
Council: Every individual has a position in this reality of bringing forth love. You knew this and planned it, and jumped in here with the attitude that: I will bring forth love no matter what. When you do this, understand it’s the energy you’re putting out there. It’s not just for you. And the more you love, it grows and grows to the people around you, to where you live, to the whole planet.
And many don’t realize this, but the energy you put out and the thoughts you put out affect everyone. You are releasing these thoughts, these vibrations, and these feelings. Would you like to be part of changing your world into something positive, or something negative?
It’s so simple. You don’t have to go and fight a war. You don’t have to try to do this and try to do that. You just have to love, and show it every day.
Bob: So to restate what I said before, by showing love on a personal level you’re advancing humankind and the evolution of the Universe?
Council: Yes.
And also we watch you every day. We see how you handle things. We see how you’re living your life. And when you’re in this love and you’re spreading it, it doesn’t stop there. It affects us in spirit. We grow from this. We are in a place of great love, and when you’re negative, we are still positive, but when you show love and you put more love out there, we grow also.
Richard: What can individuals do to discover their soul’s purpose for incarnating?
Council: Everyone has a different purpose. The main purpose is what we’ve said about love. Maybe in this lifetime you want to be a teacher, maybe this lifetime you want to travel a lot, maybe this time you want a family. And that is secondary because no matter what you pick, the traveling, the family, the teacher, the actor, everything you do, the main point of you being here is to spread love in what you choose this lifetime.
Many people in your reality think, what did I choose to do? Am I doing the right thing? When you’re in spirit there are many that don’t choose anything. There are many that say: Let me just jump in and wherever I see I’m needed, if it feels good I’m going to do it. If I can help others I’m going to do it. I’m going to meditate. I’m going to help people through their hard times. I’m going to send beautiful thoughts out. They say this because their higher self knows this is true.
The #1 reason to be here isn’t should I do this? Should I open a store? Should I open a gym? The #1 reason you’re here is to be of service and to show love. And as you show it to others you will feel it. You’ll also grow. You will also bring peace to this world.
And as we’ve said before, when the time comes there will be so much love, there will be so much peace, and there will be many diseases where all of a sudden cures are found. There will be many diseases that no longer exist. They’ll be wiped out. And that’s from the work you do by showing love.
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What Can You Tell Me About The Job I Just Quit And Future Job Prospects?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Vibrationally Aware, who’s looking for insight about a job she just quit and her future prospects.
Vibrationally Aware (VA): I was offered a job in 2021 by a friend and client. I worked there for over a year and the owner was exceptionally abusive. I finally couldn’t take it anymore and quit yesterday.
Council: And so we ask you to think back. If this job was as abusive as you say, why did it take you a year to quit? Your situation goes along with what you wanted to experience in your current lifetime. You wanted to experience limitations to what you thought your life would be like. And upon recognizing these limitations you’d immediately change them by changing your attitude towards them, by deciding what you’re doing isn’t for you, this isn’t something you’ll settle for or accept, and you’ll move forward.
Look back in your life. How many things did you settle for? How many things did you stay with that weren’t satisfying, were abusive, or hurtful? All you wanted to do was to meet challenges in this lifetime, recognize them, and move on quickly. This is how you wanted to grow. You wanted to move on quickly, no matter how many different places or areas of your life where you found yourself in this situation. You wanted to be aware that moving on would make you feel intelligent, would make you feel that you had clarity in what you were seeing, and that you had the power to change your life. That’s the lesson you wished to experience in your current reality.
VA: I can’t understand why this owner was so abusive to me and why I’d attract this sort of behavior.
Council: You wanted all of this to happen. It’s wonderful you experienced this and now you find yourself with the ability to get yourself out of this difficulty and move forward. That’s what you wanted. With all these challenges – and some will be very little – you just want the clarity and the knowledge of what’s going on, and just move on.
VA: Do I have a past life connection to the two women I worked for?
Council: You knew both of these women in several past lives, and they were good lifetimes there. But they’ve come along to help you in your current reality by playing a role to help you go through this challenge, and help you do what you wanted to achieve in your current lifetime, and that’s just to move on.
VA: I don’t have another job lined up. I’m visualizing what I want, but I’m concerned that I may be dragging some unfinished energy with me.
Council: Now you know that all you wish to do in your current lifetime is to be satisfied, to be happy in what you do and what you create, and to move on. You aren’t dragging any unfinished energy with you. The knowledge we’ve given you here will make you aware more quickly when you find yourself in situations you don’t like. The quicker you can identify these situations, the quicker you can change them. When this goes on you’ll have experienced what you’ve wanted to experience and won’t need to experience it any longer.
VA: I don’t want to repeat the same scenario in a new job opportunity.
Council: That’s entirely up to you and depends on the choices you make.
VA: Is there an industry I should pursue?
Council: One of the things you wanted to do in this lifetime was to move around a lot. Any sort of job where you can travel is good. Whether it would be in sales, on a cruise ship, taking people on tours, or just going to different countries and learning about the people, taking minor jobs in each place, and moving on. That’s what you wanted. You didn’t want to be stuck in an office. You wanted the movement. You wanted to meet and know many people.
VA: Any insight would be much appreciated.
Council: Believe in the power of your higher self because it is you. You’re the only one that’s creating in your reality.
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Is It Time To Separate From My Husband?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Confused and Sad, who says, I’ve been married for close to 30 years. The last few years have had me reflect on how different my husband and I are, and how much we’ve grown apart. It seems our history and our finances are the main reason we’re still together. My husband is a good man, but we have very little, if anything, in common. We rarely agree on anything and this makes me very sad. I feel in my heart we’d both be happier apart, and perhaps have a chance to find a true partner who can make us happy.
The Council says the pre-planning of this marriage in spirit comes from a lifetime where you were both married to other people and you were very mean and selfish with your partners. You felt stuck in these marriages. You didn’t know each other in that life, but there was always the thought to find someone better. You thought you were with people who weren’t pretty, weren’t handsome, weren’t intelligent, people that made you feel closed in, or had nothing in common with you. And both your spirits were willing to work on the same issues so you decided to do it together in your current lifetime.
When you came into your current life it was to come together and learn how to accept who the other person is, whatever their issues were. You wanted to learn how to allow someone to be different. You don’t have to have all these things in common. You wanted to learn how to love yourself and not to look for someone new that would make you happy and feel loved. You must love yourself.
And then you took it a step further and you decided that because you were so selfish and mean in your past life, in your current life when you learned how to accept your spouse for who they were, you were going to try to help them feel good about themself. You were going to take the focus off of you and how miserable you felt, and how this person wasn’t making you happy, and try to do something for this other person,. and give of yourself. And in that you’d feel the change within yourself, and you’d feel better and more love for yourself.
