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Feeling Guilty Over My Mother’s Recent Passing

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Darla, whose mother recently transitioned to spirit with Alzheimer’s Disease. Darla cared for her mother at home up until the last two weeks of her life when she was moved to an assisted living facility. She says the disease left my mother unable to eat or drink, but her memory was intact and she was able to talk to me almost until the very end.

The Council asks Darla if she’s able to appreciate what she’s gone through and that you offered to care for your mother during a time that was so difficult for you?

Darla knows her mother is at peace now, but she suffered tremendously the last few months, often lying on the floor crying in pain. I felt helpless as far as helping my mother get better and it was torture seeing her suffer.

The Council says many people come into this reality to learn about suffering, or to teach someone else about it. Sometimes as they go through this suffering they might tell you that they know you can help them, but you’re not doing it. This is just to bring the lesson of suffering further into your reality so you can feel the guilt, and learn there’s no purpose for it except to help you grow in another direction.

Seeing your mother suffer and knowing it was difficult for you, what did you experience from this? Instead of feeling guilty that maybe you haven’t done enough, focus on what you did do. This is very important for you.

Darla still feels the heavy weight of guilt in her heart as she chose to honor her mother’s wishes to die without any artificial means of sustaining her life. And The Council asks, why would you feel guilty when you’re doing exactly what your mother wanted?

Sometimes that feeling of not doing enough or trying to stop another person’s suffering is because you don’t understand the full experience of what’s going on here with soul growth and soul experiences. So you learn from the suffering.

Before you came into this reality from spirit you both agreed to experience your mother’s difficult passing. You did exactly what was supposed to be done by having your mother go through her life and ending her life the way she wanted. This was to push you forward so you can learn to experience the love you showed her rather than the guilt.

We’re all here to bring love into every situation. The love you showed by being able to stay and be a part of her passing, and help where you were able, and let your mother have her way and make her transition the way she wanted, shows you are a brave soul for going through what you’ve chosen to do.

This is what you wanted to learn. This was your mother’s way of teaching you to realize who you really are. You are both spirits who agreed to go through this difficult passing, and this would give you the opportunity to bring love into this reality. Take your thoughts and change what you focus on and look at all you’ve done.

By learning to let go of the guilt, your mother, who’s in spirit now, will be overjoyed to know that what you had planned had worked. You wanted to bring love into yourself and feel good about yourself. Realize you helped your mother, who wanted to experience this difficult passing and she wanted to see how the people around her would handle this situation. Your mother wanted to teach you to go through this challenge and when it’s over to realize what a great human being you are to go through this so beautifully.

The Council says they feel the last two days of your mother’s life she was more back in spirit than in physical reality. A lot of what you saw your mother going through during this time wasn’t fully experienced by her because she was already with us.

Darla asks if her mother forgives her for not being able to help her. The Council says this is where you’re wrong. There is nothing you need forgiveness for. Your mother loves you so much and she’s so proud you’ve fulfilled what you both wanted. Your mother has a wonderful feeling in spirit that you were both able to pull off her passing the way she wanted it.

Darla asks if her relationship issues with her mother from past lives are resolved. The Council says there’s more to come. This particular challenge is something that both of you wanted to experience to help each other grow in your current lifetime. There will be future lifetimes you’ll share with your mother and work through additional relationship issues.

The Council applauds Darla for what she’s gone through and how she’s handled it and followed what you both planned to the tee.

The Council closes by thanking Cynthia and Bob for having the ability to take their information and have so many people be open to it, and get understanding from it, and get relief from what another spirit has gone through.

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February 17, 2021 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Helping Others, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Did I Know This Man I Love in Another Lifetime?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Susie, who says she fell madly in love with a boy when she was 16 years old. My father was a holocaust survivor and the boy wasn’t Jewish so he broke us up. I got married, but I’ve loved this boy for the rest of my life. Four years ago and 45 years after we broke up I contacted this man and he was as amazing as he was when I was 16. I’m still madly in love with him.

The Council says in at least four lifetimes Susie was childhood friends or brother and sister with this man and there’s great love from these past lives.

Susie says she has nothing in common with her husband, but she still loves him, but nothing like the way she feels for this boy she met when she was 16. She says the boy got involved with drugs when she left him, he’s become an alcoholic over the years, and she feels responsible.

The Council says it’s not necessary to feel responsible for this man. These are his lessons and his choices. You have no idea what people are trying to learn when they are going through something they’ve chosen. You’ve only agreed to be there for part of his experience.

Susie says she wants to cure this man. The Council says you don’t cure anyone. You show love, you show acceptance, compassion, and patience. You’re there to possibly suggest a way to follow through on what they’re experiencing, but you don’t cure them. This isn’t your responsibility.

