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Why Did I Have a Loving Childhood and Now I’m Surrounded By Difficult Men?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Serenity, who says she’s a kind woman who comes from a wonderful family and grew up with minimal problems and nothing but love. When I got married we were happy at first, but as the years went by we grew apart and now have nothing in common.

The Council says they don’t see Serenity’s situation the same as she does. You have much in common with your husband and much more to accomplish with him. The feeling of drifting apart is caused by not connecting on a deeper level about moving forward. This relationship isn’t over.

Feeling you’re not connected with your husband allows you space to bring other souls into your life if that’s what you planned. It’s an opportunity to face life’s challenges and happy moments and have experience with another spirit.

Serenity says, we’re married 35 years. Several years ago I rekindled communication with my first love who had become a severe alcoholic and I’m helping him slowly get better.

The Council asks how you’re helping this man. Are you supporting the process of healing himself? You won’t heal anyone. The decision to heal is up to that spirit and it’s your place to accept what they’re going through. Whether he heals and becomes sober or stays with the alcoholism, your purpose is to be a watcher, a supporter, and allow him to be who he is. This is what you planned in spirit.

Serenity says, although my original feelings have changed, I still love both men in different ways. The Council says your feelings haven’t changed, they’re just refocused at the moment.

Serenity says, I’m confused about my purpose in life and why, after being brought up in such a loving environment, I seem to be surrounded by extremely difficult men.

The Council says this gives you a foundation for what you want to create going forward. If you were brought up in a loving environment, did you plan to face challenges and learn from them, and then change these challenges into a loving reality? The loving beginning of your life gave you something so when you get in other relationships, can you create a loving atmosphere. See if you can have a partner that’s also loving to help you find that loving feeling. It’s to learn what you’re currently going through isn’t what you want, but you’ll experience it and this will help you know what to create going forward?

Serenity says, all I ever wanted in life was a simple, intelligent, honest man to love me, have common interests, travel, and enjoy a beautiful life together. I’d like to know my purpose in life and why this has been so difficult to achieve in this incarnation.

The Council sees you wished to have the beautiful and perfect relationship that you have when you’re in spirit. You wanted to experience this in your current lifetime. You can still have this by focusing on what you want. How much of it do you have with this man you’re helping with alcoholism? How much of this experience do you have with your husband? Then refocus your thoughts and concentrate solely on the fact that you’ve had loving relationships in your youth and you need to create it again with these two men in your life.

When you feel this love around you, then you can make a choice to be with one of these men or keep both of them in your life. You came into this lifetime to have love at the beginning of your life and then have challenges. We are here to bring love into every challenge we have, no matter what that challenge is.

As you focus your thoughts and bring in better thoughts, the people around you will feel the change and it will help them move through their challenges and grow. You’ll be a beacon of light and help them through whatever it is they wish to learn.

The Council thanks Cynthia and Bob for bringing in this information to all the souls who need to know there’s more to life than the human condition you’re experiencing, to hear our words, and to connect with their higher selves. This way each one of us, if we grow even an inch, we bring everyone else on this planet with us.

Listen to the entire 6-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Serenity and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own question.

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February 6, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Healing, Life Purpose, Love, Marriage, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , | 3 Comments

Waking Up with Grieving Memories of Her Grandfather’s House

This post answers questions from a reader who goes by the name, LearningSoulSite, who says sometimes she wakes up in the night and has grieving memories of her grandparent’s house. The grief feels like an anxiety attack.

The Council says LearningSoulSite (LSS) is having these disturbing thoughts because they’re there to teach her to replace these thoughts with better feeling thoughts and to remember the good times. When she has anxiety, she should think of her grandfather in a happy way. Unfortunately many people in this time learn from sadness and challenges, and it’s difficult for them until they’re able to change their reality to a happier one. If LSS’s dreams are giving her anxiety, it’s to show her the good that’s there for her and it’s her choice to find it and focus on that reality.

LSS also says she doesn’t live with her parents and she sometimes is afraid of loosing them. The Council says they understand in our reality there’s a passing on where her parents will return to spirit, but she’ll never truly loose her parents. Can LSS think when her parents return to spirit how joyous this is for them, that she hasn’t lost them, and she and her parents will be reunited in spirit eventually?

What can LSS do to enjoy her parents now? If you’re not near them there’s the phone and email. There are ways to connect. Send your parents energy and love with your mind when you have some quiet time. They’ll receive this. As she leaves the thought of loosing her parents and focuses more on always being connected with them, she’ll feel more of this connection.