At first we imagine this may be difficult, but when you see you’re focusing on the other person and allowing them to take in this beautiful energy you’re sending by trying to do something for them, or just the energy of letting them be who they are, what you’re looking for in other people you’ll find in yourselves. When you find it in yourselves, you’ll realize both of you created this situation in this marriage. You’re exactly where you need to be to realize: How can I fix this? I love this person, but I don’t, because there’s someone who’d be prettier or handsomer, someone that would give me more attention, someone that would make me feel happier than I am. All of this love comes from within you, not from another person.
When you ask yourself to be nicer, to be understanding, to say to yourself, Today let me do this for this person or with this person, knowing it’s something that person likes, you will be so proud of yourself, and the feeling you want to have in a marriage will return. It will not only return, but it will be better than it was.
Confused says, We’ve both tried to make each other happy for the sake of the children and family, but we’re just two very different people. The Council says, Isn’t that wonderful. Look at what you can learn from being two totally different people.
Confused says, We’re both scared to leave because we’re all each other has known for so many years. The Council says of course the feeling of being scared will come up because you know this isn’t what you wanted. You don’t want to flee your marriage. You didn’t plan to go off and find something else. You both created this situation so you could grow within yourself and for each other.
Confused says, I know we’re both confused and scared because separation or divorce can be just as difficult as staying together. The Council says if you were to do this and move on, the happiness you’re looking for you won’t find somewhere else. It’s within this marriage, it’s within yourselves that you wanted to grow and learn, and you will feel this.
Confused says, I’ve tried to figure out why we would have chosen each other, what lessons we were supposed to learn. Is it finally time to move on and co-create the life we’d both like to live? And perhaps find true love with a partner more suited for each of us that can make us happy?. The Council says this other partner you’re looking for will be no different because you both planned to live your life this way.
Confused says, We do try and communicate and work things out, but our thought processes are just so completely different. The Council says, Isn’t it wonderful?. Do you stop and wonder what your spouse is thinking of? Do you try to understand it? Do you try and see it? And you don’t have to agree with each other. That’s the most wonderful thing. You can still have your beliefs and your ways of thinking, but how interesting it would be to see how your spouse’s mind works. And you can learn much from this. Let go of being rigid and thinking we have different ideas. What can you learn from this? Maybe it would be fun for you to think this way. Or maybe you can learn from thinking this way. It’s all opportunities in front of you.
If you feel you don’t want to stay in this marriage, it’s always your choice. You’ll create it again because the lessons you want to learn are right here. All the opportunities are right here for you.
Confused says, Our thought processes are just so completely different that it never ends well. We just seem to see things completely differently. The Council says, And so you argue and you fight because you don’t agree because you think differently. When you go to school the teacher thinks differently than a student. The student in the back of the room could be thinking differently than a student in the front. You don’t fight over this. You listen and learn from it. But most important, you allow the person to be who they are. And that’s the most wonderful gift you can give anyone.
Confused closes by asking, Have we learned all we can from each other, and is it finally time to move on? The Council says we’ve given you the answer. We wish you so much fun on your journey. Take your focus off your disagreeing, your not having things in common, off the fighting and difficulty communicating. Take your focus and say, This is another spirit who’s agreed with me to come into this reality to create this situation. While we go through it we’re going to learn about each other. Most importantly we’re going to learn about ourselves. Are we able to accept others if they’re not like us? Because your purpose in this life is to bring love into this reality.
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What About the Strong Emotions in My Recent Dream?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Core, who had a recent dream where they woke and felt strong emotions. It felt like the dream actually happened. Maybe not in the exact form of the dream, but a similar scenario.
The Council says there was a lot coming from your subconscious, which is trying to deal with your emotions. It almost feels like your heart, where you store emotions, sort of exploded. A mish-mash of emotions and ideas that were coming through the subconscious in this dream.
These emotions are for you to feel, then release, and see what energy it’s bringing up for you in this particular life. What images do these feelings bring up? Where are they taking you?
There were other emotions in that dream that were also trying to come through. Some emotions from past lives, some from your current life, but more than a message from another life or from spirit, it was your subconscious trying to grab onto some idea and some feeling you could work on. There were many feelings that were trying to come up in this dream – love, abandonment, relationships, and self-doubt.
The best advice we can give you is to find the feeling from that dream and meditate on it. In your meditation ask for images. Pay attention to how these images make you feel. Go into that feeling. When you go into the feeling, different ideas and images can pop up. But because there was an intertwining of so many emotions, we suggest working with one emotion at a time.
And rather than going by the emotion in the dream, go by what’s going on for you in your everyday life. What emotion do you feel? Why do you feel it? What kicked the emotion off? It’s as if the emotions you have inside you that you want to deal with in your current lifetime are exploding all over the place.
Your job in your current life is to take stock of what you’re feeling on a daily basis because there’s so much going on. What are you feeling? Go into that emotion. Why are you feeling that way? Where do you think this feeling could be coming from? How would you like to feel? Do you want more of this feeling or less of it?
As you go through each emotion, picture yourself letting it go so your energy can become lighter. You make room for more clarity and more love to come in. It’s the lesson of searching. It’s the lesson of acknowledging and accomplishing what you wanted in your current life. And because there are so many emotions that you’ve gone into in other lifetimes, it’s all coming up at one time and you’re having difficulty handling it. As we said, there was such an explosion of ideas, emotions, and images that wanted to come through. The only way you can start to go through this is to understand how you feel on a daily basis.
At some point in your day if you feel anger, ask yourself what set that off? If you feel love, what set that off? Think about what you want and what you don’t want. Ask yourself how you can replace what you don’t want. Say the words, “I’m releasing energies from past lives that are hindering this life. I’m healing them and letting them go.” As you think of this, clarity will come and one emotion at a time you’re life will move forward. It’ll put you in a place where you can absorb the lighter energy and create happiness. That is what you and your subconscious are trying to get you to do in this lifetime.
Core says, I’m wondering if this dream is just a story created from my subconscious doing its normal processing, or perhaps it actually happened to me in some form, maybe as a past life or a parallel life? The Council says it’s definitely part of the normal processing. The story is from your many pasts. There are lives that touched on this dream, but we have to say here, it’s not the lives that are important. It’s the feeling.
We always bring you to a place where whatever you’re going through, you better understand what you’re trying to do, and how it affects your current life? Emotions are what you’re trying to heal in your current lifetime. You went through something similar in other lifetimes, but that’s not important. What’s important is the feeling you woke up with. Work on that.
Every day take time to examine what you’re feeling, even if it’s only ten minutes. What are you feeling? Why am I feeling that? It helps your subconscious to try and pull everything together, and it helps you know what’s affecting your life and the way you feel. You want to grow. By examining your feelings you are acknowledging yourself, understanding yourself, and healing. This is what’s important right now.
Core says, I’m also curious to know about the person who appeared in my dream. The Council says this person that appeared in your dream is a combination of many people you’ve dealt with in other lifetimes. Your subconscious brings this through as one person to make it easier for you, but this one person represents many. The Council repeats, forget the person and forget the past lives. What are you feeling? It’s your job to understand your feelings, your emotions, and your thoughts that bring the feeling into your awareness.
