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Help Me Heal My Relationship with My Dead Mother

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, PE, who’s asking for guidance about their relationship with their mother. I’ve asked for guidance on this website before and The Council strongly indicated our relationship was marked by a difficult past life. My mother passed away last year, but I continue to have troubling dreams about her.

The Council says you have the information about sharing a difficult past life and it’s now time to let that go. You can’t change what happened in your past life and how it affected you. Now your job is to deal with what’s going on for you in the present.

PE says, I feel guilty for not speaking to my mother the last few months of her life and for not always being compassionate with her. The Council says there’s no purpose for this guilt. The life you had with your mother was pre-planned in spirit. It was a life you both wanted. You wanted to learn from this life. You wanted to see how you’d handle it. And you wanted to see how you could turn this life around.

There are many times when this is difficult and you run out of time because one of the personalities decides to return to spirit. There’s the guilt you carry because you didn’t fulfill what you were trying to when you planned this life in spirit. Now your purpose is for you to understand your guilt isn’t necessary. You both played your parts in what was needed and you didn’t find the time or the feeling that was needed to speak with her before your mother’s passing.

What you need to understand is that you are both spirits. Where your mother is presently there’s no more anger and there’s no more bad feeling. Your mother is pure spirit and only sends you love. We hope you’re in a place where you can take this love in. There’s no part of your mother that wishes you to suffer. The dreams and the feelings you may be having are all from the guilt you hold within you and there’s no need for that.

PE says, Just when I think I’m making progress with healing my relationship with my mother, even after her death it feels like I’m taking a step backward or I feel stuck. The Council says this is because you go into your old thoughts which bring on old feelings and you begin to go into old patterns and slide backward. You need the discipline to constantly remind yourself you’re both spirits, you both planned this life in spirit, we accomplished what we could, and your mother was ready to move on. Now you’re left with how you want to bring closure for yourself with this relationship.

Of course meditate, but sit quietly and try to see your mother not as she was when she was in this reality in human form, but as a spirit in a beautiful and loving place who’s sending you loving energy to help you through this process. Once you can see her and you can feel you’re both spirits, you can begin to talk to her and tell her how it was for you and how it’s still bothering you. Perhaps you’d like a sign from your mother that all is well. Tell her you’ll accept the loving energy that she’s sending you to get you through your current difficulty.

We ask you if you’re really ready to accept loving energy from a woman who made your life difficult, even though this was planned, and it’ll help you let go of the guilt and move forward. Are you ready to move forward? Are you ready to make peace with your mother? Are you ready to accept the love your mother is sending you? That’s what needs to be worked on at this time.

As everyone grows and develops and learns to create, just take information from your past and don’t stay stuck in those lives. Take all this information and use it to further yourself in the life you’re creating at this time.

We in spirit, as we watch you and see how you grow, we learn from this and also grow. We are all gifts to each other.


Listen to the entire 7-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for PE and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it. Or you can ask The Council your own question by typing it into a Comment box that appears at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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July 17, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Feeling Guilty Over My Mother’s Recent Passing

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Darla, whose mother recently transitioned to spirit with Alzheimer’s Disease. Darla cared for her mother at home up until the last two weeks of her life when she was moved to an assisted living facility. She says the disease left my mother unable to eat or drink, but her memory was intact and she was able to talk to me almost until the very end.

The Council asks Darla if she’s able to appreciate what she’s gone through and that you offered to care for your mother during a time that was so difficult for you?

Darla knows her mother is at peace now, but she suffered tremendously the last few months, often lying on the floor crying in pain. I felt helpless as far as helping my mother get better and it was torture seeing her suffer.

The Council says many people come into this reality to learn about suffering, or to teach someone else about it. Sometimes as they go through this suffering they might tell you that they know you can help them, but you’re not doing it. This is just to bring the lesson of suffering further into your reality so you can feel the guilt, and learn there’s no purpose for it except to help you grow in another direction.

Seeing your mother suffer and knowing it was difficult for you, what did you experience from this? Instead of feeling guilty that maybe you haven’t done enough, focus on what you did do. This is very important for you.

Darla still feels the heavy weight of guilt in her heart as she chose to honor her mother’s wishes to die without any artificial means of sustaining her life. And The Council asks, why would you feel guilty when you’re doing exactly what your mother wanted?

Sometimes that feeling of not doing enough or trying to stop another person’s suffering is because you don’t understand the full experience of what’s going on here with soul growth and soul experiences. So you learn from the suffering.

Before you came into this reality from spirit you both agreed to experience your mother’s difficult passing. You did exactly what was supposed to be done by having your mother go through her life and ending her life the way she wanted. This was to push you forward so you can learn to experience the love you showed her rather than the guilt.