LSS asks if her grandparents are trying to tell her something by reminding her of those memories she has about the grandparent’s home? The Council says LSS’s grandparents come to her and ask her to remember them with love and to find those good memories. Change these anxiety-producing memories to more joyous ones.

LSS’s grandparents only come to her in the vibration of love, but LSS is only able to take in what she believes they are offering. When LSS dreams of her grandparents and she get nervous and thinks her grandparents are coming to her for some bad reason, that is how she’ll perceive it.

LSS should think her grandparents are coming to show her love and they are around her. They’ve passed and are around LSS, and when her parents pass they’ll also be around her. And when it’s LSS’s time to pass, she’ll also be around.

Listen to the entire 6-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for LearningSoulSite and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

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June 29, 2018 Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Channeling, Choice, Love, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , | 2 Comments

Help With Depression

This post answers a question from an anonymous reader who asks The Council for guidance on overcoming depression. They have been using meditation, guided journals, therapy, and medication for years, but just can’t shake this condition. Typically they’re okay when they’re busy, but at other times like now, the situation is unbearably difficult.

The Council suggests when you start feeling depressed you should pay attention to your thoughts. Your thoughts will either lead you into depression or help you come out of it. In your case it’s good to keep as busy as possible. If you’re not working to keep busy, try taking classes, reading, and meditation.

When you meditate, ask to feel your heart energy. This will lift your spirits.

When you don’t feel as good as you’d like, acknowledge this feeling. Then take control by changing your thoughts to better feeling ones. Find something you like about yourself or something you’ve accomplished. Go into old memories that feel good. As you change these heavier thoughts you can begin to change the thoughts that bring on the depression. This will take work on your part, but you’re able to do it.

If you feel some relief from medication, this belief that medication is helping will assist you. You can use medication for a while to lift your energy and still begin to change your thoughts to better feeling ones. This medication would be until you feel better. Once you acknowledge these better feelings you’ll remember them. When you get depressed and change your thoughts and reach for these better feelings, this is how you’ll work your way out of depression.

Anonymous says they understand their negative emotions are creating the depression, but they have difficulty staying positive. The Council says in the beginning you’ll be able to change your thoughts only occasionally, and as you’re able to do this the thoughts will grow and you’ll not have to consistently feel depressed. You are retraining yourself how to focus your attention, and this focus is what you’ll create in your life.

Anonymous asks how they’re able to experience all the good things they’ve created for themselves? The Council says by naming them and being grateful for each one. As you find things to be grateful for, everything begins to change for the better.

The Council’s parting words are to look within yourself for your inner light and meditate on your heart. Picture a little light growing there. This is part of who you are. You are more than your physical body. You are also a wondrous spirit that is light and love. As you look within for this light, you will find it.

Listen to our entire 5-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Anonymous and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about it.

March 1, 2018 Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Channeling, Creation, Feelings, Gratitude, Love, Meditation, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Having More Positive Thoughts After My Abortion?

This post is inspired by a follow-up question from a reader named Michelle, who was advised by The Council to think better feeling thoughts after she terminated a pregnancy and she’s asking for help with this.

The Council advises Michelle to concentrate on who she is as a spiritual being and to think about the direction she’d like her life to go in right now. They ask if she feels secure about not having any more children, which they feel is a decision made by Michelle’s husband.

The Council advises Michelle not to feel guilty because she had an abortion. This abortion was pre-planned in spirit by her and the soul of the child she aborted, and she and the child have fulfilled what they wished to experience.

The Council asks what Michelle has learned from this abortion. Does she wish to get pregnant again and have another child? They tell Michelle only she can make this decision.

The Council says the aborted pregnancy was a wake up call for Michelle to take control of what she wants and not do what other people want her to do. It’s about changing her path and waking up to what she wants in her life. This is how her higher self planned to bring her to this point and then move her forward.

The Council advises Michelle to every now and then gently bring up the idea with her husband that the thought of having another child makes her feel happy. How she speaks about this can make her husband more open to having another child. The Council also recommends doing the inner work of seeing things the way she wants them to be and imagine it’s already happening, because it is happening in another reality. They advise Michelle to bring this reality to her with her thoughts and feelings.

The Council advises Michelle to let go of any guilty feeling about terminating her earlier pregnancy. As she stays in the vibration of guilt and sadness she cannot create the joy she wants. They say to go into the vibration of joy by thinking of good memories and fantasizing a very happy future. As she feels her mood begin to feel more positive, that’s when she’s able to create what she wants.

The Council says Michelle’s husband is possibly influenced not to have another child by his elderly mother living with them and perhaps when his mother passes, his mind would begin to change.

