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Why Don’t I Have a Best Friend or a Partner?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Diana, who says she’s struggled with deep loneliness most of her life. I have good friends, but I’ve always craved a best friend who’s always there and I can trust 100% for support. I’m 46 years old and single, and I’d also love to have a partner or a husband. Is there something I’m doing wrong?

The Council suggests instead of focusing on not having a best friend, look at your situation differently. If you have many friends, they can all be a best friend. There’s always something in each person that will make you feel close to them. You’re lucky to have many friends. If you had one best friend and they moved away, you’d have nothing.

Be grateful you have these best friends. The more you can focus on being grateful you have them, one of them will become the way you want a best friend to be. Or you’ll meet someone new and you’ll bring this person in and they’ll act the way you want a best friend to be. Be more grateful for the friends you have. The more grateful you feel, the more you’ll be able to bring your life closer to the way you want it to be. By focusing on not having a best friend you’re attracting more of not having a best friend into your life.

Diana says, I’ve been attracting the wrong people. What can I do to change this? The Council says to appreciate your friends. They’re not the wrong people. They are spirits that have come into your life to teach you to learn about each one of them, and to teach you to be grateful and feel happiness they’re in your life. When you do that it forces you to grow. It allows you to bring people in your life or new people to a point where you can allow closeness. This is with friends,  people at work, and with a relationship.

If you can’t be grateful for the friends you have, you’ll never bring in the right partner because you’re searching. You’re searching for a best friend. You’re searching for closeness. And this searching prevents closeness from coming. When you’re satisfied and grateful for what you have, your friends become closer and the partner you want will appear. It’s all from your gratitude.

Diana asks, Will I find my tribe and husband one day. The Council says it’s all there for you. Change your thinking and it will happen. She asks, Should I move locations and start a new life,  or is that just escaping my issues? The Council says your issues will follow you wherever you go. If there’s somewhere you’d genuinely like to move to and have a new start, that would be fine. But if your thinking doesn’t change, if you’re not grateful for what you have, what you want won’t come to you because you’re resisting it with your thoughts and you’ll stay searching.

Diana closes by saying the loneliness is really affecting my mental health and I’d be grateful for your advice. The Council says don’t focus on your loneliness even though you’re feeling lonely. Begin changing your thoughts. Get excited about new friendships and a new partner in your life. Imagine how it will be in every way you can and in every detail. Keep thinking these thoughts and everything will change.

Listen to the entire 5-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Diana and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own question by typing it in a Comment box that appears at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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May 17, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Gratitude, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | Leave a comment

A Relationship – Being Transgender – Dad’s Surgery

This post answers questions from Brennan, who’s concerned about his relationship with his best friend; he wants to know if his mother will ever accept him as transgender; and he’s concerned about handling whatever happens in his Dad’s surgery today.

Brennan says his best friend lives in California and he has strong feelings for her, but their relationship became difficult when he forgot to to put an important word in a text and now he asks The Council how he can fix the problem.

The Council says Brennan has to get to a place where he’s able to think about this situation with his best friend differently. Instead of beating himself up because he forgot to put a word in a text, he can say it now if he wants to and hasn’t already. This situation is likely to pass. If Brennan hangs on to all the things he didn’t do that messed up this relationship, the relationship will stay the way it is.

The Council advises making light of what’s happened. And as Brennan believes this and can be in this lighter energy, he can begin to send this lighter energy to his best friend. It’s okay to make mistakes. We aren’t here to live life perfectly. We’re here to experience what’s good and what we goofed up on and learn not beat ourselves up for our mistakes. If Brennan truly believes he’ll be able to fix this relationship, then he’ll be able to.

Brennan is transgender and he asks The Council if his Mom will ever accept this. The Council says Brennan is helping his mother learn acceptance, which is one of the experiences she wished (in spirit) to learn in this lifetime. He needs to be who he is and allow his mother to accept him at her own pace the way he wants her to accept who he is.

Brennan finishes with a question about his father’s heart surgery, which is scheduled for today. He’s worried his father won’t make it through this surgery and he asks if he’ll be able to handle whatever happens.

The Council says Brennan will be able to handle whatever happens in today’s surgery because it’s all part of what was pre-planned in spirit. Send your father light and love and healing, and accept whatever choice he makes about whether to stay or to leave this lifetime.

Listen to our entire 6-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Brennan and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about it.

October 30, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Channeling, Gender, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Should I Have Sex with My Best Friend?

This post is inspired by questions from a woman named, Lavender, who asks The Council if she can have a casual sexual relationship with her best friend, or if The Council sees this becoming an issue later in their relationship. Lavender also asks if The Council sees a past life connection with her best friend.

The Council says sexual intimacy is definitely not a new feeling for her and her best friend. If they go ahead and have sex, their feelings for each other will change and The Council sees the situation eventually becoming awkward, but it would be okay in the beginning. They say if Lavender is interested in keeping this relationship on a friendship only basis, then having sex is not the direction to go.

The Council says if Lavender can be at ease with a sexual relationship it will be easier to create what she wants, which The Council seems to suggest would be a deeper more permanent relationship if that’s what Lavender ends up desiring. And they say if Lavender is worried sex will negatively change the relationship or ruin the friendship, it will be more difficult to create a loving atmosphere from this place of fear.

Even though Lavender would like a definite answer The Council says there are no definites because she is creating as she goes. They see it will be very lovely for a while, but Lavender has the ability to change the situation according to how she feels. Lavender’s current path is headed in a nice direction and whether it stays that way depends on what she creates.

The Council says they don’t feel, from what Lavender is currently thinking about creating with her best friend, that casual sex is meant to be a permanent change for the two of them. The Council appears to be suggesting the relationship could develop into so much more, even though this doesn’t appear to be what Lavender is asking The Council at this time.

The Council says if they can have a sexual relationship and be open and happy and have a positive feeling, that is what they’ll create. Go in with a vibration of love. Go in with a happy, hopeful feeling with the thought you’ll enjoy this and see what you can create.

The Council says adding sex to the friendship can become an issue later in the relationship if one or both become clingy, possessive, or picky, for example. If one wants to go in one direction and the other doesn’t it will create different experiences. But The Council adds it would be wonderful if Lavender can just go in and create a joyful situation.

The Council says Lavender and her best friend have been connected in other lifetimes and when they come together as friends in this lifetime, The Council believes there will be a lot of comfort because there’s a recognition and they know how to be around each other. But they are in a new life and the two of them will create it according to what they believe.

Lavender appears to be asking about a light and fun sexual relationship with her best friend. The Council appears to be saying this will be okay for a while, but the feelings will eventually change. The Council seems to suggest being open to a deeper and longer lasting relationship and seeing what develops.

Listen to the entire 7-minute recording of our session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Lavender and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

July 26, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Feelings, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, You Create Your Reality | , , | 3 Comments


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