Can I Forgive My Brother Without Having Him in My Life?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who says they’ve never had a close relationship with one of their brothers. The Council says you’ve had close relationships in other lifetimes. One of your brother’s lessons was to not be as kind in your current life as you’ve experienced him in a few other lifetimes. One of the things your brother wanted to experience was being difficult and seeing what that feels like. He wants to learn about this and bring it back to spirit.
When your brother became very difficult you agreed in spirit to try and still love him and not find fault with him. One of the lessons for the two of you is forgiveness. He wants to learn to forgive you if you turn away from him. But mostly he wants to forgive himself for not being able to control when he becomes mean or very negative to people. You want to learn to accept him the way he is and be able to forgive him.
The Council says when your brother becomes negative, mean, and unapproachable, which is all part of his lessons and what he chose to experience in this lifetime, his acting out is supposed to show the people around him the state he’s in. This sort of behavior isn’t meant to be about the people he’s insulting or hurting. It’s meant to show the people around him how your brother is hurting inside and how lost he feels. This is just part of the lessons your brother chose this lifetime.
When you’re able to realize your brother’s behavior is a choice he’s making, look at what these choices are teaching you. This was pre-planned in spirit so the people around him would learn how someone who’s hurting doesn’t know how to show love. Your brother tries to hurt others in some way because he hurts so much.
Anonymous says she tries to avoid her brother and say very little to her parents, siblings, and even my husband about him. The Council says this is a good choice.
Anonymous says she knows her brother needs compassion and The Council agrees. She asks if this is something she can do without getting involved in her brother’s life and The Council says of course. Forgiveness starts with understanding your brother is hurting a great deal for many different reasons. You don’t have to put yourself in your brother’s presence and experience this hurt yourself. Send him love, light, and good thoughts that he gets to a place where he can feel comfort. And wish him success in what he needs to experience.
It’s good to remember your brother chose this path. If you want him to change when he hasn’t learned the lesson he planned to learn from behaving the way he does, it would mean you’re trying to stop him on his learning path. Allow your brother to be the way he is. From a distance send him thoughts of success and happiness so he can go through this difficult journey and learn what he wants to experience.
If you can’t send your brother love, you can send him the thought of you forgiving him for hurting you or others. Wish him the joy and happiness of being able to travel this path and learn what he wishes to learn. Or you can send him white light to protect him on his journey to help him stay in touch with his higher self and perhaps find another way to be.
The best way you can send your brother love is to allow him to be the way he is, as hurtful as he is to others and himself. There’s a purpose for his behavior and you’ve all agreed to participate in this. Allowing is the first step of love and forgiving.
Anonymous asks The Council if she and her brother have unfinished business. The Council says the unfinished business is that he wishes to feel love from you and know it’s there, even if you can’t be around him. If you cross paths or speak, always treat him with kindness because he needs this. Remember you agreed in spirit to experience your brother this way in your life. It’s a difficult journey for him and for the people around him. What’s unfinished is for your brother to feel accepted by you, if not now, eventually. This doesn’t mean you need to be around him. You need to learn about forgiveness and allow your brother to be who he is. That’s what you both planned and what remains unfinished.
When you can allow your brother to be who he is, even if he’s not consciously aware of this in his physical form, his higher self will know and allow your brother to somehow know there’s forgiveness and acceptance, even if he’s still not in a good place. Forgive your brother the best you’re currently able.
Anonymous says she worries she’ll marry her brother in her next life. The Council laughs and says this is possible if you choose to. The Council understands you don’t want to be married to him the way he is in your current life, but things would be totally different in a new life.
Anonymous asks The Council what she needs to do to finish her experience of her brother. The Council says to send him love and light. Accept him and know he’s very brave to choose the lesson he’s chosen. He’s having difficulty within himself so when you send him love and light you help him on his path.
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Did I Know This Man I Love in Another Lifetime?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Susie, who says she fell madly in love with a boy when she was 16 years old. My father was a holocaust survivor and the boy wasn’t Jewish so he broke us up. I got married, but I’ve loved this boy for the rest of my life. Four years ago and 45 years after we broke up I contacted this man and he was as amazing as he was when I was 16. I’m still madly in love with him.
The Council says in at least four lifetimes Susie was childhood friends or brother and sister with this man and there’s great love from these past lives.
Susie says she has nothing in common with her husband, but she still loves him, but nothing like the way she feels for this boy she met when she was 16. She says the boy got involved with drugs when she left him, he’s become an alcoholic over the years, and she feels responsible.
The Council says it’s not necessary to feel responsible for this man. These are his lessons and his choices. You have no idea what people are trying to learn when they are going through something they’ve chosen. You’ve only agreed to be there for part of his experience.
Susie says she wants to cure this man. The Council says you don’t cure anyone. You show love, you show acceptance, compassion, and patience. You’re there to possibly suggest a way to follow through on what they’re experiencing, but you don’t cure them. This isn’t your responsibility.
Susie says her daughter was born with an eating addiction and she’s trying to heal both her daughter and this man she met when she was 16. The Council says again that Susie can’t heal them. Everyone chooses what they need to experience, even if they don’t remember in their human body why they make their choices. There are things they need to experience for soul growth and to teach the people around them. You can’t cure these people or change their path.
Susie says she feels her daughter and this love of her life are meant to be together. The Council says she didn’t choose in spirit to be married to this man in her current lifetime. What was chosen was familiarity, friendship, closeness, and support. You’ve chosen to be friends with this man because there are things you need to learn. Everyone has a lesson. This doesn’t mean you’re meant to be married or in an intimate relationship like marriage. Be there to learn from each other. The three of you wanted to experience acceptance.
Susie says she needs The Council to release her daughter and this man from their soul contract. The Council says they can’t release anyone from their soul contract. No one is in charge of releasing someone from their contract but themself. In your human form you may not understand why you’ve made certain choices, but your higher self knows. When your higher self knows you’ve learned your lesson or experienced enough you’ll release yourself.
Between you, your daughter, and your friend you need the ability to speak with each other, listen to what’s truly going on rather than what you think is going on, show acceptance, and allow each other to be who they are. Allow them to make their own choices. Give love and compassion and know every step of the way you’ll find something to learn from your experience.
The Council says in the past lives Susie and her friend have shared there’s been a lot of happiness and fun and that love has drawn them together in their current life to go through more difficult challenges.
The Council tells Susie she’s here to experience love, to bring love from the spirit world into your current reality. In every way you can show love to yourself, to this friend, and to your daughter.
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How Can I Mend a Deteriorated Personal Relationship?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Glenda, who says she met someone about 8 years ago that she believes was her twin soul. We had so many similarities and we could tell without a word what the other was thinking.
The Council says this is because there have been many, many lifetimes where you’ve popped in and out of each others lives, almost like brothers and sisters. The two of you have had lots of fun as well as a lot of challenges. And you continue to want to come in and out of each other’s lives.
Glenda says two years ago this man took a job that required a move to a city further away. He changed after this move and he was aware of this and frustrated by it. We had a few arguments about his behavior, which had never been an issue before, and it led to him largely cutting me from his life.
Glenda says she understands about loss. Both her parents as well as some dear friends have passed from this life and she’s had failed relationships also. The situation with this man doesn’t feel like any of those. It’s more like a piece of herself is missing. She asks The Council if there’s a way to mend the link between her and this man.
The Council says this was an experience she wanted to have from a spiritual perspective. She wanted to learn about loss, how to accept it, and how to let it go. This relationship can be mended, but it will take time. The Council suggests Glenda does the inner work first by sending loving energy and talking to the spirit of this person. You are here to help each other. Learn from this situation. It’s okay to leave each others lives and you’ll always be able to return.
The Council says this situation has been repeated by the two of you in past lives, but there’s a desire on both your parts to be in relationship in this lifetime. The frustration this person is going through is what leads to the arguments and you have to allow this soul time to work this out on their end. With patience, inner work, and meditation contact will be made again. The Council feels it’s possible to hear from this person in six months, but they say the timing is also up to the people involved.
You wish to experience time together then separate. Sometimes in past lives it was for good and sometimes you came back. When you separate you learn more about yourselves and when you come back together you’re able to share what you’ve learned and you both grow from this.
The Council says there’s only a slight possibility of this relationship becoming romantic in this lifetime, but it wasn’t really something that was planned from a spiritual perspective.