The Council says the soul of Michelle’s aborted child would like to see Michelle change her life and begin to think about what she would like her life to be like going forward. This is the reason for the abortion.

Listen to our entire 10-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Michelle and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

April 19, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Creation, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Pregnancy, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Overcoming Anxiety to Find My Life Purpose

This post is inspired by a reader named Jim, who says he’s struggled with obsessive-compulsive disorder most of his life and asks The Council how he can have less worry and anxiety in his life.

The Council explains that when you know who you truly are, there is nothing to worry about. They ask if Jim understands he is a spiritual being in a human body, and they explain that when he takes his mind away from worry and anxiety and changes the focus of his thoughts to better feeling ones, his life will begin to change for the better. What Jim chooses to focus on will bring him peace of mind.

The Council encourages Jim to have more hope, focus on peacefulness, love, gratitude, the positive aspects of what’s going on, and looking for miracles happening in his life. Concentrate on the support he would get from spirits in human form and in the spiritual world. When Jim can begin thinking about these things his life will improve.

Jim also says he’s struggled with finding his true purpose in this lifetime. The Council says one of the purposes he wants to experience is joy and to have child-like experiences throughout his lifetime, even as an adult. They suggest Jim have a career around children to hear their laughter and join in with them. That is what he wanted to experience.

The Council’s parting advice to Jim is to do the work and he will succeed. Listen to our entire 9-minute session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Jim and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

December 24, 2016 Posted by | Audio Content, Career, Channeling, Connecting With Spirit, Life Purpose, Questions & Answers | , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Should I Have An Abortion?

This post is about questions from a reader named S. who’s learned she’s pregnant. She loves children, always wanted them, and has been determined not to have her children suffer through poverty and unhappy circumstances the way she and her siblings did.

She left the father of the fetus the day before she learned she was pregnant because the relationship was an abusive one. S. says she’s currently in school and unemployed. Recently she was told by her doctor she has endometriosis and will have difficulty getting pregnant.

S. says she’s confused. She’s aware other spiritualists say it’s bad to abort a fetus unless it’s with a loving intention. She’d like her child to have a healthy mother and father, she knows this isn’t possible right now, and feels the need for a stable career.

Just days before she learned she was pregnant S. felt great comfort in her decision to leave her ex-boyfriend, and for the first time in her life was looking forward to loving herself and creating a whole person for a future partner and family.

S. wants to know why she’s pregnant now and if aborting this fetus has been the plan all along. She’s concerned about the karmic implications of abortion, and she’d prefer this soul return to her at a time when she can offer it a beautiful life with a beautiful father.

The Council begins by telling S. that leaving an abusive relationship is a giant step for her that shows self love. Having lived through a difficult time growing up, S. made the choice with love and wisdom not to repeat similar difficulties for her future children.

The Council is clear it’s not a bad choice to abort this pregnancy if that is S.’s choice; there’s no right or wrong. It was agreed before coming to this reality that this soul would come to her as a fetus and at that time S. would decide whether or not to have the child. The soul may choose to come back at a future time, but if it decides to move on there will always be another soul ready to come forward to help S. become a mother and go through the experiences she wishes to have.

If finishing school is the thought that makes S. feel best right now, The Council says this is the direction she should go in. If the thought of having this child now and somehow having a wonderful connection with this soul even if she’s on her own feels better, The Council advises to go with that. They remind her there isn’t any right or wrong and to pay attention to the way she feels when she thinks each thought. Follow the feeling of happiness, of love, of relief, and know that she’ll have lessons either way she chooses.

The Council advises S. there is much joy ahead whatever she chooses and by looking for this joy she’ll bring it into her reality. The key is to follow the better feeling thought.

Before S. chooses she should remind herself of the choice she’s already made to leave a bad relationship. The Council reminds her this is a wonderful decision she’s made. Somehow going through different experiences growing up helped S. make this choice. When she decides whether or not to have this child, all the knowledge and the feelings she’s experienced in her life up to this point will help her choose.

Listen to the entire 16-minute session with The Council to hear their entire answer and let us know what you think.

October 18, 2015 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Choice, Decision Making, Desire, Feelings, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, You Create Your Reality | , , | 4 Comments

Choose Better-Feeling Thoughts for a Better-Feeling Life

Anne’s question

This post is inspired by the following question for The Council from Anne.

“Do you see me in a loving relationship with a man coming into my life? I have created the space and I am open to be with an amazing man.”

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Keep Focused on What You Desire

The Council’s answer to Anne’s question emphasizes the importance of your focus of attention and how this relates to getting what you want in your life. The following Council quotes are session highlights to help you decide if you want to use the audio player above to listen to these comments in the context of the session. The first comment below was their response being read the first sentence of Anne’s question: “Do you see me in a loving relationship with a man coming into my life?”

