This post is inspired by a question from an Anonymous reader who asks The Council if the soul she recently aborted will return to her in a future pregnancy. She says this abortion wasn’t an easy decision for her and her husband and she’s been missing the baby and feeling like a guilty, bad mother. She says oddly she didn’t feel connected to the baby while she was pregnant. Only after the abortion did she feel connected to this soul.
The Council says she wanted to experience how she’d feel when someone she loved passes on and she created this in a way where she was pregnant and aborted the child she felt no connection to. Now that the child is gone she feels the connection and has the opportunity to learn the lesson that love is forever. The connection she felt in her physical reality isn’t broken when one soul returns to spirit.
The Council says she pre-determined in spirit to be able to become pregnant again and it was agreed that this same soul she aborted would return in this future pregnancy. She was not a bad mother. She was creating a lesson for herself, and they ask her to remember that lesson when others she knows pass from this lifetime.
There is a sadness from not being connected in physical reality, but she can still feel them and talk to them in her mind and dreams. They say this connection was an important lesson for her to learn and to share with others.
The Council says the spirit of the baby that was aborted was part of this decision. It knew it would be aborted so the mother could learn the lesson about love transcending physical reality. But this soul would not go away and if Anonymous brings this soul back there will be many new lessons they will learn together. Anonymous did exactly what she pre-planned in spirit and has no reason to feel bad about terminating her pregnancy.
In their closing The Council asks us all to remember our promise as we all came into this physical reality to bring love into this reality, no matter what the reality is. Listen to our entire 7-minute session with The Council (below) to receive all their guidance for Anonymous and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.
This post in inspired by an anonymous reader who’s had 3 abortions and asks The Council if all 3 pregnancies were the same spirit? Anonymous also says she’s ready for a baby and she asks if the same spirit will come back to be her child?
The Council says each of Anonymous’s previous pregnancies were 3 different spirits that quickly came in knowing their lives wouldn’t continue. They ask her to look at this pattern of getting pregnant and then terminating these pregnancies, which they add is her choice and is fine. But The Council suggests if Anonymous were to become pregnant again given a similar mindset as her earlier pregnancies, she would most likely terminate this new pregnancy also.
The Council asks Anonymous if she’s happy with her life and would she be content bringing a child into that life. Now is the time to begin changing her life so that if there’s a pregnancy, she’ll be able to give birth to the child. The key is to look at her life.
Anonymous wants to learn more about herself. The clarity she seeks will come when she looks at her life and questions her responses and what she is creating for herself. As she reviews her life, her learning will bring her clarity, and then perhaps there will be an opportunity to have a child.
Listen to the entire 6-minute session (below) to hear all The Council’s guidance for Anonymous, and let us know what you think.
This post is inspired by a question from a reader who goes by the name, MangoJuice13, who asks: Are all abortions an agreed upon contract between souls before birth?
MangoJuice13 read our post, Was I Correct in Aborting My Pregnancy?, and was interested to learn the reason for the abortion in that post was to challenge a woman named Laura to see how people swayed her opinion or pushed her to do something she didn’t want to do. MangoJuice13 says she’s in a similar situation.
She made a decision to abort out of fear after her partner pressured her. She says she feels guilty and angry, and wishes she had chosen differently. And she asks: What was the purpose of this abortion and what lesson was it meant to teach her?
The Council says all pregnancies are agreed upon in spirit before birth, but all abortions are not pre-planned. They say sometimes the abortion is pre-planned in spirit. And sometimes the souls agree to come together in a pregnancy, look at what is going on in their reality, and decide then whether to abort the fetus or not. And the soul of the fetus lovingly understands and accepts whatever decision is made.
The Council says MangoJuice13’s abortion was the opposite of what’s been discussed often on our blog. In this situation the soul came forward in spirit and said it wanted to experience being aborted, just living in the womb and not coming into this reality. After the soul expressed the desire to experience abortion, MangoJuice13 stepped forward in spirit and said she would help this soul experience this. This was not a situation where MangoJuice13 wanted to experience an abortion to learn something. It was to help another soul have this experience.