The Council closes by saying they can promise if Core does the meditations, and acknowledges their feelings, and tries to figure out what causes these feelings, there will be much growth moving forward and the life Core creates will become better and better.
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Why Has the Man in My Life Become So Distant?
This post answers questions from a reader named, Confused Aquarius, who says the man in her life has become distant and he’s not the same man anymore.
The Council says it’s not this man’s intention to hurt you. There are other issues he needs to go through. One of the issues affecting him from past lives that he’s trying to work out is the issue of commitment. There’s a fear of commitment because of what he’s experienced in other lifetimes. He wants closeness and finds it, but fear enters into it and there’s a pulling away. His pulling away isn’t about you or something you’ve done to cause this. You volunteered in spirit to come into this lifetime and help this man learn about his fear of commitment.
Confused Aquarius says this man has gone from one extreme to another and he’s left me so confused. The Council advises Confused Aquarius to forget the confusion. You’ve entered into a relationship with this man to help him grow and to figure out what you’ve learned. What was the relationship like? What parts of it do you want to continue? What parts of this relationship do you not want to create again? You are both helping each other to grow.
Confused Aquarius says, just when my walls came down, he’s changed. He says he has a lot going on, but I can’t help but feel shut out of his life. He’s very intuitive and I feel he was drawn to me because we shared a past life. The Council says he was drawn to you because of a very strong agreement that you made in spirit. He wanted to face this challenge, learn from it, and not have to experience it again. And this makes the attraction between the two of you possible.
Confused Aquarius asks if there’s anything The Council can tell her about the past lives she’s shared with this man so she can better understand their meeting in the current life. She’s very confused why he entered her life in the first place. The Council says the challenges this man is facing, including the big one about commitment, weren’t created in another lifetime that you shared, but it’s something he’s experienced in many lifetimes. Because you know of each other from past lives, you agreed to help him, and you also agreed you would learn from this relationship.
The Council says it was planned that Confused Aquarius and this man would ultimately overcome these commitment challenges, but everyday life gets in the way. They say we’ll see what they create and where they take this relationship.
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How Can I Release Feelings of Anger and Disrespect?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Cartico, who had a difficult relationship with his father. When my father died five years ago I had been avoiding contact for quite a while. I’m aware he did his best to be a good father and his absence earlier in my life and our conflicts are the result of what he experienced in his life. The Council says it’s wonderful you understand this and it will go a long way toward healing your relationship.
Cartico says he has a lot of understanding for his father, but he also feels angry. He has similar feelings about his ex-girlfriend and this seems like a theme in his life. I feel stuck between love and understanding on one side and anger and feeling disrespected on the other side.
The Council says Cartico has a right to feel angry. It’s an emotion you shouldn’t feel afraid to have. If you feel disrespected or hurt, or someone has done something unfair to you, have these angry emotions. Look at them. Stay in that anger. You won’t be punished for this. Think of what’s happened over and over until you see that as you do this more and more, it will bother you less and less. These emotions are what you in spirit wanted to experience and to pass through in your current lifetime.
While you understand certain things and were able to make boundaries, what’s coming through with these people in your life who agreed in spirit to push your buttons, let you feel disrespected, let you feel angry, and let you feel hurt, is the lesson to stay in these feelings. When you look at these feelings instead of running away from them or burying them, they will disappear. These are just emotions that you chose for this life to feel and then let go.
Cartico says I feel sort of guilty and sorry, and I have difficulty letting go of times that have passed. Does The Council have guidance on how I can embrace the peaceful aspects of this situation and let go of the emotions in these relationships that get me stuck in the past?
The Council says to visualize yourself sitting in a chair across from the person you feel has upset you and imagine yourself being surrounded by beautiful pink energy. And constantly say to this person that you hurt me or you made me feel this way, but thank them for doing it because on a higher level I know I asked for this and you agreed to behave this way for me out of your love for me to help me grow from this. Stay in the beautiful bubble of pink light and keep doing this over and over and your feelings toward this person will change.
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Do People Pre-Plan in Spirit to Experience Addiction?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Kristi, who asks if people pre-plan in spirit to experience addiction in their life, and why would they do that?
The Council says right now so many people are interested in addiction and they choose to experience it for many reasons. There’s something they want to learn. There’s something they want to relearn from a past life. There can be something they’re doing to help another spirit grow. Each person has their own path to follow in this choice of experiencing addiction in their life.
Kristi asks how God and spirit view addiction. The Council says God and spirit are the same thing; we are all God and spirit inside ourselves. Each one of us views addiction differently. Some people have no understanding of addiction, become very angry, want no part of this in their lives and pull away. They block out the addition and go into denial.
Others see addiction as someone needing help. Reaching out to this person is part of their journey just to help this spirit get through it. These people have supportive and loving energy and the courage to try and deal with these people.
Each one of us are God and spirit and views addiction differently. It’s all according to what you believe. How you view it is part of your plan for what you want to learn in your lifetime.
When you see someone dealing with addiction, try to understand their path. But more importantly, understand how you feel about this addiction. Is it wise for you to pull away? Is it wise for you to help? Are you there to learn boundaries around this addiction?
Some people want to learn about addiction. If you’re choosing to be an addict, will you agree to come into my life to teach me and help me learn about it? The spiritual point of view is what sets up what the human will go through.
There are many, many lessons to learn from addiction. There’s abandonment, when your family no longer has patience for you. There’s sickness, overdosing, and early death. It’s the experience the soul wants to have. Some people want to go through addiction and have that devastation and then find a way out of it so they know what it feels like. They can then go on and teach others, if not in this reality, then in a future reality.
Some people judge addiction harshly and they need to experience it the way they do. And along their path they may have something happen where their experience will change what they believe. Others may become very bitter and angry from being exposed to addiction and not understand it. These people may choose to become addicted in their next life. And some people choose addiction because they want to learn about shame, abandonment, hurt, death, or love when they come out of their addiction.
Coming into this world the most important thing you agreed to do is to take the love you experience in spirit and bring it into your physical reality so you can change it and make it better. The way you can do this is to allow everyone to be who they are. You cannot change someone else and you shouldn’t change them because they are planning to experience this addiction and they want to learn from it.
Send the addicted person love and allow them to go through whatever they’ve planned to experience. Hopefully they’ve also planned to come out of their addiction. If not, understand with your heart if they succumb to addiction, it was what they wanted to experience. And they’ll use this experience in a future life to help themselves, get more understanding, and help others.
The best thing you can do for an addicted person is to send them love. If you can’t send them love, then another great part of love is allowing the addicted person to learn their lessons so that they grow. And we all grow from their experience.
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Why Did My Partner Cross Over Sooner Than Expected?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Misti, who has a question about divine timing. She says her twin flame partner crossed over earlier this year from cancer leaving her devastated and confused. Many years earlier he was told his life plan by a guru and was supposed to live longer than he did. He was a powerful medium and we were both certain he’d recover from his illness. Why did my partner leave earlier than I expected?
