This post is inspired by a reader named Diana who asks The Council for insight into her 6 month old relationship with her male partner. She’s 42 years old and wants to settle down, but she’s torn about whether to continue this relationship. On one hand they have a deep connection and compatibility on many levels. On the other hand Diana finds her partner’s struggle to cope with the daily practicalities of life quite unsettling. The thought of ending this relationship feels almost unbearable, but she feels stuck with moving forward in the relationship.
The Council suggests Diana look at all the things to be grateful for with her partner. The relationship is not enough for her because she focuses on his shortcomings. Start focusing on things in the relationship that bring her joy.
As Diana begins to appreciate this relationship, The Council asks her to look at what she’s doing to help her partner. Relationships come together as an opportunity to show love to each other, show each other how to grow, and how to transform their challenges. When Diana feels her partner isn’t making good life choices, rather than blame him she can speak with him about other choices and gently show him the way. The Council sees that over time the circumstances of this relationship can improve.
The Council recommends if Diane doesn’t want to move forward with marriage or living together, move forward on how she views these activities and with the thought of helping her partner. If she can take these steps, the relationship will become more of what she wants.
The Council says looking for her partner to improve to make her feel better is not the answer. As Diana begins to appreciate this relationship and sees her partner change, there will be a softening within her and she will allow herself to see what she wants to change within herself.
The Council feels that while the choice to leave this relationship is always Diana’s, they see at this time there is no reason to leave. There is a lot that can be changed and much more that can be appreciated about each other that will help the relationship grow and become more of what she desires.
Listen to our entire 8-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all the guidance for Diana and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.
This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Kips who asks The Council for advice on a 9-year relationship with a man that has just ended.
The Council says the way this relationship was planned by Kips’s soul before incarnating into this lifetime was to end this relationship quite early. Because Kips and this man were fond of each other from other lifetimes they planned to come together for a very short time and then for Kips to get her freedom, which is what she wishes to experience in this lifetime.
And yet something about this relationship held Kips in it much longer than she originally planned. This staying with one another for a longer period is something that appeared because of circumstances in this lifetime.
Kips says being with this person brought her much heartache, and The Council says they hope this heartache has taught Kips a lot. And once these patterns are recognised The Council hopes Kips won’t accept them and stay in them, or draw them into a new relationship when she prepares to move on.
Kips says this man recently professed a desire to create a family with her and then he was gone. And The Council says that’s the way is should have been, but because of circumstances they created in each other’s lives it wasn’t over and it’s taken much longer in this reality to come to this point.
Kips adds that she wonders if there’s light ahead and says she’d like to experience love with a partner and build a family. The Council responds that there is light ahead and all around if Kips looks for it. The Council suggests expressing gratitude for the periods of this relationship when things went well instead of focusing on the hardships. They say as she appreciates the good that was in this relationship she can create something new for herself and move on.
When Bob remarked that it sounds like The Council is advising Kips to let go of this relationship, The Council says that if Kips and this man came together again they see another ending because the main purpose of the relationship was to come together and then release. Kips wanted to experience the freedom of learning from what was experienced and then move on.
The Council says what is ahead for Kips isn’t more loss unless she stays focused on loss and fear of things not working out, rather than happiness coming into her life. And they add if Kips truly desires freedom then she’ll be free to move on. If she desires a family and a new loving relationship that is easier and happier and that’s committed to by both people, then she’ll create that.
The Council ended this session by sending Kips and the rest of us more light, and they suggested we know this light is within all of us. And it’s all of us together that will bring the light into this reality so there’s peace and love and the feeling of spirit in each other’s worlds.
Listen to the recording of the entire 9-minute session (below) with The Council to hear all their guidance and advice for Kips and the rest of us.
This post is inspired by questions and comments from a reader named Guadalupe, who wants to know if her spirit guides know how much she’s achieved in this lifetime; if there’s anyone in spirit who’s proud of her; and how can she get more stable so she can help others (among other questions).
Guadalupe’s story is one of a very difficult childhood and then happiness because she overcame her problems. But she doesn’t understand why life was so difficult for her, and she says it hurts her that other people have such stable lives and loving families.
The Council says Guadalupe created this difficult childhood in spirit so she could learn to become more independent as a human being. She wished to have a family that wasn’t supportive and would turn their backs on her so she would have to be strong.
The Council says because of what she experienced it’s normal to resent other people’s good fortune, but they advise Guadalupe to appreciate how she created this experience in spirit and then changed it on her own in her human experience. That was the way she planned it. Her plan was to get through these difficulties and become a stronger person and to show others this can be done.