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How Do I Move Forward with an Unrequited Love?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, GoodLife4Always, who says they currently have a strong connection with someone but when they first met, this person wasn’t interested in socializing or even noticing them. They connected quickly this year over their past, their pains, family, beliefs, and God. They started to fall in love with this person and I’ve expressed this feeling to them.
The Council says it’s wonderful GoodLife4Always feels this way and is able to express how they feel to this person, but can you accept how the other person feels whether they agree with you or not? Coming together in this lifetime, sometimes from past lives, you both wanted to experience certain things and learn together. But at any given point it’s possible that one of you my not be ready to make a further commitment to the relationship. Be in the moment. Express your feelings and accept the answer.
If you’re learning from this relationship and it fulfills your needs, it’s great if you can keep the relationship going. You don’t know what this other person will create in the future. You can still do the inner work of seeing the relationship the way you want, but always feel grateful for what you have with this person in your present. The secret is in seeing the wonderful things about this relationship every day, even the delicate challenges that come along. They are there for a purpose.
You’ve learned to speak your mind. How do you feel about the answer that was given to you? GoodLife4Always says in the back of their mind they think they rushed sharing their feelings about the relationship because they were anxious for an answer. The reply was a sad, “No, I’m sorry.” The Council says to consider that this answer was in a particular moment and creation changes day by day by your thoughts and how you see the relationship. The thoughts you choose will determine the future you experience. Visualize what you want.
GoodLife4Always says this person has asked them to stay friends and not to leave them, and The Council says this is wonderful. There isn’t a broken connection. You can still be friends. In the meantime you can do the inner work to create more of what you want in the relationship. Be thankful there’s still the ability and the desire to remain friends.
GoodLife4Always says they still feel the other person cares for them and GoodLife4Always guesses they’re being crazy, but The Council says they can see this person has feelings for GoodLife4Always. Step back and let these feelings grow.
GoodLife4Always asks why this person came into their life? The Council says there was an agreement for the two of them to come together when both of them needed each other’s friendship. You wanted to come together to share knowledge and understanding. There was a safety that was wanted by both of you. And there was always the possibility that whatever you faced in your relationship, there could be more.
GoodLife4Always asks what their past life connections are? The Council says there are many past lives together. In Atlantis they shared a life that’s affecting their current life. They were together in many of the temples and learned many of the esoteric arts. Perhaps you can learn to meditate together, not in the same vicinity, but at the same time. Begin studying the workings of energy and reincarnation together. As you share this, the bond will add to your closeness and understanding. It was because you learned so much together in your lifetime in Atlantis that you came together in your current lifetime.
GoodLife4Always asks how they should move forward and The Council advises to do the inner work of imagining the relationship you want and being grateful for what you have. If you don’t force or rush this relationship, if you use your energy to send love, if you can be supportive and let the relationship grow naturally, and if you can see and feel the relationship you want as if it’s happening in the present, you can create it the way you want it.
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Why Do I Have a Negative Relationship with My Stepmother?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, Distressed, who asks why they have such a negative relationship with their stepmother. It seems she’s always filled with anger and negative energy toward everyone and I always feel fear when I’m around her.
This situation is familiar for both of you because you were brothers in another lifetime. In that lifetime your stepmother was your older brother, was quite angry and violent, and took it out on you and you would run away from him. Although your brother cared for you in his own way in this other lifetime, he didn’t understand his behavior wasn’t positive and didn’t understand why you wouldn’t be close with him.
In your current lifetime the two of you decided to come back in and your stepmother would be angry again and you wanted to see if you were able to show kindness to your stepmother and try to understand. All that was wanted in spirit from both of you was to be in each other’s presence and try to understand what the other person was going through.
That doesn’t mean you need to be abused in this relationship, but knowing there was anger from another lifetime should be helpful. Know you’re trying to help your stepmother work through this anger and learn that even though someone is angry and negative with everyone, you would still be kind.
Distressed asks what lessons they’re meant to learn from each other. The Council says acceptance and love. No matter what, show love and try to turn the situation with your stepmother around. But don’t show love with expectations. Just show love. Whether your stepmother choses to grow and learn from your love is her spirit’s job. How does your spirit grow from the love you try and show? It was planned that you’d discover love no matter what else happened in your relationship. Allow the other person to be who they are and just accept them that way.
Distressed asks how they can improve their relationship with their stepmother? The Council advises not to expect the stepmother to change right away. But instead of running away in fear, which is how you handled this situation in your other lifetime, stay short periods of time and try to be pleasant. Listen to what your stepmother says and try to understand how her words affect her and how she sees her circumstances. All you need to do is try and understand and eventually your stepmother will notice what you are doing.
The Council says perhaps learning about what you experienced in this other lifetime will help you be more patient and understanding in your current lifetime. As you become more patient and understanding, your stepmother will change.
You are on your path and will find your way by being excited you’re in this lifetime. And no matter what you created – whether it’s something you’re grateful for or something that’s challenging – you wanted to experience all of it. Help will be there for you, you’ll find your way through it, and you’ll grow.
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Why Haven’t My Breast Developed?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, Depressed05, who says they think due to malnutrition her body didn’t develop breasts during puberty. She’s tried a lot of things to make her breasts grow, but nothing seems to work and it’s taking a toll on her self-esteem and confidence.
The Council says all the things Depressed has tried to make her breasts grow have been things outside herself. They say the answer is within you. You’ll never create the breasts you desire until you feel grateful for things you already have.
The Council says Depressed created this situation with her breasts when she was in spirit before she came into this lifetime and it was to learn acceptance. They ask her to think about what she’s able to appreciate about her body in her current life. What parts of your body are you able to love? And they ask Depressed to imagine or pretend you look the way you wish your body would look.
Every part of your body, down to your very cells, is listening to what you’re thinking and the universe will give you what you focus your attention on. If your focus is negative the universe will offer you what you consider negative experiences, and if your focus is positive the universe will offer you positive experiences. If you’re miserable and can’t accept your body, and you think about these things over and over, the universe will say, “Oh, this is making her miserable and she doesn’t like the way this looks. Let’s give her some more.”
The first step is to think of what you’d like, and to do this you need to be in a higher vibration. Think about what you like about your body. And if this is too difficult you can concentrate on anything you like or appreciate because when you appreciate something, the universe will send you more things to appreciate.
Once you get into the vibration of appreciating, from there you can create the changes you want in your life. Appreciate what you have, and that you’re the creator, and that you can change your life. Things will come together to make you appreciate the way you look and your perception, once it changes, will bring you what you’re looking for. Physically you’re able to create the change in your life that you’re looking for, but not from the vibration you’re in right now. What things are going on in your life that make you feel good? Think about this and stay in that vibration.
Your situation with your breasts not developing happened because you asked for this to happen when you were in spirit. You wanted to learn to accept the things around you, accept other people, but mainly to accept yourself and to find anything that reminds you that you’re a spirit living in a physical body. You are pure energy and energy can change form. Get in the right vibration and you can begin to see this change happen.
It will help you to put on clothes, stand in front of a full length mirror, and take a good look at yourself. See what clothing you wear that makes you feel better. What colors help you feel better? What gives you comfort when you put it on and you like the way you look? Find anything you enjoy. Eat whatever foods you wish to eat and know it’s filling your body with good feelings and vibrations. You’re taking care of your whole body. Once you begin loving yourself, and doing things to take care of yourself and appreciate yourself, how you feel about yourself will change.
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Questions About Her Son’s Physical Development
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, SoulPeace, who asks about her son’s health and weight. Her son will be 6 years old next month. When SoulPeace was pregnant with her son and when he was younger, her family was going through some issues, the pregnancy was difficult, and she believes her son’s health suffered.
The Council says when you have a difficult pregnancy, some souls who come in won’t be affected by this and others will. In your case the issues that you had were to set up what you refer to as the problem of your son’s health, weight, and size. The circumstances of your son’s birth were agreed upon by your son and all parties involved. The Council says because this was agreed upon beforehand there’s no reason to feel blame or be upset that the pregnancy was difficult, and that your son isn’t currently measuring up to certain standards of what you think of as normal.