Susie says her daughter was born with an eating addiction and she’s trying to heal both her daughter and this man she met when she was 16. The Council says again that Susie can’t heal them. Everyone chooses what they need to experience, even if they don’t remember in their human body why they make their choices. There are things they need to experience for soul growth and to teach the people around them. You can’t cure these people or change their path.

Susie says she feels her daughter and this love of her life are meant to be together. The Council says she didn’t choose in spirit to be married to this man in her current lifetime. What was chosen was familiarity, friendship, closeness, and support. You’ve chosen to be friends with this man because there are things you need to learn. Everyone has a lesson. This doesn’t mean you’re meant to be married or in an intimate relationship like marriage. Be there to learn from each other. The three of you wanted to experience acceptance.

Susie says she needs The Council to release her daughter and this man from their soul contract. The Council says they can’t release anyone from their soul contract. No one is in charge of releasing someone from their contract but themself. In your human form you may not understand why you’ve made certain choices, but your higher self knows. When your higher self knows you’ve learned your lesson or experienced enough you’ll release yourself.

Between you, your daughter, and your friend you need the ability to speak with each other, listen to what’s truly going on rather than what you think is going on, show acceptance, and allow each other to be who they are. Allow them to make their own choices. Give love and compassion and know every step of the way you’ll find something to learn from your experience.

The Council says in the past lives Susie and her friend have shared there’s been a lot of happiness and fun and that love has drawn them together in their current life to go through more difficult challenges.

The Council tells Susie she’s here to experience love, to bring love from the spirit world into your current reality. In every way you can show love to yourself, to this friend, and to your daughter.

Listen to the entire 7-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Susie and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask your own question.

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February 17, 2020 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , | 6 Comments

If a Soul Chooses a Difficult Life, Does the Soul Enjoy Suffering?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, ImportantOrNotBlog, which are based on an earlier post titled, Some Interesting Questions About Spirit. ImportantOrNotBlog asks if a soul chooses a life of difficulty full of pain and hardship, does that mean the soul enjoys suffering?

The Council says when you choose, as spirit, whatever you choose before you come into your current reality, you always think you’re a spirit and you’ll know how to handle whatever it is you’ve chosen. But when you come into your reality, you forget how to handle what you’ve chosen and how to turn it towards love.

The purpose of of forgetting is to learn how to work with whatever you’ve chosen and be able to turn it around. When you do this, there is major soul growth. This process can be very difficult for some people. But the more you can accept the hardship you’ve chosen, and show patience, and learn to work with your situation and slowly see it improve, you’ll feel stronger about yourself knowing no matter what the obstacle you’ve created for yourself, you’re working on it.

It’s not that the soul enjoys suffering. It’s important to remember who you truly are as a spiritual being in a physical body. As you’re able to bring the feeling of spirit into your physical reality, the easier it will be for you to experience positive changes.

The Council points out that sometimes there are spiritual contracts to teach people around you by your example because in other lifetimes these people didn’t have the compassion you’re learning in this lifetime. Or maybe the people around you were sick in another lifetime and you took care of them, and now they want to experience the other side of the coin and they choose to care for someone in this lifetime.

There’s a lot going on with people who are experiencing difficulties, and these difficulties aren’t only for the person experiencing them, because these people have agreed with the others around them how each one of them will grow from these difficulties. It’s a great blessing for everyone involved with these difficulties to go through them concentrating on compassion and love.

ImportantOrNotBlog says they understand difficult situations are for soul growth, but they ask, to what end? The Council says there isn’t any end, there’s just growth. When you return to spirit and you see the lives you’ve touched, you want to do more. And so you create lives where you have the opportunity to do more so you grow and the people in your life grow. And the more love you bring into your reality, the less suffering there will be.

ImportantOrNotBlog asks The Council if souls exist at different levels? The Council says if you mean is one soul smarter than the other, they respond that in some lifetimes the answer is yes and in some lifetimes the answer is no, but we’re all growing and everyone grows at their own pace. We’re all trying to evolve into spirit so everyone can experience love.

ImportantOrNotBlog closes by asking if soul growth helps the soul get to a higher spiritual level? The Council says they don’t feel comfortable with the word, level, but they say soul growth will take you to a higher spiritual understanding. It brings more love into your world and you grow. And with this love, as it grows within you, you want to share this love, and you’re in a great hurry to get back into another lifetime so you can stretch that love and grow more from it. And you want to put this love into another reality so others can feel this love and grow from it.

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July 19, 2018 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Choice, Helping Others, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Soul, Spirit, Suffering, You Create Your Reality | , , , , | 3 Comments

Why Can’t I Plan a Life Where Everything Falls Into Place?