The Council says focus on where she is now rather than on the difficulties she’s come through. Learn to love and appreciate herself and that she has changed her life. The more Guadalupe is able to love and appreciate herself, the easier it will be to let go of resentment and appreciate people who have stable and loving families.
When Guadalupe asks if anyone in spirit is proud of her for what she’s accomplished, The Council says she can’t imagine how proud spirit is of what she’s come through. They advise her to know it doesn’t have to be difficult anymore. She has the ability to change her life. She has accomplished what she wanted. There is such great love and appreciation in spirit for what Guadalupe has gone through, what she has learned and will continue to learn, and what she will teach to others.
Guadalupe says she resents her family for abandoning her as a child and teenager, but The Council reminds her this was all part of her spiritual plan to become a strong and independent human being. The Council asks Guadalupe to see that her family were spirits who stepped up and said they would make it difficult for her because that is what she asked for in spirit. It was her intention to experience these difficulties, work her way through them, and make her life better. The more Guadalupe realizes her family played the part she requested, the less resentment she’ll have for them and the easier it will be to love them.
Guadalupe says she knows she’s come to help others and she wants to achieve her purpose here, but she doesn’t know how any more. The Council reminds her she is doing this. Now she just needs to go forward in her life, be open to new possibilities, and to experience what she’s created for her future.
Guadalupe says she feels emotionally unstable because of the traumas she’s experienced and asks how she can get more stable so she can help others. The Council says to appreciate herself and send herself love. Learn to meditate if she can. Continuously focus on all she’s accomplished. Let go of what she’s gone through that was painful. These are things that were needed to bring her to the place she is now. Love yourself and march forward.
Listen to the audio recording of the entire 19-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Guadalupe and anyone else who’s experiencing challenges in their lives.
This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Persephone who asks The Council why she’s chosen to surround herself with so much mental instability and mental illness in this lifetime.
The Council is quick to complement Persephone on her realization that she’s the creator of what she experiences in her life. And then they ask if she felt there was something very wrong with these people, if she felt above this mental instability, and perhaps she felt she was better than they are.
Now she’s concerned about her own mental stability and The Council asks if she’s afraid she’s also experiencing some sort of mental illness. They say when you create life situations that are frightening to the people around you, it’s normal to think this could happen to you.
The Council says if she can look at these people and choose to focus on the parts of them that were good and loving instead of noticing something wrong with them, and appreciate them for the roles they are playing in her life so she could learn from it, then she’d be able to let go of the underlying fear she’d end up like this. This is what she intended as spirit to experience, learn from, and change.
The Council finishes the session by appreciating the confidence others have to write their questions. This allows them to be of service by helping change the focus, if necessary, in what they are going through. And they remind us to bring love into every situation. They say each person who has come into your life, no matter how short the time, has come to play a role. Send them all love, and send them on their way or welcome them into your life, but always with love.
Listen to the entire 8-minute session below to receive all The Council’s guidance. Let us know what you think.
This post is inspired by questions and comments from a reader who identifies herself as D. She says many years ago she fell in love with someone who didn’t love her back and the relationship went from friends, to enemies, to friends, and on and on for years. The Council asks D. how she see’s this happening when she looks back on this, and to focus on the aspect of what was able to bring them back to friendship again.
D. says she felt a strange connection to this man from the first moment she saw him. She’s never been able to let go of that connection and often feels stuck and depressed about it. Recently he married someone else and D. describes feeling more loss and pain. She has moved and stopped talking to him, but the thought of this man is with her no matter where she goes or what she does. She asks why her soul can’t let go and find happiness elsewhere.
The Council says D’s soul is very willing to let go, but her human part holds onto what her future could have been with this man. This leads to feelings of depression and loss because D. feels she’s just this human body rather than a spirit in her body.
The Council explains that truly loving someone is allowing them to be however they want to be, and they ask D. if she can allow this man the happiness he’s found with his wife. And can she now find this same happiness with other people who’ve agreed to come into her life for this purpose.
D. wonders if she and this man have shared past lives together and that’s why she keeps feeling connected to him. The Council says they have shared many lifetimes, but ask D. if she wants to focus on what was, or where she is now, and create her future.
The Council says this man’s role was to teach D. to let go and find love wherever she can. And they ask if she’s ready to let go and find the love she’s looking for within herself. Can she feel the love with every person who comes into her life? As she feels love for herself she will attract love from other people.