The reason this situation was set up this way was to teach you to search for the correct beliefs that would help you feel better about your son’s situation. Your son doesn’t need to live up to anyone’s standards or expectations. He needs to feel accepted, not compared to other children.
How you treat your son means a lot. Do you frequently mention to him that he doesn’t measure up to certain standards of size and weight? Do you make your son feel he’s not as strong as other children? If you do this, then you’re teaching him he’s less than other children. Your son wanted to go through this experience to feel good about himself and to teach you and himself that the life you create is the result of your thoughts and beliefs. What is currently going on is exactly what’s needed to do this.
The Council asks SoulPeace how she handles this situation with her son? Does she inform him his weight isn’t what it should be? Does she harp on his eating habits and force him to eat more? When a child grows up with restrictions and rules, they will develop allergies or asthma because the people surrounding him are cutting him off from how he should be feeling about himself as a spiritual being living in a physical body.
The Council asks if SoulPeace can make light of her son’s weight? If the doctor says your son is still under weight, do you worry? Or do you tell your son this doesn’t matter and as he grows he will gain weight? Do you advise your son to eat what he can? Tell your son when he’s hungry he will eat. The more SoulPeace can make light of her son’s situation the better it is because this is what he needs to accept his situation and accept himself.
The Council says SoulPeace’s son has come into this lifetime wanting to experience acceptance. If you change how you speak to him, how you treat him, and show your son acceptance, The Council guarantees his situation will improve. As her son gets more confidence in himself the allergies will slowly disappear. When your son thinks better about himself he’ll eat more. This lesson of bringing change with your thoughts by bringing joy and happiness into your lives can be worked through if SoulPeace and her son can handle it with love and acceptance.
The Council closes by saying SoulPeace’s son is capable of leading a relatively normal life. All of what she views as problems will change once they can learn to accept it.
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Do I Have Past Life Baggage With My Boyfriend?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Sarah, who says she’s been with her boyfriend a few months now and she’s curious about some things she’s noticed in the relationship that she’s a little uneasy about. Sarah says the relationship has been a little more difficult than she expected and wants to understand it better so she can move forward in the most loving way possible. With this in mind Sarah asks The Council if she and her boyfriend are holding on to anything from one or more past lives that they plan on working through in this lifetime?
Around the time Sarah and her boyfriend began dating she also developed arthritis and a few other autoimmune diseases she’d experienced previously, but her lifestyle the past few years enabled her to experience remission of these diseases. Their reappearance seems to have upset Sarah’s life, and she suspects it has something to do with moving her in the direction of her soul’s purpose.
The Council says what would help Sarah physically at this point is to focus on being more flexible and be more open to accepting ideas that she disagrees with. Ask yourself, “Where am I too stiff in my beliefs? What am I not flexible about? Do I see the other side of the coin? Do I allow others to be who they are and not to follow how I wish it should be?”
When you find yourself with immune system problems, the body is telling you that emotionally there’s a battle going on. With your boyfriend, if things don’t go the way you want, is there enough in this relationship to bring the love in? Can you look at your boyfriend and know there are experiences that are needed here? You may not know what these experiences are and you may not understand them. But allow your boyfriend not to be perfect and love him anyway, and love yourself also for accepting your boyfriend’s imperfections.
We are always here to bring love into every situation. When you are more accepting, and not in the way where you accept your situation and are depressed because your relationship isn’t what you originally thought, you can focus on moving forward. Accept and applaud the soul of your boyfriend for what he’s trying to accomplish.
Fuel your body so the joints and organs have what’s needed to work correctly and the body knows you’re honoring it. You need to drink lots of water and green tea. Beans and all kinds of vegetables in any way possible are needed. Low fats are needed as well as some carbohydrates. When you bring love into every situation and love and take care of yourself, the vibration begins to focus on healing and you’ll see a change in your body and in your relationship.
The Council sees a past life in London where she and her boyfriend were siblings with a lot of anger toward each other and competition that didn’t allow closeness and understanding. They didn’t bring love for each other into this life as siblings, and so the two of you thought you’d work on bringing the love into your current lifetime.
When there’s anger, look at it. Here conversation is needed, which can bring about many laughs and new ideas. This current relationship is important to both of you. It will affect all parts of your life. The Council advises you to stay in this relationship and learn from it. It will change for the better.
Sarah says she feels like she’s supposed to help the world heal and she’d like to know if her intuition is true. The Council says she’s partly on the right track. She’s here to help herself heal, see how you do it, and then speak to others about what you’ve learned. You’ll give others help as you go through healing yourself.
Sarah asks The Council about a career change she senses and The Council says at this time Sarah needs to focus on well being and acceptance.
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Problem Being Estranged From Her Family
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Kali, who’s concerned about being estranged from most of her family. She says the estrangement feels terrible, but she hasn’t found a way to reconcile with her family. Kali asks if there’s a soul contract reason for this estrangement and how she can move forward. And she asks for advice on how she can reconcile with her family, or how she can be peaceful with the estrangement.
The Council says each person in this family is on their own path and wants to learn different lessons. You’re all here to learn about love and forgiveness.
This family does have a soul contract: it’s to come together and allow each other to create the atmosphere they need to learn.
You wanted to figure out who you are as a spiritual being, and see each person in your family from a spiritual perspective. Each person has a hardship and one or more lessons they have to go through. As you begin to see your family from this more spiritual perspective, what goes on in the family begins to change.
What has this estrangement from your family done for you? How do you see yourself in this situation? Do you feel less than because your family isn’t close? Do you blame yourself for certain things? Are you dealing with anger? If you’re going through any of these feelings, why are you taking on these negative thoughts? Change the perception of who you are by focusing on yourself and what you’re learning from each person in your family.
You’re family has chosen to come together, not so much to learn about everyone else, but to learn a little bit about everyone else. Now take the focus and put it on yourself. Your family situation was created for each family member to go deep inside themselves and see what you think about yourself according to how you’re being treated by the family. Are you feeling abandoned? How do you feel about all the fighting and verbal abuse? Do these feelings make you feel less than the spirit you are? You’re still part of all spirits that are here trying to create and learn.
As you figure out who you truly are as a spiritual being by watching the other members of your family and understanding, even if just a little bit, that it’s difficult for everyone and your identity doesn’t hinge on how your family treats you. You’re a brave spirit who came to this reality at this time to learn about yourself.
The agreement between the souls in your family was to learn about the family dynamic, learn about forgiveness, learn about love, and learn about abandonment and hurtful feelings. In the middle of this learning, begin to remember you’re all spirits wanting to learn about these feelings, and then put the focus on yourself, especially when you feel the estrangement can’t be fixed.
What is your part in this family? It’s just a small part of who you are as a spiritual being. Can you look at the people in your family with kindness by allowing them to be who they are? Each person in your family has chosen to be there to learn about themselves. Some will learn and some won’t.
Appreciate who you truly are as a spiritual being, not only in your family, but with friends and coworkers. Are you taking the love we’re here to bring into this reality and use it wherever you can, whether it’s accepted or not?
In your family the dynamic that was set up is like a keg of dynamite, but this is a good thing. The family didn’t come in and say they’d all get mad at each other. They came in and said, some how we’ll find a way to learn about ourselves. We’ll do whatever is necessary for as long as necessary to look at each other, and maybe after a while feel some sadness that there’s no connection. And then they’ll question the sadness and begin to wonder how that can begin to change. And when the desire to change is there and the true looking at one’s self begins to happen, changes must come.
The courageous souls that these family members are, came together to learn about themselves. What they’ve created is a situation where there’s understanding that everyone in the family will eventually accept what’s going on, accept their own behavior, and then move on from that behavior. As they move on, the family may not change, but you’re all wonderful spirits who have chosen to help each other grow by learning about yourselves.
It wasn’t your agreement that members of the family will do one thing or another and then all make up and come together. What was arranged was that family members will learn about themselves by being in this family. They will try very hard to bring love into this family dynamic and grow from this. No matter how this family situation turns out, everything with the family does not have to be resolved. Because the family members allow each other to go on one’s own path, this creates a great spiritual leap.
It can be difficult to accept a lack of resolution for the family situation. But when you come into this reality and say: let me learn about myself no matter what goes on around me; let me have the understanding and calmness to allow everyone to deal with what they need to deal with in their own way; and as I learn about myself and begin to change, and my energy begins to become lighter, it will reach each family member to help them on their path. This is what you’ve agreed upon.