“No, no, no, no, no [quickly 9-10 times]. Does she see herself in a relationship with a wonderful man coming into her life? Do you see where we’re going [with this]?”

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“Talk about it… feel it… imagine it… draw pictures of it… watch romantic movies. Whatever it is that keeps your focus [on] the relationship that you want, right down to every detail that you would like, is a wonderful exercise.

“And so do we see it? Yes, we do see this. It is there in what she would consider her future.

“It is also there [in Anne’s future] that she does not meet this particular man that she would have a wonderful life with.

“It is her focus [that determines] what will be brought into her life. But if she, [as] she says, clears the space [and] focuses on this [relationship], yes we do see this for her.”

How is your attention focused?

If Anne consistently focuses her attention on the relationship and the man she desires in her life, The Council says they see this happening for her. They also mention the possibility of a future for Anne where this doesn’t happen, and The Council emphasizes Anne’s focus of attention on her desire will determine the future she experiences. The question is: what kind of focus of attention will allow Anne to experience her desired outcome?

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September 6, 2014 Posted by | Audio Content, Choice, Desire, Feelings, Questions & Answers, Relationships, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , | 1 Comment

Feeling Your Way to Manifesting What You Desire

The following is a message The Council delivered to a small group on July 19, 2011 prior to taking questions from participants. Before the session with The Council the group had been discussing the subject of manifesting desires. Headings have been added for emphasis.

“And so we notice tonight the topic was all of the desires that each of us have. And we would just like to tell you that before you came into this physical reality, you knew you had the ability to create anything you desired. If you have the desire, it’s there for you.

Feel Your Way There

“What we always wish to let you know is that you are so much more than a physical body. You are spirit on this journey in a physical world. You are very powerful, and the way to create, to manifest your desires, is to feel your way there.

“It is wonderful to see it, to imagine it, but what brings it in is that feeling. Every part of your body, every cell in your body understands, and as you have those desires and feel your way there, the universe will line up all the opportunities to help you create whatever it is that you want – and we do say – whatever it is that you want.

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June 13, 2013 Posted by | Desire, Expansion, Feelings, Imagination, Vibration, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Is it Possible to Change Your Life Just by Changing Your Thoughts? + Helping Others

This post is inspired by the following simply stated questions from a reader named Freddy:

  1. How do better-feeling thoughts affect your life?
  2. Is it really possible to change your day-to-day life and your future with just a change in your thoughts?

On Thursday, June 14, 2012 we did a session with The Council to answer Freddy’s questions. During this session The Council surprised us with some related guidance about a question on Cynthia’s mind.

They observed that many of us who follow spiritual guidance related to the law of attraction and better-feeling thoughts, are limiting ourselves when we focus primarily on satisfying desires that aren’t also helping others.

The Council reminds us we are spiritual beings and that we planned with other spiritual beings to help each other bring the love we are as spirit into this physical dimension.

When we expand the focus of our attention to include these plans we made in spirit to help each other, these better-feeling thoughts allow us to experience the kind of spiritual expansion we came here for in the first place. The guidance on helping others begins under the heading: Cynthia’s Question about Helping Other People.

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You Sort Of Light Up

“First of all, better-feeling thoughts affect the whole body…your whole mood…your whole vibration.

“You can tell the difference between a thought [like]: ‘I hate this job…I have to get up and go there…’ [or:] ‘Oh, my legs hurt…my back hurts…my head hurts…I have to go to the doctor.’

“And then you have a thought: ‘Oh, I’m so looking forward to this vacation we planned in the Berkshires. Oh, I remember the first time I went to the beach…I was 5 years old…I can still remember the sand castle we built.’

“Each thought has a different vibration. The better-feeling thought is what we call a quickening vibration. It’s like you become more alive; you begin to sparkle. When we look at you…you sort of light up.

“The better-feeling thought also affects your body. When you have the better-feeling thoughts, every cell in your body reacts to it.

“Now is it true that it changes your life? Yes.”

“When you really focus over and over again on better feeling thoughts, your thought…your feeling, is a vibration that goes out into the Universe. And as you are all learning now [about] the law of attraction, you must get back the same vibration that you are putting out. So what will return to you is a vibration that will bring to you more and more of things that will help you feel better.”

—The Council
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July 3, 2012 Posted by | Abraham-Hicks, Audio Content, Connecting With Spirit, Feelings, Helping Others, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Vibration | , , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

   

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