D. says she’s always known that love is eternal, and The Council says it’s at these moments that she’s remembering who she truly is as a spiritual being. They say we are all love and we want to bring this feeling into this reality.
D. seems to associate her connection to this man with feeling loss and pain rather than appreciating the time they’ve spent together that’s been good for her. The Council says D. needs to change her thoughts about this man and realize he’s a spirit in a physical body. That is what will give her relief. And then ask herself what else she wanted to experience in this lifetime. And tell herself she’s ready to experience the next part of this journey, to experience love, joy, and happiness. Can she do that?
D. asks why she feels connected to a soul who doesn’t feel connected to her at all and she asks if this connection is one-sided. The Council says the connection isn’t one-sided, it’s just that she chooses to be more aware and learn from this connection.
D. finishes by asking what she can do to stop this feeling of connection and what is the purpose of sharing this lifetime with this man. The Council says there are many purposes and at any moment she and this man were able to choose the path they wish to take.
The Council recommends what she perceives as loss, she now perceive as the love she is that she’s looking for elsewhere. Appreciate the positive aspects of this relationship when she thought it was good. Ask herself what she’s learned that is good from this relationship and how she can move forward by bringing new relationships into her life.
This session appears to have some unusually good advice for D. and the rest of us. Listen to the entire 20-minute session with The Council to get all the detail.
This post is inspired by questions from Miya who finds herself in an unwanted pregnancy. During the early stages she spoke unkindly about the baby. But now she is trying to find love in her situation and The Council says it’s wonderful she sees that her earlier thinking wasn’t in line with the love she really is.
Miya asks if the soul of the fetus understands the difficulty she’s having with the pregnancy, and The Council says the soul does know and has agreed to be part of the situation anyway.
They recommend Miya find appreciation for the people in her life, even if she feels the father of the child was abusive to her and her friends have abandoned her. The Council says all these souls are playing the part in Miya’s life that she (as spirit) wished them to play. And on some level if she can thank all these people, let go of the abusive part, and begin to picture the right people coming to her life, things will change for the better.
When I mention that Miya may give the child up for adoption, The Council says this is perfect if it’s what she and the soul of the child agree to. Miya has grown while going through this experience and her ideas will change about the kind of life she wants to live.
All of this has come about so Miya can now face these questions and choose from love, not from fear. That is why she is here.
Listen to the entire 10-minute session with The Council to answer Miya’s questions and hear all their guidance.
This post is inspired by questions from an Anonymous reader who recently had an abortion and wants to know if she’ll ever have children. The Council says yes, this is planned for. And when she asks if the aborted soul will return to her as her child, The Council says there’s a great bond between these two souls from sharing many lifetimes and they see an agreement between the two of them for this soul to return to her.
When this soul returns The Council says it will be male, and sees them learning much from each other. But mostly this child will come to help Anonymous on her path, and guide her to be different from how she’s been.
Anonymous says she thought she’d find love and get married, and wants to know why her positive affirmations about this aren’t working for her. The Council points out that even though she is using positive affirmations, she doesn’t believe this will happen. They say until she has more positive beliefs, her negative beliefs will continue to create what she doesn’t want.
When I (Bob) ask The Council for advice on how to change her beliefs, they say her affirmations are good, but they advise her to meditate, read spiritual books, and start practicing the manifestation of small things at first. When she can create these small things by thinking of them, and feels grateful when they happen, she will know that’s how she also creates the bigger things she wants in her life.
The Council advises her to appreciate herself and feel a happy vibration as often as she can. And they say meditation will help with this. They advise her to never give up her dream of being married to a man she loves. And they remind her that by feeling this won’t happen, she’s defeating herself.
The Council asks her to focus on the kind of man she’d like in her life, and by feeling this, that kind of man will be drawn to her. They advise her to ask the question in her mind as men walk by, are you the one? And thinking, I’m ready. If she can play this game, this will help her attract the man of her dreams.
And she’s also asking how she can bring positivity and change to her health and her career. The Council says with her meditations, her being more focused on happiness and the kind of partner she wants, and knowing a child is waiting to come to her, there is a new beginning and staying in these happy thoughts will change her health.
The Council asks what she wants to be, and looking for what she is interested in she’ll find it. By putting it out there that she wants a new, interesting career and being ready for this, she can draw this in.
The Council says the changing of her vibration will quickly fix her situation, and they advise her to have fun reading spiritual books, have fun meditating and looking for a new career, and most of all have fun playing the game of are you the one? By believing she’s ready for abundance and happiness, and that she’s ready for a child, all of this is there for her.