In spirit, when you learn about yourself and you search for ways to handle situations with love, without blame, and accepting the behavior of others, the vibration will change and you must grow. It was with this thought that this family has come together.
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What’s Up With My Best Friend Who I Just Confessed My Love To?
Maria says she’s currently having issues with her best friend, Dave, who she just confessed her love to. She says he’s sort of cold to her right now, though she may be just imagining it. The Council says it’s wonderful to have the freedom to confess love for another person. It’s for yourself that you do this. Whether it’s accepted or not, speaking of love for another person is a wonderful feeling, and they ask Maria to tune into this feeling.
Maria says a close psychic friend told her she and Dave were either family or romantically involved in several past lives. The Council says as Maria continues to create her life, things can be changed but right now the relationship isn’t going in the direction of a love interest. It’s more of support for each other.
Maria says she’s learning a lot of lessons from how she handles her relationship with Dave, such as how to express herself honestly and have a wider perspective of what’s possible. The Council says this is great growth on Maria’s part.
Maria asks The Council why she hasn’t gotten over telling Dave she loves him and asks if she’s missing another lesson or should she just be more patient? The Council advises Maria to not only be more patient, because she’s able to create this romantic relationship if it’s what she wants, but what she needs to do is to stay in the vibration of love and go forward with what she wishes to create.
The Council advises Maria to allow Dave to be who he is. Be supportive without pressure to go into a different type of relationship. See Dave with love and send him energy so he’s able to work through the lessons he wishes to go through and change.
The Council advises Maria to remain in the present with Dave and to listen to him with her heart and try and be supportive. As you do this you also grow.
There’s a big lesson here for Dave about safety. As he learns to be safe with you and as he learns you’re not trying to change him and you accept who he is, his walls will begin to come down and he’ll be more present with you. Along with the thought of you becoming more loving and more patient, also see Dave becoming more trusting and more caring. When you do this inner work it’s the beginning of creating. In your feelings about Dave, love and acceptance is what’s needed and the rest will come into play.
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Do I Share a Past Life with My Sister-In-Law?
This post answers a question for The Council from a reader named, Susan, who has a sister-in-law who sometimes becomes very controlling and is currently causing problems for Susan and her younger brother. Susan would like to know if she shares a past life with this sister-in-law.
The Council says the life they see that’s affecting Susan’s current life is a lifetime she and her sister-in-law shared back in Ireland. In that lifetime your sister-in-law was your very controlling father and you and your many brothers and sisters had to follow your father’s orders. You weren’t allowed out with people your father didn’t know. You weren’t allowed to travel anywhere. And you weren’t allowed to hang out with people who didn’t live in your village.
The Council says they see where you may believe your sister-in-law is being difficult, but this is her way of trying to be in control of what goes on. She believes her way is the best way and she has good intentions behind her controlling behavior.
In your current lifetime you came together with your sister-in-law to experience more freedom, a greater ability to communicate your ideas, and to be together without the controlling atmosphere where your sister-in-law was in charge. Your sister-in-law needs to learn trust, acceptance, and allow you to be who you are. You need to find the freedom to speak up and be who you planned to be.
You aren’t the child in your current relationship and your sister-in-law isn’t your father. You came together as peers to be able to communicate without fear.
Now that you have this information you can understand why your sister-in-law is the way she is. Try to let your sister-in-law have her opinion, but also stress your own opinion. Learn to speak up and have confidence in yourself. You’re not trapped under the old rules of your previous life in Ireland.
If you have difficulty speaking up to your sister-in-law at this time, begin to talk about your ideas, opinions, and how you feel about things to friends and family members. You can gradually work your way up to your sister-in-law.
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Spiritual Guidance for a Difficult Relationship
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Gabriela, who says The Council told her in a post over a year ago that she and lover of hers from a past life named, Lara, agreed to have a friendship in their current lifetime.
Question #1
If that’s true, why does Laura treat me poorly and wants nothing to do with me?
The Council says the greatest power you have in your physical life is choice. Even if Gabriela and Lara made an agreement to come into this life and be friends, the situations they created with each other has put Lara in a position where she feels uncomfortable with this friendship. Even though the two of them had a pre-planned spiritual agreement, Lara still has the choice to follow or not follow that agreement. And The Council adds if Gabriela and Lara don’t heal what they intended in this agreement in their current lifetime, they will choose to heal it in another lifetime.
The Council advises Gabriela to accept everyone the way they are. All signs indicate Lara has no interest in a friendship with Gabriela because Lara doesn’t feel comfortable with this and there’s something missing from this relationship for Lara to take it further. Did Gabriela want a relationship so badly that she pushed for it, and that reminds Lara of how Gabriela mistreated her in the past life they shared?
The best thing Gabriela can do is think loving thoughts for Lara. When you send the vibration of love to anyone, they must change how they feel about you. Even if Gabriela doesn’t have a romantic relationship with Lara, there can be a softening to the point where a friendship is available.
Question #2
Gabriela asks, if souls are so enlightened, why hasn’t Lara’s soul forgiven me for how I treated her in the previous lifetime and given me another chance for a relationship, if Lara’s soul knows I need this relationship in order to move on?
The Council says Gabriela doesn’t understand that her and Lara’s soul have already forgiven each other, but the circumstances Gabriela has created in this lifetime in relationship to Lara doesn’t allow what she wants to accomplish to happen. A soul can give you clues to what you want to create, but your soul can’t change your life for you. On a human level, what Gabriela has continued to create between herself and Lara is causing Lara to be uncomfortable. You can’t blame the soul for what the human chooses. With the soul there’s always love and forgiveness, but the soul cannot step in and change your human choices.
Question #3
Gabriela asks, why does it seem like my guides are punishing me for what I’ve done to Lara in the previous life?
The Council says Gabriela’s guides aren’t punishing her. Both she and Lara have the ability to choose what they wish to create in this lifetime. Gabriela is angry because things aren’t turning out the way she wanted. There will always be love between the two of them in spirit. The more loving thoughts Gabriela can send Lara and wish their life had gone in the direction of their agreed relationship, the more Gabriela will be able to forgive herself and Lara, and the more she’ll be able to create better feeling experiences moving forward.
The way Gabriela is thinking, feeling, and focusing now, she’s bringing herself more depression, more unhappiness, and more undesired experiences. Because she’s in the vibration of anger, disappointment, and blaming, she’ll only attract more of that to herself. When you’re in a lower vibration you can’t bring better experiences, understanding, and love to yourself.
You are the creator of your life, not your guides, but your guides are there to help you. Ask for help from them, but not from a place of blaming. Ask from a place of being lost, depressed, and confused. This is a better place to come from than the place where you think no one is helping you and you blame everyone for not stepping in and changing your path and Lara’s path.
Your feelings are your magnets; what you feel, you’ll bring to you. You’ll draw in what you’re focusing on and what you’re feeling.
Question #4
Gabriela asks, why was my path in this lifetime changed, and why do I feel it was against my wishes?
The Council says Gabriela’s path was never changed against her wishes. The only one who changed her path is herself, by her feelings and your focus.
Gabriela says she feels like she’s a hostage to her spirit guide’s plans.
The Council says her spirit guides know what she wants to create, but they cannot create it for her. She must take responsibility for her life and for her choices. If she can get in the vibration of hope and knowing she’ll have a chance to work out some sort of relationship with Lara. So far, her life is not going in that direction.
Suppose Gabriela frees herself from her anger and the negative thoughts, and she forgives Lara and herself and she wants to have a better life. She doesn’t have to focus in great detail. Only focus on the thought that there’s happiness there for her. If Gabriela can do that, her relationship with Lara can still change. She has to do the inner work to bring in this happiness.
Question #5
Gabriela says she’s been asking every day for her guides to allow her to die. She says even if there’s another lover for her, which she doesn’t believe because no one has ever expressed interest in her.
The Council says Gabriela can’t find someone to express interest in her when she’s in the vibration of leaving this lifetime. Ending this life will only bring another life where she has to return to where she is in her current life, and still learn how to change what she’s experiencing into something she desires more. Dying doesn’t release you from what you want to create. She’ll create it again in another lifetime until she gets to the point where she’s able to free herself from whatever is going on with Lara.