The Council feels Misti’s partner learned most of what he wanted to learn before he passed. No matter who tells you how long you’re going to live, your spirit knows why it’s here, what it’s looking for, when you achieve it, and when you plan to leave. Your partner was very excited about going back into spirit and bringing the information and the feeling of what he learned with him, and then to come back in a new life.
Misti asks if her partner was needed sooner than expected on the other side and The Council replies somewhat humorously that nothing is needed on the other side. It’s all there.
Misti asks if her partner taught her the lessons she needed to learn sooner than expected and she released him sooner? The Council says Misti hasn’t learned all her lessons and she’ll be in this lifetime for quite a while yet. Be grateful for what you learned from your partner and move forward. You’ll always receive help from spirit and from your partner even though he’s passed over.
The Council advises Misti not to feel she learned too quickly and helped your partner crossover. He didn’t rush back to spirit because something’s wrong back there and he’s really needed. He crossed over joyfully with information, with feeling, with understanding that would help everyone grow, even in spirit.
Your partner learned that confusion is okay. He learned that when you’re here you don’t ever reach your full potential. There’s always more desires and more you want to learn. You go through each lesson and you take the information with you to the other side so that even in spirit everyone grows. Your partner learned about chaos, he learned about confusion, and he learned about healing. And he was excited to take this information and the feelings back to spirit.
The Council closes by saying your partner definitely didn’t need to heal the cancer her was suffering from before he crossed over.
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A Major Planetary Energetic Shift Will Happen in August 2019
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Rosina, who asks if she has a connection to the constellation Pleiades. The Council says in August 2019 there’s a major energetic shift causing a planetary alignment that raises questions like this about lives on other planets, other stars, and where am I from? The Council notes these questions have been popular lately and says Rosina, like many others, have passed through the Pleiades.
The Council asks Rosina and the rest of us to meditate during August 2019 and feel the energy from the star systems Orion, Pleiades, Arcturus, and Sirius. Have these energies raise your vibration so you can be more intuitive, learn quicker, and be able to receive information from spirits that are working to help us through this time. There’s great growth coming for everyone.
The Council repeats that Rosina had one or more lifetimes on the Pleiades, but in bringing this question up what’s most important for her to know is at this time if you meditate you’ll receive more energy. You’ll be able to change old patterns in your life, learn more quickly, and there will be more clarity. This is for all of planet Earth. That’s why this question is asked at this time and this is the answer that’s most important.
Rosina adds that she’s connected with a man who she believes is her twin flame. She says they know each other so well and have been communicating on a pure heart level for two years, but haven’t met yet. The Council suggests Rosina keep this connection open. Ask this person to meditate at this time and you’ll see if you receive similar information and how this helps you grow. The Council closes by saying in the future if both Rosina and this man want to meet, they can create this.
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Why Do I Have a Negative Relationship with My Stepmother?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, Distressed, who asks why they have such a negative relationship with their stepmother. It seems she’s always filled with anger and negative energy toward everyone and I always feel fear when I’m around her.
This situation is familiar for both of you because you were brothers in another lifetime. In that lifetime your stepmother was your older brother, was quite angry and violent, and took it out on you and you would run away from him. Although your brother cared for you in his own way in this other lifetime, he didn’t understand his behavior wasn’t positive and didn’t understand why you wouldn’t be close with him.
In your current lifetime the two of you decided to come back in and your stepmother would be angry again and you wanted to see if you were able to show kindness to your stepmother and try to understand. All that was wanted in spirit from both of you was to be in each other’s presence and try to understand what the other person was going through.
That doesn’t mean you need to be abused in this relationship, but knowing there was anger from another lifetime should be helpful. Know you’re trying to help your stepmother work through this anger and learn that even though someone is angry and negative with everyone, you would still be kind.
Distressed asks what lessons they’re meant to learn from each other. The Council says acceptance and love. No matter what, show love and try to turn the situation with your stepmother around. But don’t show love with expectations. Just show love. Whether your stepmother choses to grow and learn from your love is her spirit’s job. How does your spirit grow from the love you try and show? It was planned that you’d discover love no matter what else happened in your relationship. Allow the other person to be who they are and just accept them that way.
Distressed asks how they can improve their relationship with their stepmother? The Council advises not to expect the stepmother to change right away. But instead of running away in fear, which is how you handled this situation in your other lifetime, stay short periods of time and try to be pleasant. Listen to what your stepmother says and try to understand how her words affect her and how she sees her circumstances. All you need to do is try and understand and eventually your stepmother will notice what you are doing.
The Council says perhaps learning about what you experienced in this other lifetime will help you be more patient and understanding in your current lifetime. As you become more patient and understanding, your stepmother will change.
You are on your path and will find your way by being excited you’re in this lifetime. And no matter what you created – whether it’s something you’re grateful for or something that’s challenging – you wanted to experience all of it. Help will be there for you, you’ll find your way through it, and you’ll grow.
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Concerns About a Loving Relationship
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Frances, who says she recently entered into a relationship with someone I’m falling in love with. He’s a lot of what I’ve prayed for and I feel this is a deep soul connection. To be honest, a part of me is terrified. I’m used to being independent and his presence in my life is throwing me off kilter. What if I lose myself?
What if you don’t lose yourself, says The Council. What if you learn to grow? What if you make room in your life to have this man come in – which was planned – and you grow together? Isn’t it better to think about your situation this way?
Frances says she has life goals that she’s afraid will get derailed. Also, he’s very Christian and I’m very spiritual and not Christian. The Council says wouldn’t it be wonderful if this man shared your life goals and you taught him about what you’re interested in while he taught you about what he’s interested in?
The purpose of coming together is to let another person into your life and share it. This wonderful relationship that’s come into your life because you’ve attracted it has you worried. You can stay in your box, follow your goals, be independent, and find other different paths to learn from, but you’ve pulled in a wonderful partner to share your life with and grow from this.
Frances says she and this man come from different cultures and his values are more conservative than hers, but she loves him. The Council asks if she loves him enough to show him true love by allowing him to be who he is? To see his life and welcome him into yours? Can you love him enough to allow him to be him and you to still be you? Why must you get lost in this? This relationship is something to be shared. Allowing this man into your life without trying to fix him, change him, or have certain rules he must follow. That is the truest sense of love.
Frances asks how she can overcome her fear of getting lost in this person and their relationship? The Council asks if she’s done the work of being grateful this relationship has come into her life? Do you imagine this relationship the way you want it to be? Do you concentrate on his wonderful traits that you’ve described? Are you concentrating on what you bring to this relationship? If she does these things it will help her overcome her fears.
Frances asks how she’s meant to grow from this relationship? The Council says by not being independent. By being willing to share the good times and the burdens. By being willing to go down a path that may not seem like what you have planned even though it is what you planned. Do you trust yourself enough to know what you want and go on this path and create this relationship as you go? Doing this work will help you see this relationship go the way you want.
Of course there will be bumps in the road, but those bumps are there to help you both learn to grow. Instead of looking at this relationship in fear, think of it as jumping up the ladder of spiritual growth. Take this chance. This spirit agreed with you to try this out and help each other grow.