Listen to the entire 10-minute session with The Council below for all the details.
This post is inspired by a question from Diana who says she doesn’t like the reality she’s experiencing and doesn’t know how to change it. All her life she’s believed true love is the answer to every question and most of her life has been a quest to find this love. But fate keeps bringing the wrong people into her life.
She says it’s been so many years of loss and pain she can’t imagine a different life, can’t go on even for the sake of her child, and can’t see any light at the end of tunnel. Diana asks what’s the point of continuing to live in this reality if you’re never going to find what you seek?
The Council agrees with Diana that true love is the answer to every question, but they remind us it must start within her. They say love is the beginning of the change she’s looking for, but she must learn to love herself first.
If Diana wants more loving people in her life she has to change her vibration in order to attract them. We choose what we experience to learn from it. If it’s a difficult, unloving, or hurtful experience we’ve planned, we’ll remember how to change it by bringing love into it.
Start by finding something to appreciate about what she’s experiencing. Do little things that make her happy. Find the parts of herself that are waiting to be recognized. If she wasn’t ready for this change then The Council wouldn’t be having this discussion with her.
Think about all the good things Diana has done while she’s experienced this difficult time. She’s at the point where she wants to create her life differently and The Council sees this as a wonderful step. Find parts of herself she loves and admire them. No matter how hard she’s created her life, she has come through it and is ready to change it.
As she appreciates her life Diana will have the energy to go on and she will get more clarity as she moves forward. As she experiences this gratitude and love for herself, life will get better.
Listen to the entire 19-minute answer to Diana questions for the full impact of The Council’s wonderful answer.
The idea some things in life are ‘meant to be’ and others aren’t, is an interesting and somewhat popular one, particularly when it comes to relationships. Lots of people who wouldn’t ordinarily admit they believe in fate or destiny seem tolerant of the idea that in close personal relationships, things are sometimes meant to be.
In this post we look at The Council’s answer to questions from Chris about what’s meant to be in her life. Although Chris’s questions are about a meaningful relationship, The Council’s answer is a reminder that you create your reality, and their answer offers helpful guidance on how you can do this. Here’s Chris’s question:
“How do I know if I’m meant to be with someone?
“I am 51 years old, am still single, and want to finally stop waiting, working toward, or wondering if I am MEANT to be with anyone.”
“I was in two long-term relationships before, one of which I wanted to work out, but didn’t.
“Then I learned to be ok and fine alone, happy, and rarely longing for someone.
“But now I feel more alone, and was wondering if ‘my time’ was finally coming, or I am just not dealing with my reality?”
The Council’s Answer
“And so she says, is she meant to be with someone, and is her time coming?
“She is the one that will decide if she is meant. She is the one that will decide if her time is coming, because… why? [Because] we are spirit in a physical body and we create our reality.
“And so from what she says, she has experienced a relationship and she has experienced being alone. And so we think for her, she should look back at both situations and focus on what she found loving and pleasant in both situations.
“And so when she can appreciate being in a relationship, and being alone (being with herself and feeling the appreciation and the love [for that]), she will then bring in someone new, someone more on the same vibration that she would be on.
“And it would be more of a relationship that would work out because if she is feeling loving and appreciation, and brings someone of that vibration into her reality, it will be a long-lasting relationship.”
“First to raise her vibration, and once that is in the vibration of love and appreciation, she will (as they say, like attracts like) bring the perfect person in for her to have a life-long relationship, if that is what she wants.
“But we would like her to know that she is not running out of time. There is nowhere it is written that she is meant or not meant to be in a relationship.
“And so, with her thoughts, and with her feelings, and her focus, she will create what she wants.”
“And so when she can focus always on that [happy memories] instead of on the doubt and the worry that time is running out, it will completely change the vibration… and what she brings in.”
(Text [in brackets] in these quotations has been added to improve readability and clarity when this seems useful.)
This post is inspired by a question from a reader named Jose, who has read in some of our blog posts (links at the end of this post) that humans are spiritual beings in a physical body, and that spirit sometimes chooses to have human experiences that we (as humans) find undesirable. Jose wants to know how it’s possible for humans to have free will to choose our human desires, if who we are as spirit is choosing human experiences that feel unwanted from our human point of view.
Lots of people have become interested in the spiritual teaching that you are the creator of what you experience, which has been around a while and has become more popular through the teachings of Abraham and other spiritual teachers. Jose’s question suggests he’s aware of lots of things in his human experience he doesn’t want, and after reading in our posts that who you are as spirit sometimes creates human experiences that feel unwanted from your human point of view, he came to the troubling conclusion that spirit is preventing him from having more of the human experiences he desires.