You are the creator. You must learn to take responsibility for what you’re creating. If you don’t like what you’ve created so far, you have the power to change it.
The Council is convinced if Gabriela is able to find the love and happiness within herself and in her mind offer this to Lara, there is the possibility of some sort of relationship developing. Even if this relationship is not a romantic one, there can be a friendship.
Whether or not Gabriela is able to take The Council’s advice, we hope our readers can benefit from The Council’s guidance. The Council says it’s for all of us in our human reality. For those people who are sad, follow this advice. The Council guarantees you will change your life and create what you want.
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What About Evil People?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Trying To Learn, who asks about people who do bad or evil things on Earth, such as serial killers, mass shooters, and dictators who commit genocide.
The Council says, somewhat surprisingly, that people who do these so-called bad things have agreed to this in spirit with all souls involved so that each soul can have the experience they desire on Earth, which apparently includes learning lessons from what these ‘bad’ people have done.
The Council says these souls agree to go through acting bad to teach other souls the lesson of how to stay in love and protect one another. And when this isn’t done, learning the lesson of how things can get out of hand. Then it’s the choice of each soul to work with their higher self to bring peace and love into this situation and remember we’re all souls here to support each other.
The Council says the souls that agree to be the most horrible people have agreed to this to teach a major lesson that thousands or millions of people wish to learn because they wish to learn together how to change this situation.
From a spiritual point of view there aren’t any bad people. The question is how can we support each other to stay in the vibration of love by rescuing one another, caring for one another, and by changing the situation for the better, having it end, and then experiencing what we have gone through and learned from it. And this knowledge becomes part of the collective whole and every soul, whether you were in this Earthly reality when it happened or still in spirit, will learn from this situation.
Trying To Learn asks if the spirits of these ‘bad’ people interact with the spirits of those whose death they facilitated. The Council says as we all come together in spirit, there’s a great appreciation for what these ‘bad’ people have done. In spirit these people held up their agreement of what was supposed to happen. They played their part. And as all spirits continue to look back on what’s happened and learn from it, there is only peace and love on the part of each spirit. In this light Bob asks if the spirit of Adolf Hitler is regarded very well by other spirits and The Council says, “Exactly”.
Trying To Learn (Bob incorrectly identifies her as Audrey on the recording) asks if these ‘bad’ people receive any sort of punishment when they return to spirit. The Council says the only punishment they’d receive would be something that is self inflicted. If they don’t remember their agreement with all the souls involved, they might feel guilty and not understand that what they created was very acceptable and many lessons were learned.
If the souls of these ‘bad’ people can’t let go of a past reality and are stuck in the emotions and personality they played while on Earth, they can choose to create punishment for themselves. Bob asks for an example of what a punishment might be. The Council says, as some people believe, there’s a Hell and you’ll be forever in darkness. Some people’s Hell would be abandonment. There’s the well known version of Hell where you’re in fire. Whatever you believe Hell is, you can experience this because you’ll create it, until at some point you realize this isn’t the way it’s supposed to be. It’s an illusion you’re temporarily stuck in.
You’d realize it’s an illusion because there are other souls around you that would try and help you through this by sending you higher vibrations of love and acceptance. When you finally allow this love and acceptance and begin to feel it, you’ll let go of the personality you were and the role you played. Then you’ll be able to come together with other spirits and learn from this experience.
Trying To Learn asks if the soul of these ‘bad’ people has a choice to reincarnate and if they do, will they be punished on Earth. The Council says these souls always have the choice to reincarnate. Why they reincarnate would be up to them. They can create a wonderful reality. Or they can choose to redo some horrible experience from another lifetime. Trying To Learn closes by saying, “Or is there no punishment,” and The Council says there isn’t any punishment.
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Son’s Anger Issues Related to Lifetime in Ancient Rome
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Lavender, who has an 8 year old boy with anger issues and she wonders why. The Council says this boy is hurting very deeply inside and at this point he doesn’t know how to feel love. He has a lot of mistrust and believes he must be alone.
The Council says your son is deeply affected by a lifetime in ancient Rome and he’s got a lot to heal from this lifetime. He was a slave who was taken to the arena where gladiators fought and was picked to be in charge of other slaves. This gave him safety, but turned the slaves he was friendly with against him.
He carries a lot of guilt from this Roman lifetime that he’s going to try and work out in his current lifetime. Your son has an authority problem in his current lifetime related to the lifetime in Rome, he has difficulty following orders, and he doesn’t like being told what to do.
The way you ask your son to do things will either create anger or give him understanding. Explain why, when you ask him to do the littlest thing and thank him for being a helpful part of your family. He needs to know he’s included and not alone. In his current lifetime he wants to know he can survive by being himself and being part of a family.
Lavender feels guilty for having this son when she was young and The Council says there is no use for this guilt. She needs to take part in helping her son heal the issues he’s brought into this lifetime.
Lavender asks The Council for advice on how to guide her son and The Council says their pre-birth agreement was that she would give him confidence and accept him no matter how he behaves in the moment. He needs an explanation how some of his behavior upsets her and why. And follow these explanations with reminders of the good he does.
Lavender says she recognizes in her son the same internal struggles she went through growing up. She is also resistant to authority figures. The Council suggests she explain to her son that she also doesn’t like to be told what to do. Maybe you can work on this together and bond over it. With understanding his mind will open, acceptance of how different things can be will begin to flood in, and clarity will come.
Lavender says she’s tried to teach her son things like the law of attraction, self empowerment, chakras, and meditation, and she says from this he became an elaborate storyteller. The Council says children have a great ability to astral project, remember their dreams, and travel to different dimensions. In your son’s case these stories aren’t made up. He is very psychic and intuitive and these are important tools for him as he grows.
The Council says many times your son is able to see from his third eye and he imagines other people can also do this. Encourage your son to talk to you about what he’s seeing and you’ll be surprised how he changes.
Treat your son with kindness, understanding, and love. Explain everything that’s asked of him. Explain when things annoy you and how you think about it and change it. Let him know how you want to teach him why he and everyone else is here: to handle whatever challenges he faces, to acknowledge them, to work on them, and to turn them around with love.
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Shame Over Hair Loss
This post answers questions from an anonymous reader who asks The Council why she created a health condition that causes her to loose hair along her front hair line.
The Council says Anonymous has created this lesson of shame and of loving and accepting herself. This is what she’s working on now.
Anonymous says she knows The Council advises staying in a positive vibration for healing, but when she tries to be positive she’s often overwhelmed by deep feelings of shame.
The Council says when Anonymous looks in the mirror she’s looking at her physical reality. She’s created this hair loss to look deeper than her physical reality. Does she have good thoughts toward others and herself? Does she send love and compassion to others and herself? If she thought she could never heal this hair loss condition, can she love herself any way? Can she let go of the shame?
The Council says Anonymous has brought this shame into her life from several other lifetimes and in her current lifetime she’s experiencing this shame over her hair loss. Because it’s been difficult for her to work on this shame and loving herself in other lifetimes, her spirit created hair loss in her current lifetime so she could work on letting go of the shame and loving herself. If Anonymous can learn to love and appreciate herself with her hair loss, her hair will begin to grow back.
The Council suggests focusing on the happiness that can be created as Anonymous moves forward in her life. In the vibration of love, hopefulness, happiness, and going forward no matter what she sees in the mirror, this is the beginning of change.
Anonymous says she knows her spirit has created this hair loss and she’s grateful for the knowledge and growth that’s come as she seeks answers. Yet she feels a part of her soul is breaking because of the shame she feels when she looks in the mirror.
The Council says her soul isn’t breaking. Her soul is asking her to look at herself and realize her soul and her physical body are one.
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Learning Empathy Through Relationships
This post answers questions from a reader named Sarah, who contacted us recently about a friend who’s in love with her, but now refuses to speak with her. (We published Looking for a Meaningful Relationship in answer to that question.) Sarah recently had a relationship experience with a different man and asks The Council if she created this new experience to develop empathy for her friend she asked about earlier.
The Council says, yes, Sarah’s spirit called in a situation that is similar so she could see things from the opposite point of view.
Sarah says she’s developed deep feelings for someone who says he’s got a rare condition that causes him to be detached from a relationship. As she expressed her emerging feelings for him, he said he’s unable to feel anything.