The Council asks MangoJuice13 to now look at her relationship with her boyfriend and figure out if it’s the right relationship for her going forward. And to ask if the people around her are supportive, or are they not allowing her to be who she wishes to be. The Council says that is what she wished to experience.
The Council sees MangoJuice13 developing strength, making a decision to get pregnant again, and deciding if it will be with her current boyfriend or another. And that was a purpose of this experience.
Listen to the entire 7-minute session with The Council (below) to answer MangoJuice13’s question and receive the benefit of their full guidance.
This post is inspired by a question from Jackie, who’s looking for guidance from The Council about whether or not to have a forth child she’s now pregnant with. Jackie says her forth pregnancy was a planned one, but now that she’s pregnant she’s having second thoughts about it.
The Council advises Jackie to examine her thoughts and her life to see what’s contributing to this change from when she planned this child. Is it the people she’s speaking with, is it old fears coming up, is she not sure about her relationship with the father, or something else that’s troubling her.
Jackie says she’s afraid a decision to have this child will end many close relationships in her life, and The Council advises her to think about what she wants for herself. Is the idea of having another child something that makes Jackie feel good? What kind of pressure does Jackie feel from the people around her that makes her feel like she would loose these relationships?
The Council advises whatever decision Jackie makes, there are agreements with the souls involved to be part of this decision. If she has this child and looses these close relationships, this was agreed upon and it’s okay with everyone involved. If Jackie terminates the pregnancy, this was also agreed upon by the soul of this child, and these close relationships would stay in Jackie’s life. The Council says the answer to this decision is in these thoughts. How did she get from wanting the child to being afraid of having this child?
The Council asks Jackie if she decides to have this child, whether she’ll have the assistance she needs to raise it peacefully. Or is she not likely to have this assistance, in which case she might decide not to have it. Which decision does Jackie feel more comfortable with?
The Council reminds Jackie she isn’t here in this physical reality to drive herself crazy or suffer great hardships. If there isn’t great love and anticipation for this child, The Council says Jackie should look at that. Does the idea of terminating the pregnancy feel like a relief to her. Now is the time for Jackie to look at her thoughts and the feelings that go with them.
The Council advises Jackie that in our physical reality there will always be fears and there isn’t any right or wrong decision. She should feel how she is with the thought of having this child, and feel how she is with the thought of ending this pregnancy. The Council says either choice is fine because they were planned for in spirit. It’s just the road Jackie desires to take.
The Council feels if Jackie thinks about what they’ve suggested, she will have an ah-ha moment. And even if she can hold onto this moment for a few minutes, she will know what feels most comfortable and can make her decision. They say it’s normal to waffle back and forth after this ah-ha moment, but The Council says Jackie will get a strong feeling about what to do and she should follow that decision.
The Council feels Jackie is a lot stronger than she believed when she wrote her comment. They say a small part of the anxiety she felt in the previous year is making this decision a little difficult, but they think Jackie will learn how strong she can be if this is her choice. As she begins to look at what she has learned and come through in her life, she will take care of herself differently and her life will change for the better, regardless of whether she chooses to have this child or terminate this pregnancy.
Listen to the entire 16-minute session below to get the benefit of all The Council’s guidance for Jackie and let us know what you think.
This post is about questions from a 43-year-old reader named Sunshine who is single and has a strong desire to have her first child, but her attempts have been unsuccessful so far. She wants to know from The Council if this is possible and if she’s being punished for having two abortions 20 years earlier.
First The Council asks if Sunshine can be okay if she doesn’t become a mother. And they tell her there’s no outside source that’s punishing her for the abortions. She is entirely responsible for any sense of punishment or guilt she feels from this.
When Bob asks The Council if they think having a child is in the cards for Sunshine because they ask if she can be okay without having children, they reply that Sunshine creates what’s in the cards for her, no one else.