Frances asks if it’s possible to create a life and a family with this man without losing sight of what she wants to accomplish in this lifetime? The Council says this is up to Frances. It depends on whether she allows herself to lose sight of these things, but there’s no reason this is necessary. You will have what you want, and more, because this other spirit will bring more to the relationship.
Frances asks why she fell for someone so different from her. The Council reminds her of the saying that sometimes differences are attracted to each other. The differences will bring more into the relationship. It will cement it and help it’s growth. But The Council says in reality you are both spirits who want to learn there aren’t any differences.
Both Frances and the man she loves planned to be independent in this lifetime, but not alone. You have both gone on your different paths and have different ideas about how you want your lives to be. It was agreed you’ll both be so sure of everything, happy and successful, then you’ll meet and bring all your ideas into each other’s lives and see how you handle it.
This will take you further than either of you would go on your own. What you’d imagined will change because you’ll both come from different points of view. You both wanted to have experiences before you got together and then have more experiences after you get together. The learning path widens and continues in a new direction.
The Council says the two of you met in a past life on the English ocean liner, The Lusitania, where you had a fun but short relationship. And from this relationship you both wished to come together in your current lifetime to see how you would expand the vibration of love.
You are on your path and will find your way by being excited you’re in this lifetime. And no matter what you created – whether it’s something to be grateful for or something that’s challenging – you wanted to experience all of it. Help will be there for you, you’ll find your way through it, and you’ll grow.
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What’s Up With My Best Friend Who I Just Confessed My Love To?
Maria says she’s currently having issues with her best friend, Dave, who she just confessed her love to. She says he’s sort of cold to her right now, though she may be just imagining it. The Council says it’s wonderful to have the freedom to confess love for another person. It’s for yourself that you do this. Whether it’s accepted or not, speaking of love for another person is a wonderful feeling, and they ask Maria to tune into this feeling.
Maria says a close psychic friend told her she and Dave were either family or romantically involved in several past lives. The Council says as Maria continues to create her life, things can be changed but right now the relationship isn’t going in the direction of a love interest. It’s more of support for each other.
Maria says she’s learning a lot of lessons from how she handles her relationship with Dave, such as how to express herself honestly and have a wider perspective of what’s possible. The Council says this is great growth on Maria’s part.
Maria asks The Council why she hasn’t gotten over telling Dave she loves him and asks if she’s missing another lesson or should she just be more patient? The Council advises Maria to not only be more patient, because she’s able to create this romantic relationship if it’s what she wants, but what she needs to do is to stay in the vibration of love and go forward with what she wishes to create.
The Council advises Maria to allow Dave to be who he is. Be supportive without pressure to go into a different type of relationship. See Dave with love and send him energy so he’s able to work through the lessons he wishes to go through and change.
The Council advises Maria to remain in the present with Dave and to listen to him with her heart and try and be supportive. As you do this you also grow.
There’s a big lesson here for Dave about safety. As he learns to be safe with you and as he learns you’re not trying to change him and you accept who he is, his walls will begin to come down and he’ll be more present with you. Along with the thought of you becoming more loving and more patient, also see Dave becoming more trusting and more caring. When you do this inner work it’s the beginning of creating. In your feelings about Dave, love and acceptance is what’s needed and the rest will come into play.
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Am I Working Through a Past Life Connection with My Boss?
This post answers questions for The Council from an Anonymous reader who has a tumultuous relationship with their boss an wants to know if they have a past life connection with this person and they’re trying to work through it?
The Council sees a past life in England where you were both friends, running a general store, and having mistrust for one another. What you’re trying to accomplish in your current lifetime is to work together, but with a different kind of understanding.
Can you speak honestly with your boss the way you weren’t able to in the lifetime in England. If you’re uncomfortable how you’re being treated in your current life or there’s misunderstandings, it’s for your growth to speak up about these things. Your boss, if he wishes to grow spiritually, has to get to a place where he listens and tries to understand your point of view. There’s lots of communication the two of you wish to work out in your current relationship.
Anonymous asks why their boss insists on giving them work while they’re on vacation. The Council asks if you’re able to speak to your boss about this. And The Council asks if Anonymous respects themself enough to put up boundaries to let their boss know that when you’re on vacation, you won’t be available to do this work? Can you trust in what you deserve and make these boundaries? As long as you’re unable to give voice to these difficulties, they will continue.
Anonymous says they’ve tried to use a pendulum to get answers, but sometimes it doesn’t seem accurate and they want to know if this is a valid way to get insight? The Council says you’re able to get the pendulum to give the answer you want by using your mind and your energy.
The Council says when you want answers, the best way is to sit quietly and think of the problem, then let the problem go. When you can sit quietly and relax into the silence, the answers to your problem will come to you.
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Have I Learned What I Intended to Learn in the Relationship I’m Thinking of Ending?
This post answers a question from a reader named, Michelle, who’s thinking about ending a long-term relationship, but she questions if she’s learned everything she was meant to learn from this relationship. Michelle says the thought of continuing the relationship is exhausting, but she hasn’t been able to bring herself to end it. She asks The Council if her need to stay in this relationship is a human one or a spiritual one?
The Council says there’s always more to learn in your relationship. When this relationship seems draining for you, it’s because you’re getting closer to what’s beyond the chaos of it, which is love.
The Council says the choice to leave or stay in the relationship is Michelle’s, not The Council’s, but they tell Michelle there’s a lot she wants to learn from this relationship. And they say the reason Michelle finds it difficult to let go is because the spiritual part of who she is knows there’s still more to be learned.
Know that if you continue with this relationship there will be good times and more to be learned. As you get beyond the difficulties in this relationship The Council says Michelle will grow by leaps and bounds and there will be lots of understanding on a spiritual level as well as a human level.
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Why am I Afraid of My Mother, and What Is Her Role in My Life?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the initials, PE, who asks about their distressing relationship with their mother. PE says their mother triggers a lot of anxiety in them, which PE doesn’t understand. What is their mother’s role in PE’s life? PE doesn’t feel love about her the way some people feel about their mothers, just fear and sadness.
The Council says there’s a strong connection between the two of you to another lifetime in India. In that life your mother was also in poor physical health. She was unable to walk and in a lot of pain. She brought her poor health into her current lifetime to try and heal it.
In the lifetime in India you were a servant to your mother and you were treated very badly. You were beat many times. In her current life your mother wanted to be around the same souls that were around in the lifetime in India to try to create love between her and these souls.
Unfortunately your mother had you killed in the life in India because you weren’t able to fulfill all her wishes. The Council can imagine your fear of your mother in your current lifetime would be great if you brought this fear in order to heal it. Can you let go of some of this fear and talk to your mother about how you feel around her and how you’d like to change that? Can you get her to talk about her feelings? You want this in your current life, but The Council doesn’t see you being quite ready yet.