The Council says this man is unable to have the same feelings Sarah has for him. They say this situation is similar to the other relationship where Sarah’s friend expressed love for her, but she didn’t feel love for him. And The Council says the man that she wants to have a relationship with now has made a personal choice to remain unattached, similar to Sarah and her original friend.
Sarah asks the purpose of the (so called) condition of the new man in her life. The Council says this is a condition of choice. He is able to decide to try and make this relationship work with Sarah. The Council advises Sarah to look carefully at what this man is saying about having a condition he’s unable to control. The Council says it’s a pattern in this man’s life when he doesn’t want to do something, to say it’s out of his control when it’s really his choice.
Sarah asks The Council if her current situation is providing the opportunity she wanted to create empathy with her original friend or is it more multi-faceted?
The Council replies that it’s multi-faceted, but it definitely also Sarah calling this new relationship in to understand how the man in her first relationship feels with her not returning his feelings. Now she’s created a situation where she’s involved with a man who’s not ready to return her feelings and this will give her some understanding and empathy for the man in the earlier relationship.
The Council asks Sarah if what’s going on in her current relationship is something she wishes to change into something more with her focus and desire. Or is this relationship something she understands and wants to go into further and learn additional lessons.
The Council suggests Sarah focus on what she perceives now and how she’d like things to be in the future. Send both men love on their journeys and accept these men the way they are. They are in Sarah’s life to teach her lessons and to bring out more empathy and more love for her to learn from. When Sarah is able to send this empathy and love out to others, it will change everyone.
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How Can I Have a Romantic Relationship?
This post answers a question for The Council from a reader named Nina, who read our post, Can I Have a Long-term Romantic Relationship?, and says she has the same question.
The Council begins by asking Nina why she holds herself back? They feel she’s not genuine with the men she wants a relationship with and there’s an almost unconscious fear of failure, which she then creates.
Nina must work on herself and not speak or think so much why she doesn’t have a relationship. Think instead about the good things she has to offer a relationship. Don’t compare herself to others. Know that one of her lessons in this lifetime is to feel confident about herself. She shouldn’t meekly think she’d be good in a relationship, but she should feel the power within her to be part of a couple.
The Council tells Nina that she closes off her energy when she’s on a date with someone for the first time. Despite wanting a relationship so badly, she withdraws her energy and her dates feel this either consciously or unconsciously. Her dates feel they can’t reach her and there’s a distance.
Nina says she feels isolated. She used to appreciate herself because she built her life from scratch and she’s proud of what she’s accomplished, but she doesn’t want to be alone and feels ashamed she’s never been in a short or long-term relationship.
The Council says that feeling of shame is one of the reasons she fails in these relationships and they recommend Nina do a heart meditation to help change the energy around her. Cover herself in a green energy, feel a little light in her chest that grows, say that she accepts and loves herself, and send this love out into the universe. The people that will connect with this vibration will come into her life.
The Council says Nina has to change her own energy before she can have a successful relationship. She is the one keeping herself alone. She created this aloneness so she would ask herself why she’s not in a relationship, find the answers, and change her circumstances for the better.
The Council says the answer Nina needs is to feel so good and so loving for herself, and as she recognizes this love, send it out to the universe. This love will become a magnet to bring the right people into her life, whether it be a friendship, a romantic relationship, or a work relationship.
The Council advises Nina not to worry when other people say they don’t understand why she isn’t in a relationship. These people aren’t here to understand Nina’s path. Nina needs to get on the path she created so she heals and grows, and by doing this she’ll create the life she desires.
In an extended closing The Council wishes blessings to all who write questions and are able to follow their guidance. They say this guidance will help many who have similar questions and they send blessings to all who find this guidance helpful.
The Council advises everyone on this path to share their knowledge and love, particularly of our planet, the animals, minerals, and plants. Send love to everything and your life has to change.
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Repairing a Broken Soul Contract
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Courtney, who wonders if two people can repair a broken soul contract if violence toward one another has occurred and there’s been too much negativity in the relationship.
The Council says you can always change a soul contract. They also say in your physical body you may desire to change a contract you created in spirit for reasons you may not be aware of in your physical body.
The Council says if you’re in a relationship with a lot of negativity, it’s best to look at where this negativity is coming from and work on these issues. If you have negativity or violence with someone and you feel you can’t change this, then you don’t understand what you wished to achieve when you both agreed to experience this as spiritual beings.
If you both see negativity in your lives and don’t want it, and you balance the negative energy you brought into this lifetime from other lifetimes that’s causing this, then you can change the soul contract.
But if you don’t understand the lesson. and there isn’t true forgiveness and love and understanding that each person is on their own path, as much as you desire to change this soul contract, the contract will remain until you find a way to grow from it. And if you don’t complete the soul contract in your current lifetime, you will have opportunities in other lifetimes.
All soul contracts are changeable if you achieve what you wanted to achieve when you created the situation in spirit (before coming into your current lifetime). You won’t necessarily understand this in your physical body, but you’ll know you’ve achieved what you wanted in spirit when you’re able to change the soul contract.
The Council says there’s a soul contract between Courtney and this other person to forgive this person, a desire to accept this person no matter what path they’re on, and to not manipulate this person. And as you work on these clues, more information will come to you.
The Council says this relationship wasn’t meant to be romantic, but if the two of them are going in that direction The Council says anything is possible with focus and belief, but the issues of negativity must be worked on to fulfill the contract.
In an extended closing The Council wishes blessings to all who write questions and are able to follow The Council’s guidance. They say this guidance will help many more who have similar questions and they send blessings to all who find this guidance helpful.
The Council advises everyone on this path to share their knowledge and love, particularly of our planet, the animals, minerals, and plants. Send love to everything and your life has to change.
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A Relationship – Being Transgender – Dad’s Surgery
This post answers questions from Brennan, who’s concerned about his relationship with his best friend; he wants to know if his mother will ever accept him as transgender; and he’s concerned about handling whatever happens in his Dad’s surgery today.
Brennan says his best friend lives in California and he has strong feelings for her, but their relationship became difficult when he forgot to to put an important word in a text and now he asks The Council how he can fix the problem.
The Council says Brennan has to get to a place where he’s able to think about this situation with his best friend differently. Instead of beating himself up because he forgot to put a word in a text, he can say it now if he wants to and hasn’t already. This situation is likely to pass. If Brennan hangs on to all the things he didn’t do that messed up this relationship, the relationship will stay the way it is.
The Council advises making light of what’s happened. And as Brennan believes this and can be in this lighter energy, he can begin to send this lighter energy to his best friend. It’s okay to make mistakes. We aren’t here to live life perfectly. We’re here to experience what’s good and what we goofed up on and learn not beat ourselves up for our mistakes. If Brennan truly believes he’ll be able to fix this relationship, then he’ll be able to.
Brennan is transgender and he asks The Council if his Mom will ever accept this. The Council says Brennan is helping his mother learn acceptance, which is one of the experiences she wished (in spirit) to learn in this lifetime. He needs to be who he is and allow his mother to accept him at her own pace the way he wants her to accept who he is.
Brennan finishes with a question about his father’s heart surgery, which is scheduled for today. He’s worried his father won’t make it through this surgery and he asks if he’ll be able to handle whatever happens.
The Council says Brennan will be able to handle whatever happens in today’s surgery because it’s all part of what was pre-planned in spirit. Send your father light and love and healing, and accept whatever choice he makes about whether to stay or to leave this lifetime.
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Relationship Advice
This post is inspired by a relationship question for The Council from someone who goes by the name, Very Confused. She begins by saying she fully believes she gets exactly what she asks for and The Council clarifies this by saying you get exactly what you create. Everything that comes to you is created by you. Her desire for what she wants and her repeated thinking of it is how she’ll create it.
Very Confused says she’s in a romantic relationship that she asked for. She’s recognized the beautiful paths of other relationships and has used that feeling of love to create this relationship. The Council says this is excellent. As she acknowledges what brings her joy, that’s the way to bring it into future relationships.
She says most of what she wants in this relationship is present except for a few things she finds crucial, and she wonders if this is a test for her self love. The Council asks who Very Confused thinks is testing her? There isn’t a God out there who tests people. If anyone is testing her, she is testing herself by creating some of what she wants, but not all of it.