The Council asks Sunshine to remember that before coming into this reality she planned to go through these two abortions with the souls involved, and there was nothing disturbing about this to those spirits. They knew they’d be participating in the abortions for the experience and to help Sunshine, and everything went the way it was supposed to go.
The Council says many of the lessons we experience in this life, we plan before we get here. And there are spirits who agree to play their part in these lessons. When Sunshine is able to release any feeling of sadness or guilt or thinking of wrong-doing about these abortions, then she’ll be able to create a new child.
When Bob asks if adoption is an option for Sunshine if she continues to have difficulty getting pregnant, The Council says of course. But they quickly add that Sunshine can have a physical birth if she believes she’s the creator of her reality.
The Council says nothing is impossible if you really want it. Put yourself in the state of joy and happiness, and be grateful for each experience you come through that inspires you to want something even more. The Council says by knowing you can do this and by staying in the energy of joy and love, the creation of it becomes possible.
The Council says many people believe it becomes more difficult to get pregnant the older you get. But they remind us we are powerful spirits who can create anything we want in our lives. They tell Sunshine not to worry about her age and they tell her to work on forgiveness, happiness, gratitude, and moving forward in her life.
The Council sees it’s very, very possible for Sunshine to give birth to a child. And they remind the rest of us who want to create anything in our lives to find ways to feel grateful and happy for what we have. And they advise us to look forward, adding to that happiness, and move ahead with our mind and our feelings, always in the energy of love.
This 7-minute session is packed with advice for Sunshine and the rest of us. Listen to the recording below and let us know what you think.
This post is about questions from a reader named S. who’s learned she’s pregnant. She loves children, always wanted them, and has been determined not to have her children suffer through poverty and unhappy circumstances the way she and her siblings did.
She left the father of the fetus the day before she learned she was pregnant because the relationship was an abusive one. S. says she’s currently in school and unemployed. Recently she was told by her doctor she has endometriosis and will have difficulty getting pregnant.
S. says she’s confused. She’s aware other spiritualists say it’s bad to abort a fetus unless it’s with a loving intention. She’d like her child to have a healthy mother and father, she knows this isn’t possible right now, and feels the need for a stable career.
Just days before she learned she was pregnant S. felt great comfort in her decision to leave her ex-boyfriend, and for the first time in her life was looking forward to loving herself and creating a whole person for a future partner and family.
S. wants to know why she’s pregnant now and if aborting this fetus has been the plan all along. She’s concerned about the karmic implications of abortion, and she’d prefer this soul return to her at a time when she can offer it a beautiful life with a beautiful father.
The Council begins by telling S. that leaving an abusive relationship is a giant step for her that shows self love. Having lived through a difficult time growing up, S. made the choice with love and wisdom not to repeat similar difficulties for her future children.
The Council is clear it’s not a bad choice to abort this pregnancy if that is S.’s choice; there’s no right or wrong. It was agreed before coming to this reality that this soul would come to her as a fetus and at that time S. would decide whether or not to have the child. The soul may choose to come back at a future time, but if it decides to move on there will always be another soul ready to come forward to help S. become a mother and go through the experiences she wishes to have.
If finishing school is the thought that makes S. feel best right now, The Council says this is the direction she should go in. If the thought of having this child now and somehow having a wonderful connection with this soul even if she’s on her own feels better, The Council advises to go with that. They remind her there isn’t any right or wrong and to pay attention to the way she feels when she thinks each thought. Follow the feeling of happiness, of love, of relief, and know that she’ll have lessons either way she chooses.
The Council advises S. there is much joy ahead whatever she chooses and by looking for this joy she’ll bring it into her reality. The key is to follow the better feeling thought.
Before S. chooses she should remind herself of the choice she’s already made to leave a bad relationship. The Council reminds her this is a wonderful decision she’s made. Somehow going through different experiences growing up helped S. make this choice. When she decides whether or not to have this child, all the knowledge and the feelings she’s experienced in her life up to this point will help her choose.
Listen to the entire 16-minute session with The Council to hear their entire answer and let us know what you think.
This post answers Jyoti’s question about whether the soul of the child she’s now pregnant with is the same soul she had a stillborn pregnancy with back in 2013.