The fear you carry is very real, but in your current life you wanted to try and change the relationship for the better. Is it possible for you to show your mother some caring and compassion? Don’t keep yourself around her all the time because it’s good for you to pull away, meditate, and bring in the light and good feelings for yourself. Can you limit your time when you see your mother? And in this time, no matter how she acts, can you show a little caring? This will begin to change your relationship.
Don’t blame yourself or feel bad because you’re afraid of your mother in your current life. Once you realize you can change the way you perceive this relationship – even if your mother decides not to change for whatever reason because she’s unable to – when you go forward and show love and compassion no matter what, you will grow. And your mother’s spirit will experience your loving energy and sometimes this is enough to begin the change.
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Whether to Contact a Guy She Had a Crush On Years Ago
This post answers questions from a reader named Jayden, who recently had three vivid dreams about a guy she had a significant crush on several years ago. She recently discovered he lives practically down the street from her even though they originally knew each other in high school in a town thousands of miles away. Jayden wonders if her spirit wants her to contact this man and see what happens or if this is a coincidence. She’s concerned he may not remember her. Thinking about this makes her feel like a teenager again.
The Council suggests Jayden see her current situation as a wonderful opportunity to help her connect with this man again. And they suggest that before she tries to make contact, she should imagine how she’d like this contact to take place, and imagine the response she receives.
The Council reminds us that there are no coincidences, and that Jayden’s higher self is bringing her to this point because this is something she desired when she was in high school. The Council interestingly says this desire doesn’t just disappear, and now it’s coming to her.
Jayden asks if this person symbolizes something in her life she needs to develop awareness of. The Council says it symbolizes her trying to create happiness, whether with this person on whatever level it can grow into; it is a happiness that was missing when she had a crush on him.
The Council says this is an opportunity for Jayden to have a “re-do”. She knows where this person lives and she can reach out an make contact with him and see what develops. It can blossom, or just be a friendship, but she’ll be able to experience a continuation of what she left behind.
Jayden wants to bring in either a new experience or have some closure with this man. And The Council says again, the way she creates this experience with her thoughts, her feelings, and her beliefs is the way it will happen. With the visualization The Council recommends, they say Jayden can approach this man.
The Council closes by saying that when they come to answer these questions, some people need specific answers that The Council sees are very important, some people need guidance, and some people need to be pushed to open another path within themselves so they’re able to find their own answers and grow.
The Council reminds us that we are powerful spirits and we have all the answers inside ourselves. They are here to help us shake up our reality and find those answers.
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Relationship Advice
This post is inspired by a relationship question for The Council from someone who goes by the name, Very Confused. She begins by saying she fully believes she gets exactly what she asks for and The Council clarifies this by saying you get exactly what you create. Everything that comes to you is created by you. Her desire for what she wants and her repeated thinking of it is how she’ll create it.
Very Confused says she’s in a romantic relationship that she asked for. She’s recognized the beautiful paths of other relationships and has used that feeling of love to create this relationship. The Council says this is excellent. As she acknowledges what brings her joy, that’s the way to bring it into future relationships.
She says most of what she wants in this relationship is present except for a few things she finds crucial, and she wonders if this is a test for her self love. The Council asks who Very Confused thinks is testing her? There isn’t a God out there who tests people. If anyone is testing her, she is testing herself by creating some of what she wants, but not all of it.
The Council says the way to create the rest of what she wants is the same way she’s already created the changes she’s experienced, and that’s by visualization, feeling what she desires, and writing about it. It will all come from her, and this test is her asking herself if this is enough? Does she settle for what she already has or does she keep on creating everything she desires?
Very Confused says she’s concerned her partner isn’t good enough for her any more and she suspects this is a lesson that her self love isn’t where she intends it to be. The Council says no one is perfect and everyone comes with what we call flaws. These flaws are there to help her grow, not to help the other person change. When life is difficult for her, this is a sign it’s something she requested before coming into this lifetime. It’s not about the other person. She created this experience for her to grow from so that when she leaves this lifetime she’s learned from this experience and she’s proud her perception has changed.
The Council suggests looking at the things that aren’t perfect in her relationship and know that this person is a spirit that’s in her life because she’s made an agreement with him to to make her life difficult so she can grow by bringing love into this relationship. The Council says Very Confused can create a new partner, but she’ll face these flaws again in her next relationship or her next lifetime, until she learns the lessons she desires to learn from these flaws. As she learns these things that help her grow, this person who isn’t perfect will seem close to being perfect.
Very Confused asks if this relationship is an opportunity where deep nurturing love can be found, or is she to accept this man as he is and choose self love? The Council says as she accepts her partner in the moment, she’ll feel more love for him. And when she’s feeling love and acceptance, she’ll feel more self love.
Very Confused says she tends to be analytical and wonders if this is working against her. The Council recommends she stop analyzing and go with the flow. It’s best not to analyze. Get her brain out of the way and come from her heart.
Very Confused finishes by asking The Council what her purpose is in this lifetime. The Council says it’s to bring love into this reality, to accept what’s around her, and to grow and help other spirits that are around her. As she does this she’ll create the path she desires, always knowing that she’s the creator of what happens in her life.
The Council says the choice is always Very Confused’s whether to stay in the current relationship or not. And as she works in this relationship she has to work within herself to see the relationship differently, to grow from it, and to bring love into, even though it’s difficult sometimes. But they also say to stay and see how she grows from this relationship, and if it doesn’t change, it’s not the other person’s fault. It’s about whether she’s doing enough work, is she appreciating the relationship enough, is she allowing this person to go through whatever they have to go through? Is she there to help the two of them grow?
Listen to the recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Very Confused and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.
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Help with Her Daughter’s Marriage
This post is inspired by a woman named, Marie, who asks The Council for help with her daughter’s unhappy marriage. The Council says how Marie looks at her daughter’s marriage will create what she sees. If Marie thinks her daughter is in a horrible marriage, this is what she’s creating. The Council asks Marie if she’s able to find some moments where her daughter and daughter’s husband are getting along and to focus on that instead of focusing on them not getting along.
Marie asks if it’s wise to encourage her daughter to leave her husband. And The Council says, not at all. Marie doesn’t consciously know what her daughter’s spirit and her daughter’s husband’s spirit agreed on and what they’re trying to heal in this lifetime. The Council recommends letting the marriage unfold. They point out that love allows everything and by allowing them to work on their marriage without interfering, Marie is loving her daughter.
The Council recommends that with Marie’s thoughts and prayers she picture her daughter and her husband doing what they need to do, whether it was to come together and have the courage to leave each other, or to come together and see things differently and get along better moving forward.
The Council says Marie’s daughter is trying to come together with her husband and find a path where they can understand each other. They’re trying to turn toward the experience of love. They’ve had several other lives together and they enjoy having these lives and helping each other grow and learn.
The Council says it’s possible her daughter and her daughter’s husband get along better than Marie perceives, and The Council asks Marie to change how she looks at the marriage. They say to almost strain herself to find something good in this marriage and as she does this more of this goodness will be created.