The Council says the way to create the rest of what she wants is the same way she’s already created the changes she’s experienced, and that’s by visualization, feeling what she desires, and writing about it. It will all come from her, and this test is her asking herself if this is enough? Does she settle for what she already has or does she keep on creating everything she desires?
Very Confused says she’s concerned her partner isn’t good enough for her any more and she suspects this is a lesson that her self love isn’t where she intends it to be. The Council says no one is perfect and everyone comes with what we call flaws. These flaws are there to help her grow, not to help the other person change. When life is difficult for her, this is a sign it’s something she requested before coming into this lifetime. It’s not about the other person. She created this experience for her to grow from so that when she leaves this lifetime she’s learned from this experience and she’s proud her perception has changed.
The Council suggests looking at the things that aren’t perfect in her relationship and know that this person is a spirit that’s in her life because she’s made an agreement with him to to make her life difficult so she can grow by bringing love into this relationship. The Council says Very Confused can create a new partner, but she’ll face these flaws again in her next relationship or her next lifetime, until she learns the lessons she desires to learn from these flaws. As she learns these things that help her grow, this person who isn’t perfect will seem close to being perfect.
Very Confused asks if this relationship is an opportunity where deep nurturing love can be found, or is she to accept this man as he is and choose self love? The Council says as she accepts her partner in the moment, she’ll feel more love for him. And when she’s feeling love and acceptance, she’ll feel more self love.
Very Confused says she tends to be analytical and wonders if this is working against her. The Council recommends she stop analyzing and go with the flow. It’s best not to analyze. Get her brain out of the way and come from her heart.
Very Confused finishes by asking The Council what her purpose is in this lifetime. The Council says it’s to bring love into this reality, to accept what’s around her, and to grow and help other spirits that are around her. As she does this she’ll create the path she desires, always knowing that she’s the creator of what happens in her life.
The Council says the choice is always Very Confused’s whether to stay in the current relationship or not. And as she works in this relationship she has to work within herself to see the relationship differently, to grow from it, and to bring love into, even though it’s difficult sometimes. But they also say to stay and see how she grows from this relationship, and if it doesn’t change, it’s not the other person’s fault. It’s about whether she’s doing enough work, is she appreciating the relationship enough, is she allowing this person to go through whatever they have to go through? Is she there to help the two of them grow?
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Why Do So Many Women Ask About Abortion?
This post is inspired by questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who’s curious why we get so many questions from women who struggle with abortion. This is a question we ask ourselves from time to time and we thought this would be a good opportunity to get The Council’s opinion on this subject. Anonymous also asks why abortions bring so much pain if they’re pre-planned in spirit.
The Council starts by offering an answer about pre-planning abortions. They say just because we pre-plan in spirit before we are born to have an abortion doesn’t mean we plan to remember this. The purpose of these pre-planned abortions is just to go through the experience and see how we handle it and grow from it.
The Council says many women who go through an abortion experience blame, grief, and heartbreak until they understand they intend to grow from this. And The Council points out many women go through one or more abortions and don’t experience these negative emotions. They go through it believing they made the right choice for themselves, the fetus, and everyone involved, and they move on. Everyone who experiences an abortion does not experience those heartaches.
Bob asks The Council about the first part of Anonymous’s question: why so many questions about abortion? The Council says the reason is that many women struggle with abortion. Maybe they thought it wasn’t a good time to have a child, or the finances weren’t good, or they weren’t in a good relationship, or the partner didn’t want the child. This brings up feelings of guilt and sadness.
Bob says he understands many women struggle with abortions, but he doesn’t understand why so many questions are abortion-related when readers are free to ask questions on any subject. The Council says there is a strong vibration from the two of us to help people through abortions because this is a big problem that causes lots of despair. They say Cynthia and Bob created this website to answer any questions, and yet as spirits we knew the time was coming where more questions needed to be answered about abortion. These questions come from many who need to learn about self love and acceptance.
The Council adds there are more abortions going on now than ever before. In other times there weren’t places where women could have a safe abortion. Women have more choices when they become pregnant now and so this question has grown. As more questions are written about abortion, people realize many others going through something similar and because they aren’t alone in their grief, sadness, and depression, it becomes easier to release these negative emotions.
Toward the end of the session Bob admits it’s still not not clear why there are so many abortion-related questions. The Council says the reason is because abortions are happening more frequently, it’s more out in the open, and because people want to understand that having an abortion is okay.
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Relationship, Dark Magic, and Asexuality Guidance
This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Gabriela, who previously asked The Council a relationship question. Now she’s following up on her previous question as well as asking about dark magic and her choice to be asexual.
Relationship
Gabriela says when she tried to change the focus of her friendship with a women named Laura to a more romantic one it went badly. The Council asks if Gabriela was appreciating this friendship? They say Gabriela must appreciate the friendship first and then experience where this goes.
Gabriela asks The Council to shed light on past lives she and Laura have lived together and why they can’t seem to get together in this lifetime. The Council says they shared many lives together, but in the one that’s affecting their current lifetime, they had a happy relationship. What they intended in their current life was to come together as friends, which is a different kind of relationship than in their past life.
Gabriela carries with her memories of this past lifetime and wants a more romantic relationship in their current lifetime. Her friend Laura is remembering on an unconscious level that the two of them agreed in spirit to have a warm and close friendship. They are both in the same relationship, but have different ideas how this relationship should be. The Council says if Gabriela can accept a friendship, they feel she’d get a lot from this and would be able to find different partner to have a romantic relationship with.
Gabriela is the creator of her reality, and if she still wants a romantic relationship with Laura and if she has a strong belief in this, and if she’s able to concentrate on this romantic relationship without doubt, The Council says it can be created. But they add, Gabriela should be open to experiencing a friendship with Laura without pushing it to something beyond this, and she can find great happiness in this.
The Council says the friendship that’s wanted by both of them is capable of changing into something more, but Gabriela must experience the friendship first. That was the agreement. Once that’s done for a period of time, the friendship is capable of changing into something more romantic.
Dark Magic Rituals
Next Gabriela raises the subject of dark magic rituals and asks what The Council has to say about them. She believes that because these rituals go against other people’s free will, she is skeptical of them, but she also knows people get results with these rituals and asks how this is possible.
The Council says it’s your intention and your focus on what you’re trying to create that’s behind these rituals. Your focus is the magic, whether it be black magic, white magic, good magic, or bad magic. If you wish to harm someone, and you focus on it, you can create this in your reality. If you wish good for someone and you focus on it, you can also create this in your reality. The ritual helps you focus. On the subject of creating dark magic The Council says there is free will and everyone is able to create whatever they wish to experience.
Asexuality
Gabriela asks The Council why people are born asexual like her, because she says it can be a life-long loneliness sentence. The Council says the souls that come into this human reality in any way that is thought of as different are here for one purpose: to have the people around them accept them and show love no matter what you are. We are all here to bring the vibration of love from spirit into our physical reality.
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Relationship, Career, and Loving Yourself
This post is inspired by a reader who goes by the name LostSoul who was introduced to The Council by her mother, and now she’s asking The Council questions about her relationship, her career, and about loving herself.
LostSoul says she’s almost 25 years old and she’s living with a man who’s 21. They were together for 2 years, broke up for around 6 months when she pursued a relationship with someone she was unable to have a life with, and then got back together with her former partner. The Council says this was an experience that was needed and they ask LostSoul what she learned from this second relationship that she’s able to bring forward into her relationship with her original partner?
For a few months the relationship with her original partner was amazing. The Council says this is because she’s not the same person she was when she was with him the first time. She’s learned more of what she wants and what she doesn’t want from the other relationship. And there is a new hope that she can change her thoughts and create her relationship with her original partner the way she wishes.
But she’s been back with him for a little over a year and sometimes it’s still amazing, and sometimes her partner has too much to drink with his friends and makes choices that hurt LostSoul emotionally and she gets sick. He’s apologized for his behavior, but later behaves the same way again.
Currently LostSoul has told her boyfriend to stop drinking completely if he want to continue their relationship, and she says he has, but she asks The Council if she’s forcing her boyfriend to face personal issues he’s not ready to face. The Council says she’s giving him choices and that’s what this reality is about and this can be a positive thing. By accepting who he is she opens the door for him to accept himself, experience the love, and see how he wishes to move forward.