Topics Covered in this Post
Even if you don’t believe spirit is keeping you from manifesting more of what you desire in your life, and you’re not particularly interested in the subject of free will, if you’re interested in ideas to help you feel an increased level of well-being in your human experience, we’re finding the information and guidance from The Council in response to Jose’s question has been a big step for us in that direction. Topics covered in our sessions on Jose’s question and in this post include:
- The relationship between who you are as a spiritual being and who you are as a human being.
- Why the spiritual part of you might desire to have human experiences in a physical reality.
- Why the spiritual part of you might desire to have human experiences that feel undesirable to you as a human being.
- The validity of your human free will to choose your human desires, even if who you are as spirit is choosing to have different human experiences.
- Why you may be having difficulty manifesting your human desires in your physical experience.
Nothing Going On That Spirit Hasn’t Planned For
The Council began our first session on Jose’s questions by emphasizing there isn’t any separation between spirit and human.
“The spirit works through the body it [spirit] has created.
“So there is nothing that is going on that the body wants, that the spirit hasn’t planned for.
“Is that understood? It is all one – the mind, the body, and the spirit – it is all one.”
This is the first of several posts describing a 1-hour session with The Council on Saturday, March 30, 2013 to answer recent questions from Jose, Michelle, and D.
Jose’s Question #4
We began the session with Michelle’s question about whether to move to Barnstaple, Devon or Glastonbury (both in England), and when I (Bob) was about to ask The Council D’s question about what she describes as a broken soul contract, The Council interrupted:
“There is a number 4 that we keep seeing; what is that, Bob?”
(This formatting throughout the post represents The Council’s comments during our session. Text [in brackets] in these quotations has been added to improve readability and clarity when this seems useful.)
I explained that we have four very interesting questions from Jose and that we answered his first 3 questions based on our understanding of The Council’s teachings because they seemed related to guidance we’ve written about in other posts. It was our intention to ask The Council about Jose’s fourth question in this session and when they asked about a number 4, I assumed they were referring to the Jose’s fourth question. I asked if they’d like me to read Jose’s fourth question to them and they said, “Yes.”
Jose’s Question #4: “If we come to this incarnation to have fun and remember who we really are, why do most people, if not all, fail at this attempt?”
A Question from Sky
This post is a response to Sky’s question for The Council about how to find “the highest and most loving way to create harmony and balance in my new relationship.” Sky’s full question can be found here.
After reading Sky’s question to The Council, they expressed a desire to address it sentence by sentence to make sure they address each issue.
You Have Access to Higher Wisdom
The Council enjoyed Sky’s reference to them as “Beloved Council.” And they love that Sky is thankful for their higher wisdom, but they remind Sky and the rest of us that humans are spirit in a physical body and we have the potential to access the same wisdom, but we tend to forget we’re spiritual beings with this ability. The Council says it’s their desire to remind us of the wisdom we have within us, and they do this by “knocking us on the head a little bit, and opening the door of our heart a little bit” to help us access this wisdom within ourselves.
When you are aligned with source,
You will not find yourself judging or criticizing
Yourself or others.
Your alignment with source
Allows you to love
And appreciate yourself and others
You’ve heard the saying
“Getting there is half the fun”?
You knew that would be the case
When you chose physical reality.
Getting back home to spirit
Is half of the fun.
And being back home in spirit,
Appreciating your expansion
From your journey
Is the other half.
That is exactly what you planned
When you chose physical reality.
When you return from your physical journey,
You are welcomed home with such love and fanfare.
It’s our equivalent of a ticker tape parade in your honor.
During a recent session with The Council they seemed concerned many people question the validity of the law of attraction and don’t understand how to use it to their advantage. The information in this post is intended to help you experience the validity of the law of attraction even of you’re skeptical that it exists. It’s also intended to show you how the law of attraction can improve your life even if you don’t think it can.
Law of Attraction Makes it to Primetime
After the widely popular release of The Secret, a 2006 film and a 2007 book about the law of attraction that received a lot of attention in the media, and some bestselling books on this subject by Esther and Jerry Hicks, the law of attraction seems to have found a place in popular culture. Amazon.com recently listed over 1,000 books on the subject, including The Complete Idiot’s Guide to The Law of Attraction. But The Council says there’s a lot of misunderstanding about the law of attraction (LOA).
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