The Council recommends that Marie talk to her daughter about nice times her daughter and daughter’s husband shared together. This will help her daughter remember these nicer times. Marie should try to bring some light into the marriage as she talks about it with her daughter. Look for the good in this marriage and talk about it with her daughter, and it will help her daughter on her path.
Listen to our entire 6-minute session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Marie and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.
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Why Do So Many Women Ask About Abortion?
This post is inspired by questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who’s curious why we get so many questions from women who struggle with abortion. This is a question we ask ourselves from time to time and we thought this would be a good opportunity to get The Council’s opinion on this subject. Anonymous also asks why abortions bring so much pain if they’re pre-planned in spirit.
The Council starts by offering an answer about pre-planning abortions. They say just because we pre-plan in spirit before we are born to have an abortion doesn’t mean we plan to remember this. The purpose of these pre-planned abortions is just to go through the experience and see how we handle it and grow from it.
The Council says many women who go through an abortion experience blame, grief, and heartbreak until they understand they intend to grow from this. And The Council points out many women go through one or more abortions and don’t experience these negative emotions. They go through it believing they made the right choice for themselves, the fetus, and everyone involved, and they move on. Everyone who experiences an abortion does not experience those heartaches.
Bob asks The Council about the first part of Anonymous’s question: why so many questions about abortion? The Council says the reason is that many women struggle with abortion. Maybe they thought it wasn’t a good time to have a child, or the finances weren’t good, or they weren’t in a good relationship, or the partner didn’t want the child. This brings up feelings of guilt and sadness.
Bob says he understands many women struggle with abortions, but he doesn’t understand why so many questions are abortion-related when readers are free to ask questions on any subject. The Council says there is a strong vibration from the two of us to help people through abortions because this is a big problem that causes lots of despair. They say Cynthia and Bob created this website to answer any questions, and yet as spirits we knew the time was coming where more questions needed to be answered about abortion. These questions come from many who need to learn about self love and acceptance.
The Council adds there are more abortions going on now than ever before. In other times there weren’t places where women could have a safe abortion. Women have more choices when they become pregnant now and so this question has grown. As more questions are written about abortion, people realize many others going through something similar and because they aren’t alone in their grief, sadness, and depression, it becomes easier to release these negative emotions.
Toward the end of the session Bob admits it’s still not not clear why there are so many abortion-related questions. The Council says the reason is because abortions are happening more frequently, it’s more out in the open, and because people want to understand that having an abortion is okay.
Listen to the recording of our entire 10-minute session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Anonymous and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.
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Getting Rid of the Guilt and Sadness After an Abortion
This post is inspired by questions for The Council from a reader named Liz in response to a post we wrote titled, Getting Rid of Depression After an Abortion. Liz says she’s struggled with this as well from an abortion she had 11 years ago. She was unable to have intimate relations after the abortion and mysteriously started loosing her hair. Recently she’s started to feel emotions about this abortion that she’s suppressed: deep sadness, anger, resentment, guilt, and shame.
Liz says she doesn’t know how to tell the spirit of the aborted child she’s sorry for terminating the pregnancy, she’s sorry she was careless about getting pregnant, and she’s sorry for feeling resentment about the abortion. She doesn’t know how to forgive herself and let go of this toxic mix of emotions. She’s writing to ask The Council for guidance.
The Council says there is nothing to feel sad, guilty, or depressed about. Every single abortion, including Liz’s, is pre-planned either in spirit before hand, or it’s agreed upon in spirit that when the time comes the souls of the parents and the child will make the decision to abort or move forward.
The Council says perhaps the child didn’t want to live a whole life. Perhaps it only wanted a short visit in Liz’s womb just to experience that. The Council says from our human viewpoint we don’t understand what the soul of this child desires, but in spirit the entire matter was discussed and agreed upon. They repeat there is no purpose for guilt and sadness. Liz should focus on the thought that she completed what was agreed upon by each party and now everyone is free to go on the next part of their journey.
The Council advises Liz to work on her heart and throat centers. Send the energy of love to her throat and talk about what she desires without holding back. Speak with kindness. And the color blue will activate her throat center.
The Council says the color green can activate her heart. Picture love filling her chest cavity and going down her shoulders and arms into her fingers. They advise Liz to allow herself to heal and feel again. As she speaks freely and can feel emotions, even if they are sad at first, her body will begin to work properly.
The Council says as Liz acknowledges her negative, depressive, sad thoughts, she should ask how she can begin to change these thoughts by moving forward into more joyous thoughts. They say everything Liz wants is within her, but she must get to a place of joy so she can create what she desires. There is no reason for continuing to focus on negative thoughts.
The Council asks Liz what she’s learned from this abortion. She went through this abortion so she could begin asking if there’s more to her life. As she asks the questions, she brings in the answers from The Council and others. They say Liz has done exactly what she planned to do and now she needs to move beyond her negative feelings.
Part of what Liz wanted to experience from this abortion was a connection to her spirituality. She wanted to learn there is so much more to who she is than a physical body. By going through this abortion and experiencing sadness and depression and asking for more, she brings help from the spiritual world. She can now connect with the spirit of her aborted child because it’s not dead, it’s just not in her physical life right now, but it’s in her life spiritually and they are still connected. And The Council advises Liz to connect with this love.
The Council says as you and Liz read and listen to this post a healing will take place and you all will grow, and that is part of The Council’s purpose.
Listen to our entire 9-minute session with The Council (below) to hear their guidance for Liz and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.
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How Can I Overcome the Shame of Being Bullied?
This post is inspired by a question from Megan, who asks The Council how she can overcome the shame of being bullied in high school.
The Council recognizes the pain Megan experiences from being bullied and they say it’s her choice whether to continue replaying these memories, which will create more of this pain, or she chooses to change the focus of her thoughts to love. The challenge here is for Megan to recognize who she is as a loving spirit and go deep within herself to feel the love, without approval from others, no matter what’s going on in her life.
The Council says it’s good for Megan to read books about past lives and books about people who’ve come to know through mediums how they create difficult lessons in their lives with the understanding it was all pre-planned so they could learn from turning their life around. They say as Megan becomes more aware of how and why she created the bullying, the pain will become less and it won’t be necessary for her to experience these feelings.
Listen to the recording of our entire session with The Council on Megan’s question to experience the full impact of their guidance for her and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.
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Challenges, Suicide, and Spiritual Growth
This post is inspired by a reader named Cait, who says she thinks about ending her life every day because it’s so painful, and she asks The Council if she’s able to break a pre-birth contract she made in spirit once her incarnation has begun.
Cait begins by asking The Council, what if the path your soul chose to achieve spiritual growth actually inhibits your spiritual growth? And The Council says this is never the case. They say your spirit works out whatever challenges it wants to meet while it’s in the physical body, and while this can seem difficult from a human point of view, your spirit knows exactly why it has chosen what it has chosen and what it is trying to accomplish.