LostSoul says she’s haunted by the moments her boyfriend has hurt her, yet she wants to be in this relationship. The Council asks if she’s getting what she wants. As she looks for what she wants instead of seeing what’s not there, she’ll be able to create more of what she wants and she opens the door for more positive experiences. The Council reminds LostSoul that sending love into any challenging relationship will eventually change it for the better.
LostSoul asks The Council about her work as an au pair, which she says she does with a heavy heart because she’s unable to get an admin job due to lack of experience. The Council says what LostSoul wanted in this lifetime was to move around from place to place and they ask her to look for any kind of job that allows her to do this. She wanted to work outdoors, not indoors. And they say if LostSoul begins at the bottom of any job that gives her the experience of moving around, she’ll move forward.
Lastly LostSoul says it’s as if her soul is telling her to wake up and start loving herself and feel free. The Council says this freedom is the movement she wants to experience. As she dreams big she’ll create happiness and the love she wishes to have in a relationship with herself, and it will begin to show itself to her in her improved feelings. They advise her to have an open mind and heart and begin to show love to herself.
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Did I Pre-Plan in Spirit to be Transgender?
This post is inspired by an interesting question for The Council from Brennan, a reader who’s been learning a little about pre-birth planning and he’s wondering if he pre-birth planned to be transgender.
For those of you new to the idea of pre-birth planning, it’s the idea there’s a spiritual part of you that existed before you were born, and that part of you pre-planned before incarnating into this reality certain intentions for your lifetime on Earth.
There’s been a lot of information on transgender lately, but if you’re new to this idea it’s when someone is physically born male or female, but grow up to feel their actual gender is the opposite of their birth gender.
The Council’s first comment is that Brennan is one of the courageous souls who have come forward to change their identity to show others that love is love. It doesn’t matter what gender you are.
Brennan is teaching his family and friends to think and act differently, to go into their hearts and feel love for you the same whether you are a woman or a man. You are one of many who have come forward at this time to bring acceptance and love to everything, regardless of your gender.
Brennan says in addition to being transgender he has mental illness and he asks The Council why he’s experiencing these things that most other people try to avoid.
The Council says the purpose is to have the mental illness and gender identification brought out to be accepted, to teach people how to handle these, and the bottom line reason is to get people to show love. They add this is a wonderful thing and they applaud Brennan for being brave enough to do this.
The Council says they are with Brennan every step of the way and will provide love and support from the spirit world. Brennan and those like him are the beginning of having transgender accepted and bringing so much love into this reality by having the courage to do this.
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Will My Upcoming Abortion Affect My 1-Year Old Son?
This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Tracy who’s about 2 months pregnant and scheduled to have an abortion the week after she posted her comment. After reading our post on Beth’s abortion she felt at ease, but has difficulty believing that karma won’t get her or her 1-year old son and asks about that. This will be Tracy’s third abortion and she asks if these souls have come back into her life. And she asks for advice on her spirituality, which she struggles with.
The Council starts by saying Tracy’s abortion won’t have a negative impact on her son. They say karma is what you believe and wish to create in your many lifetimes. They say there isn’t any monster karma that will make life miserable for her or her son, and ask Tracy to let go of the fear something in the future will affect them.
The Council says each of Tracy’s three abortions was pre-planned by her in spirit before she was born. They were created so she could learn about the gift of life and how wonderful it is to allow souls to come into this life and create the reality that soul chooses. And they ask Tracy what she has learned from each of these abortions.
The Council says these aborted souls have not returned to Tracy’s life, but have helped her understand her part in creating her son’s life. And they say she wants to understand the spirituality of becoming a parent and to be supportive of what her son creates rather than being a controlling mother.
The Council asks Tracy to meditate on the gift she and her son have given each other. And when she realizes she is a spirit helping another spirit move forward on his path she’ll experience great joy and love, not only for her son, but also for the souls she aborted.
The Council finishes by counseling Tracy to bring love into every situation and ask herself how she feels with each experience she creates. And they say to always ask for more understanding, more acceptance, and more allowing.
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2011-01-03
As you accept and recognize who you really are,
Your reality changes.
—The Council
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2010-12-28
You are not here to control, manage, or fix another person’s life,
But to allow them to grow at their own pace.
The practice of allowing creates freedom, acceptance, and love.
—The Council
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Welcome
Bob & Cynthia
Welcome to Ask The Council, a blog where you can ask a group of loving and wise spirit guides a question and get an answer, for free. You can also contact us for a paid private phone session with The Council, and you can read the questions other readers have asked and the answers they’ve received. Other posts contain quotations from The Council that we hope you find inspiring, uplifting, and educational.
Ask The Council a Question
If there’s a question you’ve been thinking about and you’re curious how The Council might answer it, we encourage you to either use the blog’s Comments feature to ask your question, or contact us for a private phone session. You can click here to go to the ‘Let us know what you think about this post, or ask The Council a question’ section of this Welcome post and type your question there or you can type your question in the same section at the bottom of any post that inspires you to ask a question or leave a comment.
Since the blog is currently a project we do in our spare time it can take a while for us to do a session with The Council on a question and then publish a post on the session. Depending on the question and the session it can sometimes take weeks after a question is asked to publish a post with The Council’s answer. Please be patient.
The Council
Cynthia is able to communicate with a group of five non-physical spirit guides in a manner similar to the way Esther Hicks communicates with and speaks for the spirit guides, Abraham, and Jane Roberts communicated and spoke for the spirit guide, Seth. I (Bob) basically interview The Council as they speak through Cynthia during what we refer to as a session. Sessions generally last 5-15 minutes and are usually audio recorded. During the session Cynthia is aware of what The Council is saying and she also receives visual impressions and other types of telepathic communication from them.
The Council’s Basic Guidance
Since we began these sessions with The Council around 2009 they consistently emphasize a few basic ideas that we attempt to summarize here:
1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
Finding Your Way Around the Blog
Home Page
The left-hand column on the Home page contain a long chronological series of posts with the most recent on top. Each post begins with a title. Clicking on a post title will take you to a blog page dedicated to that particular post. Following each post is a Like button where you can indicate to us and other readers if you like the post.
The footer section of each post identifies the date the post was published, the Categories the post has been assigned to, the keyword/keyphrase Tags assigned to the post, and a Comment link. If readers comments on a post, the Comments link will indicate the number of comments. If a post has no comments yet, the Comment link text appears as “Leave a Comment”.
Clicking on the Comments link takes you to a Comment text box on a post page dedicated to that post. Here you can type a comment in the text box and click the Post Comment button to have your comment displayed just below the text box. If you are replying to someone else’s comment, your comment will appear indented underneath the comment you are replying to.
At the bottom of the left column on the Home page is a ‘Previous Entries’ link that will take you to a page with a list of earlier posts.
Blog Features
The right-hand column of most blog pages contains this Welcome message. Below the Welcome message in the right-hand column are some useful features:
Email Subscription: Use this to subscribe to blog posts. You will receive an email notification with a link back to the blog each time a new post is published.
Search: Type a keyword or phrase and click the Search button to get a list of posts in the left column that contain the keyword or phrase.
Archives: The Archives list indicates the number of posts for each month listed. Clicking on the link for a month will display in the left column of the page a list of the posts published that month.
Categories: This is a list of keywords used to categorize posts. Posts can be included in more than one category, if applicable. Clicking on a category link will display in the left column a list of posts assigned to the category you selected.
Navigation Bar
The Navigation Bar at the top of each page contains a link to the blog Home page and links to the following additional pages:
Welcome: A link that displays this Welcome message in the left column (and the right column). At the bottom of the Welcome message is a Comment box where you can post a general comment about the blog or ask The Council a question.
Questions & Answers: Use this link to display a list of introductions to our longer posts, most of which are responses to reader questions. This is an easy way to check out these more in-depth posts. They are listed in chronological order with the most recent post on top. Clicking on the post title will take you to the page where you can read the complete post.
Contact Us: The Contact Us page contains a contact form similar to the Comment form mentioned above. The difference between the Contact Us form and the Comment forms is that the Contact Us form is a private message to us (Cynthia and Bob). It is not posted on the blog. Comments appear on the post page where the comment is posted. The Contact Us form can be used for communicating with us about private sessions or other private matters you think aren’t appropriate for posting in a public Comment.
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