This post answers questions for The Council about choices and consequences from a reader named, Audrey. She begins by saying that in our physical reality we have many opportunities to make a variety of life-changing choices. The Council interjects here that having choices is your main power and you have choices in everything.

Audrey goes on to say that once a decision is made, the consequences can be difficult and long-lasting. To this The Council responds that they can also be joyful. The consequences are only long-lasting if you allow them to be.

Audrey continues, “Examples can range from marrying the wrong person, to taking a crappy job, or saying the wrong thing even if it’s the truth and the surrounding people choose only to deal in fiction.”

The Council says coming into this reality you knew you’d have choices and life wouldn’t be perfect. When you’re making the wrong decisions, or you made a decision that now feels wrong, you have the ability to change these decisions and correct what you’ve done. You don’t have to stay in a bad situation.

In spirit, you think you’ll try something in your physical reality and if you don’t like it you’ll try something else. When you’re on the Earth path, whatever your choices are and they aren’t bringing you joy, then you change your choice. You change how you act in that situation and you bring love into it. If the situation doesn’t change, then you make a another decision, and another decision.

The important thing is to consider what you’ve learned from each of your choices. If you choose an abusive spouse and you get out of this relationship but don’t understand how you got into this relationship in the first place, if you don’t ask yourself what you’ve learned in this relationship and move on to another relationship, somewhere in that new relationship you’ll find more abuse. Each thing you’d like to change, it’s important to ask yourself why you don’t like this situation. How can I make this situation better. You have the ability to make these changes.

Audrey says she doesn’t like that pain, hardship, and difficulty from our choices can last for years in some instances. The Council replies this is always your decision.

Audrey writes that this blog says these experiences are for learning and soul growth, but this is difficult for her to accept. The Council says when you’re hurt or upset and you look at your situation in the moment it happens, try to pull back from the situation and look at it, realize you’re responsible for creating this situation, and ask yourself why you’ve brought it into your life. You have a choice to change your circumstances.

Audrey says she’s tried to make the right choices in her life and with hindsight these choices now seem wrong and she wonders what her life would have been like if she made different choices. The Council advises Audrey to focus on what she wants and can create now rather than think about what her life would have been like if she made different choices. Her life was what it was, and thinking about what it would have been won’t change that. Learn from what her life was and start focusing on on how she wants to move forward.

Audrey says if she’s learned her lesson from the choices she’s made, in this lifetime she can’t apply those lessons again because she’s not faced with the same opportunities. The Council says there will be similar opportunities, and if you’ve truly learned your lessons, you’ll make different choices.

Audrey closes by saying she doesn’t understand why we can’t just plan a peaceful, simple life where everything falls into place. The Council says when we’re in spirit, we know our physical reality isn’t a perfect place and we’ll make mistakes, but we want to jump into our reality and experience it. This is exciting for our spiritual being.

If life was perfect it would be like laying on a beach every day of your life – never leaving the beach, just laying there. After awhile this would get very boring. Where is the soul growth? Where is the learning? How do you experience what you can create?

You have complete control over how you create your opportunities, good and bad, and how you move forward in your life. In spirit this is very joyous and exciting for you. You ask yourself how you’ll jump into this life, make these opportunities positive, and bring love into them so you can feel that you’ve changed your perspective and your understanding. That’s why everything isn’t like laying on the beach or just falling into place.

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June 5, 2018 Posted by | Audio Content, Choice, Decision Making, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Why Go Through Pain to Have Your Soul Grow?

This post is inspired by a question from Asher who asks The Council why it’s necessary to go through pain and hardship in order for our soul to grow? He feels sad human beings aren’t capable of anything else and he wishes to enroll in a cosmic school where spiritual growth is a positive experience.

The Counsel says Asher is already in that school and it’s not necessary to create situations where growth only takes place through suffering and struggle. He has the choice to change his life through his beliefs.

If Asher feels the only way his soul can grow is through suffering, that is what he’ll create. But The Council says we come to this world to grow in love, not through suffering. And as we stay in the vibration of love, less struggle will occur.

The Council advises Asher to take his greatest power, which is choice, and change the way he sees this. In response to his comment that humans aren’t capable of anything else The Council replies that humans are also spirit. They are one and whatever you go through, you learn from it together.

This session is only about 5-minutes long, but there’s lots of valuable information in it. Listen to what The Council has to say for the full story.

Copyright ℗ 2015 Bob & Cynthia Dukes

February 14, 2015 Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Challenges, Choice, Love, Questions & Answers, Soul, Spirit, Suffering, You Create Your Reality | , , , | Leave a comment

   

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