The Council says when you begin to accept you are spirit in a physical body and believe you can learn with less difficulty, and can focus on the way you wish your life to be rather than the way it is, this is the beginning of change. You always have the power to turn your situation around. When you plan in spirit whatever you want to experience, it isn’t written in stone. You create every minute of every day, and so you can create something new.
Cait says she thinks about ending her life every day, and while The Council says there is no judgement in spirit for taking her life, they explain there’s growth she can experience from going through these challenges. And if she chooses to pass on these challenges in this lifetime she’ll be postponing them until she chooses to learn from them in a future lifetime.
Cait comments that her life is harmful to her soul, and The Council replies that her soul will never create circumstances that will harm her spiritually. It creates these situations for her to grow from them, to change them, and to bring love into them.
Cait asks how she can get out of her current challenge without killing herself and The Council advises her to refocus her attention and read as many books as possible on spiritual growth that can teach her who she is as a spiritual being.
Cait finishes her comment by saying her higher self doesn’t appear to care about her or her suffering. And The Council says Cait has no idea the love, caring, and support that spirit has for her if she’ll open up to it, even if she only pretends to feel it at first.
The Council recommends Cait read a book written by the spirit guide, Emmanuel and Pat Rodegast, and the energy from this book will help her turn her life around.
The Council tells Cait she’s come to this feeling of desperation and wanting out on purpose to experience an extreme situation so she can find a better way through this. And The Council says she will find it.
Listen to the entire 11-minute recording of our session with The Council to hear first hand all their guidance for Cait and anyone else who’s having difficulty navigating their current circumstances and is looking for a better way to experience them.
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Why Do Young People Get Cancer?
This post answers a question from a long-time follower of our blog named Susan, who also has her own WordPress blog: Life Is A Journey…Not A Guided Tour. Susan says she understands that diseases like cancer can be created from a lifetime of fear, but she wonders how someone very young can get cancer. She’s heard it can be to balance karmic energies or help another soul with a life lesson, and she asks The Council for their thoughts.
The Council says there’s a lot of talk about having to pay back karma or balance karma, and they say this isn’t the way karma works (unless that’s what you believe). They say it’s more like in one lifetime you experience good health and you see people who have poor health. And in another lifetime you wonder what it would be like to experience poor health and grow from this.
The Council wants to make clear that poor health is a conscious spiritual choice, not a punishment. They add that you sometimes choose poor health to help others deal with this, sometimes you choose poor health to learn compassion, and sometimes you choose poor health to become more loving and understanding.
While Susan seems to assume it takes a long lifetime of experiencing fear in order to develop cancer, The Council says you choose your family based on the experiences you desire. A child is able to experience fear while still in its mother’s womb and develop cancer within a very short period. Or it can plan to experience cancer because they want to leave this physical reality early, or to help the souls around them experience this. Whatever the case, The Council says it is always planned before coming into this physical reality.
The whole purpose of going through a life and death situation is to have the experience, to allow the souls around them to have the experience, and in some manner bring love into the situation.
The Council talks about what it’s like for a soul to choose cancer to help the other souls in it’s life learn from this. And then closes by saying when someone is experiencing poor health, the best thing you can do is send them love and remember they are spirit in a physical body choosing to experience this. And if they wish to live through this illness, you are supportive of this. And if they wish to leave this physical reality at this time, you’ll be supportive of this also.
Listen to the entire 18-minute session below to hear all The Council’s guidance on why young people might choose to get seriously ill.
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Welcome
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Welcome to Ask The Council, a blog where you can ask a group of loving and wise spirit guides a question and get an answer, for free. You can also contact us for a paid private phone session with The Council, and you can read the questions other readers have asked and the answers they’ve received. Other posts contain quotations from The Council that we hope you find inspiring, uplifting, and educational.
Ask The Council a Question
If there’s a question you’ve been thinking about and you’re curious how The Council might answer it, we encourage you to either use the blog’s Comments feature to ask your question, or contact us for a private phone session. You can click here to go to the ‘Let us know what you think about this post, or ask The Council a question’ section of this Welcome post and type your question there or you can type your question in the same section at the bottom of any post that inspires you to ask a question or leave a comment.
Since the blog is currently a project we do in our spare time it can take a while for us to do a session with The Council on a question and then publish a post on the session. Depending on the question and the session it can sometimes take weeks after a question is asked to publish a post with The Council’s answer. Please be patient.
The Council
Cynthia is able to communicate with a group of five non-physical spirit guides in a manner similar to the way Esther Hicks communicates with and speaks for the spirit guides, Abraham, and Jane Roberts communicated and spoke for the spirit guide, Seth. I (Bob) basically interview The Council as they speak through Cynthia during what we refer to as a session. Sessions generally last 5-15 minutes and are usually audio recorded. During the session Cynthia is aware of what The Council is saying and she also receives visual impressions and other types of telepathic communication from them.
The Council’s Basic Guidance
Since we began these sessions with The Council around 2009 they consistently emphasize a few basic ideas that we attempt to summarize here:
1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
Finding Your Way Around the Blog
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The footer section of each post identifies the date the post was published, the Categories the post has been assigned to, the keyword/keyphrase Tags assigned to the post, and a Comment link. If readers comments on a post, the Comments link will indicate the number of comments. If a post has no comments yet, the Comment link text appears as “Leave a Comment”.
Clicking on the Comments link takes you to a Comment text box on a post page dedicated to that post. Here you can type a comment in the text box and click the Post Comment button to have your comment displayed just below the text box. If you are replying to someone else’s comment, your comment will appear indented underneath the comment you are replying to.
At the bottom of the left column on the Home page is a ‘Previous Entries’ link that will take you to a page with a list of earlier posts.
Blog Features
The right-hand column of most blog pages contains this Welcome message. Below the Welcome message in the right-hand column are some useful features:
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Search: Type a keyword or phrase and click the Search button to get a list of posts in the left column that contain the keyword or phrase.
Archives: The Archives list indicates the number of posts for each month listed. Clicking on the link for a month will display in the left column of the page a list of the posts published that month.
Categories: This is a list of keywords used to categorize posts. Posts can be included in more than one category, if applicable. Clicking on a category link will display in the left column a list of posts assigned to the category you selected.
Navigation Bar
The Navigation Bar at the top of each page contains a link to the blog Home page and links to the following additional pages:
Welcome: A link that displays this Welcome message in the left column (and the right column). At the bottom of the Welcome message is a Comment box where you can post a general comment about the blog or ask The Council a question.
Questions & Answers: Use this link to display a list of introductions to our longer posts, most of which are responses to reader questions. This is an easy way to check out these more in-depth posts. They are listed in chronological order with the most recent post on top. Clicking on the post title will take you to the page where you can read the complete post.
Contact Us: The Contact Us page contains a contact form similar to the Comment form mentioned above. The difference between the Contact Us form and the Comment forms is that the Contact Us form is a private message to us (Cynthia and Bob). It is not posted on the blog. Comments appear on the post page where the comment is posted. The Contact Us form can be used for communicating with us about private sessions or other private matters you think aren’t appropriate for posting in a public Comment.
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