When she and her husband decided to try and get pregnant again, she asked that soul to come back. But they also said in case that soul wants to learn more in the spirit world, any willing soul who wants to join their family will be welcome, loved, and cared for.
Now that Jyoti is pregnant she wants to develop the same bond she had with the soul in her previous pregnancy, but finds this is difficult without knowing whether it’s the same soul. She feels guilty if it hasn’t come back, the child may feel unwanted. And she asks The Council if they can let her know.
The Council begins by asking Jyoti why it’s so important that this particular soul return to her and her husband now. They say it has been with her in many of her realities and if it doesn’t return now, it will again. They continue that it’s a wonderful idea to welcome any soul that’s willing to become part of their family. And they wonder about the wisdom of telling Jyoti rather than letting her have the baby and figuring it out for herself.
But because The Council sees this is such a puzzle for Jyoti and so much on her mind, they feel in this instance it’s helpful for her to know it is the same soul from her stillborn pregnancy two years ago returning to her.
But The Council hopes Jyoti will eventually be open to welcoming at least one more soul, because there’s someone else who would also like to be part of her family. What’s important to understand is that any soul that would come to Jyoti is part her soul group. She has a special bond with each of these souls.
The Council says each of us knows all the souls in our lives. And they wish Jyoti much peace, wonderment, and excitement on what she’ll experience again with this soul, and be welcoming to the other souls that wish to be with her also.
Listen to the entire 7-minute session below to hear all of The Council’s guidance. If you’d like to read or hear our session about Jyoti’s stillborn pregnancy from February 2015, click here to open it in a new tab or window. And if you’d like to read or hear our session on Jyoti’s follow-up question about whether the stillborn soul was a member of her family that has passed, click here to open in a new tab or window.
As always, feel free to leave any comments or questions. We’ll get to them as soon as we can.
This post is inspired by a question from NZ about her second abortion. She says her first abortion was a long time ago, was for the right reasons, and she has peace with it. But when she got pregnant after giving birth to her two wonderful sons it was pure panic, fear, and like something took over and made the choice to abort for her.
She had the abortion to provide a stronger love for her two boys, her partner, and herself, but as soon as she made the decision to abort it she felt regret. NZ wants to know why she was so afraid of this child. The Council says it’s because of past lives and stories she’s heard, but she’s created this in her life so she can turn it around. They say if she can change her beliefs about being pregnant, think about having a healthy child, and move forward without the suffering and the fear from before, then she has accomplished what she’s set out to learn in this lifetime with this soul.
The Council finishes with a message for anyone who’s experienced an abortion. It’s a touching thought and well worth a listen to The Council’s 15-minute session on NZ’s question.
This post is inspired by a question from Jyoti who asks if she shared a life with her stillborn child? Jyoti says a lot of her family have died and she wonders if it was one of those souls wanting to come back and be part of the family again?
The Council says Jyoti has a strong connection to this soul and they have shared many lives together, but they don’t see this particular life as one of them. In a life as far back as Atlantis she worked with this soul as a teacher. During the early American Indians they left their tribe and went out on their own. During the first World War there was deciphering messages and carrying information to others. In this lifetime this soul came forward to help Jyoti understand something about this pregnancy.
The Counsel says Jyoti has a strong connection with this soul and she can connect with it through meditation to get information about this life and past lives. Instead of feeling loss for the child Jyoti experiences support and guidance from this soul. If it’s wanted, Jyoti will have another opportunity to give birth to this soul, but there is much to learn from this soul while it’s still in spirit.
Listen to the entire 8-minute session with The Council for all the details.
(Note: Bob mentions the fetus was aborted in the recording, but Jyoti mentions in a comment that this child was stillborn, not aborted. We imagine from The Council’s point of view they consider that the fetus aborted this pregnancy because it chose not to come into physical reality while Jyoti and her husband were moving around, but Jyoti feels the distinction between abortion and stillborn is important and aught to be made. We apologize for this error.)
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