We’re all here to bring love into every situation. The love you showed by being able to stay and be a part of her passing, and help where you were able, and let your mother have her way and make her transition the way she wanted, shows you are a brave soul for going through what you’ve chosen to do.

This is what you wanted to learn. This was your mother’s way of teaching you to realize who you really are. You are both spirits who agreed to go through this difficult passing, and this would give you the opportunity to bring love into this reality. Take your thoughts and change what you focus on and look at all you’ve done.

By learning to let go of the guilt, your mother, who’s in spirit now, will be overjoyed to know that what you had planned had worked. You wanted to bring love into yourself and feel good about yourself. Realize you helped your mother, who wanted to experience this difficult passing and she wanted to see how the people around her would handle this situation. Your mother wanted to teach you to go through this challenge and when it’s over to realize what a great human being you are to go through this so beautifully.

The Council says they feel the last two days of your mother’s life she was more back in spirit than in physical reality. A lot of what you saw your mother going through during this time wasn’t fully experienced by her because she was already with us.

Darla asks if her mother forgives her for not being able to help her. The Council says this is where you’re wrong. There is nothing you need forgiveness for. Your mother loves you so much and she’s so proud you’ve fulfilled what you both wanted. Your mother has a wonderful feeling in spirit that you were both able to pull off her passing the way she wanted it.

Darla asks if her relationship issues with her mother from past lives are resolved. The Council says there’s more to come. This particular challenge is something that both of you wanted to experience to help each other grow in your current lifetime. There will be future lifetimes you’ll share with your mother and work through additional relationship issues.

The Council applauds Darla for what she’s gone through and how she’s handled it and followed what you both planned to the tee.

The Council closes by thanking Cynthia and Bob for having the ability to take their information and have so many people be open to it, and get understanding from it, and get relief from what another spirit has gone through.


Listen to the entire 8-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Darla and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own question.

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February 17, 2021 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Helping Others, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Isn’t a Baby’s Sex Determined at the Moment of Conception?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Gina, which she had after reading our post, Are All Abortions Pre-Planned in Spirit Before Birth? In that post The Council says the sex of the fetus is sometimes determined way before the woman becomes pregnant and sometimes the sex of the fetus isn’t determined until the end of the pregnancy. Gina says the sex of the baby is determined at the moment of conception and can’t change, and she wants to know what The Council has to say about this.

The Council says Gina is offering the scientific explanation for determining the sex of a fetus, but spirit is greater than science. Spirit has the ability to change anything. If for some reason the spirit of the parents or the spirit of the fetus decides to change the sex of the fetus, the sex of the fetus will change. How will it change? Spirit will wipe out any memory of the fetus being a girl (for example) and all you’ll know is now the fetus is a boy. This is how powerful spirit is. Spirit will create a new life that’s going in the direction it wants.

Gina says if the father contributes an X chromosome the fetus will be female and if the father contributes a Y chromosome the fetus will be a boy, but The Council says spirit is able to change this and as human beings you’d have no memory of the change.

The Council says every abortion is pre-planned. Some abortions are pre-planned before the woman gets pregnant and some abortions are pre-planed to be open-ended to see where your life is after the woman becomes pregnant. Gina asks if her abortion was pre-planned before she became pregnant, or did she make the decision to abort after she became pregnant. The Council says Gina agreed to have an abortion before she became pregnant. You and your fetus both wanted to have the experience of the abortion. You both did exactly what was needed. There was no error here.

Gina asks where the soul of her aborted fetus is now and will it come back to her in a future pregnancy. The Council says at this moment the spirit of the fetus is creating more lifetimes. It hasn’t decided whether it wants to come back right away or wait for a while before it comes back, but this spirit is in pure bliss and love.

Gina asks what she can do to stop suffering over her abortion. She never thought it would be so emotionally painful and she’s scared she’ll never stop suffering and will always feel guilty. The Council says you’re suffering because of the way you think about your abortion and you are focused on suffering. You need to turn the direction of your thoughts to the idea that the two of you agreed in spirit to go through that abortion together. You didn’t fail. Your abortion went according to the way you and the fetus planned it. The Council advises you to wish the spirit of the aborted fetus luck, love, and happiness. Take the direction of your life and instead of focusing on the loss, focus on how you planned for the abortion to be the way it was.

Thank the spirit of the fetus and thank yourself for the abortion and now start thinking about what you want. Go forward with your life. Stop focusing on suffering and loss. The abortion is exactly what you wanted. Now that you’ve accomplished that, ask yourself what else you want. Take your thoughts and your focus and begin to look in the direction of where you want your life to go.


Listen to the entire 7-minute audio recording of our session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Gina and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own question.

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January 22, 2021 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Pregnancy, Questions & Answers, Soul, Spirit | , , , , | 1 Comment

   

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